I must say that I really love how you respect Rupert's sense of privacy, and blur his face when it's on camera, etc. It's so refreshing to see a baby that is so loved and respected that you don't exploit him for money or internet attention. How wonderful!

Jessica, the most important aspect you did not even mention - the fact that you THOUGHT about being a parent. Most people never even think about it and assume that they would be 'good' parents, without ever thinking about what parenthood entails. I think the biggest gift we could give our children is to be mindful parents who actually consciously think about the actions and thought processes involved in parenthood. In my experience, it does NOT come naturally, it takes conscious effort. I think you and Claudia are wonderful parents.

If anyone is worried about dropping babies - my able-bodied dad FELL DOWN THE STAIRS while holding baby me and we were both just fine - evidently I really enjoyed sliding down on his stomach!

I am the daughter of a disabled parent. I never felt like my Mom was a bad Mom and I never felt like I was missing out on something due to her illness. On the contrary, I learned a lot from her and we have a deep relationship. Because she was not able to physically do things with us, that just meant we had more time to talk. I literally feel like my Mom taught me everything she knew. Having that breadth of knowledge has been a great resource in my life.

I'm also disabled and have been working really hard to try to get to a point where I can have kids. Videos like this mean the world to me.

Well honestly who wouldn't miss Claudia? It's lovely to see Jessica on her own, but when Claudia is there, Jessica just glows, and besides, Claudia is so funny. Together, they make a great pair, then add in Rupert and two little dogs and you get the Utube channel.

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This is such a painful topic for me. Parenting with disability. My children are grown now (20 and almost 18), but when they were younger, when I first became disabled, people tried to take my children away from me. There was an (erroneous) assumption that me being disabled meant I was automatically a bad mom. So people tried to take my kids... multiple times, multiple different people. I have a non disabled husband who was helping but no one ever asked if my husband was helping with the kids. Or if I was actually able to care for them. There's a lot of biases especially against disabled women in my experience. I hope it is getting better with time. I'm doing my best to advocate against ableism. I know you can be a great mom even with disability. ❤

I also find it a advantage with my autism when I connecting with children. Often I’m very popular both with small children but also teenagers. Like ask for their interest, knowing boundaries and not force kids to hug you, be literally when you speak with them etc.

We always miss Claudia! Her dry, British humor is fabulous.

Both my brother and my Dad have ReSound hearing aids and they have been life-changing for them! It's so nice that they can stream content through their hearing aids from the TV or other devices as it means that the rest of the (non-HOH) family doesn't have to have the TV on so loud! I also have EDS so it is really nice to hear about the ways in which it can be incorporated into parenting and that it can even make you a better parent. Thank you so much for sharing such a positive view of this!

“I can paralyze parts of my body,” like it’s a party trick. I’m a disabled mom, though I didn’t start getting sick until my youngest was about 3? He’s 14 now. And four other boys-18, 20, 22, 24. They’re adorable, even though they’re all taller than me.

I loved the family's outfits in this video: Jessica in red, Claudia in blue, with Rupert in yellow making all three primary colors, and everybody wearing white to pull it together!

as a disabled person who plans on having kids your videos help a lot with showing that although we may not be able to do some things, we also bring other strengths and points of view to raising a kid. love you both and thank you

This is so true about bilingual children with One Parent, One Language Rule: The kids tend to not like their parents switching languages. It's not so much that they think you don't understand the language, even with bilingual parents. I started speaking only English with a trilingual 3 year old CODA and they didn't like me signing to them. While I am fluent in ASL, if I signed, the kid would they'd roll their eyes at me. Children are learners of their language. The inconsistency with 1 parent, 1 language drives them batty. Makes them think more than they can handle. Alternatively, I also worked with another bilingual hearing child with parents who spoke German and English -switching it up. They encouraged me to use ASL as much as I wanted. From infancy, I went back and forth between English and ASL. The kid did not mind (though usually responded to me in English). I mainly spoke English with them, some sign, and as I was already learning German as a 4th language (still am), I would practice a little with the kid and they did not mind it at all.

The arrow pointing at you saying "clumsy adult" lol. Love your sense of humour. That boy is very lucky to have such funny parents.

I was a spousal caregiver for 15 years (before i developed a chronic illness/ disability myself), my ex has life- long disablities, we didn't have children but wanted them. Often, when I was upset about not having children, able- bodied, well- meaning parents would tell me 'Maybe it's a good thing you guys don't have kids' [because parenting is hard, and they couldn't imagine doing it with a disability/ caregiver}. So... 1-- thanks for assuming I/ we couldn't handle it, and that a disabled person can't raise a child. and 2--. that is the most hurtful and painful thing you can say to a person who wants kids, IMO. Not to mention the fact that we knew a good number of people with disabilities who had children!! (often people that siad able- bodied commentator also knew...). oh, and 3-- they also seemed to conveniently forget that at any time/ moment /day they themselves could become disabled... As you can probably imagine, i really struggle on Mother's Day. :(

Omg the worried you would drop him thing I can relate to so much! Right before my best friend had her first baby, my godson, I started dropping things all the time and my shoulders got significantly worse with flares, pain, and weakness. I was so scared I was going to drop him to the point where for like the first couple of months I would only hold him sitting down. And I did need a lot of help then as far as propping and stuff because babies are heavier than you'd think especially when all they're doing is sleeping lol. But by month 4 I was walking holding him with one arm and carrying his bottle or my coke in the other hand. It really surprised me how gradually and how much strength I built up with him. I still could never carry him in his car seat and now that he's 4 I have to sit to hold him and for hugs and stuff but I was capable of more than I thought. She's having baby number 2 in May and I feel a lot less anxiety this time around.

”No mother, use your voice” Hahaha I missed Claudia’s humor so much 😂🥰

The way Claudia said "I'm back" at the start of the video was adorable

This might be the first time that a parent has said that their baby wants too much broccoli

I am disabled and am due to have my planned c section tomorrow. I have to say that I'm quite nervous, but so excited about meeting our baby boy 💜 xx

Well... This brought me to tears. I am currently disabled because of my trauma related disorders and ADHD. I am in therapy and on medications and am working hard towards my goal, which is rejoining the workforce in a way that is both rewarding and sustainable. Ideally I would have full financial independence, but we'll have to see. I just feel so helpless all the time. And although the state grants me a (barely) living wage, I hate being dependant. Your video is giving the space to be mild towards myself. I do not have to be "normal" to be a contributing member is society. Even now, people have told me my mere presence brings them joy. I'm childlike in my joy of the world, and I'm generally a happy and bubbly person. So, I feel I do help others, even if I am a burden to society. I really do look up to you. So, thank you for being a beacon light.

Yay, Claudia! I missed you terribly! I hope you'll both have an amazing holiday ❤

My mom was not that patient to the point my grandma would take me after kindergarten to read at the library because my mom was not interested. So it really does take a village because you never knew what is going to make you lose that patients. I know I say this often in my comments but you both are really a lovely family. And its really nice to see that its possible to be that genuine about it.

This is a really lovely video. Not that I want children (I gotta admit being disabled is part of that reason, not bc I think I'd be a bad parent, but bc I feel like I wouldn't have the energy to raise a child) but it is nice seeing another disabled person finding positive aspects of being a disabled parent.

I'm not disabled but have a chronic illness and this has filled me with a lot of optimism. I also think that, both of you, but Jessica in particular, is thriving as a parent. That is really wonderful to see! A lot of able-bodied people go through life and on a (physical level, at least) - it's quite a breeze. I really do think that your physical limitations are standing you in good stead to be a more empathetic and patient parent - something that a lot of able-bodied people of our generation struggle with in our "click a button and you got it" world. Most of the vloggers I watch are able-bodied, and I sometimes feel that (although they'd never say it), there's a tinge of regret since they became parents, being that there life is not as easy as it once was. I really don't get those vibes with you guys. Rupert is very, very lucky!

Rupert is so lucky to have two mothers that are loving and willing to consider his perspective for where he is at right now in his development. Especially blessed to have parents that not only love him, but can also model a healthy love.

Anytime a child can learn another language is truly a blessing! I wish I could talk more than English and Swedish. I learned some signs due to a person in my kindergarden group that had Down syndrome and I’m still thankful for knowing those words and songs. But I wish that I kept learning it so I truly could speak it

How are you two always such wholesomeness goals 😭 Your little "you're the best mama/mummy in the world"/"our baby's pretty great" exchange was just the best! ❤️

Rupert has the funniest, coolest, most loving mums. Lucky kid.

Rupert is getting so big! Oh my goodness! You guys are so precious together, you literally finish one another's sentences! One of the things I like best about your channel is that you seldom don't look into the camera so reading lips is very easy.

I'm an autistic mum. My 8mo daughter also has sensory issues and I can recognize when and why something is bothering her. I can also communicate well without words.

Yes, we missed our gorgeous Claudia! I’m so glad y’all are getting away to somewhere warm and sunny. Jessica, I know it’s scary. I have a bit of agoraphobia (had a LOT of it at one point) and always struggle when I have to go somewhere. But I’m nearly always glad I did. I’m rooting for you.

Firstly, it is always like a ray of sunshine to get a notification of a new video of yours! Secondly, I am so glad that you made this video! I know you were dealing with some insecurities around this topic, so it is great to share your positive thoughts on it with others and definitely for you to have them. Also: Yay, Claudia!

I think so many elderly would need those hearing aids! I feel like most often the ordinary hearing aids don’t even work.

As a person with deafness in one ear I found this to be a wonderful thing. It meant I could hold a screaming baby on my deaf side and it was just noise, whereas on my hearing side it was unbearable and made my head echo dreadfully. I was so thankful for that loss of hearing.

This filled me with hope and joy, i have depression and i think this way of looking at disability will help me when i become a mum one day, thank you xx

I was expecting you to say that between more patience and deafness, you were the expert at dealing with him when he's cranky and crying!

"he won't stand on his legs, but can he stand on his arms?" 🤣🤣🤣

Came to this channel years ago because of a video on deafness, stayed because the content is amazing, and today I laughed when I saw that this video’s sponsor is GN ReSound! I’m currently a second year AuD (doctor of audiology) student in America and I work with ReSound hearing aids all the time. Glad to see you’re loving them and getting good benefit from them, Jessica! (The rechargeable case is one of my favorite features, too!)

It’s amazing to see the positive you’ve found with raising Rupert We had a little giggle at the gymnastics suggestion 😅 And it was nice to see Walter. And we missed seeing Claudia

He’s so big! The three of you are adorable and I’m glad to see you guys. Stay safe and happy!

I’m almost 30 and my partner and I have discussed pregnancy and becoming parents extensively, but I’ve had a lot happen to me and am only now coming to terms with my limitations as a disabled person. Becoming a parent is so scary to me but this perspective is so reassuring 💕 Thank you both!!

Being disabled has given me a lot resilience. When you are put in a world that doesn't work for you, you become much more adaptable.

I love how your worries and concerns are the same as every new parent in the history of humanity. Seriously, we all have different struggles at different levels, but the constant worry over our children feels universal. I have depression, and explaining to my children why I can and cannot do things with them has made them more resilient and able to express their own feelings openly. I'm not great at a lot of things, but talking frankly to my children is something I feel like I'm good at.

Having EDS and POTS and two young, very active children can be a serious challenge, but you’re right, there are positives! Thank you for the invitation to consider that. I find that even though I can’t chase after my kids like I’d like to, I do end up reading aloud to them a lot because it’s something I can do in a seated position and hold their interest. So now both of my kids are serious book lovers. Also, honestly, I can’t work full time, so I have ended up being a mostly stay-at-home mom, which I wouldn’t be if I could physically work full time. Thus they get a lot of quality time with mom. I’m going to keep thinking of the positives instead of feeling guilty about the negatives!

I'm a deaf parent, with twins born a month after Rupert! I've loved following you guys :)

I've been in the process of embracing my disabilities and realizing that they've made me a better, more empathetic, well rounded person. And even though, I still get frustrated that I can't do things like other people can - I feel better about myself and like I have things to offer. Even though, I always wanted to be a mother... I used to think a child would be unhappy with me as their mother and only focused on what I couldn't offer instead of what I can. Thank you for making this video, Jessica and Claudia. It reaffirms so much and is really encouraging.

of course we missed you claudia 🙏 the two of you have such a wonderful dynamic to watch and it's always great to see you together

Hi Jessica, would you be interesting in making a video about FOMO and disability? I would really be interested in hearing your perspective on this!

Hi! I am A blind early childhood educator in Los Angeles. My specialty is an infant and toddlers, and I’ve been doing this for about six years. If any of your people have any questions feel free to ask!

Different disabilities but I can relate so much to my years as a parent and grandad. Patience with children is definitely one of my strengths and somehow getting to their level. P. S. Always good to see my favourite KZfaq parents.

My sister was about to tell me about your channel, but suddenly she stopped and told me to find your videos to really appreciate your struggle. Indeed, it is an inspiration for future mothers to know your channel.

I too am a handicapable parent. About time people realized all things, all people can sometimes see the positives first.

I have the same fears being a disabled person wanting kids when I was younger I wondered if I could even have kids then I wondered if I would find a could find love and how it would go with me raising a baby. Now I don't have as much worry about it anymore you guys give me hope

Claudia’s hair looks amazing! You guys are amazing parents. I find it really helpful to see another disabled person as a parent, because I really want a family but don’t know how best to adapt things for my disability

First of all, you two are ADORABLE! I also found that sign language was extremely helpful with small children. I stumbled upon it by accident, looking for kids' shows and found a show called Signing Time, which was made by a mom whose child was born deaf and they all learned sign language to communicate. However, since I barely knew any sign language (well ASL in my case... BSL? is slightly different? I know milk is the same now, haha), we mostly only used words... milk, all done (for eating)... a few others. We still use a few signs and I love it that as long as I can get their eye contact, I can talk to them instead of attempting to yell when they're far away. It also helps during meltdowns when my kids can't seem to be able to form words and especially my youngest will sign, usually just no when I ask if they want a hug or something.

Your videos about deafness are so much more helpful to me now than I ever expected. I always found them interesting, but now that my fiancé has hearing aids, you’re a helpful resource to me, and I’m very thankful. His hearing aids are primarily for tinnitus retraining therapy, so he needs them on pretty much 24/7, and I can’t believe how much of a faff the batteries are. It’s a shame he needs them most at night because the rechargeable ones seem so much easier to deal with.

I’m not yet a parent, and I already find my autism useful when interacting with kids. I have a very long term memory, leading me to say things like, “I remember what it’s like when a strange grown up says hello out of the blue,” or “Its weird when parents and aunties recognize the new person and you don’t.” I also give space for similar reasons.

This was such a video of good cheer for me today. My daughter is 7 now and I have been disabled for over 20 years. I expect I had much the same fears as Jessica, but I have also found my disability to be a huge plus in terms of applying my personal experience to my parenting. I know my partner was quite anxious about my physical parenting abilities when we were expecting her, probably more so than me and I know others were as well. But I am certainly the more patient parent lol She is now being assessed for Autism spectrum and here again my experience of my own neurology is helping a great deal in terms of sharing with her my experiences and things that have helped me (although I am not autistic myself I have a neurological disability and have features similar to her). One lovely thing too is as a wheelchair user we have had years of joyful trips out with her on my lap - it's been one of her favourite things to do ever and we're all a bit sad now that she's too big to sit on my lap in my chair anymore! But LOTS of wonderful memories and since we were able to until she was 6 I'm hopeful it will stay with her as a lovely memory. We have had some really difficult times especially when she was a newborn, my body had not yet learnt or had built the muscle strength needed. When I get on the floor I have to crawl and pull myself up on furniture to get up again, I'm pretty slow, but I believe it has also taught her patience as well (some of the time lol!) I was always absolutely determined that she should never be a carer for me (I am in NO way criticising families with young carers) it just didn't feel right for us, but with that, she regularly offers to help me with things and I'll accept if I think it will bring her joy to help out (she offers to help her dad too). We've very much co-parented since she was born and as Jessica and Claudia said with their parenting, we divide up the parenting 'jobs'/roles according to who is best able to do them and that very much works both ways! I will take any opportunity to do art and crafting with her, also baking and making costumes. Her dad will be the one to take her to the park (sometimes we all go), or on hill walks, hikes etc, we all play games together, take it in turns to do the school run (unless I'm too ill that day), read with her, have imagination play with her etc. She loves it all. We love it all. We are struggling with a lot in our lives, my health, our housing, my mobility equipment, my ability to do my self employed design work, my regular hospital treatment, money etc. It's overwhelming at times and also easy to personally feel we are failing, especially as we are only just learning about ASD and trying to access services and finding that a huge struggle in itself. Again my own experiences of struggling to access the support I needed for myself over a long period of time have taught me (unfortunately) the resilience and tenacity required when trying to access support. We are so blessed despite the struggles we have and being parents is profoundly wonderful. I second that being disabled brings many benefits to parenting. Thank you Jessica and Claudia and everyone here sharing x

It's so lovely to listen to you. I am an able, heterosexual parent of a baby just two months younger than Rupert and often find it challenging. Your perspective is so helpful, refreshing and humbling. There's a lot to take away. Thank you!

As someone with multiple disabilities (including POTS!) this video made me tear up a little! I’ve been able see how my nuerodivergencies could really help a child after fighting SO MANY “autism moms” but my physical disabilities worry me more, especially my POTS. Thank you so much so much to encourage disabled parents. You inspire the hell out of me!

After a round of Covid last year, I now have a new perspective on life. I was very ill for a couple of weeks, on a ventilator for 7 days, and when I came to my senses again, I couldn't walk on my own. With much help from physical therapy I was able to walk again after a few days, and miraculously back to work 2 weeks after that. It's not a disability per se, but it made me realize how others with physical disabilities might have it on a daily basis.

"Being messy is not a disability." LOL, something my family could definitely use against me (I'm simultaneously the only physically disabled and most disorganized person in my family, and I don't even have Jessica's memory issues as an excuse).

As a disabled person-I love this video. Not loving that you’re disabled, but you share such good positive education about disabilities and living differently abled. Thanks for sharing.

As an Audiologist I can also say they're fab too 😀

I genuinely missed awesome wife/mom/person named Claudia. She is fun and totally relatable. Plus both lesbian moms is always better than one!

The way you fall looks like one of the dancing tube men at car dealerships

I think you’re both great mums and you make a great family, and love seeing Claudia in this video. I do love how respect Rupert’s privacy and let him choose when he can if he wants to also. I did enjoy this video a lot and love the three of you so much and love watching your videos. Thank you so much for doing this video and bringing to our attention that motherhood is not scary but you have to learn how to look after a child.

Really appreciate this. I'm trying to conceive right now and have osteoarthritis and fibromyalgia so I've been a bit worried about how I'll cope.

I really enjoyed this video. I’m not sure yet if I wanna have kids one day but as a young woman with a disability it’s always nice finding content like this where people highlight the ways in which adapting to disability can be beneficial in adapting and advancing abilities to be successful at things like parenting

Missed ya'll, from Lafayette, LA.

Seriously turn on notifications for this channel! It stopped showing up for me until I turned on notifications

My cat also loves when I lie down on the floor next to her

Claudia's deadpan humour sent me XDDDD "No mother, use your voice"

The biggest issue I (42) have being disabled around my grandson (1) is that he finds my crutches fascinating!! One usually ends up on the floor for him to examine!! Lol!! xx

I love seeing you two together, you’re such interesting contrasts to each other which creates a great chemistry 😀

Not sure if anyone has put out a different perspective but I am not disabled however my mum is with MS and I can whole heartedly say that her being in a wheelchair didn't stop her and still doesn't from her being an amazing mother. Yes she might have difficulties here and there but we make adjustments. One of my favourite memories is when she brought one of those buggy boards(essentially a skateboard) that's meant to go on the back of buggies but she put it on the back of her wheelchair so I would stand on the back of that so she knew that I was always with her when we went to the park and it was super fun. I grew up as normal by going to the park with my mum. She was always a normal mum but she had a wheelchair. That was literally the only difference, I can see how a disability can come with some challenges as a parent however as the kid raised by a disabled parent I promise you we are willing to help you adapt and just find you awesome anyway

I really love the emphasis on empathy, cause even when people talk about being patient with children it sounds like being patient _at_ a child rather than empathizing _with_ the child I think this is also the right path that leads to things like being able to apologize to your child and being respectful towards them, which are both so so important

Claudia you were missed. You and Jessica are the bright spots in our lives. Jessica you are a wonderful disabled Mom. My mother was disabled by polio and she fought all her life to overcome. Thank you for continuing the progress!❤️🤶🏻

They're so cute. I love how calm they are

I love your energy together

Such a wonderful video. I am also disabled with an autoimmune disease I have Systemic Lupus, Demyelization of the nerves, a blood clotting disorder, and I broke my back falling while sleepwalking due to weakened bones from a bone infection.5 years ago. I now have rods from S1 to T 12 that's a lot of metal. I now use a wheelchair, but can walk with a walker or cane but only for short distances in my home. It's nice to see disabilities being spoken about in a honest up front way but also with grace and being able to see the positives while dealing with a negative situation. Thank you for sharing. Take care ladies and hug that little lad for me he is adorable. I have 2 children who are young adults now, ugh I feel old. 🙂 Take care everyone, and thank you for posting such a honest positive video.

One of my co-workers streams music through her hearing aids when she is not using them for hearing the stuff around her. Her phone has an app as well that she can use to change settings and modes, as well as, locate her hearing aids within a certain radius if she took them out and cannot remember where she put them.

I always love to see Claudia in a video! Of course we missed you 💜💜

Yay! Claudia’s back!

My favorite family!! Love you guys so much!!

Happy Birthday Jessica! 🦚Wish you everything that brings you health, wealth and happiness! 💐🎂❤️

Yay Hi Claudia :) I love my resound hearing aid too, it is such a life saver. (And my hearing friends are very jealous of the noise canceling option in noisy cafes LOL) Thank you for another brilliant video and your lovely family of 5

You two are the best mommies! 🥰🥰🥰🥰

It’s so adorable watching you three all interact as a family ❤️

Wow, you are really getting started with those 2022 goals! Have fun in Tenerife!

Lovely to see you again, Claudia!😊

Clauds hair looks so good !!!

This was a really good video, entertaining, full of love and educational

We have missed you claudia!!! I especially love seeing you in the shorts!! 🖤💜💙💚💙💜🖤 This was such a great video,, thanks for all the info! Much love!!

Such a sweet video! I love hearing about Rupert signing - it's just awesome!

I can feel the love you have for each other through the screen and it warms my heart so much.

Its incredibly addicting and relaxing to watch. I discovered this channel today and I already watched 50% of the vids