Thank you guys for the incredible amount of support over the past years, but especially last year. I plan on making a post about it, but you’ve really all changed my life. Whenever you click on one of my videos, it makes way more of an impact than you know. Let’s keep evolving.

The amount of effort you put into your videos with all the editing, adding graphs and ton of research makes me so happy that people like you are not only helping your own self but everyone else as well

Being hard on myself is realistically the biggest issue in my life. Thank you Cole.

the one quote "perfection is the killer of dreams" had changed my life

It's been a month. There is no way I can express how grateful I am to you. This video changed my life for the better.

I never found this video before my transition into a functioning member of society, but I can tell you these were the steps I took for myself. Creating a whole new identity, going from someone who stays in their room for weeks playing nothing but games, avoiding school, and hell even starving myself. I've built such a great life for myself in the span of a few months. I lost 50 lbs, I got a girlfriend, a job, friends, and I never stay home for longer than a week. I'm always doing something. Life gets so much better once you're finally out of your shell. Don't waste it, this is your life.

You changed my whole view on the Self Help Community. Keep up the good work!

As a guy with - no friends - no money - out of shape - spend all day inside - hates myself, this is godsend

Last year around the same time this video was posted, I started trying to 'try harder' in life. I did most of the things Cole did (granted that I learned it somewhere else) for about 3 to 4 months, feeling like I'm on top of the world. It was not easy, but it felt like a hard fought war. After that, repetition started getting a toll on me. Burnouts were regular, and falling into 'Entertainment Addiction' eventually made me stop trying almost completely, only 6 months into it. Now, I'm still in that pit hole. Time to time, I think back to the old days where i fought like a champ, a real man, and look like someone I would admire and aspire to be... I'm still not 100% sure what went wrong, but I know a few of the culprit at least. Perfectionism and the fear that came along with it. Hope anyone out there trying to 'try harder in life' don't repeat my mistakes.

My life was decent. Worked, exercised, ate right, moved towards my ambitions, then I had a kid with the wrong person and everything fell apart. Now no matter how much I attempt to bounce back it doesn’t overcome the feeling of wanting to self delete

To unf*ck your life, you need to stop giving a sh*t about things that don't matter, and focus on what actually does. Simple as that.

thank you for this

When you fail, it feels like you are the only human on the planet it has EVER happened to. Everyone feels this way when they fail (save for some narcissists) but once you remind yourself that EVERYONE fails on a fairly regular cadence, and that life is going to hold more of them for all of us, it reduces the overwhelming weight of it and puts it into perspective. I always say to myself when I stumble "someone else is stumbling at this very moment, we'll be okay, let's help each other when we fail" and it has done wonders. Don't get angry, instead be kind to yourself, your inner child is still in there trying to figure out this hot mess we call life.

I really like the two small steps, in the past I got overwhelmed with self improvement trying to do a million things at once & beating myself up if I didn't do a habit one day. My two small steps is get better at making KZfaq videos & get better at boxing. That's all I'm focused on for now

2:50 Life before Death, Strength before Weakness, and Journey before Destination!

It's not so bad knowing there are others out there like me . Hope we all succeed in this journey. I may be late but thank you very much cole for this. I needed it ❤❤❤

This is honestly so inspirational; I’m at a point where I’m trying to pull myself out of a rut- underpaid, overworking job where I have to flip my sleep schedule at least 2-3 times a week so I never feel like I have the energy for anything else. OT every week, no sick/vacay time, working 6-7 days a week. I’ve tried starting with my diet, but that’s about all I’ve accomplished in 2 weeks- it just seems so hopeless- but then I see a vid like this and I think for just a moment, maybe- just maybe- I can do it

Sad situation is that onlyfans videos have more views than videos about self-improvement. You deserve much more for the effort you put into videos like this one ! Huge respect dude, we are gonna succeed kings!

I think one of the most important parts of truly changing who you are for the better is: realizing that your habits really do form your IDENTITY. Good or bad, they're not just things that you do, they're things that you are. You can expect the quality of your outputs to be similar to the quality of your inputs. Been awesome following your journey, Cole. Keep going.

I'm starting this journey first thing in the morning. I've been doing really bad in life, I avoid social interaction with my closest friends and even my really, but really supporting girlfriend, I avoid most of the classes because I find them boring or because I just want to go home and "hide" myself from everyone, I can't even start a conversation with a stranger without getting weirdly uncomfortable. I want to change that, and I will change that, I'm tired of living in this loop in which I have zero control over my life. I can't promise I'll come back to this comment, but if things go right, you will hear from me again. Stay safe everyone, the world is such a better place with you in it.

Thank you, Cole! You will be celebrated for generations as one of the greatest men to have ever lived. The world needs men like you now more than ever to help the lost get back on the right path. The future is bright and full of hope. May the sun warm your face, and the wind gently touch your back.

This actually is one of the most high quality video I have ever watched.

My life was going good, I had just moved out of my parents and met someone who I thought was the one. I then made a mistake while drinking and suffered a major injury it’s been nearly a year and I’m still not where I want to be and I’m about to have to move back into my parents and I no longer have people in my life. I was stuck on painkillers and I’ve been in my house in my bed for nearly a year. Im just In the beginning but I don’t want to give up I’m gonna fight for my happiness

Also another huge underrated thing that gets overlooked! I identified these 3 things in my best days. Have a meaningful conversation with someone in your inner circle, create something you find beautiful, and learn something you didn't know before.

One of the smallest steps I took this year is taking care of my mental health. Since then I have been going to therapy, putting myself out there online, feeling better about myself physically and enjoying life more. Now I'm just trying to get my financial goals met. It really is all about small steps and slowly growing each day as you improve in more areas. And appreciate the victories no matter how small.

I wish I saw your videos before i fucked up my life, but at least you have the step by step process to get out of this rut. I honestly believe you are better then a counselor because you have real advice that you used to get better, rather then generic advice that necer works

Bro in a time where the media is dominated by the Tate, Peterson, Groggins, alpha male grind, etc mindset you are finding success teaching people how to improve their lives in (my opinion) the correct, healthy, and encouraging way. 🎉 that is huge

Is difficult to do it but you have to do what's hard

I really appreciate these videos man. I'm in this same scenario. In the past few weeks I've been hit by a wave of nihilism and an unexplainable feeling of laziness. I have been procrastinating severely recently and spending all my "free time" on the internet. My sleep and exercise have suffered as well as my porn use. I'm trying to get back on the journey of life and reinforce a better identity. Don't give up kings. Keep your role models and values close even when you're at your lowest.

I appreciate you making this so much. I’ve been at my lowest recently and I don’t want to live like this anymore so I know I need to make the chance and start to like myself

Great video Cole, my birthday is in 15 minutes. I’ll be 32. I’m no where near where I want to be I have nothing to show for my life. Covid ruined my life. It was a tipping point. When I lost my job I just became a really negative, unmotivated, lazy, depressed, lonely and anxious person. I feel so lost. I really appreciate your content. Among other things I will utilize these tactics and get out of this rut and live a prosperous, productive and healthy life. Pray for me. I’ll pray for you. God Bless you all. Spread peace love and happiness KZfaq!

He who takes more pride in the actions it takes to attain the result than the result itself can’t be stopped. ACTIONS > RESULTS

Hey cole, you have helped me throughout my early 20’s so much. I have had so many personal issues that I constantly hate about myself , but you’re my saving grace , you always show me the light and give me hope that I can change to the person I want to be. Thank you ❤

This is the best self help video ever!!! I have never gained so much value from a video like this. You have absolutely nailed it my brother! This is so applicable. It has definitely encouraged me to put me back on track and to make progress. Thank you so much. Love the detailed friendly and in-depth instructions and such beautiful editing. Good luck for your future uploads.❤️

When I decided to change my life it only lasted 2-3 weeks followed by 6 months of depression or over a year of depression. I started watching these types of videos when I was 15-16 years old. Now I'm 21. If I had started back then, I would have reached the top now, but as I said, it only takes a month at most, then I get depressed again. Your video was the pinnacle of that problem, you explained my 5-6 years of experience in 13 minutes. And I can confirm the sentence "perfection is the killer of dreams". REALLY it is. And you may hit rock bottom, you may fail and you must move forward, that's okay, if your old bad habits have come back, you see that's life, you just have to improve and move forward no one is an Angel, you may make mistakes and you may hit a fall but you will come back from there improving and overcoming.

That is the power of identity change. One of the most effective ways to quit a habit for me is to give up my old self, like deciding that my life ain't about sleeping in no more, or I am the type of person who doesn't have the choice to sleep in.

This is honestly one of my favorite videos from your channel because it honestly represents the state. I was in a few months ago, but luckily I was able to discover self-improvement discover channels like this search channel and I’ve been able to make extreme strides in my life but I’m so glad that I watch this video because I wanna continue to make sure that I become the best version of myself!

Thank you, Cole. This is legitimately the video I needed to see tonight. I've seen it come up in my recommend a few times but ultimately decided against watching it because I was scared to change. But I've come to a very low point and realize that change has become a necessity. I'm excited to start a new journey and to see the person I'm going to work on becoming.

Best video ever man! In a rut rn because I thought I was going to do well this semester. Yet, despite my greatest efforts, it’s not going well at all. The part that you mentioned about societal expectations got to me as I realized the only reason why I was so hard on myself was because of things my friends and father told/ expected of me. I will look back at my final roadblock note I made and definitely make some small steps today as well as identifying on a deeper level who I want to be. “If you don’t choose something, someone else will choose it for you”

Thank you so much Cole. Your videos are one of the things that is keeping me on this self-improvement journey. I love you man and hope anyone out there, who is on this journey or have just begun it, achieve what they want after going through some failures, because that's how you learn more about yourselves. Strive to be uncomfortable people, you got this !

This video just came out at the best possible time for me. I’ve felt like I’ve been relapsing into my old habits for a while now and that I’m just going to go back to sitting in my room, by myself, with nobody to talk to. You just gave me hope again. Thanks man

I'm pretty proud of myself. Last year have been a hell of a journey. Started to cut off my bad habits one/two at a time and I now can tell the difference clearly. First I started to sleep better, after that my goal was to stop pleasing other people too much. I deleted almost every social media apps from my phone, started to do things I like. Also fixed my eating schedule and started to eat much more and little bit healthier. Got job from a storage and allthough it's pretty simple and repeats itself I like it a lot. First time in years I started to feel good, motivated and you know stuff like that. Set a few goals etc. I'm just so glad that I started this jorney :)

I appreciated the video. I think I found a diamond in the list of motivational videos in YT. I always struggle with the list of things I need to do and want to do, so starting with the simple ones made a huge impact.

Your videos always seem to come at the right time, so thank you for that. Despite all the work I've put into improving myself I never really gave much attention to the fact that I just stop my routine or am not as motivated sometimes and how it affects the bigger picture. I'm going to implement all the things you've demonstrated and catch myself when I hit "The Dip".

Love this video. I have been struggling with my life of stress, obesity, hateful, and hopeless. Today, I decide to change my life to be better in all aspects. Thank for this video.

This is such a good video, the way you tried everything, did so much research and shared everything that helps and put it into such a high quality video is amazing, 1million views and 500k subs well deserved. Really relatable for I think a lot of people

Gonna start this right away tomorrow morning. Dealing with a lot of self hate, a ton of problems, and a really rough patch in my relationship rn, but if I want to become the man she needs me to be I need to start now, with the next smallest step. Hopefully I can update this comment in a month or two with some real progress to show for it. Thank you Cole, you hit me where I needed it. Wish me luck.

This channel deserves way more credit.. going through an awful time in my life right now and these videos help me a lot and give me hope... I dont think im at a stage where i can be disciplined enough todo everything you explained in this video but hopefully one day i will be.. Thanks Cole.

What makes this different from a bunch of other motivational speaker videos is this is very realistic, plus editing, narration etc are very well done. You my good sir have earned a subscriber. Now gotta get myself out of this rut

I've been really depressed and lonely recently and I clicked this accidentally and got hooked instantly, started my own journal to guide my progress in life. Thank you brother keep up the great content and helping people in a rut. ❤❤❤

as a 14 year old, this will help me greatly. thank you for showing me the way forward. i now have a plan to improve myself in my teen years.

I went through all the steps just barley and I already feel so much better. Knowing that ups and downs are normal helps me know if I keep pushing through and not be super hard on myself like I have been, I can make real progress. I’m saving this video in my notes to come back to and watch when I’m in a dip. Thanks for making this video. I subscribed and turned on post notifications. Looking forward to more videos from you!

My life was great, going out working out almost every day having a purpose in life but in the last 2 months i got my first panic attacks and anxiety so i stop everything i loved and stayed home... I hope i can get better and start going out again and not staying home.. Thank you so much Cole ❤️

I am living in Japan. I have things relatively stable. My life isn’t exactly bad but I haven’t been accomplishing some goals I want and I am stuck in some old habits. It’s very important to be thankful for what you do have. Most people I talk to in my line of work are very lonely. I am thankful I do have friends.

I'm at a really low point in my life currently. I'm really hoping I am going to get something out of this video that will help me a lot. Thank you for making this video as much as I appreciate it. This video really has given me the tools that will help me conquer my barriers towards self improvement.

The small steps is the most important part of this. You need to changing your self image before you can explode with progress in a given area of improvement. These small steps easily change your self image towards goals that you have for yourself. Taking large steps with clash with your self image will lead to you doubting yourself and potentially quitting.

Thank you so much for this video. I've "discovered" self-improvement about 2 year ago, through yours and Hamzas content and have been an active watcher ever since. Advice for how to improve oneself is everywhere, but very few talk about "the dip". I've experienced it countless times in the past 2 years and have only really started to make progress, although minimal, in the past few months. It's very important to take small steps and not get ahead of yourself, ego does get in the way and striving for perfection is not a good idea. It's very clear you put a lot of thought and love into this video and also speak from experience. Keep up the good work

Been in probably the worst rut of my life for the last couple months. I started taking some steps on self improvement a few weeks ago, and they are crazily similar to what this videos suggests. I still have a long way to go but I’m already beginning to feel a lot better. I no longer am constantly in a battle with my negative thoughts. (Obviously have not gone away completely though) here’s to the journey and the hope I’ll come out the man I want to be

Hey brother, I know you probably won’t see this but for the past few months I have driven my life into the ground and tried to solve my problems with a bottle and today was my rock bottom, I felt completely hopeless and as a last ditch effort I looked up how to fix my life and your video popped up after watching a few of your videos I truly feel a sense of confidence that I can pull myself out of this mess and change my life. I’ll push through this, truly I have been approaching the end of my rope and your motivational words and demonstration of the steps that need to be taken truly helped me god bless❤️.

Love this wholesome accountability-focused perspective on self improvement.

Put myself out there and be vulnerable. That’s how I unf*ck my life

The "new identity" part is such a big one I learned myself as I was hitting my twenties. The phrase "just be yourself" never hit me well, it's a phrase often repeated without the context or care to analyze it for a person and how far it goes. When you stop looking at the person you've become so far as "yourself" you can start realizing how it's at times used in the wrong context. The person you're now isn't a complete being, you always evolve and change with your surroundings, and you can shape that yourself with effort. Bad habits, behavior or just the way you unconsciously react or think without saying or expressing something can be changed, and may very well be why you're not getting allow with other people and the world. You can't truly forcibly change others nor the world, no matter how hard you try, but you can change yourself and force yourself into it. It may sound disingenuous, like whoever does this or yourself is suddenly faking, but fake a personality enough and in time those things may likely stick, as long as you work on your thought process behind them, they aren't fake, but the new you. So instead of getting stuck on the "just be yourself" (even if there's things we really can't change like the things we love doing that's not harmful), think more "be who YOU want yourself to be". And not in the way of completely changing yourself, but look at yourself and see yourself objectively, see yourself as not "self" but someone else, and ponder on what qualities of yourself is really damaging and what could be elevated. Your kind thoughts be more outspoken, your way of judging people to instead be silenced and give them the benefit of a doubt or just your way of trying categorize life and everything into black and white, instead accept that a lot may just be grey. It's a hard thing to describe and rather something you gotta work yourself, like anxiety, depression or other mental issues.

My KZfaq recommended knows me too well

Thank you for making this video, I have never been more inspired and felt like I related to someone else with these problems I've had the past couple years, I finally feel like I can push myself out of this hell loop that I'm stuck in and start to become a better person, I wish everybody else well to become the person they want to be

Cole, this is one of my favorite videos from you! I especially love all the examples! This is so helpful!!💗

What I find myself in right now is that I'm relatively happy with what I do and where my life is going. The only problem I have is that I'm holding on to emotional pain, meaning I constantly expect being emotionally hurt, so that once someone actually hurts me, it just feels like any other day. The simple thought of letting this guard down, gives me anxiety => I seek comfort in the pain, which is not good, and I'm currently stuck on that and don't know how to get out of it

I'm thankful for your video appearing in my feed, I felt I had everything you mentioned before december of 2022, but in a span of 3 weeks, I felt I was nothing, worthless even. Right now I'm doing a makeover of my entire life, and this is the exaclty kind of guide I needed to adress my problems more efficiently. So far I'm doing better, but there's still many challenges to overcome. Once again, thank you!

Post not clearity brought me here

Very nice video.... A lot of people tell us "Be Disciplined".. But here, u show us how exactly we can be disciplined. Love ur work, man 👍🏻

I really appreciate you for making this video. I dont know what happened but everything just seemed to turn for the worst and it's bee tough to get back up. Seeing that it's not that difficult when other people can do it goes miles in helping. Thank you Cole. 🙏

This video might have saved my life

I hope you’re really proud of yourself. This amount of dedication is super impressive and I’m sure the work you put into this video helped a lot of people. Also, you are absolutely gorgeous.

this isnt a self imporvemnt channel its an story channel ... The story of the combined effort of us people

Keep on going Cole! Fighting the dip is a constant factor in everyone's lives, but having the tools and know how to overcome it really helps! I will most definitely be using the negative thought into a positive one moving forward. I hope to see more videos like this from yourself.

Thank you for giving me hope, I'm at a really low point in my life and I feel as though there is no hope sometimes. Although I recently recieved a sum of cash I still feel rather low. Your video has inspired me to do better, thank you.

Thanks a lot man, been struggling to stay motivated waking up at 6:30am for work every weekday. The journal and writing goals definitely helped me a lot, appreciate it

Great to hear you giving concern for your audiences' life progress 👍

You're absolutely correct dude , making small goals towards your target and completing them is much better than setting one big goal , this keeps me really motivated , I'll follow your steps too ! 🔥🧡👌

this video will genuinely change my life. I am so grateful you made this, thank you so much

Thank you so much, Cole! I’ve been going through the dip phase lately, and you’ve brought clarity into my endless stream of thoughts

*Great vid, I think it is so easy to fall off the path of improvement when you first start out b/c it seems like such a hard mountain to climb. I used to find it especially hard because of all the negative social media and news I was consuming, greatly reducing that part of it helped me feel more motivated and helped me gain more belief in myself which in turn helped me work more on that improvement part!*

At the start of this video, i actually felt crushed as because i felt that the smallest action took so much effort, but now im actually a little motivated, thanks

thanks man gonna need to start changing . i need actions in stead of words. wish me luck and good luck to everybody who is trying to change

Thank you for this useful guide. I feel stuck and living in a worse loop than I used to. I lost my social skills during the pandemic and have a hard time making friends again. Now, I'm gonna keep rewatching this video to remind me that I need to change. Thank you so much.

This is a seriously impressive video. You managed to touch on every challenge and situation I've gone through, and I was especially impressed by you mentioning the "dip" which was something I thought only I had to deal with.

I have been trying to improve myself and I know how those negative thoughts feel. I really love this video and Ill keep looking back to get myself out of the dip of mindless consumption and worthless thoughts. I feel like im in the dip right now but I love the little Ws everyday and I will try to enact some of the good habits i have enstilled. Much love

Two Coles are currently changing my life into a better one J Cole and you.

I’ve been in such a bad void and I’m using this video as my start. Everything will be fine and my change starts now

During this journey, remember "the end is always better than the start"

This is a goldmine of self improvement. It’s realistic and easy to follow 🔥

Biggest hurdle I’m having right now is unrealistic expectations with that comes being ridiculously hard on myself Saying stuff I’d never say to a friend Thank you for this video ! It’s helping a ton of people

Thank you for creating this video and going in-depth about the process it takes to change. I think you have given people a very clear picture of what to expect.

I struggle with cyclothymia (something similar to bipolar 2) and decided to watch this video during my depressive episode. The fact that you made me get out of bed to write on my journal is simply enough for me, considering that was something I could not do. You have no idea how much your videos help people. Thank you so much!

Today was my first day living on your advice, Cole. To be honest, I keep my motivation in me only on the pure belief that I can be much better than I am now. It's sort of like a placebo effect, huh. But your words and clear visualization made it clear to me that even if I'm not at the bottom right now, it doesn't mean that I can continue to stagnate. Therefore, with great faith in a better myself, I will follow your example and begin to change for the better. And although I could get by with a few words, I just wanted to thank you from the bottom of my heart for this video. Thank you.

The description of this video is my life exactly, only I'm 40. The life I want is the same one you need; I need purpose, belonging, and confidence. I hope it's not too late to achieve those things.

Was in the "dip" for few month and watched this video really helped me

Thanks so much for uploading this. I had recently hit the dip but thanks to your video, I am now back on the path. I have taken the first actions to summarize your videos into my own words. Now i am going to do exactly wht you said and start again my journey thanks thanks thanks. The analogy of you starting from your dark place was really great to see in the video and it inspired me !

Pretty good advice overall. Nothing flashy and no clickbait. Like he said at the end, just take action. I came out of poverty and now make great money, have a growing family, and have many life enriching activities in my life. He's totally right about making small steps.

Beautiful sir.. That's really really good.. Please donot stop making self improvement videos its absolutely helpful.. I will remember this video forever.. And when I succeed in life I'll come back here and comment "I did it" ( that's my promise)..

I'm trying to improve my social skills controlling my emotions and this video really helped me on improving. Thank you cole