I'm a Nerdfighter as well but sadly i don't live in America or any place where there is any gathering. :(

Lilly That's why I'm lucky there are plenty of gatherings in London

So true! When I mentioned nerdfighteria during some of my first weeks of university, someone else jumped up and said: you know nerdfighteria?! She is now one of my best friends :)

I'm glad you're doing this. Also, not all nerds like "strange" things as in D & D or Xmen. Some of us are passionate about social justice and the environment and like decorating and science and religion. And we still don't fit. Others find us nerdy or just too weird. My interest in and using my voice to talk about social justice seems to be off putting to others. I do not get not feeling passionate about social justice, about the quality of life of others, and about the environment. What I am saying is ... I often feel on the outside of geeks and nerds who like D & D or Xmen or Dr. Who. Like there's nowhere to fit for a nerd who doesn't like stuff like that (that is doesn't get the appeal).

Everyone has valid moments of internalized "separateness" or "otherness" from a given population or sub-population. The only group that all humans cannot be isolated in any way from is "being human", but that's about it, heh. Subdivide that population into anything else, from sex, to gender, or religion, to sports team, to preferred sex position, to preferred D&D version, et cetera, and you get the necessary potential for division and a possibility for a sense of "otherness" to reveal itself. Just as I often feel (although my case might be a particular one because I seem to pathologically avoid social interaction as most data collection on human interaction for me has proven to be...difficult for me in myriad ways in the past, so I tend to just assume that most future interactions will reap similarly unrewarding outcomes, heh, I know, sucks to think that way, I'm working on changing up my cognitive schemata) that I am different from humanity-at-large and even within the sub-population of "societal misfits" or "nerds/geeks" or "relatively intelligent people", et cetera, there are also others within those groups that may feel that people like me (whatever that means) may make them feel alone and disconnected from people who are more similar to them. I think it's a matter of perspective. I'd rather feel detached from people in some visceral sense than superior to people and think that, "That group of people are below me" (well, serial killers and the like suck quite a bit as they impose plenty of suffering upon the rest of us, but whether we like it or not, they are human, too, so to judge their behaviors as undesirable is fundamentally different from judging them as a human being to be undesirable, but I'm wading into a possibly contentious area here, so I'll refrain [and no, I'm not religious, but agnostic]). Ultimately, there is a place for you even to fit in, even if it seems hard to find such a place. Having that conclusion is only a function of your past data collection given the individuals and groups you've interacted with in the past. No one is fundamentally an island unto themselves in the purest sense, or at least I don't think such a human has existed yet...(okay, okay, perhaps the first of our distant ancestors whom had an abstract, conscious thought that was a level of complexity never before had up to that time...but I'm really grasping for stuff here, heh). If none of what I said made any sense, it's okay, I'm used to it. Peace.

As I nerdy, black female I can really identify with the "you're trying to be white" struggle.

I'm nerdish and I got the "you're trying to be white" comments, too. But I've learned that what doesn't break us will only make us stronger.

Conratulations, thats the most depressing thing I've read all day. How the fudge is striving for the future or at least wishing it to be better 'white' ? We need a good plague to sweep the land of these regressive knuckle draggers. Stay strong, be awesome.

holy crap... what the heck has white got to do with it????? maybe I am speaking out of ignorance but I see all sorts of different color people that consider themselves geek/nerd. Stand tall 80flowergurl! I am right there beside you!

Don't try to be white, Melodie. Trust me, you don't want the wrinkles or the sun burn. We're just jealous of your rhythm and soul.

I was literally about to leave the same comment! Thank you Janis (:

Janis Lynn I was just going to say the same :)

I'm not a "geek" or a "nerd" either. In fact all of the geeks and nerds that I know, including my own son, just call me a "total technophobe", because I'm so inept with modern technology. However, everything Mayim said fits perfectly with me being a huge introvert. I don't do small talk, don't get the point of idle chit-chat, often have people think that when I make a joke based of absurdist humor, I'm actually being serious and probably worst of all, I have no real interest in sport, reality TV or soap operas. I know, I'm doomed to a life of loneliness and isolation and I wouldn't have a friend in the world if it wasn't for all those voices in my head. ( Umm..for those of you who love small talk etc. that was a little bit of humor and probably wasn't the least bit absurdist. You'll have to work it out for yourselves though because I can only tell you as much as the voices allow me to. )

I have voices in my head too. They bicker, create stories, and help me make decisions, etc.

in awe of being happy being different from the norm!!!! consistently working on this .... ❤❤❤

Regina Fallangie she's got my vote

Mine as well. ✋

Agreed!

Well said!

we don' hold the monopoly, but i certainly hope we don't make others feel left out the way they do us! i don't remember anyone else in my class having P.E. clothes pissed on and flushed in the toilet. I don't remember anyone else at work getting laid off this last year except for the three geeks in the department that still goes and see star wars or x-men, and talks about it.

I love you! You articulate my experience!

Let geeks have a moment maybe?

Deadpool is amazing! Don't be ashamed!!!

cierrablue I drink my coffee out of a wonder woman mug and I'm 48!!!

:)

Alli Dachndobe Mine is an "Olivia" the pig coffee cup that my husband recently broke the handle off of 😤

Christi Post ohhhh nooooo!!!!!!!

thebestwillow... me too 😊

Yesss

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Same. But for me, this is with sports.

Also 3.5!!! FTW and that face, I have that face!

Jennifer Campbell pathfinder tho

why?

Now looking for this named video ;)

I feel you.. Everything around me seems too shallow.

I am sorry. That must suck.

Different people have so much to offer. It is others who don't see that. Different is not bad.

That is so sad if 6 years olds are already bullying a kid based on being a bit different. I hope you find a way to get him to open up to you, maybe try getting him draw or something if he finds it hard to vocalize? If he is that upset there is obviously something wrong & you might be able to talk to the teachers/school & help him suffer a little less. The world can be a hard for those who are different but we all have some power to help stop bullying & make everyone feel included.

cw2lido I understand. I, too, wear thick glasses and hearing aids. And, now, also an FM Loop (for hard of hearing people to have sound into their hearing aids to hear better). And I have Asperger's. And, I code websites and love X-Men and Star Trek. Yep, I understand about loneliness. It bites that this is what your son is going through. Please show him MY response to you, here, plus Mayam Bialik's video to assure him of that he is not alone in what he is gong through cus others are going through it, too. Then, also maybe get him friends that are similar so he doesn't have to be so alone.

He will grow up to be independent and comfortable with who he is if he has you guys for role models. Keep him occupied in hobbies or activities he loves. I have a cousin who is picked on for her weight and goes through the same thing but its gotten easier for her because she knows where to find her happiness now, in soccer and singing.

If you don't feel like you can be part of a certain community, don't force yourself. We are all different, so don't try to put a label on who you are to be part of a certain group. Enjoy what you love to do

True. Thank you ;-)

You don't have to be a genius at something to be geeky. I love superheros & sci-fi but are not academically blessed in anyway. My best talent is being slightly above average at art. I do however like talking to others who have the same interests & appreciation for things as me, most of those people describe themselves as being geeky, so I tend to veer towards them. Like anyone I am a unique individual (an oxymoron i know) but I have found that a lot of self confessed geeks are generally less judgmental & don't try & make you feel bad for liking what you like, whether that be a passion for Star Trek or horses.

P.S. I think you are part of the majority of the populous!

You can join my fictitious group. We fit with no one. And the older we get, the more we like it. And ourselves. :)

"aping" ... epic... GREAT word!!!! :)

There's no such thing as "normal" only people who live closer to the top of the bell curve. People who call themselves "normal" live there and those of us they call "abnormal" simply live further from the top/middle of the bell curve.

I know

exactly!

No reason you can't do both. Why not discover new ways to how to clean the earth, power energy sources, get clean water to backward countries while wearing that cute new shade of lipstick that Kim K recommended. Why do you have to be one or the other. Is it possible to be both?

@@georganna.2371 some people don't have the time, energy, or interest to do both

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Agreed!

Really? Because I'm partial to AD&D 2nd Ed. I have the stuff for 5th Ed, but haven't really tried it out yet.

Wow ***** Where did that rant come from? Adonis Amarante said he agreed with Mayim 100% and I was making a joke about her saying D&D 5th was the best. Soooooooooo, where is the problem? Are we going with "Deep seated emotional issues" or "Internet troll looking for a fight"?

***** 1) HOW CAN YOU SAY YOU HAVE A BROADER SPECTRUM AND MORE EXPERIENCE IF YOU HAVEN'T PLAYED D&D?!?!?! Seriously, you have to play it. (And 2nd Edition rocks!) en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dungeons_%26_Dragons

are you a man? IN that case, marry me!

@Agnostic Atheist Ex-Christian I think it's more like onion layers. With the stink & tears.

Ditto

So would I! :)

Clayton George same here..very relatable.

You should listen to the Doug Stanhope podcast.

SirVampyr you made my day for writing about Mayim being your role model. I am a 62 yr. old woman all alone, with adult children on their own, & whom I am proud of. I have worked at so many occupations that my resume is way too long, & am currently going through an enormous number of changes, physically, mentally, socially & financially. I too have personally been struggling to find someone to be a role model & to emulate. Mayim Bialik has just filled that void for me. For many years I admired her talents as a scientist, as well as an actor. I just discovered Mayim's vlog (& your comment) & she added more to the admirable qualities I respect Mayim for: she's a Geek-Mom; able to balance a myriad of life's good & bad, work & play, & being different turning into joyously embracing one's uniqueness; she is proud of her Jewish heritage, culture, & religion - like you said above, "... AND you believe in science AND g-d. ..."; & I admire & respect so much more. I have never subscribed to anyone's online presence, but I did subscribe to hers. I can't get enough of her world view, personal view & religious pride! This was meant to be, (or as my mother would say in Yiddish, "beshert",) as I discovered her vlog while searching for an online connection to learn more about my observance of Rosh Hashanah & Yom Kippur, the Jewish New Year & Day of Atonement.

Gena Estrin, I am learning more observances as well. With my oldest. Now have tons of books to study and refresh my memory. (I love to read.)😊

Hey Mayim! How dare you not respond to this heartfelt letter from SirVampyr. Seriously.....

SirVampyr Dear Sir-lol. Of one thing I am sure: God loves you & there is nothing you can do about it. Since I believe we are all one, this 66yr Catholic Nana feels free to say & mean this: I love you. Go with God.

Why do you need a female geek? My husband is a geek & I'm totally not! We get along perfectly. Surely! Him being a geek gives me the extra time that I spend involved with my special-needs niece & nephew. I love entertaining, and we do it together, I feed everyone & have conversations & he has collected all the geeks & they are talking about this 'n that 'n the other in his den. However, we had to agree on a bunch of other things, like, recycling, paying taxes, our way of spending money, we have a strong religious & community conscience that unites us in our off times. Every Wednesday we Volunteer to go pick-up food for the Church Pantry. Every Thursday we pass out food to the hungry. That is four hours & four hours that we have spent enjoying what we do & each other... Differences do not have to be a bad thing. We met on a Plane trip arriving to Orlando, FL. We both lived here...enough in common to start a conversation... Just follow the lead of the talkative one & everything else, will fall into place.... Promise...

Christine De Jesus I wish it was that simple

i think everyone is special in thier own way. my mom met the love of her life at 47. theres hope, i promise you. do not change who you are for anyone. you should be loved for just being you

I met my boyfriend, now 45, 5 years ago. He's totally a computer geek, and so am I. Now we live together and play PC games together. There is hope for everyone, don't give up ;)

Pani Ka so how did you meet

Jules Hinmon I wish there were more people like you.