Wedding Vows (The 3 Ways to Say Them!)

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Unboring!Wedding - Mark Allan Groleau

Күн бұрын

As a wedding officiant, are you intimidated by how you should guide your couple through their wedding vows?
When I sit down with my couple to plan our ceremony and it gets to the part where we brainstorm their wedding vows, the first thing I ask them is, “How do you want to say your vows?”
They almost always look at me a bit perplexed, so I have to immediately continue: “There are three ways you can say your vows.”
As a professional wedding officiant, I do this every weekend for thrilled couples and their guests! In this video, I'll show you the 3 options for how your couple can say their wedding vows, and I'll touch on the unique benefit for each style.
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@jrobbx 5 жыл бұрын

Just an addition to the conversation. In 1969 I received an Ordained Minister License from the Universal Life Church through the mail. This was before the internet. I was 21, in college and had a couple of peers from Texas who wanted me to perform their wedding. Their parents flew up to Seattle area from Texas. The father of the bride took one look at my long haired, beaded hippy self and questioned how I could preside over the ceremony. He called the county marriage license department and asked if I was legitimate with this Universal Life Church document. Their response was classic! Does your daughter and fiancé believe he has the Power to marry them? The father said yes they do. The clerk responded,”Then he has the Power”. End of questioning. They are still married 50 years later!

@Autumn_Forest_ 4 жыл бұрын

Jerome Robbins Love it!! ❤️

@jroman8198 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you for these great videos. My only niece asked me to become an ordained minister and officiate their wedding. I'm a little nervous, but honored. Thanks again for the tips 👍

@KILLUMINATI-vf9vc 3 жыл бұрын

My wedding is tomorrow! I’m glad I found this video! Thank you!

@teraross 4 жыл бұрын

You are so amazing, thank you so much for sharing all this great content!

@marciawilliams2649 4 жыл бұрын

I'll be officiating my daughter's wedding in January. My first! Your videos have saved me. Thanks.

@brooklyn5542 3 жыл бұрын

That’s awesome. My mom is officiating mine April 24th! I’ve never seen it but it will mean so much to me!!

@graceschaffer2778 6 жыл бұрын

So glad to have found you! I am about to perform my first wedding and was not sure about my role and what to say. Thank you!

@Autumn_Forest_ 4 жыл бұрын

I think this is the best video of its kind that I’ve seen so far! Thank you for the great advice! This is the only video that makes me feel more at ease and less nervous.

@jamiemartinez8376 4 жыл бұрын

Exactly! I couldn't have said it any better.

@pomegranaterising24 3 жыл бұрын

The best link for to the point explanation and vow tips. After trudging through so many sobbing couples with way too long personal vows.

@michellerichards7265 6 жыл бұрын

Thank goodness for you!! I will be performing my first wedding, too, and I took A LOT of notes from you! I'm feeling much more confident and creative! Heading to get your free guide now!

@scottemmons9119 5 жыл бұрын

@@unboringwedding marrige vows in 2019 should be changed. Even if you do the traditional vows they should be changed to fit reality in 2019. For instance the ( till death do us part) part of the vow should be changed ( till i get tired of you).

@moniqueniethe452 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for your videos. I have just become a celebrant here in New Zealand. You have helped me a lot!. Am using your videos to help me.

@eilunedjones3021 6 жыл бұрын

Wonderful advice, thank you.

@martinezgeorgia1096 3 жыл бұрын

Thanks Mark, I will be officiating my granddaughters wedding. Keeping me on track

@gorettemarques1640 4 жыл бұрын

This is great info. Thanks so much

@crystalraeproductions1505 4 жыл бұрын

This post and the website was so helpful thank you.

@karenritchie4132 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much, this is so helpful.

@michaelotterstrom3726 Жыл бұрын

I was asked to officiate a friend of my son's wedding. After watching five or six videos of dudes don't get out of the camera way slight brevity timeliness it went off without a hitch! Amazing way to open amazing way to involve the audience you are so amazingly helpful, could have done it without you

@unboringwedding Жыл бұрын

I’m thrilled to hear it! Thanks for letting me know here! That opener really is magic and I’m glad you did it. Congrats!

@be.love.shine. 4 жыл бұрын

Very helpful thank you!

@ajohnson3830 4 жыл бұрын

Im suppose to officiate in 2 days and the bride and groom are so casual about it they haven't made time to meet and discuss detail. Normally, I'm not nervous at all and very relaxed, but this casual approach has me flustered.

@omarsalazar6600 3 жыл бұрын

Mark, have you ever done a 3 cord ceremony? I'm doing a country wedding in the fall and they want to incorporate this into the ceremony. Any tips of when to do that part and how?

@tonyo6033 3 жыл бұрын

Excellent advice!

@scottcurenton8920 3 жыл бұрын

Great information. Thank you, sir. 😁

@isabelmorales3096 7 ай бұрын

Yes

@craciopio 4 жыл бұрын

I’m officiating for the first time Tuesday! Thanks for your site!

@craciopio 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you! I’m trying to get in touch with them because my email changed and I can’t get into their site- do you have a phone number for them?

@patriciaburgess4434 5 жыл бұрын

As an officiant in the state of Georgia, we are required to do a Declaration of Intent and this is separate from the vows. Essentially I must verify that the couple is there of their own free will, they understand that they are entering into a legal covenant and they are there because they want to be married to each other. Basically, saying "I do" is required by law but vows are a separate part and not legally required. While a wedding can be done with only the Declaration of Intent, 99% of the 1400+ couples I've married choose to either write and read their own vows or repeat after me, using one of the 150 options I offer.

@annelemon3768 Ай бұрын

Within the province of Ontario, there are only 2 vow styles that satisfy the Marriage Act. Either write and read their own, or repeat after me. The “I do’s” are the declarations of intent which are different from the vows.

@gourmetmn Жыл бұрын

Amazing video! I just ordained as an wedding "Officiant" recently and wanted to learn more. I am a "Newbie" to the work. Thanks!

@unboringwedding Жыл бұрын

Hey congrats - and welcome to the officiant party! :-) Thanks for watching and I’m glad I could help!

@deangibson5930 3 жыл бұрын

Hey Mark!! I was nervous but after watching your video tips, they may have trouble TAKING the mike away from me .hahahaahh thank you coach!!!

@kurtiskoudelka Жыл бұрын

Thank you for all this information. What about private vows and how should they be addressed for the audience? “ The couple has chosen to share their vows privately”, so then I would do the I do’s? Thanks a ton for the help.

@ericbriner2793 3 жыл бұрын

Period king you tellem

@abbyfrantz408 3 жыл бұрын

How does one transition into reading the vows if the couple choices the repeat after me option?

@ApolloHubEZ Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much! Your video was very helpful!

@unboringwedding Жыл бұрын

You’re welcome - so glad I could help!

@11bravo79 4 жыл бұрын

I’m officiating my friends wedding next month. I’m a bit confused on the vows. If they read their own, where does the I do come in?

@ftdragneel6860 Жыл бұрын

I have a question though. When i read the vows you mentioned do i read the question out loud as well with the answer at the wedding?

@catherinedicristina4059 2 жыл бұрын

Mark, I love your videos find them fun and extremely helpful, can you recommend a lapel microphone?

@unboringwedding 2 жыл бұрын

Awesome, Catherine - thanks! I can 100% recommend the Rode Wireless Go. Best lapel mic I’ve ever come across. Totally reliable and no trouble in the wind. Perfect!

@jrobbx 5 жыл бұрын

When my wife and got married 38 years ago we wrote our own vows. We wrote them on note cards and had them handy for reference but we pretty much had them memorized. We did a 30 year anniversary re-do and still remember those vows. Her father married us and was still alive to say some words at our 30th but we had a younger person do the officiating. Many more attended our 30th as we had many more friends at that time in our lives. Party! I am performing the ceremony for my son and his fiancé this week and they have written their vows but are going to repeat phrases after me. I think that will work well and take some pressure off of them.

@bonniedouglas3782 4 жыл бұрын

I perform my first wedding this week I could not have done it without your information you save the day thank you so much

@slydanno70 Жыл бұрын

I am so thankful for your videos. My niece asked me to be the officiant for her wedding and although I do a lot of public speaking for my work I have never felt it is one of my strong points. Your tutorials are extremely helpful and make me feel like I've done this before. However, I have one very heartfelt and serious question. I love this niece as much as I love anyone, I was there the day she was born and she has been a huge part of my life. Her father/my brother and I are incredibly close. Not only is it going to be an emotional day for the couple and their families, but also for me. I have a real fear of crying during my officiant duties (particularly if I cast a glance at my brother/make eye contact) and I see him losing it. Any advice?

@Sammy-db3xj Жыл бұрын

It’s okay to cry

@unboringwedding Жыл бұрын

Yep - it’s okay to cry. I tend to let my inner drill sergeant out when I might really lose it and remember no one wants me to lose control and ugly cry lol.

@meganking2861 7 ай бұрын

Do you have a video with examples of the “long question with ‘I do’ at the end”?

@unboringwedding 7 ай бұрын

Thanks for your question! No video, but you can check out my article where you can simply change any of these to a question. unboringwedding.com/sample-wedding-vows/

@meganking2861 6 ай бұрын

@@unboringwedding thank you!!

@AmandaCremeans 3 ай бұрын

❤

@AmandaCremeans 3 ай бұрын

How do you write I do and in a marriage ring ceremony plus how do you say it?

@lisapaez8713 4 жыл бұрын

Thanks for such great advice! 🙏🏼 💒 I couldn’t find the link to your blog!? 😁🎃

@ftdragneel6860 Жыл бұрын

Thank you sir

@unboringwedding Жыл бұрын

You’re very welcome - thanks for watching and commenting!

@ftdragneel6860 Жыл бұрын

@@unboringwedding i have a question though. When i read the vows you mentioned do i read the question out loud as well with the answer at the wedding?

@frlouiegoad4087 4 жыл бұрын

second, repeat after me. best.

@ekissinger4775 2 жыл бұрын

Serious question. So if they each write and recite their own vows I don’t have to say anything ending in “do you…?” Writing and reading counts as the I do?

@kimberlypellot140 4 жыл бұрын

How about when a person marries themselves?

@corasexton1461 4 жыл бұрын

Mark, could you please help me with my Wedding with my dads help

@princessbiker1975 2 жыл бұрын

I wanna hybrid I wanna write my own vows for the preacher to reapet b4 that imma say something imma do it my way

@princessbiker1975 2 жыл бұрын

@@unboringwedding thanks because I'm sorta tripping about all of it. 3rd time but the 1st 2 I just went along with all the traditions. But I decided this time I feel more like me and who I am I've ever felt. So im wearing black and red and denim ND leather biker boots and im gonna have smoked pork and a big party in the bar I own. I think little girls get this idea about what the perfect day would be and they don't just say HEY I don't have to wear white I don't have to do anything I don't want to. It's your special day. Frankly it's my 3rd I would have been happy at the courthouse. But he had 1 wife b4 me but never a wedding. He wants to get married in the bar we own and run together. So I said well if we must it's gonna be our way. My mama tried to buy me a white wall down type runner. I I just threw my hands up and said I TOLD YOU NO WHITE 🤭🤣🤣 I think she gets it now

@jeskaveda3221 4 жыл бұрын

It looks like you renamed some of your videos to get views. I take that as you know people who are trying to get married right now need advice. Please upload some new content.