I understand, girl B, but you can't just dump all of your problems on to someone else. The best advice I can give anyone is that you have to learn to work things out for yourself. I'm sorry but I have my own problems to worry about. I can only help so much.

I'll not trauma dump, because my issues are mine. There are people for that. Personally I made a rule to always say no, even if it leads to unfortunate consequences (which I will not talk about). I'm a bit of a dark humour fan, so I pretty much find it funny that what people who trauma dump actually want to do is participate in confessions. May God bless you dear!

This video struck a personal cord with me. My family and I have a hard time placing boundaries. One of the hardest lessons I'm trying to learn is when and how to say "No." I understand what it's like to dedicate your time and resources towards helping someone, only for them to take that generosity and use it as a crutch. What you did was right. From what you're saying, she was a narcissist who wanted to run away from her problems instead of facing them. I do pray that she was able to improve and grow. Honestly, sometimes the best thing we can do for someone is to walk away. I know to some that may seem cruel, but I have seen people grow and become better after being forced to stand on their own two feet. I'm glad to hear that you were able to move forward, and I pray that God will provide people in your life who can help you when you need it.

That frase is a sign of pain, I know that feeling. Everyone what to help but sometimes that help wouldn't have the results we what and even cause a negative result.

I think personally, venting should not happen during the beginning of a friendship. Maybe small mentions of trauma or past scars, but if you wanna have a longlasting friendship, both sides must contribute and bring fun and personality and hobbies to the table. Not just trauma dumping. Let venting come up organically and listen. Don't just trauma dump and walk away. And especially don't threaten your life or well-being towards those trying to help you. That's selfish and inconsiderate. Just because you have personal problems doesn't mean you have an excuse to hurt others. Taking good advice, improving, developing mentally, it feels so much better than dragging others down. Don't let your trauma drag your down, fight for yourself. Be a better person. Climb that mountain. Trust me, when you get to the top and look down at your character development and see how far you've come, the view is very much worth it.

Sometimes being too helpful can be taken advantage of, and you should always learn to give yourself some self respect for yourself as well, it's a good thing that you left them for good though. Having someone to constantly trauma dump on you can be exhausting and draining for the most part, which is why I rarely even try to make conversations with other people anymore, and just minded my own business.

This drawing is really good. Thank you for sharing this. You brought a really important message. We're not responsible for the evil people did to others or to us, but we're responsible for ourselves and we're not supposed to dump years of conflict into anybody else, unburdening happens, but it's important to take care of who cares about us.

Yeah, this hits hard for online friendships in general. They can be positive, but also so painfully toxic that you feel chained to someone cause you want to help. I've been there and my girl B tried to send an online mob after me cause I dared to stop talking to her. There's just some people who need therapy, instead of social media.

I'm always scared when it comes to "Venting" even if my friends tell me its okay, because I dont want to turn into a "Girl B". I feel the need to talk about my issues but its always hard to do it whithout feeling like i'm being annoying or inconsiderate to the ones listening. If I ever made anyone feel like you did: I'm sorry, I wish I had known better at the time.

This was such an interesting video. I have to admit I feel a sense of understanding with girl B, but unlike girl B I try not to dump all my problems onto other people. The last thing I want to be is an inconvenience to someone. I’m sorry you had to go through that. You are correct, everyone is going through things and it’s a struggle for everyone most times. I try to at least show some kindness. Show I am there for people, because in the real world once I stopped saying hello or having a nice conversation with anyone, no one ever responds back. It hurt but if they didn’t truly want me around I didn’t want to bother them with my presence or trying to put effort into the conversation anymore. I admit I get emotional more than the average person, and it’s caused me to be also not respond much in places like discord or instagram. I never want to feel like too much, since I also just want to help and be friendly with others. I hope at some point you get more comfortable. It’s good to set boundaries for yourself. It’s good to say no. I’m not a therapist but I do try to be understanding to everyone’s boundaries, points of views, and life experiences. Again, I am really sorry you had to go through something like this. Mentally health can be a lot most times. I hope you are doing better. Great video as always.

It can be challenging to find humor in a world that feels broken. If you're feeling overwhelmed by other people's problems, it's okay to set boundaries and not try to be their therapist. Sometimes, mental health issues require professional help or support from someone who can truly be there for them during tough times. I just want to clarify that my intention is not to criticize you. It's just that not everyone possesses the mental capacity to provide long-term support to those who are going through difficult times. Sometimes, it becomes challenging to maintain healthy relationships with friends when we ourselves are struggling with the unfairness of life. And it becomes even more difficult when we are dealing with mental health issues like BPD, depression, anxiety, or OCD. It's important to remember that not everyone sees the world in the same way. Personally, I believe that life may seem meaningless, and it often feels like a system that people continue to uphold due to our fear of death, which drives our instinct for self-preservation. I also think that people tend to be self-centered, and many of our actions are driven by the desire for control and other selfish reasons. However, being selfish is not always a negative trait. Version 1: It appears that the bond in your friendship wasn't based on positive emotions, but rather on your intuition and the fear of potential negative outcomes if you stopped assisting. It's likely that the individual you were dealing with is struggling with serious mental health issues, which may have influenced their actions towards you. Even though their behavior was hurtful, it probably stemmed from a place of inner turmoil rather than intentional malice. It's important to recognize that you are not equipped to provide professional help in such situations, and it's a positive outcome that the friendship came to an end. It's okay that you couldn't offer the support they needed, as you are not a therapist and it's not your responsibility to handle such complex issues. Overcoming depressive mindsets can be challenging for many individuals, as some may require medication to help them through the process. I, too, found that medication was necessary for my own journey. Building strong personal relationships is crucial for maintaining good mental health, while online interactions may not provide the same level of support. It's important to differentiate between real friendships and the illusion of friendship created through online interactions.

So relatable, I'm glad you eventually got away from this. We should always consider not just how much we affect other people, but also how much other people affect us. We matter just as much as anyone, if God judges us the same way, we should try and do this as well. People will try to abuse your kindness, don't forget to be kind to yourself.

I have been through something similar. "Friend ship needs fun." Is so true, we are all in this world together we all suffer. Who will be there to bring joy if not friends and family. Slowly healing. Life is good. I am not a believer, but in yar case, I'll say. God is good.

this is more for other people, but i've worked with disabled young adults for a long time, specializing in autism, anxiety and dyslexia. i can come up with techniques to help, but i never found a single technique that works every time. so if something isn't working for you, try something else For me, i find i have to "Script up" in my head, just create dot points and try to focus on those when i speak, but this doesn't work for most people. it worked for me, but doesn't mean it works for others, or even can be understood by others. and don't be shocked when something simple helps, its amazing how much deep breaths and counting has helped people develop better techniques. end of the day, find something that works, and keep trying new things, and don't be afraid to just step back and take 10 minutes

It's important to get rid of pain, but i hope you'll defeat the misery one day.

I've gone through so many similar situations with my online friends, and even one irl friend. I'm still so wary about being friends with people online now because of it, especially since it almost happened again recently. I care for them so much, but I just can't handle being constantly trauma dumped on anymore. Everything you said in this video really resonated with me. Thank you for talking about this type of subject

Hey Aloe great job on this hard subject. Don’t be too hard on yourself and keep doing what you love. Remember if you need it we are here to help in anyway we can if you want us to. Have a better day and week!

Life is hard. But that doesn't mean that you should give up. You should help others as best you can.

i'm so sorry u went through that. I've been in a similar situation with a online partner and know how hard it can be to put ur mental health first but some relationships arent worth staying in

I totally relate to the part about not being able to speak much irl. Always thinking the worst scenario when just simply asking for something. I hope the best for anyone else who feels that way. Also the stories about the girls and therapist without consent reminds me of that ONE person from the discord (if you know you know), I personally hope for all of that persons friends that they treat them kindly

I understand the whole feeling of "life sucks ,I wanna just dissapear" cause Im going through that but its not really not a good idea to make someone your private therapist without their consent. Like its understable to wanting to vent to someone ,to ease the pain and emotions but its good to remember that we're not the only people who feel like this so its better to ask them first if its ok to vent ,if they want to vent etc. What Im trying to say is that its okay to vent but its important to make sure that both you and the person you are venting to is comfortable. If you dont have someone to vent to then write it on paper ,if you dont like writing then draw it ,if you dont like drawing then use other thing that comforts you like thinking in mind ,singing ,listening to the song (its worth mentioning that if you're in a sad mood ,its not a good idea to listen to songs that will make you even more sad. Instead listen to the songs that reminds you of good times or just comforts you. Here are some examples "One Direction - What Makes You Beautiful" , "Anne-Marie - 2002 " ,"Cody Simpson - La Da Dee" ^^) Im glad that you finally got a way out Aloubell! While yes ,leaving someone who seems to be having a hard time is a hard thing to do ,your well being is really important (+ the biggest decision belongs to the person who has the problems if they want to finally get free from that sadness or not cause we can only give them advice ,support but there is no magic nor medicine that could suddenly get their sadness away if they wont try to also overcome it) ps. Im thankful I got to watch this video. It helped me to realise some more things. I pray for your well being ,those girls well being and for everyone. Please dont get upset if you arent perfect ,if you're a "failure" to someone or if you got an F from the test. Life is too short to care about every single thing so how about instead try to look at positive things

I was in the exact same situation. I used to speak with a friend for hours, trying to help them get through bad times. I havent blocked the friend yet because they are a friend. But I dont speak with them as much anymore. Because as soon as I do, I break and let them tell me all their problems. I like helping them, but I dont have the time or energy to anymore. I do check in on them atleast once or twice a month to see if they are doing okay.

The beginning of your poem reminded me of something I used to do for the past couple months. Starting from a man named ollie, I started to pray for people online, mostly on reddit. I thought bringing my prayers to god would help in sort of way, but it wasn't good for me and after a talkig with twi fruends and two people at church, I decided to give them to god, aside from some people on youtube and one person on reddit on reddit whi I'm praying for

I’m sorry you had to go through that. It’s a good thing that God is always with us to help us through our difficult times and work things out for our good.

I know this feeling all too well...

Alou, when someone has genuine mental health issues all advice is gonna help at best for a tiny bit. The issues are just deeper than what anyone can fix. They need to want to fix them themselves with the help of someone actually qualified. Similar to how you may be able to help someone get rid of a cold but only if they do the extra sleeping required and take the medicine - you cannot do that for them. Also, you wouldn't be able to help someone struggling from something like cancer and if they kept insisting on not getting medical attention and kept guilt-tripping you into trying to heal them even though you have no actual clue how to do it then that's just extending their suffering to you without any consideration for you. I love that you learned to say no and put your foot down at least somewhat, keep working on that and don't let people take advantage of your goodness, lest there be none left for those who may actually benefit from it. To anyone reading this far: love you all and stay safe!

I relate to this SOOOO much, I’ve been there and I’m very sorry that you’d have to do go through that. We’re here for you and I pray you get better though this comment

Thanks for telling us this, it hard to sharing these kinds of situations. I hope you’re doing better and you can’t place all the pressure of someone else’s wellbeing on yourself. You are only human too.

Similar case, yet different stories, I can understand how you feel, it's a shame that there's people like that (..

im so sorry that you had to go theough this.. this resenates a alot with me, since iv known people who were like that in the past. a friendship or relationship shouldnt be that one person is the "healer/therapist" while the other traumadumps endlessly. needing to vent or confide in someone is more then ok, but this is unacceptable..

I’m sorry that happened, you’re an amazing person but unfortunately wonderful people like you are taken advantage of. Even though it was difficult I’m glad you were able to get out of that situation for your own mental health ❤️ Watching this video actually helped me a lot, like confirmation that it’s okay to do things that are good for me. The last time I cut ties with someone I threw up 😅

I'm so so sorry you had to go through this! I understand the need to vent, but it isn't necessarily easy to hear. I want to be a therapist in the future, and I'm preparing myself for that. Sometimes, there are people from your life that you need to cut off for your own well being, and that's not selfish. And you did your best too, and in my opinion, you have done a lot Aloe, the creation of the Bell Tower itself is beautiful and inspiring! I hope you're doing safe and well Aloe! ❤

The art is beautiful, and I totally relate. I've gotten stuck in cycles of being the therapist to my friends before too. You can't pour from an empty cup. I hope making this video gave you some catharsis, Aloubell

There's a saying goes, cant help them if they dont wanna be helped. I 100% rrelated and had a friend like that before, cutting off someone hurts, and i agree talking to irl people and online people (even now in days) Is scary, one day they're cool next they randomly turn against you and have a group turn against you for no reason. i never dump how i feel, the most i do is complain beyhond that not really, so i really see how you feel that way

I feel the same way. I really do.😢

I know it's easier said than done, and I admire your will to help others, but you can't help everyone - not every problem can be solved with outside-help, heck, there even are problems that simply aren't made to be solved... and as the cherry on top, there are too many problems in this world......... And I don't mean to tell you to stop trying to help people - God forbid you ever lose that will to help, it makes you better than a lot of people - but when boundaries are overstepped or your advice is either being ignored or not of much use, then you have to move on, you have to say No! - and I know it's easier said than done, it always is....... I wish you all the best, Alou....... and may God give you the strength you need. And, although it holds a very dark message - great artwork!

😢 Hey Aloubell I understand you...

This story reminds me of a song by Point North featuring Set It off called Below The Belt. The whole story of the song is about the singer being wayed down by people constantly passing their trauma to them and calling themselves friends. I feel like I used to be like these people, but I'm working on making sure I don't constantly trauma dump and make sure to have fun with my friends. The thing is, even in my worst moments, I'd never threaten my life to get sympathy. That's so awful and manipulative

Hey Aloe we are all here for you. You can always talk to us. You make so much content for us in return so we are always here for you. Sorry about all you have been through! May Allah grant you peace and Jannat Al Firdaus 🙏 I love your belief in God because he is watching, knows all and will do the ultimate justice ⚖️ I too believe in God but I'M a muslim ❤

this is so relatable and I’m sorry you’ve had to deal with this too. I’m always the therapist friend in my relationships, and a lot of the time I’m ok with that, if we can bond over other things and have fun as well. but when all it is is therapy sessions, and it feels like the burden of someone else’s well being is put on me, it’s exhausting and I’m too nice to set boundaries. I’ve stopped joining new discord servers and I’m more wary of who I befriend (honestly if not for some very close genuine friendships i have online i would quite social media all together)

Wow that was some heavy stuff, (and no I'm not put off by it 😂) hate to hear that you went through that, and definitely figured it was why you kept certain interactions sweet and minimal 👍❤️ I honestly wasn't sure what to say about this, but I think most importantly is, I'm glad to see you cut off that stressful situation and are more aware of those kind of people in the future. Oh and a great job on the disturbingly accurate😅 (yet beautifully made!) art piece you made for the video! 💙👏😎😊

I've heard of multiple situations of people contacting others to use as an outlet for negativity, and using their pain to manipulate the people they contact into staying. Most of the time I've heard of it happening in grooming situations, where an adult will contact a younger person to use for ulterior motives. I'm sorry you had to go through that, being used by someone, but being afraid to leave the relationship with them out of fear for their well-being is a traumatic situation for anyone. I'm glad you could escape, and I hope you're doing better, now that that person is out of your life.

Thank you so much for touching on this topic! Unfortunately, I have been on both ends of this. In other words, I have been Girl B and in your position in different points in my life. To sum it up, it really does make both sides miserable. On one hand, you want to get better, but you can only do that when you let go of a constant need of reassurance from others that acts as a temporary supply of happiness. Why use all that energy to sulk when a good amount of time to better yourself and seek help? It may seem absurd, but you would be doing yourself and the other person a huge favor. When I was the dumping ground, it got to the point where it flies out the other ear and dreading this person's presence. I think what causes someone like girl B to end up the way she did was probably not having her needs met growing up. However, a codependency friend dynamic would keep her from what she really needs, which is to take it all in and distract herself in the meantime. I feel that having fun like friends do would've helped more if girl B allowed it.

this was a painful video to watch but quite beautiful

I am sorry you feel this way

I think I might of been acting like that girl. Awhile ago I was just so lonely I even cried some nights, and at the time for some reason I was just terrified of people. So I was just stuck so I took to trying online. Found this girl on this place were you can help people and be helped with advice (not going to be too pacific) but I put that I was lonely and then the girl on there said we can chat so we did. I used to send messages every minute I could get and she would always respond if not the eventually (we are in different time zones) and we would always talked about our problems. And we were both lonely and had other issues. But overtime I finally made a in real life friend and began doing the same thing to her and get scared if she didn't respond in a minute. But then I realized I wasn't lonely anymore and just started just sending text to each of them less. We all still talk and this is pretty anticlimactic but now looking back I just am ashamed and embarrassed of what I did to them and all. So seeing what could have been the other side made me think all over again. Sorry you had to go through that, hope you are doing well ❤

Thankfully it never was that bad with my attempts, but I always felt quite miserable when my ways of help were ignored or mocked. With time I learned to accept everything as it is, if I can help, that's great, If I can't help, that's ok, at least I tried. Shamefully I want to confess that I was like girl B with certain person, although I never tried or wanted for them to feel bad, now I understand that my words hurt them and made sad, but gladly we could keep in touch for long enough so I could redeem myself. Now I'm way cautious with phrases, but I stay honest to them, showing my trust. Talking IRL isn't that bad when you trust in the person you talking to. Pauses and others akward moments may happen, but it's fine as long as person is nice enough. If your bound broke because of some awkward meeting, I guess the only solution is to accept what happened and move on. Hopefully you will find loyal and kind friend, everyone deserve at least one

This is actually used to be and for some still is their experience with Discord, including me, i had about 60 of those people come and go, it kinda became my thing, I was 15 at the time, I eventually stopped being online altogether, i'm an adult now and i have actual fun friends around there, some people from that time also stayed and now we are proper friends

I was in the same way as you and it scammed me out of $6,000 from my checking account. I swear to myself if that person ever tries to contact me again I'm calling the police.

I understand the urge to help someone in need but when they outright ignore your advice and make your mental state deteriorate, it made sense you eventually blocked her. We all have problems in your lives but our friends are supposed to be just that.... friends. We are not their therapists, there are people are trained in exactly that field. I feel like girl B was possibly using you as an emotional crutch and not necessarily for friendship. I find it hard trusting people in general because you don't know if they actually want companionship or just using to get something In return. That's why a huge reason why I haven't had a relationship in twelve years because when I start to find I find a genuine connection, they end up wanting something from you. Whether it's a friendship or relationship, I feel like you're supposed to connect and grow together as individuals and feel a personal connection. It's not trauma dumping on someone your personal grievances (especially since they don't take or outright ignore your advice). I'm sorry you had to deal with that toxic person and I completely understand why you don't private message people.

That poem hit hard! You're a great storyteller. 🎀 I hope everyone's day is filled with tons of free gifts. (Do people like free stuff? That's the kind of things that make me happy!)

I think we’ve all been there who are trying to help like Girl B. BUT, if this person is not getting better and she's not happy enough, then it's definitely a sign that she needs to go to therapy. All I could say was that you did your best to help her and lift her, that's all you can do. I'll be really honest: you’re not her therapist.. you’re not responsible for her emotional/trauma and it's not your job to heal her.. She needs to work on her own, not you. You did your best as a friend and honestly, you did the right thing by removing her from all the platforms because.. she's not worth of your mental and emotional. So the best thing you can do is to remove yourself from that situation, that's all and focus on yourself instead. Bonus: The way you drew yourself chained up to your phone, is the best example of what people are going through these days! They should ask themselves “Am I responsible for their emotions? Am I doing the right thing that people need, etc”.

I'm sorry about that. 🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗

i like to help anyone if i am only able so if you ever wanna talk ill be there, if it is something you would want of course i might have never gotten to meet you irl but from what i can see whatching your videos you are an amazing and inspiring person i think i quite understand what are you tring to say and i will do my best to never make a mistake like that if someone would be hurt i know that i am just a child and i might not be able to fully understand everything but if there is any way i can help i will always be glad to do it

Life terrible doesn't mean you should be unhappy life is testing is how your react at situations you trying your best dear I'm glad you leave that person who don't care about u I hope you care more about yourself from now on, may Allah protect you from people taking in advantage your kindness you are nice person you should be happy eventho life is terrible we can't do anything about it only we can we pray

I understand

I cannot believe That's "Girls B" do this for You, That's Why You told us.

i didnt think anyone else was in this situation

Saying no is hard, but sometimes it's the right thing to do. I don't have any experience with this, but if it can't work, then it can't work, period. Some people shouldn't be dumping their problems on somebody else and they shouldn't expect the other person to help them every single time. If you don't want to help them, don't. If you can't help them, don't. I understand that you want to help, but when it isn't working anymore, say no. I also recommend not following advice from dummies that go by the name Artorias and that have an SCP or something related to monkeys as their PFP on KZfaq or Discord, just saying.

Sadly people treat online relationships with the same importance as real ones, not to say online relationships don’t have meaning, but there is a big difference interacting with someone in reality and online. This is a harsh reality some people need to accept. We are called by God to help others, but yeah sadly sometimes people can be going through really tough times and are desperate for relationships. Even though we should prioritise helping when we can, we also have to recognise when we can’t. It’s always good to set boundaries online, friendships can still form but if it gets too far don’t be afraid to say no.

If you ever make a Q&A video in the future, I have a question what was high school life in 2007 I was only five years old in 2007 so I was not mature enough to understand the world so what was life like in 2007

I can sorta relate to your situation except for that it's one girl. not two.. but because of all her trauma dumps- and her going through trauma shes gained the power of manipulation along the way.. and because of this she would have frequent mood swings and she'd get mad at ONLY. me.. and she'd manipulate me for any tiny mistake I made and make me feel bad for doing so.. I only tried too help but the advice was ignored completely and she would say or think to same things about what she thought

Becareful who you trust and stay around, salt and sugar look the same. And the bible says bad company corrupts good manner

No one should go through that. But it something I guess people might be sorta be bound especially on the internet. For me, I wear Malignant chains and spider silk. For me my time showed me that who I look up are monster where those who have an icy heart are two faced. Seeing nothing much besides as tool or pond in chess game at times. Forgive me for the miraculous comparison but some people just want a cat walker than a noir. I am self aware that I am parasitic. I try to be positive and just want to help but get swatted away or other just want one something from me. From all the smol who I gave purpose and the tall who accepted me as human. I am just fortunate that when I cry, other don’t mind. Those who have a beating heart were once the monster who I once feared, treated me their a Princess. I start weaving my web, creating a pure bond.

I hope you're doing well right now after all that has happened. I can resonate to that story, so I'm really happy to see that people eventually get out of situations like this and that there is always a light in the end of the tunnel. Don't ever feel ashamed for your decision. Jesus will always be proud of you because you saved his creation - yourself. And that's what matters the most.💗

أنا أشعر اني منفصل عن واقع لا أسعد بوقت سعاد و لأ أحزن وقت حزن أشعر اني اشاهد فيلم او ألعب لعبة في واقع لاكن عكس لعبة او فيلم لا انغمس فية

Hm, I recognize this, JaidenAnimations made a Video about this, very well Video, have you watched? Anyway personally, I haven’t really been put on the spot with something like this before or yet, for as far as i know, still i think for the most part I would be able to at least try to listen and perhaps give some advice, but mostly (especially nowadays) I think i would at least advice for them to get more professional help, especially if it hasn’t gotten better. Although, if I were to be in a similar situation to this, i don’t think I would have as much of a problem with it, since while I do have a sense of wanting to help people too in someway or another, i think my emotions might be a little too distant from me for me to be chained by them, so i probably wouldn’t have any problems with being less sympathetic if something like this goes on for too long, But like I said before, i haven’t been in a situation like this for as far as i know, so i don’t really know how accurate anything I say here really is, that is something only time can tell. Anyway, this was a very well done Video, However, i hope you don’t mind me asking, what brought this one up exactly? Like, did you just feel like making a Video like this or was this based on a real story? Something that you’ve experienced or something you’ve heard? Was it about something that happened recently or is this perhaps another redoing of an Old Video? If you don’t feel like answering that’s okay, I am aware how touchy these kinds of topics can be for people, I am just asking nothing more.

To all the trauma dumpers online: This is why we shouldn't talk about our traumas to other internet strangers. These are human beings we are unpacking our past to. They are treating them like emotional punching bags, and that is *NOT OKAY AT ALL.* If you truly want to heal, then you should just do it by yourself and learn to move forward. You don't need them and they don't need you. You are actively burdening them with your problems, and that is emotional abuse. Yes. Your life sucked. So f*cking what!? Learn to live with the fact that you got hurt and get the f*ck over it!!! You survived all the days before and after your trauma, and you can survive the next days after today. No one cares about what you went through. Because between you and me, I hate helping people as much as I hate wanting help. So do me and everyone else a favor and keep your mouth shut. You can figure it out the same way you have been figuring it out your whole life. No one should have carry the weights of your problems. This is your battle. No one else's.

girl b is relatable

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