Husband Catches Disloyal Wife, Stay or Get Divorced? Shocking Advice Dispensed.

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Жыл бұрын

Mid 40s man is asking for some advice about leaving his disloyal wife, and starting out over for himself.
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@EntrepreneursInCars Жыл бұрын

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@fitfogey Жыл бұрын

This is one of the best books I’ve ever purchased on audible. Wish I knew the information in this book years ago before making a 15 year mistake.

@andrewlalanne6900 Жыл бұрын

5 million plus by 40 to be a “high value” man?? Love your content but you really can’t be serious with that.

@PappaAlvaro Жыл бұрын

@@andrewlalanne6900 I guess this is the top percent. Most men never come close to 5 million USD net worth. That doesn't men we all shoulden't try to reach as far as possible. And by the way he said 1-5 millions.

@steeletaylor8079 Жыл бұрын

Bloody spot on with the truth bombs here. Guy is delusional.

@frankiesfastcooking6027 11 ай бұрын

I am a single father and retired military. Where would I even start to to be able to make 5 million? Spent 21 years getting physically and mentally destroyed in the military now have no idea even where to start.

@1Grandhustler Жыл бұрын

Women are like roller coaster. The wait is long, the ride is short, and there's a line of men behind you waiting their turn. So just enjoy the ride and move on." ~TFM

@amsm2022 Жыл бұрын

Great analogy.

@perry6712 Жыл бұрын

Duuudddeeee awesome statement

@samuraisaint2360 Жыл бұрын

not to mention, have to be this tall to ride.. 😆

@adammoyer5037 Жыл бұрын

Greatest comment ever

@MindbodyMedic Жыл бұрын

I am memorising this to repeat at a fashionable wine bar whilst me and my acquaintances quaff overpriced booze.

@jrhamilton4448 Жыл бұрын

Your lover can never love you like your mother because she's looking out for her survival, your mother was looking out for your survival. - Mike Tyson

@85rockhound Жыл бұрын

That is why you (we) can never find/marry our mother. We need to stop looking for that.

@jrhamilton4448 Жыл бұрын

@@85rockhound This is why we practice the red pill philosophy. We have accepted the truth and for those of us who understand that truth it's time to spread the word to those who are searching for it in a way they can understand it.

@85rockhound Жыл бұрын

@@jrhamilton4448 Better late than never in the red pill department...

@dommidavros2211 Жыл бұрын

Well you wouldn't bloody want your girlfriend to love you in that way! That'd be just weird!

@dommidavros2211 Жыл бұрын

@@85rockhound WTF??? That's a really weird thing to say!! No f@#£ing WAY would I want to date someone like my mother!!! That would make me feel sick!

@king57777 Жыл бұрын

Never keep a disloyal wife.

@RearviewMirror-ij2pr Жыл бұрын

Correct.

@huebothedog665 Жыл бұрын

He’s 5’3 though

@Uvray Жыл бұрын

I'm 54. House paid for, couple of cars, enough money in the bank not to have to work. I live a life of leisure. I cannot afford to invite a woman into my life and have her F it up. Past experience has taught me never to let another one into my life. I'm sure there are some fantastic women out there - but I am not taking the risk because it's always too late by the time you find out they were not as they appeared. Now I just watch my friend's lives get F'd up by women.

@fitfogey Жыл бұрын

Same here. You aren’t being self centered. You are being self preserving.

@Uvray Жыл бұрын

@@fitfogey Oh no, my good man. I feel no restraint about being this way at all.

@riggitydoo5116 Жыл бұрын

Almost like I wrote this...same age, house/car/bank situation. yup, I bet there are some fantastic ones also. 😀

@Uvray Жыл бұрын

@@riggitydoo5116 Yeah, they have to be out there. But I've stopped looking. I don't just blame them, it also comes down to my own poor judgement. Either way, my life is pretty good without them. But I remain steadfast in my belief that women bring little to the table and are coat-tail riders. And the worst about that is the fact they disrespect us for letting them.

@nightowl6811 Жыл бұрын

Exactly bro! Same with me, I am 50 and doing great! I dated lots of women like 100! Since I was 18. I had my share of drama 🎭 from women! My last one was in 2017 of 3 yrs relationship! The other latest one only lasted 3 months! I don’t put up with shit anymore. Women are complainers 24:7! I guess it’s menopause and estrogen

@malone4735 Жыл бұрын

“Relationships and Marriage are Just a Carousel Break to Women” -Darius

@neilhartigan7456 Жыл бұрын

I’ve been there and I learned the hard way. A dog that bites is a dog that bites. She won’t change

@fitfogey Жыл бұрын

Same here fam and yep spot on.

@axljax Жыл бұрын

Excellent point, and great comment. I've got my hands full with a similar question I'm dealing with atm.

@fitfogey Жыл бұрын

@@axljax Cut her loose and cease any and all communication. If you have kids that is difficult admittedly. If you don’t, cut her loose and do not communicate at all with her again.

@ORflycaster Жыл бұрын

I can confirm this statement.

@kurt6410 Жыл бұрын

It's not called cheating when women do it. It's called a entanglement And it's never her fault. It's always the man's fault because you weren't meeting her needs. She was hurting and wanted to feel better

@JP-qb3ny Жыл бұрын

They always try to rationalize and find some excuse to absolve themselves of accountability and responsibility from their actions.

@vinnyhaddad Жыл бұрын

Yeah but there’s a similar double standard for us men. When we cheat, it’s because it’s “in our nature to run around have multiple partners”. When women cheat, they’re “emotionally cheating” which is worse.

@associatealpha1166 Жыл бұрын

No, men and wimminz are not the same. We have testosterone and a high drive wimminz do not. Wimminz cheating is betrayal and not biological the way men biologically need bedroom fun.

@silentwitness536 Жыл бұрын

As a dude who has worked in, managed, and owned nightclubs, cafes and resturants for almost 20 years my personal experience is, is that women cheat slightly more. For the simple fact: which gender can get laid easier?

@neomacchio4692 Жыл бұрын

If a woman cheats or leaves, it’s his fault. If he cheats or leaves, it’s his fault.

@fitfogey Жыл бұрын

Get divorced ASAP. She’ll do it again because if you stay you’ll have taught her that it’s ok. I did it. I lived it. Got rid of it. Best decision of my life.

@patrickbeck3181 Жыл бұрын

Curious.. once you walked away (and good on you for respecting yourself), did she ever attempt to make amends and get back with you? I’m exiting a similar situation to the one you were in. If you allow the dog to eat from the table once, it’ll think that’s acceptable behavior for a long time. Trying to prep myself for the day she comes back around with tears in her eyes begging for forgiveness.

@fitfogey Жыл бұрын

@@patrickbeck3181 Yes. She has stalked me for basically 8 years and early on wanted to cheat on one of her boyfriends with me. She’s written and sent me countless letters in the mail because I blocked her on everything. She’s literally a narcissist and I don’t use that term lightly. You cannot communicate whatsoever with a narcissist. They will try every single tactic to get you to respond. Do not do it.

@raimondsstokmanis1892 Жыл бұрын

@@fitfogey Wait, did she want to cheat on her boyfriend after you broke up?

@fitfogey Жыл бұрын

@@raimondsstokmanis1892 Yes. Crazy.

@fitfogey Жыл бұрын

@@raimondsstokmanis1892 If either one of you, Patrick or Raimonds are in a similar situation leave now. When you leave, if you can (no kids) cut off any and all communication with her. Do not allow anything that they do to impact you. Do not respond whatsoever.

@heroldjaras9909 Жыл бұрын

Marriage for females is a retirement plan

@leelunk8235 Жыл бұрын

I ALWAYS THOUGHT SAME..ALL FOR BENEFIT PACKAGE

@TheRichie213 Жыл бұрын

Lol! So true!

@dajewel1982 Жыл бұрын

Not true

@leelunk8235 Жыл бұрын

@@dajewel1982 VERY TRUE, WHAT PLANET DO YOU LIVE IN LOL

@Adrian-zu6tm 3 ай бұрын

@@dajewel1982yes true

@xFlared Жыл бұрын

I love how it's always the guys fault when his woman becomes disloyal. Not enough attention, too much attention, not enough money, not enough social proof. We need to be honest and realize that some women are just raised that way and choose this lifestyle. They get easily bored and require too much energy from a guy to keep them "excited". A woman needs to complement a man, not drain his energy. I've seen countless relationships that were effortless where both partners were in their natural state and lasted for decades together without any cheating. Both sides need to tolerate each other's life issues or otherwise it is not sustainable. If you think you need to be a millionaire alpha with an aggressive mindset to maintain one chick, it is extremely exhausting and stressful. Living life full of suffering just to get inside her for "good behavior" is simply not worth it and does not bring any dividends. A woman should be a cherry on top of your cake. Your life is your cake. Let them come and leave as they please. If one stays with you through hardest of tests and is stuck to you like crazy glue, then you know that she may be truly yours.

@zoraster3749 Жыл бұрын

“It’s a trap!” Sorry, I had to 😆

@usarmymedic07 Жыл бұрын

You’re a goddamn genius! Well said!

@frankdavf4599 Жыл бұрын

¡GOLDEN! Thanks man

@frankdavf4599 Жыл бұрын

@@zoraster3749 INDEED IT IS!

@ericmaye2757 Жыл бұрын

I hope your not white.

@will-bp9gz Жыл бұрын

I wish there was stuff like this 15/20 years ago. I wouldn't of made so many of the mistakes I've made

@dimitrimartens647 Жыл бұрын

There was. NEIL strauss.

@andrewmontgomery8428 Жыл бұрын

I was talking to a colleague of mine that grew up in a Middle Eastern family/culture. He indicated to me that he has never had to deal with 95% of the issues presented on this channel. I couldn't imagine why that would be.

@garysnow1475 Жыл бұрын

Gee, I wouldn't know hmmm

@jonathanLToronto Жыл бұрын

Islam rules period.

@el_killorcure Жыл бұрын

Because they're one out of 4 slaves/wives and can be replaced like dirty socks if they displease the master/husband...

@abranisdz34 Жыл бұрын

@@jonathanLToronto that's right.the religion taught women to be obedient to their husbands whatever happens in a relationship,but things start to change recently because of social media which groomed and brain washed women's mentality.

@jonathanLToronto Жыл бұрын

@@abranisdz34 Islam will defeat sns in the long run.

@malone4735 Жыл бұрын

“She is Always Yours But Without the Y”

@usarmymedic07 Жыл бұрын

Good quote. I haven’t heard that one before

@davo5809 Жыл бұрын

WELL SAID HAHA

@tedrosm2492 Жыл бұрын

😂😂😂

@acheronking Жыл бұрын

Priority 1- Get in shape!! Confidence raises quickly and bleeds into other areas of life, plus your wife will start to find you attractive and suspect you might have a better option then her! Priority 2-learn Game/social skills - hold your frame, abundance mindset =You're wife will likely be terrified to LOSE YOU

@lanceevans1689 Жыл бұрын

Spot-on.

@el_killorcure Жыл бұрын

Dream on. If you didn't have it then, chances are you won't get it later on.

@abranisdz34 Жыл бұрын

Totally agree

@acheronking Жыл бұрын

@@el_killorcure Men tend to wake up after emotional trauma caused by women in their life, that's when they find the R. Pill and learn to become someone of value Most men Don't have it from the get go! Specially these day when father figures are either feminine or non existent

@PhantomFilmAustralia Жыл бұрын

When you are happy with yourself, you will be happy being alone. Screw what people think and be happy with yourself. You are the only person who is with you every second of every day and are the only one who is in your head. People will gravitate toward you if you live and enjoy life.

@fitfogey Жыл бұрын

There are 8 billion people on the planet. If you asked every one of them what they thought about you they’d all say something different and none would be correct. Only you know you.

@PhantomFilmAustralia Жыл бұрын

@@fitfogey That's right...it's basically what I just said.

@usarmymedic07 Жыл бұрын

YOU are the only person who cares about you, period.

@lanceevans1689 Жыл бұрын

Sorry, but that sounds like advice my long-widowed grandmother would give. Totally non-actionable fortune cookie drivel designed to make losers feel better. And you vacillate from suggesting “Screw what people think…” to “People will gravitate toward you…” Which is it? You heard the email, this gentleman is never going to be the extremes (lone wolf or life of the party) you suggest to him. And how would either option resolve his issues anyway? They wouldn’t.

@tiehnporesources7078 Жыл бұрын

He's saying screw the wrong people that don't understand you and attract the right people with your positive energy.

@TBTHEONE Жыл бұрын

Man rich is SO spot on in this… Relationship or not you’re not being accountable to yourself. First step to solving any problem is taking responsibility. You get what you tolerate, she’s your wife you’re not hers. Move on and move up!

@TheGalacticEmperorOfLabels Жыл бұрын

You said it man.

@patrickmcveigh1414 Жыл бұрын

First time being exposed to this upfront honesty. Damn I realize I’m a mess beyond repair. I’m sending this to my sons though. I want to see them happy and thriving

@Koolej98 Жыл бұрын

He's out of shape, nerdy, and short. That's literally the antithesis of what Western women desire.

@usarmymedic07 Жыл бұрын

So just rent. Being short and chubby doesn’t mean you are subject to women. You are 6’5” when you stand on your wallet.

@Prophezora Жыл бұрын

But he has $...so now he's a 10.5. Lol

@kpboost Жыл бұрын

Scarcity is the scariest thing ever

@2GunRock Жыл бұрын

Staying with an unfaithful wife will steal your dignity to such a degree that you'll fantasize about getting hit by a bus. If you "love her" I know it will hurt like hell, BUT YOU HAVE TO LEAVE, eliminate all forms of contact, and never comeback. Like I said, it will hurt like hell if you love her, but you MUST resist the temptation to reestablish contact and it will get better.

@bashiruddinahmad408 2 ай бұрын

29 months no sex..for me married 5 years 5 months crazy

@Son-of-Krypton Жыл бұрын

Does marriage bring anything else but stress and anxiety for men in these times…..just in hope of getting some sex ? Seems like juice is not worth the ring 🤔

@amadeuss3341 Жыл бұрын

Yup, it does. Financial problems

@maxlee8371 Жыл бұрын

0 benefits for man, free meal ticket for women for the rest of her life and guaranteed jackpot when divorced she get half of your belongings.

@timothygibney159 Жыл бұрын

It's for women to cash out and security

@MindbodyMedic Жыл бұрын

not to mention women are glued to instagram and vloggers, clicking away constantly buying shit. Thats before you even consider the propaganda machine carpetbombing childrens minds. We truly need a strong mannerbund to navigate this dystopian nightmare.

@associatealpha1166 Жыл бұрын

I’m assuming most males nowadays are complete betas in transactional relationships and are in essentially dead bedrooms. I will never understand why males accept this?

@geraldwaldrop5131 Жыл бұрын

Engagement ring ..wedding ring..... suffering...😭

@davidf1712 Жыл бұрын

Dude, I've had some lousy and some great Therapists, but I think YOU are head and shoulders BETTER than any I've ever had!

@lanceevans1689 Жыл бұрын

Because his advice is pragmatic and real. Plus, he's not getting all Freudian on you and you're also not paying him by the hour, so he gets to the point. ;-)

@BrashTV Жыл бұрын

I agree with about 85-90 percent of what Rich teaches. When it comes to human interactions and things of that nature, spot on. When it comes to money, I feel like the massive success he experienced puts him at a disadvantage. He will say a statistic about marriage which is accurate, but doesn't bring up that the average age of a new millionaire in the United States is 62 years old. I think money is the only thing that this contributor has going for him and that is in itself pathetic. Rich, thank you for being you. You give a wealth of knowledge about human interaction that both sexes can benefit from. When it comes to personal finance, I don't think it is fair to downplay someone working in tech making 250k a year. Those are common mid career numbers for that field in the United States, and it usually takes, statistically, about two decades to reach those numbers. People also get it together at different times. I'm with you about no excuses, as I'm not making any. My money is up to me, and I'm on my way to being a millionaire. I also believe in tough love, which you give in abundance. But I didn't start making six figures until last year. I've read your book twice, and am going to do a third read through this fall. Despite having different values than you (I don't want the kind of cars you drive) I can see where you are coming from. Respect.

@demodiums7216 Жыл бұрын

Lol he seriously said you should aim to be a millionaire by 40 AT THE LATEST. Absolutely ridiculous and if that is really the expectations men have they are in for a sad existence.

@BrashTV Жыл бұрын

@@demodiums7216 I think that that's a good idea to strive for those statutes, however, your self worth shouldn't come from your income - but your own mental point of origin. Money is just the icing on the cake. Dave Ramsey, who has a net worth of 200 million, has said "you can do everything right and still wind up broke." Rich is a great teacher about certain things, but he is sadly guiding people to look to external indicators in life for happiness. He's spot on about female nature of course, but if you need money to be happy, that's relinquishing control of your happiness to an external source. Which is beta. Relying on someone else's involvement for your happiness is beta.

@0ccam5Raz0r Жыл бұрын

Basically, RC is being like a black piller, telling a guy on 250-300k a year he's not even sorted financially and needs to catch up. How is that any different to someone like WheatWaffles telling someone if they're not an 8 (arguably the same aesthetic level as a 250k financial level), its over? Honestly, I like a lot of manosphere content but some of the advice is just shockingly bad and shows a lack of real world experience. Guy shouldn't worry about the money, hit the gym as a massive priority first and foremost, waaaaay above worrying about the beta bux side.

@Hechangethnot Жыл бұрын

Based take. I do agree with you totally. Many men won't in their entire lifetime won't even come close to 250k net worth not even income wise and that's ok. This is because every man has a choice to make in how they present themselves to the world in their lifetime from a wholistic approach(spiritually,mentally,physically, financially and socially). This life is a journey and not a competition and am not talking from a defeatist mindset but that is the reality for most men today. I personally support and am grinding towards the idea chase Excellence but life won't give us all the same level of success. We simply have to pick and choose what works and discard won't doesn't as much as the idea of happiness being subjective to all of us.

@chesokabe2535 Жыл бұрын

Agree 100% Also, high value people don’t seek validation from anyone, let alone individuals on the internet. This applies to the husband in this video, and anyone watching content by Rich. I think Rich’s point is not so much about the subject’s income, but his net worth, and took issue with his claim of being a high value male. I think Rich’s point about having a $1M Net worth by age 40 is about being in the top 1%. Nothing less. If you don’t care about being in the 1% (like myself) then there is no need to feel inadequate for only making low 6 figures at age 41 (like myself).

@alihumayun8497 Жыл бұрын

Mr Cooper, thank you for existing.

@edjonatchick Жыл бұрын

"I'm not sure what happened to the income" A woman has the ability to outspend any income.

@mtnbkr777 Жыл бұрын

If she's already straying, his conundrum may be moot as she may very well end up leaving him anyway. Sounds like divorce is imminent.

@thatguy6054 Жыл бұрын

And she's waiting for his next step up in income before she bails and takes half.

@Idkjustyet Жыл бұрын

She emotionally left that relationship before she got “friendly”…

@ep9321 Жыл бұрын

I'm 50, been divorced for long time. Have money, dated younger, it was a waste of time. I'm happy solo, enjoy my work, time and toys. You can always find a date.

@alphadriver104 Жыл бұрын

This information is gold, thank you Sir!

@DSN262 Жыл бұрын

"Just be funny" that's solid advice there, Rich totally worth his dono 👌

@derekthetrader2929 Жыл бұрын

Great advice, many thanks for you work Rich 🙏

@prosam8695 Жыл бұрын

Killed it in the final thoughts, well said! 👏🏽

@joeluongo6079 Жыл бұрын

THANK YOU for giving someone a much needed reality check instead of placating their emotions, you didn’t even pull punches about his income which he does seem to make a good amount year after year but where is it going?

@e.3075 Жыл бұрын

Interesting to listen to. You describe it really well, direct and sharp but that’s the real gift to this person: no BS input. Just the hard reality. He’s gonna figure that out anyhow so better be prepared by this.

@0ccam5Raz0r Жыл бұрын

At 5ft 3 and close to 180lbs he ain't 19.5% bf. He's in the obese category.

@rb9888 Жыл бұрын

he could be muscular

@seugene7040 Жыл бұрын

When you look at most people in the US net worth wise, net worth of $450K is not bad at all. The idea that you have to be a millionaire minimum to be attractive to girls or to have a good life in general is completely false!

@jumpy11949 Жыл бұрын

Totally agree, 💯💯

@matthewdaniels5659 11 ай бұрын

My thoughts exactly. Also why would you disclose your net worth to any women you are dating?

@citizenblue Жыл бұрын

Mine of 16 years just noted out after cheating with a coworker. Left our 3 kids with me. I kicked her out, and now she has no job, living with family, and looming expenses. She's was 100% my 'one'. Never again. Not her, or anyone else. I'll keep women on rotation and if I'm close enough to one to worry about who's in her phone, that's a wrap

@MortRouge Жыл бұрын

Solid info, Rich.

@kevinlewis5194 Жыл бұрын

That's why on the second marriage. You always say, " I love you, but sign this"

@stephenvicaro Жыл бұрын

100% Agree with your perspective!

@DanielD1989 5 ай бұрын

This level of honesty is great

@lanceevans1689 Жыл бұрын

Fix as many problems as you can WHILE STILL IN YOUR MARRIAGE. Then 6 months or a year from now, you may find your wife sees you and your marriage differently (ie, you'll know, you'll be getting laid more often!). If not, you can leave at that point, and at least you'll know you gave the marriage your best shot. In the meantime, also prep for a divorce, in case it goes that direction. Personally, after the 6-12 months, I'd read her the riot act. Let her know in no uncertain terms what is expected in the marriage. Meet the requirements, or go separate ways (this goes both directions, btw). It's that simple (yeah, it's hard, but simple!).

@Prophezora Жыл бұрын

My husband was a nerdy dude when we dated but I turned him into a sexy man. Lol He works out, and he is sexier in his 40s than when he was in his 20s. I transformed him, which was only possible because he was a good guy to begin with. 👍

@Beleeuer Жыл бұрын

You been faithful

@wvwyut Жыл бұрын

She could be a narcissist. It's NEVER enough with narcissists. She will ALWAYS go out looking for a new supply. Don't fool yourself. Just let her go

@muskokamike127 Жыл бұрын

Yeah, but "just let her go" means he's going to have to buy her out of the $400K house which means sell it, or take out a $200K mortgage on top of his $250K mortgage. (so he'll be upside down) Not sure how it works in Texas but they determine the value of the property not the equity in it in most places. At the very least he'll still end up owing $50K on the mortgage after he sells and uses his $200K to pay off the mortgage. 50% of his $450K in net worth is gone. He most likely will be paying her alimony. He's bringing in $20K per month she's bringing in $3500, He'll probably get hit with $6500K a month alimony.

@wvwyut Жыл бұрын

@@muskokamike127 either he splits the assets, or shares her with other dudes.

@muskokamike127 Жыл бұрын

@@wvwyut or stops her from communicating with other dudes like a real MAN would.

@econdude3811 Жыл бұрын

It sounds like the wife lacks gratitude. Plus, if the guy makes a quarter million a year and she makes $40k, where is all of the money going? Typically she's spending it, and then complaining that he's not earning enough. When a marriage counselor has to help a couple negotiate, I would say forget it. If it were me I might put on an act and keep the marriage together, or else just divorce as fast as possible

@wvwyut Жыл бұрын

@@econdude3811 the narcissists chase instant gratification. They get addicted spending other people's money. She's never gonna thank him. If he stops giving her money, she'll go out looking for a new source. I strongly reject the c u n t culture. Marriage counselor is not gonna solve any problem. Divorce is the only way out of the situation

@36gustavo Жыл бұрын

Your advice is on point, sir. 👌

@jamesgunn8392 Жыл бұрын

The reason why divorce is so expensive is because it is worth it!

@Logan24855 Жыл бұрын

If your woman is talking to other men, isn’t that a red flag NOT to get married?? 🤯🤯

@garysnow1475 Жыл бұрын

"WELL HE'S MY FRIEND AND I'M NOT GOING TO GIVE UP ALL MY FRIENDS JUST BECAUSE YOU'RE JEALOUS!"

@Logan24855 Жыл бұрын

@@garysnow1475 😂😂 C YA!!

@joegariboli Жыл бұрын

5’4” myself… Never bothered me whatsoever.. Been with women 5’10” .. It truly is all about confidence!!

@DavidWilliams-pb6he Жыл бұрын

Not sure what state he’s in but some states after 10 years the woman gets indefinite spousal support. Until she gets remarried. So beware!

@nicholastracy4915 Жыл бұрын

So many people think of "stoic" as emotionless. That couldn't be further from the truth. Stoicism is a way of life relating to, for simplification purposes here, the mastery of strong emotions- both positive and negative.

@neubianx Жыл бұрын

Solid advice. Sounds like the problem here is internal. 5'3" and 175lbs sounds like the cardio is dissuasive from the sex anyway. This guy needs to get it together and even read HIS NEEDS, HER NEEDS by Harley. You can't expect to maintain a happy wife by ignoring her conversationally just like you wouldn't be a happy husband to be ignored sexually. This dude is carrying a double standard.

@kellygreenii 8 ай бұрын

Agreed. I’m RP aware, but it sounds like this guy basically ignored his wife and treated her like a FWB. Any self-respecting woman isn’t going to put up with that. If you starve her emotionally, she’s going to find food somewhere. Sounds like he needs to get his shit together first. If he does that, he might be able to fix his marriage. If not, he’s in a much better position to start over.

@fars7463 Жыл бұрын

I like this kind of video rich.. They r insightful

@teddychalgren Жыл бұрын

Friday night 29 July 2022. Harsh truths. Thanks, Rich.

@troym33 Жыл бұрын

Divorce, monk mode, gym, combat sport.

@roguesovereignrogue9124 Жыл бұрын

100% perfect advice.

@matthewcunningham9297 Жыл бұрын

Rich if you see this.. Thank you! I get tons of value from your content .

@jamiewarne9066 Жыл бұрын

My wife said I drove her to it! I made her cheat on me. I wasn't spontaneous, I made her miserable..... I was out 11 hours a day working coming home to 3 hungry girls and a filthy house. And a board housewife that joined a running club and ran off with a married man.

@nickb7788 Ай бұрын

should've been spontaneous with divorcing her

@bassimprovjams3772 Жыл бұрын

New to your channel! Loving the real content, how can I join this community, and get to the next financial level, I don’t know what to do to get there, I’m definitely willing to put in the work, I just don’t know what to do to get there

@efthimios Жыл бұрын

I tried saving my marriage and family after my wife cheated when she was 47 and 3 years later she left at 50.. I tried two years and eventually she jjust didn’t try and we argued .. I lost my patience she didn’t appreciate all I did two years it’s so sad I’m broken

@denisgitau7120 Жыл бұрын

The only way you win is by living a good life. Let her be, she's gone for good and you never want a cheater back.

@billthebutcher6873 22 күн бұрын

I just love how women think they're single if they're not married.

@LazayLada 11 ай бұрын

Excellent video

@NothingFromMe Жыл бұрын

Once more respect for keeping it real with the self-annointed hvm's and focusing on working on what's in your control. Mad props for the "whether or not you're happy with yourself is entirely up to you" attitude. Cheers.

@thewalkindude7716 Жыл бұрын

5' 3" at 176 lbs and 19.5% bodyfat? Total bullshit. Most men grossly underestimate their bodyfat. Unless this guy is built like an IFBB Pro, 5' 3" at 176 lbs is going to be way over 20% bodyfat. Until this guy is ready to face some cold hard truths, there's no helping him.

@l-train7876 Жыл бұрын

Yeah he’s obese.

@gutta9922 Жыл бұрын

Got to be 30 atleast

@RichieB40444 Жыл бұрын

Disloyal and unfaithful are not the same thing. Unfaithful means you either had sex or plan to have sexual relations with someone. Disloyal could mean anything that undermines your partner. Ideally in a perfect relationship you would only want things that build and support your partner but we've gotten so used to animosity in relationships that we don't recognize it as disloyalty.. You can never trust a disloyal person to have your back in a jam. They will turn on you the minute they get the opportunity. A disloyal person can cheat and still have your back when you're in a jam

@ChrisLee-yr7tz Жыл бұрын

Unfaithfulness normally means there was deceit which is most definitely disloyal. The biggest problem with cheating is it involves lying to your other half. The bond is broken at that point.

@RichieB40444 Жыл бұрын

@@ChrisLee-yr7tz you can lie to someone and still be loyal to them. Parents lie to their kids all the time. That doesn't mean they'd turn their back on them or abandon them in a tight situation.

@ChrisLee-yr7tz Жыл бұрын

@@RichieB40444 I understand that you're trying to highlight the difference between the two words. For me, the point is that if someone happens to demonstrate loyalty in a particular situation it doesn't mean they are loyal to you. In my eyes loyalty means will that person ALWAYS support you and have your back. I don't think it's possible to be deceitful to somebody and be truly loyal to them. Being deceitful demonstrates contempt and there will be plenty of situations where the loyalty will break down. Separately, 'lying' to your kids in order to benefit them is not deceit and is a million miles from the deceitful behaviour required to cheat on your partner.

@RichieB40444 Жыл бұрын

@@ChrisLee-yr7tz well you need to look up the definition of loyalty. That's the definition I'm going by, not your own specific interpretation.

@ChrisLee-yr7tz Жыл бұрын

@@RichieB40444 Loyal... "giving or showing firm and constant support or allegiance to a person or institution" Being deceitful isn't 'showing firm and constant support or allegiance'. So I was correct with my 'always' point. Glad we cleared that one up.

@GToul13 Жыл бұрын

My 42 year old friend... Ok, in that whole pile of bullshit that Rich told you, he was right about one thing: YOU have to act and yearn for self improvement! Take advice from your loved ones. Work with your therapist. Cut some time from work and spend time with your children, if you don't wanna be with your wife. Read philosophy (Epicurus, Socrates, Diogenes, Comfucius, and onwards, e.g. Rolf Dobelli ). Work out, but not in a fucking gym, OUTDOORS, buy a kayak or a surfboard or go hiking, take training sessions for all that. Joining a sports club (e.g. a swimming class) will help you get friends too. Offer to your kids, advise them, share the mistakes you did so they don't face such situations in their lives. If you choose to split with your wife, know that at least some of your assets will be offered to your kids, so take solace in that. Grow some self-esteem! Don't waste time getting paid- advice from men who εξ ιδίων κρίνουν τα αλλότρια, meaning: who judge other people's issues based on their own

@alexcardinell7281 Жыл бұрын

He's lucky he doesn't have kids with her. Texas is brutal on child support. There is no sliding scale for custody time. The guy that always has his kids and the guy that never has his kids, pay the same. I'd suggest him to walk regardless of how he feels about himself. Only a matter of time before she does it again, if she hasn't continue doing it already...

@davo5809 Жыл бұрын

yep once a cheater always a cheater been there in my first marriage she even said to me after the first cheating episode would I TAKE HER BACK IF SHE DID IT AGAIN !! Well out the door she went I have 4 kids this all happend 20 yrs ago and she has been in over at least 30 to 40 sexuationships her body count could be in the hundreds and now she lives on her own and looks like something out of a horror movie she also had 2 abortions to one of her chads and has tried to take her life 3 times pill over dose and its every body elses fault still to this day !!

@seanimac7759 Жыл бұрын

5’3 and overweight but makes decent money. His kids older, so that sounds like previous marriage ( as you said ). I’m not saying he got played, but he got played. There’s plenty of younger ladies in DFW that will try to take the rest. Dude, go to the gym and work. Start there and get back to Rich in a year. ✌🏻

@net2dev Жыл бұрын

Thats a difficult situation, a woman cheats on you and you still get destroyed on divorce in a nofault state. You end up passing Alimony to keep supporting her and her lover and you lose savings and 401k in the process. Dont marry!!!

@jsts22 Жыл бұрын

The good thing is there is no alimony in Texas

@jadizm Жыл бұрын

9:00 - 9:40 LMAO!! Couldnt agree more!

@captainnomarriage7579 Жыл бұрын

This guy needs to look into a PI to not only track her but track her spending. With his income it doesn't make sense he's worried about her $40k a year. He's bleeding cash some place and it is probably her. Which may give him grounds for divorce. Yes, Texas still has at fault divorce and that's where his PI and attorney could come up with a plan. Aside from her, his biggest problem is his mindset. He's questioning if he needs to move someplace better when he's in one of the best places to pick up broads I've ever been. That whole thing where you move to a new town and start anew is some of that magical thinking that chicks believe in. He needs to join at least 3 different gyms. One main gym for serious workouts, the other two for scouting.

@thebrowithnoname1703 Жыл бұрын

I didn’t even need to watch the video to comment “no.” Seriously?

@stevenbongiorno9277 Жыл бұрын

Truth!

@DrBilly90210 Жыл бұрын

Sad story. Biggest challenge for this guy will be realizing what he thinks of as 'his' salary, 'his' net worth, and 'his' house aren't really 'his' at all. Also, being 42, short, fat, and middle class in DFW, he won't have 25 year old hotties lining up at his door. You must confront your fear, grasshopper.

@habbadabbado5765 Жыл бұрын

You smashed it! What is he doing to go higher?

@mrmcbeth Жыл бұрын

11:31 That's a heck of a sound bite.

@ben.scanlan Жыл бұрын

Brutal and brilliant

@TheMultiGunMan Жыл бұрын

I think the fact that he's asked for this video means he's already made up his mind.......He wants to leave. But, he's looking for permission or encouragement to do so. If you're not happy and it can't be "fixed" then leave. Get your shit together. And, move on.

@steveconn Жыл бұрын

Get podcast, Rich. Very informative.

@grumpymcgrump5822 Жыл бұрын

Good video! 50% of every relationship you have is the same, because it includes YOU!

@theflyingsmiley01 Жыл бұрын

Let me correct Rich a little bit. The guy that sent the email is doing great compared to the average American! It is just that Rich has a higher standard.

@captainnomarriage7579 Жыл бұрын

That's like saying you're banging the hottest waitress at Denny's. It may be true, but it doesn't mean it's good.

@juzrhyme712 Жыл бұрын

Yes he is doing better than the average American, rich is emphasizing, it a bit more for his case cause the guy is 5’3 which is shorter than the average women in height, so he really needs to increase his wages and get in shape

@theflyingsmiley01 Жыл бұрын

@@juzrhyme712 I can agree to that.

@JamplayJeff Жыл бұрын

He should have a higher standard. Most modern men should!

@associatealpha1166 Жыл бұрын

20 yrs married, got married 22 & 21yrs old. Bedroom 5-6 times a week to this day because that’s how it’s supposed to be. She knows l want and need that. Like how l know she wants and likes me to listen and talk to her. Why do so many men not understand this dynamic!?

@cryptorunner6957 Жыл бұрын

you got a unicorn

@russellholm742 Жыл бұрын

The moment you suspect your girlfriend or wife is screwing around on you. END THE RATIONSHIP IMMEDIATELY ! She probably is or will be soon. Run! I wish I had.

@olanderdecastro52 Жыл бұрын

I must comment on the attention thing. Deal (soon to be) ex-wife cited this is my "major problem". But, no matter how much attention i gave her, no matter hard I tried, the words I tried to say to her, the positive affirmation I gave, the gratitude I showed to her, it was not enough. In fact, in the future I will do exactly the opposite of what I have been doing. I will hold, keep and otherwise withdraw my attention. I will make any woman earn it and if they don't like that they can just take off. As a man who earns 90% of the income, provides more than 50% of the parenting, handles almost every situation that comes up in terms of family protection, maintaining a home, cars, equipment, run a business, etc. I didn't realize (until it was too late) that the more attention I gave the wife, the more she wanted and then demanded and then demanded more..

@associatealpha1166 Жыл бұрын

Unfortunately you clearly failed that massive crap test. Wimminz never speak the truth about what they like and want. When a wimminz says that to you - you don’t do what they say..... You Do The Opposite man, c’mon bro.

@cmml22 Жыл бұрын

Yeah there's no winning bro

@usarmymedic07 Жыл бұрын

You’re absolutely right man. When she behaves well, give her attention, when she’s a shit, give her nothing.

@deanholness4864 Жыл бұрын

He's better off in Texas than he is in Canada!! That's for sure!!

@ClutchJunk Жыл бұрын

Im getting the vibe from this video/comments that losing half your net worth isn't a big deal. There ain't a soul on this planet that im ever giving up half my net worth to.

@jeanalexandre1105 3 ай бұрын

My advice Do not get married. Lease with no purchase option. At the end of the list, tray her in for the new model.

@svtk5104 Жыл бұрын

top advice

@Yukyuk96 Жыл бұрын

Miami would be ideal, heighy varies pretty dramatically in thr US. Miami and nyc are both several inches shorter than the average midwesterner

@pedrocorrea6870 Жыл бұрын

This guy should get his frame back, lose the weight and become more frugal (considering the relation between income and networth). It seems those are the most serious problems. If he fix that I would bet those other problems would either go away or he would at least be in a more secure position to make a decision. A lot of men rush these things because they have learned impulsivity.

@NAGaming513 Жыл бұрын

It's actually crazy that he has less than 2x his yearly salary. Man must be blowing cash left right and center, and still hasn't paid off his mortgage

@muskokamike127 Жыл бұрын

@@NAGaming513 yeah, what's he doing with his money? His mortgage is only going to be about $2500 a month. That's $17,500 in income left over. Judging from his spelling and grammar I'm playing the BS card on him making $250k a year. He's in the top 10% of earnings in the US and can't spell Height or Appreciate?

@liberalistbat6352 Жыл бұрын

What weight? He's already nearly anorexic at that weight and height. I'd know, I'm also 5'3, and was nearly skin and bones at 165lbs

@liberalistbat6352 Жыл бұрын

@@NAGaming513 well he's got a wife 🤷‍♂️

@muskokamike127 Жыл бұрын

@@liberalistbat6352 Yeah and I'm not interested in that bridge you're trying to sell. I'm 5'8" and 185 and NOT fat by any stretch of the imagination nor am I ripped. You both are 5" shorter and only 20 lbs lighter? Skin and bones? .....not. Not to mention he's got 10 lbs on you. I suggest you look up "height to weight" and at 5'3" you should be around 139 lbs unless you're ripped then you can add another 20.

@davidlmatteson Жыл бұрын

Should mention the trt program when addressing the body. Most men our age have never heard of trt or are wary of trt because of the stigma.

@bruceblackerby3742 Жыл бұрын

Some hard truths. But I think better to be with no one than the wrong one. I've seen many who can't handle being by themselves, and latch on to whoever comes by, like a drowning person. They end up making the other miserable as well.

@nexttimeism Жыл бұрын

Dead on. I had codependency issues and went thru 3 narcissists. Finally found a GREAT therapist who is an expert in victims of cluster b assholes, tho she calls us volunteers. Rightfully so. She moved that prism just a slight amount till I could see the color spectrum and after buying her a BMW (took a couple of years) I'm a completely changed man. Not sure about alpha/beta but I can tell you the part where you tell this guy to figure out why he accepts abuse as a relationship is the real answer. And besides, no one wants to lose their shit but living "that life" is not worth a plug nickel. Can spot and asshole now in the first conversation. As we used to say in the Army...."Tanks".

@KC-Kid Жыл бұрын

Bust out pocket Hercules on em brother! 😎

@kauffrau6764 11 ай бұрын

Best advice for anyone, man or woman, do the work on yourself.

@markconner5341 Жыл бұрын

There’s a lot that doesn’t compute here. Maybe guy or his wife has spending problem. In DFW, if you have household income of $290k, you can EASILY save half of it per year. Especially with a low mortgage. Wanna bet the wife drives an S-class?