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@BernMendez Жыл бұрын
[Take The Free Quiz]: What's the #1 Reason You're Single: bit.ly/youresinglequiz
@hermenahardy60082 ай бұрын
A❤❤❤❤
@beautyshines2124 Жыл бұрын
Hot and cold person is immature and usually playing mind games. Just walk away from them.
@grace4976 Жыл бұрын
Thank you. You are so right! Put my situation in check 👍
@kellydevreese3944 Жыл бұрын
Exactly. This only works on honest people. Those who wanna play mindgames will just lie to you.
@anshikasen49463 ай бұрын
Yes 100%
@Hilary9455 ай бұрын
If a man runs hot and cold, blocked and deleted!!!!
@GodHelpMe369Ай бұрын
When an emotionally broken man is using a woman, he’ll show these signs: - he avoids truly deep and emotionally vulnerable conversations - he's inconsistent - he only contacts you when he needs/wants something - he doesn't REALLY include you in his life (it's all an illusion/fantasy) - he avoids commitments/labels - he makes you feel guilty/crazy/needy - he doesn't truly support you or your goals (in any real and tangible way) So, 1) Never EVER be afraid of losing him. You are the Divine feminine. Let him fear losing YOU! 2) Have an EXTREMELY low tolerance for ANY bad behavior... AVOIDANT or NARCISSIST? Let's be real. It's irrelevant. They both behave the same. The damage they do is the same. The trauma they cause is the same. FUCK THEM BOTH. So, When there’s a disagreement, an argument, a conflict, some bullying, disrespect, boundaries being crossed etc... someone will inevitably, most likely, be disappointed in me... So, I engage in each and every situation in a way that ensures, that the person disappointed in me, NEVER ENDS UP BEING ME! I aim to never repress, never suppress. I aim to never lose parts of myself. Radical honesty only: 100% of the time. Always, all ways. AND REMEMBER: to test if ANY relationship is healthy - you've got to judge the relationship on its bad days, not on its good ones!
@Pinoyakarino18 күн бұрын
❤❤❤❤❤
@5D_Ski14 күн бұрын
🎖️best KZfaq comment ever! 🎖️👏👏👏
@skylergrey865510 күн бұрын
❤❤
@PP-xm4gx8 күн бұрын
Amen, this is the post we needed!
@nm94127 күн бұрын
I love your comment!
@lc4972 Жыл бұрын
Yup. It works. Did just that. And cleared up the confusion enough so I walked. He said in the beginning that he wanted what I wanted but his actions through 5 months showed that he didn't want what I wanted. When I did as described he admitted that we weren't on the same page. So I left and found someone who was. I'd rather be single than with the wrong person. There are far worse things than being single!!!
@BernMendez Жыл бұрын
Grateful to hear you’re showing up for yourself. 🙏
@HealingLuckyOfficial Жыл бұрын
Good on you! Nothing worse than being with the wrong person.
@whosyourdaddy4579 Жыл бұрын
Wow! That was quick!
@roshandawalton811 ай бұрын
Mine same situation 5 months wanted what I wanted, I trusted it positive fun happy situation all up until this last month now I'm getting short text, 8 min phone calls, no energy, lots of excuses so for me I believe what u show. I've had enough. Proud you were able to walk away.
@daniellefeller4845Ай бұрын
I just leave whenever I get mixed signals
@jamieguerra3788 Жыл бұрын
If he disappears for weeks at a time just focus on you sis . A man that’s interested in you will let you know that you are his prize by actions not words. Words are never needed when there is action 😇
@BernMendez Жыл бұрын
Thanks for watching.
@NMTDelightfulMusic Жыл бұрын
He disappears to another supply :)))
@303machine Жыл бұрын
Same with women. If she is into you, there is no need for "game", she will be around you.
@SR777365 күн бұрын
@@303machine this is about men not women. 🙄
@fiftyandfab4242 Жыл бұрын
4 Initial Criteria - Need ALL (1) He Needs to know what he wants in a Relationship (2) Excited about Exploring Life Partnership with Me (3) Willing to Pursue Me (4) ABLE to Pursue Me
@BernMendez Жыл бұрын
Thanks for watching : )
@Freya-qu9wo28 күн бұрын
Keep him guessing by marrying someone else.
@BernMendez27 күн бұрын
😂😂😂
@rabim10610 күн бұрын
😂😂😂😂😂Factz
@WifeyWifey-v8u6 күн бұрын
😂
@lisayeoman_giggles.5045 күн бұрын
🤣💀🙌🏻
@lovenhzwill8314 күн бұрын
👊👏👏
@GR-rk2fi Жыл бұрын
What I have learned the hard way: when a man really wants me he treats me like his queen and there is no doubt. When he stops that something is wrong, and mostly talking about it does not help much, because he is just not that into me (anymore). I would never try to fix a relationship with a man who is unsure about his feelings again, it's just a waste of time. Better move on.
@karolinah1216 күн бұрын
Very true, a man who is sure doesn't need prompting.
@SR777365 күн бұрын
Ya he's not worth the effort.
@pamelakapke62 Жыл бұрын
"Maybe does not mean yes" good one.
@BernMendez Жыл бұрын
Pamela, glad you enjoyed it : )
@karolinah122 ай бұрын
When you see a red flag, take it into account. It is real
@BernMendez2 ай бұрын
Yes : )
@karolinah1216 күн бұрын
If you have to ask, it is mostly a no but he was planning to use you in the meantime
@beautifulspirit2973 Жыл бұрын
I’ve met a wonderful man who is totally consistent after a period of dating a man who had been hot and cold for over a year. I now know what love really is. It’s actions not words. I so needed to hear this. Thank you !!
@BernMendez Жыл бұрын
You're welcome.
@Jules-7408 ай бұрын
Wow this is gold! Excitement means nothing. Consistency is what matters.
@BernMendez8 ай бұрын
It's not that it means nothing but it's not the highest trait to look for ;) Thanks for watching and for your kind words.
@Jules-7408 ай бұрын
@BernMendez Yes I get that it isn't nothing. But in the big scheme of things... consistency takes priority. Thank you! It's just a great perspective shift!
@LoveheartcorianАй бұрын
@@Jules-740Care & Respect are the highest traits to look for
@jenniferklopman2557Ай бұрын
Just move on if someone plays these garbage games with you. It takes 5 seconds to send a text, to secure a date in someone you're interested in (i.e. "Are you free on Friday?" sent on Wednesday) It feels terrible to not have your time respected
@marsvsvenus6256 Жыл бұрын
I got that he has to be ready. If he is not available because of restrictions and drama let him figure it out and sort it out because he isnt ready to move forward with you.
@domt4588 Жыл бұрын
Yes! I definitely liked to be pursued. Too much hot and cold from this guy I started dating. I noticed I had no clarity,lacked consistency and I felt like an option. I saw signs too…he was not emotionally available. I walked. No more for me!!
@BernMendez Жыл бұрын
Dom, thanks for sharing. Glad you moved on 🙏
@randiedgar46592 ай бұрын
What if the guy is saying all the right things. He's consistent, pursued me, open & honest.... one day he's bought tickets to events in the future, says he's falling in love... the next day he's not texting me good morning, etc., not responding to texts, or takes hours to reply... how can someone make that change overnight?
@BernMendez2 ай бұрын
Either he changed overnight or he revealed himself more fully overnight. Getting to know a person usually takes longer than we would like it to take. Sorry you're going through this experience.
@bananarae9207Ай бұрын
This is what I went through, but he never changed over night he was just being his true manipulative self. But you're lucky, you managed to get away. Congratulations. I got away too
@dizasadorableanimals65547 күн бұрын
He met someone “better”. You can do better too. All the best.
@RowenglenKennels5 күн бұрын
Avoidant personality type
@ashl3yi1385 күн бұрын
Avoidant, immature men. They should come with a red flag attached to their forehead.
@derriepage5934 Жыл бұрын
Just leave him alone.
@BernMendez Жыл бұрын
Thanks for watching.
@MamaOle072 күн бұрын
😂😂🤣🤣🤣
@spyroluver09514 ай бұрын
I find when I get needy, think about why he isn't responding, It's because i am not focused on my life. As soon as I am busy myself, the reply time doesn't matter.
@mina8XOАй бұрын
Yes!!!!!!!
@debbiebramwellАй бұрын
Amen sister !
@SR777365 күн бұрын
Ttue but if he's taking a week to reply regularly that's obvious a red flag and it's ok if you notice that. Only if it's a pattern though. Not if it happened once for a good reason. Doesn't matter how busy you are. That's unacceptable.
@annettemccoy4046 Жыл бұрын
I have been through this. Now he is silent so I am looking to the future. Its a shame, but I can't wait for someone who's already left ♥️
@janisgaines5330 Жыл бұрын
Excitement is not pursuit! So helpful. Thank you, Bern
@BernMendez Жыл бұрын
You're so welcome, Janis : )
@milachyc88 Жыл бұрын
Completely agree with this tactic, being, clear, direct, it saves your precious time! Respect yourself! Thanks!
@georgiajaeger8567Ай бұрын
I recently broke up with a man I have known for over 30 years. Our relationship was 7 months. He seemed caring and giving (always did, even as a friend) but not consistent. He pursued me early, and it abruptly stopped. When problems popped up, he was quick to want to end things. The first couple of times, I asked to give it time as that is what couples do, work it out. This last time, I tried talking to him and gave up. I tried to honor the friendship by giving it the time it needed. But, I feel like he was just looking for a companion to go along with him in life and not a true partner. Pursuit left quick and the relationship grew to be very one-sided. This was what the disagreements were about, wanting me to come to his home and never coming to mine. He called me yesterday stating that he was returning my call but I had never called him. I really fail to understand people. I was a happy person but life has sucked me dry. Consistency trumps excitement, I like that.
@nm94127 күн бұрын
He’s got your body, mind and soul, what you need to do is actually break this soul tie. Do some meditation and watch KZfaq video on cord cutting reiki. They will help you tremendously to get your power back!
@luckygirl-ue1jx6 күн бұрын
Super helpful, ty❤
@1sornram Жыл бұрын
These messages is what I needed to hear. Can move on with empowerment now! Thank you 🙂
@BernMendez Жыл бұрын
You are so welcome!
@marsvsvenus6256 Жыл бұрын
Intensity vs consistency! 👍🏼
@brialyn337Ай бұрын
My tension is not great. If he wanted to spend time. He would make it count.
@LilyDiorMusic Жыл бұрын
Thanks Bern that was really helpful, particularly the part about being up front and saying I’m confused about your intentions and stating what you’re looking for so he can be upfront too.
@BernMendez Жыл бұрын
Lily, so glad it was helpful!
@NMTDelightfulMusic Жыл бұрын
SUM : Avoid narcissists :))))
@cheryljones2009 Жыл бұрын
Unfortunately, the guys I'm "talking" to do NOT take consistent action.... 😣 😞
@BernMendez Жыл бұрын
Time to make a change then : )
@karolinah1216 күн бұрын
When a man is hot and cold he usually dates multiple women, and has no time to divide himself. When he is sure about his woman, she does not need to ask, she will hear it ! Dont have the talk, walk the walk .
@SR777365 күн бұрын
This. I can vouch. A guy who was this way ended things after a week of talking and seeing each other to confess he figured he'd have better chemistry elsewhere. He reached out again after months of nc. I ended things and he told me he was talking to someone but still wanted us to talk to each other. So he wasn't even being faithful to the girl he was with either smh. Blocked! Life's too short.
@kaboomroom33 Жыл бұрын
Thanks Bernie! I was meant to see this exact video, because I’m dealing with this now! This new guy has indicated to me and a mutual friend that he wants to take me out, but is also claiming he’s been busy. Typical, cop out excuse! 🤦🏽♀️So I put the ball back in his court and told him to let me know when he wants to hang. But I’m not putting in anymore effort until he does and will follow this video’s advice when I do see him!👌🏾
@BernMendez Жыл бұрын
Glad this was helpful.
@finallythere1004 ай бұрын
What happened?
@HappyGirl707 Жыл бұрын
#1 take-away for me is to put all my cards on the table by the first/second date. Period.
@BernMendez Жыл бұрын
Glad you found this helpful, Patricia.
@HappyGirl707 Жыл бұрын
Bernardo, I did just that last night on a date. It was met with much resistance from him. Oh well. Next!
@mamaknow8056 Жыл бұрын
Walk. Next.
@LynnRoseWOW Жыл бұрын
Soooo good! Thank you. THIS is the kind of advice we need proliferated. Wish guys would get the memo too. Just be direct, open and kind. All good whatever is there but being open and clear is the way (even if the clarity is that you’re not sure yet)
@BernMendez Жыл бұрын
Thank you for watching, Lynn.
@jasertyuiihasdfg81656 ай бұрын
2:11 excitement is not pursuit
@BernMendez6 ай бұрын
Glad you found this useful¡
@remzzzyyyaranas1723 Жыл бұрын
Timely and relevant in my situation right now. Thank you Sir❤
@BernMendez Жыл бұрын
You're most welcome, Remzy. : )
@outroseok Жыл бұрын
my issue is that when I'm attached to someone it's VERY hard for me to detach even if I know they aren't right for me or as into it as I am....
@BernMendez Жыл бұрын
This issue is not unique to you that's why it's so important to delay physical contact until you know him well and he's trustworthy. : )
@brendamwilatembo4384 Жыл бұрын
You are not alone! I have the same problem, in the am a fool
@whosyourdaddy4579 Жыл бұрын
Same!
@outroseok Жыл бұрын
@@BernMendez I do that as it is, I will not have physical intimacy with someone until I know they're not going anywhere. :)
@senorabratt Жыл бұрын
Thank you for this video. It gave me the courage of ending a 2 months of intense dates with a guy who was playing hot and cold with me. I gave him a hall pass since he seemed shy, inexperienced with women and somewhat insecure. I feel he was also emotionally unavailable with strong avoidant tendencies. He pursued me but then I saw a quick shift in a lack of effort by date 7 to 8. The last straw was that this shift activated my nervous system and I knew I was in trouble. I made those initial red flags very pink and fell into the pretending game. I basically had enough and called him out on his behavior. I deserved to voice my relational courage and come from a place of dignity. My friends and I strongly suspect that he had a dating coach. In your experience, do male-serving dating coaches teach men to blow hot/cold? I know they want men to date multiple partners, but blowing hot/cold?
@BernMendez Жыл бұрын
Glad this video helped! I'm not sure I'd make the assumption he had a dating coach as dozens of challenges might be the root cause of why he acted that way. You may never know what caused this but you don't have to so long as you continue making progress.
@senorabratt Жыл бұрын
@@BernMendez Thank you, Bern. I appreciate your response, and thank you for everything you do. Although a part of me feels guilty about this, I have to look after my own mental health first.
@barbararichards72029 күн бұрын
Thankd. I like people to be straightforward with me, likewise I'm straightforward with others.I can't deal with hot and cold stuff. Thanks for your advice.
@BernMendez8 күн бұрын
You're so welcome!
@tubefanreyn Жыл бұрын
Absolutely spot on! Well said as always Bern! 🥰
@BernMendez Жыл бұрын
Elizabeth, thank you for your support! 😀🙏
@nm94127 күн бұрын
You are so right on playing hot and cold which goes both ways. I have to admit I started hot snd cold.
@MsDiggy55 Жыл бұрын
Timely, in that it was first up in my YT feed this morning. I have been in successive relationships w/men who are exciting & eager to pursue, but it unravels into confusion & heartbreak for me. I’m truly done with wasting time. Since I value and believe in myself, I know I deserve more, someone who equals what I give. For all you do, thank you❤
@user-oo2fs7mq7e Жыл бұрын
Hot and cold for 9 years he ghost me so i changed my number...🎉🎉🎉
@MyIRISSS Жыл бұрын
Awesome. I havent heard this from a guy ever! Thank you. Sadly its 30 years to late, when I was in a hot and cold relationship. I didnt know, that I was playing this, too. Why arent they teaching this in schools?
@BernMendez Жыл бұрын
Glad this helped Suzanne : )
@annieshahzad897010 күн бұрын
He doesn't want to leave me completely. Also, not sure if he wants me. He says there's some connection but then calls himself single all the time. He also ensures that he doesn't talk to other girls. I'm really confused what he actually wants. He says he's just not sure yet if he wants to marry me or not. He'll ignore me for days and when i do the same he'll start giving attention. The problem is i live him and can't ignore him. I also told him that no one sided relation works. But he says i know it's difficult if the other person isn't putting efforts but if you truly live someone you don't expect anything in return. He's fu*ed up my mental health. He was very excited earlier, even proposed me but then his mother opposed. Since then he has been behaving mysteriously.
@ANU-pz5bx Жыл бұрын
He's avoidant bro😢
@SR777365 күн бұрын
Yup of emotionally unavailable, non committal and a waste of time/red flag
@chandrimamitra7604 Жыл бұрын
Whats the guarantee that asking directly the guy wont lie to you? Guys lie esp at early stages n do nice things. Its only after some time you know the reality.
@BernMendez Жыл бұрын
There are no guarantees a guy won't lie to you if you ask but you can evaluate over time if his words and his actions match. You'd be surprised, however, at how many men will reveal a truth you need to hear but would have never heard if you hadn't asked...
@caralynhunt989510 ай бұрын
this whole video is gold!
@BernMendez10 ай бұрын
Thank you!
@melmel983227 күн бұрын
*Make sure you ask early and often : where is he at, what does he want, what is he capable of. *Be vulnerable, direct and kind. Just be clear. *Ask for what you need - would you be able to connect with me in that way. 4 Initial Criteria - Need ALL (1) He Needs to know what he wants in a Relationship (2) Excited about Exploring Life Partnership with Me (3) Willing to Pursue Me (4) ABLE to Pursue Me
@toshashanafelt849112 күн бұрын
I just left a job that I asked for a raise with because I was doing the job of 3 and got denied. Been gone one day and already got a call saying another employee didn’t realize how much I do. Now they are trying to to hire 2 people since I left. Smfh! No appreciation.
@BernMendez11 күн бұрын
Hope you're on a path to more appreciation :). Good luck and thank you for watching.
@solfh Жыл бұрын
I dated someone who was putting hella lot of effort and after like a month he called it quits saying he still like me and want to know me but doesn’t have time. Yet he was on dating apps soon after. After some weeks I reached out and he seemed interested but made no effort in setting a date so I called it quits saying that’s not what I deserve. And after some weeks he reached out BUT he said he never stopped wanting to see me and that’s insane cause bae you literally ended things with me initially!! Like what silly game is this.. apparently he wants it but not to the point to make an effort. I am reaching out now, conscious that i am being too easy on him and he is showing me nothing in return. But this is to make sure i can block him once and forever. Cause I can see his troubled mind so i get his confusion but I can’t solve his sht so he better decide fast
@lilibethnieto55 Жыл бұрын
Thank you Bern for conscious clarity ❤Happy New Year!!!🎉🎉🎉
@BernMendez Жыл бұрын
You're so welcome, Lilibeth. Happy new year to you too!
@catherineedge5446 Жыл бұрын
Great video Bern - thanks so much for creating!
@BernMendez Жыл бұрын
You’re welcome!
@VioletLaLaMoon Жыл бұрын
Your best video yet!❤
@BernMendez Жыл бұрын
So glad you like it Liana!
@rasarsm Жыл бұрын
So...I totally love you Bern, but I took your quiz and am stumped. It tells me I have a "gap in aliveness and compelling vision." And yet, the ONE thing the man I just started dating (who's been a friend for many months and knows me deeply) kept saying to me the night we started to get romantic was "You're so alive, you're so alive, oh my god..." Thoughts?
@BernMendez Жыл бұрын
Hi Rachel, I don't have your answers here to refer to but a Gap in Aliveness and compelling vision also refers to your outlook and mindset regarding what's possible in love. Keep in mind that what you answer doesn't necessarily have to agree with one person's opinion : )
@rachelleoct Жыл бұрын
Beautiful advice , thanks for sharing ❤
@BernMendez Жыл бұрын
You’re so welcome, Rachelle. Happy new year!
@wickidblazed4206 ай бұрын
My ex is doing this with me!!! At this juncture I know I can't be with him..he just had his 10th kid...I 💘 him but this is a situation that I know I have no room in..on top of it he keeps changing his number
@rachelross58293 күн бұрын
My x was consistent. I know what that is. Dont even know if i want a relationship right now but thanks for the info.
@BernMendez2 күн бұрын
You’re so welcome. There’s nothing wrong with taking time to decide if you want a relationship and if so what kind. No. We’d to rush it. Trust your heart.
@kiritk1801 Жыл бұрын
Absolutely true. Thanku so much for your kind insights 🌹🌹❤️❤️🙏🙏
@madgeclarke6128 Жыл бұрын
Wowo i did date a guy and every thing u said I asked J H Wowo I did date a guy and every thing u are saying I told me we know what he wants and is me well it was a lie so I walked away and 4 months now then he tex me Christmas and I did not tex him back thank u I learn a lot from you ubare the best
@BernMendez Жыл бұрын
Glad this helped, Madge. : )
@christineterry3079 Жыл бұрын
What's the initial J H for out of interests??
@agnivabanerjee9299 Жыл бұрын
Thank you Bernardo for this ❤
@christinagonzalez71255 ай бұрын
What if you disappeared and you haven’t heard from him is there a possibility I’m going to hear from him what are you doing that situation? He comes back or he just not into me no more or he just figuring out things what he wants to be in this relationship or not
@musicompro50818 ай бұрын
I will try to say this to him the next time we see each other im a filipino and American men are very hard to understand showing lots of different attitudes
@jennifervaughn15413 ай бұрын
There’s a reason why American women don’t want American men….im an American woman by the way.
@Ricarica98111 ай бұрын
this is what im going through
@BernMendez11 ай бұрын
Hi Judy, then it's time to raise your standards and value yourself more powerfully through your actions. You've got this! : )
@Luckyme8908 күн бұрын
What a great video!! Thank you!!
@crystaldance57313 ай бұрын
Helpful thankyou 😊❤️
@austriaperez497 Жыл бұрын
Excellent video ❤ Very helpful and great information
@BernMendez Жыл бұрын
Thank you Austria.
@sabzksingh Жыл бұрын
Great advice ❤🙏 I need it.
@BernMendez Жыл бұрын
Glad it was helpful.
@martinakournikova564 Жыл бұрын
Hello Bernardo, guy i like, 14 yrs older, told me after 10 lovely dates, that he is not sure he is feeling whole, has not opened up fully what goes on for him, but it affects our intimacy and he mentioned it is frustrating for him.. I felt instantly unsure why he is giving me this and whether it is a hint he can't commit. He does have financial troubles, major changes in his life, after 26 yrs with a one woman. I am feeling like i want to pull back. He was consistent up to now. Seems decent and kind and unique, so i wanted us to be together but his text today, made me think bad things...
@BernMendez Жыл бұрын
Hi Martina, have a thoughtful face to face conversation with him because at the moment you're attempting to make sense of this and making assumptions that may not be correct (either making it better or worse than it actually is). Find out what needs to happen for him to feel able to open (and what does being more open even mean to him). : )
@saras.21735 ай бұрын
If you are feeling the need to pull back, HONOR IT. Either give him space by not talking to him for a few weeks or months, or suggest to him that the two of you might be better as friends, then make yourself mostly unavailable to him. Sometimes we don’t pull back from men because we hate it when they do it to us. But they secretly love it because it takes the pressure off of them, creates a challenge/puzzle, makes things more exciting. We are looking for security from men, but they are not looking for that from us. They’d prefer novelty.
@shehnazkanorwala4171 Жыл бұрын
I have watched most of ur vd . All vd s are awesome 👍. But what about a guy who u like is already married.
@BernMendez Жыл бұрын
Create distance while remembering no matter what. You’re telling yourself right now, there are more men who can love you without you being a secret.
@sarahopoku3915 Жыл бұрын
Very helpful 👌. Thank you
@RitaP41Ай бұрын
5:57
@cindyoosthuizen56534 ай бұрын
Thanks I really needed this advice
@BernMendez4 ай бұрын
You are so welcome, Cindy, glad it helped.
@wenderella8110 ай бұрын
I wish I could just have 10 minutes with Bernardo to chat.
@samanthaclark1547 Жыл бұрын
Thank you, this has helped me tremendously. He sent me a msg earlier on and I havent replied. Can I reply with this?
@shinyvalley51458 ай бұрын
Thank you so much I liked the part when you said I should vulnerably and kindly asking the questions without being needy. My question is how do I ask these questions ! Do I wait for him to call me then in the middle of conversation I ask him or wait for him to text then I text with this or I should go ahead and ask first . How should I do this through a call or text message thanks.
@sharlafenwick40565 ай бұрын
How is this the woman's fault? This video is supposed to address HIS issue, not hers. The title is "why a man is hot & cold." Training a grown adult man like a dog is not of interest to me. He's a human being, not a dog with behavioral problems. "Training" a man would leave me feeling empty & unloved. Almost like owning a robot & I held the remote control. That's not love & seems twisted & heartless to me.
@graceamsterdam5404Ай бұрын
Good topic. In my experience highly related to autism.
@BernMendezАй бұрын
Sometimes related to an avoidant attachment style, and sometimes related to emotional immaturity and confusion.
@rlong8038Ай бұрын
Bad idea if they're a narracist. They up the game.
@ewanowakowska30287 ай бұрын
If he wants friendship?
@BernMendez6 ай бұрын
Do you want friendship with him?
@denfordbacayana2303Күн бұрын
Run away.
@leahbielitz14 күн бұрын
Okay recently I told him I love him twice and I said aren't you going to say it back he said No and then said I see what I see what does that mean?
@sangeetachandanishakuntala556 күн бұрын
Thnku
@nicoletacherechesu1576 Жыл бұрын
I felt to make a nice surprise to my boyfriend, and I came with a cake for his birthday to the hotel where he was left with his job…… and he dont like it this because I dont called first….. why!??!?
@saras.21735 ай бұрын
He probably felt it as a threat to his autonomy
@starfishw7138 Жыл бұрын
How to even meet someone at 80 yo. Pretty dismal prospects, yes?
@tothineownselfbetrue9100 Жыл бұрын
Try classes, groups, and events at a senior center near you
@jj576i910 күн бұрын
My great aunt was in the siberian concentration camp married an awful man after that 30 years she put up with that ass....then at 80 she fell in love with a guy..they were always together...and his kids broke them up saying she was not the right woman for him...they were madly in love
@hungrysimi26 күн бұрын
i am SURE he is into me but he is hot & cold. maybe it's my fault because i'm quite reserved and don't pay attention to him much😂
@whatsamatteryou791Ай бұрын
A minute and a half in and nope…God this sucks!
@Lisah707 Жыл бұрын
Well he is going through a D. So I need to keep walking away!
@BernMendez Жыл бұрын
If by D you mean Divorce then I understand why this might be really challenging.
@Lisah707 Жыл бұрын
@@BernMendez yes that is what I meant. We met quite by accident at a networking event, neither of us looking for anything, and fell in love quite by accident, at that point he’d been separated for 1.5 years. But the first time we encountered an issue the pressure of that coupled with his D and his grown kids he broke up. Hoping time and space will bring us back together, because prior to that he set the tone, was attentive and consistent and courted me and we really did get a long. 🙏🏻✨
@monasingh3305 Жыл бұрын
Cool man
@BernMendez Жыл бұрын
Thanks.
@monasingh3305 Жыл бұрын
I liked ur way of telling things
@andriavinithalobo58133 күн бұрын
Yes ASK EARLY
@BernMendez2 күн бұрын
Thanks for watching. :)
@pamelawoods-ei3pz Жыл бұрын
What if he’s a priest
@mwendenyaga91 Жыл бұрын
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
@marliesluyten8686 Жыл бұрын
Amen
@taraarrington2285 Жыл бұрын
Sweet
@sharlafenwick40566 ай бұрын
This sounds super desperate on her part. I heard men don't like getting so serious early in dating game. This is too extreme... Trying to pin him down for a commitment too soon. Makes me very uncomfortable to demand a a promise of commitment so soon & it will make most men run as fast as possible. Keep it light & fun.
@muma6559Ай бұрын
5:05 but lacks the what ?
@megzii5 күн бұрын
Lacks the follow -through
@sharlafenwick40566 ай бұрын
Not looking for a guy to put up a Christmas tree or go to soccer practice. Last thing in my mind. I wanna have a good time with him, not plan a suburban family fantasy. Don't want a man who is a boring, run of the mill, soccer Dad. Too ordinary & dull.