This girl hasn't even walked down the isle yet and she's already preparing for her divorce. YOU CAN'T MAKE THIS STUFF 🆙

These young women always think a better job and a better man are always right around the corner. All they have to do is manifest it. And time isn’t an issue either.

Women call prenuptial agreements wrong but they go into a marriage putting together their exit strategy, real shit.

20 year old - I'm waiting for a man with a great job 30 year old - I'm waiting for a man with a great career 40 year old - I'm waiting for a man with accumulated wealth 50 year old - I'm waiting for my dog's diabetes medication

Most women say relationships are risks based on what a man could do to them but they never consider that THEY are the risk to a man. A woman could literally have an amazing man and still find ways to ruin the relationship. Im talking bout majority pf women i know here from sisters to acquaintances

The truth is that many of these females NEED backup plans because they know within themselves that they don't have the skills that it takes to be a WIFE. Duty is having a disagreement with your husband and continuing to manage your household as if it never happened, NOT saying, "Well, I'm not going to cook or clean because you pissed me off." These little girls aren't ready for that! 💅🏾

Kevin talked to her like she’s his daughter. So passionate, hope she listens

I was 19 when I married my husband, which he was 24 at the time, and we are now celebrating 10 years of marriage. I think if you marry the right person, marrying young is a blessing. It is beautiful to see how your marriage grows throughout the years. Marriage didn’t stop us from earning our degrees. Many woman think that marriage is the end all be all when it is not.

I had a conversation with a 45 yr old I'm dating and she flat out told me that she in her 20's, 30's and early 40's never prioritize being married. Now at 45 she is in a rush to get married because she has no kids. I just shook my head and she came from a well to do two parent home.

When you say "the future" to young girls like her, they think you mean next Tuesday.

I dated a lovely sista a few years back. Once we got down to the long term relationship it all fell apart since she wanted; 1) To keep her own last name 2) Live in her own house 3) Have 3 kids but they live with her 4) Travel every summer for 2 months by herself while the kids stay in the US with me 5) Prefer to live in different cities Maybe she was an outlier, but this rebellious nature is becoming more prevalent.

When I met my husband I was 23 years old, we got married a year later and we have been together 19th married 18th with two kids. 🖤

They think life is funny. Men are forced to know better. They suffer in silence and long term.

Young Women believe that everything is a joke, so why bother to entertain them. Let them figure out life by themselves once they laugh at your advice.

This man is trying in his own way to make building strong black families a priority for our women. Because as a community, you can only be as strong as your family units. Communities with families that are together strive. That’s why in terms of asset and wealth black people are at the bottom. We need to make black families a priority again.

If your focus is the “ if it doesn’t work” you’ll focus your energy on preparing for marriage not to work. You attract what you project young ladies. Have a positive outlook on life.

“Do you have what it takes to stay in a relationship with a man for a lifetime?” “Do you have what it takes to wake up everyday and stay with a man for a lifetime?” I certainly wish that I knew in my 20s when I was married what I know now in my 40s getting married again. Thank God for videos, podcasts, books and therapists. If you can manage to answer these questions early on, you’ll win.

The huge risk is marrying a woman who can't (refuses to) answer a question.

Even STEM grads would be lucky to start at 70k. She's delusional.

They crazy part about kevin teaching women is that he is ACTUALLY teaching men on how they should be to become the man they want to be and get the woman or women they desire. Kevin is making men want to be their best selves and showing us how to dodge women who are a risk to us as well as to getting therapy to heal from our childhood that makes us less than ourselves, etc. I love it

I really wish this was told to me in my early 20s, she’s got time to work on this and turn things around.

80% chance this girl didnt even listen to what kevin said

Being that 80% of communication is non verbal I enjoy the shows where the guest is on camera way more than just the phone

About 50 years ago my aunt left my uncle because she was "not happy" She would often come by and visit with my mom (my uncles sister). My aunt had to admit that she made a mistake and had good think. Beautiful home and upper middle class lifestyle at a time when most black people were struggling. My uncle was heartbroken but ended up remarrying and was happy before he passed with cancer. His 2nd wife took very good care of him in his final days. My aunt is about 85 years old and never remarried and lives alone and is very lonely. Very sad because my aunt and uncle were a very good looking couple and by all accounts really could have made things work out.

After hearing and hearing a lot of women like her speak. The one thing I can say is a lot of women like her feel and think the way they do is because they don't need a man NOW. And because they don't need him now, they'll think they're not going to need him in the future

A degree in Communication, but can't communicate.🤨

She was telling the truth. These younger women just don’t know what they want.

The programming has almost solidified in this young woman's mind. She says that she can be committed for life but the reality of that and what she imagines that to be is two different things. To young people, I was one of them, THINK it's all about the love you feel the first few months/years. I call that the "high", but the plateau is what mostly happens. That is when people bail the most "when the fun of the past has been replaced with the not-as-fun". As a male, I understood this as time passed in my first marriage and was prepared to see it through. In the end if they believe and want the "fun life", then they'll never make it through the transition to the day-to-day level of building a long-term relationship. I let a lot of things not affect my first marriage because I thought in time we'd settle into a more stable relationship. But the ongoing infidelity was like acid to our relationship, and it died. Literally died. I felt it when it happened and just stated "We're getting a divorce" during one of our discussions. Hope the young folks can learn and get past this whole concept of "strong and independent" as both genders are made by evolution to be stronger together.

That regret is gonna hit some of you soooo bad when you hit 30-35 and be like wow I really could've had that man and a beautiful family but I clowned him in my early 20s cause I wanted to sleep around lol. Regret is a real thing. I'd advise yall to delete all that cardi and megan off yall phones cause it's messing with your legacy.

I’ve gotta give credit where it’s due and say that this woman is probably right that all young women nowadays, particularly college educated, regardless of race put marriage and family at the bottom of their list of priorities.

Our community would be in much better shape if we emphasized getting married in your 20s and beginning a family..all this out of wedlock births and single parent homes are destroying us.

These women are not crazy. They have been sold a dream. And they bought it on credit...

Too scared to get married when you are young? Well, who the hell is going to want you when you are old??🤨

Marriage is definitely a huge risk and sacrifice...for western men.

Scared, afraid, cautious. They're afraid of men and marriage but not the job market or being a bad parent 😤

•Women want the authority of a man , with the privilege of a women , and the accountability of a child •Dating for a women is like a shopping spree, Dating for men is like a job interview. •Trying to raise a girls interest, is like showing her she’s the prize. •Sometimes women don’t cheat , but they know who’s next. •women are born with value ,men have to gain their value. •women date up , men date down. •when women cheat its premeditated murder , when men cheat its man slaughter. •reason Women like Confidence , because it asserts dominance. •women want a traditional man , but not willing to be a traditional women. •men are taught to do right, women are taught to do right by them. •it’s a mans job to get the women , but a women’s job to maintain the man. •To much focus is on keeping the women happy and not the man. •a fat women is equivalent to a broke man. •If she didn’t want you in her prime don’t save her in her decline •Women chase want they can’t have in their 20’s and settle for what they don’t want in their 30’s . •no man wants to pay full price when everyone got that for free. •people focus on finding the right person , but don’t focus on being the right person. •Men don’t want a women with a past , and women want a man with a future. •Modern day problem , requires modern day solutions •a country that is closer to the poverty line , the more the women are submissive •women in the west are taught to be independent , but not taught to be wives.

You can tell she doesn't want to hear any more of it

If these women want to live like college kids all through there 20’s and 30’s then no one is to judge….the issue comes into play when they choose to live that lifestyle, but yet have the nerve to judge men and have the highest expectations towards them and have such standards for a “real man”……all whilst partying and dating there life away, working dead end jobs and have the nerve to want to be a “stay at home mom” just so they can continue to live like broke unemployed middle aged teenagers and want a hard working wealthy man to take care of her like a spoiled drunk lazy middle aged child 🙄😂

KS hit it on the head. A large part of the wealth gap is the marriage gap. Married people become wealthier most of the time over time.

I remember dating a women about 20 years back. She had 2 freinds. They all left their husbands and got breast implants at the same time, and went running around the clubs in their late 30s early 40s with kids at home. They all had decent guys at home who didn't want the divorce. But they weren't "happy". They all got married again a few years later.... And divorced again. I myself got tired of chasing wmen and have been single now 5 years. Happiest 5 years of my life. I get lonely, but the low level stress I always carried is gone.

Hope women in their 20s are seeing this. Most of you have good men in your circle right now and instead of brushing them off you need to take them seriously and date with a purpose.

She told me she thought she had time so she wanted to get her fun girl ways out of the way now she is ready at 45

Imagine telling someone you’re getting a Communication degree but struggle having an adult conversation.

Thank you Kevin. I don't care how many people try to silence you and discredit you. You are making the most sense in this relationship sphere than any other person I have seen. You have successfully changed the relationship dialogue between black women and black men. I am so glad you are bold enough to tell us.

Watching women make the same mistake over and over and over. It’s sad. Marry your career. Enjoy.

Her parents are going to leave her an inheritance but she needed student loans.....doesn't compute.

Me and my wife got married at 24 and 22 respectively. It just takes maturity when it comes down to it. You've got to be mature enough to know when it's time to start waiting and settle, what you really want in life, how much time you have left as the prime of yourself. Plus this culture doesn't push the image of people growing old together. A lot of shows either have you people just hooking up all over the place for 10 years or the couple are mid 30's and or parents. I don't think I've seen many shows about young married couples 18-24 developing, but there are going to hardly be any married people in the future, so oh well, I got mines.

University Investors: “We need to create a degree plan and tie it to something empowering.” Janitor: “How about communications! We can tell these women that they’re the reason why everyone talks” University Investors: “Janitor, you’re now the Dean of Admission”

Good conversation overall, she was polite She definitely checked out at the end though Lol, those multiple "ok" on the back end of the convo she wasn't even mentally there anymore

If “listening to react” was a person, it would be her…

Married my wife when she was 21. We just celebrated our 23rd anniversary a few months ago. These ladies are delusional 💀

I actually agree with what this young lady stated as her experience with non black young women in college. As a non black woman, when in my early 20s my friends and I DID all have the mindset that we needed a stable career before worrying about marriage. Now in my fourth decade of life and newly married for first time, I do wish I had met my husband twenty years ago. I wasn’t concerned with that but wish I was because my degree and past earnings are completely irrelevant now that I’m a stay at home step mother and with first pregnancy. Could have skipped all these school loans. So, that would make Kevin right again!Women should just focus on finding a husband. 😆

Fellas. Best advice I can give is….travel the world and see how WOMEN are supposed to treat MEN! You’ll never think about women the same 💯. Maria and Becky with the good hair start looking REAL good when you hit New Zealand, Germany, Mexico and places when black men are POWERFUL!

Oh girl a life time is long and you will be tested, don't quit it's hard.

I hope to God that she understood at least half of what KS was telling her.

Just in the language she was using, "So you are saying I need to hunt and work for a man." You are not working for a man, you are working for your family or your future family and have the privilege to have found the person who cares for you and wants to build a family with you. It is all about perspective.

She tuned him out before even halfway through the clip. Order 66 is too powerful. The Wall and the Godfather are undefeated. 👑

The 1st lesson I learned was "The family Unit is the core unit of civilization!!!"

Black women are raised to be independent that’s why it’s soo hard for them to submit.

KS is a God send. Protect him at all costs!

Kevin would've been a great pastor. You can see he really cares about fixing our stinking thinking.

She could care less about the free game she just got but 10yrs down the line will come back to this video saying damn i should have listened 🤷 but still GL to her

Girl, you seem to be a nice girl... Don't waste your biggest commodities: youth and beauty in dating... Find the best man, you can before your 30 !!!

A woman’s protection comes from being under her husbands covering, directly from her fathers covering! “That’s biblical facts” anything outside of that she’s truly unprotected. Somehow our women missed this vital information and the results are evident.

Kevin definitely right on this one… I have always known my mom to be married and to the same man all my life.. She retired 10 years ago… Her unmarried sisters still working long hours.

So happy I got remarried in my 30’s. I can understand that I am an exception to not grow old alone. However, who I am today is a way better version of myself versus in my 20’s. I don’t have to worry about what if, shoot I did. My husband can consider himself lucky today but 10 years ago? Heck no lol. That’s just me being honest. I can appreciate marriage now because I didn’t appreciate it then

I'm 65 and I've been married for 43 years to the same man. I'm proud to say I've stayed and worked through our differences. Now we are empty nesters and we are still doing well. Don't want to grow old alone. Thank God we had one another through this COVID 19. I hate being alone. He's my partner and my confidant. Do we have challenges⁉️yes but we have ground rules that we adhere to and have proven to be a support. I have a college degree and worked as a professional for 40 years and he has worked his electronic business and still does while I'm retired. All is well in our camp.

This is a perfect example of how Kevin match his energy. His argument points are the exact same as all the other women he talks to, but she came in good faith and she seemed a little bit shy, and so he made sure that he wasn’t too overbearing although he was firm

Me and her are the same age but I hope she heard everything what Kevin is trying to tell her

The divorce is planned before the wedding

The genius of KS is that he speaks directly to their sub-conscious. The first answer they give is what they really feel. He doesn’t allow them to take back or move the goal post to try to look "good". Women will ALWAYS fall for this.

This was me in my teens and early 20s. As I got older (not yet 30), I realised that as you're working to secure the bag, you can and should look for a man whiles working yourself as well. Be polite and respectful. Don't assume every man is a potential cheat. Date with a purpose/commitment and have reasonable standards. Relationship is work not a fairytale. When you meet a good man, don't compare him to unreasonable standards. You attract what you project.

What a cutie and despite her pretty teeth and gorgeous smile, she still needed a verbal thrashing of the truth from KS. Let's hope she put her feelings aside and was truly listening.

Thank you for imparting into her, not sure if she will take it at first but I think it will sink in more with time.

Becky & Marisol are starting to adopt the same mindset of these other modern day women. Kevin should know this.

I feel like a unicorn, I got married at the 19 went on leave from medical school because I fell pregnant. Now that I have my son I don’t care about work/school anymore my son is my everything. I am about to move across the country to Florida with my husband because he got a good job. I don’t know anyone in Florida but I am uprooting my life for my husband, I just turned 24.

What part of if you have a back up plan to a marriage it's because you need therapy and you don't respect your man enough because if a woman goes in to a situation with her "standards" she gets to choose a good man. U can't be mad at bad results after getting with pookie and Ray ray. If a man is not seriously heading in the direction that says he's marriage minded then you leave it alone.

I pray these young women listen and pay attention to what's really going on. Don't get left behind 💔

"im too afraid to get married while rich, let me wait till I'm broke and can't offer a woman anything so then I can marry her".

I always ask women who make moves “just in case” or “for security” when it comes to their men how they would feel if their man took money outta out of his pay every week and put it in his mama account just in case she divorce him he has money she can’t go after and they always say they wouldn’t like it…..they hate the idea of a prenup which is essentially a “just in case” precaution but yet they have no problem being in relationships where they have one foot out the door

As she'll be Living It Up through her college 304 phase, telling her to try get with a blue collar brother (an electrician, trucker, forklift driver, plumber etc) who's currently earning $ 70-80K (as his annual starting salary) is pretty much insulting her. At this point in time, a Pookie & RayRay struggling rapper is her ideal *mhan. Smh!

In one ear and out the other.

When a woman grows up in a single mother home or in a home were the father's role is undermined they don't realize that they need a man until they actually need a man, usually in their 30s and 40s.

She seems like she just doesn't get it. She may be 2 inexperienced and the echo chamber of women she's around in college is most likely going to make it worse.

Haven't ever met young black married couples. I have seen young oriental, Indian, Muslim and Jewish couples and religious white married couples. I've only seen black married couples older than 30

Still excited about the club! At 40!

When she says her Caucasian classmates that are her age aren't talking about marriage that's not unrealistic. I worked with many of them fresh out of college. Career and a little more post college exploration (fun) is what's on their mind. Marriage only comes up after the first year of working a real job and them already being tired of the grind.

Man once this girl said that her degrees are in communications and French, I conked out on her. I have a friend who majored in that kind of stuff, she didn’t start making decent money until she got an MBA from a top 25 program and started selling her soul on social media to get consulting clients. She’s not going to build a great hustle. If she was, she’d have already started to do it. Instead, she’s going to work a job. And a job can be worked whenever. In fact, she’d probably have better outcomes to her career if she had kids now, entered the workforce at like 33 when the youngest one was out of school, and worked from 33-65 without interruption, versus went to work at 22, mostly left the workforce at 29 to start a family, and then tried to restart at 40. I know in fields that pay well, like computer science, big gaps in employment is basically the same thing as not having worked at all

20 Fears of Modern Women (Must Read): 1. She fears no dates from up, but from across or down. 2. She fears no men focusing on her words or Womanese but her actions, including checking her phone. 3. She fears no men to be manipulated and simping for her like a prize, as she has this inveterate unbearable entitlement and contempt for men. 4. She fears boredom or a drama-free life, for she is insatiable and ungrateful. 5. She fears her friend got a better man than her or her man stolen, whom she stole from another woman/friend during her last seamless monkey-branch. 6. She fears feeling sorry not for her cheating but for its being caught, while she always got pumped and dumped from these unknown men and therefore climbed back to be with her beta man who mistakes her staying with him ''by force'' for ''by choice''. 7. She fears her friends revealing her body count or what she actually did in those girls' nightouts/bachelorette party/Vegas or Cancun Trips, while she cannot help sharing her secrets as well as her man's privacy with them who are gossipy and bitchy. 8. She fears no free attention, continual validation, unconditional energy from men, while she'll make no efforts at all in return and won't feel sorry for using up their resources. 9. She fears it is not 6 digits income, 6 inches D, 6 feet tall, 6 pack abs, while she claims she wants a nice guy (to provide), by which she means she's going to find another chance to seizure the 666ers behind his back with the security and his trust in place. 10. She fears men not treating her as an end while she is treating them as a means, given she loves them not for who they are, but for what they can do for her. 11. She fears her man's money is not her money while her money clearly isn't her man's money. 12. She fears bigger-better-deal men are wise/redpilled/KnowingHisValue but not stupid/bluepilled/NotKnowingHisValue, and she always wants to change/vet/brainwash/shame a bbd man of that stupid kind for her use for good. 13. She fears a lack of privileges or convenience but a presence of accountability or responsibility, and she must always play the victim of all-time for the sake of being a woman while she's under the independent-woman brand and yet she insists he pay. 14. She fears unable to use her sexuality as the only weapon but her personality, humor, cooking, etc. which she sucks at, given she always responds to men with ''Entertain me'' as her conversation-opener, which is also her fundamental life attitude toward men. 15. She fears no backup men even in a good LTR, for she fears karma and is anytime ready to dispose her used-up man upon inevitable life difficulties with him. 16. She fears being single by betatizing men in her Situationships by giving them false hopes and wasting their time, and what's worse is her riding on the carousel counts as being single too in her opinion. 17. She fears unable to get what she wants through no men, for men not playing her stupid games such as not subscribing to her bullshit or shaming, or not wifing her up for her to divorce him later to take half his shit. 18. She fears ending up being alone and lonely in her 30s, 40s or 50s when she realized even the nice/beta guys back then have now disdainfully rejected and ghosted her, after she ain't doing shit for decades, either for her own relationships or for her self-improvement on basically being a loser OFFLINE. 19. She fears aging like vinegar or milk, which she is. 20. She fears her look seen without makeup, be her a 49er 304 from the streets.

Her voice annoyed me, her lack of any sense annoys me too lol I’m not even 5 minutes in

I agree with the young lady especially regarding being prepared for the eventual divorce

If young modern women don't change we all will see the outcomes in about 20 years, maybe even less. They'll be unmarried trying to get their groove back. I had to really look at the women around me, whether at work or in my family, and it's true! We are not married!! So to be married, to have been chosen by a man and become his wife is rare and shouldn't be taken for granted. The way is world is going 1 income cannot sustain you for retirement. We already don't have the financial literacy needed and you think your going to have enough money during the years your unable to work??? Ladies get it together! Put your pride and masculinity aside and align yourselves with a MAN. Become a wife. My grandma is 70+, unmarried, depending on her children to take care of her (which shouldnt be their responsibility having their own families) She can't work and the little SS checks are not cutting it. She will die alone 😔 she's not able to work to continue making income. No more retirement $$ left. Everything Kevin says holds weight. Take heed ladies.

a good husband is better than a good job. I said it!

She just wanted the conversation to be over. It won't be until she's about 30 that she remembers this conversation and regrets not believing it.

My god the Godfather has more patients, than a saint...An attractive fresh faced young woman, and then she started talking (baby voice, delusional, and shocked her life goals are pure fantasy)...It was I/ me/what I want, and the fear of commitment is stunning. She has time, she needs a cook book, and a set of good older women to guide her. Ladies we men can not make peace with you if you see us as an adversary.

U just gave her a reality check in the most vivid way as possible. When Kevin started to spill the truth in the last 15 minutes of the video, her eyes were blinking a 100 times a minute. That's why she was quiet. U can't argue with the truth. And she knows that he was telling the truth.

I mean dang! Who wants to marry a Black Woman when he knows there is a 80% probability she's going to leave. AND WITH HALF! No wonder only one in four would ever marry.

Federal employees don't make anywhere near what this young woman thinks, especially not at entry-level. I thought she'd say she'd be a teacher. She'd need an advanced/professional degree in order to start at $50-60K. The rub about public sector is the more education and marketable skills you have, the less you make vs private sector.

I've watched several videos...I've got to say I can't anymore, this man's patience is far greater than mine.

Me Samuel’s I agree with her on the statement about young women wanting to get there business together before a relationship. I’m 21 and I hear this all the time