"Unconditional love does not mean unconditional tolerance. "

YOU ARE SO RIGHT!!!! My ex husband said I never loved him because I left...I told him no "I LOVE MYSELF MORE "

I loved my husband deeply but got fed up with how poorly he treated me and so I decided to leave....but he didn't think I would leave because he know how much I loved him but I finally realized that I had to love me and choose me.

"It's a dangerous thing when a person figures out you don't have the power to leave" OMG that is a POWER statement!!!

I love and left, I still love and I'm still gone. Because emotions aren't everything!

Yep. It took me a long time to learn this. It is completely fine and healthy to cut someone off and not hate them. If honesty, respect, and integrity exit so do I.

I wished someone talked to me like this during my childhood, it wouldve saved me a great deal of pain in my adult life . I wouldve been able to take heed to red flag signs and not saw them as imperfections that will get better in the long run .

If only I could hit the like button 1000 times. The energy in your voice has done its work ❤

I am a man , and this hits me hard !!!!!!!. Ace , I thank you my brother 🙏. Loving her from a distance from this very moment onwards.

When a person keeps belittling, hurting, manipulating, and cheating on you and then says they "love you" at the end, it is not an act of love, and it will be a repeat cycle if you don't get out!

I just got out of my toxic relationship 4 months ago and now he begging to come back nope

If you know these things for yourself but you still can't get out or stop this pattern, and the self-betrayal has hurt you over and over, you probably have childhood trauma that you haven't dealt with completely. Men are not the start of this problem, your parents were. And, if you had to work to be seen with them, you're still working to be seen, meaning still trying to feel worthy of being seen, only men have replaced your parents as your primary person. Remember, as children, parents are our primary people, or person, or, whatever adult raised us during our FORMative years. This becomes our lovers once we leave those people and our childhood home. Your soul will continue to give you opportunities, meaning new relationships, to work this out. Self-love is the only answer and until you start gaining it, you can understand all of this intellectually, but that deep need to feel worthy will cause an attachment to other insecure people that will feel like an addiction. All it is is us saying to ourselves, "I may not have been able to make my parents love me, but I will not fail this time." See, it's not the particular man, it's you. You're choosing people who will make you work for their love, because your brain is actually wired where your internal belief about love, is that it is something that has to be earned. If the neurons in your brain are literally wired like this, you cannot just turn it off. So, while in these relationships, you can feel like, until you are successful at "winning over" a person who does not love nor respect you, you cannot feel worthy, but this is false. You can, you just have to admit to yourself that you don't actually like the person, understand that you have become temporarily, literally mentally ill, from dealing with self-betrayal, and that your focus should be on self as the one responsible for you being in this. Don't focus on the indecency of the other toxic individual that you've attracted, focus on why you're attracted to toxic people. This is even if you're still in the toxic relationship. You're not mad at them, they are literally interchangeable, you are mad at self, for being here again, and, with another person, who is indecent, when you already know better. Self betrayal is what won't let you rest. Check out CPTSD. Childhood Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, or ComplexPTSD. Just knowing that relationships trigger old childhood patterns of behavior, will give you so much empathy for yourself. But, you must constantly tell yourself the truth and be working to get out of a toxic relationship or to make sure you never enter another one. Gotta do the work no matter which category you fit into.

Yes agreed I moved 1500 miles. Because I love myself MORE...

So True...my dad taught me that he never raised his voice toward me and never placed his hands on me always... protected, love and provided...that baby girl is your standard for men

Here is What I Tell Men "You dont have a spell on me, there is no certain amount of wowing me that makes me be here or make me Love you....Me Loving You is a CHOICE...MY CHOICE...So I can choose to Not and Leave!!!!! So keep taking Advantage of something that's not yours and see how far it take you

My ex blessed me by breaking up with me. It was the best gift he had given me in 2 years. 💯

Never felt this way but there are people that think it shackles you to them!🙅🏾 Amen 🙏🏽

Can love you & walk away with smile On my face 😁❤😁❤😁❤😁❤

Say it loud!!!!!!!!! You on here preaching!!!!!!! 👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏

I love your show has gotten me through my break up ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

If I could smash the like button a thousand times on this I would. Absolute truth. Thank you for this video.

I have left a *few* people that I either loved or was IN love with. In the words of Robin Harris, “Gotta go, gotta GO!” ✌🏾

Yes! Love thyself! Even if it was so hard to say goodbye, and I will always love you! But I picked me now first! You are 💯 he was lying the first night. I left 3 weeks ago! It's painful but WORTH IT. LET GO and do you!

If they say i am a nice guy. Runnnnnn. Every time someone said that they were the opposite. No one should expect you to trust them right off the bat. You should demonstrate what you want to convey. I personally would never tell someone I’m nice. Because, I’m sure I’m grumpy sometimes. Even if i was perfect 100%, my actions would prove it.

Never let your time, effort, and love be taken for granted❤

Yes, I am able to leave you and do not want anything you can keep that alleged heart.

No gas, no movement!!!!

Accceeee....you are heaven sent! I'm married and going through this! I struggle between my religion and getting divorced. I need so much help. But your videos give me hope.

Beep beep put gas in me we rolling!!!!!!!! Omggggggggggg your on point

Love your longer sessions. Preach! I have already - been - to - church!! Woohoo! 1. I just opened the door to loving me! Being my fill, my best friend! 2. Don’t have to love forever! 3. Ready to be alone

I have had a fraudulent relationship for 3 years, and this person has gaslighted, love bombed, emotionally drained me, and did all of the above to hurt me in the relationship and think I'm stuck to leave the situation.

When you continue to LIE, .... You will always LIE.

I have no words for how great this is.

My ex-husba6told people I never loved him. Dude!!!! I loved you for 30 years and you did the unthinkable to me. You was the only man I ever loved. It hurts still today. And the only thing I asked today is to leave me be. Stop with the mess!!!!!!

Bro you preaching and teaching

This real talk..❤❤❤

you're amazing and wise.... thank you AGAIN for your encouragement and wisdom....

Love should be a commitment not a feeling , 2% of it should be a feeling or 0.5, I picked a lot from this video

What's crazy is even when I warn mofos... they try me. Smh

This was a whole motivational speech.

Veni Vidi Vici. (I came. I saw. I conquered.) That was my life motto starting in high school. Thank you for that reminder! ❤️❤️❤️

I hope you practice what you preach because you soooo right!!

This is truth and real talk 💯‼️ You need to Love yourself more❤❤❤. Do not let your Love hold you hostage in a fraudulent, toxic, and unhealthy relationship/situation ship! Choose Peace and Yourself. Be empowered; you are worthy💟💟💟.

Somebody asked right for a year or two and they deserve a lifetime of love from you...? That hit hard. I remember when I was about 12 years old and my dad told me it takes years to get to know somebody. Until you know the real them, with no filters.

Boy I wish I heard you years ago and I am 71 now and that's lessons learned to me THANK YOU FOR THIS BECAUSE THERE IS A LOT OF STUCK PEOPLE OUT HERE GOD BLESS YOU FOR THIS LIFE LESSONS INDEED

ace u are my favorite n u helped make me stronger n i salute u

I APPRECIATE YOU ACE SPEAKING THE TRUTH!!!!!

Why am I just finding you?! Lol TELL IT! This is me now after realizing people will tell you anything, in order to hold you in place.

I healed myself with Jesus alone🙏🏽

Absolutely 4Sho! 🔥

Every freakin problem mi have inna life is really and truly seated at a man fi true. Real chat mi G

Come on now!!!!!!! When that happened I dipped so quick 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂. Love you but I'm not attached baby. I love me and I danced my way on out his life 💃🏾💃🏾💃🏾 😁

ACE, U're always on point, and I've learned from you. 👏🏽✌🏽👊🏽⚘️👌🏽👍🏽👋🏽 🌻🙌🏽😇🙏🏽

So so True. As they say in Church..."GOOD WORD"!....❤

👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏 That's right!

Said even if he is a soulmate or she is a soulmate love yourself

I been to myself so long I forgot what being in love feels like.

Love & relationships are two different things. Love is unconditional but relationships ARE NOT, nor should they be. You can love someone deeply and NOT be able to have a healthy relationship with them. Relationships ARE conditional. Healthy relationships ARE conditional based on mutual agreements, participation, reciprocity, personal values, and honesty. Work, romantic, family, or even neighborly relationships can't thrive without agreed boundaries. Relationship boundaries are required to build trust, create respect, ensure dignity, and nurture emotional safety that leads to sustainable intimacy between two people. Loving someone actually has very little to do with a functional relationship.

Thanks for all of your awesome advice!! I agree with everything you have said in all your shows

I agree...in fact, the more I love you, the faster & easier it is for me to leave you...I can be rational with others & calculate what I am getting out of the equation with others but if I love, my heart is at stake...that's non negotiable...I will leave you as quickly as I realize you are not as invested or more & yes, because I love me & know my worth...I may love you from a distance but you don't get to indulge in that love...it's a garden...no watering no havest...simple

🐐🐐🐐 This Was On Point From The Reading Of The Title To The End Of The Video! Just Blew My Mind, Took Me To Church 😂😂😂 No Lie! I Felt This In My Soul! I Had To Listen To It Twice Back To Back!! I'm Already Out The Door After 10 Years & I'm 31, However This Was A Message Sent To Me From The Goddesses To Never Allow Me To Look Back! You Are A Beast, Thank You 🎯🙏🏾💯

Big facts man and I completely understand ❤

Omggg I miss listening to you! Love your work. Forever a fan.~ ❤💯

Most of the time the people who say I LOVE YOU are the same people who hurt you.

Thanks you so much you talking to people really helps open our eyes to the truth thanks keep up the good work

About time the brothers are stepping up. Thank you!

Hi ACE, I love listening to your podcast videos. You be on point with your conversations. Keep doing what you do, and you have a beautiful dog first time seeing it. Be blessed and take care of yourself

Yea I need you to keep preaching to me and I'm broken already preaching it brother!!!

Love is the descriptive name for a emotion. Emotions and feelings are not facts. They can change for whatever reason you have. if someone is not right to you. Leave them alone

This happens because there is lack of worth and love for oneself. Took me many years but this is the answer. Thank you for addressing. This will help many people.

I. Feel. Attacked! Omg this was a word! I needed to hear all of this 😩

Shout out to you you are so successful so 100 and more above you are telling the truth or everything you speak of I wish we had more men anymore man cuz I know there are some Few Good Men like you to know about value of a good woman God bless you and your family and I know that for a fact God will bless you

Yaaassss!!! Men stay taking about picking right like these men don't present us with their phony representative. Glad I am over this stuff.

Wow you have a beautiful mind... I love the way you think! 🙏👏❤️

I luv him but I luv ME MORE 😁👍! Ladies, if you have to go to the battlefield and make a spectacle of yourself just to get his love and affection 🙄. Imagine what you'd have to do to keep his love and affection! After it's all said and done, you still never received what you see out to get in the first place. The reality is if he failed to see and acknowledge your value and worth then he is NOT your king! You shouldn't have to show him your "diamond" status...he should've seen it right off the bat. Don't allow any man to treat you like a piece of cubic zirc!!!!

Your back! I hope your tour went well! Thank you 🙏🏽 for all you do with your meaningful and inspirational advice. 🔥💯

I love this guy

So well said. BANG ON!

You said that brother👏🏾👏🏾

Thank you so much for this!!!!!!!!

Amen. I have a friend here who does this and I'm seriously to the place where I am so done . Thank God I'm not afraid to leave. He works and never.comes home that's strange . He help with bills but there's nothing else. I already advised him were roommates only. I need some stuff in my house done. He doesn't realize once my house is fixed . He had lost everything he was companionate until began to work. His game isn't even tough I am focusing now on what God wants then I'm out.

I respect your Candor. Thank you

So true...!

Well said, Sir.

Hey there I am not on any social media other than you tube for listening to music and these type of things but I appreciate your content❤👌🏾💯

My love is like a car…and I need some love gas juice to keep going 😂😂😂😂

I totally agree with you ❤️.

Amen! Preach!

❤ Absolutely 💯

🗣️🗣️🗣️🗣️🗣️thank you bro 👌😘just because I'm in love that mean I cant go lol!

Hey this is where I'm looking for the 10 like ❤️❤️❤️❤️🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥😉😉😉😉❤️❤️❤️🔥🔥🔥thumbs

I am leaving a situation where he is 60 years old and saying that. It is baffling to see grown people believe that if someone leaves them that means they do not love them. These people go on being terrible examples to the youth of today.

Bro I'm floored, because I didn't know I was the only one who felt this way.

I agree with some of it but not all. I always say if you put me in a position where i have to choose between you or me I’m always going to choose me and that’s for ANYBODY not just relationships. But you don’t stop loving a person if it’s real love but you just love them from a distance. Doesn’t mean you need to be with them.

I feel attacked 😂 I needed to hear this

Preach so true

🗣️🗣️SPEAK PREACHER ✊🏾‼️‼️

I take a year after I get out of situations😂😂😂yes ladies take time for yourself❤

Oh such truth!!!!!!

Loving me more. I deserve the best 💁🏽‍♀️