‘Comparison is an act of violence against the self’

Comparison is such a sneaky little thief it has never served our fullest self. In a way, we dishonor God by comparing ourselves to others. I truly believe that when God created each of us, took his time and when he finished, he was sure of himself about us. So when we look at others and compare our beauty, our life, our talent, anything... In many ways we are saying to him, you didn't do a good enough job with me. And that is a damn lie. that's why comparison is the thief of joy and gratitude.

“when you compare what you have, what you have becomes less”

Who else missed Breeny?? 😩❤️

Self-care will help you focus on yourself instead of everyone else.

Comparison is self-sabotage. When you compare yourself to others, you only produce what it takes to match up with the next person. As a result, you suppress the parts of you that doesn't match up. In truth, you cannot become the best version of someone else. Who you are is enough. All you need is expansion and growth in your authentic self. The world needs the authentic you. It doesnt need a repeat of someone else. Your greatest fulfilment is allowing yourself to freely become your amazing self and let others do the same. Never compare yourself. You are unique. Stand in your authentic lane and shine.🤗

I literally just started crying. My depression has increased due to me being so hard on myself and constantly comparing. I literally lost myself. Thank you for this 🙏🏾💕🥰

Who else is gassed she’s posted 😆😆😆😆

I’m crying. I needed this. I lost 100 pounds and thought that would “fix me”. I’m even more insecure and have been comparing myself to others every day. It sucks and it is a cycle. I feel like crap man this sucks.

I’m so so insecure like incredibly insecure people say that I’m pretty but it’s like their talking to a wall I don’t believe anyone

Miss. Breeny... forget that weight disclaimer, this goes without saying but let me make it clear... you are beyond beautiful and that beauty needs no announcing. Not only outside but THEM INSIDES are... other worldly. ✨ ✨ ✨ Okay... now I can proceed to listening to your wisdom.

“When u compare what u have, what u have becomes less.” ❤️💎

Y’all! For anyone that needs validation... her tips work. I compared myself to so many ppl and always wanting more years ago. I finally shut off social media, deleted everything and took time to learn to appreciate ME! Almost all of these tips, I did years ago and still continue to do so. Love your own life. Not someone else’s.

Are we just gonna ignore that ring on Breeny's finger?...Congratsssss

“Comparison is the thief of joy”

“it is what it is” - new favourite meme 💛

I compared myself to you so many times. Faking confidence on the outside is easy; I’m learning how to feel it within.

"The only person you should compare yourself to is yourself so you can continue to challenge yourself to continue to grow in excellence." - #RaphaelOnochie...true or correct?

Look at God! I was crying myself to sleep because of feelings if inadequacy, and then you post this video. Right on time Breeny!!

"Degrading what she has and lifting up what she doesn't have". Damn that hit me!🥴

Perfect timing just when I was looking through pictures, and comparing myself.

Was just having this conversation w/ my friend! Social media can be so vain and sometimes I would find myself comparing myself to people. I have stepped away from fb, snap, Instagram for over a year now and my confidence and focus has been extremely better. I have “ set my own standard”. Focus with myself, my family, my personal goals and dreams. I have been truly elevating! So thankful!

"The grass is greener where you water it."- Anonymous. Thank you for this awesome video ❤️. Subbed when you said "when you compare what you have, what you have becomes less". I deleted social media because my peers' lives always seemed better. It has given me more time to to work on myself and focus on my goals without noise.

I needed this. Starting comparing myself once I seen my ex having naked pictures of his "ex" in his phone. We were together 5 years. Why am I gonna feel bad about myself over a man who barely shower? shit he should be feeling bad but clearly not he was feeling himself too much

"When you compare what you have, what you have becomes less" 🗣📢🔊 Thank you

I needed this. I always comparing myself to others girls. I missed you & you look beautiful!!! Love from Paris 🗼💗

This is perfect timing because I just started my first day of medical school, and all my classmates seems so wonderful and smart. I wonder a lot about whether or not I can keep up. So thank you.

“Because YOU are the STANDARD of BEAUTY.” Yess queen. I co-sign! ✨ I make KZfaq videos 🙏🏾❗️

I LOVE Pinterest as well! I always get most of my quotes from there.

Perfect timing for this video...I'm currently reading the "subtle art of not giving a F*k" . I'm Working on my vaules and standards that I hold myself to. Great book I highly recommend

“When you compare what you have, what you have becomes less” oh god that just hit me so hard wow

i went in tears when you said "count your blessings, name them one by one" - i haven't been giving myself enough credit for all that i've donr because i'm so fixated on what i want to have (which is another person's achievements now)

I needed this. The perfect facade of social media can be really detrimental to your confidence and well being.

Perfect timing Breeny... I was just having a little mental breakdown thinking about how my female friends get so much more attention than me, so many guys hitting on them everyday and felt so lonely, and then I remembered that I still had your video to watch! Thank you so much. Love and blessings from Italy, you are gorgeous. Anna

Big??? U look healthy and gorgeous xx

I love that in the beginning she doesn’t apologize for where she is. She owns what she’s working on and I love that. Thank you ❤️

The title alone.....man God is speaking through you sooo timely!

Girl! Don’t even stress. We understand you’re a human just like us and we all need to fill our cup to pour into others. I just spoke about this in my self-help book video & seeing this video is clearly a sign!💕

My heart skipped a beat when I saw the notification 😁❤️

WEVE MISSED U QUEEN THANKS FOR THIS🥺

The Sis is back😍 Count your blessings, name them one by one.. I FELT THAT❤

As someone who is just starting out in life, I find these tips really hit me in the feels :")

Im so happy you're back❤️❤️ your words are just magical & makes me feel better whenever i'm feeling down

She always has a way to get me on track. Love you sis

Thank you so much for this video and all the others, they are very helpful. I'm so happy that I found your channel, lots of love xx

Still beautiful, so happy that you’re back

Thank you for this video Breeny, I really needed to hear every single word. You’ve gotten me through all my hard times ❤️

THIS IS YOUR BEST YET, MY LOVE!!!! needed this

My favorite KZfaqr finally decided to post... So glad to see your gorgeous, radiant face.. 💞 I enjoyed this video so much.. Timely word! 🙌🏾 🔥

The Queen is back with a bang💪💪.. Girl you were missed 😍

I must say, we missed you and all your wisdom you give us!

Complimenting the one ur comparing ur self with helps alot , jus try it

I love this saying "Comparison is the thief of joy." It's become my personal motto to look back on anytime I'm going down the rabbit hole of negativity & comparison. You're right on girl, comparison will only bring negativity. It'll wipe away any thankfulness and peace you had within yourself. I've never commented on your videos yet but, they have helped me to stay grounded and centered in so many situations, you're like my counselor or older sister. 😆 I'm loving this so much, thank you for the free videos!! Many blessings sister.❤

This is one of her best videos!! I will always remember this story about that girl who fell in love with her coworker even though she had a perfect relationship

we appreciate all of your hard work and great content! breaks are so necessary and important.

This couldn’t have come at a better time Breeny ✨

Thank you so much for this video, Breeny! I’ve missed you 😢 and this came right on time. Recently broke up with my boyfriend of 4 years 3 weeks ago, he cheated. Been struggling with comparing myself and doubting my self worth. But this definitely helped, I’m hanging in there. So thank you ❣️

This is so inspirational Breeny is so motivational, a true role model. Listening to this made me feel.so different. Touched me on so many levels. Let's stop making ourselves unhappy due to comparison.

IM SO THANKFUL FOR YOU BREENY.

thank you for this breeny!!💜 I love the positivity you put out in the world. .

thank you so much for this i needed it ALOT. i've been having a rough time during quarantine constantly comparing myself to others and i'm now ready to take a new step and count my blessings. ❤️

"When you compare what you have, what you have becomes less!" Breeny Lee✌🏻

I missed you, you have helped me a lot through my breakup and now to make myself better, i love you.

We've missed you so much Breeny, Stay golden ❤

Breeny, you were truly missed in your absence. Thank you for stopping by because I feel your content is always perfectly timed!!!! I am glad you are doing well and striving to better yourself in whichever way you see fit. ❤️

I’ve literally watched every video of yours. I just love the energy you carry ✨

This came at the perfect time for me, thank you so much for this. I'm going through a breakup where I was cheated on and I can't help but compare myself to this new person and feeling down about myself. You've inspired me, motivated and lifted my spirits to work on improving myself and knowing that I am enough.

I absolutely LOVE that you step back in for a bit! So open and honest. Can't wait for the Life Sessions!!!

Yay she’s back. You look beautiful and more important are even more beautiful on the inside

This is so important to remember!!!👏True confidence only comes from within💖 Just posted a video about this on my channel too (where I shaved my head!)

WE LOVE YOU MAMA!!! You have great content. You're so smart, beautiful, funny & confident!!

your energy is amazing. thank you for this video!

You’re so damn wise, and btw everyone’s got more weight on from being stagnant for so long!! Trying to be easy on myself too (: great vid sis

Hey Breeny, you look absolutely amazing as always. I have been watching your videos for a while (four years to be exact) and I love all your content. However, I feel that the feeling of worthlessness is a lot more complex than comparing oneself. I believe a lot stems from childhood traumas that require professional intervention such as therapy. Granted comparing oneself can lead to unhappiness, but comparing oneself is only the tip of the iceberg. Comparing oneself is a symptom of bigger trauma and issues. In the same way, we shouldn’t compare ourselves with others, in the same way we shouldn’t judge others’ lives. You truly never know why people make the decisions they make. Perhaps the lady from the metaphorical story you mentioned didn’t have “a very good thing” and it took someone else to enter her life for her to realize that. Like the famous saying: “all the glitters is not gold.” Lots of love Breeny ❤️ Looking forward to your new videos!

Breeny is SUCH a blessing in my life! She's always talking about the things I need to hear at the moment! God bless you Breeny🙏🏽☺️

it's so important never to compare yourself to anyone else. you can use them idolize them in a way to help further push you to become better yourself but we are all individually different. you also never know what the person you are comparing yourself to is going through. They might seem like they have the life you want but in reality, they can be miserable or not as happy. Furthermore, you haven't experienced the life they currently live, you only see a photo or few second videos that are generally marketed that way to make it look great. But it could also be that maybe they are enjoying their life and they are happy. And if that's the case you still don't know if what they do for a living is for you and the amount of work they did to get to that point. Everyone always wants the bright light and stars but nobody wants to sacrifice their eyes to get there. You would be very surprised to know another person's situation is extremely different than how you play it out in your mind of how they are actually living. Just focus on yourself, find a passion or that gift that you enjoy, and when you do just keep working at it. if it makes you happy that's all that matters. Keep working at it over the years and eventually, you can cultivate it in all areas of your life such as health, money, relationships, and happiness will follow.

I have never clicked so fast! This video is just god timing. Miss you!!

I really needed this i am usually doing this and it just makes me feel bad plus my friends are always going out and never inviting me so i always ask whats wrong with me? This was so amazing thanks❤❤

Wow literally me watching this video early in the morning was Devine timing! After waking up and writing in my journal about comparison then this was the first video I came to ✨ thank you for being such a support system for back women❣️

I’m so glad you posted. You look great and you have strengthened me through your videos. Has really taught me to leave what’s not healthy.

Girl me too i will say i got this coming for you and I literally take forever to get it done I NEED TO STOP DOING THAT CUZ I ALSTRESS MYSELF OUT

I have so missed your beautiful face! Is that a 💍 on your finger?

I can't wait to watch and listen to this queen's God-given wisdom after what feels like forever

I missed you Breeny❤️❤️! I am beyond grateful to have the experience of watching you! Honestly without watching your videos I probably would’ve been at the same stage my old self was at. Thanks you for all your wise words and knowledge you share🔥❤️!

Your social media break glow 😭

Could you maybe make a video on being too nice??? I always get told by everyone that I'm way too nice and it causes others to take advantage of me. Whenever I stand up for myself though, I feel as if I did something wrong 🤧 Please help!

This is so useful Breeny, especially for IG users as it can cause mental health. No more comparing to IG influencers I Don’t know👍🏾😊

Glad you're back Bree

6:59 it is so sad that this lesson usually isn't cemented into our psyches until late in life. I can say 100% I never compare myself to others for this very reason Breeny. It is why I am so annoyed when women and men pick me apart instead of focusing on themselves. Also Breeny, when it comes to weight you are spot on! NO ONE should remain fat if (as Oprah says) "it is like mud in your wings". Being fat and having a beautiful face doesn't make you beautiful. It's about how you move, feel and glide through life. If you don't like your body, job, friends, home....change it. Never remain fat because others tell you they love your size. First and foremost be your own cheerleader and allow others opinions to not carry as much weight. I'm sharing this video with every woman I know. Bless you sis.💋

I do believe in healthy comparison which shows through inspiration and admiration of others to do better for yourself?

I dont know if you ever realize how me you helped us! Sometimes you know all this things, you just need someone ti remind you and say them out loud! And for that THANK YOU with all my heart

I love you breeny! 😭❤️ was literally crying like few hours ago

thank u breeny i’m in tears because im constantly comparing myself to other pretty girls more than counting my own blessings, i am so thankful for everything i have thank u for being a big sister i appreciate this video

I always come here when i feel my insecurities coming back. Thank you, Breeny!

I've missed your videos a lot. This topic just came along in a moment where I truly needed to hear this.. thank you Breeny!!

This video is EVERYTHING! You ALWAYS know how to help me snap myself back into reality!!! Thank You, Girl! You are AWESOME!!!

I need this talk. Thanks for showing up at the right time, like you always do.

Your chanel is a blessing 🥺

Yay! Even though I get notifications I’ve been checking your channel regularly to see if you’ve posted! Thank you. 🙌🌻

the advice you give is so much better than what I got from my therapist for real