Even at 21 youre still barely an adult and a 60 year old being interested in you is damn near predatory.

"If you are the one critiquing the 23 year old Filipina woman who was dragged from her country by a 63 year old man with promises of stability and a happy future, if you get mad at her, take three steps back, look at a mirror, and spit on your reflection" you're not wrong though

The thing is, age gaps aren't inherently weird, but the maturity gap is so incredibly inappropriate. Like the power imbalance is so creepy.

As someone who was in a "relationship" with a 33 year old man when I was 13, a lot of predators behave like David. They will manipulate and love bomb you into enterting the relationship, and the swoop in with the false concern about your comfort and if you're really sure, so that you feel like it was all your decision and if you try to bring up your discomfort or your boundaries being violated in the future, they'll use your agreement in the past against you. It's coercion. It's emotional abuse. And it's specifically designed to make you look good to outsiders.

Cooper going though all the stages of grief just completely out of order and skipping acceptance is sending me

Just imagine the discomfort this girls dad may feel at his daughter dating someone older than him

I love how the 28 year old looks like she fights back tears whenever she talks about marrying him and avoids eye contact with the camera when talking about him

It's giving legal grooming and kidnapping...

I was about to be "she is almost thirty, she is old enough to make her own choices", but then they said to have been married since she was 21, she was from another country and she has no access at all to any of her usual support system and everything turned way too dark for comfort. Age gaps are fine, but I side eye HEAVILY anyone who is looking for younger women in a third world country. You are intentionally looking for women who are going to be generally in more vulnerable situations than 20s in your own first world country.

People are calling her a gold digger, but he's the one who was "digging" for a young girl. So what should we call him? Youth digger? Creep? Predatory? All of the above?

she was only older than a teenager by two years when they started dating. HE WAS BORN BEFORE HER PARENTS

First, I FREAKING LOVE the “Ew, David!” inserts. But also, I laughed at everything else too, so the rest was all fantastic, too. And second, David’s voice is giving Herbert the Pervert, minus the whistle undertone.

I was sad when she said how he was just so nice and respected her as if nobody’s ever treated her nicely and just easily feel in love because of that and she was only 21.

Can we appreciate how Cooper doesn't cut out the questionable things he says

Usually I say “well if they are happy together who I am to judge” but not this time, he certainly didn’t age like a good wine and the way he treats her is disgusting.

13:22 I think you missed her actual honesty here and there was a heap. She literally just admitted to her love of the dress having some compensation effect on who she was marrying.

As a 20 year old girl, I'm feeling ever so slightly snubbed by the lack of applause I got from Cooper

Just wanna say…when I was 13 the 21 year old I talked to always asked “are you sure? I’m so much older.” Yet he continued to use me. He knows it’s wrong but is putting the responsibility on her so he doesn’t feel responsibility for it

It’s a massive power imbalance and that’s creepy. It will always be creepy and predatory.

I lived in the Philippines and was present for an engagement party between a 25 y/o woman and a 50 something y/o man. We all knew... but they also knew why they were being married. She did tell me it was because she was concerned about how her children (from before this marriage) would fare if she didn't get married. They're happy and he was very sweet, but we all knew why the wedding was happening

I am so happy that Gen Z is calling out disgusting age gaps. It’s been far too normalized by my generation and older. You can still be groomed and preyed upon even as an adult, especially if you are a woman, a minority, or poor.

I am Filipino American. How I came to be born in the US was my Filipino grandmother "falling in love with a white American tourist and getting disowned by her family for moving to the States to marry him". Yeah, he treated her like crap and she may or may not have cursed him with Filipino voodoo and ruined his life. I want to believe there are cases of true love with things like this, but the amount of dirt old white guys going after vulnerable young Filipino women with the promise of a better life...no.

This man literally sounds like my deceased grandfather Also, I think it’s really worth exploring how people online tend to also blame the young person in these relationships, demonstrating a lack of understanding for the fundamental reason why age gaps are problematic

She is only a few years older than me and he is the age of my grandpa… it's just incredibly uncomfortable to think about.

Cooper is the type of guy to turn a 9 minute long video into 33 minutes of making winnie the pooh sounds and making fun of old creeps, love it, keep it up

I just turned 61, and the thought of actively searching out men in their early 20's to date makes me feel incredibly gross.🤮🤮 I have a 22 year old nephew...he's still a boy to me.😳

as a 22 year old girl, i appreciate the recognition. we are in fact warriors.

That old guy is literally Herbert from family guy ! Right Down to the voice 😂😂😂

As a 28-year-old with a 72-year-old grandfather... I cannot understand how this woman stays with this man. Girl, that is your grandpa. Hope he's got a good life insurance payout that she's getting, at least.

i’m half filipina and my mom told me a story about when she introduced my dad to her family her sister said ‘istg [moms name] if he is a old man’ she has never dated older men (her and my dads age gap is 9 years but they met when she was 26) but this just shows how common it is for white tourists to visit third world countries with the intention of picking up young, vulnerable women.

They're posting these tik toks to normalize these kinds of relationships on a platform where young and impressionable people frequent

everyone acted super chill when i dated a 28 yr old at 17 and looking back on it makes feel disgusted with myself and i want to crawl out of my skin i wish someone sat me down and just honestly told me how gross it is. i was a child and this feels the same to me its gross.

Can we talk about how David never let her talk in the interviews when it was about her? And how pissed she looked? Once, she even opened her mouth to talk, but he gave her a look and she closed it. Did anyone else catch that?

As a 22 year old girl, The joy that I felt when Cooper gave me a round of applause as I was expecting him to applause 21 year old girls is immeasurable

Coop please never change. Your humour, authenticity, and stumbling phrases are so relatable and authentic, funny, and surprising.

the fact that he was well into adulthood before she was even born 💀💀

she’s not his wife, she’s his caretaker 💀💀

1. As a 22 year old woman, I appreciate the applause thank you 2. I know she was an adult yet this somehow still feels like pedophilia Edit: it has been brought to my attention that my use of the word pedophilia in this context is both incorrect and harmful. I agree with those who say that using that word for this waters down the true definition of pedophilia (which although it’s dictionary definition means an adult attracted to prepubescent children, I think that the cultural use is closer to “a person above 18 attracted to a person below 18”. I want to apologize and clarify that I believe this situation is extremely predatory as the power dynamics are completely shifted in favor of the man. Not only is he older by multiple decades, but also has the added power of being the one who essentially gave her the way to take care of her family and can take that away as well. Sorry this edit was long, I apologize for my bad choice of words.

I’m 27 and the thought of even conversation with anyone younger than like 23 is painful. Idk how people do age gaps. My hubby and I agreed 5 years is when it gets too much. To each their own but I find issues just a normal conversation after like 7 years max lol

She looks like she's trying not to cry when she's talking about their wedding day.

I was taught to pay attention to a man's actions rather than his words. I don't care how sweet David's words are; he still took Jackie from her home and isolated her. He could have married her in the Philippines with her family present, so why didn't he? Being self aware doesn't guarantee a person will be kind or empathetic. On a happier note, I'm a new subscriber and your videos always leave me grinning and laughing out loud. I hope your channel continues to grow. You've got a lovely community here 💜

I had a friend who was dating someone long distance from the Philippines, literally just an online relationship, and one time the family had a medical emergency that my friend paid for and the family were so happy they named the next baby born in the family after my friend. My friend said he isn't rich but it wasn't even that much money, and it just depressed him so much that the few hundred dollars he sent over changed an entire families life so much they honoured him by naming their next family baby after him. Poverty in a lot of countries can be so bad that marrying foreigners and isolating yourself by leaving your home country is the only way a lot of people can help their family survive and it unfortunately opens a lot of doors to abuse and exploitation.

as a 22 year old girl who is still navigating the uncertainty of growth, that clap at the beginning was so validating 😂 much love ♡

As a 22 year old going through some stuff, hearing "22 year old girls are the strongest warriors in the world" gave me some courage to carry on. Thank you..

what really get me about age gap relationships that start on dating apps is that you choose the age range you're looking for. so Dave purposely set his age range that young. I just can't justify that in any stretch of the imagination, it's inherently predatory and there's an automatic power imbalance

I knew Cooper was right when he asked why Brits are obsessed with spices but our food is so dry because one of my favorite snacks as a British person is bread and butter 😭

Your hair, your style, the decoration behind, your whole vibe... i think i am in love 💖

I know it’s legal, but tbh the 40 year age gap is so weird

For me the most disturbing thing about all this (except for the gross age difference ofc) is the fact that her parents allowed her to move to a different country with an old men, in order to marry him and and support them, they basically sent her to hell and they're the ones benefiting from it

I am 51 and just found your channel this week, laughed my ass of a lot since Monday. Thank you so much for that. This relationship is weird to me and I can see she may have only done this to support her own family back home but it is still creepy to me.

Ran across your Gypsy video today and listened to a few more while cleaning my house. I've not laughed so hard! You're intelligent and hilarious.

My grandfather literally cheated on my grandmother for years with a foreign girl younger than my MOM by ten years. He kept the affair going for FIVE years before my grandmother died (in early 2020) and then he married her and had her move into the home- a home that was my grandmother's dream house. My grandad is 78, roughly, and this new woman is 36. Its a really upsetting scenerio.

Your perspective on this is bang on. All those people calling her a 'gold digger' are just buying into & perpetuating the whole 'women are evil temptresses' lie & 'it's not the man's fault, the woman made him behave like this'...i.e. men refusing to take responsibility for their actions/behaviour. Been going on for millennia.

I had a old bf from the Philippines and he mentioned to me that a lot of girls were “trained” to seek relationships with Western men. Idk how accurate that is, or what it even means but then I see this story so many times, and it sort of makes sense.

The constant close ups of him and you saying Christopher Robin had me laughing out loud every time!

I’m Filipino and I moved here when I was 11. From parents that are also a White/Filipino age gap relationship. Seeing their dynamic was disgusting. I truly felt my mom was taken advantage of. This relationship is problematic that people question whether or not my husband and I are in the same kind of situation, even though we met in high school and are only 2 years apart. This dynamic is disgusting and predatory

“Something doesn’t have to be criminal to be immoral” truly wise words honestly. I’ll remember that lmaoo

as a half Filipino and I understand how life is like in the Philippines so it feels like he went to the Philippines specifically so he can find young women who if an American man with money came over he could completely change their life its like he was exploiting how poor of a country it is

Honestiy I’m so glad that your the type that doesn’t dull yourself down and cut a bunch of the more “controversial stuff”

The thing where he would ask her if she was sure SHE wanted to date him even if he’s older than her parents, is a manipulation tactic groomers use by making the other person think it was their idea to go out with an older man and not the other way around.

He's the perfect example of how a bad person isn't 100% on the dark side and we probably won't even see the bad side of him until we've seen him in specific situations.

It's so good to see people advertising products that they actually use

Cooper, please never lose your authenticity. It’s incredibly refreshing to watch someone who is clearly doing something for the joy of it alone.

my opinion: grooming isn’t just confined to an adult grooming a child. it can be an older child (say, 17?) and a younger child, an older adult grooming a young adult, but this situation doesn’t seem like it, but at the same time his actions were very groomer-esque and trafficker-esque. maybe those weren’t his intentions but it’s still icky, and still immoral. like cooper said, things don’t have to be illegal to be immoral

I'm 22 and am happy for the round of applause XD. Im consuming all your content as I do my homework, you channel has been my best discovery of this year so far :)

It’s my first time here, and I must say you are so beautiful lol and your background renaissance art is also very beautiful. It is my favorite era of art!

I used to be a big fan of age gap relationships. I was in one when I was much much younger, and that ended as horribly as you all could imagine. I’m 30 now and in another age gap relationship however, I have the hindsight I never saw before. When I was a lot younger, and much more naive I was tricked into believing that I was mature, and special, not like other girls, and had “such a good head on your shoulders”. I used to relish these compliments and truly believed them because they were from people far older than me. That’s the issue. That’s how easy it was for me to fall into it and be easy prey. I can watch this tiktok couple now, and as much as they claim to be in love and that “it’s real” I can’t help but see the similarities in what I used to say and how I used to act. I feel sorry that this is happening all the time, and that young women, children are being abused this way. My age gap relationship now is not as big as the previous one, and I hope I’m wise to the things I wasn’t before. I believe the only age gap relationships that can work are the ones where the couple are both older, considered actual adults, and both independent. Otherwise I’m afraid it ends up a lot like my first relationship, and this tiktok couple where it’s so obviously abuse and control.

15:24 this literally seems like she’s trying to convince herself that this was the best decision. Like, the “oh he’s the best” and “I have no regrets” before staring sadly off into the distance like, poor girl..

I just watched this video and immediately subscribed. I just love your vibe. Time to binge watch all your videoes!:)

At 18:32 he said like “how are you processing this, what are you feeling about it” I want to throw up 😭🙏

We are never letting colleen live anything down and i am so here for it 💀

So let me get this straight…he was 42 when she was BORN Cooper your reactions trying to cope were perfect.

You: “let’s get to it” interrupts every sentence. Lol

I feel so bad for her! By just looking at the way her eyes move, I can tell she has a lot going on. 💕

He’s literally old enough to be her dad, I just can’t look past that.

as a 22 year old girl who is also a lesbian, I have never felt more appreciated on any youtube channel than I do right here on filmcooper

:54 I'm a 22 y.o. girlie stuck in Uni and I recently found your channel, means a lot to hear :') Love your videos!

Your creativity with the ad made me laugh so much

Can we just talk about cooper's clothing style? I'M IN LOVE WITH THE SWEATER

🚨Actions speak louder than words🚨 Yes, he's saying a lot of the "right" things, and could've gone about things worse. But he, a grown ass man, decided to go to the Philippines, a place with a developing economy (i.e. statistically higher chance of finding someone who could really use financial assistance) to SEEK out a YOUNG woman. He knows how to take photos and use a smartphone, yet chose to keep his profile anonymous. He knew what he wanted. And he knew what he was doing. 🚩🚩🚩 Edit: Not to mention fetish culture. I'd be willing to bet he's always had a thing for Asian women. 🚩🚩🚩🚩

I stumbled upon this channel and it now my new favorite channel

Just found your channel and what a refreshing treat! I am a 56 yr. old widow, so you are reaching fans that are definitely over 24! Well done, and cheers!

The fact that he is retired and didn’t move to the Philippines to be with her says it all, on top of the no-photo dating app manipulation. So, no, I don’t believe it’s true love. / Now, more importantly, as a 55 year old I’m loving your 80s collared floral shirt. 🩵 Your videos give me levity. Also, more Gustav please. Thank you!

Him seeming "sweet and charming" is exactly what he wants to show to people. Look at complete monsters like Dahmer and Bundy, many people found them "sweet and charming" to the point they still have fangirls to this day. Humans are incredibly smart as predators and will put on amazing faces to show they are safe when they aren't. It's why I would rather get trapped somewhere with a wild animal instead of a stranger because humans are terrifying if they want to harm you.

reminds me of my mom and her ex-husband, they have a 30-year age gap and my mom is Filipino and the guy is white. he came to the Philippines i think in his 50s-60s and my mom was in her 20s and he flew her to America and got married with her. they are in good terms and are friends now. i think hes in his 80s now and my mom is about to turn 51 in a few months.

Cooper is so honest and i love him for that

My uncle did this, they’re much closer in age , but I still think it’s like 20 years . When he first brought her back she looked like a literal teenager and it’s just super sad how much he thought he could control her . By the time she had a really good grasp on English, she was running the show and I loved to see it… but I always sincerely worry about them, because he knew exactly what he was doing, and kind of verbally expressed it to his friends in front of me many times. And yeah, my uncle literally told me at like 16 that I would make a bad wife because I interrupted him when we were talking😂😂😂😂

my mom is from the philippines and my white dad is 17 years older than her (he lied about his age and said he was only 10 years older). he doesn't like her culture and has whitewashed her (he calls the philippines stupid and i wasn't allowed to learn tagalog). he also constantly verbally abuses her and is hella controlling (he never let her get a drivers license and she hasn't been to the philippines since she met him). she stays with him because he's really old and she feels bad about leaving this guy who is developing dementia. it's sad and i'm not saying that's what the girl in this video is going through (i really hope it's not) but im just sharing my experience.

The amount of times Cooper procrastinated from watching the video is so funny to me.

I think the number of times you said "ewww" sums it up pretty nicely.

oughhhh I'm at the part of the video where you asked us to comment and I'm conflicted too! The old husband is saying the right things to deflect criticism and seem like a genuine guy. But when Cooper laid it out as "went to the Philippines as a 63 year old, with an anonymous dating profile, specifically looking for young women, and then moved Jackie across the world" like.... to me, there's just no way that's NOT creepy and an insane power/wealth/age gap, no matter how sweetly the old guy wants to spin it. The whole thing is dark sided.

as a 22 year old bi woman i love the applause i get in almost every video. feeling very appreciated

no cause the way Cooper talks sometimes, he gives me Austin from not another teen movie vibes and I LOVE IT

This is MORE then disturbing for me,As someone who’s got a twenty one year old sister the fact that this man is so just perfectly fine with casually going to a different country and meeting up with a young woman who is university age while he is old enough to be her great grandfather i just I can’t believe so many men and women do this,I myself can not imagine my pare or a older relative or friend going out and picking up younger people and getting in a relationship with them,If someone I knew did this I would be cutting off all contacts with them never seeing them again and going to report them to the police,The fact he also manipulates her into believing that this is her choice and her idea by reminding her of the age gap is also disgusting to me,I’m not against people who have big age gaps and are in a relationship as I myself and some Friends of mine have parents with large age gaps (mine are ten years apart,I have two little friends who have parents twelve year apart and a friend my age who’s mother and stepdad are thirteen years apart) However when this is what happens in said relationship is when it’s disturbing to me,I’m seeing manipulation and also I dare say maybe some grooming in it and it doesn’t seem okay,And although like Cooper said it’s not illegal since their both adults it’s still extremely creepy and gross,I don’t even know what to think anymore about this relationship or if I should even call it one,I’m saying this as a girl who’s only FIFTEEN htf am I more mature then a literal SEVENTY year old 😭

Personally, I really think this behavior is rather predatory no matter how you stretch it. How can people villainize her in this situation? he knew exactly what he was doing.

As a daughter of a Filipina, this is par for the course. My Mom didn't end up in this situation thank god, Dad's actually younger than her. But one of my aunts did. And years ago when my Dad worked in insurance, he met a lot of older white men who saw he married a Filipina too (a la photo on the desk) and tried to bond with him over it. It is so sad that every time there are these age gap shows or stories, I know there's a high chance it's involving a Filipina. If they're happy (like my aunt seems to be), then great for them; but I leer at every 60+ year old man cruising for women more than half their age.

Absolutely KILLING ME every time the Pooh edit comes up pls stop

One thing that stands out to me as a person with foriegner friends, is if you genuinely like a person in similar circumstances, you will be at least a bit curious about their culture and language. It will undoubtably be brought up at least once every six months if im generous. I have an especially close friend from Argentina, and we have exchanged many songs and we have learned a bit of each others languages. Yet this dude hasnt even brought up a holiday on which she likes to facetime her family, or a single song she introduced to him, or a movie she likes to watch, or a cultural thing he was shocked about... These things usually make your time together even more special. When my friend handwrote the lyrics to our favorite song (from my language) i cried. It was special. I want to memorize her favorite song in her language just to send it in a voice messege to her because its going to be special. I dont expect much from him. Can this dude at least pretend that he has listened to her talking about the smallest special thing in her culture?

u don’t have to worry about being interpreted as a pick me lmao, boys who performatively wear nail polish and pretend things to like things women do are instantly clockable. YOU GOT A BARBIE TATTOO!!!!!! as an official member of the Girls we accept you in all your earnestness

For me him constantly reminding her about their age gap seems like creating the illusion that she's in control and that it's her choice