Hi

I love my yard and privacy too much to move. But I closed off about 1/2 of my house, covered the furniture, closed furnace vents, shut the doors. I have rooms I have not used or cleaned in 10 yrs, this way I can sort of keep up on the part of house I do use. The extra areas were clean when I closed them so if I should get family from out of state, putting them back into use would not be hard.

She has pets too? I did see pets walking in previous videos, i mean little pets like mouse

Even people without disability can struggle with too much "house". Things break and need routine maintenance, lawns need mowing etc. If you have kids or a demanding job there are just so many hours in a day and people who will do services want a kit of money. I think you are very wise. Everyone's life is different and you have a good approach.

As a teenager it's just hard to find work where I live, so I decided to start cleaning houses. There are so many disabled people who desperately need to downsize because they just can't keep up. I hope you have a bunch of support because some of the family members of my clients are absolutely negligent and need to just do more period

This is the exact reason I want to move. So happy for you that you got away and can breathe again ❤️

I moved 20 miles last December as I was stubborn enough to buy my first house in a city I've never lived in before and leaving the old place behind. It is in someway a good thing because you're in a complete new environment/place and get to explore the neighborhood/area. But fast-forward to 8 months later, The thought of it being a bad thing is still present. Strange how the biggest purchase of your life can make you feel like that. Happy for you that you've found a new happy place where you can make lots of good memories😊

Agreed!

my therapist says Lifes 3 Biggest Stressors are Death, Divorce, and Moving and its so true

Losing a loved one is a "hassle"? #clueless

​@HaveCheetahWillView I mean literally, yeah. It is one of the greatest pains a person can feel emotionally, and it is *also* a hassle. And that makes everything worse, because you are in active grief/shock/sadness/rage and also having to deal with things like notifying family members and friends, organizing a funeral, delivering copies of death certificates to the bank, going through probate if the paperwork isn't properly in order, paying for cremation or burial, etc. Terrible awful things can also be hassles.

Right!? Like mom?...... on the internet?....

Glad that you said “ours”. It speaks volumes.

It is definitely a major concern ! I do not envy you having to make that choice ! Good luck !

I like this suggestion for content topics! It's absolutely a common concern and challenge for disability/chronic illness community. Great idea!

Do you have any tips for making new friends when you moved?

​@@hilary3219i would love to know as well :)

@@throughcolouredglasses9300 @hilary3219 The irony here is I'm highly antisocial and I'm the last person to ask about making new friends. But, somehow it happened. Many of them were people I met through work; sometimes we'd be shipped up to some remote mountain for work so we'd be with each other 24/7, sometimes in extreme weather circumstances (trapped on a mountain and helicopter couldn't pick us up). Others were assorted folks. E.g. the owner of the coffee shop in Vancouver where I'd sit and do work while eating lunch and supper there. Friends of the people I worked with as we'd get together on days off and swap our field stories. I mostly sat and listened, asked questions, kept a pleasant expression on my face (I have a strong resting-bit h face so I have to be careful that I'm not scowling at people when I'm deep in thought). Overall, I really don't know. I went my entire high school without friends (new school, new district, lost all my grade school friends). Then university was a different story and met more people like me (geeky, loners, same niche interests), and from there I learned to get along with others outside that group, again mainly by listening, asking questions, and looking thoughtful while inside I was "make eye contact, oh no no too much eye contact, should I nod now, oh god, what did he just say and is he expecting me to respond to that, what should I do with my hands now" etc etc etc--I'm sure most people can relate to that. I'm still antisocial and still prefer being alone, but I'm very fortunate that I have some very close friends in town, and good to casual friends across the country now. I love writing emails to various folks to keep in touch, sometimes even the ones in town. Oh, one tip I found that worked. Ask people for help. People tend not to want someone to help them, may even feel a slight obligation because they were helped, which can turn into resentment without them being aware of it. But if i ask someone for help, they're happy to do it for me (I don't feel obligation or resentment). And later I can reciprocate. Asking others for advice or help though seems to initiate a bond with them. Maybe because it makes the person asking for help seem more vulnerable and therefore more relatable?? Again, I'm antisocial (and autistic) so don't trust me on anything dealing with making friends. :)

❤BC❤

I grew up on the coast in BC, hoping to move back soon er than later. I miss the water.

Thank you so much!!

I kept looking at the blinds instead of her more of the time too 😅