I gave up on Black excellence.

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I gave up on Black excellence.

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Black excellence is a scam. Black excellence and Black Capitalism is not going to save us. I gave up Black Excellence because at the heart of it requires Hustle Culture, Black Capitalism, and the oppression of others.
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@AleciaRenece Жыл бұрын

Hey y'all. 👋🏽☺️💛 I gave up Black Excellence and I'm not going back. I'm not interested. If you would like to hold onto it, be my guest. For me, it's too heavy and fragile to bear. If some of these comments (the disrespectful and nasty ones [I've deleted quite a few]) reflect how Black Excellence is protected over the sacred lives of individuals, or if it represents the people claiming and pursuing it, I don't want it. Ive tried to respond to all of the comments, but honestly, it's too much. Some folks want to misunderstand and misrepresent my ideas and beliefs (and a lot of y'all didn't watch the whole thing anyway). This video is my own opinion about my own life's experiences. I'm not changing my mind about it at this point in my life. I have achieved Black Excellence (the grades, the job, the money, etc.) and realized that I don't want it, nor do I want to give up what it requires; my peace. The only prescription that I have is SELF LOVE AND LOVE FOR OTHERS. That's what this entire video is about. Loving yourself and others beyond what you can do for other people, beyond your money, beyond your perception of "worth" and "value". You are worthy. You are valuable. You always have been. Don't let chasing status, money, and mere people who are insecure themselves, Convince you that you are not enough, yet. You were born enough. You were born worthy and loved. Love yourself. That is how we start the revolution. See the sanctity in the life of others. That is how we love our fellow man and that is how we change the world. If you'd like to further understand where I'm coming from, check out this video: kzfaq.info/get/bejne/hKxzrJSGp62Ylpc.html I love y'all. Much love and joy to you. ☺️💛🌺

@ReturnJaguar Жыл бұрын

Too heavy & fragile too bear🧹

@Linda_Lineo_Mvusi Жыл бұрын

Cognitive Dissonance, is what negative commenters are suffering from watching this video. It takes little to trigger panic. I love Nobel Laureate Ms Toni Morrison’s ‘You’re not your job. You are the person who you are!' Keep up the good work. 👍🏾The World needs these kinds of messaging. 🤎

@AleciaRenece Жыл бұрын

@@Linda_Lineo_Mvusi thank you so much. That really means a lot to me. It's really discouraging reading some of these comments.

@thomasorchard Жыл бұрын

@@AleciaRenece I think your message of self love and love of others is well-meaning, but doesn't the world need Black brain surgeons, astronauts, and scientists? Pursuing excellence is a worthy endeavor for people of all races.

@anthonynosike Жыл бұрын

@@thomasorchard This was exactly my thoughts when I watched this. I feel like alot of blacks, (and blk men in particular) are settling in life and that bothers me, as a blk man. I feel like we could revise or change how we view black excellence, maybe a common ground could be reached. I do appreciate the video tho

@plentyofchocolate8971 Жыл бұрын

“People don’t have to die exhausted to be celebrated”. So true!! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

@taginefc3189 Жыл бұрын

YES, yes, yes! I was literally having a conversation with someone about the same topic. When we were enslaved & on the auction block, things like our ability to endure, & earn money for the white power structure …determine our value. And we still maintain that value system for Black people today. A lot of Black millionaires are valuable because they’re able to produce billions for their non Black investors, suppliers & employees. I am worthy to myself & OK with not being “valuable” to this predatory system.

@TrustYourTruth Жыл бұрын

@@taginefc3189 yall better say that fcking again & again! A whole ass message!

@PardonMyPresence Жыл бұрын

Would you be willing to share the load with a man? We are not meant to go through life alone.

@artavialineszy9453 Жыл бұрын

“Fighting to see who can be the most exhausted” 😩

@AleciaRenece Жыл бұрын

But, foreeeal! It makes me SO sad. 😔

@Kat3369 Жыл бұрын

Bay 👏🏾 be 👏🏾 that part got me!

@godsgirl7201 Жыл бұрын

Lol

@MelanatednNature Жыл бұрын

😂😂 sad yet true

@tillietv2688 Жыл бұрын

I'm done with you☺️

@twistedbabydoll85 Жыл бұрын

"Black excellence" to me is a Black person who is a respectful, spiritually grounded, good and decent human being living Right Path regardless of their educational or financial status. That's all.

@tashafierce6857 Жыл бұрын

Exactly because many people, like Harriet Tubman & Rosa Parks didn't have much wealth and power yet they were beyond exceptional in my opinion. I would rather have less but be bold and brave like them

@lboogy85 Жыл бұрын

The spirit of excellence over black excellence

@blackgirlonboard Жыл бұрын

Hello its not just about money

@nicolemadison729 Жыл бұрын

I love this comment. Well said🙏🏾❤️

@MelanatednNature Жыл бұрын

@@lboogy85 👏👏👏

@ThatGenXvirgo Жыл бұрын

I work in an environment filled with examples of “black excellence”; highly credentialed and accomplished black folks. Black female doctors and administrators and I was so proud of them and inspired by them until I discovered that they’re dismissive and sometimes downright rude and not nice. I was hoping to be in community with these women because they look like me but they treat me like I’m less than them and it can only be attributed to the fact that I don’t have an advanced degree. It makes me sad and angry because we’re also surrounded by a lot of toxic w*hiteness so I have to contend with that and my own people othering me. It’s really disheartening and reaffirms my inclination to keep to myself. Sometimes I really hate it here.

@twistedbabydoll85 Жыл бұрын

I hate to generalize but people who obsess over having wealth and status, are often not very nice people, have poor moral compass or, at worst, are psychopaths and narcissist. Those people you described sound downright miserable. 😬😬😬

@ltrotter636 Жыл бұрын

Sorry you've had to experience that. No excuses, but I think part of the reason is the women are deeply damaged having jumped through multiple hoops and having given up too much of themselves in an oppressive system. That's one of the worst things about this so-called black excellence. Striving for access, acceptance, etc., you can literally loose so much of what makes you a kind human being.

@sunshinesunflowerz1647 Жыл бұрын

I think the word you are going for is: kind. They probably were nice but they weren’t kind; and kindness is what you’re looking for

@sunshinesunflowerz1647 Жыл бұрын

@@twistedbabydoll85 a lot of black people are nice but not kind; same for the others.

@ThatGenXvirgo Жыл бұрын

@@sunshinesunflowerz1647 No, they’re neither

@deezname6417 Жыл бұрын

This is reminding me of my time in high school. I was in an AP English class, and I got reprimanded by one of the "black achievers" for not doing enough; that I made the community look bad for not striving for Harvard or something. It made me feel bad when I was younger, but now I'm like, "Damn! I couldn't be ordinary AND like to read?"

@shirley444 Жыл бұрын

Note how they said Harvard and not just college. We put pressure on the black youth so be overachievers for the purpose of beating stereotypes. Black kids can never just be average and happy, they always have to be the best.

@adjoaayye Жыл бұрын

Let me be ordinary for a change - LOVE THIS

@cloudagnostic Жыл бұрын

I love this. As a black man, in a predominantly white career field, I stay to myself. I hold the most credentials and have the highest degree amongst them all. I dont feel the need to fit in nor do i play the games they want me to play. Stay Black and dont let Black leaders convince you to be subservient!

@erinsylv2098 Жыл бұрын

This I agree with.

@seetycode Жыл бұрын

Do you feel safe around the black women at your job? I'm learning that leadership, no matter their race, are dangerous! Stay up ✊🏾

@bnalogunbibs Жыл бұрын

I agree

@greetings.haveaniceday.7162 Жыл бұрын

That is best in the career world if you ask me. Don't give into the internal drama. Also, black is a color. You're Hebrew. Peace and blessings..

@trollallday151 Жыл бұрын

I appreciate educated blk ppl like you cause it's rare to find like a big foot or a unicorn. The others are depressing, competitive, and can't just have a simple conversation

@catherineb. Жыл бұрын

My biggest problem with "black excellence" is the pressure that's put on us since we were little kids. Parents always told us to be exceptional and perfect at all times. It's a heavy weight to carry, especially as a Black child. It's a cycle we MUST break

@mscar7609 Жыл бұрын

Preach sister! How do you break the cycle? I tell my kids that they are mediocre at best.

@notthatvashti8127 Жыл бұрын

I always told my kids growing up that the measure of their worth was not in how well they did in academics. If they were "C" students, I told them to be the best C students that they could be. It's about personal excellence, always doing your best, but not in competition with others.

@mscar7609 Жыл бұрын

@@notthatvashti8127 good advice! whenever my kid gets an A on an assignment I know they cheated because they aren’t excellent. I always put them back in their place.

@notthatvashti8127 Жыл бұрын

@@mscar7609 I'm sure they're excellent in their own way sis.😅 Keep encouraging them to be their best selves at whatever they're great at.

@Eternal32bloom Жыл бұрын

It is a heavy weight to carry. I think that’s part of the reason I still have to unlearn being perfect.

@msdee2905 Жыл бұрын

That’s why I don’t straighten my hair with a perm to avoid going bald. I went back to school for my Masters degree in Health Administration but it didn’t help me advance in my 30 year career. Tired of the system.

@abimaellopezmaylord27lopez7 Жыл бұрын

The system did help my friend because my friend is smarter than the kids in her college

@Case-G14Classified Ай бұрын

Same! The degree is a decoration on my wall at this point.

@tessfromtheu.s256 Жыл бұрын

Black excellence creates an atmosphere of back stabbing because there can only be one. I have experienced this first hand by another black woman.

@AleciaRenece Жыл бұрын

Exactly!!! I completely agree. And I am so sorry that happened to you, Beautiful. 😔💛 *BIG HUGS*

@tessfromtheu.s256 Жыл бұрын

@@AleciaRenece Thank you for that! Your channel is so healing for those experiences, you are recreating our community, we all are we must talk about these things. We have been colonized and we must reclaim who we are. Your music is basically like magic it's healing, what is a spell really? Is it not music? Putting our intentions into words and then using it to inspire others?! When I was going through my worst depression and could not sleep I would listen to your songs and gave me solist.

@twistedbabydoll85 Жыл бұрын

Me too. 😒

@juicyparsons Жыл бұрын

Competition is one of the biggest pillars of capitalism. We fight that with collaboration and cooperation

@AleciaRenece Жыл бұрын

@@tessfromtheu.s256 woooooooow! I am HONORED!!!! And humbled and RE-INSPIRED! Tess. Thank you so much for being so gracious, generous and supportive. 😭💛 I really needed that encouragement. Much love and joy to you!

@distantcomets Жыл бұрын

I was putting my 9 year old to bed and we were talking about Elon Musk and Jeff Bezos. When I started to say that one was "worth" $60B he asked "what do you mean worth? These aren't slavery times..." Again. He's 9. Brilliant insight!

@omowhanre Жыл бұрын

What an amazing and insightful little boy. Protect his peace and mind at ALL cost. He is going to be a shining star of a man

@daebak_hana Жыл бұрын

I couldn't agree more! I'm so tired of overachievement, hustle culture, rampant consumerism, blatantly superficial goals and lack of emotional intelligence in most of society. I'm happy to be authentically mediocre living my best minimalistic life. However I don't agree with the system being broken. It's working exactly as it was meant to. The rich keep getting richer, people persist in their slave mentality, people killing themselves to achieve things that don't matter at the end of the day.

@abimaellopezmaylord27lopez7 Жыл бұрын

My friend from South Korea feels better when she went to Harvard because South Korean schools are very strict

@Stephen-nd8fo Жыл бұрын

Exactly, Satanic design.

@IAmRocketMan Жыл бұрын

This is so real. Everyone around me only talks about money and status and becoming billionaires. I don't care about any of that. I just want to travel and live a great life that's not tied to monetary gain. The black community likes to one-up each other. Let you make $1 less than someone and they'll look at you like a peasant. The chains used to be made of metal, but now it's made of societal expectations.

@SonicUmami Жыл бұрын

Real talk right here ⬆️

@Narquis444 Жыл бұрын

Real shit

@abimaellopezmaylord27lopez7 Жыл бұрын

@@Narquis444 not really because no one wants to live in the streets and people that are not smart end up homeless

@AleciaRenece Жыл бұрын

@@abimaellopezmaylord27lopez7 why do y'all always go dramatically straight to poverty, like middle class and lower class doesn't exist... Come on, now. Why y'all acting like I said I want people to be poor or struggling? I didn't. I said I want people to love themselves and others... That's it. Everyone who rejected Black Excellence, who is generous, kind, helpful is NOT on the street. And if people who are chasing "Black Excellence", were more generous and kind, there'd be less people on the street... So... Yeah.

@chrisjackson8151 Жыл бұрын

@@AleciaRenece Notice how the first thing these people talk about is immediately tied to material and economic power, status, and gain… They cannot fathom thinking about anything else.

@ericaleverson9430 Жыл бұрын

All black people start from ground zero and I don't understand how when they think they have "arrived" to look down on other black people. I get genuine love when I go to the "hood"

@cfdmedicmikerelfambo688 Жыл бұрын

Facts

@aye927 Жыл бұрын

That shit lame as hell

@TheRetroWoman80 Жыл бұрын

Thank you!!!! Just conveniently erase or pretend to not remember the memories of the humble beginnings....as if they never even happened. Like, they were always at that "arrived" level. Smh.

@tashafierce6857 Жыл бұрын

You are a rare black woman sis! I'm so glad to see someone that look like me, speak with such honesty. The kind of honesty that is much needed in black society!

@EBURINTHA Жыл бұрын

Very rare

@malcolm1896 Жыл бұрын

THAT PART..."People don't have to die to be celebrated!" Struggle love for a struggle lifestyle is for the birds. I like God's blueprint of resting and trusting 😌.

@AleciaRenece Жыл бұрын

Yeeeeeeeeeees, Malcolm! Same here!!! 🌺🌻☺️

@MelanatednNature Жыл бұрын

Resting and trusting 👏👏🙌

@mi3helle707 Жыл бұрын

💯

@godiswithyou.5358 Жыл бұрын

God truly wants us to be loved and to love and be at peace. He’s showing me that and it is mind blowing.

@EBURINTHA Жыл бұрын

That's what I'm doing now!

@deborahbonner476 Жыл бұрын

I was born with a chronic illness, l tried to pursue black excellence at one point. I knew in the back of my mind it was impossible for me, so l finally gave up to take care of myself healthwise. People don't even consider my situation. They are like we don't believe you're that sick! So l feel left alone and to myself, because not being physically strong is part of me. l am mentally strong and enjoying my life regardless..l stay away from negativity at all cost.

@SailorSlay Жыл бұрын

I believe you sister. You matter.

@-Bloomingtales Жыл бұрын

Whew I hate the feeling of being dismissed or unheard and I’ve found that, that’s strong within the black community.

@kimberlyakakimmiekooaustin9393 Жыл бұрын

I totally understand your flight. I am very smart. Made all A 's through out school, deans list, etc. I have a spinal condition that makes me pain 24/7. Excruciating pain. Bending over just to walk to the bathroom pain. I was still expected to be the best no matter what and if I fell short, there was a failure guilt I had to feel. Smh

@CRYSTALDOMUNIQUE Жыл бұрын

I’m experiencing this right now. I was so excited to be working with a black female doctor just to find out she an oppressor as well. 😔 I have been verbally abused and insulted several times ,on top of dealing with colorism. SMH it’s heartbreaking. 💔

@cfdmedicmikerelfambo688 Жыл бұрын

Facts I experience this as a black paramedic for a fire department

@ThatGenXvirgo Жыл бұрын

I hope things get better for you 🤎

@BrendaBaBoom Жыл бұрын

I’ve learned that you don’t [know] individuals until you interact with them & discover who they really are. 🧐

@OrganicAlumination Жыл бұрын

My gynocologist was like that she was also a black woman who didn't go through the stripping of the actual identity so she had her true last name(I love my dad and my granddad very much but do I look like John Smith?) and it seemed like she thought I was too needy or it was something I asked her to get me some and she said okay but never came back with it. I don't hold on to negativity so I don't quite remember it was well over a year ago but I remember her undertone was almost like snide like I had my nerve and she didn't even know me. That's another reason why I hate the type of questions that they ask you to fill out on the paper cuz it seemed like somebody could get a preconceived notion and be low key judging you offer the shit you went through

@CRYSTALDOMUNIQUE Жыл бұрын

Thank you all I hope the best for y’all as well. I’ve finally completed my year so I’m on my way out. ✨🙏🏾

@valweaver9211 Жыл бұрын

Alecia, I was screaming at the phone, saying, "Come on Alecia". The FACT of us trying to impress our oppressors! That hit me hard. This is the real message. This is a Malcom X and John the Baptist message.

@cfdmedicmikerelfambo688 Жыл бұрын

Yes 🙌🏾 it is That God She is speaking on this

@thecrow4597 Жыл бұрын

You mentioned John the Baptist who is one of the holiest saints and then talked about the "oppressors'" Narrative which is Marxian and Satanic. You can't Love Jesus and be a revolutionary at the same time. Satanism and Christianity are not compatible.

@abimaellopezmaylord27lopez7 Жыл бұрын

@@cfdmedicmikerelfambo688 but what about biracial children or white fáciles adopting black children ?

@TRAPHOUSE36 Жыл бұрын

...still gonna be a ninja!!!

@MzBAnthony Жыл бұрын

Yes

@kimberlyjames4648 Жыл бұрын

You have to be twice as good, to get half as much. Isn't that what we're told.

@AleciaRenece Жыл бұрын

We definitely are! And I reject that notion. I want ease, joy and freedom. 🌻☺️💛

@switzjon8405 Жыл бұрын

We live in a white Country do you expect any different?

@hangingwiththegrlz4891 Жыл бұрын

I was so tired of being put down by my own community, I moved to an all white community (small town). I don't really mingle, but I live in peace and unbothered. My own people were very hard task masters and way too critical. Life is just too short to be bothered with the additional mess.

@AleciaRenece Жыл бұрын

I'm so sorry 😔💛 I'm glad you found a place for you to live well and thrive. 💕

@kathleenking47 Жыл бұрын

I think you should mingle there. I seriously doubt there are ONLY WHITES in that town some of them are on reservations

@daebak_hana Жыл бұрын

Same! I moved to very small town in countryside. 97% non blk. I don't socialize and mind my business. People here are polite and leave me alone. That's the best I can hope for I guess

@hello_04 Жыл бұрын

Goals!! I want to do the same thing

@squeakyclean7533 Жыл бұрын

Peace of mind is key sister!! Neely fuller recommends black ppl to move out the way like you did for our safety

@AyyeeIysMe Жыл бұрын

I feel this so deeply. Societal expectations are becoming the literal death of young black women & men. As a 23 yr old I feel so alone as I want to better my community and help my peers. Everyone else just wants to be rich & half the time it’s by taking other black peoples money. I really like how in your video you talk about how dehumanizing other black people are over hair, clothes, educational backgrounds, and $$. All to better align w/ white standards.

@AleciaRenece Жыл бұрын

*BIG HUGS* I completely understand this! 💛💛💛

@juicyparsons Жыл бұрын

Can we talk about the thinly veiled classism underneath the Black Excellence rhetoric?? I've gotten to this point in my life where I dont think black Liberation will ever happen until these conversations are genuinely concerned with uplifting our people who are suffering the most- dealing with poverty, drug addiction, homelessness, etc. Black excellence has increased visibility for some of the most resourced Black folks among us but what about the rest....??

@AleciaRenece Жыл бұрын

EXAAAAAACTLY!!!! It is ABSOLUTELY rooted in elitism and CLASSISM for SURE! I'm right there with you. How can we serve those struggling, invisible? And the people who are, don't get enough resources or support. It breaks my HEART. We definitely have to talk about this!

@TheRedstateBluestate Жыл бұрын

@@AleciaRenece Love your video. I think the elitism and classism go back to slavery- the field slave and the house slave.

@terrywilliams9327 Жыл бұрын

Uplifting other people is admirable, but it doesn't lead to happiness because people have the choice to lead their lives in any way they want. What's the antidote to black excellence? I think it is living how you choose to live and doing what you want.

@Heyu7her3 Жыл бұрын

@@TheRedstateBluestate The elitism and classism find in black peoples predates slavery and is old as time. As for the field slave/ house slave distinction, it is - I think - a fiction that we've reduced and latched onto.

@abimaellopezmaylord27lopez7 Жыл бұрын

@@AleciaRenece i don’t see the mayor of Chicago helping black people in Chicago and i don’t see white celebrities helping white homeless people

@aohamer Жыл бұрын

This was really interesting, I have a completely different idea when I hear the word "Black Excellence". It's refreshing to get out of my own echo chamber and hear different perspectives. I realized early in the video that you define Black Excellence differently from me. I don't connect it to capitalism, greed, trying to be the oppressor, or exploiting my Black peers in the process. I view it as being the highest version of myself while taking pride in my identity as a Black person 👑 I guess everything is how you define it. It was great getting your perspective on it

@DeJhaJoy Жыл бұрын

Agreed

@Breonaleonard Жыл бұрын

I agree with your view of black excellence. I’m pretty sure that’s what it refers to anyways

@Habadacus405 Жыл бұрын

Agreed. I align more with your view on “Black excellence” than the KZfaqr. Nonetheless, nice change of pace to my day to at least hear her opinion on her anecdotal life view. 👍🏽

@arobertsonian Жыл бұрын

Same

@TrustYourTruth Жыл бұрын

Same. But I can see w hy that perspective of Black excellence would make you want to be done with it. Cuz Alecias description of it sounds exhausting & basically like slavery by another name. I'm glad that there are so many of us who are done with hustle work hard culture while loving & valuing ourselves on a personal level. That to me is excellence. Though/ of course/ I still have love for my Black people who haven't yet gotten that. I know one day we're all gonna see our worth besides what we can do & how much we can produce, while still fulfilling our personal joys & supporting one another

@MaxineShaw_84 Жыл бұрын

This was an _immediate_ like just off the intro; especially 1:25. My core friend group was full of Black doctors and executives who would pout if we ever did anything that wasn't Instagram-worthy or expensive. Highly critical & churchy humor. I chalked it up to being in our late 20s for a long time until we got good and grown in our mid 30s and I realized they were just trying to get as close to white as possible while hiding behind philanthropy focused on us. Finding out/closely observing what someone's idea of success and happiness is something I do *UPFRONT* these days. As important as HBCUs are, they can be a breeding ground for that unkind, exclusive, competitive behavior. 🧐

@againstthegraingolf301 Жыл бұрын

LOVING your "unpopular" opinions! Proud of you Alecia! 👏🏾🙌🏾🤗

@AleciaRenece Жыл бұрын

Awwwwwww! Thank you so much!!! 💛🌻🌺

@krisw.5025 Жыл бұрын

This is outstanding teaching!

@AleciaRenece Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much! ☺️💛🌻I'm so glad this was helpful!

@danielle9339 Жыл бұрын

When I think of “black excellence” I believe it’s like black Wall Street. We had our own business, hospitals, banks, boutiques, etc. We built and thrived in our own community away from white institutions. We strived to be the best in our own community and family. We took care of ourselves, family, community, and business. It didn’t matter the accolades you had because everyone played apart in building each other up. Honestly, that’s the ideal black excellence.

@hungrychat7304 Жыл бұрын

Yeah but they think trying to have a business and making resources for your community is trying to be like your oppressor. What they don't get is how a successful community is made and how to protect that community. This is why non-black people use us the way they do and don't have any respect for us. Another win for the oppressors.

@c4tac133 Жыл бұрын

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@abluemug Жыл бұрын

No joke, I got a Citibank ad during this video that actually mentioned “black excellence” and “black Wall Street” 🤦🏾‍♀️

@crazyjloop89 Жыл бұрын

I feel my black excellence has always been to be my best representation. My narcissistic parents would put me down if I was less than a star student. After 30 I finally started to realize the oppressive chains I had from them and started pushing to define my success intrinsically instead of based on what position I can obtain. I just want peace ...I dont see any reason to be defined by outside influence, but my parents had a strong hold on my mind due to fear they instilled into me to have security and stability based on my ability. Im just chilling now. Started a business and figuring it out but not going to kill myself. Its humbling to beat your own path and make your own value based on work ethic and skills ..and things you enjoy ...not some grading system or tax bracket ...so many easily put me down, but still I rise BIOOTCHES...edit: people even judge my current yt profile photo, which I was wearing my hair this way when I was in the corporate office because I hated always being noticed for my hair changes. I pretty much keep it natural,...but people who don't understand our hair and melanated people who don't appreciate their hair simply make it uncomfortable to be noticed for your hair. They dont understand us and these environments are toxic to mental health. I was in biotech/pharma field and the few melanated people knew we were the only ones and it takes a toll. Long story short. It takes a toll to be melanated in whyte spaces. This life we live is not normal and natural ...we need to strive for nature. Not cubicles and factories. Profits profits profits. No ...I want peace

@GladysGrace001 Жыл бұрын

Some people will work themselves to death to pieces and never experience peace.

@Cloud9crown Жыл бұрын

I’m glad I stumbled upon this video and it caused me to look back on my life (I’m 30). From as young as I can remember, my mother would always have my sister and I focus on our appearance - never leave the house looking crazy, always do your hair and put some kind of makeup on, make sure your clothes are presentable, even if you’re just going to the dollar store. My sister is six years older than me, so she was molded to be this perfect example for me to follow, however, I came out of the womb walking my own path. “Laurin, why can’t you be more like your sister and make better grades in school?” Little did she know I was bullied from elementary through high school. My mother even made me use bleaching cream to get rid of blemishes on my body from chickenpox 😕 one day I finally realized that my mom was disillusioned and pushing us, her daughters, to be the image of black excellence. I never cared for the idea; I’ve seen what it does to this community and it absolutely disgusts me. Thank you for sharing your thoughts on this 🙏🏾

@dantesinfernopurgatory7826 Жыл бұрын

I avoid the Black bougie crowd like the plague. I'm especially wary of those who are members of Greek organizations (along the theme of impressing the oppressors). Kept my nose to the grindstone, took care of business and finally moved out of suburbia back to my rural roots where I'm at peace once again.

@thatssquare1268 Жыл бұрын

As a black man with no kids at 29 I look back and see everything you saying all I ever knew was work and it only got me a few pats on the back and a lot of envy from people...Look live your life the best way for you

@AleciaRenece Жыл бұрын

Much love and joy to you! 💛💛💛

@misunderstoodkj Жыл бұрын

There’s a big difference between “high value” and “high earners”. Some people mistake them for being the same thing.

@bnalogunbibs Жыл бұрын

Come on now! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

@truthiscensored Жыл бұрын

I never seen a poor person be viewed as "High Value"... The only real "High Value" persons are those who serve Yahweh/Yahusua truthfully and will enter his kingdom. Ain't no such thing as High Value in the Lake of Sulfur

@umichgal1 Жыл бұрын

If you get up every single day working hard for your own dreams and are accountable and responsible for the things you need to be accountable and responsible for, that to me is black excellence. We underestimate the blessing of being safe and happy. The extra stuff is great and some of it, I aspire to have, but contentment is key.

@technopirate304 Жыл бұрын

Preach!

@TheRetroWoman80 Жыл бұрын

This EXACTLY how I live. I appreciate your words 💚

@AllThingsShaunda Жыл бұрын

When you mentioned people wanting to be the ones on top oppressing others I immediately thought about the Black bourgeoisie of Hollywood and the music industry. Love your content ❤

@AleciaRenece Жыл бұрын

Thiiiiiiiiis!!!

@ThePhoenix3712 Жыл бұрын

That's why I don't give them a dime of my money

@DianteEx Жыл бұрын

Great video! I gotta tell ya, 3 years ago my health totally crashed from stress, being overworked underpaid worrying about reading other people's minds and while I was in a coma being unresponsive for a month i was able to regain most of my health but realized that the system does not care about you. After two days the position I had closed (it was a temp position). Now I just work my 8- 5 and don't call me on weekend! People who participate in this don't care about you! I see it now and frankly, I'm like I don't care. Life is too short and money ain't tall enough!

@AleciaRenece Жыл бұрын

I love that! "Life is too short and money ain't tall enough"! Yeeeeeeeeeees. And I am SO sorry that you went through that. That makes me SO angry and sad. 😔 What I am glad about is that you now choose yourself, your health and joy. Thank you.

@abimaellopezmaylord27lopez7 Жыл бұрын

@@AleciaRenece i know a black married couple also the couple had high grades in college and their 2 year old daughter knows how to count to 100 but My brother and i are not smart like my parents 😢

@missblu1361 Жыл бұрын

I remember having this exact conversation with my friend. We talked about how othering Black Excellence is because we weren’t- both of us were very average growing up, and we both felt like we didn’t matter much unless we were running ourselves ragged to be overachievers. Thank you for this video, you said everything much more eloquently than I ever could.

@AleciaRenece Жыл бұрын

Much love and joy to you! 💛💛💛 You matter. You are exceptional because you are you. There is no one just like you. Love yourself. You are worthy. 🌺🌻💕😘

@abimaellopezmaylord27lopez7 Жыл бұрын

@@AleciaRenece but South Koreans are the smartest people on the planet because education in South Korea is strict and happy people shouldn’t be homeless

@Herculean_93 Жыл бұрын

Black people as a collective suffer from imposter syndrome as well as stockholm syndrome. We've been enslaved so long we love to stay close to our oppressors. We don't heal because the majority of us see mental health and emotional health as a joke or a way to gain more views and likes on social media when we don't even actually do the work. If more black people healed we would be way less willing to accept living by their system and actually disassociate with white people in general. Sadly most of us run from emotions our whole life so change like this requires more healed people speaking out like you did in this video. Thanks for your contribution 🙏🏾💯.

@ldsbalancedlifestyle1951 Жыл бұрын

You're speaking nothing but truths. This "black excellence" is often gate-keeping(hardly ever disguised). Thank you!!!❤️👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

@rainejulius4334 Жыл бұрын

As soon as you said “I’m pushing away black excellence”, I said in my head (Yeahhh, black capitalism) and then boom you pulled the words right out of my head queen. I just wanna say this is exactly why I left my HBCU. I felt so out of place at my school even with everyone looking like me. Everyone has to be on the up & up. Like if you are in school and you choose not to really involve yourself in anything then your seen as less than worthy of success or praise by those who did join a club (SGA, Royal Court, GREEK LIFE, etc..). Which to me is bananas because it’s supposed to be a place to build each other up. It just started to get agonizing to be somewhere like that and If I had known then I would have done college online and called it a day. (Just my opinion but I do believe within my life everything happens for a reason so hey only the Most High gets the journey🤷🏽‍♀️)

@abimaellopezmaylord27lopez7 Жыл бұрын

It’s the opposite for me and I didn’t fit in because prople don’t like me and people at my college didn’t care if I hated something

@Ang.143 Жыл бұрын

This!!! Same reason why I left my HBCU. It was a toxic place and I couldn’t bear it

@maxdminimalist715 Жыл бұрын

"Fighting to sit at a table that doesn't want us"... That part! 🎯👍🏽🙏🏾✌🏾

@switzjon8405 Жыл бұрын

So do you quit?

@maxdminimalist715 Жыл бұрын

@@switzjon8405 no! You build your own table.

@switzjon8405 Жыл бұрын

@@maxdminimalist715 FACTS! Sadly, we do too much in fighting for it to come to fruition.

@switzjon8405 Жыл бұрын

I've been seeing this alot as well, do you think it's best we all re segregate again?

@maxdminimalist715 Жыл бұрын

@@switzjon8405 never going to happen but we do need to stop begging and start building...for ourselves. If only we liked each other enough for this to happen ☹️

@ronaldjones1274 Жыл бұрын

And that's why I stay to myself. As much as I want to commune with my people, when I do, I am quickly reminded why I self isolate.

@AleciaRenece Жыл бұрын

💛💛💛

@ltrotter636 Жыл бұрын

True. If we participate in the scam, we give up so much for so little. When I was younger, I used to wonder, ‘Why do I have to hang a second moon in the sky (do the impossible) to access the same opportunities white people access rolling out the bed in the morning?’ I refuse. That’s an adverse health event waiting to happen… the anxiety, fear, stress, and vulnerability. Not available for that. Also, it begs the question, 'Why do black people have to be "excellence" to have an above average standard of living when other people can be "average" and have the same...' and for how long do we agree that's okay?

@AleciaRenece Жыл бұрын

Oh wow!!! This is poetic and profound!!! 💛💛💛 And I completely agree!!! Thank you so much for bringing up thr health risks attached to over doing. So many of us have heart issues, shortened life spans, mental health issues because of that stress. They're requiring us to be super human and continue to save the world. But at what cost? My goal in life is to live a beautiful, well-rested, easy life. That would be the ultimate tribute to the people who came before me. 💛💛💛

@juicyparsons Жыл бұрын

🎯🎯🎯

@dmusicaldaisy Жыл бұрын

👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

@huntergraham7853 Жыл бұрын

Because these other people have an economy. We don't have an economy of our own so consequently we are beholden to them. Black excellence is supposed to be geared towards our liberation and independence from White Supremacy.

@BuffyNoir140 Жыл бұрын

Unfortunately the opposite of black excellence has become apathy, ratchet behavior, ghetto fabulous. Black excellence seems to be defined currently by the “Reality Shows”. Black women in garish makeup, clothing with European labels, claims of how they getting their coins, which is supplied by the European change purse..

@Sunmoonandstars123 Жыл бұрын

Thank you for this. The concept of earning our worth through money/possessions/social status/performing white supremacy is so ridiculous but ubiquitous. You explained it perfectly. We were all born worthy.

@pumafume Жыл бұрын

This is a WORD. Masterfully expressed. Thank you.

@AleciaRenece Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much! ☺️💛 I'm so glad you enjoyed this!

@pooppy101 Жыл бұрын

black excellence should be about building each other up & no black person left behind!

@AleciaRenece Жыл бұрын

I 100% agree with this. 💛💛💛

@krystalmoore5444 Жыл бұрын

You’re not a benefit if you’re the only one benefiting 🙌🏽 whew

@sunnni_ Жыл бұрын

Glad I watched this! I just heard of "Black Excellence" and "Black Mediocrity" a few years ago. And I just want black people everywhere to realize you don't have to go be the "biggest", "most influential", etc to feel that you have meaning in this life. Your existence enough matters and the things you do throughout life is for your journey and only yours. Like my Caribbean grandma always taught me was to enjoy the moments in front of you. She didn't have everything in but she had what she wanted that made her feel excellent. Most of the things we "want" is actually things you never thought you wanted until you saw it showcased and I had to take a step back myself and realize that just because I don't have everything that other black people have doesn't mean I'm not just as excellent as them. I trust God's path now for my life and whatever I gain is excellent no matter how big or small it is. Love this video and the other points you made.

@AleciaRenece Жыл бұрын

I love this so much. 💛💛💛

@ColleahG Жыл бұрын

WHEW 😥 need to replay this about 3 times for this to really sink in I haven’t heard it this well said!!! ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

@AleciaRenece Жыл бұрын

💛💛💛🌻🌺

@everythingispolitics6526 Жыл бұрын

EVERY WORD SIS! EVERY WORD! Beautifully said 💐💐💐

@AleciaRenece Жыл бұрын

💛🌻🌺☺️ That makes me SO HAPPY that you resonate with this! My heart is for people to love themselves and others. We can't keep doing things this way and expect to thrive. 💛💛💛

@everythingispolitics6526 Жыл бұрын

@@AleciaRenece absolutely! I hope more and more Black people get to this place. We need it more than ever; our planet will not survive and neither will we, if we insist on following in the self-destructive footsteps of yt people. We need to divest and tap into our ancestral knowledge, into our own knowing (and not the indoctrination we've been fed since infants). Like you said, we need to redefine what joy, success, love etc looks like for us. That's the only way we'll survive. Thanks for the beautiful content.

@rorenee5245 Жыл бұрын

I appreciate every part of these sentiments. Thank you sista for loving our people so much. 🙏🏽💜👑

@AleciaRenece Жыл бұрын

Awwww Yaaaaay! I'm so glad you enjoyed this! And I am SO grateful. 💛💛💛 Much love and joy to you!

@rorenee5245 Жыл бұрын

@@AleciaRenece 🤎

@InetSentinel Жыл бұрын

Hi Alecia. I’ll start be saying I can see your point, though I do not agree with giving up on Black Excellence. Welcome to the REAL WORLD. Everyone doesn’t and shouldn’t get a trophy. We can be black AND successful. We can be black and build wealth, with a purpose. You mentioned in a similar video last year about what would happen if a certain wealthy billionaire gave away all of her money to black people, we’d all be uplifted. Unfortunately, it would never play out that way. For the majority (do to lack of real financial education), that would be money thrown to the wind with very little benefit to our people. We (as a whole) don’t think strategically. We (as a whole) won’t give up “instant gratification” for “long term gain”. It’s not to say we can’t get there. We’re just not there YET. And while its a beautiful thing that you place the totality of our people as a priority in your life; our people for the most part will never give YOU a second thought… because we’re just not there YET. Life is so short and precious. Where do you want to spend the major of your limited time? Leaving a legacy for you & yours and hopefully having it slowly expand exponentially, trying to help our people as you move forward; or put the weight of our people on your back right now and stay where you are (whatever that might be)? Just food for thought… 😊

@AleciaRenece Жыл бұрын

Hi there 👋🏽💛... I live in the real world... And it's sad. Lol. Why do we have problems with challenging the way we do things? Why do we just lie down and take things without questioning the intention and why? I'm all for A Black Excellence that is not classist, ableist, etc. I just want people to love themselves and others. That's it. That's the video. 💛

@marienguessan8520 Жыл бұрын

It will also depend on what you call "legacy", the weight and longevity of that legacy. If legacy is, to you, defined on monetary values, history has shown that among all human nature (all races, cultures, societies, class, age, gender, any form of its diversity) that in the real world sometimes so called legacy is inappropriately distributed, there are extreme greed and other problems destroying the continuity of that. Some other times it is managed as you described the case of a billionaire distributing it. Some other times again, the beneficiaries are not that interested in perpetuating that legacy. This cycle reminds me of "Animal Farm" by George Orwell, fighting for our intrinsic values to hold strong to find that our humanity against others wasn't enough.

@reggiejackson7849 Жыл бұрын

I find this message extremely problematic. Its an excuse to stay sub par and mediocre as a people. We go out and provide for our family to the highest extent possible not to "compete with white people" but to protect our OWN people and build a more secure future for generations to come. Many black people will resonate with this message because it is one rooted in laziness and highly attractive to the feminine. This message is indeed toxic for black men to ingest as we must be more prepared than ever to stand up as fathers and leaders to usher our people into the next phase of black existence on this earth. Since before Jesus lived, access to resources is what determined your ability to provide security for your family. This will never change. No amount of protest or prayer will change this. Can we please stop equating class and success with whiteness? That in itself is inherently racist. I heard her mention something about smacking her lips? Oh it is a shame how we hold onto ghetto classless behavior as the heart and soul of black culture. This entire video is literally speaking about white people as though they are the centerpiece of the universe. And we as black people must declare a life of the poor righteous teacher because wealth is "too close to white supremacy" NO! we need to reject this message. This ideology will propel us further into oppression and give up any ground we have gained to this day. Furthermore, I am sure most who are in agreement with this video, will get up tomorrow morning and go work for the white man just the same. You and everyone who wants to can give up on black excellence, We will GLADLY leave you behind. Respectfully

@truthiscensored Жыл бұрын

Listen to the message again because you totally missed the point.

@AleciaRenece Жыл бұрын

COMPLETELY missed the point. I'm not reading this long message. You missed the point on purpose and probably ain't watch the whole video. The video is about self love and love for others... What is there to debate about? How is self love and love for others problematic...?

@reggiejackson7849 Жыл бұрын

The fact that you didn’t not have the patience to read this, but yet the impulse to respond is an example of why your ideology is flawed and dangerous for black people to follow.

@43grantct Жыл бұрын

Preaching!!! I love this. If COVID taught us anything, figuring out what makes us happy and loved is the key to life.

@AleciaRenece Жыл бұрын

Absolutely. 💛🌺☺️

@broquietstorm1266 Жыл бұрын

I understand what you are saying Sis. It goes much deeper than titles and professions. We seek to play the game of 'Black Excellence' in someone else's Matrix with no sincere collective desire to create our own holistic and balanced paradigm. The rejection comes from someplace deep within that can see through the illusion of this profoundly disingenuous reality. We should all step back and challenge everything we have taught and been conditioned to believe if it does not show itself to be truly and sincerely edifying to our people. I think we have 'settled' for slogans and superficial systems like "Black Excellence"(as one of many false narratives we have adopted... there are plenty more) because it is easier than dealing with the evils that truly challenge us. Peace, Wisdom and Insight to you.

@TheRetroWoman80 Жыл бұрын

Exactly!!!!! Magnificent realism in your words, unfortunately only to a small portion of black people.

@shex7873 Жыл бұрын

I used to feel this way, however I feel different now. Loving someone just because they are black is not a good idea. There definitely needs to be standards and conditions on love.

@AleciaRenece Жыл бұрын

I mean... I hear you. I don't disagree. 😊 I think I'm communicating something else, though.

@jayj7340 Жыл бұрын

It’s crazy how much I resonate with this yet I’m still recovering from it. I grew up with neglectful, narcissistic parents, so education was the only way I could get any sort of benefit from people. Then when I got into a top engineering university program, I burnt tf out and blamed it on myself. I was pressured to finish school to “beat the odds”, but it’s a system that didn’t benefit me at all. I’m a self care content creator now, so my version of success is more aligned with what I want rather than just the fancy job.

@kathleenking47 Жыл бұрын

Top engineering programs used to be for MEN these boys need to be pushed more. Black women should relax in their feminine

@TorieLives Жыл бұрын

"people don't have to die exceptional to be loved". I really loved that. The term black excellence never sat right with me and I'm glad you made this video

@1MVEntGlobal Жыл бұрын

Girl!!! This video post is spot on. Thank you. You have expressed my exact sentiments. I mean being African and living in West Africa, this "Black Excellence" is corrupting our society slowly.

@BlairWaldorf2013 Жыл бұрын

THIS!!!! That’s why I’m trying to get myself to a certain point with ownership so that I can work at a coffee ☕️ shop part time or something similar and just come allllllllll the way *out* and I that makes me happy. The older I get the more I want to be by my damn self if it means not being bothered by people who aren’t really in my corner to begin with 🤷🏽‍♀️ I honestly just want to sell bath 🛁 salts and keep it cute.

@prosperousk5477 Жыл бұрын

I agree!

@-jem Жыл бұрын

Alecia you are one of my favorite youtubers. I am 13 years old and you are such a breath of fresh air and so inspiring. It makes me feel like I'm not crazy or alone. I feel like the topic of race makes a lot of people uncomfortable, especially on KZfaq.

@Nabisoul28 Жыл бұрын

Thank you for the live it's the constant reminder to remember how divine we created we really are as individuals as a whole and the lie that's been spread that's why I'm moving to Thailand cuz I see the LIE America is like living with your narcissistic husband it's way too much thank you for your love and your support

@AleciaRenece Жыл бұрын

Yeeeeeeeeeees! First of all, CONGRATULATIONS! ☺️🌻💛 That's exciting! And honestly, the narcissistic husband is a GREAT analogy. This is an abusive relationship 😭🌻

@cherryorchard5600 Жыл бұрын

Thailand will not help. The classism is highly pronounced as is racism. Cost of living is significantly lower which is nice if you have an adequately paying job.

@shellshipman3853 Жыл бұрын

Thailand is beautiful. I haven’t been in almost 20 years. The Buddhist undercurrent deeply ingrained there makes a lovely society. I would’ve stayed longer if I had a way to support myself. If you have any pointers how to make money while living there please let me know. I always wonder how people expatriate- I would love to.

@samaelhenry Жыл бұрын

As I just started to learn to love the blackness within me, I was searching for role models of black excellence just to have a goal. But then I discovered your channel, and then I understood what does « black excellence » imply. It was just the same disgusting internal racism within me. Why would I still be only celebrating « successful » black people only? Why do they are the only ones that deserve my admiration and respect. All my life was I trying to fit in a whiteness culture that don’t want me to be part of, that don’t recognize me as their people, so why do I lost my time, energy and health to fit to that? Why do I am so shame of my origin, my skin colour? Why do I need to criticize my own people? Thank you for educated me and made me realize all the bs that was in me. I try to be a better human being and people like you are truelly teaching good things. Thank you.

@thearough Жыл бұрын

What the disagreers are not gonna understand is that Black excellence is not bringing the excellence, talents out of every individual, its suppressing it. The "successful" people we see are buck broke, sold out, suicidal and treacherous.

@kendramorancy4893 Жыл бұрын

Academia does this, ( I’m a PhD student and it’s hell)

@abimaellopezmaylord27lopez7 Жыл бұрын

@@kendramorancy4893 i think the comment meant successful black people that help the elderly or black chefs

@raul_r.3552 Жыл бұрын

I'm latino and the things she is saying are facts. Latinos are all too familiar with the game of exhaustion. We work ourselves to death in demeaning and dehumanizing jobs but we always forget to work for ourselves. We attempt to claw our way to the top in sacrifice of our culture, that once we do, we become unrecognizable from ourselves and where we come from that we completely sever our ties with how we grew up. This is how the system is set up, our existence is conditional . If we deviate at all from our "place" we are marginalized and ostracized. Great video💯

@AleciaRenece Жыл бұрын

WOW!!! "Our existence is conditional". That really struck me. So heartbreaking and profound! Thank you so much for sharing this with us. Much love and joy to you! It's really showing how all consuming this system is. 💔

@Irene-ls5wf Жыл бұрын

There's levels to this. We all abide by some social conditioning one way or another because we live in a world ruled by those in power. I would.love to walk around butt naked and be free but it's considered public indecency.

@tiyanastarr Жыл бұрын

i enjoyed this because i have been thinking over everything “black” and one thing i can say is that we (generalized) are out of control. black people do not celebrate other black people for simply being black! black excellence focuses on what is seen at face value and quantitative measures. never mind actually knowing the person’s intentions. no one expresses black excellence to individuals who are actually genuine. one can be excellent within. my mother sees success/happiness as a value rather than mindset. she believes that me graduating, being married with a kid, and all of my other accolades deem me as successful/accomplished. i had to tell her that true happiness/success cannot be seen rather than felt. we are worthy and a piece of paper is just something that indicates money/business relations. not that it is irrelevant because it can indicate one’s resilience/dedication but in reality people are only concerned with doing things to appear as though they are higher than anyone else, secretly.

@abimaellopezmaylord27lopez7 Жыл бұрын

Or be happy that you are not taking drugs and sleeping on a tent

@abimaellopezmaylord27lopez7 Жыл бұрын

Or be happy you help others

@krystalmoore5444 Жыл бұрын

My frame of reference concerning Black excellency is doing my personal best at the level God has gifted and blessed me. I’ve never equated it to wealth. However, I love your commentary on this subject! 🖤

@AleciaRenece Жыл бұрын

I love that! As long as you have your own inner understanding of what that is for yourself, I'm all for it! 💛☺️

@krystalmoore5444 Жыл бұрын

@@AleciaRenece amen!! Your message was manna and I totally understand your stance and agree wholeheartedly ♥️

@kathleenking47 Жыл бұрын

Also, if msha be great to find a decent man to marry ? Or go where they are?

@streetculturemedia6212 Жыл бұрын

This is your definition of black excellence, but it’s not the same for all. You’re connecting black excellence to whiteness. Black Excellence to me is each and every one of us being the best version of ourselves, helping to uplift our race. I work in the education system and I strive to be a representation of black excellence to be an example to our babies. I started working at a school which averaged 50 removals from class per day. 6 years later we average 2-3 removals a day. THAT IS BLACK EXCELLENCE that our children understand who they are, and what they can achieve when they believe in themselves. Stop connecting BLACK EXCELLENCE only to whiteness, change your perspective. Blessings

@AleciaRenece Жыл бұрын

True.

@PrincessRell09 Жыл бұрын

1:38 completely agree. Before I get too deep though - I think black excellence is a coping mechanism.

@AleciaRenece Жыл бұрын

Agreed!

@switzjon8405 Жыл бұрын

Looks like we've a got a black socialist here. So what would you suggest for black folks to not be in the situation were in when all other groups are thriving?

@AleciaRenece Жыл бұрын

*sigh*

@mightquinnable Жыл бұрын

That part

@ifinallyhavesocialmedia8728 Жыл бұрын

I'm from Chicago and we are the ground zero for Black Excellence: everyone here is chasing Oprah and Jay Z in terms of "who bought the newest trinket/vacationed in the new "it" locale/purchased the newest model 'fill-in-the-blank'" or who got credit for doing/creating something first. Black Excellence is the subjugation of the Talented Tenth as a caste system. Instead of using our time positions to elevate others, the Black Excellence crowd revels in the bragging rights.

@ThePhoenix3712 Жыл бұрын

You must haven't caught the message, DAMN IT ALL !!

@ifinallyhavesocialmedia8728 Жыл бұрын

@@ThePhoenix3712 we caught the message, I just gave MY opinion about how I view Black Excellence. Please don't bring that "fake social media sensitivity because you don't agree with me " here. Disagreement doesn't mean people don't understand what was originally stated. If you interpret information that way, you are a part of the problem re: communication amongst the generations.

@LianiLouis Жыл бұрын

Statements made in 14:30 to 14:32 contradict themselves, life IS a “game.” And hypothetically speaking this would be the case with our without our oppressors present. Some will be doctors, some will be cashiers etc. It is life. I also don’t subscribe to the idea that everything is for the oppressor and also, the idea that we’re all fighting to be the oppressor, I believe would depend on the individual. Success was not created by our oppressors; subscribing to a certain idea of what success is may have been, but success itself and what it can mean to each individual, was not. Furthermore, although I appreciate your perspective and do agree with a few of your viewpoints, I would like to present one or two of my own… Not striving for more, in attempt to take yourself out of the race you feel you will never win, simultaneously further pushes the agenda of proving incompetence within our community. I haven’t seen or been informed of any group chat regarding us moving back to Africa, ( which I believe would be the only way to cut the third part (the oppressor) out, which would then leave us with ourselves and unhealed trauma, to truly determine what is of the oppressor and what is of the community itself) so whether or not you intentionally disqualify yourself from the race, ironically, you’ll still be in it.

@AleciaRenece Жыл бұрын

I hear you, but I disagree. Life is life. It's not a game. Personally, to me, that's a problematic mindset to have. This isn't super Mario or monopoly. This is the sacred, precious, fragile life of human beings, we're talking about. Our oppressors looked at us as game. I refuse to see my fellow people like that. They're precious, holy individuals. And actually, in indigenous nations, there is a respect for human, plant, animal life that is missing here. The colonizers took the sanctity of life and put it up for sale and brainwashed us in the process. We're worth so much more than money.

@terelltate2820 2 ай бұрын

Well said and I totally agree....... she (by default) is still in the game but will be behind significantly!!!!!!

@_misterJ Жыл бұрын

As a Middle Eastern American I can relate to this phenomenon. I've come to realize that the problem is not that ME people are suppressing their own culture to be accepted by white society, but rather that most of them just don't know or care enough about their own culture and are actually glad to live in a country that doesn't oblige them to live up to it's values. They're quite content at being the rats in the rat race. If you go to any country in the Middle East or Africa or almost anywhere else, the average person can't really separate their culture from their own wishes and desires. Its only in 'melting pot' societies where these nuances become evident. There are torch bearers and muggles among all people. I now recognize the excellence in people, ie the capacity of their mind, heart and soul, and know that no matter their skin color these are my people 🙌

@Loveispainj 8 ай бұрын

Everytime we speak in our issues here come some other group intervening. No other group get this type if behavior but Black Americans. It takes away from the message the our ppl

@elaecstasy Ай бұрын

Thank you for this. I'm sitting in my room crying and having a breakdown because I'm struggling under societal and familial pressure to do more because I'm not enough. My family always pushed school and career as the ultimate thing to aim for. Well I'm a grad school drop out massage therapist. It only requires a certificate so it's not enough for my African father. I'm too smart and wasting my potential. But I love it and am good at it. I realized today it's been 10 years since graduating high school. I'm nauseated. Life is not what I thought. My family fed me a fairy tale. I have no regrets about choosing the career that I have. It has allowed me to support myself and live on my own since my early 20s. It also is how I met my husband. But I am very likely going back to school next year for another certificate because I was in an accident that required surgery and cannot massage at the same capacity I used to. I'm going to LVN school. But once again, that's not enough. I've been told to do RN and then NP school. No consideration as to tuition cost or stress/time commitment involved. I've learned I don't handle stress well. I've learned I don't give a fuck about prestige. I've learned I don't want to be exhausted. I've seen what stress does to people. Stress kills. Those high paying jobs typically also come with high stress and/or long hours. It's not for me. For. The. Fucking. Birds.

@gavrilbrown7951 Жыл бұрын

I for the most part disagree. Black excellence is not solely rooted around black capitalism. I have too many thoughts on everything that was said so Imma leave it right there. I feel most of this is rooted in opinion than research.

@AleciaRenece Жыл бұрын

You're allowed to disagree. And you're right. This is my opinion. As long as you respect it, I don't have a problem. 💛

@_Tizoc_ Жыл бұрын

I really think this is such a beautiful and open minded message. You do not have to be a genius or in some commodifiable way exceptional to have value as a person.

@AleciaRenece Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much! This is exactly the message. Thank you for hearing my heart and understanding. 💛🌺

@TheRepatDiaries Жыл бұрын

Let’s not talk about travel oppression and the passport stamp Olympics…

@samlewis6615 Жыл бұрын

Yes!!!! Look if I get a chance to travel out of the country with my family that will be amazing and if I dont I will still be happy 🤷🏾‍♀️

@mirabanxx9218 Жыл бұрын

Although this is a different perspective of black excellence than what im used to, I see and understand why this perspective exists and realized i have lived it myself. I'm grateful I learned sooner rather than later that it's my own definition of things that matter and I am free to have my own definition of success, happiness, and excellence that are self fulfilling and empowering. And on the same coin, I'm free to transform any mass societal beliefs that are not serving to something that does serve me. It has brought me peace and contentment by far. And it hurts my heart to see some close to me still struggling towards a perceived goal or standard that isn't from their heart or in their truth.

@eligreg99 Жыл бұрын

I’m so glad I’m not the only person who feels this. As a black men I’ve been told ALLLLLL my life to do above and beyond. I have a bachelors degree and honestly I can say I’m content. I’m tired of people telling me to go for my masters and do this and that. I DONT WANT TO. I don’t want to get it until IM ready. I’m not going to go back to school just to impress black women and it doesn’t make me any less ambitious. I just am content with my life right now and that’s OK. With that being said don’t let this discourage you from overachieving just make sure that’s what YOU want to do. Life is too short to overachieve all your freaking life.

@thekhamisiproject Жыл бұрын

I don't know how I came across this, but THANK YOU. OMG. Someone FINALLY articulated my current evolution in a way that MAKES SENSE. I'm great with words, but they've fail me EACH time I try to explain where I am now. This is a scary, yet exhilarating place to be because once you realize these truths - you can NOT go back. You can't plug back into the matrix. Listening to my story, my history, my reality - come out of your mouth is truly mind blowing! I almost broke my index finger subbing you, sis!

@HappyHonee Жыл бұрын

This is a good argument. Agree or disagree, it is well reasoned. It’s giving Audre Lorde - the masters tools and define ourselves, it’s giving Fryes oppression, it’s giving economic critique. I’m here for it. Thanks for sharing your perspective sis.

@ahunn Жыл бұрын

Sis you just spoke to my soul with this. So eloquently stated, I couldn’t have said it better. Cheers to having a strong sense of self. We need now l more people like you in this world. 💯

@AleciaRenece Жыл бұрын

That's so sweet of you. 🥹🌺💛

@joyitadarling5815 Жыл бұрын

listening to and reacting to this sort of content is deeply cathartic for me because it echoes so many sentiments i've had since the start of my 20s and felt so sad that no one else felt the same way. it gets so annoying when other black folks try to tell me how to live my truth. thank you for sharing, i just wish i had another black friend to discuss this with

@ashleeturner8743 Жыл бұрын

“They’re fighting so hard to be the one on top” WHEW! This reminds me of all those “women empowerment” meet ups, that are really rooted in mean girl realness. It’s almost shocking to me how hard so many black ppl have a sense of entitlement and have made themselves think they’re on a pedestal s that can’t be overthrown. Me and my friends talk about this all the time, about how certain groups here in Chicago are pretentious, condescending and impossible to relate to. I’m the number one person who actually DOES believe in black excellence, but to me, black excellence means everything BUT the capitalistic ideology. I wholeheartedly am rooting for everybody black. I 100% am committed to becoming a millionaire not so much for myself, BUT to help others around me. I have no interest in feeding into this “way of life” every black person seems to clamor towards. I’m ALWAYS supporting black businesses unprompted and encouraging others to do so, I’m ALWAYS being a bridge to someone getting a better opportunity. I’m ALWAYS thinking of ways to help black ppl on a macro scale. The reality is, it takes more than just me tho. I only have the bandwidth to reach and truly help who I can right now. I strive to get financially stable to be able to teach 100 others the same. I believe with the mindset shift and financial means, we can reach sooo many more. I am hopeful, but not ignorant. I know the reality is everyone can’t go, but that won’t stop me from helping where I can and believing in the power of God and work.

@zayapp_ Жыл бұрын

I love this video Queen💯 very well said. I’m an entrepreneur and I still can’t relate to hustle culture. What about inner growth, being creative, making a real impact on our communities? Things our people unfortunately don’t think about

@zayapp_ Жыл бұрын

@@JustThinkingAboutIt bro get lost I understand how the world work i don’t need your lecture respectfully😂

@christine9220 Жыл бұрын

Hi @Zay Appling - fellow entrepreneur here, and I feel the same about growth, creativity and making an impact on my community. I know it’s hard, I’m 14 years in on this journey, but one thing I took away from this video and the comment section is that people ARE thinking about these things. Just wanted to encourage you too and hope you don’t lose hope.

@zayapp_ Жыл бұрын

@@christine9220 I’ll never lose hope I can assure you that Christine!🖤

@shabakahouse2125 Жыл бұрын

I really enjoyed this. division between families, classism, cultural,religious, traditional clashes and tribalism, disability status, even within family, Always been the black sheep, I pray everyone success in their relationships, always experienced group nonsense, cuz I craved community, had lots of anger in the past and I/We have to relax a bit and speak up sometime when it isn’t comfortable. I really appreciate this.

@arieskiki1825 Жыл бұрын

Black excellence is what it means for the individual.. Being able to wake up in the morning and continue to have the mindset that I AM going to be GREAT.. Keeping a warm heart and a smile on our face inspite of all our trials and tribulations, is excellence within itself... to me that is...

@shemaths1668 Жыл бұрын

Redefine "black excellence". Why does it always have to be about impressing others. Why can't black excellence be about helping other black people. You don't educate yourself to get a job you educate yourself to build infrastructure for others. I don't consider a black person excellent unless they have build something for the community.

@enigmathegrayman2953 Жыл бұрын

You’ve literally put into words what I’ve been thinking for years! Thank you for this wonderful massage! 👍🏾

@anthonynosike Жыл бұрын

I disagree with this some of what you said in this video. Everyone has basic human rights because they are a human being, but some reach their fullest potential, others dont. Just because some choose to do more than others, doesnt mean that we gotta all have a fair chance. Capitalism is great because it allows those who want more in life to get rewarded from it. I really dont think its competitive because people are entitled to do what they want, ie no one is forced to "win". With the high value points that you made, it also could be said that because these individuals are valuable, they succeed and win in whatever field they work in. Should people not want to be excellent? Is socialism the way to go? I dont think it's fair tbh. I also wouldnt say that black excellence is an attempt to be the oppressor. Nah, it's to do more for humanity in general. I do believe that the ones really in black excellence dont have to say it. People like Ben Carson, Obama, Oprah, or even Denzel Washington. We need black excellence, just that it doesn't come at the expense of others

@AleciaRenece Жыл бұрын

Okay. I disagree (people are literally starving), but I hear you. And I never said socialism is the way. Any system in the wrong hands, people suffer.

@Terrestrial Жыл бұрын

I don't get the urge to wear a bonnet, pajamas, and slippers in public spaces and calling it "free", just because it looks odd to white people. Frankly, it looks odd to me too.

@hungrychat7304 Жыл бұрын

It's sleep wear but they want to be soo "black" they end up looking ridiculous and claiming stupid shit as culture when it isn't. They're the opposit of the wanting to fit in but in a really bad way.

@Beastmodevids1 Жыл бұрын

I clicked on this video ready for the bs and that's not here. I 💯% agree

@AleciaRenece Жыл бұрын

💛💛💛

@againstthegraingolf301 Жыл бұрын

There is no clickbait here. All very valid points. As someone in the “black excellence” realm.. it’s def a farce.. and I Wish more of us realized it

@sozb6708 Жыл бұрын

I enjoyed this! We all must dig deeper like this sister. Black excellence IS a lie Being Black IS even a lie. We were Africans before our interaction with the European. Ethiopians and Kemites before that. We DO have to produce resources for our families. But we must seek the truth and find the way we want to move forward on our own terms.

@inthenow8077 Жыл бұрын

I am struggling. I gave up working for the system. I’m fighting to not care what people think of me. My inner growth is way more important in this lifetime to me, I realized. I am thankful to have a roof over my head for my children and myself. I understand that everyone will have that if they gave up their jobs. This definitely is a true struggle worth it I hope so. As soon as o started to question myself, this video popped up so thank you 🙏🏽

@MysTaria87 Жыл бұрын

It’s all about perspective.. rich or poor, we all have the potential to be ‘excellent’. I couldn’t care less the definition society gives ‘black excellence’. My humble opinion.

@DarniseMartin Жыл бұрын

You have some good points, but excellence does not have to be determined by whether whites approve of us. Imma stand on the side of excellence, because this conversation sounds like we end up equating excellence with whiteness that we then need to resist, and authentic blackness with mediocrity. Why can't we be excellent on our own terms? Blackness is what then? Let's not compare ourselves to whiteness as the standard of excellence. but we're also not going to just give up excellence to spite the system while we still live in the US. We definitely lose all around then. Whiteness does not have a monopoly on excellence and i don't yield to that.

@AleciaRenece Жыл бұрын

I hear you, and appreciate your input. I'm not saying excellence = Whiteness. I'm saying rhis brand of "Black Excellence" DOES mirror what White culture considers "excellent". I'm all for redefining it to better celebrate and include ALL of us, but I'm not too fond of where Black Excellence is now and what it requires. I'm not yielding because I choose to love myself in spite of, I'm just making observations.

@GlareBoxTV Жыл бұрын

@@AleciaRenece This is why in the UK, there is a Power list of Black people who are influential (including those who've done community work), not just the rich/ corporate highflyers. The truth is, most demographics tend to focus on rich lists as it gets attention and money is the easiest way of 'keeping score' (with perhaps some mention of that wealthy person's charity activities).

@andreajordan2939 Жыл бұрын

Facts!!!! " The Game is rigged."

@crownlaurus2610 Жыл бұрын

I ❤ this video! Thank you!! I had to cut off a close friend over this. My words exactly, "I value ppl over money". They think that Black folk are asleep but they don't realize they are trying to become the very system that has worked against us as you clearly pointed out. Thanks for this ✊🏾

@AleciaRenece Жыл бұрын

Thiiiiiiiiis!!! 💛💛💛

@FaithandNova Жыл бұрын

I'm someone who just wants ppl to do right in life. Work on healing their hearts so they can be a better person and better to others. What's the purpose of all the accolades and materialistic things if you're just going to be a horrible human being 😥