I split on myself when am criticised.....

THANK YOU, you have helped me with more with this one video, than any other person or podcast has ever helped me. I can now see that I'm not the 'Evil Demon' that I have always seen myself as. You are making a massive difference to my life, thank you for doing what you're doing. XXX

Not the hot soup!

Cringe asf

Thank you for the first time I felt understood🤍

OMG, I would never do that!!!! She seems to have more stuff than just BPD. Sooo dependent and weak! It seems more our partners than us. That hugging stuff and the whipping arghhh

Hi Xannie, (and the rest of the BPD Bunch!) first off I just want to say that I absolutely love this channel. You guys have made accepting the fact that I have BPD, so much easier, and I have learnt an enormous amount from watching your channel. So thank you for that! ❤ I was wondering if any of you had an issue of not being able to be alone? Like when doing hobbies or just being on your own in general. I find that I can't engage in any activities without being with someone else - it's like I have to talk to other people or show them what I am doing, and I can't just enjoy my own company. It is different to the fear of abandonment, because I am not scared of being abandoned, I am just not comfortable in my own company. Does that make sense? I was just curious if anyone else felt this way, and thought it could be a new video idea. :) Thanks again for all you guys do. Lots of love from Australia! ❤

I'm a 37 year old female with bpd and I've been with my husband for 20 years and when you make fun of people with personality disorders just know that your making fun of people that most likely had a childhood your little well developed mind could never conceive let alone be able to live with.

No fr

Love you guys

This is what is frustrating with BPD. Many are able to make progress and even thrive. Then they suddenly self-sabotage.

I love this so much, ive seen kylees videos on instagram, having bpd has been very difficult (im on month 4 of dpt after being diagnosed in november of last year). Kylee's videos and this channel give me perspective. Ive needed hope that i can get out of my family's wacky cycles

I personally like the "well, we all have our little thing. Our little quirk you know." Provided that it's a good BPD, regulated day. If not...lol. It's about to get awkward.

No... its more the fact that I can love someone just as much as I can hate them.. so the more i love, the bigger risk that I will snap and kill .😅

Be thebest your self , the rest will follow. We do not need others validation. Be Yore Self.

Yes, I remember this. 😢

Xannie.. I find you supercool human with or without bpd, just wanted to know from you.. how old are you now.. and when did you diagnosis come 😊

The problem with modern dating is that many would consider the latter to be love. Obsession doesn't equal love. Not even close. Obsession turns to hate so fast, your head will spin and you'll wonder if they ever even loved you, which of course they didn't. They loved the idea of you. The way you made them feel. Not you as a person.

Amen honey- I’m a whole train wreck with my BPD sometimes

I have found myself feeling annoyed at people who don't easily get over the hurt I caused them...particularly if it feels minor in comparison to the hurt I know I'm capable of inflicting on someone (trust me, not bragging 😔). It's ironic though, because I often find myself utterly distraught by minor things that other people (likely unintentionally) did that hurt me. I do tend to get over it relatively quickly though if their behavior towards me becomes validating or kind again. Then I feel bad for even being upset at them in the first place. 😵‍💫 This is why I isolate so heavily.

I want to know my person in every way and want to be connected as much as possible. I thought it was because i have 6 placements in Scorpio Lmao

i have bpd and people think im evil simply because i have no control over my emotions. yeah it seems entirely like my fault since im the one doing it but you have to give us credit for showing love still when we're literally living in a silent hill type world. it's a nightmare this feeling and we try so hard to please you all.

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You guys really helped me today, it's been a tough one ❤

I studied fine arts and even on my bad days ill sketch something. I love drawing eyes so a small sketchbook i have is just for sketching eyes. My love for art is one of the few things that can enjoy and concentrate on. I have bpd, ptsd, add and anxiety and depression . Feels like im just collecting all the letters in the alphabet.

For once, I actually feel human. Thank you all for this channel.

As someone with the disorder, BPD is like a demon that I can't get rid of, possessing me and making it hundred times harder to live the life that I have been given. Excellent poetry and creativity. I wish you all the best.

Wow! I believe that you deserve all that life can offer you! I am amazed though that I am not the only one who fights with this. I feel like that about myself so bad. I have very similar thoughts like this about me almost every single day. I am newly BPD diagnosed and trying to find my way... hoping to find something worthwhile inside me...

It got cut off at the part where she’s screaming at him and never wants to see him again 😂

Listen to your truth, listen to what you believe in, your morals/values. Listen to the voice that genuinely wishes everyone well.

so I was dating a woman who i suspect has bpd. I was in europe on a tourist visa and so after 3 months i'd have to leave and she would break up with me then. Then i came back 3 months later, we reconnected & at the end of another 3 months, i had to leave again and she broke up with me again. each time she said that she felt nothing in between... idk, i thought this ability to numb out her own emotions was a bpd thing, but listening to you all.. makes me realize that I could be wrong about that. i mean while we were together she was saying she loved me and giving me a paper ring. and then boom just a couple weeks later after some very minor tensions perhaps she is breaking up with me. and completely splitting on me. So.. bpd? or just doesn't care about me? i can't tell!

I said this about my sister. She's not diagnosed but she's always angry and disappointed all the time. I feel bad for her because she never, ever seems happy or even content 😔

Woohoo!!!

I never have rage towards people who provide safety and reassurance consistently, funny how that works. My rage is my protector saying you missed the red flags babe but don’t worry I’m keeping track!!!

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.....yup.....wow I feel so seen lol

And tomorrow she will be unfaithful with the first person who tells her that her dress is beautiful, and she will return to your house as if nothing had happened and will keep doing the same thing over and over again. It is as if you were a coast guard who saves a woman from the sea because she is drowning, calms her down, gives her hot tea, wraps her in a warm blanket, and when you turn around, she jumps back into the water.

60yrs, newly diagnosed. I am relieved!!

Powerful

thank you very much. After 3 years of struggling I still don’t know what to do with my FP😢 I am aware of my low self value and high self shaming. And I am trying very hard to build self esteem. However I just don’t understand why I still have a very strong affection towards my FP even though I cut the relationship like 2 years ago…..Once I see my FP again I can’t help seeking safety from him…….. I’m confused and exhausted…… This video helps me figure out some of the thoughts. Thank you……

I’m 37 and my BPD is destroying my life. I am literally becoming dysfunctional and I take meds n therapy.

Then id see his lack of response as "he hates me" and I back away feeling hurt. Yeah bpd sucks

There's a girl I love like my daughter with BPD and she is the most amazing loving brilliant girl I've ever met. BPD does not define the individual.

This breaks my heart because you’re one of the most interesting people I’ve literally ever heard from with the places you’ve lived, jobs you’ve done, languages you’ve learned, and the fact you’re objectively pretty on top if all that (I mean seriously, there’s studies on facial symmetry and feature distance and such, of course it won’t be universal but you know what I mean I hope) but it doesn’t even matter to how you feel about yourself is so painful to understand because we don’t usually see what’s admirable in ourselves so I just hope you can see it most of the time. Even if what you thought about your appearance were actually true you’d still have one of the most interesting lives I’ve ever heard of and that’s SO much that’s great. Every peak has to have a contrasting valley I guess. Even Taylor Swift has made statements that she really doesn’t look at her own image much if she can help it because it being all over the place just made her crazy picking out the bad things.

FACTS! ❤

Aww. If I were willing to have kids this would melt me lol.

The five of the nine criteria part STILL makes me upset because there are combos that I do not feel are best explained by BPD that add up to five in there.

It might actually be better if they asked me out loud sometimes. But definitely not always and not everyone, so fair on all counts even though if they were joking a couple of these might be funny to me. Mostly they don’t even know what it stands for and start talking about a bipolar cousin in my experience. 😅 “Um, yyyyeah. It’s kinda like that. let me send you some videos.”

The shame spiral is reaaaaaal.

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