I like your videos because they’re straight up old school KZfaq. Just a regular guy sitting around giving his thoughts, no ads and no patreon crap. And as an old school KZfaqr, I appreciate that!

Loneliness kills, one of the worst experiences in a person's life, it hurts a lot.

Keep shining, loving, and being genuine and transparent. The world needs people like you. Thank you for being vulnerable and sharing.

I learned stay away from toxic people. I'm 78, a widow, and NOT lonely. I was in my 20s. I have a dog. They are great company.

"Father, forgive them; for they know not what they do" this sentence makes a lot more sense each year you grow up. Helping people w/o expectations is, in fact, the best social advice you can think of.

hello my friend. i am argentinian so i barely understand, but i really comprehend your feelings because all my life i've been alone and unloved, people just ignore or laugh about me. I'll keep the frase "the opinion that matter is my opinion and nobody else's"

i can see in your eyes, you are one of the last beautiful souls left in this world, you are beautiful ❤

I wish you luck and love in your life. I completely understand you. Thank you for sharing your perspective. You are a pure soul. People are judgemental, you just have to proof them wrong. You may feel lonely but you are never alone. There is a reason you are faced with this challenge, transform your sadness and anger and use it as motivation to create something beautiful, like you already did with your video. Become the most happy, condifent, kind and healthy version of yourself and help men in your position to feel better aswell.

I have felt very lonely when I was in the process of cutting off toxic people. The difficulty is not being bitter. Its so easy to get bitter and feel like EVERYONE must be a toxic pyscho, there are no good people. But you cant do that, because then you'll just be lonelier and lonelier. When people have been treated poorly, they treat everyone like a threat. I do. You have to remember that it isnt you. It is me. It is them. It is their body memories, it is their neurological system. All the hits you've taken live in the present. So you cant take that personally, either. It IS tiring to go out of your way to make people feel safe. But it is the only right thing to do as a rational human. Your trauma lives in you, too. But you are doing right to reject the negative thinking, and you are doing right to remember it is them and not you. Not only is it better for your mental health, it is just also true. The discourse around toxic masculinity is valid. It is fair. Its is important to talk about. It is also important to remember that women are not all hateful whackos. They are rational, just hurt. Same for you! And its nice to see. Gotta push that bitterness away. It wont be the first time we try. It wont be the second time. But, eventually, someday the light filters back in.

Yoi have a genuine smile and eyes. Bless your heart!

Never watched any of your videos and just saw this one randomly but man I wish you nothing but positivity and joy in your life. Keep conquering the negative thoughts. We're all in this together and also thank you for speaking up. Thats a service not too many do anymore in this internet world. Love you man

I'm genuinely impressed with your thought processes on this. Sometimes in falling into loneliness, then despair about it, we can become bitter and hate others...but you seem to know to stay on the positive and beneficial side of things. It is true that many men are lonely these days. I'm not sure I have a good solution to suggest, since I'm basically the same - no real friends, just have my own little family. I've heard that men gain friends "shoulder to shoulder" and women gain them "face to face", or in other words, men bond by doing things together, less so than chatting. So it might help to find more things to do, whether in career or as hobbies, where there are people with common goals. Also, I will finally say that I think exercise is super important not just for our physical health, but especially for our mental health. People don't exercise enough in our culture. We are supposed to be getting 4-5 days a week of 45 minutes of nearly out of breath activity, along with resistance training. I never felt better than when I was regularly lifting barbells, doing the Stronglifts 5x5 program at the gym. It helps to see continual progress made, and have a plan for when progress stalls. Becoming stronger, metaphorically makes us stronger in every other way. By having good physical and mental health, then we're more "magnetic" or people are more "attracted" to how we seem, and things go more smoothly with them.

I appreciate your wonderful advice, I needed it today

I’m so glad you have the courage and are willing to speak about this issue. I’ve felt the same way but you are the first person that I feel I really resonates with how I feel and it’s honestly inspiration to see you willing to take that step and just share how you feel. I’m working to get to that point, much love

That's a really helpful video to everyone watching it. I so love how you talk for people, motivate them, and give your best to lift them up. Thank you for your kind words and thoughts, and keep up the amazing work you've been doing. Keep shining, best of luck, and I really appreciate your work!

thank you for saying words that some may need to hear and for spreading love 🫶✨✨

This is calm, collected, old schoolish, and you get the point across correctly. Its really refreshing. Keep these supportive vids coming!! Bros out here helping lives!! 🔥🤘

if you're a bear, you must be the cuddliest and sweetest one yet. and you look like a gentle giant

You seem like a really sweet/good guy. I want you to know that you're not the only one who feels this way. It's a good idea to reach out to any support system you have and try to become the best version of yourself. Keep up the positivity and love!

Long term loneliness saps the confidence and you become so socially paralised that little or no change can be made...

Just stumbled across your video. Just be you and the right people will show up. Always think positive. God bless

Hey, thank you so much for sharing your thoughts! Definitely something that people should be aware of. It helps if everyone could be more accepting, kind and open to all.

I am sorry to hear you are feeling this way and as someone who is going through similar things, I hope you get through it!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Hey man, glad I stumbled across your channel lol! I too felt loneliness (not as a man but yk) many friends left me but what really held me up was finding a friendship in Jesus man! It isn't a religion but a relationship with Him, and He truly made me feel seen and heard and yes, like a human being and less lonely. Idk what you believe man, but I really encourage you! I know what it is being lonely! Sending love and prayers! Have a great day

Always the ones who give the best advice who struggle in silence. I feel you. You deserve only the best. I hope you'll find the right people who cherish you as much as you would cherish them, someday. You deserve no less.

You are so relatable. I sometimes feel ‘broken’ as a person with Asperger’s and cPTSD and I isolate a lot. This year I want to do something outside of my comfort zone

Thank you for sharing your wise messages. Keep up with your positive thoughts and remember that you're not alone and one day the right people will come to you. God bless people like you.

sorry to hear your going this, i am also going through this loneliness phase lets hope every single of us makes it out of it. 😊

I’m sorry that you’re lonely. 😢 you’re a beautiful person inside and out. You deserve to have love and someone special. I admire your wisdom and your willingness to help others 😌

Aside from our health and happiness, a major component of life is *how* we use our time. If you feel lonely, you can invest your time in learning new things such as taking a workshop or maybe even getting a part-time job (in addition to your full-time job).

Ha stumbled upon your video. Good words. Cheers.

Praying for you, Sir. One step at a time and one day at a time. 🙏🙏🙏

You are not alone big bro🙏🏻❤️God bless you💯

What you said in this video is completely true bro, a lesson in life in to learn not to care about what others think and love yourself.Sounds easy on paper,but it can be challenging.Hope you have a good rest of your day

I used to look for connections with people. I did get some and it felt great until i realised i was just fooling myself. Connections turned into competition, like always. So i remembered that when i was a young kid i was looking for nothing at all. Thats what i do now, and it feels great. Socialising is great when you expect nothing in return.

As a 46 year old man being lonely is not easy i haven't dated anyone sense i was in my 20s and that was a long time ago and there is a male loneliness epidemic going on and younger men ending there life's because of it so yeah it is hard out there

You seem like you'd be a great friend! Best wishes to you.

The world now days need you , you are honest , have a kind heart and stand for your manners i need a friend like you who can lift me when i fall thank you brother ❤ subscribe to your channel

I hope you're doing well right now, I really hope everything in the end works out for you man.

Can't agree more, mate.

I use to volunteer with an NGO called "Serve the city"...helping arojnd the community one saturday a month! And at those volunteer sessions I met some very kind people! Maybe you could look into that! Or. Join a church group...😊...You seem like a lovely person. Look after yourself! A hug from across the waters!

nice video, love the truth of this topic and how simple it was without any special effects like the old days.

Nice message. Well done.

Hope u make it thru it man I understand I feel the same way

Loneliness is ruining my high school life.

That's how shit works in this world. If you're highly functional, beautiful, and able to spread a positive mood, you're highly sought after. But they will treat you like air once you're struggling and stop being perfect. Nobody really cares about you, accept it. The best you can do is try honestly, try to accept yourself, and improve yourself *for yourself* instead of others.

I'm almost 25 i have no friends only my family but even with them by my side i feel this loneliness it's really hard

i used to think I failed to connect with people because of my looks and lack of social skills, so I developed them, and became more confident, and better looking (over time obviously, this isn't a 90s' romcom) - and the result was that everyone 'likes' me but that's about it. they'll compliment the way I look, or laugh at the joke I make, or tell me "you're so interesting", "you're so smart", "you're so different" but at the end of the day they're all standing off to the side in their little groups and i'm alone again. i have all the attributes of a social person but i still can't form meaningful connections w/ people! isn't that wild it hurts even more because i look at the people they *do* choose to surround themselves with and they're all half as interesting, or smart, or talented as I am, and yet they're still the ones with the friends. And I know I am coming across as egotistical but that's not true because I genuinely believe I lack something fundamental that makes people want to stay around, something all the others have, and I'm genuinely at my wits' end because I cannot for the life of me figure out what it is. Having this sort of outward persona is just painful. I keep thinking of that one quote that's like "Depression can look like the funniest person in the room." I hope things get better for all of us.

I'm also really lonely. I live in Johannesburg, South Africa and I have no friends. My work plays a huge role that I don't have a social life. I work nightshift 6 days a week. I've decided to focus on my health this year, I'm going to the gym. I also booked myself a firearms course (female group) in hopes to make some friends. I really liked your messaging in this video. Decided to follow you, you have that old school KZfaq vibe that is really missed these days.

hey you can always get in touch with me.. same goes to anyone needing friendship in this world.. I'd be glad to hear from good hearted people i understand what you mean.. I'm a tall guy and i love to walk out in the countryside and it is so horrible when people get hostile or let their dogs be aggressive to me when I'm walking the opposite direction.. I've actually risked my life protecting women when they were being attacked in cities outside my apartment by muggers etc but i keep having women letting their dogs be really aggressive to me when I'm out walking to see the wildlife here and they think it's ok to let their dog be really aggressive to me because THEY are scared of some guy walking past but it is so horrible to be treated like that when i would give my life to save a woman who was being attacked i wish people treated us big guys with a bit of love sometimes, most of us would be the first to try to protect people in the world from harm.. please know this people Best wishes from Rolland in Scotland

I feel you man hope you get better

you've got a great voice :))

I hear ya, just gotta try and stay positive.

New to the channel, you got yourself a friend. I am an Asian and immediatley when I am noticed they make the Asian accents to make fun of me. Tell me that I smell and I sh!t on the streets. One thing that gave me room to build myself was humour. Humour is so good, not only it deflects anything but makes you not take things seriously. This gave me enough room to develop my hobbies, think and enjoy my solitude. For example, when people say - You are smelly. I reply - Yeah, I am getting my Glutes bigger. But I'd like to end with what you mentioned tiwards the end about good people around. This got me by suprise but despite my nihilistic outlook, I met many pepople who helped me and did not ask anything back. You are correct, there are lot more good people around than we think there are. Anyhow, take care man. Love to see more content from you. Keep it real player.

Great video well said

my friend, barely anyone in the comments is saying this. THIS IS HARSH ADVICE BUT IF YOU WANT TO CHANGE YOUR LIFE YOU MUST TAKE IT. IT'S TOUGH LOVE. you will be shocked at how differently people treat you once you lose weight. ESPECIALLY because you are clearly a good looking guy underneath the fat. that's not a backhanded compliment--THAT IS YOU! you can uncover a handsome guy that people will respond better to. seriously. i promise you that that is the place to start. you are certainly young enough to do this, it isn't too late. don't be too hard on yourself, just make gradual changes--read How to Fail at Almost Everything and Still Win Big: Kind of the Story of My Life--or specifically read the section on diet, food, etc. The goal is not to quit eating food you like--that's a misconception. the goal is to replace the food you like with other food you like but that's less bad for you and more filling--like nuts, fruits, steamed veggies seasoned to taste, whatever you actually enjoy. Expensive? if there's a trader joe's near you start subbing with food from there, start drinking diet soda instead of regular, et cetera. genuinely the little changes will add up and improve you. and then, when people's reactions change to you, you can make new friends, improve your social skills and life, and end your loneliness. You really do seem like a beautiful soul, man, good-intentioned and nice. this is the way. people are not so nice, they are largely shallow. all we can do about it is accept it and change what is in our control. good night and good luck

Bro I would be the first to talk to you u can tell u are a good hearted peson with ur head on ur shoulders and could bring alot to a good conversation and more than likely would be somesones best friend they might ever have 👉💯💯

You look like a nice person and you are slowly working things out. If you respect yourself and love yourself then that's all you can do Stand in your own power as a person but be open to talking to people.

my friend i feel exactly the same way all of my girlfriends lied to me and were unloyal to me my friends are gone and i m fighting alone my depression and anxious disorder.you are not alone believe me we are many like this

Stay strong, king!

Fast dude. Fasting will improve your life if you can do it well. People will treat you better if you lose weight. You will also realize that you are the master of yourself.

And if all else fails.... .. unleash the bear 🐻on them !!

Goodluck man, you re not alone

Bro I'm about to hit you with pure cliche right now but I used to be in the exact same boat as you and I used to get caught up in my feelings and constant attempts at understanding the world and people around me or how people perceived me. Then I started eating a super clean Mediterranean diet and hitting the gym and I have never felt so good. Doubled my testosterone and got my whole life on track within a few weeks after being stuck in a depressive dump for 5 years

Hello beautiful person I hope you are doing well. Where are you located? If you ever need a friend let’s go bowling or just for a walk on the beach. It’s always nice to have someone who is just as lonely as you are to shine some light on each other lives. Stay beautiful my friend💜

In my personal experience, the more you show you are in need to approach and make friends you will get the opposite result. I quit caring about having friends years ago and now I only have 2 real friends. And another thing from my personal experience is about loosing weight. Aside from health, the discipline you get through to get a slim body gives you dopamine and self confidence and believe me, you start thinking different and caring less about wether people will like you or not and that's how I met my wife 25 years ago. You are not ugly, actually you would look very good if you were in good shape.

Hey your not alone man ❤❤❤

bro i just wanna giv u forces to you, sometimes the world its cruel and negative, but u dont need to be negative😮U can be an awesome person❤

You can be whoever you want. I was 440 lbs. I didn't recognize myself. I've lost almost 200 lbs. I go to the gym consistently and don't make excuses. You can't say you just don't have time. I see the headlines of your videos... Is that who you want to be? The guy making videos about being lonely, and ugly, and black pilled, and ghosted? Thats the energy you're giving out. Again, you can be anyone you want to be. No you can't be Superman, but you can be the guy who doesn't feel lonely, ugly, or ghosted. No excuses. Get off your butt and say enough us enough. Eat 3-5 small meals a day. Go to the gym. Read some self improvement books. Build your self discipline... because that right there will grow your confidence that you can do whatever goal you set to do. That was my road map. I have the greatest dating life now... but I used to he just like you.

Learn what it is in life that truly makes you happy and YES pay close attention to your thoughts and self-talk. If you have a negative perception, your life will be painful.

being lonely is a space to do miracles ❤

you are important, man, God is with you (im not good at english, sorry)

I can tell you’re a really nice guy but if you want some advice that will fix a big chunk of your problems , it’s that you need to hit the gym bro. If you feel like people don’t want to be around you it’s because your packing on some extra weight and for some guys that really hurts them because then instead of people seeing you for the nice guy that you are, they see you as kinda creepy. 1-2 years of really hitting the gym hard and I promise you’ll feel a lot less lonely. Take care my brother and I hope things get better for you

Great job making positive content 👍🏻

God is trying to protect you. Befriend the inner lonely.

Just be confident

Self love is the cure for lonliness

Looks is everything bro everything! If you are ugly man you are destined to suffer ! Just try to cope by doing self improvement!

I would encourage you to use whatever you are going through in life, to reinvent yourself. there have been men who have gone through what you have gone through, to use it as fuel for change. this is what im currently am working on in my life even as i speak.

I love it when someone replies to all their comments

Unc to real with it

❤you video

You look like John from Wall-e

Well it's natural for men to be alone anyway. Loneliness and solitude represents men.....

Join an orthodox church bro. Community is never lacking there. Best luck brother.

Same 🦫👩‍🦳

Comment: You need hypnosis! You need to be programmed again. Second, you need to take up community service. It is there that you will be free, and you will help others who are poor. I also recommend that you also attend Catholic Mass and find Christ God. You need to save your soul. You are A good human being young man. Many people are just angry at life because they don't have 30 million dollars in the bank along with having 3 hot women girlfriends who are always kissing them (referring to frustrated angry men who are not lucky in love with hot chicks). Community service, College, and Church are the way to go young man. We are all picky but if one is not lucky in love with hot chicks then you have to find options when it comes to being happy in life. So that is why you do Community service, attend College/finish College, and you go to Church so God Christ can fill up your soul. Focus on your interior--in having a good heart, and you will get happy. Just follow the 3 C's: College, Community service, and Church (finding Christ God at Mass) Best of luck young man. June 2, 2024. (Sunday). USA

I had a computer science teacher who was a really great guy who was sort of big and bearish like you. He had a LOT of charisma, like, not even as a high school computer science teacher, just genuinely as a person. I think a lot of it came from his own sort of indifference to how other people reacted to him. He would basically just say whatever he wanted and was a very well liked teacher because of that.

Subscribed! How are ya?

They see you as a bear cuz gay men love bears. In all seriousness a lot of people can appreciate the positive calm big guy. Women are attracted to it too but it’s takes a lot of self work to become attractive to them

God.

Bro I'd shout ya a beer

🧸just wanna hug you 🧸

You should watch Sam Hyde.”the new pill” or “the second pill”

Pray to God bro, he will help you

keep it up

_seeing your video contents list_ hmmm i wonder why

You’re my brother. Id invite you for some coffee or whatever man. If you find yourself in North Carolina, let me know. Me and my wife love Jesus, and would welcome you with open arms!

It's ed just checking to find out how you are doing have a great day

forces❤