I think we should start a community for girls like us who are depressed or dealing with toxic families and let's just talk and figure out what we can do and help each other.

oh god, i understand what your going through, everything from strict controlling parents to being sexual abused as a kid, still waiting to graduate from medical school and hopefully i get the courage to leave.

If your kid runs away from home, you're probably doing something wrong with them.

Theres going to be a huge chunk of the older generation who are going to be dying alone, and will act like victims as if they didn't bring this onto themselves after traumatising their kids. All I hope is that the younger generation can break out of this generational trauma.

I ran away and move across the country trusting complete strangers at 24. Best decision ever.

That's not strict, that's abusive.

As an Indian this is so normal here... I'm fed up honestly 💀 WE NEED TO BREAK THE CYCLE

Emotional manipulation is the key that’s gonna mess you up the most after you leave your parents! It’s a devastating feeling they give you so you can feel sorry for them! Beware and focus on yourself, no negativity should enter in your life no more

Watching this made me realize how normal and chill my parents actually are. I'm so grateful and my heart goes out to her.

Parents simply need to understand, just because their your kids doesn’t mean you have the right to shut down their happiness.

You are so strong for sharing your story! You’ve been killing it on your own for so long now! Proud! 👏🏽 👏🏽

I don't feel safe around my parents. Like I have to be careful about everything I say if I accidentally ever talked casually then would call it disrespectful. My parents still retreat me like their main goal is to find me a good husband even though I'm just 16. They almost gave me up when I was child just because I was a girl . I have to run away. I feel suffocating being around them. My dad constantly reminds me that my life isn't just mine. I cannot help bit feel like they own me and I hate it. I can't wait to be 18 so that I can run away.

To all the Indian brothers and sisters wanting to run away from unique controlling parents... first try to work for sometime , save whatever u get , then leave with some finance in your pocket. Good luck to those who left and trying to stand on your own two feet. Those still contemplating.....be brave and fearless.

I'm from India Planning to run away from home Abusive parents, forcing me to do what they like , their childhood dream, black mailing me by saying that they would die I don't do what they've told me to do, Home school home college this is were I've been in my entire life , they were to abusive I'm the old child in my home , I don't get any free seconds to spend my life for myself I'm like a robot controlled by my parents They told me to join some courses Asked me to get good Mark's and I joined a group they told me to join and did my high schooling, and took engineering for my parents...I have no interest in engineering...my dad said if you don't take engineering we'll not send you to college My parents always say me that they are ashamed of me being their daughter and always comparing me with some other boys , saying boys are better a _____ like you are not worth to be born .... I'm done with my life Before me dying I want to taste the feeling of freedom

Your mum telling you that she would harm herself sounds like a narcissistic abuse tactic tbh. You might want to read up on narcissistic traits and narcissistic parents (if you haven't already) though fair warning, it can be really tough if you learn that it describes your own parents. I went through a period of grieving - I am still going through it - because I learnt that narcissists are incapable of change and that I'll never have the healthy parent-child relationship I've always dreamed of.

This story hit home for me so much. I actually ran away at 21 with my boyfriend (now hubby), he’s African American. My parents didn’t like him at all and was just so out of touch with who I was as a person. I blocked them and ended up not talking to them for a year and half, they were only able to reach out through email. After covid, I decided to give them another chance and we ended up working on our relationship. A few years later, I can say that we have developed such a beautiful relationship based on BOUNDARIES and understanding. They absolutely love my husband and we take yearly trips together now. It’s still the best decision I made to this day.

Your story has really inspired me. I live with very strict parents and the exact same thing is happening to me. They found out about my boyfriend and they put me on lock down; took away my phone (that I was paying for with MY money), made me quit my job, and they didn't even let me attend my own graduation. This all happened even when I was 18. I'm 18 still now, about to turn 19 in 2 weeks, and I still live here... I'm so scared to just leave because my mom says things will go very bad for me if I leave and she will try and find me if I do leave. I am so scared to leave... any advice ? Thank you for sharing for story!

Thank you for sharing your story ❤️ As an Indian woman myself, I totally relate with this. I was 17 when I “ran away.” My dad was always abusive, and my family controlled and manipulated my life. When we moved to the States, I decided I was done with his abuse! My friends at school told me how I can get help and told me about foster homes. So a few months later when my dad hit me again I got the courage and ran away. I was in foster care until I was 21. I was very lucky to have my foster parents. I felt safe and loved. I’m 28 now, and I don’t have any relationship with my dad or my family just some cousins and my brother. I have a wonderful fiancé, his family and my friends. So blessed to have them. You’re so strong and brave ❤️

People use their culture as an excuse to emotionally abuse and manipulate their children. This cycle needs to end

I hate my Dad. He’s been abusing my Mom for years and all the psychological trauma has really been affecting me. Also the community I live in thinks the abuse is normal and should be practiced. I wish someday I leave my house on my own and start a new life with freedom

i also ran away from home when i was 20. i wish this video was out when i ran away back in 2020. i remember it vividly. my mom was verbally abusive, demanding, and went as far to tell my dad i was “pregnant” and forced me to take photos with my “belly” and even made a fake dating account using my name and my pictures. i remember i was so stressed, i very much started dissociating and didnt get my period for months. i started to get close with a friend i met a work and i remember i started looking for roommates and posted on my private snapchat story that i may have found someone. one of my older coworkers swiped up and told me she had a room available and her roommate was moving out. i told her i wanted to move in, and the rent was super cheap. everything was working out, it was amazing and then i told my friend who i was working with that i wanted to leave and he was my getaway car. it was 8pm when i got out of work that day (my mom did not like that i worked overtime and threatened me to quit my job over the phone that same day.) i remember being silent while she screamed at me while i was at work and thinking well im not going to be living there for long. i got out at 8pm and ended up packing my things in a garbage bag once i knew my mom was sleeping. i remember majority of my things were in a garbage bag already, so i just added some more things. i ironically was in a room that had a door that led to the exit of the back of our house. my friend pulled up and we drove off. the next day my mom went to my job and went crazy, texted me telling me she was going to get me fired. i already told my manager about her so she got banned from my job. for those waiting for the right time to move out, make acquaintances and friends, they will be the ones to help you!! you got this.

i didnt have no childhood growing up. i been abused by my step dad sometimes even by my mom. ive had broken arms and broken nose. im 24 years old now im trying to move out but my things are not working out the way i planned. i dropped out of high school when i was in the 11th grade, i got no job so im trynna do this streaming stuff and make the best from it. i also ran away from my mom 3 times when i was 17.

I feel scared that victims of childhood sexual abuse don't get help with disclosing the identity of the abuser. The abuser who preyed on her could be out looking for other victims right now.

From experience parents that are like this are abusing and will make there child go crazy once they leave.

Of course children want the relationship with their parents but if parents are selfish and don’t think how their actions are harming the children, then it is better for the child to stop the abuse by leaving. Some parents think they own the children and the children are there to make the parents happy. It is very twisted and it hurts me to see that happening so often.

Wow, I felt like I definitely knew some of this but definitely not you’re entire story. I am proud of you girl! West Indian parents can be very difficult and you still made a way. Congratulations on you engagement love. So happy for you and I hope you can get complete peace one day.

im going through the exact same thing like exact same the only difference is that i was 14-15 when i got sa. im so shocked rn about the fact that we have the exact same story and you´re kind of helping me so much right now. im just way too scared to do that you are so couragous and strong i admire you very much and wish you the best i wish i was more like you. ill be 18 in a few months but i know it wont change anything i dont want to "live" like this anymore but i dont have the balls to leave

Remember King David. I love the fact that you aren't bitter toward your parents, my sister. God bless you richly, and sustain you with His lovingkindness and tender mercies.

You do not need anyone's permission to live your life. I am so glad you grabbed your life and own it. All humans deserve this basic right.

It’s beautiful that lily’s parents were so helpful and kind to you. I hope everything turned out good for you. Sending my wishes🫶🏼

Over strict and over controlling parents are always bad they are never happy with you no matter how hard you try to improve and you shouldn't blame yourselves if they keep complaining about you and keep beating you scolding you are nowhere wrong and actually they do not deserve a good person like you never keep your mind stuck in that incident of past you did the right thing and always remain happy make the most of the present for a better future that is what you deserve

Proud of you Deevaani and God bless you ❤️🙏🏽

I ran away at 20 with no job, car or anything and now at 24 I have a husband son and living my best life, best decision I had ever made.

i needed this. im 28 years old. my parents have forbid me from ever getting married or moving out. we live in a small village with 0 opportunities. i want to leave but they wont let me. im not even allowed to have female friends, i made one and she called me on my phone and my dad was like give me ur phone i want to hear the convo and my mum kept telling my brother to go upstairs ( cus i was in my room talking to her) to spy on me. i do not care about family izat anymore cus im a GROWN 28 YEAR OLD i should be able to do normal things like go abroad, start a family, have friends, go out, find a job. etc LMFAO EDIT: i’m 29 in two weeks & still same situation & i found out my dad hires priv investigators to spy on me at uni cus i’ve moved out for university, i told my parents i don’t miss them & my mum said i’m selfish cus of that, but tbh i’m grown & it’s normal to not always think of ur parents 24/7 lol also met this guy at uni who i live with and, i want to live with him next year as well 😍 anywayyyyy i still have to come home in the holidays, like christmas & half term etc which i really don’t want to cus im enjoying university life in the big city so much. hopefully when i get my degree i can leave 😆❤️‍🔥

Rewatching this for the 2nd time - I am so proud of you Dee!!!

You are awesome. I'm Indian and I know how horrible Indian parents can be. You are very brave. Congrats on getting engaged.

thank you for sharing your story! i’m sorry you had to go through this but i’m looking forward to more of your healing journey. you’re strength is so inspiring! 💗

You are very brave for telling your story. Most people aren’t able to do that. I’m so proud of you:)

most people who grew up with normal not authoritative parents will think “oh so u had good parenting” but they dont know how much this damaged us and how it can rlly create a lot of anger and resentment growing up i understand this sm because im still living at home with my parents. their somali but very racist anti black and traditional they found out about my plans to move out through my school counselor and made me quit work they dont want me to move out at all like my brother finished collge had a high paying while in college and after graduating and yet they wont let him move out their not concerned about finances their narcissistic and want complete and absolute control over me and my siblings. i get verbally/mentally abused and physically the other day i was sitting and my mom scratched me acorss my face and started hitting me cus i didnt pray on time im 16 btw my sister is honestly just like my parent racist narcissistic self absorbed conceited and an overall tocxic person shes the one who takes over when my parents are not yelling at me or sabatoging my life ik i sound so drmatic and i wish i could articulate how weird and toxic my family is but that would be like a 10 page narrative and leave it at this. im honeslty just so proud of u and rlly look up to u because i think ur a wonderful brave woman and im so happy u were able to recognize how unreasonable ur parents were and how they were stunting ur growth emotionally and spiritually this video is one of the best videos ive come across on youtube not only did u tel ur story and was raw and honest but u did so we felt less alone ur a truly beautiful person

As a brown girl with parents migrated from village to a metropolitan city it's hard for me. My dad is super conservative he tells me what to wear, where to go, how to walk, how to talk. Never encouraged me to study he just wants me to sit in the house till i get married. Since childhood he made me feel dumb to crush my self confidence but now i came to know about his true intentions. He is a misogynist and basically doesn't want any woman to succeed in her life. My mom is more educated than my dad but he never allowed her to work. Never go out other than for school or college, at home by 6 pm anyhow, don't wear sleeveless clothes, jeans should be loose and top should be tall, never apply makeup, always walk straight, not supposed to talk to any guy, never talk back even if he's at fault, don't laugh too much, never cry infront him, your mom and you are the dumb one in the house. He says he can treat me however he likes coz I'm a girl i can't just run away from my home they are saving up dowry for me so i owe them unlike my brother. It's hard but i hope i can get out of this bullshit and have some freedom.

Sending you hugs. Sorry to hear you went through such horrific seasons in life.

It really do be your own family... YOU ARE SO STRONG!

Thank you for share your story. You seem like such a well rounded young lady. I have a 5 year old and it breaks my heart to hear of kids being molested. Your story served as a reminder to be very careful with whom you leave your child, unfortunately look out for family members too. Best of luck in your marriage.

hearing your story really gave me hope that things will get better. a bit about me: im Vietnamese and Canadian and turning 21 soon. i just completed my third year of university and im planning to move out this September into transitional housing (basically i pay rent and everything as usual but it’s a lot more affordable and affiliated with a non profit organization to help support us with our long term housing goals and mental health). seeing ur story and the stuff u went thru and how far uve come gives me hope that healing is possible. i was talking to my therapist today of how hard it is for me rn bc i have so many thoughts in my head. i know ill miss my family once i leave but i also know that staying is not an option anymore considering everything they put me thru. this may be an irrational fear of mine but im so scared to get into a relationship or have children bc i don’t wanna project my trauma into them or repeat the cycle of abuse that my family put me thru. i always hear that victims of abuse r more likely to become abusers themselves and that rly scares me and worries me bc i want to be a good parent / partner. if anyone has advice or can reassure me, i definitely need it right now :/

You were so brave, at such a young age. I too was abused as a young kid, always imaging ways to escape. My parents were older & needed care, so I stayed. I never had a life. So very proud of you. Give yourself comforts, & know you are so deeply respected. 💙

this is very crazy, that EXACT thing you mentioned at 5:55 happened to me. I had alot of supressed memories resurface that I have blocked out from my personality for YEARS to me right after I had a conversation with some friends at the time about my situation and their personal experiences. It was wayy too much for me at the time, I regret pushing everyone away as I always do because of this. I thought I will never ever make it out and end up a mirror of my parents (im still not out), but through this video it gives me so much hope

what a way to treat your parents. what a reward after caring for you for 18 years. i heard zero remorse, and i heard, its all about YOU.

This video was so relatable to me considering I’ve ran away far far away from my home once because of a narcissistic parent and you are so brave for this!! It is the most painful experience but you followed what your heart wanted and I pray all the best for your future❤

I’m really glad that you shared this personal story ❤ you’re brave and extremely strong for finding your peace! I shouldn’t be so shocked that so many of us share the same stories, but I’m so proud that most of us found a way out! Personally I ran away twice, but my second attempt was a success. And honestly as hard as it was, I do not regret it one bit!

Proud of you! 💛

More power to you, I really feel that you're very very very brave.

I’m try to leave myself. They didn’t get me drive but now a days you need a car to get around. So I really don’t know what to do. I’m 21 and I still don’t know what to do. I’m getting so tired of them that I keep snapping at them.

I admire your bravery. My parents was the same way. Yikes. Thank you for sharing your story🙏. Lots of blessings on your new chapter in life

Bless your heart girl May God give u a lot of success..

I have an extremely similar story, im glad you got out!

I am so sorry you had so much trauma growing up, that genuinely sounds so horrible. i am so happy it worked out for you and I am sending you my best of luck and hope for the future ml

I'm planning on moving out soon and I'm honestly so happy for you. I seriously envy anyone that can move out their abusive house it must be so freeing.

You are so courageous. May God bless you. Many of us are going through this right now

You are very brave. I resonate so much with your story. I had to break some barriers as well with my parents. I did it by travelling and eventually moving abroad. Best decision ever, our relationship is stable now. I think my decisions to move out left a huge impression on them. There were moments were I did not talk with them. Since then my dad has become more softer. With time I realized things get better as I kept my hope. Sending you lots of love and strenght ❤💪🏽

proud of youu🥹❤️

Thank you for sharing this story ❤

Incredible story!!! The family you met was placed their by God.

Deevaani Williams you're sooo pretty, also keep being brave and keep being yourself you have such a strong personality and an amazing spirit💝

I'm sorry haven't gotten the chance to watch the other videos. I genuinely hope and pray you're happy now. ❤❤😩😩🙏🏻🙏🏻

Thank you for sharing. The description of your mother sitting on her couch while you are trying to study and or just wanting some space for your self is so relatable with my mother while I was going to a community college near my home as well. Looking back, I honestly regret not taking a gap year from college and instead save up some money from working and rent out a studio apartment for myself (was also near my community college) with other college age room mates. That would have gave me more piece of mind as well as keeping a healthy distance from my mothers codependency😩 I have also had my parents report missing person on file at my community college police department for coming home late at night.

being someone who has been sexually abused multiple times at around the same age and being brown and having strict parents…This is the most relatable video of all time. I developed ticks and ocd as a child because of this trauma and 3years after it happened and i was dying on the inside, i confided in my mom even though i had issues with her and this was the best decision….from then on i did not get justice or am not able to completely forget or get over what happened but my mom gave me my privacy and tried to respect and communicate with me more which now resulted in me being and independent women not trying to run away from home. she helped me keep distance from that guy keeping him away, as far as possible and i just couldnt be more grateful. to all the girls crying right now and relating to this video wanting to hurt themselves… u should know u r not alone and that u will be okay. just one day at a time guys❤

It takes a lot of courage to do what you did and I'm so proud of you

I just stumbled upon the video and I truly understand what you have been through. I am Guyanese was raised the same way . I heated my life for many many years. I am almost 49 years old and these memories still hunted me from time to time. I didn’t have a close relationship with my mom as well even as to this day. My heart goes out to you. This kind of pain will be with you for a long long time. Take care.

I am going through the same thing I came from a strict discouraging racist Indian family .long time ago I just applied and attended the Vancouver film school in Canada doing the animation concept art course my mom on the hand didn’t approve it she constantly told me that concept art is a white peoples course and berated me and telling that I will have no friends and i will not get a job in Canada and give up because I have brown skin with a learning disability. Many years later after moving out of my parents house I felt a lot of confidence got into my dream job and worked hard moved to the ranks as senior concept artist

I ran away too! From one girl to another, you're so so strong, sending love!

I don't normally comment on videos but girl I'm going through the exact same thing as you. My parents are so abusive and strict and will not leave me alone unless I'm with them or another trusted adult, and it got wayy worse when they caught me with my ex twice, who wasn't middle eastern so they didn't approve. Then I also sort of unlocked that memory of having been sexually abused by a family member (who thankfully didn't live with me) it's insane how we had such similar situations. I've saved up some money and I'm going to be moving out in a couple of months with a friend and watching your video gives me so much hope, thank you for sharing your story!! :)

I’m so happy for you!

Deevaani Im so proud of you for being brave and understanding that you're mental health and well-being was more important than your parents desire to control you. There are so many who weren't given such an opportunity, so many who don't have parents, or even know who they are.... who have no place to go, Who may be in worse situations than us. (prayers for them please). I'm glad you had support. You seem like a well put together, beautiful young lady. Brave of you to share your story. Be well.

I hope this inspires a lot of other people in similar situations to take action.

After reading comments I realised I am not the only one ✌️

I am so sorry all that happened to you. God bless!

omg i relate so much to this its insane . Really unreal how similar the car journey feeling was for me too

This is awesome! I’m excited to watch more of your videos! Thank you for sharing your story!! You’re super bold and graceful!

So brave of you! I know exactly how you felt. It’s so hard to grow up in the US with extremely traditional Indian parents.

Proud of you❤️

I’m proud of your bravery.

Firstly you are mad pretty! and I can relate! I am the scapegoat of my family. I moved out about 6 months ago!

Unrelated: you’re so pretty 🥺🔥

Gosh I sure feel bad of what you went through when you were living with your household but I’m glad you did ran away and I hope the best of life for you and your future

I'm so glad I found your channel taking you for sharing this I think moving out is living a healthy life

I turned 19 recently, manifesting and looking forward to quit this toxic family anytime around September this year and never coming back ⬅️

I just finished my exams and want to run away from this home cause this family members just consider me as their slave not their daughter my brother had moved away but his reason was different (he wanted to get married to a woman but my father didn't liked her family and all..) by reading all the comments of running away makes me feel how bad this world is finding for a real partner who is also running away from home so that we both can run together and support each other and get a bit less scared to live alone

I can’t wait to leave as well! I graduated nursing school but I failed my nclex so I need to retest. Once I do, and pass, I’m out of there!

im actually watching it cause i have a motive to run away in the future

thanks for sharing your story, my teen sister ran away today and I hope she is safe

I ran away twice at 15 too. I was raised by boomer parents, so you can imagine how miserable I was dealing with their bigoted, controlling ways. I am 22 now, and they still have very bigoted beliefs. But I moved out at 18, and keep my distance with them now as I continue to heal. It’s ok to love your parents from a distance to preserve your mental health.

Lily's parents give me hope that they're actually really good people in this world I really think God brought you to them

I remember the day I had the courage to leave home. My parents were on vacation and I used that time to move out. I remember being so happy to be on my own!

Your story is so relatable I’m going through the same thing right now 🥺😪😪

Wow✨your having the courage to stand up for what’s important to you and for your space to feel comfortable and safe is very beautiful ✨I related so much and I hope I achieve the same outcome 😭🤍

When I turn 18 I am moving out I am just done with my parents.

Omg wow. I'm so happy things worked out for you. I am so sorry you had to deal with so much when you were younger. I'm happy you got out of that and had support/love outside. I'm happy you got the chance to be free and welcomed by "Lilly" parents I know is hard when parents are strict. I hope things are a bit better with them. I hope you're better and more at peace. You deserve that 100 percent :) I'm so proud of you girl. God is great and was on your side that day. Not everyone sadly gets the chance but I know when you have a chance sometimes you gotta take it. I am so grateful you did!!!!!!!! God is great🙏🏻🙏🏻❤❤Sorry if i sounded rude not my intentions, or wrote some things twice. It takes a lot of guts to be on camera and talk about all of these things. I hope people who are going thru something similar find these. You inspired a lot including me. Not going thru anything just mentally but staying positive. Thank you again❤❤🙏🏻🙏🏻

This was a really great video you are a strong woman. I am 19 my girlfriend is 18 we have been together almost 3 years at this point and she is Turkish and Muslim she has very strict parents, pretty much how you describe your parents reacting to Cameron was the same for us. Your video means a lot because I been trying to find someone with a similar story that could just make me feel better and have hope. Thank you and I really hope your relationship with your parents can become better and they could be there for your wedding I know I would want her parents to.

Sorry to hear all that. Parents sometimes or in fact alot of times in a certain age of your life are strict for a good reason and canbe said as it's tough love. But other parents do unfortunately have a controlling mentality which is not right. I hope your parents come to realise that they were wrong to treat you the way they did and welcome you back.

Aw I can’t believe you went through all of that