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We suffer more in our imagination than in reality

When you step outside of your comfort zone, two things happen: 1. You experience some degree of fear 2. Your comfort zone enlarges

“Maintain eye contact” triggered my fight or flight tbh

We are scared to talk to people because you feel like they will think we are weird and not hang around with you, so instead of talking to them we say nothing and try to Avoid any social situations witch just makes people think we are weird and that makes them not want to be around us anyways Social anxiety is a vicious circle

One thing i dont understand is that i am not always socially anxious, sometimes i am pretty confident and mantain eye contact but othertimes i cannot look the person in the eye

nope, social anxiety for me is just walking in the street and feeling hyper activated and aware of each walking person and feeling their glances on me. therefore I start walking faster than normal and I avoid eye contact, which makes me unaware of what’s happening around me. It feels like hallucinations to be honest I am generally under control when I’m in a slow paced closed environment

It's too hard to do when whole society is perfectionist, judgemental and mocking.

I dive into it and then I’m stressed out for the rest of the week, embarrassed, overthinking and with lots of anxiety. I’m so tired and feel beaten down.

Alone because of social anxiety still we fear of being alone

As much as I'd like to step out there and face my fears, it's really not as simple. I remember being in improv theater class for the first time and I never felt so bad in my life, I was constantly sweating and I just wanted to run away and cry. Even doing small tasks gets my heart beating so fast that it hurts

I have social anxiety and let me tell you guys it's a worse nightmare and so is normal anxiety.

Suffer for a month for a life time relief

I got social anxiety at 14 years old, I always feel like i am not my real self

The problem for me is, I don’t enjoy small talk. It’s painful. It’s a chore to socialize with strangers & I end up not making sense sometimes from trying too hard to socialize

I think social anxiety is a result of self rejection, and pushing yourself to socialize more, only makes it worse. You need to love and accept yourself first , and then it won't matter who else doesn't.

I have a fear of people thinking I’m weird and rejection but you broke it down now I know what to do. If I’m in a social interaction I’ll just be my weird self and if they don’t like it then oh well. Not everyone will like you, it’s just life.

Bruh i be weirdly shaking around people and thinking they could see it and my mind always thinking that they are judging my everything and looking at me

I have panic attacks when going outside but i manage it by not thinking i have it. What i do is just go on the way, try to relax and see what would happen.

I suffered from social anxiety my whole life and lately I realized how many opportunities I missed because of this. I'm now working on going out of my comfort zone. It's really hard but I want to get rid of social anxiety. Right now it's just ruining my life!

It's like a fear of a pool, the only way to get over the fear is to expose yourself to it. Makes sense, still easy said than done.

Eye contact hacks: -Sunglasses -if you're have poor vision: dip your glasses mid nose. Everyone's a blur and blurs are less scary than people

In other words, join improv class! Or a theater group! I used to be unbelievably shy I would barely talk infront of anyone, and I am going into only my third year in theatre, my friend says that in the best way I'm like a whole new person, it has really changed my life and built my confidence in every aspect possible

Problem is that I’ve been already rejected by everyone I have ever met And now I am alone and hopeless If you read this, I hope that you don’t experience what I’ve experienced

I can't even take a walk in the park in peace

A really good trick I use to not get nervous in public is to make a point not to look at anyone. Not just in the eyes, I mean don't look at them in general. It's amazing how well it works, and it makes you realize how often you look at people lol. (This only applies to going into stores and out around strangers. I don't mean in an actual social setting like going out with friends)

my social anxiety keeps getting worse and worse. after corona i started to just be in a room whole day for 2 years of my life, and now when i go out and talk to people. i get anxious. nervous. scared. not that they are dangerous for me or anything. im just afraid how i am being presented to them, im afraid what they might think of me, now i know i shouldnt care about what everyone might think about me. but i cant help it. whenever im out in public in a lot of people. i feel like im doing something wrong. and i get nervous and at that moment all i need is a mirror, a full whole body mirror to see myself and tell myself that no ur not doing anything wrong, ur just looking exactly how others are. iv been dealing with this for years, and i thought it will go away but its not.

Easier said then done. Ik how I get out in public so I stay home and avoid even putting myself in the situations again.

Sounds so complicated but eventually i got over my anxiety by putting myself in awkward situations and seeing if the experience repeated itself

Exposure therapy Is great, necessary even. But sooner or later, you have to work on your trauma. That's the hard work.

Or just be weird!Who wants to be normal it’s so boring lol.Your never alone God is with you always!He accepts you when people reject you!🙂

It would be nice if there was an easy way to do this. My social anxiety is pretty severe. Just last night I was hanging out with some fairly new friends from work, with the intention of stepping outside of my comfort zone. I find myself attempting to do this often and in other ways too, such as working at a local bar. Unfortunately, my fear of being alone combines with, anxiety and a very strong belief that I’m weird. This creates an avalanche of crushing emotions, which ends up making me feel trapped in my own mind. The worse part is, I am acting strange because of the overwhelming turbulence I feel inside.

Being alone is not bad at all, infact it's amazing.

Its interesting how most people with social anxiety aren't actually weird, they are very normal people, except we tell ourselves we are weird, and this actually leads to weird and anxiety-related behaviours and habits.

I have a lot of trouble initiating conversations or asking questions in person. This is perfect, thank you

I didn't know I had social anxiety until recently I thought the physical pain and shortness of breath was somewhat normal

The thing is I’ve exposed myself to social situations my entire life and always feel weird and fearful 😂 it’s not working

I have social anxiety whether it is for a phone call,video call or face to face. This causes me to stammer and it is a real problem for job interviews. I don't know what to do.

I am not even scared of what people will think of me, I don't particularly care. What I am scared of is how unpredictable, vitriolic and cruel people can be in groups and it feels like too much of a risk to expose myself to that.

It's important to realize that most people are feeling the same way as you, and are just trying to get by as well.

Steps (if I understand correctly) 1. Identify automatic thought (I'm weird) 2. Entertain the thought being true to identify the 'meaning of the thought' and eventually a core belief 3. Expose self to situations where alternate and more adaptive beliefs can be developed in a healthy manner.

I had social anxiety because I also feared someone could hurt me, I had a childhood where a lot of violence happened. I have overcome my anxiety with exposing myself to situations I feared (such as talking to people on the phone, buying groceries or talking in front of an audience). Luckily I had a professional which whom I could talk about it and who would help me develop the right mindset to keep going. I pushed myself, but not too far. I exposed myself to small situations that were uncomfortable for me and went step by step for the bigger ones. During that time I realized that if I don't feel good in general I fail more often. And it took me longer to recover and to get ready for the next try if I was judging myself for not being successful. So I tried to put my wellbeing first and comforted myself when I couldn't expose myself to these situations. I treated myself like I was ill or had a heartbreak, took my time to get the power to try again. Also I started to be compassionate with myself and cheered myself up, especially when I failed. It took me about 3 years to overcome it, but I had not the best circumstances. I have PTSD and had a toxic mother who would do more the opposite of supporting me. In therapy it was too much about her, I could not focus on my development as much as I wanted to. But I still did it. The last step for me was to accept that a certain amout of fear is normal. Many people don't like phone calls (especially with strangers) or don't feel comfortable talking to an audience. And fear can protect us from danger as well. Living completely without fear is a wish I had to give up. It is normal and it's okay to be afraid sometimes.

It's not as simple as that. 😢 Sometimes what we passed through is way more than this. We really want to be free and socialize like others but something inside of you will hinder that and make you nervous and weird ALWAYS.

What truly scared me was my anxiety physically manifesting as muscle twitches on my face during my final grade presentation. I wasn't even allowed to keep my mask on and the whole time I was aware of my face, and still had to carry on. I gave up on my grades because the fear was getting too much to handle. So I said the wrong things, knowing that I was saying the wrong things and got out of the room quick. It was unbearable and definitely not something I wanna do again. I've done so many class presentations before this one, mostly failures. Funny part is, no amount of exposure therapy helps you get over new situations

Social situations put me into fight/flight mode. This can last for days. I will wake up after a social event literally trembling. This has been happening for a year. I've always had anxiety, but never this severe.

This is why even with several anxiety disorders, including social, I still try my hardest to go out. I’m not always successful, and it’s risky because I’ll often have noneplieptic seizures and freak people out. But I do try.

i literally cosplay in my head that i’m someone else and act just like her. it helps and works

I know I’m weird and I’m proud of it 😊

Ok so I actually started to open up more to my friends about my fear of rejection instead of bottling all up, looking stoic from the outside but panicking on the inside. so what happened was, they felt uncomfortable, not knowing how to react and suggesting me therapy and later distanced themselves from me like not texting as frequently as usually. and my fear of rejection was like "see? told ya no one really likes you"

Well I imagine myself in these situations indeed where I feel "weird or embarrassed " and I still panic and my heart beats louder just imagining myself there. Yeah that's how bad it's

JUST LISTENING TO THIS I FELT MY CHEST PUPMING HARDER AND A TRONG BLOOD RUSH TO MY HEART

This is actually the best advice ever, if you truly are looking to heal

I do have some social skills (now), but i still feel that people are judging me. I can say "good morning" and ask for something in a restaurant, but i can't make friends because i'm afraid that if i open up myself for people they won't like me

My mind went blank when I get social anxiety. I'm talented and I can't do anything because of social anxiety 😢

I am a huge believer in keeping things ridiculously simple, therefore imma share my ridiculously simple yet powerful tips/hacks I’ve used to overcome many obstacles. Well first of all guys n gals we need to break down what anxiety is. I have struggled from different anxieties my whole life until the start of Covid. Long story short i discovered by accident that anxiety is a psychologically related problem which has physical symptoms. I see most people in the comments have confidence and self belief issues. And that’s what causes your anxiety folks. Sit down, plan out how you gonna start building up your confidence and self belief because where focus goes energy flows, so if you keep focusing on your anxiety that’s all you gonna get. You don’t know how? Read psychology books. Stoicism is great. Don’t forget, doctors are nothing more than meds salesman, even when they from it themselves bc they don’t know better. Wish y’all good luck folks

The thing is I can make new connections and do all this stuff over and over again, but I end up feeling the same.

I couldn't even speak the first statement the patient here stated almost so normally, without having my heart sprinting like crazy, a very uneasy physical and nervous sensation throughout my body and my voice uncontrollably cracking or not coming outta my throat, like I do unfathomably or hysterically whenever I have to communicate or interact with legit anybody... Plus, no matter how hard I have tried, it doesn't go away a whit!! I really need riddance from my sitch..

So pretty much like learning how to swim; just dunk yourself in water and start swimming. You’ll feel like you’re drowning at times but as long as you’re not too far in the deep end, you’ll be fine. So practice until you can swim in the deep end with no problems. In other words, learn, practice, and repeat until mastery.

Whenever i get into a social situation I tend to almost throw up, my vision gets blurry and I start to have difficulty breathing

I had social anxiety not only because of fear of being rejected and shame but afraid of getting arrested for being creepy when threatened, especially in dating life. And second, I suffered social anxiety due to traumas from family-related issues and issues from autism-related violence for two decades

That's how exactly what I thought to do but, just couldn't do it right now because I am most of the time not aware of what is happening, and always try to hurry up replying someone, lots of times I mess up while replying and also I fumble while speaking so so many times people ask me what I just said and I have to repeat what I just spoke. I reply them then realise that I shouldn't or I wasn't supposed to say this or that. And in most of the situations I consider this as a blunder, because I found that my replies and actually good! And also my insecurities like I walk really and my face is asymmetric, I wear glasses and they look a bit odd(not like others...).

My social anxiety is so much svere that from past three years i have not saw even my neighbours.i don't have any friends.i am studying online from 3 years.i was happy with all this but now i can not even talk to my mom dad.its killing me from inside 💔🙂🚶

I think if I had social anxiety this quick, bold rundown of cbt would be hard to take in and know what to do with

But doing these things makes me stress a lot so I go back and shut myself

This helped a lot. Thank you.👍🏾

Even watching this gives me anxiety....

I have a social anxiety too and always scared or cry every time when there's a lot of people around me 😢💔

For me is that i keep looking people in the eyes, and im just lazy 100%

Thanks so much, this makes sense and im gonna try it. there's not one time i realized i was avoiding uncomfortable situation most of the time

One thing i have to agree with, is when you are in constant distress, you're gonna be too tired mentally to give a crap about most things. But from my perspective, I'm always mentally drained.

You just explained exactly my problem. Thank you, you are the best.

Please more of this content!!! You are awesome 👏 greetings from Bulgaria 🇧🇬

I suffer from social anxiety all my life, especially since teenage years. Now I'm 32. Good news, it doesn't get worse over ages, maybe slightly improves in some situations, but it is not cured either. It just stays where it is.

Yea but what can I do when everyday I'm having to repeat the same level of difficulty it seems like I'm not making any progress

Weird is better than rude

Im introvert and it's impossible to overcome social anxiety, i do anything . But it's impossible 😢

My friend once said to me: "If anyone in the world thinks they are lowest, they should know there is another person who is more lowest to them... That's you" By hearing this, I just broken down.. It's been 10 years he told this... But I can't forget this! Still now it makes me feel pain inside!

I got severe social anxiety but I push my limits and try to break barriers by intentionally putting myself into conversations with people and groups, but I still get avoided. That discourages me a lot and adds to my anxiety. Seems like people don't like my company😢

Thank God I thought I was the only 1 🙄😭💯 I started exercising outside and I always have a intense fear people are watching me or keeping tabs on me following me so I don't stay out that long 😆🤷🏾‍♀️

Whole comment section is full of my type of people, im not alone 😅thats a good thing

I started feeling this fear/ anxiety when I was 17, after 9 years trying to overcome this fear, nothing has changed. I'm tired and thinking about giving up my social life, my brother is my only one friend...

Who ever is Reading this and feels Like me. Lets Tell us, that no metter how much we have been judged by people who had a big role in our lives, that we are not judged by every random Person around us. We are not wierd. We are like everyone else. Lets live life free from fear and anxiety.

nah.. i have exposed my self for most of my life... doing public speaking, teaching, being in many meetings try voicing out my opinion.. but still i struggle with social anxiety.. i still struggle to say anything during social setting or in meetings... i freeze even though i have tried to calm myself.. people sense my akwardness n they ran away from me n avoid being with me....

That was really helpful. Thank you :)

I do that i expose myself but i still struggle and have no friends

this guy literally gave the exact responses i was thinking of lol

Embrace and laugh at your differences, it makes you unique, for people to like.

Yes, absolutely, it's so major to do exposure therapy. Not only that but by building your own confidence, you won't be afraid anymore

yeah it helps to expose yourself to social situations, but the moment I stop it comes back very quickly.

I have been dealing with social anxiety from a quite young age and the only thing that helps is putting yourself out there and to face more situations. Have someone who has your back. My teacher always used to tell me that it is not that I am not confident but rather that i am hesitant to speak my real voice. It is like having a fear that you won't fit in

I afraid to be alone but totally forgot that I’m actually more alone than ever because of social anxiety

It's too hard to face that time when we thought we look weird 😣

I got out of this, and then got right back into it

i am now going to go outside and overcome my social anxiety

i did this, for more than a decade. when you have social anxiety and still have to go to school or work, you don't have a choice to not get into these situations. All it did for me is that I hated myself more because of the many embarassing situations i got into. Before anyone says that i'm too soft, I'm not afraid of physical conflicts, I've been in a few. It's the smalls things for exmpl going to a shop and when you want to say what you want your brain goes empty. Stuff like that.

Therapeutic way of saying go outside and touch some grass.

thank you doctor.

I'm living a true nightmare with my social anxiety...It's stopping me from doing my tasks and living my life normally…I really want to overcome it but idk how💔

Eye contact actually works. Ive noticed it makes girls hold eye contact back and smile, flip hair, the signs of attraction which make me feel good and boosts my confidence. Before i would just aviod eye contact and anytime they would stare and smile or giggle i would take it as them judging me, laughing at me which would make me mad and want to get away. But in reality thats their way of them showing they like you. Noone ever looks at or stares at someone they don't like. Its the opposite we actually try avoiding looking at them. I still feel social anxiety near anyone but atleast I feel some confidence now. I still feel weird if someone is stealing glances at me. Even if i know what it means i don't like being watched that way. it makes me nervous self conscious about myself

I would do this, but I have social anxiety.