Did u ever think that ....she is just as nervous as you ? Thought for the day ...

I learned that you open my eyes better than RSD.

The best advice I read on this is to remember that attractive girls (or any girl you are attracted to by her looks) look at themselves in the mirror every day. As such they don't see their pretty face like everyone else does, if anything they only see the features they hate. Attractive women think they're 1/10th as attractive as they really are. When I realised this I turned it into a 'technique' and started to try and see them as they do. Sounds weird but it helped me stop being so wooden when confronted by a hot female. It also means you don't have to start 'fronting' something women see straight through you can just be yourself.

I usually get awkward when the girl shows interest then i try to think what i should say and my neediness start to come out then is usually screw up.

Beautifully said and done. Thank you! I now got to see the emotions that laid underneath my awkwardness in speaking to women and to strangers. I've improved a lot but still have a lot to deal with. Congruence is owning who we really are and not being scared of showing it to the world. Thank you again.

I have been asking the time to girls for about 2 weeks now, some told me the time, some said they couldnt give me the time, today i had the first girl that said no in a agressive tone which stinged a little but i will live, what i want to say is to anyone reading this to not give up working on yourself when you get a negative response.

not sure if you will read this or not. BUT THANK YOU! Out of all the yt videos I've seen about dating/girls this one is sure up at the altar. The last few minutes were just so great and insightful! thank you so much!

Hi Brian, Your information is really valuable. Thank you for coming out and sharing it with other men. Really appreciate it.

the illusion of separation. there is no separation in the forces the universe wouldnt be otherwise. it is a fantasybubble of what we have been taught, picked up from others, be yourself and learn from that. thank you man, opened my mind.

Thank you Brian for you knowledge I'm 52 Alfa male and growing my confidence and contious mental control helps imensly in any situation I can sit in the tension and remain my self ..it's all about swag and owning it ..and thanks so mutch for your videos .it's so true the things you mention ..having good happy mental control at all times is key ..and showing love and true self is very powerful ..

I really like this video and I find your delivery very convincing. I've recently begun to desensitise myself and I've approached a couple of very hot women in my hometown of Bournemouth UK; one of them I just went straight up to her in a coffee shop and said something along the lines of "You're gorgeous, well done!" and shook her hand with a cheeky smile on my face. Literally 20 seconds later, I walked away with her phone number and we went on a date soon after, nothing came of it but it was an amazing experience to have the confidence to do it anyway. Keep up the good work dude!

OK. I have a suggestion since you ask at the end of the videos. I am a visual learner. The concepts seem invisible to me. Like be congruent and open up. It makes a very small amount of sense to me. But you had a video where you said you opened up to a girl about being proud of your little sister and she just grabbed you and kissed you. That example showed me the power of what you are saying and I was able to SEE what you mean. More examples of how women have reacted to you or a buddy of yours doing these things really help me get a clear picture of what you mean and understand WHY this stuff works. So my request is more examples of how these things have effected women.

Continue.. bro its so helpful

You sound like a complete badass in the most informational way. In other words, I just discovered your content and love it! Keep it up man!

Good mood, comfortable, other people are around me. As for the opposite--it's the same. I can read myself and back off or go forward. Not my thoughts, my mood....it's so true....that's what can be read easily. Thanks For posting Brian.

I'ts been almost 2 years since i was this calm. Thank you.

Brian really appreciate your videos. the simulated scenarios w models is very impactful. easier for me to assimilate real life situations..Thank you

thanks my brother...ive never ever understood why I'd get the women but by my awkwardness they seemed to say i thought you were this way' i guess my looks are different than how i acted around women. everything that I've listened to so far is true an i have been lost ever since i was young. thanks man

This is great advice for nervousness on a whole. Thanks man!

Keep up the great work!

I got over being awkward talking to attractive women in one simple step that any man can try...I simply stopped talking to attractive women and my problem disapeared overnight. I haven't spoken to an attractive woman in years...it really works guys.

Zan Perrion gave you his vibe , his communication. I read his book now....Amazing

This should really help to start a conversation with a girl by being yourself...I will comment here again if I make it happen... Thanks

This was like medicine...thx.

Thank you so much for your videos

Wow very insightful video Brian

This is powerful

Thank you bro.

Thanks for doing what your doing.. just discovered you 2 days ago and your videos have helped me better understand my issues with anxiety.. around people i dont know...

Great advice man!

perfect advise im subscribing and watching all your videos

glad I found this

The most important thing he's just mentioning casually here is that "you're indifferent to the outcome". It's the same thing with performing music on a stage: I have always been most relaxed when playing music I wasn't really invested in, because I could have cared less what the result would be. If you're the composer, in contrast, and care about your stuff sounding good... you will inevitably tense up when performing it 😊.

Thanks for the idea. I'll give it a try while out of town on girls I'll probably never see again

thank you

this is brilliant !! awesome advice

great tips

Thanks Brian. This helpful.

The best advice !

Why can't women come over and talk to men and feel awkward? Oh right...they feel like they are more valuable for no reason. They play pointless mindgames. You are direct and honest towards them, only for them to lie to you or play you like a fool. Girls, if you are attracted to a guy, don't lie to him. Don't play mind games. We don't want it.

2 days ago I went on a date with this girl, while we were walking to the coffee shop, we ran out of things to say, as it was becoming awkward, and she shut herself, I said to her with a big smile, “ now it’s awkward, we ran out of things to say”, soon as she realized I was owning the moment, she opened herself up to me, and started sharing more about herself, rest of the date went smooth and we had a lot fun.

“nooo it’s trevoooor” 😂

this realy helps . But there is a lot of work!!!

What about girls I've been going to school with for 3 years and think is weird /depresssed/ugly/etc. and I wanna say hi

Nice words between 9:05 - 9:15 !

I think more of us men should see this

ya, what is the logic behind why confidence is a masculine trait? and why I shouldn't hate or resent having to be confident?

I had a woman who i thought was interested in me(same workplace). She did many things to make me interested in her but i waited and waited before i asked her out. But then she said that she was married(i know that) and said that if she was not, she would be interested. I was supprised and i walked away. Felt supprised! Next day she was looking sad at me, but i did not talk to her. Could i have missunderstod her or?

I'm a type of man who has felt what's it like to be centered and have everything I wanted, but I stop practicing excellence and now I don't feel strength sometimes around people, but others times I feel the most strength, what is this?

what i find is that with pretty much everybody, i'm socially competent, but when i see a woman i'm attracted to, i just get nervous and it's really frustrating

buddy u are best

I fucking love you. You saved my life and got me a relationship.

Are the videos where you actually show how to do it? Good talk, thanks :)

Hello Brian: When I want to approach a girl I get stuck I feel very nervous a lot of people in my age have girlfriend or wife but is difficult for me.

This a good releasing idea too💁🙈

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Hey thanks for the video. I don't seem to have so much trouble approaching women and being awkward. As I get to know them and get closer to them, my insecurities rise up and I get scared and awkward, and I don't know what to do about it. I'm scared to get close to people. How does your advice apply to me?

Captain Caveman knows!

Hi i have aspergers and i have a terrable dilema, i have one of 2 very unplesent choices with women 1, be socially constrained be really aquad super tight watch everything i say and try to memorize eye contact keeping my feet wide apart etc OR 2 i can relax say lots of very daft things (i found myself reciting pi to 15 digits to impress aomwn who said she did math) and put the woman off with my wierdness, and when i say wierd i mean wierd, i cannot control it without maximum effort to sort of mimick a robot talking, its a terrable dilema because im increasingly finding it impossible to be confident and relaxed with women because when i do my aspergers starts to show and they go, it seems i cant cover up my aspergers. Just a side note i canyt tell women i have aspergers because it puts them off and they run a mile, sadly i found this out the hard way. am i completly fucked beyond repair, sadly im 37 now so ill never know what its like to grow up with a girl and to be loved, there is one advantage i have, i have very very good looks, i have done modelling in the past, is there any hope with using my looks insead to get a woman ? Also i do ask a fair amount of women out despite these problems, i ask between 1 and 3 women out a week and have been doing for a long time, sadly they have all said no all the time and im 37 and ive never had a girlfreind, i have been on 6 dates 5 with the same woman (yes i know now i should have made a move so no need to say that) just as an intersting sidenote, both those women i dated were exceptionally beautiful , like a 10 and a strong 9, is this meaningful because i ask a lot of different women out from average looking to perfect looking ?

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Abundance mentality helps...We get myopic...tunnel vision...

dammit. yea but this stuff is true if you tried any of these techniques lol. its rediculous how many people don't understand this stuff. thanks for your videos my man.

Wouldn't it be more effective to just walk up to her and tell her that you find her attractive and wanted to say hi rather than admit you are scared or nervous? Isn' that putting her on a pedestal?

I must not fear. Fear is the mind-killer. Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration. I will face my fear. I will permit it to pass over me and through me. And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path. Where the fear has gone there will be nothing. Only I will remain.

wow, being a man is tough, i wish women knew how easy their lives were, i mean for a man, you can either make a monumental effort train rediculously hard, realize what needs dong have social skills status and self esteem and confience and only then, will you stand a chance at not getting rejected by 100% of women, man, not good ! whats fun is when women (and they always do this) say stuff like dont be so presumptious, women have dating hard too, i remember this one time 10 years ago i liked a guy and i showed him throught my actions and he didnt come onto me so i had to wait a month before getting someone else who came onto me while i rejected another 15 men, or the classic, i remember this one time a few years back i liked someone and they rejected me, so ive been rejected too ! ahahaha ! they always hold up thier trophy one rejection once years ago as proof womemn have it hard too, i try to tell them this isnt quite the same as being alone for decades without even getting to hold another human being growing up and being rejected by all women all the time for decade after decade, and never having the chance of even starting a family and living forever alone and dying alone ! but they just dont get it, they still hold up their one rejection once years ago as some sort of equivelent ! so sad, that women have it so easy and men have it so hard over something so important like sex and love, the foundation for humanity, and its so uttery outrageously piss easy for women, and so impossibly difficult for men, whats even worse than all that is women deliberatly make things EVEN harder than they need to be with lies and deciept, telling men to be kind sensative loveing and caring, and men have to them work out this is the exact opposite of what they want, so almost all men have lost out on a lot of loving relationships just because of that one fact alone, some like me dont realize they want the exact oppostie until its too late and they have spent half their life alone because women cant admit what they really want, its a cruel lif and a horrably unbearably tough life being a man !

Been watching alot of your videos , i was kind of troll, cause i figured alot of your stuff was too much analyzing the most natural thing in the world man meets woman, nonetheless i try to keep an open mind, you seem to be on to some sort of sigmund freud, angle. You make some keen observations, i am still all ears, hopeful for you to sharpen your skills, and see if you can lay a solid foundation to what you speak of. IF THESE SKILLS SHOW CONCRETE LEVEL< it can help all men

So you telling me not to be awkward like I'm doing it on purpose . If I'm awkward infront of a person to me means that person does not reciprocate very well so I'm trying to hard to figure out ways to convey myself . If that vibe continues I then stop talking to that person simple as that

wassup bro can you make a video of women and there testing on men and how to own it ?

Yup. Feel awkward, women look at me weird, all that stuff.

Me gista

I don't know about the "look at you" line.

Just don't ever say to a girl that she is beautiful - that ruins everything

Ascribing magical mind and soul reading abilities to women only makes guys more nervous it's not true. Women just make up a meaning to everything very fast the are right a certain amount of the time and just as often completely wrong it's simple statistics. We only remember and magnify the lucky guesses and ignore the mistakes. Micro expressions are real but not many know how to interpret them correctly they can also be misleading. Finally never walk up to a woman telling her that she makes you nervous it's pathetic behaviour it happens because we often put a specific women on a pedestal without even knowing anything about her.

Well, I don't think it's neccecary to be bloody flawless. Never shutting down, occationally not being able to meet her eyes. If you look at a beautiful, desired woman you can often see she's too nervous and all that too. So there's nothing wrong with you if that ever happens. It just shouldn't happen every damn time. And decide to act, realize she can take nothing from you, let go of your expectations and trying to control the outcome.

All of your videos, that I have seen so far, make me angry :\ I can tell though that the vast majority of this anger is quite irrational. It was pretty quickly apparent that much of the anger was coming from a combined sense of disbelief as well as an understanding that I could understand rather simply how the examples and suggestions you provide make sense.

if a girl intentionally physically hurts you is that a bad sign?

I appreciate your advice and it's helpful, but your voice is too quiet and need to project more. I know you're trying to be the example you're explaining, but we aren't standing next to you. good videos though and again, we appreciate what you're doing.

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Why don’t women say: “I can’t connect with you because you’re angry/awkward etc” - why don’t they tell us, in words.

MGTOV is the answer

Like I said I don't see what the big deal is just walk up to the woman and say and tell her how you feel about her she just a damn woman just another human being so what's the big deal.

Nigga look like Deron Williams

dont buy this crap. women do not want guys hitting on them unless you have money, looks, or power period!! an if you dont have it leave them alone.

Your beard is awkward