How to practice emotional hygiene | Guy Winch | TEDxLinnaeusUniversity

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This talk was given at a local TEDx event, produced independently of the TED Conferences. We have medicine cabinets for common physical injuries like cuts and colds but no toolkits for common psychological injuries such as failure, rejection, guilt, and loss. In his inspirational talk, Guy Winch tells us that “you can’t treat a psychological wound if you don’t know you’re injured”. Guy teaches us a lesson on why it is so important to practice emotional hygiene.
Guy Winch Ph.D. is a psychologist, speaker, and author whose books have been translated into 15 languages. His most recent book, Emotional First Aid: Practical Strategies for Treating Failure, Rejection, Guilt, and Other Everyday Psychological Injuries (Hudson Street Press, 2013) examines the surprising ways in which seven common psychological injuries (Rejection, Loneliness, Loss, Guilt, Rumination, Failure, and bouts of Low Self-Esteem) impact our behavior, emotions, cognitive functioning, and physical health, and provides science-based treatments to heal the wounds they inflict.
In both his writing and his talks, Dr. Winch aims to bridge the gap between the science of psychology and its practice in the real world. He is passionate about translating current scientific findings into practical applications people can use to better their psychological health and their relationships. Dr. Winch is a member of the American Psychological Association. He lives and practices in New York City.
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@mrBernardMyburgh
@mrBernardMyburgh 4 жыл бұрын
So remember: 1. Take action when you're lonely 2. Change your responses to failure 3. Protect your self esteem 4. Stop ruminating 5. Battle negative thinking Now actually practice this, don't just binge watch another 20 self help videos :)
@AIbetacodev17gdx666
@AIbetacodev17gdx666 4 жыл бұрын
That's me, watching hours of self development vids and putting none of it into practice
@angelastevenson252
@angelastevenson252 4 жыл бұрын
Thank you for point list. It's a good mantra! LOL
@SosutKhalily
@SosutKhalily 4 жыл бұрын
@@AIbetacodev17gdx666 This is normal for your brain to be filled enugh... practice will come afterwards naturally.
@Mysoulconnection
@Mysoulconnection 4 жыл бұрын
@@AIbetacodev17gdx666 actually you are planting seeds....a seemingly small action can blossom and lead to some unimaginable, amazing outcome later.
@chanuppuluri8726
@chanuppuluri8726 4 жыл бұрын
"Studies tell us that even a 2 minute distraction is enough to break the urge to ruminate inthat moment. So I knew what to do... Within one week my whole outlook changed and became more positive and more hopeful."
@lisamurphy6344
@lisamurphy6344 7 жыл бұрын
I just lost my job and was so depressed I couldn't get out of bed. I just laid there and sobbed for days. I found this and it hit home. I cried through the whole video. I was so grateful that he posted this. I got out of bed and got dressed. I still am sad, but I am actively looking for another job, actually got an interview too. This video made a great difference in my life, and am glad it was created and uploaded.
@MsJoValentine
@MsJoValentine 4 жыл бұрын
I hope you are doing well
@mmmm4646
@mmmm4646 4 жыл бұрын
hey lisa..how's life now? i am feel u..and it just happened to me..this video was so helpfull..
@aaronoli3729
@aaronoli3729 4 жыл бұрын
Hugs. I feel u dear. I lost my job a year ago and I was so helpless and demotivated. But life goes on. I took time to digest everything and decided one day to keep things aside and start again. I did small food catering with my remaining savings and thank god, things started to change slowly. I managed to get what I needed eventho it's not that much but it helps. I hope u will find something that can at least get u going. Don't give up 💓
@Maryambest1
@Maryambest1 4 жыл бұрын
How are you now? I hope that you are healed and found a better job
@tmi1096
@tmi1096 4 жыл бұрын
Genuine help for people who tend to do negative self-talk. This book makes you understand what factors are important for your own happiness and what you can get rid of in order to be emotionally strong. I read it over and over so that I can apply what the book teaches to my everyday life. I also got this sense that I’m communicating with the author through the author’s personal experiences. It’s definitely worth a purchase.
@jassybee
@jassybee 4 жыл бұрын
I am retired and live alone. I'm never lonely. I lost my driver's license due to failing eyesight so I can no longer flit over to a friend's house. My son is attentive and generous to me. He solved the problem of my getting to the grocery store (or anywhere) with Uber -- which he pays for! He takes me to our favorite Chinese restaurant for lunch, and once in a while to a fine restaurant for dinner. I keep in touch with friends and relatives who live in other states with emails and phone calls. It's all good! Living alone means I can eat what I want when I want. I can stay up until the wee hours watching a great old movie or reading a good book
@mamathasathola6712
@mamathasathola6712 4 жыл бұрын
More power to you
@mendgudlisdaughter1871
@mendgudlisdaughter1871 3 жыл бұрын
Yes. There is much difference in Loneliness and Living alone. I am also bound at home due to my illness, but I enjoy this staying alone, of course my family is there, but I enjoy my reading, emroidary , ect. and connect relatives and freinds virtually,etc. Of course my daughter takes utmost care about my medicines and essentials.
@mailywong9612
@mailywong9612 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for sharing your story , I learn a lot from you
@lunyxappocalypse7071
@lunyxappocalypse7071 2 ай бұрын
@@mendgudlisdaughter1871 Agreed, Solitude is its name. When one relaxes from the constant influx of the world.
@greimalkin
@greimalkin 8 жыл бұрын
this guy has a great voice and tone. I happened to listen to this talk without looking at it. this guy should do bedtime stories or something. I mean that sounds silly but it would just make me feel so much better before going to sleep. bedtime lectures about emotional health and hygiene.
@dvdcrndll
@dvdcrndll 8 жыл бұрын
I agree
@christinamb37
@christinamb37 8 жыл бұрын
Yes I just did myself! I also like to listen to meditations or just meditate on my own!
@RamSadeh
@RamSadeh 8 жыл бұрын
+greimalkin Haha..It bored you n you listened to it.. ??!!! What does it say about YOU ..?
@moniquevamado
@moniquevamado 7 жыл бұрын
I just had a similar thought and posted a comment before seeing yours.
@Grazikon
@Grazikon 7 жыл бұрын
Yeah, it reminds of when Ringo Starr narrated the Thomas the Tank Engine stories.
@johnmorrison3294
@johnmorrison3294 9 жыл бұрын
This is the best 17 minutes I've spent in a long, long time. Thank you, Dr. Winch, for greatly improving my day. Four stars. Must see.
@richi12345678910
@richi12345678910 6 жыл бұрын
You still won't give it 5 stars? Your level of perfectionism is unhealthy.
@Mudskipper_is_me
@Mudskipper_is_me 6 жыл бұрын
Maybe his scale is 1-4.
@athrvakhrbde
@athrvakhrbde 3 жыл бұрын
@@Mudskipper_is_me the best comment in came across today 😂🤣
@Shybairnsgetnowt1
@Shybairnsgetnowt1 3 жыл бұрын
I’ve just watched it (6 years after you!) and I agree, it’s been 17 minutes very well spent. I’d be interested to know if you have benefited from the video since you watched it.
@pekastlapekastla9702
@pekastlapekastla9702 2 жыл бұрын
@@Shybairnsgetnowt1 and you?
@ahikernamedgq
@ahikernamedgq 8 жыл бұрын
I cannot express with a "like" how wonderful and insightful this talk is. Thanks Guy!!
@Bodyknowledge77
@Bodyknowledge77 8 жыл бұрын
+Jesse Taylor I A terrific communicator. Pacing his sentences well and using humor additionally.
@ahikernamedgq
@ahikernamedgq 8 жыл бұрын
Thanks Bodyknowledge 77!
@tom8008135
@tom8008135 4 жыл бұрын
What a Guy
@shivamahir2218
@shivamahir2218 4 жыл бұрын
Our minds and feelings are not trustworthy friends. They are more like moody friends, who can be totally supportive one minute and extremely unpleasant the other moment.
@meekainc
@meekainc 5 жыл бұрын
“LONELIENESS: Creates a deep physiological wound, one which distorts our perceptions and scrambles our thinking. It makes us believe that those around us care much less than they actually do. It makes us really afraid to reach out; why set yourself up for rejection and heartache, when your heart is already aching more than you can stand” …. “LONELIENESS is defined purely subjectively; it depends solely at whether you feel emotionally or socially disconnected from those around you.” WOW, WOW, WOW!!!! THIS has been the missing link is my journey!!!!! Knowledge is VERY powerful!
@15minoflame
@15minoflame 4 жыл бұрын
This is what ted talks want to be like when they grow up
@jamiesunger
@jamiesunger 8 жыл бұрын
I am a self-help/metaphysics junkie, and I never heard it put quite this way. Really insightful and eye-opening. Thank you so much.
@LeslieMarcoccio
@LeslieMarcoccio 8 жыл бұрын
+Jamie Sung I agree!
@dejanmarkovic3040
@dejanmarkovic3040 8 жыл бұрын
+Jamie Sung Self-help/metaphysics junkie ahhahahaa.....nice:)
@ryansteinart3365
@ryansteinart3365 8 жыл бұрын
+Jamie Sung me too i love ted talks. this one was particularly great
@mylamai99
@mylamai99 8 жыл бұрын
+Jamie Sung It's cheaper than therapy!... probably more effective too
@dejanmarkovic3040
@dejanmarkovic3040 8 жыл бұрын
It's not more effective....I've watched about 200 ted talks this year, and it hasn't helped as much as therapy has. Rebt is fuckin awesome!:)
@Jonpena94
@Jonpena94 7 жыл бұрын
I have seen so many of the Talks and this is by far one of the best ones I have listen too. Thank you for this I really appreciate it.
@eternalvoid1257
@eternalvoid1257 7 жыл бұрын
Agreed.
@ingwiafraujaz3126
@ingwiafraujaz3126 4 жыл бұрын
Oh man, thanks for saving me the urge to listen to more Ted Talks. I found this to be extremely elementary and obvious.
@Cleanmore
@Cleanmore 9 жыл бұрын
This one will go on my list of favorite TEDx talks
@GuyWinch
@GuyWinch 9 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much!
@PlaneToTheBrainES
@PlaneToTheBrainES 6 жыл бұрын
What is actually really sad is when people around you try to convince you that you've failed when you're convinced that you've not.
@jackier.3246
@jackier.3246 4 жыл бұрын
that's what I'm living now.. people around me are so toxic.. my own family but I know I didn't failed I still have a long life to live
@amanpadamsey1705
@amanpadamsey1705 4 жыл бұрын
@@jackier.3246 All of us sailing in similar boats man. Hold on :)
@grittykitty50
@grittykitty50 4 жыл бұрын
plane to the brain es, yes that is a good point. ever see a toddler fall and when he thinks no one is watching, gets up immediately and walks away? but let mom over react and the toddler sits there and begins to cry. other people's interpretation of our situation and our response can be VERY powerful and insidious. personally, i learned to keep certain events to myself so that I could decide how to interpret them and respond accordingly.
@MM-dv9hp
@MM-dv9hp 4 жыл бұрын
Plane To The Brain ES or when those people try to convince you that something is wrong with failure.
@laurenkeyes1677
@laurenkeyes1677 4 жыл бұрын
💆🏾‍♀️💎❤️✨By far the statement of the millennium ✨❤️💎💆🏾‍♀️
@alexdeleon7829
@alexdeleon7829 4 жыл бұрын
Who else judged this video by its title and then ended up really appreciating it afterwards?
@olgakim4848
@olgakim4848 4 жыл бұрын
"Emotional mastery is your greatest achievement." - Dr. Joe Dispenza
@prabashgordon9091
@prabashgordon9091 4 жыл бұрын
YES!! ABSOLUTELY TRUE.
@randydavis4573
@randydavis4573 9 жыл бұрын
Thanks Guy this has changed and improved my life. I needed than more than I ever knew. I want to share it with Everyone. Thanks REAL Doctor!
@GuyWinch
@GuyWinch 9 жыл бұрын
Thanks, Randy--I'm very grateful for your support!
@aktiwari1096
@aktiwari1096 4 жыл бұрын
Emotional hygiene, and mental alertness should be included in basic education, one community and seven,billion people United. Thanks Doctor.
@karendalsadik7119
@karendalsadik7119 2 жыл бұрын
I agree!!!
@carpenterfamily6198
@carpenterfamily6198 4 жыл бұрын
I forwarded this to my family as a Christmas present. I’ll rewatch it myself.
@mofbro
@mofbro 4 жыл бұрын
Among the best TEDx Talks I've encountered. Simple, elegant, poignant.
@RoyEldorado
@RoyEldorado 6 жыл бұрын
You are a real doctor! One of the best Ted talks I've ever watched. Thanks for the knowledge.
@Aragorn...
@Aragorn... 8 жыл бұрын
A simple LIKE is just NOT enough. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for delivering a wonderful speech!
@jennismeltzer3085
@jennismeltzer3085 7 жыл бұрын
This lack of attention to our psychological well being has to be the reason so many people suffer from mental illness and addiction. I have PTSD, clinical depression and anxiety. I am a recovering addict as well. I have a masters in mental health counseling (definitely not a doctor, lol). I have been a victim of many types of abuse in the past and I did some EMDR for my PTSD (Eye Movement Desensitization Reprocessing) it helped drastically with my PTSD, but I would t say I'm "back to normal". I still can't be woken up in certain ways without going into "fight or flight". My emotional struggles have never been fewer like as physical problem would be, however they have kept me from normally functioning for a deep depressive and addiction episode for about 3 years. I had lost hope. The lies in my mind had taken over. Now I am rebuilding my life. Actively involved in AA and NA and I will get licensed to start my career as a therapist when I have enough sober time and I am emotionally healthy enough. It's okay though, because I am on the way back up!! The battle of my mind has been the most difficult struggle of my life. Thanks for the video!!! 😊
@worthlesscrusaderuntilliha6943
@worthlesscrusaderuntilliha6943 6 жыл бұрын
Jenni Smeltzer it. Certainly can jenni I've been battling for about 16 months now after an accident , and every day is a struggle, a struggle with destiny, you do need to find time to take stock of the things you can control.and almost centre your beliefs around that, all things have to have a core purpose
@adotheginger
@adotheginger 5 жыл бұрын
Hey, I know it's been 2 years, but I really hope you went through with it and that you're in an even better shape ❤️
@lalacrypto1
@lalacrypto1 4 жыл бұрын
Check out theophostic healing. It changes lives. :)
@tommygamache7352
@tommygamache7352 3 жыл бұрын
Good Job!
@gaylelau001
@gaylelau001 4 жыл бұрын
What a brilliant talk ! Now, unless someone tells you about such ideas, you will never figure this out ! Why is this not part of a basic education, begining in pre-school, or kindergarten?
@didthatreallyjust
@didthatreallyjust 8 жыл бұрын
There isn't a Band-Aid to fix small failures or even big ones, and the psychological effect that come with them. Its quite expensive to treat ur psychological hygiene (which shouldn't be the case) because everyone needs help. If u have emotional health issues u are already stained in America. They should teach emotional health in schools and everywhere honestly. I loved this speech 😍
@nawangjinpa9471
@nawangjinpa9471 7 жыл бұрын
Should start at home from year 1 onward. Parents need to teach this to their kids. And the best and possibly unique way is by modelling it. So to start with, parents need to know why and how to do it, and become good at practicing it.
@seangrahamsforeignbodiesor6370
@seangrahamsforeignbodiesor6370 8 жыл бұрын
I've listened to an enormous number of TED Talk presentations and this has been the most affective and outstanding one. The content, the stories, the clarity, the purpose were all sharp as a blade. His humour in his stories and how he delivered his humour... I would pay for it. Guy Winch, if you read this I want you to know. YOU ARE EV'ER'RI'THIN'K!! 😊
@dawnf.2182
@dawnf.2182 2 жыл бұрын
Perfect balance on all fronts, plus a love that only few possess naturally.
@Brouwera
@Brouwera 9 жыл бұрын
This is a nice TED talk, but I feel it should be named "Why to practice emotional hygiene" and then maybe make another video with usefull tips!
@rango3526
@rango3526 9 жыл бұрын
Brouwera ikr
@poleag
@poleag 8 жыл бұрын
+Brouwera Just "force yourself to think about something else" bro.
@shalow2
@shalow2 8 жыл бұрын
+poleag That sadly is not enough by far. It's like the age old, don't think of a pink elephant, really concentrate hard on not thinking about a pink elephant, What are you thinking about? A pink elephant. Science has proven that the same is true with avoiding negative thoughts. When you really concentrate on not thinking about negative stuff, you'll end up focusing on negative stuff. What the solution then is, I'm not so sure yet, but I'm hoping that "59 seconds: Think a little Change a lot" will give me the answers, cause emotionally, at this point I look like I've been trekking through pitch, 10 feet deep.
@ryansteinart3365
@ryansteinart3365 8 жыл бұрын
+Brouwera yeah that would be helpful
@leebass7
@leebass7 7 жыл бұрын
The guy in the video didn't say 'force yourself to think positively', or 'concentrate on not thinking negative thoughts', he said to distract yourself for two minutes. When you notice those negative thoughts read a book or a newspaper, pick up an instrument, draw a picture, do anything that requires you to focus on only that thing for at least two minutes.
@ananimity7332
@ananimity7332 7 жыл бұрын
An amazing speaker! Great topic! I need to watch this more than once
@brahaman2000
@brahaman2000 7 жыл бұрын
same! came back to it after a while and it's like rediscovering some of the ideas. I need to Actively practice and learn more about this
@RedBloopCreature
@RedBloopCreature 8 жыл бұрын
I have some real emotional hygiene to take care of Guy Winch. This video made me realize that. And so many others need the same. Thank you so much. Awesome.
@MichelleLopezish
@MichelleLopezish 9 жыл бұрын
Guy, this was a great talk. The key takeaway I got was "A different kind of favoritism - how much more we value the body than we do the mind." That is true, I have seen physically fit, almost physically perfect athletes walk around with emotional infections, gaping holes in their souls almost... probably due to this lack of emotional hygiene you discuss. I myself have favored the physical, almost completely neglecting the emotional. Your work will shed awareness on this important topic. Who cares about anti-aging and extending the length of our lives, if we're miserable?!?!
@aufwiedersehen483
@aufwiedersehen483 4 жыл бұрын
Wow! I really needed to hear this. I suffer with really terrible emotional hygiene due to my childhood. Im a chronic ruminator. I'm so glad I trusted my instinct and click on your video and listen to what you had to say. May this day be the first step into practicing healthy emotional hygiene. Thank you so much!
@scifiholly
@scifiholly 9 жыл бұрын
Very enlightening and encouraging. As a mother, I witness children being told "what not to do", instead of "what to do" when it comes to emotions and social interaction simply because we adults may not understand what to do ourselves. This presentation has convinced me to invest in teaching myself and my family about emotional hygiene. I like the practical facts on how to make changes for the better.
@fightbackmatix
@fightbackmatix 9 жыл бұрын
Guy Winch So damn true!! Your talk was inspirational and eve opening! I used to do this all the time! I was very depressed. But when I wanted to ruminate, I would immediately start playing games or play some music or watch a movie! It helped me a lot. Battling negative thoughts is an important aspect of human lives. It not only controls your bad thoughts, it can improve your outlook as well. I always used to tell my friends that psychological health is more important than physical health! Now I've found someone who reinforces my idea!
@GuyWinch
@GuyWinch 9 жыл бұрын
Thanks so much!
@beatrixtarantino
@beatrixtarantino 8 жыл бұрын
+Guy Winch Thank you for your speach...
@emanhassan9592
@emanhassan9592 8 жыл бұрын
+Guy Winch can u help me? how can I get in touch with you?
@johnmatthewfonacier2161
@johnmatthewfonacier2161 8 жыл бұрын
+Guy Winch Thank you! This means a lot to me
@peacebe2u480
@peacebe2u480 4 жыл бұрын
EQ is as important as IQ and even more so.
@moniquevamado
@moniquevamado 7 жыл бұрын
This is SO good. This man's speaking voice is incredible. He would be great to listen to reading audio books--soothing, yet engaging. The information and points he makes are so important. Will be sharing this widely.
@sherquekster
@sherquekster 9 жыл бұрын
You've pinned down the root of emotional and psychological issues in this short talk and I thank you.
@dukethotness
@dukethotness 6 жыл бұрын
This is the best Ted talk I've ever seen and I've seen a LOT of them. No fillers, just to the point and engaging lecture.
@TumbleDoctor
@TumbleDoctor 3 жыл бұрын
Best Ted Talk I have ever seen! Thank you, DOCTOR Winch!
@CM-yo9jk
@CM-yo9jk 8 жыл бұрын
Please, please, please teach this in (Western?) schools.
@hg2.
@hg2. 8 жыл бұрын
Are you a teacher?
@CM-yo9jk
@CM-yo9jk 8 жыл бұрын
A parent of boys....so, yes.
@hg2.
@hg2. 7 жыл бұрын
May I ask why you are making this plea?
@madambutterfly7641
@madambutterfly7641 7 жыл бұрын
I definitely agree
@Kiwinnit
@Kiwinnit 7 жыл бұрын
I'm 16 and agree, this is so crucial to development yet people grow up understanding none of it, instead how to use differentiation to work out the cross section of a tunnel and whether a truck can fit through it. Lovely stuff.
@bgtsy
@bgtsy 6 жыл бұрын
WOW! I want more. Okay, forget the fact he's eloquent and good looking and sparse of words therefore each and every word packs a punch, it's basic, even scriptural, and so true. Thank you Mr. Winch! I'm sharing on my FB and subscribing.
@ToreSG705
@ToreSG705 9 жыл бұрын
Such a powerful talk. Loving it!
@victoriagadd6831
@victoriagadd6831 4 жыл бұрын
He’s great - could listen all day.
@DCamp1271
@DCamp1271 6 жыл бұрын
Going in my favorites. So grateful I found this speaker and this talk. So down to earth and compassionate.
@MissCatherine1100
@MissCatherine1100 7 жыл бұрын
I remember a time way back in high school when my drama teacher had the class write critiques of each student's performance in some kind of soliloquy with blocking we had to do. I performed poorly and I knew it. I wasn't at all prepared, I may even have smoked pot before class, to boot. At the end of my terrible performance I was handed a stack of notes. I opened one - it was scathing. I decided to throw the rest in the trash and save myself the emotional pain. I was only 15. I have no idea where that kind of emotional strength came from.
@DanMikaVideo
@DanMikaVideo 6 жыл бұрын
I've watched plenty of TedX talks, this is up there as one of the best, probably THE best on mental well being.
@tdesq.2463
@tdesq.2463 4 жыл бұрын
Gold Medal! Of all the TedTalks if enjoyed (and I've enjoyed many), this is The Best! Critical topic, given the attention and treatment that it requires ... Finally!
@MariaNI-yf1bz
@MariaNI-yf1bz 4 жыл бұрын
Dear Guy. Your voice is so healing. Thank you
@anitadavidson1249
@anitadavidson1249 6 жыл бұрын
Thank you. I struggle daily with emotional issues that have dogged me for what feels my entire life. I found myself focus in on the sound of your calm voice and felt your words reach inside my muddled head and in some small way, something has shifted. I hope this is the beginning of something life changing. I will keep hold of these new feelings and see where they take me.
@anabonn3044
@anabonn3044 7 жыл бұрын
Best TedTalk EVER. Great narrative, timing, and content.
@JanetMurphyg
@JanetMurphyg 7 жыл бұрын
Guy Winch is amazing. I am so grateful I came across this talk. I immediately bought his book and I constantly go back to it. When I feel like I need comfort, I pull up one of Guy's talks. I always recommend his work to people and they always love him! He's a great speaker with a great message.
@victoriamihai2239
@victoriamihai2239 4 жыл бұрын
Very interesting. So true. I am so happy with myself because I have already been practicing what you say. I am 100 per cent happy on my own. My interests are to dress nice most times and keep planning more holidays. So therapeutic. The loneliest I have ever felt was when I was in a relationship. Thank you.
@ElsaJuliaG
@ElsaJuliaG 9 жыл бұрын
The policeman story had me giggling for a while :D
@GuyWinch
@GuyWinch 9 жыл бұрын
Glad you liked it!
@matilda2
@matilda2 6 жыл бұрын
Guy Winch please make more videos on KZfaq you are a very talented doctor and speaker would love to learn more from you.
@aracuff
@aracuff 5 жыл бұрын
This video helped me. I'm passing through all this, a few minutes ago I was so frustrated without the desire to live anymore and I saw this video in the recommendations. Just what I needed, thank you
@woodae99
@woodae99 9 жыл бұрын
So very well said! Emotional hygiene - great name too. This is an all too common feature of my coaching practice. It is scary how often you see people, in my work, especially leaders and managers, caught up in what looks like performance or behavioural issues with themselves or others and trying to "fix" them, when they feel so isolated, lonely and separated from everyone else, sometimes in the most intense emotional pain. It's no wonder performance suffers, they're stressed and can't seem to break the cycle. People are amazing, I am so privileged to be able to work with them! Again - a brilliant presentation!! Thank you,
@janed7774
@janed7774 8 жыл бұрын
Ted Talks are the most inspiring , uplifting , and encouraging messages from awesome speakers thinkers and survivers THANKYOU
@lyrkel
@lyrkel 4 жыл бұрын
A great TED and I learned so much in such a little time. And I am very happy his brother is OK and could recover from this illness. Thank you for sharing this wise words.
@SpookyLizzy
@SpookyLizzy 5 жыл бұрын
Dr. Winch, congratulations on your brother's health. I almost lost a brother I am very close, too and his survival was the best gift I have received in life so far.
@trinidevenport7615
@trinidevenport7615 5 жыл бұрын
Thank you. I love everything about this speech. It’s profound and authentic. I’m so happy your brother overcome his illness. Much love and blessings to you both.❤️
@krystlealleyne4666
@krystlealleyne4666 9 жыл бұрын
This is just what I needed! I listened to this about 4-5 times tonight after having a rough evening. Thank you!
@JessicaNaranjo4094
@JessicaNaranjo4094 8 жыл бұрын
Absolutely life changing. I really needed to hear this!!
@sis8980
@sis8980 8 жыл бұрын
One of the best talks I've heard in a long time. Thanks!
@stephdee2711
@stephdee2711 7 жыл бұрын
I am so thankful for this talk! I feel that I learned a lot of this on my own and from mentors, but it is not talked about enough! Failure and lowered self-esteem kills success. It's so disappointing to see so many people give up on their dreams because of their fear of failure. Thanks for the 2 minute distraction tip. Guy- you are a captivating public speaker.
@susanstraley5568
@susanstraley5568 4 жыл бұрын
Woke up this morning feeling down. This is exactly what I needed was a reminder to mind my thoughts.
@Marolinism
@Marolinism 6 жыл бұрын
Wow that was such an amazing story! I’m so happy to see the picture of them both side by side. 💕This was very informative and the way he described what loneliness does was an interesting perspective and relatable. I feel like this going to truly help many people!!
@zanthur5337
@zanthur5337 6 жыл бұрын
Probably the most practical , powerful and positive ted talks I have ever heard. Excellent job! I loved it!
@philwarren6434
@philwarren6434 8 жыл бұрын
Goin through a difficult time, this speech was delivered with feeling and i loved it...
@cpsenxes
@cpsenxes 9 жыл бұрын
Thank you TED and Dr Guy Winch. I believe beside being a great psychologist, you could also become a great narrator.
@francinegray9383
@francinegray9383 4 жыл бұрын
Listening for second time in 2019. Thank you, Guy Winch for reminding me of a time I knew this well, but then forgot.
@Otterbandana
@Otterbandana 7 жыл бұрын
This is one of the most helpful, interesting and valuable talks I have seen. Thank you for real examples, stories, and clear, straight forward techniques to use. How refreshing to listen to someone who is wanting and willing to actually help people. I am accustomed to watching people "look good & sound good" without usable techniques. To top it off, the love you have for your brother is so palpable, and that connected me to you and what you had to say. I lost my sister 3 years in a scuba diving accident. She was a truth teller and very important and dear to me. The world and life looks different to me since then. I have always been a seeker of love and happiness. Now I have to work harder at it. I am lucky, because when I get quiet and ask, she is right here. And she is even wiser now -- and available when I need her. I listened to your speech at a good time as my missing her and loneliness was getting my energy. What a beautiful reminder to move away from rumination and shift focus. I recognize that we need to keep a daily practice to make a habit of choosing positive thoughts about ourselves and the world around us. I am grateful. Thank you.
@Catmom2004
@Catmom2004 9 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much to Dr. Winch for this powerful talk. I have been out of work for some time and am struggling with getting back up to look for work again after each rejection. I am sharing it with several struggling friends and maybe we can all help each other. THANK YOU again!
@GuyWinch
@GuyWinch 9 жыл бұрын
Thanks so much for your generous feedback and support--and for sharing with others--as I do hope people can benefit from the talk. Best wishes!
@huongmai807
@huongmai807 8 жыл бұрын
I've been watching Ted talks for years but this is truly the most powerful talk so far. It just pointed out my problem, I was always reluctant to reach out due to the apprehension of rejection, constantly unstable propensity to trust to people around. I must change these. thank you so much for you talk!
@qursan67
@qursan67 9 жыл бұрын
beyond excellent. Thank you, Dr. Winch; a REAL Doctor!
@Allyoop-mu4gg
@Allyoop-mu4gg 4 жыл бұрын
One of the best TED TALK thus far I have watched.
@oopsindian
@oopsindian 9 жыл бұрын
Sir, this might have just changed my life
@victactoria
@victactoria 8 жыл бұрын
This helped me a lot today. It was a rough one and I'm so glad I watched this. Thank you for the insight.
@cicciuzzu5032
@cicciuzzu5032 7 жыл бұрын
One the very best TED talks I've listened to. I recognized and identified myself in every single point and it gave the determination to clean my mental clutter and focus greatly on my mental hygiene! Thanks very much mister Winch!
@wingingninja
@wingingninja 6 жыл бұрын
How fortunate that these twins felt such union. How blessed are they and what a wonderful example.
@zainabmohd5307
@zainabmohd5307 4 жыл бұрын
Wise words!!! Thank you for patiently explaining the significance of emotional hygiene.
@kathrynschumann5254
@kathrynschumann5254 4 жыл бұрын
This was fabulous. Great content from a very engaging speaker. I will definitely be reading his books!
@thelastprawn2270
@thelastprawn2270 8 жыл бұрын
if we all imagined the things we say to ourselves as someone else saying that to a loved one/good friend, we would be apalled. loved this talk!
@mariedanielle293
@mariedanielle293 6 жыл бұрын
So so very happy to hear your Brother is well! Thank you for the great video and God Bless!♡
@mindvolution
@mindvolution 6 жыл бұрын
"It's time to close the gap between our physical and psychological health" So true. Modern culture definitely needs to close this gap.
@ariesphenix1
@ariesphenix1 4 жыл бұрын
This message is so beautiful. Thank you so much! I totally agree 🥰
@Joeyvasquez205
@Joeyvasquez205 8 жыл бұрын
This was an eye opener, I have been dealing with these problems for a long time. Tonight I was looking for help, was feeling desperate to stop this pain, and now I feel I can use these mental tools to heal myself. Thank you so much, Blessings from New Orleans!
@DoodleBugLisa
@DoodleBugLisa 4 жыл бұрын
As a member of an anonymous program, having worked the 12 steps and following the suggestions of the program...it’s almost the exact same thing Guy is talking about. I mean you can get the same positive results. We call it isolation instead of loneliness. We say internal unmanageability for believing untrue things about ourselves. It’s too much to explain here, but if you need extra help with the suggestions Guy has offered. I promise a 12 step program, worked to the best of you ability will fix you!
@stephaniedrown203
@stephaniedrown203 7 жыл бұрын
one of the best talks i've listened to. Great speech, great man ! thank you very much :-)
@linzokabcf
@linzokabcf 4 жыл бұрын
I like listening to TED Talks while reading the comments because I can learn so much more with your thoughts too as much as listening to the video itself
@SahanTheMighty
@SahanTheMighty 7 жыл бұрын
That was truly WONDERFUL. Got teary, too! Work in progress here and thank you for the amazing tips and insights. Love and light.
@rachitananda
@rachitananda 6 жыл бұрын
One of the BEST Ted talks I have heard . Thank you
@halfbakedstuff
@halfbakedstuff 9 жыл бұрын
Important points that he brought up:: * Emotional awareness. * Loneliness won't just make you miserable, it will kill you. Chronic loneliness increases likelihood of early death by 14%. * Loneliness = subjective, how well you feel emotionally or socially connected from those around you. * Loneliness distorts your perception. Failure as well. * Break bad psychological habits. Interrupt negative pattern, e.g. circular thinking, obsession, rumination.... Take action. Shift your behavior. Do something. * You can't believe you can't succeed. You must fight the feeling of helplessness.
@shailajahittalmani8591
@shailajahittalmani8591 4 жыл бұрын
This should be a weekly class from standard 5th in Indian schools till 12th.
@hn308
@hn308 7 жыл бұрын
Contents are perfect. Thank you. Best one I have ever watched!
@cleanerclimate278
@cleanerclimate278 4 жыл бұрын
Brilliant talk! So incredibly well put together and communicated. Thank-you Dr. Guy!!
@corn4life136
@corn4life136 4 жыл бұрын
Thank you. This is so empowering to me and I am forever grateful for you doing this speech and teaching video. Great presentation of your heart, wisdom and knowledge and life story.
@TurntBucket
@TurntBucket 9 жыл бұрын
This was great! a lot of times you do just beat up yourself and i think this talk is mostly addressing those cases. for me however, i went through a period of depression but i think it was good my mind responded that way. i was spoiled, self centered, and lazy. i think that depression helped to make a major change in the way i am. i knew what i wanted to be but i didnt have the motivation, until i felt miserable and i had to climb out of that. (obviously there are bigger problems out there). I think being overly negative over nothing is bad but a lot of our emotional responses are good and our actions are what need to change. (like sometimes i would emotionally beat myself up but i deserved it because for me to be happy with myself i needed to change for the better)
@jelenadelibasic8390
@jelenadelibasic8390 8 жыл бұрын
I really need to thank you for this. I think you made your point so simply and understandably that listening to you madr me such a job. Changing our response to failure takes practice and time, but it's possible and depends on how much you love yourself.
@averygreene781
@averygreene781 4 жыл бұрын
This is soo wonderful to hear. Your delivery is very kind. This is what I needed to hear. Thank you!! I’d like to hear more from you. I’ll be looking for more content online and in a book/audio book format.
@benitannachortam152
@benitannachortam152 4 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for this presentation.
@manuelaloaeza3949
@manuelaloaeza3949 8 жыл бұрын
we were thought to think about ourselves the way we do. If what you were taught, does not serve you anymore: 1. find teachers that will reflect what you secretly know about yourself 2. let go of your old teachers even if they guilt trip you or you guilt trip yourself (we are not indispensable) 3. allow yourself to grief the loss (as long as you need not matter what) 4. forgive yourself for having been the perpetrator of your relationships, your thoughts and your believes 5. write, and I mean write literally, yourself in to who you wish to be and take daily micro action in that direction. 6 and of course, with fellowship, prayer and meditation. It's the practice of shifting consciousness. Circumstances don't matter, our perception of ourselves does.
@birdyberth
@birdyberth 5 жыл бұрын
And how do we know if what we were taught doesn't serve us anymore, if our sense of self depends only on our perceptions? Isn't it magical thinking? It's like as if the perception of ourselves can only change after the consciousness shift. Cause and effect are hard to replace in this context, though. Like you can change because you have already changed inside, you were just not still conscious of that.
@TheGirlwiththeMujiHat
@TheGirlwiththeMujiHat 8 жыл бұрын
I couldn't thank you enough sir but still I want to express my gratitude! Many thanks for this truly wonderful talk!
@yoojhinnee
@yoojhinnee 8 жыл бұрын
i really like his sensor of humor along with his brilliance!
@Khamomil
@Khamomil 8 жыл бұрын
Brush your teeth and clean up your emotional mess before lights out.
@cdd4248
@cdd4248 4 жыл бұрын
Hahaha. ...I can visualize that on a T-Shirt. Perfect!
@teacherfromthejungles6671
@teacherfromthejungles6671 4 жыл бұрын
I hope you don't mind if I copy it to my fb post.
@lauraleuci5223
@lauraleuci5223 3 жыл бұрын
You should print them on something or I'll do 🤣
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