World Peace ☮️ here we come.

Same here. I don't know where I'd be without him. His teachings healed a huge part of my anxiety and pain body/ego which I've been carrying and projecting for years and never fully realised it. He's saving me from myself.

Same here...I still hold resentment towards my friends for some of their actions...but after hearing this talk...I feel a bit "lighter" so to say.... Thank you for shining a light on this Eckhart

This is exactly what is driving me insane.. How am I supposed not to believe what is obvious..? I feel like I will be just one step away from craziness if I reject my thoughts, what my mind is telling me. What's the difference being mindless and being brainless? They seem so similar to me and if I do that, I won't be a reasonable person, who is constantly telling lies to oneself.

@RXVAS Unfortunately lol media influence has us a bit fooled.... I'm not saying avoid relationships like i did for periods, after an act of semi betrayal. Was in hindsight amongst the best things to happen to me Relationships can prove the best awakener. And ofcourse there are many relatively successful ones, which have more love than hate. But you will never find true salvation in one.

@@TheGuruUk2008 thank you, very insightful

@@Musaaaa653 your welcome. Regurgitating alot of Eckharts wise words i must say, along with life experience and many years of contemplation. Though Eckhart is the man.

TheGuruUk2008 Ya that ain’t true

NavShay Sometimes she just sees that she will never belong, bc they don’t allow. We are in Earth.

We are human and built that way. Its not that simple.

Marleen V That is a quote from Eckhart Tolle. In a different video he made about forgiveness, it actually is that simple. The situation is what it is. The judgement is what makes it complicated and sufferable.

@@Morgan313 in other words she shouldn't judge or believe every thought she has towards the parents

Cheryl Schumaker of course

Aaaw. Hugs.

Same. The narcissistic self loathing was kicking in hard and this was the wake up I needed

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Love that

yes my life is great also,not by society's standards .............................yesssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssss

Kayla Ryder society is meant to be played with, I think of this world as a play ground with the 99% being the ones the joke is on, if you find a way back into the garden, this world is fantastic, and gotta stay away from the ones with all the “S”s at the end of yes because you broadcast what you know well ;-) But let me be clear, there really is actually no joke, just hard work.

You have no idea how accurate and closely aligned to what I’ve been thinking in many relationships in my life. So true. Thank you, man. God bless ya

Lloyd Christmas Of course man, just sharing some of dat Gnosis. Feel free to be selfish, considering you are the center, as is every individual in this hypercube of a place. Anyone who isn’t selfish has just bought some sort of low blow lie someone in their field of relationships has told them. Just like in that Beatles Yellow Submarine song “Every one of us has all we need”. We’ve been given a space suit that we can move at any time and focus anywhere we want and it’s always now. The culmination of the eternal spiritual path ends and begins with where you are always. That’s unconditional love, it can’t be given or taken, only exercised, since you’ve been there all along. Peace

I've sought out support for codependency through 12 step groups. Info at Coda.org

@@lenas5613 whatever helps you to break the toxic cycle can only lead to happiness. I really can't relate because I've never been codependent on anyone. I think just accepting what has happened and no longer living in denial in this dysfunctional pattern is the biggest battle. You cannot heal if you do not acknowledge and you've already done that, so congratulations. I'm not really sure what you can do to work on it by just accepting it and letting go so it no longer affects you. I'm curious was it a lover or a family member and how did this person make you feel?

Impossible. You cannot love yourself just as you cannot kiss your own lips. Love comes from outside. It's easy to love yourself. You're you. You're your best friend. But it's not enough. The love of another person is an intrinsic need.

@@dildoschwaggins10 great insights ! I love it ❤️

@@dildoschwaggins10 its definitely not easy to love yourself

jen d. What kind of meditation do you do ? and are there certain You tube meditations you can recommend?

Meditation is the Master Key.

In order to accelerate your spiritual development you need a practice (meditation) and cultivation (changing the way you think: virtue). They interact with each other. The meditation opens your energy pathways and calms you down and the cultivation changes the way you think. You can do just one and be ok, but if you do both, you will be really ok.

a GREAT adorable one ;)

CORRECT!!!

Yes, i understand what you are saying. To think my situation would change if i stopped believing my thoughts is just not possible. My observations and conclusions about this family mrmber and her actions toward me are real. A more apt action in this situation would be total acceptance, but with kindness for them and myself. That is not to say tolle is wrong here, but it might be, for me advice for another situation.

i wamt someone to ask him something like this and see what he says.

Ego joke 2 But if i get caught, people will think im a bad person.

Haha

this made me laugh lol

With whom he does vacation? If he goes on holydays and weekends with his parents and not with you then it is too much. If he just talk every day by phone but spend holiday and weekends withyou then it might be your ego.

in my humble opinion...it is not that simple to answer, because its not just this or that alone, not a black and white situation....yes there is an obvious element of truth happening within us and that pushes us to have to resolve the uncomfortable feeling , otherwise we wil continue to suffer from it, so digging deep helps....in your situation Elana, No1, it this karmic? (She and you...) No2 Is this just to be in acceptance and or its about sharing something very dear to you,..ie your family, your life, yourself? and you feel you are not ready to? No3 Do you really have a deep loving and satisfactory bond with your husband that gift you with so much it over flows? or is it not? ...and now you feel you don't have enough for you to share right now...? Find the trigger,..in the heart center. and slowly feels and read its message, take time to be alone and silent. In anyway the only person who judges is only yourself. In love light of the One Creator

Elana Somekh Eckhart’ Tolle’s awakening came from a similar thought “I can’t live with myself any longer”. He realized there were two, the “I” and the self I can’t live with. And there came the question, ‘ Who is this self that I can’t live with?’ You said “I have a big problem with myself” and, “I hate myself”. Weird when you think about it huh? How can there be two? You could ask the same question, “Who is this self that I hate? “, and “who is this ‘self’ that I have a problem with?”

We often participate in that which harms us. It may be the only thing about the situation we have control over, also the most important part of it. I wouldn't cut all contact, things like Christmas, special occasions; but outside of that, I would. Develop one's own interest, pursue that which fulfills you, brings you joy. You're headed for problems when your happiness depends on another person other than yourself. I don't think that is Love, more of an obsession perhaps? The only person you can change is yourself. Namaste.

rosely covali I think you’re missing the point of his message...

I agree with you. Some people are obnoxious, or totally unconscious, and ET is the 1st one to say so. Then we might understand / forgive them for acting that way, however their presence (or lack thereof) remains challenging to say the least and undesirable more than often, except as a lesson given by a teacher in compassion. We'll know what to do if we remain present. "No need for a set of rules or abstract principles to guide you: from presence right action arises." Eckhart Tolle

Timothy Stratton - understand what you are saying. Masters, speaking from consciousness, address the specific person's deepest mind waves and problems. Minds think in a pattern - you and I would empathize, want more details, speculate, suggest tools etc. Masters just speak whatever arises. Sometimes it is brutal, sometimes it is with tears. They don't fall into a pattern that the regular mind can reconcile with. The argument can be "is eckhart a master". But argument cannot be "why he said what he said" And to your point "Who is he to say it? ". This question simply doesn't arise. He says what he says. A question arises and answer comes. That's it.

That's a good question, for me too. No one is "enlightened" from the beginning, it's a process. And when the suffering and inner blocks become too big, it may be time to leave the environment. I think if it belongs to the life task, similar situations will happen again and again. But maybe they are easier to deal with. It also will take more time.

No need for a set of rules or abstract principles to guide you: from presence right action arises. Eckhart Tolle

The very good point he is making here is, first find out what is the situation and what is your judgement about it. After that it should be clear what is the next step. Sometimes a relationship is toxic and you have to leave, but quite often your own thoughts is the toxine. If so, leaving won't make a change in your life because you bring your thought patterns with you. Speaking from experience.

Sure, everything is connected to others, the question is in which degree. If you make the connection to dependence, especially when it becomes unavailable, then you get issue, right ?

Your happiness is not based on the outside situation. You don't need to be recognized by anybody to be happy. Our brain create a delusion of "me"(ego). The happy it want is attention, recognition , ...but the real you don't have to. The only happy you can find is within you right now. Not outside, not in the future or past. You can buy his book "The power of now" for more clarification.

@purpledreamcatcher64 Check out Leo Gura, Teal Swan, Abraham Hicks, Joe Dispenza and Bruce Lipton. You'll find a lot of great content on their channels.

Have you ever tried EFT tapping? I have found that tapping, subliminals/hypnosis have really helped. Tons of free channels to explore

I am tired to watch the Tribal Law in families. Sometimes when someone marries, the original family can adopt the new member or not. The same scrutiny happens to grand kids too. Most of the times they are totally accepted if the mother or father married to their member could be totally part. Families are open or a closed system. The family of my son in law is Arab and don’t accept my daughter’s family so well - I mean they are poorer but prouder and feel non spontaneous when I am present - or my family. My son in law makes question to not separate his family most of the time when in a restaurant etc. So I had to submit. These are facts and not impressions. I don’t tell anybody because I know they will say it’s subjective - because it will be like it. There is no room to change. I suggest you think in yourself and how to reach a balance within these structures. In my case I don’t accept being everyone together and to simplify I invent a job or anything else to do. I am a therapist myself so I knew e you can look for a person used to he “emotional peculiarity” of each family. It looks to me that you don’t have such cohesion with your own family of origin but if I am wrong you can put them participating of the reunion so you don’t feel a complete strange. In the past I would have made an effort but not now a days: I put a boundary and I avoid most of the times to mix.

@@richardfu4750 or you can Listen to THE POWER OF NOW for free on KZfaq

You win!

if it's a joke, i think its quite funny and intelligent. The contradiction of those two sentences.

But I don't think that was her complaint or if it was, it came from her adding her own POV by interpreting what those actions (spending time with his parents) mean. Why should his caring for his parents have any reflection on his love for his wife?

@@Baci302 What's the point of a marriage if you don't spend time together?

@@Baci302 Yeah. Loving his parents or other people - no that's fine. I guess I interpreted it as that he didn't spend much time with her - because he was spending time with them, or even, he didn't have as much emotional space for her because his emotional priorities are his parents . To me that's a problem - aren't those things a problem even if that's not what she meant? And how are you suppose to nonattach from that? I'm just asking I don't like how sometimes in buddhism you feel you're not meant to care about things that are actually valid to care about.

You're reading into it the woman said she resents his family because of his attachment to them,she should tell him and he would reassure her that she was his first family now she was the most important she and their children come first but that he also wants his family in his life... This happened in my family that's why I know. If there was abuse or neglect by him that has nothing to do with his family.....

FlickerFlame if the husband spends most of his time with his parents it IS a problem. Unfortunately, we don’t have enough information and I wonder if Tolle’s answer would be different if that was the case. I hope so.

What? You got that from what he said?! Yikes!