I think you may be right...

Absolutely

Very true. Confusion and frustration.

Yeah...something I didn’t realize !!!

That's really heavy

To me these are all obvious manipulation tactics on their face... the issue is recognizing it when it happens because it's usually more subtle. Especially the empty promises. My ex used to tell me that my other ex was "just plaicating me" (we had kids together). But I had no idea how to recognize that and I still have problems with that.

Thank you for the summary 🙏🏼🌸

⁠@@ultravioletpisces3666yeah the abuse and manipulation doesn’t happen in a vacuum so it can be hard to identify as it’s happening to you. The last abuser made this happen over a period of months, but since my mother was a narcissist, I was able to see it coming and took steps to document everything (it was in the workplace). This helped me tremendously once the bullying began. I already had things documented and reported. So I just kept writing it down. Eventually they were moved and fired once I presented my evidence. It’s easier to recognize when you’ve been through the pattern once (or in my case throughout my childhood and adulthood with my mother).

Follow up their abuse guilt & bully tactics with "you're entitled to your opinion" "that's not how I remember it" and "sorry you feel that way".

@@FaithfulandTrue949 I love all 3 of those and I'm gonna use one of them on my mother as soon as I get the chance, which will unfortunately be soon I'm sure.

Yes ma’am it is.

Lol!

Ily tanks

@@hopefull3387 social media is filled with jerks who don't even know how to express their opinion without belittling others.. being rude to strangers only tells us that your parents didn't teach you to be kind.. hope 'you learn' it by yourself.. bye karen

As a person who get teach that by teacher, you right. It just suck that i learn that mistake after mistaking helping a scammers. Having an angelic-like mindset turn you into naive people.

Setting boundaries is super important

You have a point. This actually comes from upbringing. Parents need to teach children how to be kind and giving but also to set boundaries when needed

Blame

you are an angel ! thanks! ♥️

I had to have a 6-hour conversation with my x on why weren't compatible and insisted we were and that I don't appreciate him. I was told that I was selfish and ungrateful they hate when you choose you.

Yeah but why take pleasure in hurting another

@@rmjerome1182 I thought I wrote this comment. You are not alone,sadly. Stay strong 😊

How tho? Any time I do I’m called selfish and I feel selfish. My wife won’t even let me diet.

Thanks for the great advice Stephanie

Well said! 😊

Yep

Yes

ergarza2008 How an interesting point of view, so if I didn't feel love and I manipulate my lover to buy me jewels, my insecurities go down and I feel loved again! How about a date?

Kimberly Colley,You are absolutely gorgeous 🌹🌹🌷,hope you are not with a narc 😈!!

This can be so difficult.. especially when they suddenly start acting very loving and caring to get what they want.. it's like, yeah, I wanted this person to be loving and caring all the time, and only now they are finally acting like it.. but is it only for today, if I stay firm now, I might not get another chance to be loved and cared for by this person??😭😭 I couldn't stay firm anymore as he whispered words of love and affection.. my heart just melted away.. but I just want to live my happy life again..

Exactly, like you can't defend yourself; defend yourself!

This is something I'm learning

Yes indeed.

Dee Rasmussen,Your lovely smile 😊 can make the news!!

Yup

People who Love Life and People are Teachers.

This drives anyone bonkers who's requesting something

Totally.

This works though. Its simply fun to see an emotionally manipulative person lose their minds bc they failed trying to control you

@Courtney N when emontionally manipulative parents target your weak points like i dont give you basic need like food,shelter and get out from this house,sending you to mental asylum etc.so this abuse may turn into pshycical if you dont agree with those vampires

Or it's my choice

I learned with Christ that sometimes the best way to stand up for ourselves is getting up and walking away. It might sound like a coward move or something, and that is what Christ did most of the time. And believe me, if you study the Bible and the Gospels you will se how courageous and fearless Christ was... He never stood up for himself setting a boundary or saying ‘’stop’’. He just left the abuser talking by themselves and left...

@@gabryauh Yes Lord!!!!

Trueeee ❤️

I agree. I definitely came out stronger after surviving my narcissistic ex

W

Yep. I knew someone like this. When I backed off and went no contact they posted all over social media how I was a master manipulator because they did so much for me and then I disappeared. Yet, they never once spoke to me about their feelings of being taken advantage of and instead posted the accusations online and got others to trash me too. I never asked them for the help and thought it was out of kindness. My mistake I believed their words and I never would have accepted the help if I knew they wanted so much in return and it wasn't really a gift after all. They blamed me because THEY CHOSE to help me and because they apparently regretted it they tell everyone I manipulated them into it instead of taking self-responsibility for offering help but not really wanting to do it.

My mother. Unfortunately I'm financially dependent on her right now, and I'm 61 years old because of my disability. As a result, she feels that she can dictate every move i make, and belittle me. It sucks.

Yep just like my mother and big brother

Yes I've learned to not date men who have this mentality of "what do you bring to the table since I always...." I'm naturally a generous person and will do anything for the man in my life who will do anything for me. Keeping score seems business like and not loving at all.

I can understand from your point of view BUT when a person gives and gives and gives and the other person takes and takes... there is a problem as only one person is investing into the relationship. If I am pouring myself and nothing is being poured into me then resentment and bitterness starts to come about. I am a giver by nature but it was take take take and NOTHING in return. I didn’t do what I didn’t do these things for something in return but when a person shows no effort it can drive a person crazy

I experience that too, she always tells me that's in your head, you always feeling like you are a victim. I separated my self from that person and they can't stand silence and bring left alone.

Terrisa Vibbert without prejudice you're on the ball there! Dealing with exactly the same crap from a horrible neighbour. At least I know I can move out but the problem with moving is it's too expensive. So yeah, neighbours and family are hardest to deal with.

Terrisa Vibbert without prejudice The other problem with manipulators is that they do really lovely things for you. So now I know this, I know to simply stay away from these types.

Actions always speak louder than words

I know what you mean 😮 I've been struggling many years with being in control mental abusive relationship not physical anymore and just because I'm sick now😕😟😖😩

YES!!! It was a good practice “session” for me!!! I was literally afraid to tell this person I’d made plans with another person. New to this area, I’m meeting lots of new people so I’m exploring new relationships. She’d wanted me to be HER friend. I felt I wanted lots of people. I have friendships 42 years, 27 years, 8 years. I don’t speak to those friends daily, so this new friendship was smothering me 😩😒. I had to pull away, and I did. I stood up for me & felt the weight lifted off my shoulders. She’s still trying to pull me back in, but I’ll stand my ground. Yep…good practice. She, was a good coach.

Bug time! Tell them all the "No's" you got for them. Be tough and do it. Bring God along and they'll back up.

Great comment. Manipulation is witchcraft and demonic

I married to a man like that and i finally divorced him after 11 year marriage. It took me great effort to love myself.

Subconciuosly i was looking for a man with that type, i need to make my traumatic earlier life (in my younger age) be healed so that i can love myself and feel confident as I am. What do you think about it?

Patrice Y Simmons I believe I am a prisoner of evil

@@satyarinisatyarini118 I've worked on this most my life.... seems a continual/infinite process....

It's the most common type of social interaction today.

@@natureandphysics403 eeeeh no

Oh, felt that

to the contrary, you MUST confront them

I call that x husbands 4 me...😔

Are u surprised? ??:)

@@SilverAspen1 yes. I've been with him since the age of 13yo. I'm in my mid 20s now. I've only just now realised that my husband is a narcissist. It does hurt I won't lie.

I hope you're good now :) I come from very similar situation) hugs

@@Fruit_bee Actually I'm still in this marriage and terrified of leaving...

run as fast as you can, make a plan if you have to, but it is going to be better with time when you will feel free to do what you love without fear. It helped me to focuse on bad things that he did constantly rather then be in euphory from good things @@jas9464

Amen

Exactly girl...

eli soopu yes I cannot negotiate without a fight breaking out with my partner. It’s like walking on egg shells. He wants his way and if he feels threatened he starts yelling. I regret the day I was introduced to him. All the best

Amen

💣💣💣

Only if you change your attitude from a victim to a gainer, they d stop!! Always look confident and happy, they hate it when you re faker than them

Just take and take and take. They only tell you what you want to hear in order to get their selfish needs met.

fr, he made me leave all my friends just because he didnt like them, he was friend with them too and they were you know fine together they helped each other and it was just okay before all of this, but when i distanced myself from them when he started telling them everything what was happening between us and i felt awkward when they knew everything about how i kiss or how my room does look. So i was just with him and at that time he started manipulating me into leaving my one friend from my childhood AND THEY KNEW EACH OTHER TOO BTW, but nevermind, he started crying that i was with him on some family event he was asking all the time if he is talking and when im going home, then he didnt like my schoolmates, my one another friend and he was always hurt because they are not good for me and he doesnt like when i talk to them. i’ve lost the bond with all of them but i was still trying to fight for that one group with 2 boys ( i felt like in a dream when i started talking to them a was trying 2 YEARS TO TALK TO THEM JUST TO LET ONE MF RUIN EVERYTHING JUST BECAUSE HE DIDNT LIKE THEM😭😭😭😭)that he knew too and he didnt like them because they were boys, he had “anxiety” ( i put in in bulb because he just wanted me to get rid of them and he had even addmited it)from them WHEN THEY WERE FRIENDS FOR LIKE 9 YEARS, and because one of them made fun of him when he was in hospital when they were like 10. So how the time went, he blamed me for his ßuißide attemp, sh, overdoßïng just to made me leave them even when we have broken up already, and i felt just bad so i always left them and came but i lost even the motivation to be friends with them because i was scared and i felt guilty. So i tried to fucus on myself and live again but i just couldnt let him go even when i had something like trauma, he didnt change at all but i dont know how to leave

and of course he was like he loves me and he expects me to leave them, that he would do it for me why couldnt i, that ill choose them or him and if ill choose them i wouldnt be the only one that will loose him and he was emotionally abusing me with this. and now it goes the same, he is trying to change my mind when i like something that he doesnt, he wants me to remove some friends that were friends with that 2 friends and i dont know man

and he doesnt even care that that group meant for me the most, because after a very long time i felt like i can talk without feeling anxious and i just had a friend group after a very long time man, i was happy

and when i say no the real abuse starts

But what if you can’t!! Here we go again 😔

I did enjoy this video I have been treated this way exactly by my daughters now I'm far away from them I live alone and relationships with anyone is not easy I am an empath I have been so mistreated in these ways you left off vindictive my one daughter is a true narcissist it took me forever to realize how she could be this way she has no empathy for anyone since I have been following your videos I have learned so much I never knew how bad it really was until I needed help boy did I get the full barrel from her i still can't hardly believe the things she has done to me i didn't even think there were people out there like them keep the videos coming i don't even want people around me anymore my family my friends this is unreal 😱🤯😠👹

Exactly.

I did.

Leaving them don’t mean u won’t meet people at wrk or family members or relationship that r this way jus learn n know wat u deal wit

I agree totally.

@Linda Villani your 78 yrs old and on you tube? maybe, but i doubt it.

I often thought this so of my Ex husband

Most certainly i agree.

Definitely

I had so much tension inside and began questioning if it was me. Those words are trully liberating these persons were there to teach me how to set bouderies, love myself and let go of the anger, bitterness and resentment. Thanks for sharing.

Same!!! It’s empowering.

Then it's time for you to stop being codependent and work on your self.

My mom has done the same. I’m 50 and realized this only a few years ago. She has done everything to sabotage my successes. I thought I was the problem. Please know it is not your fault. You deserve happiness. I know it’s so hard. Keep your chin up sweetie! Keep binge watching Stephanie, her videos have helped me so much!

Thats a lot to unpack, remember to take care of yourself

I can relate. Much love on your journey ❤

I’m here because I’ve been realizing my sibling has been doing this to me, and that’s the reason I feel so bad after our interactions

Pamela Morgan Mitchell yes they always think they are entitled to something

Is it bad to keep in touch with the soon to be ex’s family. They keep reaching out and have supported me through my marriage but now?

Very difficult to cut off familymembers who do that. They once where there for you even when toxic most of times and now you cant get away from them.

Not like mine, I can bet

Katherine I feel absolute trust shouldn’t be overemphasized in a relationship, smartness is also very important. There’s a popular saying that “don’t trust too much because that too much might hurt you so much”. A Narcissist shouldn’t be trusted, they have this excessive interest or admiration of themselves and they’re very toxic!. My greatest disappointment was discovering my wife cheating on me through the help of Cyberhackingsage who helped cloned her cellphone and i was able to read all her messages and uncover my wife’s infidelity without having to touch her phone. All i did was share my wife’s number with Cyberhackingsage and i got access to her Facebook, WhatsApp and text messages both deleted and incoming ones with a remote link on my phone. Thanks to Cyberhackingsage, now i have enough evidence for my divorce. You can contact him ( cyberhackingsage@gmail )Or Text/Call and WhatsApp him on +15713758467. Thank me later.

Very correct

Yes ! They have to be Discovered ! My experiences !

Thankyou!! That helps!!!

I'm doing that right now

Laura Holeman and cats are like most women ☺️

Good solution!

Ha ha ha

Love this. You are very lucky to

@@inpersonaDK yes they are like women to be honest

Your so right indeed!

Needed to hear that! It’s so easy to give the benefit of the doubt and take on the blame yourself

I feel you.....😥🙏🏻

Yes I’m currently cutting my step dad off

Way to.go man. Must be a good feeling.

I have to cut off my mom in the future. But I am afraid she wont be able to love without me since she is already 57 and my dad is 65....they both emotionally manipulated and abused me throughout the years and now I feel empty and bad if I cut them off like that ......

Really wanna cut connection with mom and brother. It's so hard. 😭 How did you do that?

im an intellectual, still think its essential for me since every human has earth, water, air and fire in them, doesnt matter the majority

The Count _ empath ?

@@singingforyou3262 ?

True

Wouldn't an empath just feel this sort of thing?

That’s what I’m trying to get to. My sibling’s guilt tactics and shame tactics just keep seething into my mind

If they don't respect you when you say no, you'll know right away they're not someone to hang out with. Emotionally immature!

@@iys6890 Yeah,I know

Angie Kitson-Harris yes I can relate to your reply. I always wonder how I would be had I not been introduced to him. Twenty two years with countless breakups and always getting back together. I hope you find a way out. My only way out is to pack up and leave when he’s at work like so many women do and men do because these abusers are not stable enough or mature enough to have a discussion about separating without getting abusive. Thanks for your reply and all the best

I’m currently in this pace, it’s really exhausting

@@komaweig89 is this really possible what about in the USA

@@komaweig89 really ? What if he hacks all the money ?? Yours and his ??

I understand, it makes you feel like it won’t change. You’ve already moved in with them, married them, had kids with them. When does it stop? You’ve learned trust is a joke to him. All the pressure is on you and he’s breaking your family. But you love him so much and every time you try to leave he begs you to stay and puts on a mask of lies to convince you. Then when you stay, he does it again. You’re so confused, does he really love you? Everything is starting to make since and you now know he’s faking his real personality, and your so emotionally attached. He’s funny and handsome and the father of your kids, but he’s not as amazing and powerful as you think he is. He’s powerful, but you can be powerful too. You can MAKE HIM WEAK.

Yup been there done that

Melissa Misinco so so right my husband mother is doing this

Yes my mother and my husband .

And then they turn other family members against you.

Yes. This is why I’m here watching this video

Absolutely stupendous, Peace, love to you, Thank you universe 🌌🥰😃😀💞😍⚘️✨️

This is my 2020

I’m currently dealing with an unstable person right now and she can’t take a hint that I don’t wanna be bothered with her at all

True VideoGamer93 I dealt with that too

@@CamperBreaker93 We're you honest and open without judgement? A hint is saying your not sure and maybe like to play games to feed your ego.

@@CamperBreaker93 just ghost them bro. even in real life, don't talk even a bit. they will get it

Mine to

Yep.

We are many in this🙄🤔

I’m going through this right now

Exact same situation. My sister and her husband have abused our parents for many years. When I started calling out this abuse.....roll on the smear campaign! They have gotten away scot free with no repercussions. My mother has dementia.

Bobbie Condlin I too struggle with shutting down during confrontation we have to relearn communicating through these negative situations

Same

I find it hard ‘not’ to fight back but fighting back escalates things and the abuse gets worse . When I shut down I feel defeated but that’s the only way the abuse stops Leaving the house for a couple hrs feels good but then I have to face the deamon when I get home and depends what time of day it is. I won’t leave the house at night. I feel for all of us that unfortunately got hooked emotionally into these freaks

Same here. Need help

We fall for these things most times from our partners

You're right, but that's an unnecessary correction, because i'm sure she meant "childish" and its also like being child-like, in a sense, but not 100% on everything a child does or feels.

This not necessary negative comment sounds like you may be a narcissist........🤔

Gabriela Martinyuk eh, think about that response to D’s comment. While childlike can have a positive connotation, I just think of it as “like a child”. It can refer to any qualities a kid has. I’m childlike by being trusting and kind in a way that makes me more likely to be a narcissist victim, for example.

@@DethronerX I knew a person that defined her whole relationship with another that was based on this one distinction. Words matter, and to this day I'm still a little put off by this as it was a put down (a subtle one) of this person that I cared about and she would never say it straight to her face either.

@Gabriela Martinyuk I'm mad? I don't remember being angry, while typing that lol. I may be a narcissist, sure and sorry, but I wasn't trying to attack

Avoid manipulate man and live life without bullshit. Don't tolerate that in a man or anyone else. Say no means no. Lol he blame me for his problems lol what idiot he friends are. Avoid negative man say no to lust bully abuse childish behavior. Thank you for teaching me lesson that I dont need a needy code depends man. Lol Love myself is better. 😁🙂 Freedom from bs online. Say no no no no no no no avoid negative lust and bullying and abuses. Fuck off Paris Jackson no mean no back off me bitch. Dont be messing with me either way but ways of that's how to treat me that way grow up Paris Jackson and dont care of Paris shit friends either. Paris back off me you hear me. Respect is given not earn so troll get the fuck away from me.

Until it doesn’t!!

@@natalieohlsson7777 Then they just find another willing participant.

@@natalieohlsson7777 ignore them live life is bette they want attention from and there childish and act immature guy. This men need to grow up.

And coz they are lazy

makindreams cometrue - I said no and it became the ending took me through a door to a new beginning, a new life that has brought me much joy , growth, wisdom and fun.

@makindreams come true My "No" led up to my divorce currently in process. He tried to hurt me by having an affair and when I applied to Divorce him he came back pleading, making promises, but I could NEVER Connect Emotionally with his mind games. Once bitten twice shy. I'm so glad I continued and he's since Abandoned the home and family living with someone 21 years younger than him. Good luck to her, but I think they are good for each other both CO-DEPENDENTS. I look forward to my new life completely without him.

@@janemuller2066 no is a very powerful word....and just beginning to use it....its confusing....were so used to them...and afraid of the unknown...but i HAD to do something diffrent than be beat up all the time....

makindreams cometrue Good for you coming to your senses and paying attention to it. I salute you

Some of them dont know what no means

They belittle then go silent

Yes I'm getting it now

@@carolsampson5511 proves you were right and all they know is abuse and manipulation

Do you think they unintentionally do it?

@@jordanwilson3279 no

this HIT

They only love themselves

So true. As long as they get what they want all is fine. But when u say no all hell is let loose.

Sad but true

Love has nothing to do with it. Take that out of the equation. Now, do you feel used? What to do what to do. Draw a line in the sand. How much crap do you want to put up With?

I have done that. The ones that teach you are the worst. Why do you think we have teachers in classroom that teach most things that are outside of your reality in the life to come when you are an adult.

@SCANDINAVIAN NARC SURVIVOUR NO If you contacted someone to request their services and they ignored you, in what way is that narcissistic behaviour? Strangers don't have an obligation to help you or take you as a client. Why would you email them 8 times when they clearly are not interested in contact? Unless you already gave them money, you are not entitled a reply or attention. If anyone is sending off red flags it's you.

SKYDARIPPA Upside Down was ✍️n 3 months ago during a discard / garage phase Narcs bring out the best in you 😎

No marriage for you!! Save yourself now

are you ok?

Did you get out? I am trying to divorce my husband right now.

I hope you got out of it. You deserve better

Gooo.. Go away from himmmm

Mine said 'oh but your so special to me and I can't not have you in my life'. This was after he had broken up with me, 3 weeks later used the fact that i was in love with him to tell me he was falling for me (but not in love with me) then he agreed to take it slow but put in no effort so i left told him i had to accept that it was over ...i was grieving through all of this and when he said the above it just hit me in heart. Stupid really because he had flaked often, not been around, had excuses for everything but suddenly i am too special to lose? we did talk every day...even after he broke up he wanted to continue talking daily, he allowed me one week of space...urgh..the minute i started replying to him after a week of silence I felt myself not being able to stop writing to him so it became me doing all the work...again while he received and replied when he felt like it. urgh. he loved bombed me all that week when i had said i will accept it is over. we caught up that weekend and kissed all day. I didn't actually realise i was addicted til i left the second time - 2 weeks after the last - i've never hurt or cried so much in my life...i was literally howling. all the on and off, future faking, flaking, hugs n kisses while saying i was just being silly etc...at the time you dont' realise what it is doing to you emotionally but it breaks you. they don't have to say anything mean to break you. the worse part was after i left though..that's when he did get mean and bitter. I remember at the cafe the last time we caught up he said 'don't blame yourself....you are who you are' with an undertone. it stabbed me in the heart...the same place he'd get to with his sob pity stories he got to me with his undertone bullying. I didn't know who he was anymore...i left that cafe feeling more wrecked that when i went in. Never again. Discernment is my big key word now.

@@Goldgirl1978 Just read your comment...what a bastard! "Don't blame yourself, you are who you are" - wth?! He's the one who should take a good look at himself for treating his girlfriend the way he did. As you said, one day it's like you're worthless to him and the next he just can't lose you. Very similar story in my case, he only showed his feelings when he was about to lose me. Made promises that he would change, which he did for a few weeks or months. But the same pattern returned over and over again. After living with him for 4 years, I've had it and I left. He said that my reasons for breaking up with him are stupid and since I'm smart, I should be able to see that. It's so unbelievable what they say and how they say it, isn't it? They twist everything around so that you start doubting yourself and so they look like they're the victims and we're the bad guys. I hope you're doing okay. It'll take time to heal, maybe even a lot, but we'll get there eventually :)

@@blueriver1604 Yes very great advise I LUV PASTOR BLAKES💚 he has changed my entire outlook on my past relationship. Her story sounds all the same to mine. But advise given in this video is such great help building a firm no is a muscle and has to be exercised but only through time and help of God no doubt be able to break off such a horrible soul tie.

Congratulations 🎊🍾🎈!! Now you will really Now his true colors now that you say NO .. I wish you Good luck and maybe a vacation to find yourself 🌻✌️🌈🌻

Miss Radittsu thank you Miss. I just cried reading your validation of that. It’s been 5 months he has a girlfriend that he actually acknowledges their relationship on fb with and his friends and family have actually met her. I didn’t meet any of them. He used to shyly laugh and kiss me whenever I said I feel like I’m his psychologist (and I hated that). He to my guilt every time. Somehow I fell in love with him despite it all. When I left I didn’t expect to have a breakdown but I did. Memories came up like I was watching the whole thing from the start again. His ex had told me stuff about him and the most she called him was a coward for not protecting her and their kids from his other family members and yet he had stories about her every day for months. Called her crazy, vindictive, cunning, wicked witch of the west. This was someone he claimed he loved. His stories were crazy. He would say things in past tense. I once got annoyed at him over some way he was treating me and he text and said ‘all I wanted was your care and support...’ I was so bad, that’s ALL I had been doing for him! I’d even blocked her on fb because foolish me was believing his stories. When I left saw this person I didn’t know I had to question how much of anything he said was a lie or the truth? I had to accept our relationship that was all based on care and support for what he was going through was a fantasy and that I was being used because he didn’t want to be alone and to date his long term friend (who’s now his girlfriend) would be too soon until at least 6 months had past...because his actual psychologist had told him this...he used it as a reason to leave me at one point too. 3 months after I’d finally discarded him his gf wrote on her instagram that he’d given her a card in early September for a surprise date in December. He was hoovering me end of August til I left end of September and I was so mad. He was seeing us both at the same time and clearly had plans to discard me by December for her anyway, I just disrupted them by leaving earlier so he brought his plans forward. I’ve dated many arseholes but this was far the worst because of how deeply I felt and cared for him. I should mention also at that cafe I had said to him ‘you look uncomfortable, I’m sorry I hurt you’ and he replied and look at me in the eyes, lent in and coldly said ‘you didn’t hurt me’ and his eyes changed to stone cold too for that brief moment then went back to normal. That’s when I felt I didn’t know who he was anymore (that and the other comment I posted earlier) but I was also very scared at that point. He’d only ever looked at me lovingly and now these cold empty eyes were staring at me. Freaked me the fuck out.

Jessica trash,You look gorgeous 🌷🌹,Hope you are not with a narcissist!

Same boat no paddles

I am living with a chronic alcoholic now I get it guilt blame and shame. I am getting counseling

jeremy brock Remember , We wrestle not against Flesh and blood but against evil, wicked spirits in high places... it’s not her but the devil. So love your enemy... from a distance.

I’m new to educating my self to what is a narcissist . I put it all out to my narc and in his world because that’s what I believe he has his own world and big words and the definition to them he never has heard of them in his household when he was younger. At least thats what he says..or just denies it all he is a BIG narcissist, ignorant, manipulator and selfish man. And many more!!! I don’t have the support and he has manipulated me in to waiting off on the divorce to avoid child support. I can’t no longer I can’t stand this man and my mind is bursting of if I should just go on the divorce on my own. Sure we need a lawyer, but I really wish he hurry into getting us one so we can do it his way again trying to avoid child support here’s the thing I kind of just want to get over the divorce process i Don’t want child support we have made an agreement he will provide and help with some cash so I say okay, but the process is taking long. I have no support no job and I’m trying to get out ASAP and maybe just even see how I can get help on housing because each day I waste time with him is the hardest I’m slowly getting stronger, but I let this all happen 11 years and educated myself all late. Something funny is he know wants counseling but then also a lawyer I’m like no just the lawyer we don’t got money for both. Before I was the crazy one before the one needed help was just me. Know he wants counseling ja no we will save for one and that be the lawyer because all I want is myself back and my freedom.

@jeremy brock i pray the Lord will bless you on your journey!

looking at the abuser like a "coach", is a tactic I never thought of!! That takes the power from them and gives it back to me. I'm going to watch this again.. there is so much information I really need and the way you explain it is very easy to understand. Thank you!! (SINCERELY!!! THANK YOU SO MUCH!!)💜

Couldn't agree more on this one.

Laura Heller,I admire your pretty smile ☺️!!

did you get the strength to leave the relationship? I just filed for divorce and it took everything I had because I have a trauma bond and I still love him. 😭😭😭

ME TOO. I’m so sorry you’re dealing with this. It’s so hard to advocate for our needs and bring up things that are hurting us when they just come back with “but I’m great in all these ways, doesn’t that make up for it?” The answer is no. But I know it’s hard as hell to walk away, im currently trying to walk away from my relationship too. It’s toxic, there may be love there but there’s also a whole lot of manipulation and immaturity

@@Angelas.Eye_ I will be Sending you strength vibes. 😇

Best wishes to all who are moving on abusers! You all deserve much better.

How did it go?

Dr tuda help me fix my broken relationship he can also help you just as he did mine too

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What can on do if the person ur family

Sometimes you don't realize they're toxic until later, though. And sometimes it's a toxic parent or other family member at home, and you can't simply move out for a number of reasons.

@@tearoses9940 Exactly. In order to stay away from toxic people you would have to never get to know anyone. Toxic people suck you in and only later then turn into themselves. Very traumatic and exhausting.

yes def same

Make sure any male or female dealing with someone like this to make sure you have savings.. Seems alot of us people stay in the relationships because theyre drained helping the unrepentant narassist and their families and in many cases its not appreciated. Definitely protect yourself everyone. Blessings

Yes definitely they use temper tantrums as adults to scare people into doing what they want if name calling didn't work.

Doing those things doesn't make you a bad person,it shows that you are responsible and a respectful human,about the replaceable thing,it depends,every single one of us is unic in their own ways and is important and unreplaceable on their relationships with families and friends,but if we're talking about work stuff or about the world in its own glory,no one really is indispensable, we all can be easily replaced,the problem comes when this type of people feel they're more important than what they are therefore make all the others less,thinking they are the only indispensable one,when in reality no one really is,if we're indispensable is for ourselves,because if we weren't here we couldn't have seen the world,our side of tge world,so we're only indispensable for us,

Yeah so weird that they call us a bad person, when they are the one asking us to do what they want with no regard for our own wellbeing or wants.

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How are things going now? My son and I just got discarded by my wife for some other person that’s not even near being successful. It sucks a lot because I want her to get help and want this family.. but I know I shouldn’t

Pls.. wassup me. My name is Eric from GHANA. 0550371598

Same here girl.... I can feel you

Duty, wtf?

I got after our wedding, ‘you’re married now, you can’t do what you want’, when all I was doing was catching up with the same friends I had before the marriage for a drink. It took five years and his behaviour got worse, but I divorced that man and never looked back.

@@viewmodeimages350 How did you not see any signs long before the altar.

@IAm Moana Thanks, I agree, but having seen it at its fundamentals and close up, for most of my life, I can say abuse is built into our society.

The fits they will throw are worst than a 2 year old child that didn't get their way. It's the most unattractive sight to see.

Yes. They have a way of blaming you for what they are or aren't, how their life turned out, and basically blaming you for your not being a good enough parent. I remind my son that there are many successful, rich and famous people in this world who came.from poverty, broken homes, etc., because we are what we want to be.

Claiming that your kids are the narcs is suspicious. How’d they become that way? Didn’t you raise them?

@@willywanker5866 The four of them were raised by me up to the ages of between 3 and 9. Then their mother and I divorced. She and her husband did the raising, I had visitation rights but I wasn't the full time parent. Whether they're your offspring or not, a 40 yr old who still blames their parents for how their life turned out and tries to leverage that into getting special treatment has some serious personal issues to work out.

@@tonydelariva7163 when it’s your own offspring, I’d imagine that hurts in a special way. I would be hurt if I knew my offspring were hurting me and others.

John Clayton thank you!

I did the same thing..He won't stop calling. I blocked his number but it still shows up on my phone. He loves to hear himself talk and it's aways his way and when I say no to something he accuses me of" cheating"

Stay strong 💪

Re- blocking after he manipulated/ guilted me after a forced visit after he finally moved out. Key Words: “healthy “ vs the manipulator = I’m done being little miss nice gurl!!

Good luck ,stay strong