Same here but i have a different reason 😂

Is it really a jiujitsu spar with no pressure? Not really

@@johnnycage2746 the pressure to use technique over strength will usually get me caught.

I had two girls as sparing partner. I have other feelings about using strength.

Girl's legs are so strong.

You totally missed the point. The "don't squish us" is just a point about a big weight and strength difference. Same as in a 6'3" 250lb guy shouldn't try to squish a 5'6" 150lb guy.

​@@denisl2760 Okok here's your attention

@@tomarintomarin9520 The irony in this reply.

@@denisl2760 6’3 and 250 is overweight

The ultimate level is to make them mirror you, without making them but hurt or having to put them in their place - important when they tend to force things

I feel like that’s a lot easier in grappling, ya know? I’ve mostly done striking and we all remember a time where a friend goes “I’ll just go as hard as you do”.

Right, first of all I'm married and neither me or my wife want the other rolling around giggling with someone of the opposite sex... call it insecurity, jealousy, or whatever you want... I'll call it respect and common sense. If I were single I would roll with girls but only ones I knew Really well and then I wouldn't have to worry about accidently offending them. From my experience women are too much trouble just to be rolling with random chicks from the gym.

@@FearRua agree

Thank you 4 sharing 🙏

It seems like these women were put on the spot and weren't given time to consider their answers, so they phrased it badly. Instead of thinking, "Don't squish girls," think of it as, "Don't squish anyone smaller than you." If you're rolling with someone a hundred pounds lighter than you, don't use the same strength and weight as you would with someone your size or bigger--male or female. (Unless they ask because they want to experience that pressure from a self-defense standpoint.) Women don't always realize that the relative fragility is not because they're female, it's because they're SMALLER. This also seems like advice for beginners to the sport. Every skilled grappler I've ever rolled with knows to match their training partner's strength/intensity in a casual spar. It's only inexperienced people who panic about the opposite gender or try to overcompensate for their inexperience with strength. I've had guys a foot taller than me pick me up and slam me against the mats because they couldn't figure out how to break my guard during a drill, stuff like that. It's better for HIS training to learn how to do it (because that's not going to work on someone his size), and better for ME not to get whiplash so that I can go to work the next day.

@@institches2750 Being put on this spot exposes their double standard. I just tell them that during this roll I identify as a girl, then smash!!

This kinda thing happens. At the end of the day, male or female, many people don't have the humility to make it long term in a martial art like BJJ or Muay Thai.

@@anthonygerber8261 sure, but that doesn't really address the issue he discussed it's just a copout.

Do you think they can beat a big mascular man in a real situation where the man can slam, bite, punch and do all this stuff?

Mmmm, I don't think that's what was being said, you just heard whatever you wanted to hear. If you are literally twice someone's size it's obvious you can smash them, and you can make it a miserable experience for no discernable reason, this goes for two men of very different statures as well. All they were saying is focus on technique rather than horsing everything with brute strength. If you are constantly smashing and ripping in rolls with other guys, usually higher belts are going to check the shit out of you, and you might get a talking to from the instructor as well.

It seems like these women were put on the spot and weren't given time to consider their answers, so they phrased it badly. Instead of thinking, "Don't squish girls," think of it as, "Don't squish anyone smaller than you." If you're rolling with someone a hundred pounds lighter than you, don't use the same strength and weight as you would with someone your size or bigger--male or female. (Unless they ask because they want to experience that pressure from a self-defense standpoint.) Women don't always realize that the relative fragility is not because they're female, it's because they're SMALLER. This also seems like advice for beginners to the sport. Every skilled grappler I've ever rolled with knows to match their training partner's strength/intensity in a casual spar. It's only inexperienced people who panic about the opposite gender or try to overcompensate for their inexperience with strength. I've had guys a foot taller than me pick me up and slam me against the mats because they couldn't figure out how to break my guard during a drill, stuff like that. It's better for HIS training to learn how to do it (because that's not going to work on someone his size), and better for ME not to get whiplash so that I can go to work the next day.

I have seen many people say “I think these women were put on the spot” so what? If you where put on the spot you could give reasonable non hypothetical answers. Again you make excuses for them because they are girls

@@philodox7599 Haha, I WISH. Clever, off the cuff responses is a skill I have envied my whole life. Now, after years and years of exposure to someone who IS good at them, I can sometimes think of casual, funny comeback. Serious questions, I still need to consider for a while, as my first instinct is not always the most concise, relevant, or well-phrased. Could be worse. I'm great at essays, problem-solving, and money management. And I could be a condescending sexist like you.

@@institches2750 you seem to explain yourself pretty well there. So why can't these women? Also can you explain to me how my comment was #1 condescending. and #2 sexist.

I spent a long time in Judo. We use a three-finger/thumb grip that's strong as hell but we're used to it in Judo. First time I rolled with a BJJ'er, I grabbed his wrist just like I would grab a judoka's gi in competition. He screamed. I immediately let go and backed off, thinking I'd accidentally kneed him in the groin or something. He accused me of trying to break his wrist by squeezing it too hard. Yeah... okay, buddy. I had to turn my grips down a couple of notches. But after that, I never even considered ne waza with a female BBJ'er, figured they were even more fragile.

@@johnpauljones9310 depends on your power, but probably a good idea.

"Quickness" is much more likely to get you injured than someone using a lot of force. "Balance" doesn't mean anything. If you can't stand the shoulder pressure, tap. Seems like you're a sore loser tbh.

@@isaacgarcia2979 Decades of grabbing gi's and wrists with a 3-finger grip turns your forearms into Popeye. Check out Kayla Harrison's forearms. They're unreal for a woman.

@@MrCmon113 yeah thats what I was thinking, pressure is an important part of bjj and can and should be used as a means to submit if possible. If they cant handle it then they should tap 😐 And this is coming from a 5'7 155lb white belt.

Lol ok

It’s a good technique

This is the jiu jitsu version of navy seal copypasta. The presence of ego here is pretty shocking for an experienced grappler.

Lol, I get what you're saying... but at the same time... RNC is probably the worst example to use... bc if you catch me in a RNC, I didn't stuff up once... I stuffed up like eight times. If someone is even on your back... you screwed up a long time ago.

Are you able to beat big mascular guys too? (When they new)

Yeah but then when that guy gets to blue belt he’s tapping those brown belts, which is kind of ridiculous.

@@goodnamestaken it's not ridiculous it's just nature.

Trust me it can be weird for us too! I have hit balls more times than I like to count. We get use to it and we know it is an accident. Keep it up and the more it will be natural. My favorite training partners are some dudes!

@@Strengthbodymind I'm getting a little better. Not rolling as passively and working technique over forcing em into place. Plus I'm not awkward now. Some dude in a poor roll totally smashed my face with his balls and some gal pulled a high mount was it? and had her area up in my face. But I'm getting better at not blushing. Did I mention I have Asperger's syndrome? The whole touching another person in general is just strange to me, but I've come to really enjoy trying to apply what I learn. Thanks again for the feedback 👊🏻👊🏻👊🏻

@@jericovildoza4633 that's a good thing than you doing this sport to overcome this. 👍 The more you know your teammates the less awkward

@@jericovildoza4633 Kudos for being brave enough to leave Your comfort zone!

Cut down on the soy beverages.

It seems like these women were put on the spot and weren't given time to consider their answers, so they phrased it badly. Instead of thinking, "Don't squish girls," think of it as, "Don't squish anyone smaller than you." If you're rolling with someone a hundred pounds lighter than you, don't use the same strength and weight as you would with someone your size or bigger--male or female. (Unless they ask because they want to experience that pressure from a self-defense standpoint.) Women don't always realize that the relative fragility is not because they're female, it's because they're SMALLER. This also seems like advice for beginners to the sport. Every skilled grappler I've ever rolled with knows to match their training partner's strength/intensity in a casual spar. It's only inexperienced people who panic about the opposite gender or try to overcompensate for their inexperience with strength. I've had guys a foot taller than me pick me up and slam me against the mats because they couldn't figure out how to break my guard during a drill, stuff like that. It's better for HIS training to learn how to do it (because that's not going to work on someone his size), and better for ME not to get whiplash so that I can go to work the next day.

@@institches2750 I suppose, I’m a smaller guy but I seek out the bigger people half the time because I know if I can develop my technique on bigger people than I’ll have a easier time with someone my size. And if you roll with bigger people you have to improvise. So go to techniques may not be available cause your legs and arms aren’t long enough. I think the better way to state it would be “don’t smash your training partners” regardless of gender unless you both are going for it.

It seems like these women were put on the spot and weren't given time to consider their answers, so they phrased it badly. Instead of thinking, "Don't squish girls," think of it as, "Don't squish anyone smaller than you." If you're rolling with someone a hundred pounds lighter than you, don't use the same strength and weight as you would with someone your size or bigger--male or female. (Unless they ask because they want to experience that pressure from a self-defense standpoint.) Women don't always realize that the relative fragility is not because they're female, it's because they're SMALLER. This also seems like advice for beginners to the sport. Every skilled grappler I've ever rolled with knows to match their training partner's strength/intensity in a casual spar. It's only inexperienced people who panic about the opposite gender or try to overcompensate for their inexperience with strength. I've had guys a foot taller than me pick me up and slam me against the mats because they couldn't figure out how to break my guard during a drill, stuff like that. It's better for HIS training to learn how to do it (because that's not going to work on someone his size), and better for ME not to get whiplash so that I can go to work the next day.

Right! Then it’s different. I don’t roll with females.

Don't be afraid to go hard but don't be a limp noodle. Im sure you have trained with someone that acts like a noodle.

It seems like these women were put on the spot and weren't given time to consider their answers, so they phrased it badly. Instead of thinking, "Don't squish girls," think of it as, "Don't squish anyone smaller than you." If you're rolling with someone a hundred pounds lighter than you, don't use the same strength and weight as you would with someone your size or bigger--male or female. (Unless they ask because they want to experience that pressure from a self-defense standpoint.) Women don't always realize that the relative fragility is not because they're female, it's because they're SMALLER. This also seems like advice for beginners to the sport. Every skilled grappler I've ever rolled with knows to match their training partner's strength/intensity in a casual spar. It's only inexperienced people who panic about the opposite gender or try to overcompensate for their inexperience with strength. I've had guys a foot taller than me pick me up and slam me against the mats because they couldn't figure out how to break my guard during a drill, stuff like that. It's better for HIS training to learn how to do it (because that's not going to work on someone his size), and better for ME not to get whiplash so that I can go to work the next day.

@@institches2750 you are absolutely spot on!!!

Rolling with girls, I'm always hard 😉

Why did you add 5,8💀

@@law4546 cuz that's tall as fuck bro. If you think about it that is almost 6', and guys who are 6 foot claim to be 6'2, which is almost 6'3 which can be rounded to 6'5, which can be rounded once again to 7'. Dude is pretty much 7' tall.

@@ifuckedyourmom true

How much did you weight when they tapped you? I refuse to believe that you were 78kg mascular and lean and you didnt have the strength to break their holds

Not really. They’re saying don’t go super easy on us but don’t use raw strength difference to win. They’re not conflicting at all. Just focus on your technique

@@elappo1824 What they say and what they do are always two different things, guv.

😂😂😂

@@elappo1824 so in other words: give them special consideration. Do you get special consideration when you train?

if any of you are female and are learning this for self-defense. I highly advise quitting right now. If any attackers know the very basic of high school wrestling techniques, your black belt in BJJ means precisely jack shit. Learn calisthenic and be really good at sprinting. And have a pepperspray always on hand.

They want equality, but can't handle it.

😂😂😂😂

I crush them intentionally. Equality and all that.

Damn right. Just idiots simping for the matriarchy. If a guy is tapping to a girl the guy better be half her weight and experience.

As long you use good technique and then strength behind it, then go ahead, strength is a favourable attribute just as speed and flexibility are. Its probably better for you to find someone your own size or go against upper belts who might know how to deal with your strength though

Fat

Could be refreshing for you to find someone stronger so you can try to just use the technique.... I had similar problem that I was the tallest (standup in box, Aikido, FMA), so I rarely experienced how it would be with taller person.

Thats stupid. I have the same problem. Never back away from using well placed strength. They could very well have much better indurance than u and theyre not afraid to use it. They have their edge why back away from exploiting yours

Ask if any of your partners would mind hard sparring every now and then. I understand wanting to learn to use all your attributes. Typically, the goal in rolling is to "practice" and "improve." To that end, you want to work on your technique and not risk injuring your partner by cranking a poorly applied submission. However, if you're serious or competitive, you may also want to practice "winning." Nothing wrong with that, you just need to find a partner who's okay with that intensity. Preferably someone at least your size. Casual practitioners who have to go to work the next day probably won't be interested, but a competitor might.

You gotta use only 50% of your strength and attach helium balloons to you to make you lighter and pretend to be exhausted after 2 rounds and act as if you can't get your limbs into certain positions and you need to scream in pain when a 50kg woman tries to put you into a triangle choke.

@@MrCmon113 I had a woman smaller than that size go vs me. I didn't even use my body weight as I felt I would crush her. I am a little above 100kg. This lady accidently punched me hard in the face. She thought I was going to kill her. I laughed and smiled. Telling her it was a good punch. I have also been accidently kicked in the head by a newer guy doing a triangle. Along with recently flipped by a large freaking out guy, who also hit my eye before this. But I take this personal.

Honest question - If someone said that he ain't comfortable rolling with people of different skin colour, or a country of origin, or religion, or sexual orientation (e.g., not comfortable to roll with a Muslim from middle east country) - would You say it's ok? Or would You call that person a bigot? (rightfully a bigot or even harsher words could be used in my opinion in such a situation)

@@niu9432 thats a wide range of different unrelated categories and you know it. Very disingenuous.

@@samdis1890 Each category is unrelated with another one - true. So why is it ok for being discriminated as a part of one category? And in the same time, You'd call discrimination due to being a part of another category a bigotry? Such a double standard. The bottom line is, if You say You do not roll with women, just because they are women, You are a bigot.

@@niu9432 so if a woman says that she's not ok rolling with men you'd just call her a biggotted sexist lol alot of people start training to learn self deffence yet what they find is people like you bullying them into uncomfortable situations. And you're pretty gullible if you think " i dont want to spar with you because i find it uncomfotable to be in these position with a woman" and "i hate black people" is the same thing.

@@niu9432 the difference is that women and men dont share the same biology, with all that that implies, it s not like rolling with another man from middle east or whatever. That s why we discriminate women and men division across all sports :/

....I don't think you know what is meant here by smashing, guys don't like people who roll like that either, and you wouldn't be a big fan of someone twice your size coming in and just going donkey kong, mauling you with little technique and mostly overpowering you outright. Obviously for self defense reasons they need to experience the full weight and strength a much bigger guy can give, but in day to day rolling, unnecessary. Rolling is to practice your technique, not flex your size advantage over anyone smaller.

I am a bodybuilder when I train with other women I know who i can use strength with and who to go lighter with and use only technique. Surely men can figure that out too!

@@hzuiel the point is that as you said it also happens with men rolling with men, so its not s gender exclusive issue, why make it one? Just say roll with me the same you would anybody else, if you are a douche be a douche if you go light with everyone go light.

I agree 100%

i roll with kids when I teach the kids class, it is an art to roll with someone smaller, you really have to think about how you move!

Consider their experience level as well as strength level. Try to rely on technique than smashing. Sometimes if you’re more experienced and you’re bigger, consider offering a couple coaching tips on how you think the weaker one can overcome your technique (you’re doing them a favor to survive especially on the street). Also guys need to have the willingness to not let their smashing strength and power become a dominant thing if she just got you with an arm bar or a choke because she’s more practices in a technique. Check your ego sometimes please if you want to keep the roll going well. I’m sure majority of the men in this sports would love helping the women they roll with to get better so they can actually fight someone off the street if needed. But ego can sometimes get in the way… and it sometimes go both ways too … women who’s got some practice need to make sure we don’t just blast all the techniques with the guy in their first roll just to feel like a badass. The guy probably is just trying to figure his way around. We are rolling to better each other … not overpowering one another.

@@Kmcheuk -- That's right. Whenever you have a significant size and strength advantage just try to be smooth and technical. My wife is a BJJ black belt, I'm a blue belt with a 40lb weight advantage. We have some really good rolls in our empty bedroom. I just hate when I roll with someone who has a huge weight advantage, but less skilled, and use every ounce of their weight advantage for dear life because god forbid if you should lose a positional advantage when you're just practicing!!

If you're going against anyone you can beat easily work on techniques and positions you want to get better at. If your that much better you can nearly dictate the whole roll so work on things your game is lacking.

I'm the big guy at our gym, but only white belt. At white belt, mostly, my goal is to learn to survive and be defensive, so when I have rolled with ladies, it's usually defensive. Having said that, when I roll with any new partner, I always tell them a lesson I learned from a purple belt 10th planet guy... If you're not sure about matching power, use as little power as possible and let them tap you. Then, let the smaller person build the power of they want. Sometimes, especially with newer guys and spazzy guys, I will just stop and ask if they want to increase power. The coach doesn't like talking on the mats much, but I'd rather communicate before amping things up

This. You start flow rolling and lax, then they pull some weird ass back take out of nowhere that nobody except someone with the flexibility of Gumby could pull off. Never underestimate.

@@Mr.Hyde_23 that why you go in for the kill right away.....dont give the girl a chance....😄😄

@@Mr.Hyde_23 Flow rolling is the dumbest shit ever. If you're not sweating profusely ramming your head into their chest, why the fuck are you even on a matt?

I love being triangled by girls.

Actually i had to roll on my first day after learning a simple armbar and everyone i know of who learns in other schools also rolled from day 1.

Most schools I have toured has beginners roll on the first day. I find that the no rolling first few weeks is a new thing.

@@johnrichardson4177 they do it so free class dudes don't run away after their first taste. We roll from the get go at our academy.

I rolled my first class...with 2 women and a guy actually. Got beat up and worked because I had no idea what I was doing. The pain is what brings me back😈

@@star_fossilRespectfully I disagree with the policy of rolling right away. I've trained in Okinawan karate for just over 50 years, some of that time teaching. While karate and BJJ are very different martial arts there are parallels in the the process of learning. I've seen time after time that when sparring/ rolling is started too soon students revert to instinct, sometimes very poor instincts instead of learning good solid foundations. So they're trading short term gratification for long-term solid skills. Just my humble opinion.

That's not what they're saying at all though. They're saying to concentrate on technique over brute force, which is what I also do with some of the guys I train with. You don't have to force bodyweight down on someone to submit them at every single opportunity. Some of the guys I train with are 50-60kg, whilst I weigh 110kg. I do not want to crush them for no reason, regardless of if they're a man or woman. But on the flip side, some of the guys are my weight, and I'll happily practice using my weight as a technique on them.

It's a lose-lose situation for a man. Whatever you do it will be wrong. Hard pass.

@@hizzle1885 What kind of logic are you using for that? Just be conscious of weight, just like you would if you're rolling with a bloke that's significantly lighter than you, and don't grab their tits, just like you wouldn't try to tweak the nips of a bloke you're rolling with. Doesn't seem like a lose-lose situation to me, just getting a different type of training in compared to a bloke of your weight.

@@jackwheatley9198 Informal logic. The fact that you have to ask tells me it is pointless to continue with you.

​@@hizzle1885 That again, makes no sense. You made a statement saying it's a lose-lose situation, without adding any additional context behind it. I'm asking because I'm trying to understand your perspective. But that's okay, we don't have to continue this. Make sure to let the women in your gym know that you don't want to roll with them, but ensure you don't tell them why! Because them asking why, would be considered pointless in your eyes

It depends on what you are training for. If you are training for self defense a good training partner will never take it easy on you.

@@philodox7599 if you kill your training partner how do they get better? If you are physically bigger and more athletic 70% or so will be plenty for them to learn the SKILLS to defend themselves. As they progress you can up the intensity further once they have some understanding and a good base to work from. You learn nothing if you just get murdered constantly all the time. What martial art do you train?

@@aaronkinder2807 have you ever seen someone train BJJ and be a bad ass in training and the go to a tournament and get RUINED. Why does that happen all the time? well, because training partners go easy on them. Sure you don't need to go 100% but you need to see what 100% from time to time otherwise you will get your ass kicked when someone actually attacks you.

​@@philodox7599 you're not really responding to what I've typed but rather something you think I'm saying. I'm talking about a concept here. Please read this part carefully and don't insert anything that isn't written. "If you always murder someone they can't get better. You have to dial it down to let them learn before you start dialing it up." To respond to your last statement I have indeed seen this. I would argue that the increased anxiety and pressure of competition is a factor in gym stud getting crushed in competition. I would also propose that not all gyms are the same. Some gyms might have BJJ with a more MMA focus. Others might have both but be more focused on BJJ. There is also a difference between BJJ as a hobby, a self defense, and training for sport BJJ. We could go further into sleep on competition day (see anxiety comment), nutrition, strength training, and the fact that not everyone is in the same place in life. If you have a family to support you're going to choose that money making activity over BJJ. If I'm a white belt, 29, business professional, in adult division, I'm going up against 18 year old's who might live at home still and are gym rats. We could also talk overall grappling experience disparity within a belt rank. Like a kid who has wrestled for 8 years before they even started BJJ and you happen to be the same rank. All of the above are examples as to why the gym stud loses in competition and most of them have nothing to do with their training partners babying them. If you're training for competition you should know enough to understand if someone is babying you.

It's way safer to use all of your strength, because then you don't need to move fast.

I don't have gears. I use precisely the force that is required for the task. In no situation do we use a specific percentage of maximal power. We use the force that is required for the result. To try and learn to use x% of your maximal force is futile, because you can never do that consistently, and it's also a huge waste of mental effort that should go into actually learning BJJ.

That’s a good question. Pressure is proper use of weight and that is good technique. Unless you outweigh someone by 150, 200 lbs I think that is a good use of pressure

That's dumb...if women are better at it then there would be women competing against the best men...and they would get crushed. The reality is that BJJ gyms protect and cater and encourage women more...so some guys drop out and will quit a gym now with little fanfare. because they are just learning but if the women are better trained and beat the men then it's quite humiliating to lots of men. I don't roll with women. It's emasculating.

@@WoodApe100 Then you are I’ll informed my dude. That’s like advocating that this MARTIAL ART should only be taught by men. Jiu Jitsu is a martial art first and foremost and a sport waaaaaayyyy down the line. It’s for everyone, literally anyone can do it. If you take the time and teach someone what you do, you understand the move better and maybe they will use it against you, and then maybe they’ll get you. So now you have to dissect it, see what makes the move work and now, that move will rarely work on you. You’ll see the set ups coming and neutralize them. If rolling with a woman is emasculating for you, you are not that strong of a person or (since you brought it up) a man.

@@destructionc7596 no it's not advocating that it should only be taught by men...i just said i don't roll with women...i also don't roll with people that can't control their tempers or try to injure and do all sorts of dumb things...also it isn't "foremost a sport" maybe to you it is...but self defence was always primary. Nothing stopping women from teaching women at all or guys too if guys want a woman instructor. I don't expect women to necessarily want to roll with guys either if they don't want to...that's why they have women's classes. You are just triggered cuz you don't respect a man's right to choose anything like you worship a woomans. Loser.

@@destructionc7596 Anc yeah i'm a man...what? a man can't say he feels emasculated in certain situations? And you deny my gender any respect? Hmm...seems like you are the sexist. My body my choice

@@WoodApe100 if you read correctly I said “Jiu Jitsu is a martial art first and foremost” then the next part said “and a sport waaaaayyyy down the line.” I also don’t roll with people who I don’t trust especially if leg locks are being done. I never mentioned anything about your body, I was just stating my opinion about how rolling with a woman can better your technique. I want to practice this martial art till I’m so old I can’t rely on strength and have to use pure technique. Anyway it’s your opinion and I respect you sharing it. If I disrespected you, it was unintentional and I apologize.

Sparing with a smaller person or sparing in a different weight class. Those difference apply in any dojo, we can't all be 6'6 and 260 pounds right?

What she is secretly saying is treat us nice and easy and dont rough the girls up.....this way they can kick your butt and win the match......🤣🤣🤣....We know what they mean. LOL

It seems like these women were put on the spot and weren't given time to consider their answers, so they phrased it badly. Instead of thinking, "Don't squish girls," think of it as, "Don't squish anyone smaller than you." If you're rolling with someone a hundred pounds lighter than you, don't use the same strength and weight as you would with someone your size or bigger--male or female. (Unless they ask because they want to experience that pressure from a self-defense standpoint.) Women don't always realize that the relative fragility is not because they're female, it's because they're SMALLER. This also seems like advice for beginners to the sport. Every skilled grappler I've ever rolled with knows to match their training partner's strength/intensity in a casual spar. It's only inexperienced people who panic about the opposite gender or try to overcompensate for their inexperience with strength. I've had guys a foot taller than me pick me up and slam me against the mats because they couldn't figure out how to break my guard during a drill, stuff like that. It's better for HIS training to learn how to do it (because that's not going to work on someone his size), and better for ME not to get whiplash so that I can go to work the next day.

@@allenchiu7523 have you not been smashed by that guy because in my experience that guy tries as hard as he can.

@@goodnamestaken 2 years ago lol. I spar with normal people, closer to my weight class and size. I avoid the angry guys the guys that require the "talk" or has something to prove. If you need to give them the talk they have some problems right. In my generation that is less of an issue. So I feel sorry for the women of America then again this is saying something about the culture. Are they wanting to get rid of their female peers so they don't want to come back. WOW kids these days.

It seems like these women were put on the spot and weren't given time to consider their answers, so they phrased it badly. Instead of thinking, "Don't squish girls," think of it as, "Don't squish anyone smaller than you." If you're rolling with someone a hundred pounds lighter than you, don't use the same strength and weight as you would with someone your size or bigger--male or female. (Unless they ask because they want to experience that pressure from a self-defense standpoint.) Women don't always realize that the relative fragility is not because they're female, it's because they're SMALLER. This also seems like advice for beginners to the sport. Every skilled grappler I've ever rolled with knows to match their training partner's strength/intensity in a casual spar. It's only inexperienced people who panic about the opposite gender or try to overcompensate for their inexperience with strength. I've had guys a foot taller than me pick me up and slam me against the mats because they couldn't figure out how to break my guard during a drill, stuff like that. It's better for HIS training to learn how to do it (because that's not going to work on someone his size), and better for ME not to get whiplash so that I can go to work the next day.

It's fun because the guy ends up with an erection. I just tell them "My wife doesn't like me rolling with girls"

@@thijs7204 I barbell row 380 lbs for reps and strict curl 180 lbs, reverse hyper with 270 lb and can do front lever with 30 lb kettle bell. Im 275 lbs. Ive gotten out of triangle hold and armbar with strength alone against 220 lb purple belt. I know exactly what Im talking about. just like none of bjj works against a gorilla or a bear (dont even try. it's suicidal), it doesn't work on sufficiently strong humans. Like me.

How was that insightful?? They said don't take it easy on us and treat us different but then turn around and say to not use weight , pressure or strength

I've never met a smart dude named Ricky. Something tells me you had to get your GED.

@@SennacheribBaal I have never met a man named Christopher that wasn't suffering from the dunning kruger effect either. Something tell me you have a master's in lesbian dance theory ?

Ricky, you're the kind of guy who buys clothes at Goodwill with an ebt card. Get back to your Nascar race.