your gratitude, your god is inside of you, great and full of love, it is in yourself

Thank you for covering the hell that is the abuse narcissistic parents inflict ❤️ You are helping so many of us - YOU are more than amazing 🌹

Nu Mindframe Hi Nu it's Bob. My family still operates like they did 54 years ago. Its sad. Especially when a person enters Recovery, which ever route they take and freak out. I'm not responsible for their Recovery. ( My family) . just hope you are ok. I'm seeing Narcissisim spilling in the professional field. I have a exit route and probably will never be seen again. Who knows.

😘

Nu Mindframe I was adopted by a narcissist. Your videos help me out alot

Feel ya bruh. Only thing worse than an Energy Vampire is an Energy Vampire in your place of rest. The outside world is cold enough. Everyone deserves the peace & solace of home. Shittin on that is some of the worst shit you can do.

Do the productive things in your room or in nature outside. I would sit in my room all day and learn about astrology, plan my life, journal, meditate, read, talk to friends on my phone and on social media and relax. I ended up moving out for college and then for work and then marriage and nerve came back all from scripting about it so start scripting daily.

i'm sorry, i hope things get better

damn this really sums me up rn

that's what happens with me too.

Patricia the booke This is a great method! I'll have to try this myself. Thanks for sharing❤

Yes I was reading books as well to escape the abuse and my awful reality 😝

Thank you for sharing. I might try this.

I've tried many things but in my case my mom's a cold bitch who's only agenda was to terrorize me the Church Pentecostal ,she's a freaking vapmire , got me detained as I left to the states again to live my life...now in worst condition with severe insomnia , no job ,she screwd my head with Soo much paranoia and fear...just finally learned about narcciism en more Thur the Church using scriptures of sin and hell... My father and brother and sister are her flying monkeys. .lost many realtionship cause of her and also my father came to my friends to kick me out of Florida that mothefucker..

I'm autistic and my mother is completely abusive. I can't move out bc I have no money yet. This is hell and I can't leave

5) Find an outlet for your emotions 6) Self soothe as much as possible 7) Turn to God

@@lelev.5758 ty so much

@@lelev.5758 mlmmo owiyeietu. Mere Say

reminder for people in general; not just the christian God, but whatever God or deities you believe in. for me that is Baphomet for you that may be God. thanks for the extra tips!

this is helpful thanks

I feel you :( my mom actually took my job away from me. She found out about my plan of saving money up and she completely cut me off from my savings. She cut me off from therapy, everything...smh. I’ve been trying to talk to my friends and spend time taking care of myself in my room to resolve my feelings of hatred. It’s hard I know. I hop you’re doing better

Me too I was going in a store to ask for a work but they said they needed a grade ,12 graduated and have a diploma my situation is so hard I just go with the flow of this hell poverty the situation forcing me to give out and makes me think of running away and be homeless cause I don't really have someone my friends forgotten me I only have few can count .

I am going through that too. Don't lose you! Shalom : )

@@mariatheresafloresca4166 You can do it! Have faith in you. I know what that feels like. I've been there! You can survive.

Same here 🥺😕 reply to my comment when u make it out luv u got this 🙁❤️

So True !!!

Yeah to not give an emotional response teaches you to shut your emotions off. I have shut my emotions off so I dont even feel anything anymore after constantly being in their presence. They are trying to gaslight my mind to make me think that I am trying to be something I'm not, which is not true. They are all energy vampires and I must get away from them and never reconnect with them cause they actually need me in order to feed off of me.

So true omg. I live temporarily in hell with my mom but I am not of it.

@@angelh7703 I still get physically abused. I used to turn off my emotions for the longest time, but my African parents see it as disrespect after I’ve never been rebellious in nature my whole life. I can never please them. “I love you” really means nothing to me anymore.

Thank you for spending your time to watch them anyway

I didn’t know until I moved out and my showers went from 40 minutes to 10 max...

Yeah my showers are like an hour but then they make fun of me for that too lol

My showers are 1 to 2 hours☹

my showers are always like 25-30 minutes and they talk about me and blame me for the water bill lol

Me too

Yes, and my older siblings went low to no contact, so abandoned me also because of that. Friends haven't stuck around either, because people now "hate negativity", like there are things that deserve being upset about. I am 35 and still can't escape my mom for good. Mainly because rent is so high while jobs pay nothing, even working 60 hours a week, I cannot afford basic expenses here. Things are so ridiculously expensive.

Yup the other siblings have moved out and on and when it’s time for you to. They have grown such a co dependence on you being their sole energy system that they can’t fathom the idea of you moving on.

I'm going through this even more since 2020. It makes me want to kill myself.

EXACTLY

OMG YES 😭

I found working overtime so I was out of the house as much as possible helped, even though it's still not enough to afford to move out. I was definitely better, mentally, when I was working a lot.

Me to

Im sure everyone will lose motivation in a Hella house even get out of bed without being sick in ur stomach ...

😔🙏🙏🙏🙏 yes.. I'm so sad for you.. keep being strong..😌❤️ U will be free one day..🕊️

its genuinely such a lonely feeling to not have any support from your parents. its like not having anything to anchor you down in life and it feels like you have to figure out all the secrets of life yourself.

;-;

Thisss😔💯

Call child protective services, and the police!!! ☎️ 👮🏻‍♂️ When the police and social worker get there, beg them for hell to escape. Never let the abusers convince the courts or you to return. They will hurt you even more if you do.😢😮 RUN for your life!!!

i really felt that last sentence. i also have another year left

found this comment i made two years ago , Now i’m 18 i came back to this video only to realise my situation will never get better a

I'm 18 now aswell and i got my mouth broken by my mum a few weeks ago, it's hard to shake off but if you can get some money and start compounding assets you'll be freed one day I still remember the full year of depression that was my 17s, and looking back on it I'm in such a better place I think the best solution is to becomes fit, now that I can prepare my shit and not depend on them for it I can start hitting my weight goals as I'm underweight right now. I think having a great body just makes you stand out and brings good attention I'm just one opinion I just hope you can get out of hell Gravemind is a good channel you might wanna take a look Wish you the best

40

I'm 34 and have never felt like any age since I was a child. I don't think I was able to be happy and laugh so just took each year as it came.

Me too. I'm 42 and I still feel like a child.. so scared of life and being me.. I'm trauma bonded to my mother and that's why every time Iv tried to get away, my lack of survival skills and confidence keeps pulling me back to her.. yes social media would have been so helpful back in our teen years. Sending you love and peace 😔🙏🙏🙏🙏

@@meljc2823Im 42 as well… I am so deeply ashamed of not being independent and that I am too emotionally broken to find the confidence I need to make changes and push myself. I know I have it in me but it’s pointless when someone is determined to derail me.. . My entire family fixates on me being the family low life……. I stopped doing all the things they would badger me about… no drinking, no smoking, never go out, they constantly bashed the job I got in the hospital because I should be a nurse not a technician, I heard them make fun of me working with all the people who weren’t smart enough to graduate college, my siblings created a narrative about me that would make anyone want to hate me…. They got my parents on board too…. The last two times I began online classed for a nursing degree my siblings decided to make an issue of me consuming energy drinks which for some reason is not okay with them. My brother physically attacked me during the first week of me starting online classes claiming I was on drugs….. nobody even helped me… I begged for them to let me prove I was not on drugs and take a drug test but they refused to even give me that opportunity but continued to break me down and demoralize me for being on stimulants WHICH I used to take for my ADHD but stopped because they claimed I didn’t need that medication and I only took them to curb my appetite …… I ran out of my house after the last time he assaulted me and ran to my boyfriends house to escape that abuse.. They wouldn’t allow me have my dogs for 6 weeks. I’ve overheard them discussing me being mentally ill because I would isolate in my bedroom to avoid the heavy energy and seeing them exchange glances and roll their eyes….. they scream at me and make fun of my lack of ambition but if I attempt to motivate they literallpush me down. I am their primary focus and they all have teamed up against me …. I have no money and a crappy car and it will stay that way because whenever I start making moves and get on track they sabotage me and then they will all scoff about me failing.., I have chest pains, depression, anxiety…. I feel exhausted today😊

Yes same! When I try to dress up nice and do my makeup my mom always finds my flaws and calls me names🤦🏾‍♀️I can never be happy in her presence

Do it for yourself because it makes you feel better. She just wants to keep you down and is jealous that you have more self discipline than she does.

@@jessicah3450 hi, i was wondering if you could give me some advice? i saw you replying to several comments here and i like your perspective. i totally understand if it's too much for you x

same with me but with my sisters… when i do self-care they always assume i’m being selfish or something but in reality i’m trying to mind my business and get better mentally.

UFF I SWEARRRRR. this is literally my situation. My mother is mentally sick tbh.

LiLMaddie TheBaddie ❤

Makes too of us

@@metfanmetfan1477 nah 3

4 of us

I am experiencing the stalking in the house as well. Always trying to see what I am doing or asking what I am doing. I had to move back after a horrible divorce with a -- you guessed it -- narcissist! Stay strong, we will overcome this hurdle and be free of this. Sending love your way!

This sounds exactly like my mum. She no longer lives with us but she sure screwed up my entire childhood up to the point that I still feel her prying eyes on me. I still have a hard time trusting anyone even my other family. It's honestly frustrating

Oml I feel bad for you

@@itsbritneybyotch7471 I finally was able to leave staying in a residential shelter for women and children 🥰

@@Alcoholpad omg, sounds really good for you, I hope you're doing okay at there too as well, good luck :)

I can totally relate to this at twenty six years old I never been in a relationship with anyone because of my toxic mother she's very manipulative. my toxic mother has made me come to the discussion to adopt a child rather than have one because mental illness runs on both sides of my family.

Samantha Salmon Thank you for sharing this!

Thank you for giving advice about relationships. I noticed I tend to cling to the person more than normal, I crave their affection and words of affirmation obsessively, or I talk down on them because they aren't perfect. Idk. And ALL of these people I date are usually emotionally unavailable or a narcissist. So I basically beg these unhealthy people to fill my unhealthy void of loneliness and missing love. It's crazy lol. So yes, you're absolutely right. Don't date until you gone.

So so True

@@platinumheart_ SAME for me !

I've been in this situation..my parents are enablers

I’m in the same situation too it sucks and it’s extremely difficult just to get on with my daily routine. But I don’t give up & realise as long as I keep working towards saving every penny I get then I can move out a lot sooner forever & never have to come back! I’ll just cut my dad off completely till he can learn to have respect! This video is very helpful definitely these tips do work! I know pandemic it’s makes it worse I feel your pain deeply🙏🏽❤️💯🙏🏽but don’t give up on yourself! I go out for walks in the park to get in touch with nature & clear my head & release the toxic energy off me and also vision my dreams & how I plan to get there! Focusing on goals & dreams helps to keep your mind occupied more with improving your life rather than thinking about the difficulties we’re currently in! Hope you move out soon and find peace in your life @mai... Luv you❤️🙏🏽🌍💫💯❤️ from London

@@kev1519 same situation here all am thinking is killing ma self I really need help

That's what I can't figure out. I'm 35 and worked 60 hours a week before this pandemic, but that still is not enough to get an apartment. Gotta make 3x rent to not have a co-signer in the lease.

@@senbetuyeymerry7411 I was there. If you care for my advice then I highly recommend thinking about What is your reason WHY you want to live? What is your purpose in Life? What do you want to live for? What else would you like to expirience?

same..

I'm 35 here, my mom is a narcissist. I find so many of us also end up in abusive relationships. I just escaped my alcoholic very emotionally abusive ex, he still stalks me and is trying to recruit any acquaintances we shared to his side. Of course he was charming at first, and it felt so nice to feel loved. It didn't last of course. I guess we get kind of desensitized to abusive people, because our own parent is one, so it's what we've seen and known for our entire life! Once I get away from my mom this time (escaped a dozen time but financial reasons, and not wanting to be homeless get me back in this house) I'm sticking with cats as my company. I don't trust myself knowing if I can tell a safe person from an abusive one, I thought studying psychology in college and living with a narcissist, that I'd be able to spot them, but so many of them are very good at hiding who they really are in the beginning, so it does seem to come out of nowhere sometimes! Nothing escalated fights with my ex more than when I wanted to be calm and rational, and he's competitive and wanted an argument-they gave him life or something. Even being quiet and not responding or trying to leave the room would set him off and he'd start throwing dishes across the room just to hear the crash I guess. It's going to take me a long time to trust my heart with someone. Remember to love yourself first, you will always have your own back and care about your best interests, you can't be sure anyone else will give you that same respect, you have to give it to yourself.

Praying for you Gypsy I hope you can make it out of there I know you will and feel at peace you deserve it 🙏🏾🙏🏾✨✨

This is currently me 😢

I'm so proud of you girl! Please don't listen to them. YOU and only you know what path you need to follow in life. Ps. How did the painting turn out?

Do what you love! You will succeed! Much love!

Same, but housing here is so expensive. That's what it always comes down to, I think I'm going to end up sleeping in my car again or having to move back home again. The money situation even when cutting out every luxury like a tv and cell phone still don't add up.

@@jessicah3450 Same for me! its the whole reason why I havent moved, because its not easy and also i dont have a job right now so its really hard to deal with this.

Good for you! Building you by learning to love you.

Definitely normal unlike the shitty people who intentionally hurt us. I'm still working past my anger...but who wouldn't be? One of her late night thoughts videos touched on not being bitter. We can do this.

Exactly, once you're in trouble you find out how shallow your so called friends were. I don't have an answer to this, 35 and still stuck at home (again, moved out about a dozen times). I try to not rely on people, because I know I can't count on them, but it seems like everyone who gets out has had someone who helped them or some enormous amount of luck. I always seem to slip through the cracks.

@@jessicah3450 where you able to get out ? I’m 25 still struggling to leave I’m almost there but it’s a struggle even after leaving still have to repair the pieces I’ve also tryed to move out but ended up back but when I leave this time it’s for good

DV shelters Because it is domestic violence!!! Go and never look back!

@@SharlenesJourney Same here. I wish you all the luck in the world.

LiLMaddie TheBaddie sending you strength! I know how hard it is to deal with that daily

Whitley Brown Thank you. Very much appreciated. I try to stay strong and patient but I almost broke today. I genuinely appreciate your words! ❤️

My dad was too and although I don't live with him and haven't for years, I swear I can't get away from his effects and all that he put me through... Edit: but I wish you the best with everything and hope you can find relief soon ❤

My mother is the abusive parent not my father I can't relate.

Dear precious Maddie, I was quite validated when she said, "Narcs groom their children to lose their lust for life so that they don't have the drive or energy to do anything else, so they will stay under the narc's roof and continue to be abused." This is what happened to me. My senior year of high school, I dropped all my classes except the ones I needed to graduate because I could barely wake up to make it to school. I was mentally exhausted. When I moved away to college at 18, I slept so much that my concerned friend said, "There's no way sleeping this much is healthy." But I just HAD to sleep. I took the minimum classes I needed to keep my scholarship. I changed my major 100 times. I have always made near perfect grades, and I didn't major in pre-med, something I always wanted to do, because I thought organic chemistry was going to be too hard. Do you see the distorted thinking I had? I ended up loving chemistry, but anyway...Years later, I described myself at that time I left home as being "totally spent". I used to say I was DONE--at 18 years old!!! Now, I am not in any way suggesting you mimic anything I did. I just want you to know how serious the repercussions were for me, but they do NOT have to be the same for you. As she said, educate yourself as much as possible. The college course Abnormal Psychology was life changing for me, ok? My life actually started to make sense. If you live near a college or university, I want to encourage you to reach out to the psych dept faculty. College professors are MUCH cooler than HS teachers. Find out when they are lecturing on narcissism and other relevant topics you find in your research and sit in on the lectures. Trust me--they will be happy to have you there. You're going to need to be very creative to decrease exposure to the toxic environment you are now in, but you can do it! And if I haven't completely scared you off with all this info lol, you may message me anytime. All the best to you, Monique

Some of them do help financially. But they use it as a way to have power and control over the child, and to keep them dependent.

Yes, for me this is so true. My mom filled out job applications for me, without me present and once I was employed she charged me for rent because "everybody has to earn their keep." Except she never worked nor did any house/motherly duties. She chsrged me $800 in rent and my sister $1000. I would bever do that to my kids.

That’s so true. Im 30 and im broke af. I have no savings. She took all my money all my salaries bc she said if im strong financially i can leave the house. She put me in debts for years but that didn’t stop me. I managed to leave. When you’re free and happy being broke is not a problem at all.

Or they give you a trickle of money, so you can't pay bills and end up having to move back home. Then they can say stuff like see something must be really wrong with you that you can't afford rent, and can't live on your own. Prices have doubled since the last time wages have gone up. This is what I'm stuck in. Everything was so much more affordable when my mom was my age, there was still a middle class.

tbh that's exactly my dad

I hope you made it out!

Melinda Wutangcroft I'm very sorry:( Please take a break from these types of videos if it gets overwhelming. I know how hard it is. Just know that you're not alone. Sending you love❤

SAME Girl !!! I wish u All the best honey

Oh Paige Cutie omg really i am 14 as well!

So young and yet so wise

same here. it's horrible

Join the marines for two years that will set you on track thats what im planning to do.

Kinda the same for me... I have an eviction on my credit ... praying this credit company can get it removed 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽

Thanks for sharing

Lets crowd funt people in this situation

Britt Blu I know this is comment is a yr ago, but I hope you’re in a better situation. Your mother is very abusive (obviously) and that kind of environment is only going to tear you further down in the future. I’m also in sort of a similar situation, I had to move back with my parents during lockdown after being laid off from my job (non-covid related actually) as I couldn’t afford rent anymore. Since I used to live here in the past, I swear it has only gotten worse. My mom, the narc, starts fights with everyone in the house. And these are not just bickering back and forth, sometimes it gets physical, shits being thrown around the house, people’s lives are in danger. While the fights usually don’t involve me because I grey rock a lot, even when they happen with other people it can be a huge trigger for my ptsd. They happen all the time. I am saving up as much money as I can now from unemployment to get on my feet again, but it’s just not plausible for me to move out right at this moment. I understand it’s very difficult living with narcissistic parents. I hope you can find the strength within to overcome all the negativity and get out soon.

I am so sorry. I how things have/are continuing to get better❤️

dont let her win and have you believing what she says about you, as you said its all just bitterness, maybe spirituality can help you heal

Where did you have to go live? Are you ok?

This is such good advice! Thank you for sharing❤️

You're not alone I hope things get better for you may God bless you 🙏❤️ it's going to take some time to heal from all the abuse but I promise we'll get through it 💯 this too shall pass.

Like what did you do?

Are u okay now?

Those aren’t parents, they’re heartless breeders

Lilly Marie i’m turning 17 this april, and i graduate next year too :) i’m so sorry about your situation. i’m in a similar situation. hopefully we get away soon, and hopefully the days will go by quick 😊

we can go through it you are not alone. idk what to tell u but if you ever get to habe some money definitly save it up so you can move out soon

@@sunflowermood829 okay thx 😊

Call child protective services, and the police!!! ☎️ 👮🏻‍♂️ When the police and social worker get there, beg them for hell to escape. Never let the abusers convince the courts or you to return. They will hurt you even more if you do.😢😮

It's the most horrible thing ever. I'm going through it since 2020.

Exactly! Jesus they're all fucking sick.

Avoid it. They won't understand. I literally would send videos and texts (evidence of the narcissism) to my uncle and grandmother. My uncle flat out said he didn't even look at the evidence. Its frustrating but just know they dont understand, and they never will.

I experience with that with members of family. Narcissist are very manipulative so all my family are bitching behind my back that I am the bad one to not speak to mother of the year when she is the one who is crazy! So I give one of my aunt warning if she don't shut her mouth repeating my mothers lies I come over and slap her so hard she see the stars. That might works or the best to cut yourself off from this double faces idiots ! I just block them all !

@Osito Kintsugi I could not put that better then u! Prefect! Been in similar situation. With my mother and brother who both narrcisist psychopaths! I thread some of my family members to zip there mouth and stop repeating my mothers lies. They are wimps get scared but I bet are bitching behind my back. So better to cut yourself of from that double faces idiots! X

@Osito Kintsugi Thank you for your answer! 100% agreed what u saying! Waste of energy as everything I will say will be twisted or if I reacted they will have something to talk about for a years! Very challenging thou 🤔 x

You'll reach a point when you don't care at all.

But I’m also trying to protect my energy it’s like weird i don’t know how to approach it.

Call CPS!!! And when the police get there beg them to help you escape!!!

Hi Melania I'm going through the same thing idk how you're doing now but we should talk or something!

Omg Melania ! I hope you’re okay now that’s awful and that your mom is not listening to you or how you feel. You shouldn’t have to live like this!! You’re not the crazy one that’s how they try to make you feel or make you feel guilty. I live with my older brother but he is very mean and crazy psychotic all of this my energy is shot I have no motivation and feel helpless as well😔😔 I hope you’re okay now if any update 🙏🏾🙏🏾

I’ve considered it. Thankful that I didn’t. Life get better❤️

@@NuMindframe unfortunately I don't think I'm going to make it to my 18th birthday so even if it does get better as an adult its irrelevant

0i am thinking about it currently

@@saadiaou7139 I don't know about you but I just tied my first noose and found a good beem in the garage capable of supporting 480 pounds. I hope you survive but I don't think I will.

Everyday

You're not alone sister .stay strong❤

Call child protective services, and the police!!! ☎️ 👮🏻‍♂️ When the police and social worker get there, beg them for hell to escape. Never let the abusers convince the courts or you to return. They will hurt you even more if you do.😢😮 RUN 🏃🏻‍♂️ for your life

Focus on school. That will get you out. You are almost done, just try to get the best possible grades. Take pre SATs and the SAT test. Apply for as many scholarships, Grant's, loans as possible. Get to college. Get a part time job doing something you like while in college. Work your butt off and believe in yourself. You can do it!!!

But we still find a way tho actually feel and love the people we come in contact with!

Regardless we heighten to that frequency