Nice video, I'm still struggling with the end of my 7-year relationship. My significant other, who I considered to be the love of my life, left me a month ago, and I can't seem to shake the constant thoughts of her. Despite my efforts to bring him back into my life, nothing has worked, and I feel frustrated and hopeless. I've tried to move on, but my heart still longs for him, and I don't see myself with anyone else. I apologize for sharing this here, but I just can't seem to stop missing him.
@Nancy2551-g6i14 күн бұрын
It's hard to let go of someone you love; I went through a similar experience when my 12-year relationship ended. I tried everything to get him back, and eventually I had to turn to a spiritual counselor for assistance.
@LilyOlivia-p3s14 күн бұрын
Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach him?
@Nancy2551-g6i14 күн бұрын
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@LilyOlivia-p3s14 күн бұрын
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@jlyo19914 жыл бұрын
I’m a child from a broken home. Most marriages in my family have been unsuccessful. They either got divorced or fell out of love and became mere cohabitants for tradition’s sake. As bad as this may sound, I think it has helped me to do better. I have seen what works and what doesn’t. The most successful marriages are the partnerships where each give and take and work together. The ones that haven’t worked are where one or both feel like they’re working harder than the other.
@zeldamarsh4 жыл бұрын
J Lyons I’m also from a broken home , my own marriages abs relationships have failed - I took the responsibility and made some harsh choices along with lots of self development and I’ve managed to stop the patterns in my life from repeating themselves- you can too
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@PAIP_Studio3 жыл бұрын
Guys if you are not doing it to have and rise kids... (aka taking one for the team and bring up the next generation of people) DONT GET MARRIED... there is nothing in it for you but hardship....
@brittneybrisbin7443 жыл бұрын
I'm from the exact opposite, but I feel like I agree with you completely and took away the same lessons. My parents were happily married for 26 years right up until the day my mother passed away. So much of what worked for them was that they communicated about everything, shared various household responsibilities, and respected each other. I've also seen a lot of marriages in my family fail. Sometimes it's that they got married too soon and realized they made a mistake, or they were fighting every five minutes, or one felt taken advantage of in one way or the other. More often than not, I'd see them keep score. Even when it came to things that weren't responsibilities, like gifts, they'd go back to their spouse and say "Well I did this for you so you have to do this for me!" or "I don't have to take out the garbage; I got you flowers yesterday, remember?" It all felt so petty. There'd be a fight every few minutes, yelling so many insults I wondered how they stayed married when it was clear they didn't even like each other. Fights were about winning more than they were reaching a healthy compromise. In the end, it'd tear them apart within just a few years. I feel like in many cases there was a mixture of unrealistic expectations, one feeling like they gave all the time while the other took, and a need to always want to keep score. I'm sorry your parents' marriage didn't work, but hopefully your life is better off for it. I'm not married yet, but I'm hoping that when I do find the right person, I can apply all I've learned and have a happy, healthy marriage.
@valentinkaison86153 жыл бұрын
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@andreita_pereira4 жыл бұрын
She’s basically saying that marriage doesn’t just “happen” and things just “work out.” She’s saying that people have to be mindful, honest, and upfront about the relationship/marriage/commitment they are making. Communication is everything. The way you plan and prepare for “worst case scenarios” for like finances or losing a job, you gotta talk about and plan for the end of a relationship and in this way you avoid it happening. Relationships are extremely intentional
@Starcrash69844 жыл бұрын
Um... yes, but she kept bringing up "a marriage mediator" in every scenario because it wasn't just about a couple communicating and planning, but rather bringing in an expert who knows how to facilitate that.
@thehorsebackheroine59504 жыл бұрын
@@millyuan - that depends on what you call a 'successful marriage'. My parents are still married and in their nineties. That means over 65 years of marriage! As their eldest child, that marriage is a sham because it was full of violence and hatred which meant that all of the offspring have been casualties of that marriage. It's not just about what each brings to the table. It's not just as simple as that.
@millyuan4 жыл бұрын
@@thehorsebackheroine5950 I think you have misunderstood me. I never said that long marriage and or simply staying together is the ultimate goal or indicated any sort of validity. Just take a moment and look over what I said above carefully. If two people care for each other even in the slightest, even when life happens because they care they can an will work through it. However one person can't do it on their own, both must care for each other. …and they must also care for themselves also. CARE. Ultimately you either care or you don't care.
@grishmashah67914 жыл бұрын
1:06 it means men are always wrong for women, 8:51 get better at hiding money, 5:49 act selfishly in marriage
@chevyboy95254 жыл бұрын
@@thehorsebackheroine5950 I know all about it. And I avoid traditional marriage at all cost. In some countries, divorce is not even allowed. Or it might be bound by religious code. I cannot tell you enough what damage there is when it is a mismatch. However, if there is free choice, the divorce rate is rampant, as if the game of marriage is to get divorce and see who scores higher. Lol.
@will9001asd4 жыл бұрын
I'm glad I didn't get married to the person I dated for 5 years. 2 years of reflecting later I realize tons of things about myself and my ex that I could never have realized during. Love is quite blind indeed.
@user-ju3we4xn2s3 жыл бұрын
From a sheer outsider's point of view, could it be that you've been. strengthening the prejudices ?
@rachelvensand4 жыл бұрын
“Sometimes the things we do out of love can be the very things that make it hard for that love to last” that part.
@fuquplz99833 жыл бұрын
I read this as i watched it in the video
@alijane68933 жыл бұрын
@@fuquplz9983 me too and started crying. Saddest irony in a love relationship, huh.
@maiyenish85523 жыл бұрын
@@fuquplz9983 Me 2! Does this mean her talk becomes less interesting, and we start exploring the comments section?
@secretsbox1234 жыл бұрын
Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts.
@secretsbox1234 жыл бұрын
@Hamdan bin Mohammed Al Maktoum Too Good 😊 TQ dear
@secretsbox1234 жыл бұрын
@Hamdan bin Mohammed Al Maktoum I'm from India What about you?
@Akira3003 жыл бұрын
Marriage sucks
@mrsmcdreamyxx2 жыл бұрын
Amen!
@audiobooksummaries21572 жыл бұрын
Please watch my audiobook summary
@colunizator4 жыл бұрын
So talking about divorce before marriage, counter intuitively strengthens the marriage
@tawheedmohammadsayyid3904 жыл бұрын
I literally had listened and re-listened to this video endless number of times in order to understand further. This is not to complaint. But to compliment that you have shared with us a wisdom
@MONi_LALA4 жыл бұрын
My mom said "When there's more me than we, the marriage is over."
@myopinion17734 жыл бұрын
So true your mother never wrong
@michelemeka45404 жыл бұрын
Your mother is a wise woman
@drditup4 жыл бұрын
works for some, i think majority, but there are people who live happily married thanks to the distance and individuality they maintain.
@chuckkady72824 жыл бұрын
look what our Gov has done to We The People! Could this be a test to see how many of us are willing to rebel against those like George Bush that gave us the temporary Patriot Act! (puke) This is our Country America. Wake up. Quit belly aching and stand up for our Country. It's ours. Vote them out kzfaq.info/get/bejne/Z81hrdp91cC9nWg.html
@oldrichkost4 жыл бұрын
do not live the ideas of your mother... make your own path... sometimes you have to accept, what your mother could not...
@TheRealGuywithoutaMustache4 жыл бұрын
Divorces should serve as the best examples of the saying "learning from your mistakes"
@paloma44444 жыл бұрын
"If you wait until it's broken it's too late" - clearly this woman has never heard of the word 'mend' a relationship?
@paloma44444 жыл бұрын
@Anne Day I am talking of the impressison she gave. That you cant possibly fix the broken relationship you have to give up
@chevyboy95254 жыл бұрын
@@paloma4444 True, true!! --- 'That you can't possibly fix the broken relationship you have to give up.' It is not about what the speaker said, (I just skipped over it.) It is a matter of reality check, or what you want your life end up with!
@laurenmiles81583 жыл бұрын
yep i definitely learnt the hard way.....my dumb ex husband left me in debt, gambled and flirted with our life savings, in my next relationship i won't subscribe to the idea of setting up a joint account, I've learnt the hard way. The private investigator that helped me with evidences for my divorce settlements later confirmed to me that my credit score has taken a huge hit as a result of series of late payments and over drawn bank accounts. Y3llowl4bs agents offered me secured cards with a simple way to keep up with the payments and credit reporting to the major agencies so as to get my credit back up...2 months in and I'm saying its all good from this side .
@Amor_Fati_3 жыл бұрын
Your life partner is everything! DO NOT LET ANYONE TELL YOU DIFFERENT!
@b4ph0m3tdk92 жыл бұрын
Yes, choose your life partner carefully and use your brain to make that decision not other parts of your body.
@SmartLazyMillionaire3 жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing this with us. I wholeheartedly agreed with you. As a divorce coach I've seen so many things that don't work in relationships/marriages and most failed ones typically follow certain patterns. It's crucial to spot these common pitfalls early on as the survival the relationship depends on it.
@perezjames79553 жыл бұрын
Nice one.
@vincentliaison3 жыл бұрын
This is so true. Especially, " sacrifice should be a fair exchange".
@calvinrogers66524 жыл бұрын
Moral of the story : *Pre plan Divorce before Marriage*
@JakeRoselli4 жыл бұрын
correct!
@whygiveup114 жыл бұрын
@Xeno Phon Marriage is apart of religion dude first off so if religion goes marriage goes. And divorce needs to be stigmatized because the divorce rate is very high nowadays. People like you are the problem.
@jamesp92264 жыл бұрын
I guess you are trying to be funny. But yes. You need to understand divorces before getting married. Its like taking a loan from someone and not asking what happens if you default on the loan. Might be good to know whether someone will repo your car or break you kneecaps.
@kreativeprojekt13454 жыл бұрын
I watched the video, I couldn't understand anything so i had to check comments. LMAO if you are planning just to divorce then don't get married. That's why divorce rates are high.
@talbenavraham13854 жыл бұрын
Understanding narcissistic personality disorder would prevent bad marriages and reduce the inevitable divorces.
@lucduongthai37264 жыл бұрын
I agree with you!
@tissie13 жыл бұрын
Indeed
@pjnix56182 жыл бұрын
Yessssss. Another great video or three to watch would be any videos that describe narcissistic personality disorder traits that present them selves while dating … and sometimes you can sense signs of NPD popping up in their texts before you even invest in a phone call to hear their voice… I was married to a narcissist and it has taken me over 5 yrs to figure out what happened to our family … thank goodness for KZfaq therapy and now I can help our kids to not hate their dad, but to begin the healing through understanding different personalities… no hate - just educate yourself…
@cindyreeves50482 жыл бұрын
And usually those of us who have been conditioned (usually in childhood) to be codependent with blurry boundaries will pick these abusive narcissists. I learned the hard way.
@marwamirgani9993 жыл бұрын
*There’s no such thing as a free child care* That stuck with me
@mirtagpa4 жыл бұрын
Marriage is a partnership. This is a great talk thanks 👍🏽
@yatinbagul39323 жыл бұрын
"If you want to Understand what Makes a Marriage works, you should think about how a Marriage Ends"
@cyndihunter60224 жыл бұрын
💖💖💖 Please watch if considering marriage... Going through a divorce and this info would have been so useful before we got married. Thank you!! 🌜Blessings to all!🌛
@cyndihunter60224 жыл бұрын
@Free Speech Pretty sure that social media or the internet in general has killed the idea of relationship/commitment/marriage all around... It's just too damn easy for people to swipe on to the next person, crazy world we live in for sure! There are many aspects of this present world that my soul does not quite vibe with 🤣
@theoutlook553 жыл бұрын
If I may... Any red flags apparent during that first year of the relationship? Sorry, I have my own future relationship plans in mind.
@cyndihunter60223 жыл бұрын
@@theoutlook55 There were several red flags, but I did not even recognize them as red flags until much later. They were mostly centered around little ”white lies” that seemed like nothing at the time and were easy to excuse or overlook, but were actually signs of much bigger mental/emotional/behavioral problems the person had. For example: he would lie about what he had done that day, say he had stayed home all day even though he may have gone out to run errands or something innocent. I wouldn't understand why he would lie about something so small, but he would explain it away as if he just forgot to mention it or didn't think it was worth mentioning. Then I would later find out whatever reason he may have really lied, like running in to an ex or something stupid that shouldn't be an issue to a normal person, but to him was something to be kept secret, even though nothing happened between them. Also, I had to explain to him every detail of every second of my day without hesitation or I was instantly called a liar. He was very jealous and wanted to control every moment if my time. If I was not at work, I was expected to be sitting by him, no matter what. He had outbursts of anger regularly as well. Come to find out, he can't control his anger at all really and will blow up at the smallest things. He had more control in the beginning of the relationship and promised to work on it but it only got worse with time. Basically, anything that feels like a red flag to you should NOT be ignored. No matter how small or insignificant, it will most likely lead to bigger problems. UNLESS the person respects your opinions and feelings about it and changes their behavior that seems toxic. Every little thing I felt uncomfortable with or felt weird about ended up being a major issue that led to our overall demise. Trust your gut!!
@theoutlook553 жыл бұрын
@@cyndihunter6022 Thanks so much. Yeah, those are big flags. I'm lucky to not have have any of the ones you mentioned in my relationship.
@chapterupwellbeing75202 жыл бұрын
Sorry to hear what you are went through. What's the hardest thing you are dealing with now ? Can i ask how you've tried to heal ? Anything you've tried isn't working ? Looking to find a professional to help with separation and divorce and a potential virtual group support session 🙂
@somerandomperson45864 жыл бұрын
It’s like what I remember from adventure time: “Responsibility demands sacrifice.” -P.B.
@chevyboy95254 жыл бұрын
No doubt!
@Dimes6074 жыл бұрын
I understand divorce by not getting married. Completely eliminates the issue
@zxqwerxz4 жыл бұрын
I can't help but draw a parallel to a line from Frankenstein, "To examine the causes of life, we must first have recourse to death," So to figure out what works in a marriage, you look at divorce... Not very romantic if i'm being honest and not a first date conversation starter.
@essentialoilsme3 жыл бұрын
Yes and that’s why there’s so many divorces because people don’t talk about divorce causes and solutions enough, don’t go through pre-marital counseling, and don’t use a mediator throughout the marriage
@salemsaberhagan3 жыл бұрын
Romance is appealing, yes, but all the tricks of romance presume that all parties involved are on the same page & are working with a common unspoken script. That's why for example we have all these weird cultures that get created in every generation around dating & other kinds of wooing: the structure brings predictability & comfort because everyone has an agenda they can refer to & rate a partner on those criteria while making decisions. Today, with the traditional rules being largely discarded, it becomes an individual responsibility to make active considerations about what they want their relationship to look like & that needs clear & open communication. You can't just expect your partners to read your mind.
@mgu1N1n13 жыл бұрын
Men, do not hesitate for one moment to put a restraining order against your female partner if you feel your safety and health is in jeopardy. Placing a permanent restraining order on my female partner was absolutely the wisest protective move of my adult lifetime. My only regret is not doing it years earlier. Men, be safe!
@mrmike21194 жыл бұрын
Only when you are more concerned about what you can do for the other person than what you can get out of a relationship with that person will you have a successful and happy marriage. As a matter of full disclosure, my wife and I are perfectly matched in our respective second marriage. Funny, our experience appears to be the same for our first (round in stupid and immature decisions to marry) spouses respectively. Good TED talk counselor.
@TheRawBabe4 жыл бұрын
contribute, owe, give, give up 4 elements to discuss openly during marriage in order to keep a marriage ❤
@waggoneer11 ай бұрын
My wife waited until our new home was built, and we had sunk 350k in cash into it (from a previous home sale) to tell me she was unhappy and wanted a divorce... and that she wanted to keep the house. I went into the build thinking, this is great, this will be our forever home. If I had thought defensively we would be renting instead.
@Sterbenys9 ай бұрын
We can’t win man.. my ex (recent) almost feels like the first example she used.. waited till she graduated college & filed for it, while I just got us an new apt & she kept it.
@TechWeLove Жыл бұрын
Whoever breaks the marriage, should get less, 25 % , not 50% . In that way, we are not rewarding those who break marriages, and leave children with broken families.
@sonyareyes95962 жыл бұрын
I waited for that second husband many years, the struggle was terrible that I'm still stuck. Next life for sure.
@28MUSE4 жыл бұрын
You are walking away from that person, but you are still taking yourself with you. So the You is the most important thing. If you is perfect then whatever you decide will be the perfect answer
@chulzzz994 жыл бұрын
Is it possible to be committed to one person and not get married? Both sides benefit if successful. If they break up, all they lose is time and effort. If a successful marriage, both benefit. If they divorce, one benefits(at least financially). More pressure to stay together. More misery. They lose time and effort. High risk, high reward. The odds aren't always in your favor.
@chevyboy95254 жыл бұрын
If you can commit to each other, you are on top of a marriage. But unfortunately, if there is no traffic light, there will be even more chaos and casualty! I think a boot camp training for marriage will be good so people know what it is all about the real battle!
@issacvinson90982 жыл бұрын
@@chevyboy9525 BMT(Basic Marriage Training) lol
@nancythornton4425 Жыл бұрын
Absolutely. DON'T HAVE CHILDREN. They need stability.
@vickimerritt28328 ай бұрын
@@chevyboy9525sorry but too many folks are working on their third course failure.
@Ur2ez4me812 жыл бұрын
It’s a shame that we hold on to & dwell on the negative things in a relationship & seem to quickly forget the good. Also, people / friends should never encourage someone into a divorce. That’s not cool guys…. Also it’s never over until it’s over. Until you lose complete respect or you are unable to forgive, then you know it’s over…
@penny4thought1682 жыл бұрын
I think encouraging someone is important at times. Like if they're in a mentally or physically abusive relationship.
@TechWeLove Жыл бұрын
@@penny4thought168 It's not your marriage, so don't break up a marriage that isn't yours.
@penny4thought168 Жыл бұрын
@@TechWeLove Nah. I'm gonna help my friends and anyone else who's in abusive situations or they're unhappy. You stick to keeping your mouth shut and enjoy watching your friends get hurt, I'll stick to helping mine.
@kingsleyblaiseman700616 күн бұрын
Never understood this until my sister died; always complained of making a mistake and not being happy. Being the 'good' brother I was, I advised her to be patient, that marriage comes with a lot of sacrifices and responsibilities. Funny enough people develop mental issues or even die in their marriages because of the stereotypical ideologies of our society. People make mistakes, even when it comes to their decision to choose a spouse, so we don't have to blame them because they realized they made a mistake. I believe in making it work, in mending broking hearts, but to an extent. Once it gets to the limit, a seperation shouldn't be eluded from the options.
@nelsonianb12894 жыл бұрын
Growing up with divorced parents i dont understand why the government and or church need to be part of a couples life.
@Allthingsmarinelife4 жыл бұрын
I’m scared to get married
@calebcrawford33894 жыл бұрын
All things Marine me too
@Allthingsmarinelife4 жыл бұрын
MAFIMA scary
@p0rcel4in_jesus724 жыл бұрын
Hahahaha the responsibilities scare me.
@chevyboy95254 жыл бұрын
@@p0rcel4in_jesus72 Ha, ha, find me a rose without thorns!
@p0rcel4in_jesus724 жыл бұрын
Chevy Boy the responsibilities scare me, but it doesn't mean I won't face them haha. I'm just being honest about how I feel about relationships... and life in general haha
@TheRawBabe4 жыл бұрын
sacrifice v fair exchange, no free childcare, yours becomes ours! 3 golden rules to remember BEFORE getting into marriage ✌
@karinturkington24554 жыл бұрын
These pre-marriage decisions depend on a pre-existing balance of power in the relationship.
@chevyboy95254 жыл бұрын
This is a prominent thesis about life in North Amerca. Overall, it involves more than this. Wealth and power cannot negotiate that mysterious thing called Love. And I am not a believer of 'Soul Mate'.
@redpi11please904 жыл бұрын
Here's three words every man should learn before marriage 1) Misandry 2) Hypergamy 3) Gynocentrism
@Je.rone_4 жыл бұрын
I was literally just randomly looking at divorce stats😅 the coincidence is real. For the record it was a computer with no known connection with my own
@zeldamarsh4 жыл бұрын
Black Vito - Moneyology what where your results on the stats?
@georgejgilles.39994 жыл бұрын
I concur with this video.
@irenenguyen80464 жыл бұрын
In a nutshell: think about marriage in terms of the contract that it is ... What are you willing to sacrifice in exchange for the expected benefit from the other party?
@sumit78514 жыл бұрын
Who like Ted vedio and wanted to become TED speaker like here . . . .
@p0rcel4in_jesus724 жыл бұрын
You go, Sumit! I'm hoping to watch you in one of the TED Talks. You can do it, brudda!
@sumit78514 жыл бұрын
@@p0rcel4in_jesus72 Thank you So much for your Words😀
@MothaKnowsCo10 ай бұрын
Keep God at the center of it all. Faith (prayer) and Works (daily loving out loud and through actions) are key.
@nsol65234 жыл бұрын
The new way to look at marriage, Nice video thanks TED
@thenephilim98194 жыл бұрын
So she's basically saying "Get yourselves a lawyer and sign a marriage settlement"...
@stiephel4 жыл бұрын
Nah, it's more along the lines of: think about your financials before marrying and decide on a system that works for you both
@michelemeka45404 жыл бұрын
Not really, is more about looking at each decisions (mainly the big ones) you make throughout your marriage and carefully and honestly ask yourselves if it's fair for both of you... Because really... Fair is fair
@celestialcircledance3 жыл бұрын
@@michelemeka4540 Ah but each party has a different point of view based of there own need that they deem fair from there unique perspective . Hopefully both parties are not equally stubborn and hopefully the more sacrificial one doesn't become passive aggressive and resentful . Used to be that a wife relocated when her husband had an employment opportunity but what do you do when both jobs are important ? Be nice if everything were logical and straightforward but relationships are messy ...
@ruthproctor70073 жыл бұрын
Yesss Marriage is tough
@Leto2ndAtreides4 жыл бұрын
This seems to need to be reframed in the context of fairness and respect, and not demanding too much of the other person. The word divorce has heavy connotations that are probably dangerous to the emotions that bind the relationship. You can just say "These are the kinds of things that lead to divorce, so how could you use that knowledge to avoid going down that path?" The marriage mediator idea... It'd likely need to be someone who knew you two well for quite a while, because understanding people's values (that they themselves might not understand) is not that easy.
@ileensosa44062 жыл бұрын
We know because we’re all human. And we all have a relatively human experience.
@ryanfrizzell736 Жыл бұрын
Now I understand divorce this much better. Thank you
@bepeculiar7mixtv9403 жыл бұрын
No luck in marriage. You are lucky if you can find one. Tried my best, but just frustrated. ..
@pibadar4 жыл бұрын
I think we need to go back to the original meaning of sacrifice. If sacrifice is being mindful of future events then is it really sacrifice. In today's society where everything is about fairness.. it's no wonder divorce rates are at an all time high.
@nicholasshawn3626 Жыл бұрын
My marriage of seven years came crashing down in my very own eyes and i was ready to give up on it before coming across Eliana Zaituna Hernandez who helped in restoring and strengthening back my marriage.
@Naan7953 жыл бұрын
Supporting divorce as a path to learn to love or know how a happy marriage works is a No Sense. Why don’t you just work and learn when you are married and renew your own marriage? You have a marriage not to break but to learn and grow from challenges. Is not a game and the ones who work hard staying will see the fruits.
@janw952 Жыл бұрын
Not when only one partner wants to work on it
@brianawd9 ай бұрын
78% of 2nd marriages end in divorce!!
@jameswatts4982 Жыл бұрын
Men and Women should step up and be real adults and do what needs to be done instead of being all about self and selfishness and not forgiving
@mileschannel66614 жыл бұрын
Some people are Lucky to get married
@neuro.weaver4 жыл бұрын
How to rationalize your own choices in order to alleviate your guilt.
@englishenglish84264 жыл бұрын
Thanks
@maiyenish85523 жыл бұрын
How can a person understand divorce, if one hasn't experienced it?
@srikarvelavarthipati73233 жыл бұрын
I’m a guy who lives traveling. This is amazing because it can be doubled as quality time with wife and later with kids
@cjboi204 Жыл бұрын
This marriage advice is not about saving a marriage. It's about saving anything related to monetary means.
@spear8403 Жыл бұрын
easy fix that will bring down divorce issues by 50%. make marriage vows legally binding(outlawing divorce) men and women alike will be FAR more picky who they choose and will have help from their parents who with experience have a greater bs detector. And in turn, far more marriages will be more coordinated and not made spur of the moment, which means marriages will more likely be healthy
@AustinAOkay2 ай бұрын
I worked in family court. No fault divorce is the problem.…People are weak willed and selfish. You know what those divorced families had in common? Lack of communication, no shared goals, no shared core values, and none went to church consistently. The only warranted divorces were at fault divorce (drug addict mother or DV father) ..no fault divorce makes it way too easy to give up.
@mahedihassan75664 жыл бұрын
Sacrifice just a simple word. but? really not simple for the human life. Thank You
@JamieAug2 жыл бұрын
Marriage is outdated in these times. People are living longer and people grow apart. Anyone should be able to change their mind about being married. If someone is not happy, for whatever reason, they have the right to ask for a divorce. Even if you have children. People are not to be owned. Being single is not the worse thing in the world.
@omderod22064 жыл бұрын
My inspiration
@platriercube4 жыл бұрын
She ask me divorse this week😭for all u said very true
@AnkitSingh-gf1zb4 жыл бұрын
Wanna marry me
@jasumin.tomorrowisstoday4 жыл бұрын
@Đức marriage property is always divided in half when they divorce
@JD.yahthatsme Жыл бұрын
What if you have them, you prepare, you have an emergency plan if there is an issue but then when it came down to it nothing went as planned she refused to attend counseling. Little did I know she took our child and filed for divorce 30 days before I was “served” divorce papers :(
@ricardoortega8264 жыл бұрын
Totalmente de acuerdo ,es para siempre
@K-ONE16 Жыл бұрын
Wonderful Ted talk! However, how do you stop women and recently men from operating from the point of hypergamy in relationships and marriage???
@user-kh8wv2er5m4 жыл бұрын
People who can marriage are so lucky.
@chevyboy95254 жыл бұрын
Yes or No. It is a trade-off. Not being cynical. It is a life long project, a contract with contingencies, known and unseen. The key is maturity before marriage, but unfortunately, often the reverse is the case. Time would not wait. Haste is dangerous. Those who are married often envy the single. Those who are single envy the married. It is melodrama in general. It can be a fulfilment if you make a choice consciously knowing life is a personal deed but not a religion. There is no such thing as better than or lucky or not lucky. There is no lucky charm or worship for this one! It is a kind of symbiosis that requires give and take, respect, sacrifice, genuine compassion for the partner. If 'who can marry are so lucky' means they haven't treaded on the landmine (not as yet), then they are truly lucky! Of course, I am trying to do humour here, no offence. Let's have a good laugh about everything that is 'happy ever after'!
@chuyistheshiz68114 жыл бұрын
I like her dress.
@thomascoolidge21614 жыл бұрын
Managed to make it 18 years on my first (and only so far) marriage. Eventually she just gave up on us and even she admits it.. She decided she just wanted to stay home with her parents. I moved to make money for us since she didn’t want to do anything more than what she wants.. yeah she decided she wanted the money I earn just without me. Going on 6 months of divorce now.. 18 years of work for nothing...
@salaford62994 жыл бұрын
I hope you get better man!
@ChaN-ks3ov3 жыл бұрын
Because you maybe be cheated! That’s the ultimate reason of divorce all around the world!
@Lore-wv5mt2 жыл бұрын
It sucks for those who got married and end up in divorce. I’m sorry guys… that’s why am scared to get married
@charlescastell4638 Жыл бұрын
Wonderful and useful information. Way too many camera angle changes, almost made me dizzy. Too bad the editors could not calm down! Try just listening and not actually watching...
@lymata46074 жыл бұрын
I can relate to this discussion..
@richardjames70473 жыл бұрын
Hello dear
@user-rv2ve7yd5x4 жыл бұрын
Don't marry too late or too early, and you can manage it easier
@ericcornish19834 жыл бұрын
Or as I like to say don't marry at all, I am a lone wolf and always have been, I'm a person who enjoys my freedom, I feel marriage as a tie down as true freedom cannot be attained, reason for this is because if you don't marry in the first place you and your partner will not be corrupted or tainted with the man temptations and blame that's usually always associated with marriage and then only becomes a statistic. I always walk the path of the lone wolf and will continue to do so until the day I die, also marriage is only a piece of paper, if you truly love that person then be with that person, not because what laws or state dictate or define what a marriage truly is, no law can stop me or anyone else taking a partner in life. Wolves abandon their young after a certain while for a reason, so that way they can find their own path and their mate in life and no law governs them as they are truly the pinnacle of freedom!
@chevyboy95254 жыл бұрын
@@ericcornish1983 I know both sides of the corn. Let's not associate freedom with marriage. People like to challenge that. For the religious marry vow devotees, that is their choice. Freedom is irrelevant to them. For the lone wolves, more power to them, because they understand life in its essential nature. When the cage door is open, the bird chooses to stay in. Contemplate on this ... with gentleness but not meanness ...
@e.t.theextraterristrial8372 жыл бұрын
"I want to take things slow and talk about the serious things from the get go like 1)children - do both of us want them in the future? 2)what you can expect from me 3)what I'm looking for 4)what you're looking for This way we can avoid deal breakers but people just want to "keep it casual" and "have fun". I am not looking to "have fun" and just "bang". I want a partner in crime. " Everyone else:" that's why you're single bro "
@finalruner4 жыл бұрын
I'm noticing in college less and less people want to be in relationships.... even some people asking what's the point. What's the point of marriage, it seems like a lot of people aren't having a good time with it as is
@carmensmithaguirre30494 жыл бұрын
Are you noticing that?
@b4ph0m3tdk92 жыл бұрын
If you cannot open your mouth and speak your mind to your spouse you married the wrong person.
@pongmc22454 жыл бұрын
2nd wife as well
@1NELifeBrand4 жыл бұрын
Grate information!
@angelisland224 жыл бұрын
This talk was so convoluted and hard to follow. smh
@johnjordon2534 жыл бұрын
so do i
@iliakaplan4 жыл бұрын
Interesting perspective
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@JoseGarcia-eb1pz2 жыл бұрын
Describe the concept of fair exchange in a marriage.
@jasumin.tomorrowisstoday4 жыл бұрын
I can relate this to boys and girls relationship
@richardjames70473 жыл бұрын
Hello dear
@gotellthem20993 жыл бұрын
Come unto me, all ye that labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Matthew 11:28
@nonchalantd4 жыл бұрын
Why even get married? Societal pressure? Fear of missing out? Possessiveness?
@chuckhall53474 жыл бұрын
To share the burdens of raising children.
@FadliMarjan4 жыл бұрын
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@melquesilva33394 жыл бұрын
so, what´s the point of getting married? makes no sense
@nandisteynberg54273 жыл бұрын
Marriage is not for everyone. You get married to signify that you and your significant other has become one(in a sense). You get married for love. But remeber love is not a feeling its a choice. You choose to love this person during the good and the bad. Love is hard work and there is no denying it. With the right person its worth dping all that work. But if you marry someone because of only a feeling it wont work. And if you dont want to put in some work in bettering the relationship then its best for you to stay away from it
@nandisteynberg54273 жыл бұрын
@Tyler Trobaugh Well there are many reasons that people dont feel like they are made for marriage because of all the stigmatism. Marriage has been built up to look like it would only affect your life badly. I mean we could go on for ages about how the "social norms" dictates people to live their life a certian way and if they dont they failed in life. People arent made to be pushed in a box. And most people view marriage as being put in a box. So the sad reality is that everything is screwed up in some way or another. Maybe within the next 100-125 years the social norms would shift and people wont be so narrow minded
@nonyeawurum91934 жыл бұрын
Great talk.
@himanshu32474 жыл бұрын
I m not in love or married yet i don't need this video now
@chevyboy95254 жыл бұрын
Ha ha. Good wordings. Not as yet.... It is good to galvanize yourself before the spell of love sap your power. Bless you, when the time comes for whichever it might be!
@drsyedakiranumefarwabukhar29422 жыл бұрын
I am divorced with myself and 1st human equality act and 1st husband Syed Muslim 2,* times my real age
@PsychoSocialCreation4 жыл бұрын
Financial support I need now hahahahah
@abcdefgh-rq3gq4 жыл бұрын
Marriage is a one sided contract. Make sure you know what you are getting yourself into.
@izyizhan35614 жыл бұрын
4 who tho?
@abcdefgh-rq3gq4 жыл бұрын
@@izyizhan3561 You know who. 🤭
@nks3ak2634 жыл бұрын
@@izyizhan3561 women of course. Even the slutiest ones with the no fault divorce.
@Burdflu4 жыл бұрын
lol @ people acting like they don't know who benefits
@erickli58214 жыл бұрын
interest talk!
@johnnybrabo1234 жыл бұрын
Wow your very EXCELLENT my frnd..you have a huge big Family at YT world..i love you my frnd...
@mfriedrich20123 жыл бұрын
I think it’s better to avoid marriage and cohabitation. The divorce laws make marriage prohibitive. No man ever lost women pursuing money. But men soon lose all their money pursuing and placating for women.
@johnnybrabo1234 жыл бұрын
Here in my country in Philippines thers no a case for divorce coz we don't have a divorce bill until now..
@vayu_vayu_4 жыл бұрын
gooD~~~ thank you~~~ :-)
@geniusnemo4 жыл бұрын
Why must second? I always believe eternal first true love...
@katiearbuckle90174 жыл бұрын
Than do it right the first time, and set boundaries so you're "Second Husband." Becomes you're "First True Love."
@abcdxx10594 жыл бұрын
How about M&W GTOW
@abcdefgh-rq3gq4 жыл бұрын
She has "that face". You know what I am talking about. If you see a similar face run bros. 😎👍