I don't mind giving simple answers about my child's obvious disabilities, but when I get the "What's wrong with him?" question, I just say "Nothing's wrong with him." And wait for them to ask a better question.

Me and my daughter were at the swimming pool one day getting dressed, and we heard a disabled person communicating. She asked "Why is that person making strange noises, Mama?" And I was initially horrified about the question but I'm glad that I was able to quickly give myself a mental slap and say "Well, I'm not sure exactly, but that person is disabled. Do you know what disabled means?" She said no. I said "it means not able to do something. In this case, the person can communicate, just not with words. They use their own sounds instead." I then asked her if she had things that she couldn't do and we talked about her severe nut allergies. Then we talked about my mental health problems in a casual way too. We then talked about things that me, her, and the disabled person CAN do. All in all, I think I've improved since then, but it was such an eye-opening conversation for me in learning about how to talk about disability and to not shy away from those important questions!

Hearing you say "I don't believe in bad children" has restored my faith in mankind by 1%.

My son was bullied out of school because the adults refused to discipline the bully over and over. My son didn't deserve to be tortured daily just because he has autism. BTW love your dress, Jessica

My granddad was partially paralysed at the age of 5 because of polio. He walked with crutches until he died at 69, he had a wife and two daughters and was praised for his career of teaching German in a university. And still! It was heartbreaking for me to see small kids screaming and running away in fear when they saw him, pointing, shouting ... And their parents did nothing, oftentimes they were equally shocked. We should educate our little ones and be kind

Jessica, I really appreciate the comment about not discussing your children's disabilities with other people. I have a skin condition (not disabling, though I also have disabilities) that embarrassed me a lot as a kid, and my mom would just have long, friendly conversations with strangers about it, and it made me feel uncomfortable. When I told her I didn't like the situation, she acted like I was the problem, and I just had to deal with the whole thing in silence. It's taking me years to understand and come to terms with how that (among other things) impacted my sense of bodily autonomy and ability to accept myself.

I started the kid at 9-10 months old with “be careful of my boo-boo hand/back/whichever body part wasn’t cooperating” and he understood. I expanded it as he got older, but teeny kids can absolutely understand differences - disability or otherwise - very early. I have bright colored hair & a nose ring, my sisters have multiple tattoos, his grandfather and cousin are very tall, & hearing aids, canes, & walkers are no big deal. All those things are completely normalized for him as “some people are/have _____ and some aren’t/don’t”.

watching this as a disabled teen- this is great, I see so much ableism around me from people my age and it's so tiring to unteach people things they learned as kids.

"My DNA left the factors with a missing piece and now my body and instruction manual don't match" is a fantastic intro! And yes, this is a fantastic video! I hope many people see it!

I remember as a kid in primary school seeing the disabled kids at school and they were just seen as weird. No one properly discussed disabilities so to other kids they seemed weird. I had no idea what autism or Down syndrome or adhd was. And then when I started seeing similarities between me and some of the kids with disabilities, it scared me. I didn’t want to be a weird kid so I just tried to hide it. And I did hide it for many years until I hit puberty and it all became too much. And then when I was told there might be something different about me and we should talk to a doctor, I cried. I didn’t want to be seen as different, as one of the weird kids. I had suspected it but I had always told myself it wasn’t true because I didn’t want it to be real. We sang songs at school about diversity and how everyone is different and stuff like that but disability was just never really discussed, especially invisible disabilities. I can’t remember it but presumably my parents would of taught me about visible disabilities when I saw people with them and asked questions about it as a young kid. But you don’t see invisible disabilities so I never asked about them and my parents didn’t teach me about them.

I think this video almost single-handedly cured my internalised ableism. I’m starting sixth form in September and I was considering not using my mobility aids to avoid the awkward questions and explanations, but I want younger kids in the school to know that if they need mobility aids they aren’t alone. For any (current/future) parents in the comments, my personal opinion on people asking about what my disabilities are in public if we’re strangers is don’t ask, unless you have a little kid with you because I’m always up for explaining to them about disability and also I think they’re adorable.

When I was a teenager I was trying to educate my younger brother about disability by saying "You know how your friend has a hearing aid? They are helping him hear just like glasses help some of your friends see, they are just less common." His answer was "Well I guess it is less common." I realised then that educating is a skill and there are definitely pitfalls😅 He's a teenager now and I still try to talk to him about important things and give him education and perspective and it's still hit and miss. I definitely have some of this work to do before having my own child.

This video was the perfect break from writing my master's thesis on how disability is represented and taught about in early years settings in the UK. Children are amazing learners, and discriminatory behaviours are learnt, so lessons about inclusion and differences can never happen too soon.

I had a great-aunt growing up who was a polio survivor who required mobility aids full-time. I don't quite remember how my parents talked to me about it it when I was really little, but I do remember from a VERY young age keeping my eyes out for how people using wheelchairs, walkers, crutches, etc. could get around the various places I would go because the fact some people needed ramps, wide and clear hallways, etc. was very much in my mind.

When I was little I saw someone using a scooter to get around. Now I had seen wheelchairs, but the scooter just looked like a baby motorcycle. I asked about it because I couldn't understand how they could use their small motorcycle inside. My grandparents told me it was a scooter. Really didn't mean anything to me. So I went up to the Lady in the red scooter and told her it would look better with flames painted on the back 😊 She laughed and said it might help it go faster 😂

Disabled mum here. I've found saying "SOME people... Xyz" is super helpful. Especially as in the past my 4yo made some comments about how "everyone" was a certain way. Now she has picked up on it and she'll just observe things like "some people use a wheelchair" or "some people have two legs but not all people" or whatever. It's so simple but so effective. I feel like it's a great way to make a base level for learning about any sort of difference in future.

My mom is having some difficulty walking around due to a benign tumor in her knee. She loves to go on walks and hang out with her friends. She feels like a burden and that she should just pull up her bootstraps and deal with the pain. I am trying to convince her to get a wheelchair for when she needs it. She was raised in a time when you don't ask for help. Your videos have taught me so much about ways I can be better. Thank you.

My child is autistic and non-binary. I appreciate this video so much! Our library had a list of books about neurodiversity so I ordered all the middle grade ones to our branch. My child loved Fifty-Four Things Wrong with Gwendolyn Rogers and asked to give copies to both the best and worst adults at school.

I have a learning disability and I had a coworker make fun of me because I was getting overstimulated with the loud music and trying to help patients/customers at the same time. I had to explain to him why that happens to me and then he seemed to understand.

The cerebral palsy centre near me growing up had a pool and ran swimming classes for mixed abilities. I learnt to swim there as a toddler. I think it was a great experience because at a very young age when pretty much every experience was something new I was meeting and playing with children very different abilities -and we where all little bobbing blobs in armbands once in the water anyway! I also thought cerebral palsy was the name of the pool.

Honestly, I wish people would just come up and ask me why I use a mobility aid instead of staring. I would feel soooo much more comfortable that way!

i grew up around disabled people, mostly bc my school had a DHH program. i'm grateful my teachers were very clear and kind talking about disability. being comfortable around mobility aids seems to be a "skill" when it should be a fact of life. it's also made it much easier to come to terms with my own disabilities now.

My MH therapist has a whiteboard, I enjoyed this one message in particular. "I am a complex and amazing mix of meat and electricity."

In terms of the Identity First vs Person First language, Im currently in the middle of being assessed for Autism, and I much prefer saying autistic rather than "has/with autism" because PF makes it sound like an accessory rather that something that is basically the very fabric of my being, and what makes me the person I am.

I really appreciate this video. As a child, I was always scared to interact with disabled people. Scared I would say or do the wrong thing and offend people. It was only in my late teens when I realized I was disabled myself, and always had been, that I started to reach out to other disabled people. I realized there was nothing to be scared of, and that avoiding others with disabilities was harmful in its own way. I wish I was taught that as a kid, instead of needing to find that out when I finally recognized my own disability. I hope both kids and adults learn that for themselves in the future.

9:55 i also like to let my kids know, not everyone has the same home life. That can also have an effect on how children react or behave. ❤️

Thanks so much for this! The idea of kids being "too young" to learn about disability when like....I'm disabled from a birth injury, I didn't have a choice in not learning. People are never "too young" to be disabled (except people have told me I'm too young to be lol) so why is there this age limit on learning about it... It would have been amazing to have young peers who understood ableism and disability, and for me to have a more concrete understanding. Kids are smarter than people may give them credit for. Honestly I experience more ableism from adults.

Love this ☺ I always felt very attacked by the 'Ten Little Fingers, Ten Little Toes' book, though. 😅 Great for inclusion of many other differences, but to unite all those differences under 'but everybody knows that every little baby has ten little fingers and ten little toes' just made me feel (as someone without those things) even more different and excluded. I get that all books can't be everything to everyone, of course, but I have vivid memories of that one! ❤ xx

All my little family (me, partner and 2 sons) have high functioning Autism. When my eldest started school, we got a book called “all cats have Aspergers” (this was before it was decided Aspergers was a bad word) it is a fabulous picture book that helps very young children understand about autism. But my sons still had bullying. Because other parents didn’t teach their children to be understanding 😢 I am a wheelchair user too, so my boys were asked a little about my wheels….I used humour to help youngsters understand xx

It's probably quite helpful for the siblings of disabled kids too. My brother is autistic and growing up I always had to field questions about why my brother was acting a certain way or what austism is, even though I didn't fully understand it myself. I once explained it to some people at school as, "he doesn't really get jokes" because that's some random thing I'd picked up on. 😆 To me, he was just my brother and those were things he did - I always knew about his diagnoses, but I didn't necessarily understand what that meant. In a similar vein, I knew that he couldn't eat certain foods because they made him feel unwell, but I wouldn't have been to explain to someone else why. Basically, I wish that the wider world at the time would have understood more about autism and neurodiversity in general, because it would have made life easier for both my brother and me. Hopefully, future generations have a better awareness and understanding growing up than mine did.

This is such a great video, thank you. I’d add if you’re a newly disabled person (or person with disabilities) be aware of your own internalised ableism and/or disableism and accept your differences. Trying to be cured/fixed/normal before taking part in life again might mean missing out for decades because it’s not, as one GP suggested I should explain my predictably unpredictable body to very young nephews and nieces, being “just a bit poorly”. 💐💝

My gf has eds and I have joint hypermobility which causes similar symptoms joint wise. We have gotten SO good at putting each other's joints back in place.

As a mom of two on the spectrum and having fibromyalgia myself, thank you of the comment of "talk to them about other things unrelated too". I get real sick of talking or thinking about it sometimes and just want to feel like everyone else.

One book on your list surprised me. It's called Ten Little Fingers and Ten Little Toes. It says that whatever other differences they have, each baby has ten little fingers & ten little toes. It's a lovely idea - that all people have some basic things in common with each other. But in fact, many people do not have ten fingers and ten toes. So while it is generally inclusive, it is not specifically disability inclusive.

This video made me cry a bit. My oldest is Autistic and has significant challenges in communication and social situations. As the parent of a disabled child it is exhausting to always have to explain my child’s situation whenever something unexpected happens (especially since my child stims a lot).

As someone from the US I prefer the person first language approach. I don't like using the words "disabled" and "handicapped" to talk about myself. ALWAYS ASK the person what language they want you to use around them. Yeah, I also can't stand the "insporation porn" and other random ignorant comments from people. Thank you for making this video.

Our blind cat helps us to open this conversation with our kids. I think watching him navigate his world in his own way has helped them understand a bit more. They do feel bad for him sometimes and we remind them that he's never had eyes and he seems to be okay with that.

I wish I could like this a million times. I’d only add that local general culture on the person first debate doesn’t determine how individuals feel. So pay attention to whether someone introduces themselves as a “deaf person” or a “person with autism” and follow their lead.

If you are looking for a book recommendation, "Just Like You" by Marilyn Joy Anderson was written by a woman with a limb difference about a young girl who happens to only have one hand. A great "own voice" children's book in the subject of disability.

As a chronic condition sufferer who sometimes needs a cane and teaches kids, I have always wondered how to teach them about me. This is so helpful! Thank you!

Every five seconds or so when watching this video, I am struck by how VITAL this vid truly is! Thank you so much for taking the time (and energy) to make it - and happy EDS Awareness Month from a fellow zebra ✨

My six-year-old has type 1 diabetes. Since his diagnosis about four years ago, we've made a point about openly discussing his condition-and other similarities and differences in our bodies-among our family. It's been a great way to normalize it for him and his little brother. He's growing into a wonderfully kind and welcoming person, offering boundless adoration and joy to all his friends, including a little girl in his class who is in a wheelchair. It's just so sweet to watch him live his life with confidence, and extend that acceptance and inclusivity to everyone he meets.

Thank you for making this video! As a non-disabled person, regarding language, I use both identity first and person-first language. The key to identity-first language is that different people have different identities/relationships with their condition (even between two people with the same condition/community). I cannot know what someone's identity is prior to getting to know them. Therefore, when I am speaking generally about disability or someone I don't know, I always use person first language which is rather neutral. Once I know how someone identifies and how they like to be referred to, I always use their language in reference to them, be that person-first or identity-first language. I think until you know, person first language is much more respectful as a standard. I think that disabled people, in reference to themselves, should choose whatever makes them most comfortable regardless of what anyone around them likes, and feel empowered to ask others to refer to them in that way. If your name is Elisabeth and you hate being called 'Lizzy,' it's okay to correct people who refer to you as 'Lizzy.' This is the same thing. Anyone who responds poorly or doesn't respect your request is probably not a respectful person in general, and that's not bad information to have.

15:00 A reaction to that that I personally love and often use for my own disability if I don't want to get into detail because reasons is: "There are several reasons why people can use .... for example.... ." You could follow it up with something along the line of: "I don't know why this person is using ...." Or with: "It is not polite to ask them about their condition though." Or something else. In my case this looks like: "There are several reasons why people could use a Service dog/Medical Allert dog like epilepsy, diabetes, PTSD and POTS." If I feel save enough I will follow it up with: "Not everyone likes to share their medical conditions though. So please keep that in mind."

Thank you so much for this video. My daughter is almost four and definitely noticing people with, for example, mobility aids in public. I will thank Daniel Tiger and my local library for setting the stage, for exposing her to characters with a variety of disabilities. So I can relate back what she’s seeing to something she already knows. I always admit I don’t know for sure why someone might be, for example, using a cane, but I say, it helps them walk. She obviously follows that up with, why? Cause she’s a kid and that’s what they do. 😅 I say, maybe they hurt their foot, maybe walking hurts, or maybe they need help with their balance. I really hope if they over hear me that they aren’t offended by my maybes. But I definitely try and answer her questions fully and neutrally.

Living in a city with two kids has made me very thankful that they have always approached difference from a place of curiosity and not fear or disgust. When they were really little, they seemed to see visible disabilities as an extension of the variety they saw everyday and were equally curious about people with fantasy hair colors as they were about people with automated wheel chairs. I am incredibly thankful for the people who were willing to answer my daughter's questions about how their devices work, because she's really just interested in the tech. As the parent, I've noticed that my kids look to me to see what my reactions to the people around us/our environment is and then their behavior changes. So to any parent who has been troubled by their child's reaction to people with visible differences, I would suggest analyzing your feelings and behavior. It may not be a conscious thing and I'm not suggesting you're behaving in an obviously inappropriate way, but your children will pick up on your unspoken subtle messages and magnify them. Book Recs for ages 5+: Just Ask: Be Brave, Be Different, Be You by Sonia Sotomayor is a lovely book about a group of children building a garden together and how all the children have differences and what they (those differences) look and feel like. Justice Sotomayor wrote this book because of her experiences growing up with Type 1 Diabetes. People by Peter Spiers is one from my childhood that gets periodic updates to make sure all the information is current. It has illustrations showing different people and cultures, writing, body parts, ways of dress, etc. It's very matter of fact and it introduces children to the sheer variety of human experience so they're never without a frame of reference. One thing that I love is that it makes the point that every person is trying to look beautiful and feel beautiful, but that different cultures have different ideas on what that is. All Are Welcome by Alexandra Penfold shows children of different backgrounds, abilities, races, and ethnicities going to school and forming a community. The author has other books about difficult feelings and forming a neighborhood that have been critically praised. It Feels Good to be Yourself by Theresa Thorn is about gender identity and presentation that I think is important for all children to have read so they can get some tools to understand themselves and others and how to accept themselves and others. It also takes the mystery away from gender.

Thank you for this it not teaching children but teaching adults too invisible disability get scrutinize because people don’t believe me. I don’t have a scull and have balance issue taking the bus I can’t stand on the bus on the outside I look topical normal I need a seat get real be compassionately. I fell on the sidewalk laying there 20’people walked pass me not asking if I am ok do I need help or need an ambulance get real omg the amount we teach I don’t know how to change people

The main thing I get told (and I'm certain it's said with the best intentions) is: 'Hope you feel better/get all better/recover soon!' 🙄😳🤣

I used to absolutely hate being stared at by kids when I was younger, but what was far worse was whenever I'd hear them ask their parents a question only to be shouted at for 'being rude', before being dragged away. I get that it's awkward and I don't have all the answers, but stop getting angry at kids for being curious.

Also never argue with someone if they are referring to themselves if they use disabled person vs person with a disability regardless on your personal stance. I have been called ableist for calling *myself* disabled because "it's insulting to people with diffabilities". Differently abled is bad enough, diffability needs to be yeeted into a black hole. And specially abled is just 🤮. There is absolutely nothing special about being in pain all day every day. To be clear not every disabled person is in pain all the time, but I am.

I love your emphasis on this video on what everyone can do to be a better part of their communities- that collective responsibility to care for one another, even in the most casual ways.

Thank you for this, despite being disabled myself I needed to be told to teach my kids to not fear disability. My disability was "acquired" (autoimmune that I probably had a genetic predisposition to but that kicked in very suddenly, harshly, and completely, uprooting my entire life) when I was a 36-year-old single mom of kids age 12 and 9. Because it so thoroughly flipped our old life on its head - I was a full-time science teacher and loved adventurous and physical activities, so we would go hiking, camping, biking, etc all the time. Becoming disabled turned ALL our lives upside down- no more of that fun active stuff, no more working at all, etc, and thus...we all pretty much hate it. My youngest, now 15, has developed major depression & anxiety, and my disability is at the top of his list of stressors. So since my disability was a devastating shock that I'm still not great at coping with myself (with little support or extended family, and I live in a conservative state in the US so it's not like supportive laws and policies are ever being passed), of course my kids have a hard time coping. They also were kinda thrust into becoming defacto caregivers, fetching and carrying things for me and such. (US= no universal healthcare, we're rather poor, it's not like I can hire help.) OF COURSE all that would give them a negative and sad view of disability, and it's quite possible that they may feel negatively toward others with disabilities because of me and these experiences. People around me always told me that because my kids have had to experience this and help me, they'll be really compassionate. Instead, they are resentful.. though they do try to still help with the things I ask them to. Ugh, do I have the spoons to add more things to attempt to teach my children that I should've taught them forever ago and I feel it's "too late" now that they're teenagers? I've had to VERY SLOWLY grieve and let go of so many parts of my "past self" due to my lack of ability and proper treatment now, but I haven't paid much attention to my kids' grieving process or any of THEIR emotional journey throughout this, and I have definitely also not made very clear that they shouldn't be afraid or patronizing or pitying or whatever their gut reactions may now be of others with disabilities. Ugh, that was a ramble, but I suppose since I didn't comment right when the video came out, no one will read my comment anyway! haha

I don't have kids but found this very helpful still, bc it shows some ways we talk and think about disability and how else we could talk and think about it. It even made me think about how I frame my own medical stuff, or how I let others frame it without a second thought.

I work as a carer and one time when me and the woman I was working for was out shopping we met a child who was completely amazed at her electrical wheelchair. He was like "does it have an engine??" And when she said yes he was overjoyed 😁

I love this advice! I've been trying to be up-front about my limitations with my niece and nephew since they were born, and the only thing that's really bothered them is when I can't eat what they're eating. I totally understand their concern! They saw me using a cane for the first time this week, and I expected a ton of questions. The almost three-year-old didn't bat an eye, and the almost six-year-old asked why I was using that thing, and was completely satisfied by my answer that it helps me to avoid falling and to not get so tired. Not another peep about it! They will do well with disabled classmates.

I'm going to a 1 y/o birthday party this weekend and was just scrolling through your shorts yesterday looking for book suggestions! Thank you for providing these resources!

I have epilepsy. One time I had a “bad seizure” ( not the absent seizure but the one that people have when they think of seizure just don’t know what they’re called) and freaked out a poor child. When I came back I told the child that basically my body just had a small malfunction but now I’m okay. It calmed them down instantly.

For blindness, I highly recommend Pedro the Octopus, which is written by a Blind author about a little blind boy going to the beach with his family. It has both print and braille in the pages which is a great opportunity to teach young kids about braille, and it also has beautiful tactile graphics, to help kids understand how a blind person might interact with pictures by touch using tactile graphics. I also highly recommend the Oscar and Klaus books about a blind cat and his cited cat brother going on adventures. These books were written by cited authors, but they did a lot of collaboration with a Blind community and won various awards from Blindness organizations for their portrayal, so they’re pretty reputable. They don’t have tactile graphics, but they do have braille, and they do a good job explaining how a blind person might interact with scenery and technology and what kind of things they might notice first.

Great video. Even though I’m disabled I definitely learned something. I also realized I need to be better about enforcing my boundaries with regards to the labor I do for others when explaining my disability

Thank you for this! I remember being undereducated as a kid & not knowing how to react to people who were different in that way. When I have my own children I want them to be kind and accepting towards everyone, no matter what differences.

Thank you for this. I have had a hard time figuring out how to get my toddler to stop asking people “what happened” when he sees something different on someone. I have told him people all have different bodies and some people need things to help them do things.

I love that you understand the ridiculousness of pointing out to children exactly what they should ignore.

I just want to mention the KZfaq channel "special books by special kids" - it's a great channel to learn about disabilities and I love how the creator, Chris, focuses on showing the personalities of the people he interviews!

Lol it's also lupus awareness month. I feel conflicted about telling my nibblings about my disability when grown ups can't even wrap their minds around how I can be sick but "not look sick"

I used to refer to power chairs & mobility scooters as prams with motors when kido was 2-3yo. "That pram has a motor, I have to push you up the ramp" I got some weird looks but it was a concept that he could understand.

My uncle had spina bifida and I remember being scared of him because he rolled his head. His physicality was never discussed with us and I think it would have been kinder, fairer, and more inclusive if we’d been told as young children what was going on and why he was different. This feeling did fade as I grew older and I remember the time I shared with my uncle fondly.

I'm not disabled nor will I ever have children but Jessica is so articulate and fascinating I can't help but watch every video 🤧

I'm 20 and still remember the books I had before I could read. Looking back, they were some very problematic ones. I wish I had books like the ones you are recommending and learned some of the things I had to teach myself after turning 18 from books at a much younger age. Anyways, all that to say books do make a difference and leave their mark!

I'm a few years away from having children of my own, but I'm really looking forward to having Jessica's own books to share with them, I'm sure hers will be thoughtful kind and educational!

Thank you so much for sharing these tips!

Exactly the video I've been looking for thank you!

“Bodies Are Cool” by Tyler Feder is one of our favorites. Also, “Families Can” by Dan Saks.

Fantastic video! Thank you so much for sharing it. ❤

Such helpful suggestions both about it never being too early but also about the differentiation possible + helpful at different ages. Thank you!

You really did a fantastic, informational video here Jessica!!

This is great information for children and adults. Thank you for explaining all of this in such an eloquent while also straightforward way.

This was so informative! Thank you! It seems like you are feeling better. I hope you are.

I was born with Cerebral Palsy and I have been bullied my whole life so this actually makes me happy

Thank you so so much for this video and also for the book list! I live in a very rural area where my toddler is very rarely exposed to differences and so books are such a brilliant way to introduce her to these concepts.

This video just blew me away! It was incredibly informational and insightful. Everyone should watch and learn from this, not just parents.

I've been watching you for so long and now that I've started going to uni for early childhood education these videos mean so much more to me. Because now I feel like I'm not just educating myself and being made aware of stuff I want to continue to work on, I also can share these amazing videos with my peers from uni to give them an easy start into why educating young kids on these topics is so important. Please never forget what important work you are doing and I'm so incredibly grateful for you!

Back in the 90s we had a copy of Where's Chimpy? by Berniece Rabe. The girl in the story has Down's Syndrome but the story is about her missing toy monkey and where it could possibly be. I don't know if it is still in print. The illustrations were photographs so I guess it would look a little dated now. Fun story though.

Thank you, Jessica, so much for the book list! I recently became a mom to a 1 month old baby and I've made a point of adding reading to our bedtime ritual at week 1 so it's very useful for me to have knowledge of books about disabled people. We have a lot of trouble getting those books from family and even friends

This is brilliant, Jessica! Thank you so much for providing such clear education about how to teach children about disabilities!

Yaaaaaaaayy thank you jessica! (I got some stuff from your shop, Id been meaning to for ages but forgot, so now its yay) (also yay, really appreciate the eye contact in this video, some of the recent ones youve been looking around or to the side alot, and it makes me subconsciously jumpy, so Im glad for a steady eye in this one, and noticed how much calmer I feel listening ❤) Thank you for always being such a positive light, speaking honestly, not fake positivity, but self acceptance postivity, its so wholesome, and I need that in my life 🎉

This is a lovely, helpful video, Jessica. Thank you for making it. I hope you’re having more good days than bad ones. 🎀💖🎀

My parents had a great answer when little-kid me was asking for knowable information: “It’s just an is.”

Thanks! I sent this video and your ableism video to my school staff, and linked it to our ongoing prof development on equity and culturally responsive practice.

I love this video so much. Thank you for trying to make this clear for people. I saw way too many comments that basically said “I can’t teach my child everything about everything so therefore you can’t get mad at me for not making any effort at all” on the last time you tried to bring this up, when that wasn’t the point at all. Children are curious, and we need to be ready for it!

Firstly: A book I have not yet had chance to read and does come from the parent of a disabled child vs actually disabled person is ABC of inclusivity. I like that each child is in there in that order due to their name, not their condition, so Cooper, who is Deaf, is the entry for C, not D. Secondly: I didn't even know things like autism or dyslexia existed for way too long. I was told I had aspergers aged 12 but nobody explained what exactly it meant or that it is part of Autism (I much prefer ASD now) and it was a classmate in college who told me they were dyslexic, and then I found more and more of my friends were dyslexic. I didn't even know it existed and then suddenly I find out it's super common? I think that was my first experience with hidden disability (I didn't learn more about autism until I was about 23-25)

This was helpful and made me think about interactions with disabled people differently. Even as someone who is not anywhere close to becoming a parent

I remember a boy at the kindergarten who had Down syndrome (if I remember correctly, I was 4 at the time) and I was a bit scared of him because he was very loud and had sometimes had outbursts of emotions. The kindergarten teachers explained us other kids that he preferred playing alone and struggled with speech but never he was different. It's my mother who explained me what it was about. And my father volunteered in a nursing home and in an association for disabled people and often took me with him on his visits so I was very early aware that people used mobility aids, or hearing aids and such things. I remember a very kind lady who always had chocolate for me and my sister and just loved being around children; she used a wheelchair because of her mutliple sclerosis and needed assitance for her daily life. It was an honour to hold the door open for her to pass, because she was so elegant and refined it felt like holding the door for a queen. My father was very keen to educate me (and my sister later) about disabilities and naming them. My mother was uneducated about invisible disabilities until recently (when I got my autism and EDS diagnosis) but she always tried her best to answer my questions. I also have several more or less distant relatives with chronic medical conditions and/or disabilities so it was always discussed openly in the family.

"we're all different and it's fine!" ❤❤

My mother did fun activities with my sister and I where she would blindfold us and get us to touch water, grass, tree bark etc or put the speakers on the floor to let us feel music rather than listen to it. She taught young people with disabilities as part of her job and doing these activities showed us 'disability' was just a different way of experiencing the world, and that all experiences are unique and valid and all lives are worth living.

This needs to be shared by everyone Jessica, wonderful subject that everyone should know! Thank you for explaining things at every level as well, I'm disabled and even I was thinking "Yes, she's right about that!" or "I never thought about that." 🥰

I think this is officially my favourite video you’ve done so far. Thank you for so roundedly and articulately sharing such an important message. I have EDS too and a sister with developmental disabilities so this is something am passionate about. But now i have something I can share with people so thank you so so much

Thank you for this video! ❤ I wore hearing aids since early childhood and I agree with what you said. Everyone should learn from this video since it’s on point. 😊

THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR MAKING THIS ! Exactly at the time i need it :). I'm working on a project about hidden disabilities/ wheelchair users (children's book) for my portfolio. I have experience with cronic pain and illnes, have some disabled friends but am still on reaserch part if the proces. I'm pretty anxious about making the book (even if it's just fir my portfolio and not going to be published) and your video is helping. I plan on contacting a disability organisation soon for extra tips.

Jessica, maybe you should write a series of children's books about disabilities. I'm sure there are parents who would love the resource to help their children learn about others with disabilities. ❤

This video is amazing! Thank you for high lighting invisible disabilities. Special thanks for the book list. I am going to see if any of these are in Spanish. ❤❤❤