It's hard to let go of someone you love; I went through a similar experience when my 12-year relationship ended. I tried everything to get him back, and eventually I had to turn to a spiritual counselor for assistance.

Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach him?

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Guys if you are not doing it to have and rise kids... (aka taking one for the team and bring up the next generation of people) DONT GET MARRIED... there is nothing in it for you but hardship....

I'm from the exact opposite, but I feel like I agree with you completely and took away the same lessons. My parents were happily married for 26 years right up until the day my mother passed away. So much of what worked for them was that they communicated about everything, shared various household responsibilities, and respected each other. I've also seen a lot of marriages in my family fail. Sometimes it's that they got married too soon and realized they made a mistake, or they were fighting every five minutes, or one felt taken advantage of in one way or the other. More often than not, I'd see them keep score. Even when it came to things that weren't responsibilities, like gifts, they'd go back to their spouse and say "Well I did this for you so you have to do this for me!" or "I don't have to take out the garbage; I got you flowers yesterday, remember?" It all felt so petty. There'd be a fight every few minutes, yelling so many insults I wondered how they stayed married when it was clear they didn't even like each other. Fights were about winning more than they were reaching a healthy compromise. In the end, it'd tear them apart within just a few years. I feel like in many cases there was a mixture of unrealistic expectations, one feeling like they gave all the time while the other took, and a need to always want to keep score. I'm sorry your parents' marriage didn't work, but hopefully your life is better off for it. I'm not married yet, but I'm hoping that when I do find the right person, I can apply all I've learned and have a happy, healthy marriage.

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Um... yes, but she kept bringing up "a marriage mediator" in every scenario because it wasn't just about a couple communicating and planning, but rather bringing in an expert who knows how to facilitate that.

@@millyuan - that depends on what you call a 'successful marriage'. My parents are still married and in their nineties. That means over 65 years of marriage! As their eldest child, that marriage is a sham because it was full of violence and hatred which meant that all of the offspring have been casualties of that marriage. It's not just about what each brings to the table. It's not just as simple as that.

@@thehorsebackheroine5950 I think you have misunderstood me. I never said that long marriage and or simply staying together is the ultimate goal or indicated any sort of validity. Just take a moment and look over what I said above carefully. If two people care for each other even in the slightest, even when life happens because they care they can an will work through it. However one person can't do it on their own, both must care for each other. …and they must also care for themselves also. CARE. Ultimately you either care or you don't care.

1:06 it means men are always wrong for women, 8:51 get better at hiding money, 5:49 act selfishly in marriage

@@thehorsebackheroine5950 I know all about it. And I avoid traditional marriage at all cost. In some countries, divorce is not even allowed. Or it might be bound by religious code. I cannot tell you enough what damage there is when it is a mismatch. However, if there is free choice, the divorce rate is rampant, as if the game of marriage is to get divorce and see who scores higher. Lol.

From a sheer outsider's point of view, could it be that you've been. strengthening the prejudices ?

I read this as i watched it in the video

@@fuquplz9983 me too and started crying. Saddest irony in a love relationship, huh.

@@fuquplz9983 Me 2! Does this mean her talk becomes less interesting, and we start exploring the comments section?

@Hamdan bin Mohammed Al Maktoum Too Good 😊 TQ dear

@Hamdan bin Mohammed Al Maktoum I'm from India What about you?

Marriage sucks

Amen!

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So true your mother never wrong

Your mother is a wise woman

works for some, i think majority, but there are people who live happily married thanks to the distance and individuality they maintain.

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do not live the ideas of your mother... make your own path... sometimes you have to accept, what your mother could not...

"If you wait until it's broken it's too late" - clearly this woman has never heard of the word 'mend' a relationship?

@Anne Day I am talking of the impressison she gave. That you cant possibly fix the broken relationship you have to give up

@@paloma4444 True, true!! --- 'That you can't possibly fix the broken relationship you have to give up.' It is not about what the speaker said, (I just skipped over it.) It is a matter of reality check, or what you want your life end up with!

yep i definitely learnt the hard way.....my dumb ex husband left me in debt, gambled and flirted with our life savings, in my next relationship i won't subscribe to the idea of setting up a joint account, I've learnt the hard way. The private investigator that helped me with evidences for my divorce settlements later confirmed to me that my credit score has taken a huge hit as a result of series of late payments and over drawn bank accounts. Y3llowl4bs agents offered me secured cards with a simple way to keep up with the payments and credit reporting to the major agencies so as to get my credit back up...2 months in and I'm saying its all good from this side .

Yes, choose your life partner carefully and use your brain to make that decision not other parts of your body.

Nice one.

correct!

@Xeno Phon Marriage is apart of religion dude first off so if religion goes marriage goes. And divorce needs to be stigmatized because the divorce rate is very high nowadays. People like you are the problem.

I guess you are trying to be funny. But yes. You need to understand divorces before getting married. Its like taking a loan from someone and not asking what happens if you default on the loan. Might be good to know whether someone will repo your car or break you kneecaps.

I watched the video, I couldn't understand anything so i had to check comments. LMAO if you are planning just to divorce then don't get married. That's why divorce rates are high.

I agree with you!

Indeed

Yessssss. Another great video or three to watch would be any videos that describe narcissistic personality disorder traits that present them selves while dating … and sometimes you can sense signs of NPD popping up in their texts before you even invest in a phone call to hear their voice… I was married to a narcissist and it has taken me over 5 yrs to figure out what happened to our family … thank goodness for KZfaq therapy and now I can help our kids to not hate their dad, but to begin the healing through understanding different personalities… no hate - just educate yourself…

And usually those of us who have been conditioned (usually in childhood) to be codependent with blurry boundaries will pick these abusive narcissists. I learned the hard way.

@Free Speech Pretty sure that social media or the internet in general has killed the idea of relationship/commitment/marriage all around... It's just too damn easy for people to swipe on to the next person, crazy world we live in for sure! There are many aspects of this present world that my soul does not quite vibe with 🤣

If I may... Any red flags apparent during that first year of the relationship? Sorry, I have my own future relationship plans in mind.

@@theoutlook55 There were several red flags, but I did not even recognize them as red flags until much later. They were mostly centered around little ”white lies” that seemed like nothing at the time and were easy to excuse or overlook, but were actually signs of much bigger mental/emotional/behavioral problems the person had. For example: he would lie about what he had done that day, say he had stayed home all day even though he may have gone out to run errands or something innocent. I wouldn't understand why he would lie about something so small, but he would explain it away as if he just forgot to mention it or didn't think it was worth mentioning. Then I would later find out whatever reason he may have really lied, like running in to an ex or something stupid that shouldn't be an issue to a normal person, but to him was something to be kept secret, even though nothing happened between them. Also, I had to explain to him every detail of every second of my day without hesitation or I was instantly called a liar. He was very jealous and wanted to control every moment if my time. If I was not at work, I was expected to be sitting by him, no matter what. He had outbursts of anger regularly as well. Come to find out, he can't control his anger at all really and will blow up at the smallest things. He had more control in the beginning of the relationship and promised to work on it but it only got worse with time. Basically, anything that feels like a red flag to you should NOT be ignored. No matter how small or insignificant, it will most likely lead to bigger problems. UNLESS the person respects your opinions and feelings about it and changes their behavior that seems toxic. Every little thing I felt uncomfortable with or felt weird about ended up being a major issue that led to our overall demise. Trust your gut!!

@@cyndihunter6022 Thanks so much. Yeah, those are big flags. I'm lucky to not have have any of the ones you mentioned in my relationship.

Sorry to hear what you are went through. What's the hardest thing you are dealing with now ? Can i ask how you've tried to heal ? Anything you've tried isn't working ? Looking to find a professional to help with separation and divorce and a potential virtual group support session 🙂

No doubt!

Yes and that’s why there’s so many divorces because people don’t talk about divorce causes and solutions enough, don’t go through pre-marital counseling, and don’t use a mediator throughout the marriage

Romance is appealing, yes, but all the tricks of romance presume that all parties involved are on the same page & are working with a common unspoken script. That's why for example we have all these weird cultures that get created in every generation around dating & other kinds of wooing: the structure brings predictability & comfort because everyone has an agenda they can refer to & rate a partner on those criteria while making decisions. Today, with the traditional rules being largely discarded, it becomes an individual responsibility to make active considerations about what they want their relationship to look like & that needs clear & open communication. You can't just expect your partners to read your mind.

We can’t win man.. my ex (recent) almost feels like the first example she used.. waited till she graduated college & filed for it, while I just got us an new apt & she kept it.

If you can commit to each other, you are on top of a marriage. But unfortunately, if there is no traffic light, there will be even more chaos and casualty! I think a boot camp training for marriage will be good so people know what it is all about the real battle!

@@chevyboy9525 BMT(Basic Marriage Training) lol

Absolutely. DON'T HAVE CHILDREN. They need stability.

​@@chevyboy9525sorry but too many folks are working on their third course failure.

I think encouraging someone is important at times. Like if they're in a mentally or physically abusive relationship.

@@penny4thought168 It's not your marriage, so don't break up a marriage that isn't yours.

@@TechWeLove Nah. I'm gonna help my friends and anyone else who's in abusive situations or they're unhappy. You stick to keeping your mouth shut and enjoy watching your friends get hurt, I'll stick to helping mine.

Never understood this until my sister died; always complained of making a mistake and not being happy. Being the 'good' brother I was, I advised her to be patient, that marriage comes with a lot of sacrifices and responsibilities. Funny enough people develop mental issues or even die in their marriages because of the stereotypical ideologies of our society. People make mistakes, even when it comes to their decision to choose a spouse, so we don't have to blame them because they realized they made a mistake. I believe in making it work, in mending broking hearts, but to an extent. Once it gets to the limit, a seperation shouldn't be eluded from the options.

All things Marine me too

MAFIMA scary

Hahahaha the responsibilities scare me.

@@p0rcel4in_jesus72 Ha, ha, find me a rose without thorns!

Chevy Boy the responsibilities scare me, but it doesn't mean I won't face them haha. I'm just being honest about how I feel about relationships... and life in general haha

This is a prominent thesis about life in North Amerca. Overall, it involves more than this. Wealth and power cannot negotiate that mysterious thing called Love. And I am not a believer of 'Soul Mate'.

Black Vito - Moneyology what where your results on the stats?

You go, Sumit! I'm hoping to watch you in one of the TED Talks. You can do it, brudda!

@@p0rcel4in_jesus72 Thank you So much for your Words😀

Nah, it's more along the lines of: think about your financials before marrying and decide on a system that works for you both

Not really, is more about looking at each decisions (mainly the big ones) you make throughout your marriage and carefully and honestly ask yourselves if it's fair for both of you... Because really... Fair is fair

@@michelemeka4540 Ah but each party has a different point of view based of there own need that they deem fair from there unique perspective . Hopefully both parties are not equally stubborn and hopefully the more sacrificial one doesn't become passive aggressive and resentful . Used to be that a wife relocated when her husband had an employment opportunity but what do you do when both jobs are important ? Be nice if everything were logical and straightforward but relationships are messy ...

We know because we’re all human. And we all have a relatively human experience.

Not when only one partner wants to work on it

78% of 2nd marriages end in divorce!!

Wanna marry me

@Đức marriage property is always divided in half when they divorce

Yes or No. It is a trade-off. Not being cynical. It is a life long project, a contract with contingencies, known and unseen. The key is maturity before marriage, but unfortunately, often the reverse is the case. Time would not wait. Haste is dangerous. Those who are married often envy the single. Those who are single envy the married. It is melodrama in general. It can be a fulfilment if you make a choice consciously knowing life is a personal deed but not a religion. There is no such thing as better than or lucky or not lucky. There is no lucky charm or worship for this one! It is a kind of symbiosis that requires give and take, respect, sacrifice, genuine compassion for the partner. If 'who can marry are so lucky' means they haven't treaded on the landmine (not as yet), then they are truly lucky! Of course, I am trying to do humour here, no offence. Let's have a good laugh about everything that is 'happy ever after'!

I hope you get better man!

Because you maybe be cheated! That’s the ultimate reason of divorce all around the world!

Hello dear

Or as I like to say don't marry at all, I am a lone wolf and always have been, I'm a person who enjoys my freedom, I feel marriage as a tie down as true freedom cannot be attained, reason for this is because if you don't marry in the first place you and your partner will not be corrupted or tainted with the man temptations and blame that's usually always associated with marriage and then only becomes a statistic. I always walk the path of the lone wolf and will continue to do so until the day I die, also marriage is only a piece of paper, if you truly love that person then be with that person, not because what laws or state dictate or define what a marriage truly is, no law can stop me or anyone else taking a partner in life. Wolves abandon their young after a certain while for a reason, so that way they can find their own path and their mate in life and no law governs them as they are truly the pinnacle of freedom!

@@ericcornish1983 I know both sides of the corn. Let's not associate freedom with marriage. People like to challenge that. For the religious marry vow devotees, that is their choice. Freedom is irrelevant to them. For the lone wolves, more power to them, because they understand life in its essential nature. When the cage door is open, the bird chooses to stay in. Contemplate on this ... with gentleness but not meanness ...

Are you noticing that?

so do i

Hello dear

To share the burdens of raising children.

Marriage is not for everyone. You get married to signify that you and your significant other has become one(in a sense). You get married for love. But remeber love is not a feeling its a choice. You choose to love this person during the good and the bad. Love is hard work and there is no denying it. With the right person its worth dping all that work. But if you marry someone because of only a feeling it wont work. And if you dont want to put in some work in bettering the relationship then its best for you to stay away from it

@Tyler Trobaugh Well there are many reasons that people dont feel like they are made for marriage because of all the stigmatism. Marriage has been built up to look like it would only affect your life badly. I mean we could go on for ages about how the "social norms" dictates people to live their life a certian way and if they dont they failed in life. People arent made to be pushed in a box. And most people view marriage as being put in a box. So the sad reality is that everything is screwed up in some way or another. Maybe within the next 100-125 years the social norms would shift and people wont be so narrow minded

Ha ha. Good wordings. Not as yet.... It is good to galvanize yourself before the spell of love sap your power. Bless you, when the time comes for whichever it might be!

4 who tho?

@@izyizhan3561 You know who. 🤭

@@izyizhan3561 women of course. Even the slutiest ones with the no fault divorce.

lol @ people acting like they don't know who benefits

Than do it right the first time, and set boundaries so you're "Second Husband." Becomes you're "First True Love."

That suck u dry thing

You might be a man!