How to Use DEAR MAN to Ask for What You Want or Say "No"

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How to Use DEAR MAN to Ask for What You Want or Say "No" - The BPD Bunch

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Have you struggled with setting boundaries or asking for what you want in an effective way? This episode is for you! Lena shares her wisdom as a DBT therapist, teaching you how to use the DEAR MAN skill for interpersonal effectiveness.
The DEAR MAN skill is a powerful technique used in Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) to help individuals effectively communicate their needs, set boundaries, and assertively make requests. It is an acronym that stands for:
D - Describe the situation objectively.
E - Express your feelings and opinions about the situation.
A - Assertively ask for what you want or need.
R - Reinforce the benefits or positive outcomes of your request.
M - Stay mindful and focused on your goal.
A - Appear confident and maintain good body language.
N - Negotiate and be willing to find a compromise if needed.
By using the DEAR MAN skill, individuals can enhance their communication skills and improve their ability to navigate difficult situations while maintaining self-respect and healthy relationships.
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@Crybbkitty Күн бұрын

Super helpful

@vnom0301 3 ай бұрын

Thank you for this episode! DBT is really expensive in my country, I can’t afford it at the moment, but I had the opportunity to learn a bit about skills last year, and I needed to refresh these concepts.

@lovesereen 3 ай бұрын

More! We love this

@ButterflyKizzy 3 ай бұрын

That would be a lovely thing,a small chance at geting to know more DBT skills.Thanks for all the effort you guys put in this series,i wish it would go as smoothly and openly in real life too,but sometimes our feelings get the best of us. 😊

@SamanthaBCope 3 ай бұрын

I feel like since I've started seeing results in my weight loss I've had the confidence to choose to please myself over fighting to keep others around. I'm curious if positive lifestyle changes are known to have an effect on BPD like this. I definitely feel like I have a long way to go to learn how to build with healthy relationships, set boundaries, and become less impulsive. But it's almost like I'm allowing myself to crave self love just as much as I have craved external validation.

@billierichardson9885 2 ай бұрын

More videos of this type would be great 😊.

@BBFCCO733 3 ай бұрын

So what if they promise you a million times that they will help and barely do the minimum, then when you get pissed off, they blame you for being aggressive? Are these people not understanding that when they live with another person, they can not just do and act however they want, and the other person just needs to accept it? I'm wondering if BPD is just an excuse to blame people who are perpetually disrespected into just pacifying them and settling for less? At this point, IDK anymore how the other person takes it as long as they do the job. The only issue is the stress I feel from raging at them.