I've noticed that Introverts are not shy when texting .
@FinesseFlightOfficial5 жыл бұрын
Sam Fitt true
@blankness85 жыл бұрын
Yup! Texting is a good outlet for me because it gives me a lot of time to think, and because we're not face to face the pauses aren't awkward! Also I've noticed introverts tend to have a lot to say if they're comfortable and they're given time to open up, so texting is a good medium :)
@SheaHarris5 жыл бұрын
Introversion ≠ shyness
@nofybn77945 жыл бұрын
Depends on if they can give me something to work with.
@valdanalimavidal73985 жыл бұрын
That's so me... When I start texting i can't stop
@clascaulfieldjr36533 жыл бұрын
“Weather’s been good, huh? “ “Do you think we have free will?”
@nateholmes26413 жыл бұрын
So are you ready for the day of judgement
@InglesporMinutoconAnthonyMartz3 жыл бұрын
So why is it that we introverts do that? Are we naturally predisposed to doing that? Because i literally was thinking of having a deep topic with a friend later on tonite to make sure I could make the conversation last longer
@Mrko7M2 жыл бұрын
@@InglesporMinutoconAnthonyMartz don't these deep conversations end just abruptly and just make you feel awkward and i don't even feel awkwardness mostly talk about something you and your friend share which made you get the chance to know each other this the fruit for unlimited small talk
@jamaldaood36332 жыл бұрын
@@nateholmes2641 lmaoooo
@boothagod36582 жыл бұрын
Exactly
@norse_cat2 жыл бұрын
I think there's a difference between an introvert and social anxiety/awkwardness. Introverts don't necessarily feel awkward, since they can be confident, they just are more exhausted by social interactions.
@CoachAhava-000010 ай бұрын
This. I deal with shyness, anxiety, and introversion. Small talk is excruciating, a group gathering with a purpose makes for easier choices for what to talk about. Shyness isn't low self esteem. I have confidence and can make friends. Flirting though...😂.
@Ndinogona6 ай бұрын
🎯
@w0ry0355 ай бұрын
social interactions are more exhausting to us introverts because we're highly sensitive to small little negative emotions, we feel more anxious than extroverts, angrier than extroverts, more embarassed and we're bored by superficiality which all contribute to draining our social batery considerably more.
@daks88883 ай бұрын
Right. I mean I have trouble getting into being playful while talking to someone. I think it's because of depression really. Takes me a lot. I wish there were more videos on getting into being playful actually.
@dazz24693 ай бұрын
Yeah i have social anxiety which makes me avoid social situations completely.
@VioletRaven.2 жыл бұрын
My favorite piece of advice in this video is the waiter interrupting analogy. If you are telling someone a story and you get interrupted, and the other person doesn't bring the conversation back to the story you were telling, they clearly weren't interested, so just move on. It's also a great way to show someone else that you were paying attention. If someone is telling me a story and we get interrupted, I will say "So you were telling me about..." and then I'll repeat the last thing they told me. People appreciate this, it shows that you were listening and that you care!
@SirCanuckelhead Жыл бұрын
The latter part is basically a common test for a boyfriend when his gf is talking, the dreaded question "What did I just say?"
@VioletRaven. Жыл бұрын
@@SirCanuckelhead Not really. I’m not asking the other person, “What did I just say?” I’m saying, “You were telling me about this thing, please continue.” Two completely different things.
@lord_osama3206 Жыл бұрын
@@SirCanuckelhead Somehow girls always find a way to make there men suffer in every situation 🤣
@Streamingstuff-qq3vw2 ай бұрын
Im introverted my go to is where do the ninja turtles get their weapons
@Xackory28 күн бұрын
@@VioletRaven. this advice just isnt true do not listen to this lol
@MrCmon1135 жыл бұрын
#1 Quit the small talk and get on to something interesting. "The weather is beautiful today." "It is, do you think we should engage in an all out trade war against China?"
@Raikeran5 жыл бұрын
lmao
@estevanperez61615 жыл бұрын
😂
@alexanderdavid42715 жыл бұрын
F*ck this 🤣 you should at least get 1k likes
@OscarGeronimo5 жыл бұрын
lol, I almost spit on the screen. XD
@beyondviolet5 жыл бұрын
Taxtro well, you did it
@d4nielle3645 жыл бұрын
I came here because I panicked when talking to someone at school and asked which school they went to smh.
@williamchristiansenwenners81405 жыл бұрын
MagesticSnowflake lol 😂
@budgetmindedconsumer67075 жыл бұрын
You could spin it off as a joke or joke how you blundered. That’s what I do all the time. I say something like, “OMG! My brain is failing me. Ugh. Why?” I say it in a serious yet sarcastic tone. At the end of the day, people will either live you or be indifferent about you. Hope that helps
@isaactorres59085 жыл бұрын
MagesticSnowflake that's awesome
@shorx91995 жыл бұрын
Damn. Why do we even talk to other people, whats the point. Why do people loke doing it? Even introverts
@lunakaisol5 жыл бұрын
MagesticSnowflake LMAO I’m sorry but this is hilarious 😂😂😂
@Jayhawker2000 Жыл бұрын
Another great tactic that Kanye taught us is to wear a black mask that covers 100% of your face. This helps to put everyone at ease.
@kokolatte825 Жыл бұрын
😫🤣
@willjamison Жыл бұрын
underrated comment
@lucioloco4062 Жыл бұрын
Also admitting to love hitler will definitely skip the small talk
@JihadBunnydick Жыл бұрын
Yeah I need to go to work like that
@NB20LOL3 ай бұрын
🤣🤣🤣
@SSYabuddy2 жыл бұрын
Does anyone else get chills through their whole body when you’re suppose to be saying something in a conversation but you really can’t come up with anything? I do all the time and just stand there awkwardly overthinking on what to try to say.
@piggybackedfromapizzadough57272 жыл бұрын
And you get so nervous to the point you can’t breath?
@kimmybear1005 жыл бұрын
I just never have anything to talk about. Literally nothing.
@comfortlucia5 жыл бұрын
Can relate 💯 I just end up just smiling or laughing awkwardly at myself because my brain is literally frozen at that moment
@pikira22465 жыл бұрын
omg same XD
@jakesampson56295 жыл бұрын
Kimberlyn Mcmurray I literally have the same problem, so to combat that I began just talking about stuff that interests me, as long as it was mildly appropriate in the convo. So for example, I actually found in like job interviews the employer actually respected ( occasionally) if I asked 'hey have you seen that new movie...' or whatever. I thought I may as well try it a few times as it's better than an awkward silence.
@rambichan59975 жыл бұрын
Sounds like you all have something to talk about now
@pikira22465 жыл бұрын
Michael Hong You think we can just walk up to someone and say “yo I have nothing to talk about”?
@ketgremlin87764 жыл бұрын
Two introverts who don’t know each other trying to engage in small talk is horrible
@vitoscalita4 жыл бұрын
Comedy gold
@synthesize56184 жыл бұрын
Facts bro, as an introvert, it’s painful af
@ao24154 жыл бұрын
True. “What are u doing?” “Nothing, you?” “Same.” *silence*
@blackdiamond40494 жыл бұрын
Oh that's fun
@nickkriebel18843 жыл бұрын
Lmao
@brandondaniels9471 Жыл бұрын
Charisma on Command: 💡 _I'm gonna use Kanye as an example to teach these guys how to master conversations!_ Kanye: _I'm bout to end this man's whole career_
@Anonymous-so1ho Жыл бұрын
Lol I was waiting for these comments to start coming in
@Norie92 Жыл бұрын
came here to say this
@Wiseman__ Жыл бұрын
my exact thought lol.
@themisterg. Жыл бұрын
Kanye has balls at least.
@sylvianartist8930 Жыл бұрын
what's going on with Kanye??
@colorchangingsoupАй бұрын
The problem of not knowing what to say is what keeps me silent most of the time
@soulassassin0g5 жыл бұрын
Small talk with stranger is easy. It's small talking with coworkers or classmates that is hard. Eventually you're going to run out of things to say and the only thing you talk about after that is work, which is boring.
@blah96295 жыл бұрын
same. i always loved talking to strangers, they hold no expectation nor standard or view over me yet and it makes me feel like i can be anyone i want because of the no-impression zone that we haven't quite pass through yet. DONT KNOW IF THIS MAKES SENSE BUT I DONT REALLY CARE. im tired. bye.
@soulassassin0g5 жыл бұрын
@@blah9629 Don't worry, it makes sense to me. :)
@pikira22465 жыл бұрын
Especially when what the other person is talking about is extremely boring.
@artemis83685 жыл бұрын
Exactly! I like talking to strangers or meeting new people, but sadly at some point i run out of things to talk about with the ones i know (classmates)... so it gets kinda awkward... thats what i was hoping for to find in a video
@zelekshmira5 жыл бұрын
For me it's quite the opposite: I don't know what to talk about around strangers, don't know how to start a conversation because I barely know the person. On the other hand there are various conversation topics that I can start with a classmate or someone else that I know.
@bermymon995 жыл бұрын
Hard mode: small talk as an introvert Insane Mode: small talk with social anxiety
@cinder88715 жыл бұрын
MH's Elect nightmare mode: small talk as an introvert with social anxiety
@travis_redfern67715 жыл бұрын
송민민 I mean I just feel like the majority of introverts also have social anxiety tho.
@gamedev62905 жыл бұрын
Then all people are introverts. There is absolutely no need in illogical unpleasant not understandable "small talk" that has no value other than following a local british cultural standard non existing in the outer world. There is no such thing like small talk outside of britain. The world does not revolve around you. You do small talk - you are considered at best low intellectual or low-confident by 400 millions of post soviet citizens. At worst you can end up in a clinic. This is NOT okay to "small" talk unless you are scared, in state of affect or in rave
@lila53385 жыл бұрын
AscensionToMadness definitely death mode
@athing185 жыл бұрын
@@gamedev6290 I did not understand this post
@RustyShackleford556 Жыл бұрын
Well that thumbnail aged well
@andreasberger4 Жыл бұрын
How to improve your charisma. Step 1. Do no try to get attention by wearing a mask covering your entire face just after a major ethical controversy involving kids as well as the company producing that mask. Step 2. Do no express that you loooooove a particular historical figure known being antisemetic and for his their involvement in the holocaust. Step 3. Do not post symbols which are tied to groups who were responsible for the biggest war in history on your social media profiles, particularly not if that group was a variant of facism known for race hate against people with those with the same genetic backgroud as yourself. Step 4. If for some reason you feel an urge to do 1, 2 or 3. seek professional help. Do not, I repeat, do not go on like television.
@LexiMcneal5 ай бұрын
@@andreasberger4but he made graduation😔😔
@60sbabydoll7775 ай бұрын
@@andreasberger4irrelevant. He made graduation
@Syrupsandwiches695 ай бұрын
@@andreasberger4he made runaway tho
@zeus31803 ай бұрын
was looking for this comment
@deli_bread Жыл бұрын
As an introvert, something I like to do to skip small talk all together is just ask a hypothetical or interesting question. Some of my go-to favorites are "Is soup a drink?", "What do you think about garlic bread?", or the classic immortal snail problem.
@chaosness7684 Жыл бұрын
thank you for this. def gonna ask people this once i graduate and test if this is reliable
@peterdanisek2188 Жыл бұрын
are u 14
@viniciusgrosse1958 Жыл бұрын
@@peterdanisek2188 Are you someone who thinks they're cool and different?💀
@viniciusgrosse1958 Жыл бұрын
@@peterdanisek2188 yeah kid, I totally believe you
@peterdanisek2188 Жыл бұрын
@@viniciusgrosse1958 bro you're like 16, don't tell me anything
@gerritdeman64105 жыл бұрын
My problem is that I often just don't know what to say. When I'm talking with someone my head is constantly like 'OKAY, WHAT CAN I SAY TO THIS, THINK THINK, UHM YEAH I AGREE THAT'S NICE!' but I can hardly ever think of something interesting, while if I'm alone after that I can suddenly think of a dozen interesting topics I could have talked about. It's really annoying. :p
@yhourruitiner5 жыл бұрын
I’m not an expert but I’ve found that really paying attention to what the other person is saying and asking follow up open ended questions works to keep the conversation going until something comes up that relates to my personal experiences or opinions.
@Zyxwy5 жыл бұрын
The problem that we have with coversation is that we make it about us. "How do I sound? What do I say? Am I being weird? What if they dont like Me?" You should actually focus on the Person you're talking to: Who are They, what do They like, what do They do, why do They like what they like, what do They think about xyz? It gets easier the more you practice. I practice at work and it's helped my social skills A LOT. I'm not Oprah but I got more conversational skill now than I had 3 months ago! You can do it too!
@mrheimdall5 жыл бұрын
I call that the George Costanza Complex.
@dorisi.29205 жыл бұрын
Gerrit DeMan lmfao we have the same issue
@beyondviolet5 жыл бұрын
Gerrit DeMan I get really scared when I don’t know exactly what I’m doing in every situation, especially conversation. I start shaking and I can’t think properly at all, which just makes it worse. It’s so frustrating and awkward.
@phodilus21416 жыл бұрын
the video i should’ve watched right after i was born
@darthbane71406 жыл бұрын
same
@nefertitimontoya6 жыл бұрын
It's cool how life hands you things in a particular order, may you use the video knowledge henceforth in good health
@wabdih6 жыл бұрын
lol i like this
@markcacho61266 жыл бұрын
Lmaoooooo
@Escanorsataru6 жыл бұрын
same here.. accidentally stumbled on this but it should have been years ago
@scripsur82032 жыл бұрын
As a former introvert, I would like to excuse you from all this trouble and enlighten you with a magic solution to instantly be able to handle small talk. And that is to just SAY ANYTHING AND EVERYTHING. Literally. Anything that comes to mind - you say it. It is the most effective way to become more extroverted and be able to handle small talk or even keep a convo going. Your mind silently makes up answers, statements, questions, jokes and possible teases to anything that has been stated, it just doesn't propose them to you directly. It kind of hides them deeper in your brain. Your have to manually catch them and then the only thing left to do is to sound them out. Simple. At first, it might seem intimidating because you dont know which of the many sentances given to you by your brain to pick. Thats why you should first try it out on your close friends (my no.1 choice) because even if you mess up they won't take it seriously. Then, after you get the hang of it, it becomes as easy as just saying things. I am not kidding. You just start talking on autopilot and it works (talking from experience here). So yeah be sure to try this out and I hope y'all are prepared to ace any upcoming small talk. Best of luck :)
@GundamWalrus2 жыл бұрын
Thank you will try this out with my family and friends
@sqtuck2 жыл бұрын
Introvertism and extrovertism can't really change, it's how your brain is wired. But yes, you can definitely learn to _behave_ differently. You still need time to be alone and recharge, right?
@Malicos2 жыл бұрын
This is a funny concept but I wonder if it would work. You see, I find myself "parsing" all of the subjects as they occur in my head before I bring them up in conversation. Maybe if I turned the parser off... lol
@ashivau2 жыл бұрын
Thanks so much it’s nice knowing there’s people like you sharing your experience! I’ll try practicing this in my head and test it out with the close friends I have and family members thank so much :D
@muslim43072 жыл бұрын
😂😂😂
@westonnwaimo4002 Жыл бұрын
“he so quiet what’s on his mind” Kanye: “I guess we’ll never know”
@AryanSharma-ce6hw4 жыл бұрын
"We are introverts until our vibes match"
@iiReTr0Z3 жыл бұрын
Our*
@geensjc3 жыл бұрын
💯
@AryanSharma-ce6hw3 жыл бұрын
@@iiReTr0Z Arey sahi toh likha hai XD
@gigachad91632 жыл бұрын
@@AryanSharma-ce6hw bhay wo japani hai usko hindi ni aati.
@rayanrashid74132 жыл бұрын
@@AryanSharma-ce6hw are Nahi our aye ga
@FaiGal4 жыл бұрын
I'm so awkward. Most of the time when there's a pause between the conversation and my mind goes blank trying to think of something to say to engage, I just smile and say "yeah."
@leoniexo56273 жыл бұрын
@@MvsicAdd7ct lmaooo that's what I sound like 🤣
@nimo27143 жыл бұрын
I’m even worse I’m like “....that’s crazy...” when nothing about the context of the conversation or what was being told was ‘crazy’ at all.
@T.Harry792 жыл бұрын
The “oh yea?” is my go-to.
@jajajajayeahyeah2372 жыл бұрын
@@nimo2714 oh gosh once time i was checking out at a supermarket and asked if there was a deal going on still and after he scanned my items and confirmed the deal was indeed still active i just went “cool.” HAHahha….. 😓😓
@mollywilson56392 жыл бұрын
"You're kidding'
@ogjrap69282 жыл бұрын
2:03 “Can I hug you?” I died 💀
@ItalianBMT.2 жыл бұрын
My problem is I end up getting mad at myself if the other person doesn’t doesn’t like me after our interaction. I don’t feel like I did well enough in our conversation because I want to improve to be a better talker and I end up angry. Sometimes I’m even frustrated with myself while the conversation is going on. I’m annoyed even thinking about it. It happened earlier today and got in my head all day.
@andymiller1597 Жыл бұрын
It's a horrible feedback loop of becoming more negative because I'm bad at talking then being worse at talking because I'm in a negative headspace
@camzy01 Жыл бұрын
That mid-conversation frustration is the absolute worst, especially when you feel the other person picking up on it in real time. The internal conflict between wanting to improve your interaction skills, whilst also fighting the intrusive thoughts that you're not doing good enough is literal hell. The weight of doing these mental gymnastics makes interactions really exhausting too, further disincentivising the journey for improvement. Isn't life great haha
@rabitevil10 ай бұрын
Same here. Like I tried to be friendly and nice, but ended up scaring people away and they thought I’m weird af lol wtf
@musicmeister13134 ай бұрын
are you me?
@Alexis_0055 жыл бұрын
If introverts knew how to use this points when needed. We wouldn’t be introverts. My Mind goes blank the minute someone tries small talk
@WelcomeToMyDream5 жыл бұрын
Introverts don't have these functions "built-in", but we can learn from videos like this, or books in my case, before KZfaq. Learn and practice. I'm still an introvert with social anxiety, but people who don't know me well usually can't tell. Obviously I'm still working on it, since I'm watching this video and just subbed to this channel. Blue Skies!!
@atomonx55823 жыл бұрын
Making eye contact most of the time gives me brain damage 😂
@danarzechula37693 жыл бұрын
Then make them talk about themselves. You'll never need to speak
@alyxms58263 жыл бұрын
I swear
@sylvie88603 жыл бұрын
ikr we just dread the exhaustion of having to converse 💀
@zagrosqazy3798 Жыл бұрын
The thing with introverts is we don't want to talk about things we Don't like
@ctvxl Жыл бұрын
I have always considered myself an introvert. I *hate* mindless small talk! When I was a young kid, I was painfully shy around strangers also. As an adult, I no longer feel shy, but I do tend to be mostly quiet around people I don't know well. It took a long time, but I finally was able to understand what it was that made me feel uncomfortable talking to strangers. And that is I don't like confrontation. I like to avoid it if at all possible. I just find it exhausting. And, when talking to a stranger at a party, etc., you don't really have any idea of the mindset of that person, so you risk offending them and causing confrontation. I have found that when I am surrounded by intelligent, open minded strangers, conversation just happens organically with little effort. But most people do not fall into this camp. Most are unintelligent, brainwashed sheep, and those few of us that are "awake" will inevitably annoy them or become annoyed ourselves leading to confrontation. I realize how arrogant this sounds, but it is really true.
@PowahSlapEntertainmint6 жыл бұрын
_(Mhms in Kanye)_
@TheComedyButchers6 жыл бұрын
*(Mhm intensifies)*
@DillanV6 жыл бұрын
Kanye is a genius
@mintybin6 жыл бұрын
😂🌝🌝
@neighbor4726 жыл бұрын
Dillan V yee
@abirdconcernedforhumankind23456 жыл бұрын
Thank you Kanye, very cool!
@FiIIerguy5 жыл бұрын
Thanks human. I can now communicate effectively with my coworkers
@lovelylluvia53005 жыл бұрын
Lmao thanks
@nooriman59445 жыл бұрын
Are you a robot?
@gino145 жыл бұрын
We have just assisted an alien invader in the conquest of Earth. Do you feel better for yourself?
@Will-gi3wg4 жыл бұрын
@Depressed The Girl Oh my. Did you end up getting fired? Did you show signs of anxiety at work? I've been through this.
@luna0104 жыл бұрын
as a fellow human I agree this will be very useful for my social interactions with my friends
@sythic_x Жыл бұрын
Literally learning how to be a human......
@conan65612 ай бұрын
Almost like we’re brainwashed not to be or somethin… crazy aye
@sythic_x2 ай бұрын
@@conan6561 That comment 10 months old; I was not expecting a reply lmao
@conan65612 ай бұрын
@@sythic_x u know that’s not a good habit to get into
@xxxphilippxxx626022 күн бұрын
@@sythic_x so you didnt expect this comment a year later, either!
@JesusGonzalez-it2sv2 жыл бұрын
I'm sorry to all of you who feel you don fit in and I'm sorry for the people who don't get you. In my friend group there is one of us who is introvert but we understand and we try to make him feel as comfortable as possible and make him feel part of the group cuz he is. I hope you all find good friends that understand.
@MemeSnack5 жыл бұрын
What point have I reached in life were I have to search for a KZfaq video on how to engage in a conversation :(
@nightfighter74525 жыл бұрын
You're not the only one fam, its okay
@mako.m18855 жыл бұрын
fucked up I know
@cameronschlobohm85625 жыл бұрын
Adulthood
@Walamonga13135 жыл бұрын
Meme Snack Lol, I didn't have to search it. It just popped up in my recommended videos.
@conta-fake67235 жыл бұрын
Well, at least you're trying to improve
@usagitsukino36385 жыл бұрын
_Say how the other person's statement makes you feel_ Me: *Frankly my dear, I don't give a damn*
@findlayrankin97695 жыл бұрын
usagi tsukino not trying to be rude or anything but that kind of response about not caring is probably why your watching this video.😅
@usagitsukino36385 жыл бұрын
@@findlayrankin9769 actually, I'm quite good at smalltalk. However that doesn't mean that I'm always interested in everything that someone says. Some people are just boring.
@devinuluc31835 жыл бұрын
@@usagitsukino3638 Some people are fucking boring indeed. It takes two to tango. If the other person aint doin shit, then I'm just gonna walk out.
@Dash62g5 жыл бұрын
quality comment
@kajaaki84225 жыл бұрын
damn this is so true 😂🤣
@bastidface Жыл бұрын
The problem with introverts is that they're intuitive enough to know that making small talk is a waste of time. It's incredibly awkward pretending to exchange worthless banter and niceties with others who likely want nothing to do with you and vice versa. All it ever leads to is extreme tension and feelings of isolation.
@Venuk Жыл бұрын
It's all in you're head, trust me. Put yourself in the right situation and you will be amazed at how social you can be. That will be the stepping stone and it will only get better from there.
@Austin-on4zr5 жыл бұрын
"Hey." "Hey." "How are you doing?" "Uh... lemme pull out my notes real quick."
@gekyume5885 жыл бұрын
Me: "Hey." Her: "Hey." Her: "How are you doing?" Me: Not bad... How are you doing? Her: I'm doing great! *awkward silence* Me: "nervous chuckle.. yeah.. well, i have to go but it was nice seeing you! talk to you later" xD
@aliciaelizabeth75515 жыл бұрын
Wow most relatable thing ever 😂
@rhall55505 жыл бұрын
“Hold on i need to watch this video first”
@tashat605 жыл бұрын
Yes! Lmfao. This is me too!
@eves52975 жыл бұрын
"How come, what was so great about your day?"
@TeexMack5 жыл бұрын
Introvert with social anxiety, anyone else?
@blankness85 жыл бұрын
Yeah same here :// It's gotten so bad that I actively hide from my friends if I see a one-on-one convo coming up :( (If they're in a group it's fine though)
@always10845 жыл бұрын
Here
@mine_neko5 жыл бұрын
I can relate! But I'm trying to connect with friends again.
@holysecret25 жыл бұрын
+
@potaatoo87935 жыл бұрын
@@blankness8 huh I'm the exact opposite. I'm fine with a one-on-one but as soon as there are multiple people having some sort of expectation that I contribute something to the conversation I'm out
@SmallTalkInc2 жыл бұрын
Speaking as someone who's always been an introvert but learned a lot from working in hospitality and retail: ask questions (about the other) whenever you don't know what to say. Listening to others is far more helpful than thinking of what you want to say or when or how you have to say it.
@littlewammity98962 жыл бұрын
valid, but there have been many times where I consciously 'take charge' by asking questions which leads to the other person getting too self-involved. I end up learning everything about them without them having learned anything from me because I can not get a word in or, if I relate to myself for some balance, they steer it to themselves again. that's when you realise they're either very insecure or a narc.
@mandiekayfit4011 Жыл бұрын
Wow. My worst fear, confirmed. I was telling a story, got interrupted, and wasn't asked to continue it. I'm obviously boring. I'm also constantly trying to think of how to not have awkward silence in conversation. 😔😔
@frogosplayer15 жыл бұрын
Seems like my people have gathered in the comments... now we can all stand around in awkward silence, laugh nervously, and not make eye contact together ...
@adr_x11144 жыл бұрын
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@feliperuiz48843 жыл бұрын
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@carl_consumer.of.reality3 жыл бұрын
😶 👕 🤝 🩳
@kolos46506 жыл бұрын
God I love this community, where we can talk about this uncomfortable subjects and actually see that everybody is bothered with this stuff to different extent. I love you all
@augustgreig94206 жыл бұрын
Kolos Love you too!
@swampfox9846 жыл бұрын
We should make a Facebook group for this. Like Real Men Real Style did.
@jamesmason79796 жыл бұрын
Much love to you as well.
@albertrono13706 жыл бұрын
You know what, let's make the Facebook group!
@DeliciousBADBOY6 жыл бұрын
Alberto 💯 Groupname: Socially Awkward Men?
@SomeoneWitSkill2 жыл бұрын
Me and my sister are very similar to each other. We both have pretty high anxiety, including social anxiety, and were introvert. I realized early on small talk is in fact a skill that you need to keep practicing with. Got to the point where I'm comfortable talking to anyone without feeling weird. My sister on the other hand is still struggling but I'm trying my best to get her through it. This was a great video, a few tips I found personally. Wish everyone the best of luck!
@Astro-ep7id Жыл бұрын
Bruh the algorithm is wilding 💀
@sharigriffith32305 жыл бұрын
As an introvert, watching this video did nothing but make me feel exhausted.
@Bcke143044 жыл бұрын
The narrator of this video spoke way too quickly for me, as an introvert, to take in any of what he was saying....
@max-pn8tt4 жыл бұрын
Honestly same my girlfriend considers me an extrovert but in reality I’m an introvert and this video was tough to dread through but I feel like it helped
@XxSh4d0wxX4 жыл бұрын
Right? It just reminded me how tiring interactions in general really are.
@belfam894 жыл бұрын
I was exhausted before watching so I cnt blame the video 😂😂😂
@sparklingfashion62764 жыл бұрын
Shari Griffith if you were an extrovert all of this would be natural. thats why nobody can teach us this stuff
@greatestever55395 жыл бұрын
I find these videos very interesting, but I hate watching them because then I feel like I'm a lifeless robot that has to learn how to hold a full conversation with someone.
@luna0104 жыл бұрын
sometimes you just have to accept that you're a lifeless robot
@cal67414 жыл бұрын
a f f i r m a t i v e
@izadave89914 жыл бұрын
@@cal6741 the distant future, the year 2000
@tati79ana4 жыл бұрын
Don't think like that. The thing is that the world is ridiculous and shallow. 🙄
@Thetypingcow4 жыл бұрын
It’s okay to make an effort to improve yourself!
@HenrikMyrhaug2 жыл бұрын
Not an introvert, but I remember struggling and having to take some time to learn to keep a meaningful, engaging conversation. Personally, I find there are a few rules that made it much easier for me to keep a conversation going: -Whenever asked a question, try to answer with in- depth, descriptive answers instead of short, simple answers, like 'yes', 'no', 'I'm fine', 'It was good', etc. An exception to this rule is if you can tell that the person who asked the question wants you to give a short answer so that they can follow up temselves and add context. Don't be like Kanye and answer "Mhm. Mhm. Mhm. Yes." to a series of questions meant to get a conversation going. -Whenever discussing a certain topic, it can be good to just add in a few tangents about topics related to whatever you are talking about. You should give enough information that others may become curious about the tangent and start asking questions or talking about that. Tangents should however not be so large that they derail from the original topic unless the other person wants to do so. -Ask questions that encourage the person being asked to give an in-depth answer rather than a 'yes' or 'no'. Don't ask 'How was your day?', but rather something like 'Have you done anything interesting today?', and follow up with more qestions or talk about whatever they mention. -Pick up on small tangents that someone adds while talking, and ask questions or start talking more about the tangents. If someone mentions their work, a hobby, or some interesting event, ask questions about that to try to arrive at a topic that you will both find interesting to talk about. -Don't talk politics. Politics really easily get frustrating and boring, and can be a good way to kill the mood. It is fine to bring up current topics that people may be divided on, but don't start an argument about it.
@avemew5407 Жыл бұрын
the thumbnail aged well
@HardcoreHeartChris5 жыл бұрын
Common question: "You're quiet, aren't you?" Me: "Yeah..."
@randomnamesoicanfindmyself31234 жыл бұрын
You like making noise, right?
@lani05154 жыл бұрын
It really be like that doe😳
@CyAnKS934 жыл бұрын
*Plankton voice* CORRECT!
@535_anshuj94 жыл бұрын
I can actually hear those voices while reading this. God,that's so annoying!!!!People never actually get it, do they??? I am quiet ,because you guys are doing enough damage by yourselves....Please just let me be!!!
@jademaverick82914 жыл бұрын
Yes, and then when you become close to the person who said that they're like, "And I thought you were quiet!"
@Alexisasful4 жыл бұрын
The moment you find all your introverted, depressed homies in the comment section sharing the same struggles with you is priceless.
@anneneville62554 жыл бұрын
At least now we don’t feel alone. But irl, I have almost never meet as awkward people as me, strangely. Hahha
@vitoscalita4 жыл бұрын
@@anneneville6255 i mean im an introvert who is awkward but i don't show to others my awkward side i keep it to myself so u may have met awkward introverts but they didn't show u their awkward side
@anneneville62554 жыл бұрын
Leopold The III the Problem is sometimes when I try to hide my awkwardness, people think I am being arrogant :(
@Yunes9482 жыл бұрын
We are one
@angieacabal79422 жыл бұрын
I have finally found my people.. Hahaha
@BamaNick2 жыл бұрын
As a introvert I mastered this at work without realizing that was what I was doing. I have always avoided conversations unless they were about specific deep meaningful topics, or certain activities I was really invested in. If I had little interest in the current topic, or if the topic was just small talk. I am nearly dead silent just listening to the others in the room talk.
@daniell_1177 Жыл бұрын
Glad you included that clip of me at 2:10
@BierBart125 жыл бұрын
All this just seems too complicated to me. Sometimes I feel like I just wasn't made for this world
@borisjohnson2174 жыл бұрын
Same
@mimimira54124 жыл бұрын
Same I don't understand how people live with each other.
@Observerw4 жыл бұрын
Mimi Mira damn bro what makes you feel like that? I would to hear what you have 2 say
@mimimira54124 жыл бұрын
@@Observerw I just mean like, I don't understand how to have a normal conversation with people, I never have anything to say. Also when someone tells me something I never feel the need to say anything back, but when I think about it another person would have so much to say and it would lead to a great conversation. Am just really never interested in what people have to say, only when they are people am close to or if it's about something that interests me. But also am just someone who easily shuts out the world so attention span is short. I also tend to be very blunt, I say what I feel before realising it's gonna hurt someone, my friends have told me about this so many times that I don't have a filter.
@BierBart124 жыл бұрын
@@mimimira5412 I don't think there's any problem with that. I have problems talking to normal people, but I kinda built a "list" of "normal" topics in my head I can ask about to make the other person carry the conversation. It really depends on the person and conversations tend to die in around a minute, though. With weirdos, on the other hand, I can just talk for hours and hours making weird noises and meme references.
@amiemcconnell83245 жыл бұрын
Someone: So how are you? Me having anxiety and thinking about this video: I think people focus too much... on the past...
@yapzor26235 жыл бұрын
Same thats my fucking problem right now
@stopstalkingmepleasehaha4 жыл бұрын
😂😂😂
@AT-wp8ri4 жыл бұрын
🤣
@lastfambisayi48484 жыл бұрын
😂😂😂😂
@whysosad454 жыл бұрын
Worrrrd 😂😂😂😂
@TheBestMOC Жыл бұрын
I usually tell people to stfu with the small talk and say something interesting and then it starts something funny AND also makes them feel more confortable to say anything they might want to without much restriction/filter.
@ganimisa Жыл бұрын
Most people just want to talk about themselves and their situation anyway. My favorite escape is "got to go, I have to ...(any reason)".
@yohancyrus61595 жыл бұрын
The goal of most of my conversations is for them to end. And I can give the best answers to questions in the shower next morning.
@Duweeadyale4 жыл бұрын
People alway great ideas when their on the shower 😂
@mrlion97194 жыл бұрын
Yeah I kill it asap so there is no chance for the conversation to turn awkward, making it awkward...
@atomonx55823 жыл бұрын
I want conversations to continue but I always find myself somehow ending them
@danarzechula37693 жыл бұрын
Hahaha!! Thanks
@PlanetYokoshima5 жыл бұрын
I'm not interested in my life, that's why I'm better a listener...
@shivareddy86975 жыл бұрын
sam here ,wonderfully said
@markewings75255 жыл бұрын
No-one is interested in your life
@ryanrobin124 жыл бұрын
mark ewings- damn dude
@topangaleija4 жыл бұрын
Me too hun
@artoriasoftheabyss15754 жыл бұрын
@@markewings7525 ironic
@faithfulfilo79942 жыл бұрын
I always acknowledged videos like these as to understanding introverts like myself- but this explains it in a much deeper and actually solving it in an interestingly engaging way.
@ducky83232 жыл бұрын
I always remember Anna Akana's tip for dealing with small was to ask the other person questions because people love talking about themselves (and you end up learning/getting to know the other person better)
@torachan236 жыл бұрын
My strategy was to always stare at the person intensely until they stopped talking and leave. Problem solved.
@Substantial-hf1rm6 жыл бұрын
Tora Chan Jokes on you, akward stares just give me a boner!
@binyoung72976 жыл бұрын
Or just don't be there in the first place, right?
@Account-cu2lf6 жыл бұрын
You are doing what Kanye does
@silashouse19546 жыл бұрын
😂
@hemidas6 жыл бұрын
Simplest answers are usually the best.
@HawkinaBox5 жыл бұрын
Small talk is boring as an introvert. REALLY REALLY BORING. "How are you?" "Good." Then there is silence and I'm FORCED to continue the conversation when they won't! I HATE when that happens!
@RyotaMitarai5 жыл бұрын
I just found a solution, say 'What have you been up to lately?' I personally never used it but I heard all extroverts effectively say it at the beginning of conversation. Try it
@kristupasantanavicius90935 жыл бұрын
Its because "How are you" is not a literal question, its a greeting: "How are you doing?" "I'm fine, what about you?" "Wonderful." This is the same as 2 parties saying "Hi", but with a bit more substance so the parties can better gauge the situation and be able to direct the conversation appropriately. Its not just about the words that are being said, its also about the tone, facial expression and hand gestures.
@fatknuts4 жыл бұрын
Ryota Mitarai the problem for me is it kinda sounds like something you would say to someone you already know, like if you haven’t seen them in a bit.
@mondraymondo4 жыл бұрын
Exactly! Gawd cant they see im an introvert? Dont make me lead the conversation XD
@blue-balenci41814 жыл бұрын
RayMondoART its cuz we probably dudes
@eurussaphire Жыл бұрын
The first clip of kanye missing openings to be able to speak just makes one realise how awkward this interaction is, and how necessary it is to fill up a conversation with more than just "mhm" and head shake.
@jeffmarcuse64502 жыл бұрын
When he mentioned the Yeezy shoes, Kanye's brain started racing in a million directions. He's listening to what Jimmy is saying but also think about everything that has to do with the business at the same time. There's so much going on in his mind, plus he'd rather listen and think about what's being said.
@fooolsun49175 жыл бұрын
I just can't do it. When there's a group of people i just laugh, smile and nod, but when is only other person and me, i can't. I let the other person talk, and talk, and talk (that's why i feel more comfortable with extroverts that can't shut up, so i don't have to talk). But when they ask me my opininion i'm just like "oh...i see" or "yeah". When they ask me to tell stories i just can't think of anything. I have nothing to talk about with strangers.
@blankness85 жыл бұрын
Yes! I love small bigger groups (as in, groups that are still small but have at least four people) because there's not so much focus on me. One on one is actual torture. That's why all my close friends are extroverts lol, they just talk talk talk talk and if I like what they talk about then we're friends haha :D (I do try hard to think of interesting questions but sometimes they fall flat. My brain isn't hard wired for talking).
@SheaHarris5 жыл бұрын
Hmm. I'm good one on one but don't know how to interact in a group.
@SamLovesOD5 жыл бұрын
same!!
@jupiterdoe17765 жыл бұрын
Wow I never related to a comment more
@anasilva23235 жыл бұрын
For me at least I have a serious problem to fully engage in a conversation, or I can't start it, or it's just me talking. The funny thing is, a part of my friends have the same problem as you, so when I give a opening they just say "yeah", "hum" or nothing at all
@lazybacon75206 жыл бұрын
"So, how about that sports team with the points."
@theItalianshamrock6 жыл бұрын
Thats usually the one i use. Or "looks like its gonna rain..shit" haha
@Thoran6666 жыл бұрын
+Jackson OMG I also love Ponytricks! Can I hug you? :D
@thisisdk78596 жыл бұрын
EhehahahahaHA!
@lillelinne636 жыл бұрын
Did the ball go?
@Vikasslytherine6 жыл бұрын
I say we talk about geopolitics concerning the middle eastern region and Afghanistan's fate.
@Mellow_Flow2 жыл бұрын
Been working on my conversation skills over the past year. I still struggle with small talk, but I’ve found that I faire really well once the ice is broken
@lindaneighbors41582 жыл бұрын
There is not one single conversation where I didn't obsess afterward about how awful I was. I HATE small-talk but understand it's a necessary evil if we exist in society, or have family we love. I think these pointers will help me so much. Thank you! I only hope I can remember to use them. Oh, I should say, my dread of conversations is due to my extreme awkwardness along with a feeling that people expect something from me. Like, I am trying so hard to be helpful in keeping the conversational ball rolling, that I'll steal it and run with it, bouncing it wildly all over the place so that, even if someone else wants to join in, they probably can't. Maybe that's introversion paired with ADHD, laced with a hefty dose of coming from a large family that expects participation no matter how much you don't want to.
@baemaejor88574 жыл бұрын
as an introvert I literally couldn't see any openings in that kanye west jimmy kimmel conversation lol
@ErnestKaltenStalin4 жыл бұрын
I was confused too.
@SkittlesInYourHand4 жыл бұрын
Sometimes it's because you lack confidence in yourself and how other perceive you. Jimmy was absolutely BEGGING to be interrupted any kinda comment by Kanye, but if you believe the person speaking doesn't care what you have to say then you'll just say nothing. I struggle pretty hard with this too, but just try to remember that people talking to you usually want to hear what you have to say.
@dawiddulian24034 жыл бұрын
Introverts just prefer to listen and not interrupt the story the person's telling
@garrycotton70943 жыл бұрын
Same, I was so confused! It just seemed like the host was talking non-stop without break ie. leave him to it.
@EmpressG3 жыл бұрын
@@garrycotton7094 Yeah, Kanye was nodding and looking engaged. Probably wondering, "Where is this going?" Short of talking over Jimmy I don't see that the comments suggested that he should make would be relevant and could be taken as rude in certain contexts.
@Box0rz6 жыл бұрын
The problem here is that the definition of ”introvert” doesn’t mean you’re bad at small talk or social cues. Introvert basically just means that you gain energy from being alone, and social situations tire you out very quickly and make you lose energy. Extrovert is the opposite, they lose energy from being alone and being with others makes them feel alive. Nothing to do with social skills. Introvert could have amazing skills while an extrovert couldn’t keep up a conversation if he tried.
@Debunked4216 жыл бұрын
Truth Box0rz. I'm an introvert. I can do the small talk, be out in public, I think I can hold a conversation but ultimately like to go back to my own to recharge. I like human interaction but dont even close to need it to be whole
@nickvnicholas78576 жыл бұрын
I think introverts can be energized by socializing as well but I guess it they have to be in a controlled setting where nothing is spontaneous and the people around are all close friends.
@aminamazhar62336 жыл бұрын
I think most introverts also have social anxiety which can make engaging with people tiring. Not everyone's the same, but the two characteristics sometimes come hand in hand. Also, if you're an introvert and stay away from people most of the time you probably don't know how to interact with them, so there's a correlation there.
@voxychan91746 жыл бұрын
i know how to interact but i dont have the energy or acting skills to do it
@Box0rz6 жыл бұрын
Voxy Chan So basically you don't know how.
@1stJohn3.9-103 ай бұрын
The lack of communication has gotten ridiculous. Every single time I'm out in public, I love approaching as many people as possible. I can have conversations for 10-20 minutes on average, but sometimes 45 min to an hour or more. The longest random conversation I had was about 3 hours at the post office. When people are pumping gas, that's typically a captive audiance for 5-10 minutes. Young, elderly, male, female, couples. People seem Starved for connection...so I love to Encourage people.
@appledough38438 ай бұрын
1:35 (Feel) - To move through small talk mention how the other persons statement makes you feel. 2:58 (Better Question) - Don’t always answer the questions asked but use it as a springboard to answer a more interesting question related to what they asked. 4:12 (Opt In) - Create opt in points so people have a chance to jump in the convo. 5:20 (Deeper) - Steer conversation into deeper conversation you both care about. Ask ppl their opinions on movies or news stories or anything you care about.
@jobe42796 жыл бұрын
Introvert here. I hate small talk. It's so boring. Much more prefer questions and answers with substance.
@findlayrankin97695 жыл бұрын
I know the feeling but in order for us to blend in with society you must do as I have done and transform yourself into a charismatic manipulative sweet talker so we can get into positions of power and take over the world from the inside.
@putturin47235 жыл бұрын
Why do you consider yourself an introvert
@derekdonahue24355 жыл бұрын
Findlay Rankin 😂
@mehvar29125 жыл бұрын
oh wise one, the rest of us all loooooove small talk......
@CaponeXX5 жыл бұрын
I can't stand on online dating apps when girls say " hi how are you" wtf am i supposed to say to that?
@BigDeen5095 жыл бұрын
Too much work, I'd rather not leave my house.
@xehP5 жыл бұрын
ahahah fr
@motivatoraligator65 жыл бұрын
xDDDDDD
@Theendman425 жыл бұрын
But if you would rather never leave your house, when you do have to leave your house, your social interaction, that are inevitable, will function much less efficiently and fun then if you would go out, have a few VERY awkward and embarrassing conversations on your way to success. This is coming from an introverted person who would much rather not leave the confines of their house, but would also like to make social interactions less awkward then they are right now. It comes down to how you feel about interacting, would you rather it be better? Then you need to put in that work…this is assuming you weren't just making a joke that was baseless in the reality of your situation.
@xehP5 жыл бұрын
@@Theendman42 lmao you're obviously an introvert, it was sarcasm...
@Theendman425 жыл бұрын
Yes, I know it was a joke, but I assumed that it had some basis in fact, hence why I said what I said. And yes, I am very much so an introvert.
@deli_bread Жыл бұрын
As an introvert, I have to admit that I am indeed terrible at small talk. I'll use the words "yeah" and "mhm" like 50 times because I don't know how else to respond
@keithprice19502 жыл бұрын
My problem is that the small talk makes me feel so uncomfortable that I actually find it physically difficult to talk. It's like my jaw freezes so when those moments arrive I physically struggle to speak. It's usually a blurt followed by a gulp. Once the small talk is done and there is a subject to talk about, if I'm interested then I can start to relax. Annoyingly though, if the meaningful Convo starts to fizzle out and the small talk returns I freeze up again. I never fully relax until I'm alone again.
@DariaOrionova5 жыл бұрын
Good Lord. I never thought I would relate to Kanye West.
@bluzoneoffline4 жыл бұрын
the world may really be coming to an end😂😂
@Slynell14 жыл бұрын
You sound ignorant daria.
@coolmariobros-ul7yr4 жыл бұрын
@@Slynell1 Why? How? She sounds ignorant because she found something in common with Kanye West? Them both being introverts?
@JustinBrando4 жыл бұрын
then watch his interview he’s the most relatable person i’ve ever seen
@scottmescudi35533 жыл бұрын
Kanye is the goat!
@strawberrypanic99106 жыл бұрын
I can relate to this awkwardness as an introvert on spiritual level.
@niaswalwyn7897 Жыл бұрын
Using Kanye West in this day is crazy 🤣🤣
@nickvnicholas78576 жыл бұрын
I hate when there is awkward silence after you decide to open up and talk. Like the other person expected you to stay silent but now they feel weird that you aren't It's like they know that you are an introvert, so they give you the silent treatment to try to keep themselves above you lol
@jussi-pekkalaakko87686 жыл бұрын
this
@silverknight17406 жыл бұрын
Nivk Miller, I called someone out for doing that once and guess who laughed the last.
@citrus44196 жыл бұрын
Wow that was spot on
@hismom56006 жыл бұрын
@@jussi-pekkalaakko8768 ABSOLUTELY this! I had the same thought last week and couldn't properly express the feeling.
@aceris58746 жыл бұрын
My roommate is like this. When I share something I find important (and I usually don't), and I show large enthusiasm, she'll just go, "Oh, cool."
@sara4sberg6 жыл бұрын
but like, I don’t wanna be talking in the first place. why should I steer the conversation somewhere deeper 😭
@abdoyasine22755 жыл бұрын
Hi big fan
@pinkfurryhat5 жыл бұрын
SAARA thissss people will try to engage small talk with me and internally im like I WANT TO KEEP READING MY REDDIT THREAD ABOUT UNDERWATER KNITTING hahaha
@Veeo6695 жыл бұрын
So much this.
@FinnPotato5 жыл бұрын
Jännä mesta sanoo, mut TORILLE!!!!!
@saoircest5 жыл бұрын
Good point, but hey, deep conversations are where we're all at.
@laurakerschenbaum40792 жыл бұрын
This is really helpful! I get stuck in awkward silences all the time, and it drives me nuts! There are some great suggestions! Thank you!
@jaspreetkaur-ff4ln6 ай бұрын
I love being introvert and quiet at work but people make me really uncomfortable by telling me “ you need to talk more and more” all the time. And making small talks forcefully all day long really drains my whole energy
@fumanchu73 жыл бұрын
How to handle small talk as an introvert: 1. Be chatty 2. Control the conversation 3. Be witty or funny 4. Make sure everyone in the conversation is having fun So ... be an extrovert. I don’t know why I never thought of that. The next conversation will be a breeze!
@noreverie2 жыл бұрын
These all still require talent, especially being funny
@marsilv4319 Жыл бұрын
😂😂😂😂right
@memo5230 Жыл бұрын
Cant be an extrovert if your an introvert can you Mr 😂😂
@giovanniminotte2951 Жыл бұрын
this is equal to How to be rich 1. Have lots of money 2. Be very smart 3. Be born into a rich family 4. Star a successful business
@Aksh__12 Жыл бұрын
@@giovanniminotte2951 absolutely..
@user-bz1wh6xe4m4 жыл бұрын
1:00 Notice subtle openings for you to share your thoughts 2:15 Respond with an open-ended statement to keep the conversation going 3:00 You don't have to answer questions if you want to talk about something else 4:11 Pause to create opt-in points for others 5:22 Try to get to a conversational topic you both care about
@user-bz1wh6xe4m3 жыл бұрын
@Matthew Davis thnx bro
@123craftfun43 жыл бұрын
What I was looking for, thanks@
@danield86322 жыл бұрын
You’re amazing
@Jack-id4qm2 жыл бұрын
Cheers mate
@Peeter82 жыл бұрын
Trying to think back and none of this was taught in school.
@cat_91n3 ай бұрын
finally a tutorial on how to socialise
@bananadn Жыл бұрын
this thumbnail aged well
@JoeMama-ci9bd Жыл бұрын
Just because it has Kanye doesn’t mean it aged poorly goofy
@KingBowserVlog6 жыл бұрын
Guys, one of the biggest things I've ever learned is that putting the label of introvert on yourself will only make you act the part even more. Don't get me wrong, you will always lean towards more introverted or extroverted activity. However, imo it's more like a gradient. I'm a massive introvert. However, over the last two years I've made the effort to come out of my shell and just learn to love to talk. This is key. Don't learn how to have a conversation, learn how to *love* having a conversation. To the point where I used to think talking was draining but now I find myself talking more and more to up my vibe. If I was ever in a bad mood I used to avoid talking. Now I actually *want* to talk because it gets me in a better mood, and it's all because I became genuinely interested in people and in talking. tl;dr don't use being an introvert or extrovert as an excuse for anything. Talking and expressing yourself is just like any other skill, you just have to put the effort in.
@NicolineKorsvold6 жыл бұрын
I spoke with a self-labelled introvert once who had the same approach as you. It made me think that having a growth mindset is applicable to so much more than, say, maths.
@KingBowserVlog6 жыл бұрын
For sure! Never put limits on how you can grow in personality, and that includes being more expressive and talking.
@clarhck66 жыл бұрын
I needed to hear this lol
@user-fj7jf4cj4b6 жыл бұрын
Relate to this comment! Once you judge yourself as a certain one, you could turn the one in no time.
@sam-cn8tu6 жыл бұрын
Brilliant! I used to have this mindset that if it’s not necessary to talk and if I can avoid the chance of any kind of awkward situation then so be it. But I said to myself, I guess not every interaction has to be necessary, and when I tried stepping out of my comfort zone and speaking to people I normally wouldn’t I’ve learnt so much! Things I wouldn’t have known before and it’s rewarding. Don’t get me wrong, some times were awkward, but I’m still alive lmao
@isabel93945 жыл бұрын
Introverts are typically good and fun people. But you just gotta be patient with us :(
@MySweetAriane4 жыл бұрын
Yes. Thank you.
@PersonaofWill4 жыл бұрын
Cute dog creature
@carcart53044 жыл бұрын
This is true, thanks.
@indiralopez18904 жыл бұрын
I am dating one and I completely agree with you. Ican't get enough of everything he says. He's fascinating. And I only waited 2 full years ;-) now, not letting him go, ever
@kinglucos51464 жыл бұрын
Indeed
@christopherpenny62162 жыл бұрын
This video is in exactly the teaching format I need! I just found it but I hope there are more. This might sound silly but I'm going to write some of this down.
@friendlyneighbourhoodbisex48112 жыл бұрын
I am autistic and this channel has helped me feel more natural when I interact with other people. Thankyou!
@Chaechaos6 жыл бұрын
So me..... I just would rather not do small talk. Its seems fake to me. Im so awkaward because I find myself wondering if people do actually care how my day is going (Fill in any other personal question) . Or is it out of politeness. I actually care if I ask. Thats whats so wierd for me and small talk.
@jakubfrei37576 жыл бұрын
So true...
@stackenitup876 жыл бұрын
I feel the same way
@irvinlovesjesus6 жыл бұрын
Jesus cares.
@louisledreff79786 жыл бұрын
Interesting coming from a woman. When I hear my sister chat with her friends, I feel like it's almost only small talk, like telling how you feel, listening to the other tell what her day was like while inserting short questions, acting like you're amazed ; "oh that's crazy !" while you're so obviously bored... When I talk with friends (men), the difference is so obvious. We don't do this kind of stuff, and when someone starts acting like that, we laugh at it, the person feels a bit stupid, laughs too, and we move on.
@binal-flecki23876 жыл бұрын
yeah very fake
@raws42094 жыл бұрын
the problem is that i genuinely dont care about 90% of the people i have smalltalk with so i dont feel like sharing anything out of my life and im not interested in theirs so i dont really listen. Which makes keeping the conversation going super hard.
@sosodrake18072 жыл бұрын
This right here
@user-ew9yq3ht2b2 жыл бұрын
This
@thtswutshesaid2 жыл бұрын
Absolutely this.
@Isa-vy2bv2 жыл бұрын
100% true for me too
@secretlifeofeve2 жыл бұрын
Yeahh! That's why it's exhausting because we have to force ourselves to talk to them and squeeze or brains to think of something to say, and exert energy and effort to look interested in what their saying
@irvingdelahoz9390 Жыл бұрын
I work as a service manager at an RV repair shop, and I can tell right away when some of my clients are introverted so I literally have to talk to them in a certain way so it's very obvious when they need to speak
@8ontheside820 Жыл бұрын
I think with Kanye he likes to think about his answers, he is a smart person and I get the vibe that he doesn’t talk to just to fill the space
@mikeh53996 жыл бұрын
Can you make a video about the opposite skill: how to get an introvert to to engage in small talk? In the first clip, Jimmy was giving openings for Kanye to use, but he wasn't taking them. Is there something one can do, while talking to an introvert, to help get the conversation going?
@beholdandfearme6 жыл бұрын
Direct open ended questions may help.
@Balala_6 жыл бұрын
Arnold Harding this. you beat me to it ^^
@augustgreig94206 жыл бұрын
Generally, I'd say ask them how they feel, but it needs to be in a meaningful way, like relative to some topic or object, especially if it has significance or relevance to the introvert. And remember, sometimes it takes an introvert a little time to warm up to the conversation, so just keep it going an try to keep them talking. Don't dive Right in to the meaningful stuff, because they may not be ready. Ironically, you usually have to warm them up with a little small talk. Be irritating them or making them uncomfortable with a few banalities, the deeper more meaningful topic or question will become all the more enticing as a way to segue out of the mindless banter.
@renrosemary98826 жыл бұрын
This would be especially useful as I struggle getting quieter, more introverted people to open up to me. TwT
@battle-wornrobottauntproce13696 жыл бұрын
Don't give openings, just ask questions.
@aDudesNerdery4 жыл бұрын
Being an introvert is like playing life on hard mode with no bonus rewards
@A8Y9N Жыл бұрын
You introverts make it look like your life is gonna end because of some lack of social skills or some bs.
@sofaking161110 ай бұрын
Generally people CO-OP to beat PVP and PVE. Co-op is harder to get into as introvert because of social debuffs. If you have the right skills & can manage cash flow properly, C0-0P becomes a genuine handicap because you're locked by the teams maximum skill ceiling. The frustrating part is introverts are nerfed by the devs & mods constantly in a way that forces CO-0P so that the game isn't just a lazy clone of Rust.
@artophile77778 ай бұрын
@@sofaking1611 I'm a pvp God but a co-op loser.
@bayani7626 Жыл бұрын
I'm so awkward that whenever I talk in group conversations, everyone becomes speechless
@wilpri5 ай бұрын
Literal answers are a sign of honesty.
@MichaelBusse15 жыл бұрын
I don't know if my kind of "introvertness" is different - but the problem I'm experiencing with small talk - especially with strangers - is that i very quickly run out of stuff to say. I can litterally not think of anything at all to move the conversation forward. I will probe every corner of my brain for anything to say, but nothing comes up. So if the other person is not extrovert enough to just ramble on and let me chime in when something finally triggers - then the conversation is over very quickly. So in theory these tools you are describing are fine - but they don't help. The problem is overcoming that mental block that very much feel like a black hole has suddenly opened in your mind - sucking away every idea you could talk about. You are simply pulling a blank however hard you try. That is also, I think, the reason is seems we answer so ilterally. It's the only thing we can come up with. Though iv'e gotten alot better the past 10 years - I will most often think so hard of what to say that i miss alot of social clues, and entire sentences from whom ever i am talking to. I've been both insulted and flirted with and never realised it before someone else have pointed it out afterwards, because I've been too busy being frustrated with trying to come up with something to say. In the end it will be so exhausting you just wanna go home where you can relax your mind a bit and be yourself. However - with people i know, for example my family, friends and close coworkers - we can talk for hours. In most professional interactions this is seldomly a problem either, when you just talk profesionally. It's only during small talk and social interactions this is a problem. For me anyway :)
@creampuff9664 жыл бұрын
I relate to you 100%. I think SO HARD for something to say, but I just can't come up with anything. Also because of that, if someone tries to joke with me, I'll just smile, because I can't think of something funny to say back. It's frustrating! It doesn't help that my twin sister is good at conversating and making friends :( Glad to know I'm not the only one!
@Ash_Wen-li4 жыл бұрын
I think it's because you're in your head too much when you're with new people. I'm like that too but i've gotten much better at being present in the moment when i'm talking to people.
@vrsce01784 жыл бұрын
Same here.
@ataallgirl4 жыл бұрын
Great point.
@nehasalve12944 жыл бұрын
Same thing happens with me people get board with me easily
@dikhed19836 жыл бұрын
Who knew talking was so complicated?
@DeliciousBADBOY6 жыл бұрын
How do I reply to this comment?
@quantumleap40236 жыл бұрын
Talking is quite simple for intelligent people. It's just like thinking.