I’m so glad it helped and so so sorry for what you’re going through. ❤️

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I I wish you lots of love and healing ❤️

I'm sorry for your loss. I'm writing my Dad's. So I'm here too. Glad it's useful.

@@siriuslysims Hang in there. You've got this.

Thanks for this!

10 minutes is plenty. I'm sure it was amazing.

Wow, I'm so so sorry. I'm glad that this was helpful and wish you strength and warmth in this difficult time.

I’m so sorry

Sorry for the lost of your husband may you continue to heal

Dear Claudia, I'm so very glad that this was helpful to you. 😍It is so hard to put something together and deliver it while going through the first stages of mourning. Cheers to you for managing. Wishing you all the best for all the firsts of that year after losing a loved one. Sincerely, B

@claudiah.2935 Thank you for sharing. My husband's funeral is this Friday. Right now I am so traumatized that all I can see/feel/hear was that awful moment that feels like it will never end. Like you, I'm going to watch and rewatch this lesson so my eulogy isn't about my grief, it's about the greatest man I have ever know.

@@momzilla9491 I am so sorry for your loss and can’t imagine what you must be going through right now. Tell everyone about the wonderful man who you had (have) the privilege of loving. Share the sweet things that no one else got to see; your best memories together, the silly little things he did. It may be one of the most heart-wrenchingly difficult things you’ll ever do, but you only have to speak your eulogy one time. Just once. And you will feel some weight lifted off of you when you’re up there smiling and speaking so adoringly of him. You are going to do great. Again, I am so sorry for your loss. So many hugs to you and your loved ones during this devastating time. ❤️

@@momzilla9491 I'm just seeing this now. So sorry and I am sure it was from the heart.

I literally watched this video more than once when I read your comment! I'm now so glad I watched this video more than once and I see what you mean! Thank you for saying that!

You'll be great. This is way too early for you to have to do this. Get through the day. The real mourning starts in the year of firsts afterwards. You've got this.

I’m writing one for my dad I’m 16

@@Thugg12 I’m sorry for your loss

17. Wow, that's early to have to do this. Glad the video was helpful. Hang in there and all the best to you for getting through the first year.

That's the thing: It doesn't actually get any more difficult than this. Hang in there, B

Dear John, It's really humbling to hear that this was helpful to you. I'm really sorry for the loss of your grandmother.

I'm so glad that this was helpful. So sorry for the loss of your father.

Thanks so much! II wanted this to be short since those who might be looking for the info shouldn't have to sit through anything long.

You're welcome. I'm so glad that this was helpful. I trust that you did an amazing job.

I'm so sorry for the loss of your father. So glad that this was helpful. I intentionally made the video as short as possible seeing as people would want something compact when dealing with the circumstances. Hang in there. B

My husband passed away October 3rd of 2020..I did my Eulogy quite honestly on FB while he was still alive.. My children all spoke so eloquently at His funeral and I was so impressed with their strength to do such and yes some tears were shed but lots of laughter too. My heart goes out to us all at such times of enormous sadness but may the Lord bless us all as we give honor to our loved ones as I will now have to at one of my best friends’ funeral. I have know her for 56 years and it is going to be so difficult but this summary is helping me to structure a meaningful tribute to a truly great friend/sister..Thanks

@@theresemcnerney7961 My gosh, what a story. I'm really humbled to be able to help in any way. Hang in there. Sincerely, Bret

Dear Georgina, I'm sure you will!❤

@@bretsimner754 I did it! Thank you so much for your inspirational words.

I'm so glad. That's why this talk is here--for those who need it.

@@bretsimner754 Thank you Brent!!

Sorry for your loss

Me too. Grandpa died yesterday. Loved hearing these words.

@@deesabee my grandfather passed a week ago so I’m in the same position 😓

Thank you so much, Shahzad. I'm so glad that this was a help to you.

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I’m so glad this helped. Hang in there-one day at a time….

Blessings to you as well. I'm so very glad that this was helpful to you. The loss of a sibling is a particularly difficult one to take.

So proud of you for doing it!

@bretsimner754 if you have the chance please consider. It's an honour

This is a tricky one: On the one hand you don't want to totally keep the emotions buried, however, on the other, you want to be able to physically make it through the moment. In the past, I chose to stay humorous and warm until the final thoughts. However, after presenting this talk, I had to give the eulogy for my mother. There, I let the emotional material come earlier, not following my own advice. That is a mistake that almost cost me....I had to take a break, then a deep breath---only then I was able to get back on track. Sorry that you're going through this; I'm sure you were great.

I'm so glad. I have to deliver my mother's eulogy today, so I get to put this into practice again. 🤞

@@bretsimner754 I'm so sorry about your mother. May her memory be a blessing.

@@courtney3974 Thanks so much!

My gosh, that is a horribly profound lost. Here's wishing you strength in this difficult stretch.

My mother passed away from brain cancer as well. I hope that you're able to help and find peace.

@@MontyRaeSp8 So sorry.

Good luck. That's a tough one. Hugs to you. You've got this.

I'm so glad that this was helpful. Hang in there.

Thanks for watching and for your support!

I'm so glad that this was helpful to you.. Cheers to you for sharing with those close to you. You've got this! :)

So glad you said yes. Well done.

So glad you liked it!

Thank YOU for watching. I hope it helped.

I'm sure you did a great job. So glad you went for it. So sorry for the loss of your great grandfather.

I'm so so glad that this was a help for you. Those first days are w whirlwind where it's difficult to think straight. Bravo to you for finding the energy and clarity of mind to honor your grandfather one last time.

bret is my school music teacher lol

So glad this helped. Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts.

@@bretsimner754 Everything went perfectly, and the service was beautiful. A large amount of people went to dinner at a nice restaurant afterwards, and then even more people stood up and spoke as well. We all also went home immediately afterwards, especially while everything was going so well. It's because of you. You're cherished and precious. You are loved, appreciated, cherished, and incredible Mr. Brett Simmer. Thank you with all my heart! 💯%

@@JensTVMusic-lvo7u I'm so glad that it went well. Thank you so much for your kind and supportive words as well.

I'm so glad. That's why I wanted to put this out there. Remember: Leave the emotional material for the end... That will make it easier to pace yourself on an extremely emotional day. You've got this. B

I'm so sorry to hear about your brother. I'm equally sorry that you've had to do this so many times. Nonetheless, bravo to you for honoring your loved ones so nobly. Sincerely, Bret

@@bretsimner754 Thanks Bret. I thought I might get emotional towards the end of my talk but the emotion came much quicker. Ended up using a hand held mic which turned out well. I received a lot of nice compliments and one guy even told me he wants me to give his eulogy. So glad I did it even though the anxiety leading up to it was significant.

I'm so glad it was helpful.

I'm so glad that this was helpful to you. Were you able to watch the talk with subtitles?

You've got this. So sorry for what you're going through.

You will prepare yourself so you don't have anxiety...eat something and breath..I'm preparing myself to write my aunts

@@sashamarie266 So sorry.

Your brother? That's a difficult one. So glad that this was helpful.

@@bretsimner754 he was also 32 years older than me, so he was both a father figure and a brother.

@@bretsimner754 you do a wonderful service with this talk.

@@DK-rk8ie Thanks so much for your supportive feedback. This talk was supposed to be just that--support for those who need it when they don't know where to start.

Dear Doug, thanks so much for adding this thought and for being part of the conversation. I'm so sorry that you've had to go through this. B

I hear you. This is particularly difficult when there are unresolved issues. I was going to mention this but wanted to keep the talk compact. The actual mourning process, in my opinion, starts after the funeral and the eulogy. This talk was intended to be a tool to get through the funeral. After that comes the year of "first times" without the person you lost. This is the most challenging part. Hang in there and take it one day at a time. 🙂

Thanks to you for watching and for your support.

Every situation is different. There is no "right" experience and no "correct" way to deal with this time. Hang in there; you've got this.

I’m in a very similar situation right now. If you’ve held it already can you maybe give me some tips?

@@interdimensionalentity2134 Wait--isn't that what the talk was about? :) Seriously though, just be sure to leave anything emotional until the very end., That way, you can be sure that you have the capacities to deliver the whole thing. Hang in there. B

@@bretsimner754 yeah haha thanks

You know her better than anyone! You've got this!

I‘m so sorry for what you’re going through. I’m glad this helped a bit. This is an immense amount to go through at any age, not even to mention 17. Hang in there and give yourself time to process and heal.

Dear Tina, I'm so glad that this was a help. So sorry to you for the loss of your brother. That's a rough one for sure.

I'm so glad this helped. So so sorry that you have to go through this.

@@bretsimner754 We all have to go through these things multiple times. All that we can hope to be is useful for those in need.

Good luck. That is a rather unusual assignment. I'd love to hear how the journey unfolds for you.

I'm so sorry. 😒

I'm so glad it was meaningful for you.

You're absolutely right. Only you can write this. Only the one close to the departed can do this. Great advice; thanks for watching and for your support of this conversation.

@@bretsimner754 fyi i delivered the eulogy and it went really well. thanks again for the video.

@@JP-qk7tr I'm so glad. Hang in there.

Thanks for asking. This is my point--that we only need to be able to say (or write! 🙂) a eulogy one time!

I'm so glad this was helpful. 39 is way too early. I'm so so sorry.

It's all a process---we're evolving along with our capabilities. Glad this helped and even more glad that you went for it!

That's a great thought, Bryce. Thanks for sharing.

I'm so so sorry that you're going through this. I hope and trust it went well. Feel free to share with others here how it went. Hang in there.

Though that's what they say, it still doesn't male it any easier. So sorry you have to do this so young.

That's ok. You wouldn't have understood the point anyway.

@@doug3512 ... There is no logic with Dems & Libs, and they all lie, so sure, it's futile to even attempt to comprehend a Dem/Lib, and thus, there is no valid "point" as you say.