"If you feel resentment in a relationship..." | Jordan Peterson
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2 жыл бұрынJordan Peterson explains what it means when you feel resentment in a relationship with someones. He also provides relationship tips on how to overcome this resentment and enter into negotiation with your partner. #relationshipissues #relationshipadvice #jordanpetersonadvice
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@smegmawolf9148 Жыл бұрын
when you’re being oppressed and have something to say but the resentment comes from them never listening to what you have to say
@christinebraids Жыл бұрын
I'm presently in this situation and it's so true. I try sitting and talking with him for us to separate and end things on a mature level for the sake of our son but even that is a problem
@smegmawolf9148 Жыл бұрын
@@christinebraids i feel for ya. hopefully things get sorted and you can move on
@lehdedici8540 Жыл бұрын
I totally feel this type of resentment. I've said what I have to say and still feel it bc nothing has changed for the better.
@kevinensunsa Жыл бұрын
Nahh, one can text, write a letter, or email in order to express this. If you have something to say, uncomfortable or not, just state it.
@MXRX Жыл бұрын
Bro I feel like people know what they’re doing and should have the awareness that they’re hurting others. Yes we make small unconscious mistakes, but people not thinking about how this will effect you? I don’t agree with it.
@chanmonymiller1698 3 ай бұрын
I like that last line, the goal is to find a solution better than what either you could have separately.
@michaelcarter266 Ай бұрын
Yeah he nailed it there.
@AFAskygoddess 15 күн бұрын
And that is why I'm a 68 year old single, financially secure, active woman in Florida and embrace the realization that I'm going to stay single.
@jaelenrandolph2030 Ай бұрын
The kind of dad we all needed…
@ddee2501 4 ай бұрын
When honesty goes out the door... so do I.
@alenaadamkova7617 2 ай бұрын
Dr. K said he noticed that many relationships succeed. He noticed that most of them had few red flags at begining of the relationship, but they succeed because both were very active to change the red flags problems., including himself when he was jobless student and was married. His advice is to not looking for perfect person but both working toward suscess...because if you will look for a perfect partner, you always find at least one error like smoking, ..you decide to break up because of the one error, and will add new thing of red flags to the list, which means every year the list of red flags gets bigger, because each of your partners had one red flag, but you become lonely, if you break up before deciding to work for the relationship..so their red flag can be the smoking, or overeating or whatever, but your red flag can be not deciding to negotiate the rules before breaking up the relationship.being obsessed with perfection.
@sayusayme7729 29 күн бұрын
Yes
@GiveWithLove 8 ай бұрын
Emotional intelligence is extremely important, and when they lack that and to work with you with the desire to truly fight for the relationship your only option is to say goodbye.
@lesleysears9808 8 күн бұрын
Love ya Jordan! ❤❤❤❤ The world is a better place with you in it 😊🎉
@OKAYOKAY420 2 жыл бұрын
There is no negotiation when it comes to adultery.
@seanandrews5329 Жыл бұрын
just ignore it? doing it with people is natural and the feeling to want to engage in it can be very dominant.
@OKAYOKAY420 Жыл бұрын
@@seanandrews5329 or you can have self control. Wtf is wrong with you?
@user-utorba987 Жыл бұрын
@@seanandrews5329 What kind of bullshit answer is this?
@seanandrews5329 Жыл бұрын
@@user-utorba987 can you be more specific with your question?
@TheAlien_in_your_backyard Жыл бұрын
@@seanandrews5329true, it’s normal for women to cheat, nothing wrong with women and men cheating and being un loyal
@BottleofDreamswastaken Жыл бұрын
Sometimes the issue may be in your head and it's worth fighting for.
@user-ze7ry7ki5z 9 ай бұрын
You'll know which one you are after talking to your partner/spouce.. Good chance is you'll end up separate regardless. Resentment is contempt, contempt is like rust.. If you you let it work on things for too long there won't be enough material left to make it work. Be brave, ask early, try long.. But in the end leave before you lose your mental health. Life isn't about happiness, but survival.
@MsJoyce31202 5 ай бұрын
Yes
@elenamoulin3252 Ай бұрын
Resentment is NOT contempt. The first is a feeling of angry displeasure at something regarded as a wrong, insult, or injury. The second - the feeling that a person or a thing is worthless or beneath consideration. You see, it makes a big difference. While feeling resentful is a sign something needs to be fixed by discussion/negotiation, feeling contemptful is rather a sign it may be too late or very difficult to fix a relationship
@kate59416 Ай бұрын
Wise words....never heard it put this way!
@Intuited. Жыл бұрын
I felt the resentment creeping in again today, and then I had the idea during our argument, to repeat positive affirmations and visualise a positive outcome for the both of us inside my mind without him knowing. The resentment faded away. "I am in Harmonious Separation with [.....] Because we both deserve to be Happy Free and Loved. We both share Harmonious custody of our daughters. No matter what...there is no other option" I've been wanting to separate from him for a while now, but he keeps "insisting" that we must stay together.
@ChaseGohunnid 9 ай бұрын
I did the same thing I just decided to choose positivity and love just started to flow on its on
@JennaFW 8 ай бұрын
Highly recommend looking into Carla Da Costa’s work. Particularly her first book “Seconds Please”. It is a beautiful and life-changing yet short/easy to read. It helped me in significant ways when I was in a situation that sounds like it might be similar to yours 🙏🏼
@revelationishereeverhart8864 2 жыл бұрын
I've seen it happen like this, where the relationship had "both" dynamics of what Jordan described!
@oliverjamito9902 7 күн бұрын
Angels keep watch of Peterson!
@oliverjamito9902 7 күн бұрын
Thank you and Gratitude and Honor! Unto all my Angels who persevere and heard the WORD! Adopted SONS AND DAUGHTERS welcomed!
@jojomasipa379 Жыл бұрын
I am full of resentment after 30 years of marraige. I feel miss used (NOT ABUSES) and I hablve NO joy. My husband gets quiet fits and dont display emotion or discuss ANYTHING. He gets angry when confronted and will stop talkkng to me for weeks. I am just done. All the suggestions sound so easy to do, but I am just so over this
@emilylednicky6718 11 ай бұрын
Sounds like it could be asperger's. Doesn't really change anything but it's what it sounds like.
@rockidove 8 ай бұрын
Agreed. He doesn’t know how to verbally communicate his own feeling. From my understanding… He was never taught or validated as a child and has never been able to express emotions therefore doesn’t know how to. Gabor Mate’ has a lot to speak on this subject as well. Resentment is poison for both of you. 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼❤️🩹 Much love! May you heal and find love.
@dennisgartner6592 5 ай бұрын
@@rockidovewell, anger certainly is an emotion.
@rockidove 4 ай бұрын
@@dennisgartner6592I certainly agree. 👍🏼
@eyaalem7990 4 ай бұрын
The same thing I was avoidant for almost 30 years. I repress my feeling and I usually confused how to express myself even if for my loved ones. I think when I grow up I used to be ashamed expressing feeling and fear holds me back. Now I am getting better and of course it’s a baby step. Marriage is not easy but if we embrace the adversity it could lead us to self awareness just like me.
@bilstein2410 9 ай бұрын
Or, you put a lot of effort into the friendship and they do nothing back in return. That's what started my resentment.
@annaburns2865 Ай бұрын
That’s called oppression.
@victoryamartin9773 Ай бұрын
I have resentment under both conditions. I am being financially taken advantage of by 2 oppressive, stonewalling Narcissists, so I can't resolve anything by discussion; I've tried and only got screamed at for not appreciating them. I also am horribly traumatized and stressed out about not being able to get them to leave my house, so I'm trying to discover how I might make peace with a situation I cannot change and develop endurance and love for people who cannot love me.
@DChristina 7 күн бұрын
Are you a senior? I can’t see the tiny thumb photo in my phone so please don’t be offended my asking. I ask because if you are, their tyranny could’ve considered elder abuse. Then you can get help ousting them out of your home. Can you get the aid and support of family and friends? Ask them to come live with you in support and to witness what’s going on. Make it uncomfortable for these two leeches so they’ll leave! Praying you get results 🙏🏼💕
@victoryamartin9773 7 күн бұрын
😮@@DChristinaYes I am a senior and disabled. I definitely consider this elder abuse. For whatever reason, I haven't been able to get thru to APS to report it, and law enforcement will do nothing no matter how many times I've called them. I'm afraid to leave my house with them still here, because they are now going thru my things when I'm away to get dirt on me. He found my eviction application and decided he needs to sue me for $1 million if I try to evict them. But I'm going to try to go see my son 3 hours away by bus and get help filling out the paperwork and maybe see if we can get a restraining order. Thank you for responding. It helps to hear someone care.
@vodkavuitton Күн бұрын
Keep dreaming ✌🏽 that will never happen & it is what it is like I said
@vodkavuitton Күн бұрын
Those 2 broke dummies better get a life & stop attaching their mental illness to me ✌🏽 bottom mf line I'm not their friend or scapegoat. Try Jesus
@vodkavuitton Күн бұрын
Who needs their love? I do not want their looney asses attaching shit to me period 😂😂 my life doesn't have shit to do with them AT ALL. Stop being desperate ✌🏽
@GundamReviver Жыл бұрын
In my case, the best thing to do was abort mission. I was better off alone then with my crazy ex. The I later found a wonderful girl thst did indeed make my life better. So good luck to me I guess?
@gloryofsk8 Жыл бұрын
You'll abort again.. you feel better but your life is the same.. give it time
@coleauten5612 Жыл бұрын
I hope she's the right one for you! Don't lose to any comments complaining about how you'll never find anyone. That's true for some people, certainly those who give up, but not for all. If you're both willing to work through any issues you as a couple may face then she might just be the right one. You'll find the right one!
@gloryofsk8 Жыл бұрын
@@coleauten5612 women dont wanna work unless they feel really have to. Unless that dude is a Millionaire bodybuilding alpha male, she'll deep down keep her options open. If shes an attractive woman eventually she'll get the right attention from the richer guy ( perhaps slightly better looking ) and trust me she sadly wont say no. Keep him in her pocket, and slowly starts to do less and less in the relationship uptil she knows she has a Refuge to back up her leaving. As said give time.. as soon as you see the signs, ( her being more on her phone, repeating things she already told you, starts arguments about problems she dont easily find or settles for any logical solution - because she is not feeling it and logic cant make that feeling go away. you have to end it and leave otherwise you end up hurt.
@kaybase6967 8 ай бұрын
@@gloryofsk8the same can be said about men too. Don’t lump everyone into the same basket. There are good women out there. Not all of us are like what you describe.
@vodkavuitton Күн бұрын
Wish my scamming ex would do this instead of trying to make me regret not being in his life lmao move tf on & stop looking back to check on me unless you have a check for me 🤷🏾♀️✌🏽
@jamesdelcol3701 Жыл бұрын
I was being taken advantage of. I realized my stepson was chronic when I was studying for an exam I couldn't get him to shut off his video game off. He was 24 yo and this was not acceptable. I asked his mother if we could negotiate this. She forced the video game on me. Our lease was up a few weeks after that and I forced him to sign. Then, when I got fed up, I left. They had to pay and I paid 1/3 instead of 1/2 because I made her son sign the legal document. I was in love with her. It hurt really bad. We went through a rough time together crying together because we were broke at one point. I was a kindred spirit getting this kid jobs and training him and he shit on me. I paid him the favor back. As I was training him I noticed his attitude. You can't run from me when I am training you. I will learn your habits by testing you. By the time I left, I knew I was dealing with a bad situation and that I had to leave. I also knew from training my stepson that he was never going to respect me or change his attitude. So now I'm gone. And they cannot touch me or talk to me. If that resentment comes, you're done. I will always opt for a new life over staying in a bad life.
@TheSorcerer1 3 ай бұрын
I'm really confused about your story, but I agree with the message wholeheartedly.
@seraphenki933 Ай бұрын
Omg this is the EXACT situation my step Dad is in. My brother who is now 31 lives at their house doesn't pay rent and just games all day. He's the reason for so many arguments. He's my brother and I hate him myself lol I work hard and have my own place. My mom babied my younger brother so now he's entitled sh*thead. He's 31 and acts like a teenager and just games constantly. I told my stepdad I'd understand if he left my mom.
@ninasheen2965 16 күн бұрын
god bless you
@Adragos17 20 күн бұрын
I feel resentment in my relationship because I have tried to communicate my needs but it goes unresponsive and in full of deep regret for marrying the woman I did and feel it was one of the most foolish things I could have ever done. It's completely unsatisfying
@vodkavuitton Күн бұрын
Lmao
@jrichieander6832 2 жыл бұрын
I needed this
@JennaFW 8 ай бұрын
I was about to say “Me too”, but then I also wondered, in what way? What did you take out of it? (I’m trying to practice remembering my interpretation is not the only/correct one 🙏🏼 So your answer would help that 😌)
@ivyluray723 2 ай бұрын
Crazy to use the word immature, from my perspective. When you consider that someone might not be willing to do those things due to repeated mistreatment. And also I think any resentment at all is a sign to leave. I don’t resent any of my friends, and if I did they wouldn’t be my friends… hopefully y’all my point. Relationships should make you happy… and if they don’t, then make yourself happy, and then maybe you can be happy in relationships too
@monamonet1111 Ай бұрын
We both should get something better together then we had separate
@thomasgrabowski2202 Жыл бұрын
Yeah. Try relling that too my one sided ex.
@jewels3538 Ай бұрын
My ex husband was immature. He had resentment even after we talked about it before we got married. He didn't want to talk about it, he just looked for another woman and cheated on me.
@rshahid145 Жыл бұрын
So many lessons learned
@angelicadaley 7 ай бұрын
I’m grateful that he has reworded this. I understand it much better now than his first release of this answer!
@chetwalther-ep9zb 8 ай бұрын
I believe the 4 years of hell i went through with an ex was essentially me being the second form of resentment he describes while my girlfriend was the first.
@melepearl7916 11 ай бұрын
“You both should get something better than if you were separate”
@user-oq4cx4dp4i 19 күн бұрын
Good advice ❤
@trapper8377 9 күн бұрын
Mr. Peterson, how are you? And where do I start well? I like to say that we all live on the island of broken toys, Floating around in the middle of nowhere. As a result, we all have scars and our ill equipment To navigate this Bullshit Which is the way I think some on are island would have it Well, not today, sir, Not with men like you in the world Who are willing to stand up in the face of it And give freely These wise words that are foundational building blocks for humanity That ring true straight to my soul brother. Thank you, thank you, thank you. I love you. Prayers from the New Jersey pines
@LisaGemini 16 күн бұрын
Compromise is a dirty word for some people. I felt resentful in both marriages because I was told who to befriend, where to work and whom to dump! Thus I’m happy being single now. 😅
@DFatsaxx Ай бұрын
He making a relationship sound like a business deal 😂
@saintejeannedarc9460 Ай бұрын
He's breaking it down into more simple and workable transactions that are easier to deal w/ and take the emotional element out. Relationship problems can feel so complicated and overwhelming, because we have such strong emotions attached to them. Breaking it down this way takes the mount Everest feeling out of it.
@AFAskygoddess 15 күн бұрын
All relationships are transactions, whether you believe that or not. Transactions are exchanges and interactions between two people.
@vodkavuitton Күн бұрын
& you making a business deal sound like a relationship 😂😂 pick another slave ✌🏽
@relaxcalmly1742 Жыл бұрын
Well how about resentment towards the spouse that cheated? Both wants to move forward and restore the marriage but the betrayed is still stuck on the betrayal and wants to get help for fixing that as well but the unfaithful one wants to move forward with forgetting the past. Now those things keeps clashing into each other and it doesn’t seem to be going anywhere.
@melodypaz7247 11 ай бұрын
The one that cheated must accept that they are on a parole of a minimum of two years to rebuild trust with the betrayed party.
@Lena-so2lq 11 ай бұрын
Cheating is really barely worth "moving past." Unless you have 50 years in with grandkids, id take a long walk. Im better than that.
@TheSorcerer1 3 ай бұрын
Nah, man. Nah. No way. Are you really willing to open up again to the person that cheated on you? You're worth more than that. You deserve better. It's not worth reforging trust, because they made their choice. They thought about whether you're worth more to them than the person they wanted to sleep with or not, and the answer was no. They didn't care about your trust or your feelings. They felt lust and attraction towards someone else and that's what was most important to them. I strongly advise against trying to move past this. If they made this choice once, they'll make it again, especially if they just want to forget because that way, there will be no repercussions for them.
@vodkavuitton Күн бұрын
@@TheSorcerer1attention from attractive people when you have an attractive partner just heightens the attraction all around 😂🤷🏾♀️ nothing like having another person to think about while you're making love to the other. Iktsr
@RippleDrop. 21 күн бұрын
*If you feel negative, go for a run.*
@HaleyMartin-kd2gh 4 ай бұрын
I felt taken advantage of… I just feel so defeated. We love each other so much, but you have to fight for what you love. They have to fight too. You can’t just leave because it gets uncomfortable or they say things you don’t like. My mom and dad fought for years, been together 18 years. In marriage, you go through all of your vows. If one of you doesn’t fight, the other has to. Always. I’m in a relationship with my current boyfriend, but we are dating with intention of marriage. I’m not even married yet and I’m fighting with him like we are. We are like mirrors of each other. We are finding God again, so we can find common ground again. The truth hurts, but you know what will hurt me worse? Him leaving. Deep down we know we won’t leave each other, because we haven’t! He hasn’t hit me or anything, I can take it as much as I can dish it. He is a hard man and I am a tough woman. It’s so hard to break through to him, because the world hardened his heart so much. I know I can’t change him, but God can. I know my God. And don’t you dare tell me God is not real! Because I’m fighting so hard for this man and for God. I don’t care if you lost people, I lost people too! People go through terrible things with God. I’m going through it now with him! I’m not even married and my sanity is being tested. So is his. I have met my match, because no man can drive me this crazy. God knows this.
@_helloworld_7070 8 ай бұрын
Yes! Exactly
@chantakchantal6065 28 күн бұрын
I resented being ignored and to see our relationship was always last on the list and of course after giving so much I pulled the plug. Enough is enough, the immature other party always turned everything into an argument to avoid talking quietly.
@monsta2311 2 жыл бұрын
I was in the very situation. I worked 11 hour she didn't work at all n wanted it to stay that way....well we had a talk n she wasn't willing to budge so that's that...I'm better off without
@PurposelyObtuse 2 жыл бұрын
As she shouldn’t…
@Valor1610 2 жыл бұрын
@@PurposelyObtuse Women that are bums are worthless tbh especially when they try to get everything over the man's back
@JP-iz9cz Жыл бұрын
It depends, was she keeping the home and displaying good wifely attitudes (because remember, if you want kids one day she will be playing that role of the stay home mother and you need to know that she can do it well)? Or was she not being productive at all so that you still had to work when you got home from work? Did you want a family (future prospects) or a girlfriend (here and now)? Traditional roles worked for centuries, when both parties knew their place and committed to their role in the family.
@lizzydean4814 Жыл бұрын
@@JP-iz9cz women and men’s designated roles where different from how things played out. For all of human history the majority of the population were dirt poor and/or serfs and thus had to work. In the Middle Ages women did the same agricultural labor as men as well as the domestic labor. The idea that women have always stayed in the home and men have always been the bread winner has been the societal value, but for the majority of the population it wasn’t a reality. And what do you mean by worked? Obviously it didn’t because women were being oppressed legally, economically, and spiritually by the patriarchy while at the same time putting in as much work as men.
@JP-iz9cz Жыл бұрын
@@lizzydean4814 have you seen the buildings they made? The art work they created? The music? And you presume they were dirty poor serfs... They were no more dirty than you are. What fake propaganda have you been reading as history? That is a total fabrication of the facts. Women were not oppressed by any patriarchy you fool.
@charlesplante 2 ай бұрын
Its hard figuring out what was the problem when she leaves you for a crack head for no good reason but you still love her but she won't let you leave because she's always maybe pregnant.
@hope4463 6 ай бұрын
Some men cannot understand the advice you give to make anything better. Some men cannot communicate.
@dennisgartner6592 5 ай бұрын
🤦 Be honest with youself, that's simply not true. If a man tells you stuff you don't wanna here doesn't mean he can't communicate. Emotions aside, try to understand what he is telling you.
@redonionsyummy 4 ай бұрын
I feel he is resentful towards me, I ask what's wrong and only get the passive aggressive.'nothing' ..angry treatment..I'm walking on egg shells not knowing what I'm doing wrong..
@TheSorcerer1 3 ай бұрын
@@redonionsyummy Eggshells? I'd break a thousand eggs before letting myself live like that, and you should too. Just set an ultimatum, either they talk about it or you walk. Simple as. Why should you live with this mental strain? Yeah, maybe you did do something that really bothers them, but you can't know every little thing that might set them off unless they tell you. If they don't want to talk, there's nothing else you can do.
@TheSorcerer1 3 ай бұрын
@@redonionsyummy I'm glad you're moving past it. Marriage without communication is among the worst situations you could find yourself in, so it's good you're doing away with it. I'm sure it will be difficult for some time, but I trust you will be in a much better place mentally afterwards.
@redonionsyummy 3 ай бұрын
@@TheSorcerer1 thank you for your encouragement
@Tsuki7786 Ай бұрын
Thank you 🙏
@mstina7346 10 күн бұрын
Brilliant. And not that hard to do!
@annaburns2865 Ай бұрын
You can’t fix these kinds of relationships. When the other person is being immature and unwilling to take responsibility for oppressing you.
@maddyvonree3127 6 ай бұрын
What if you are resentful of a parent who abused you as a child and it is impossible to solve this problem though dialogue or boundaries
@TheSorcerer1 3 ай бұрын
Resentment stemming from being abused is justified. If you tried to talk it through, it's because you decided to grace an undeserving worm with your kindness. Sorry to say that about your parent. You decided you want to pursue a better relationship with them out of the goodness of your heart, if they don't want to talk about it, they don't deserve your love.
@CandyLemon36 7 ай бұрын
The transformative clarity of this piece is remarkable. A book with akin material was a major milestone in my life. "The Art of Meaningful Relationships in the 21st Century" by Leo Flint
@jopiluis3382 3 ай бұрын
I think I've seen your comment two times in two different videos - this is a sign! I was looking for a landmark book about relationships and then this shows up... thank you!
@oliverjamito9902 7 күн бұрын
Peterson time
@nichelehuseby 6 ай бұрын
Truth
@bonniefarley6256 Ай бұрын
People are not resentful, jealous,spiteful, etc for no reason. There is a root cause. Usually inequality. Inequality is the root cause of estrangements, break ups. . It's the number one cause
@vodkavuitton Күн бұрын
Tf are you talking about? And I'm not gonna have sympathy for your regrets when you realize ya jealous & spiteful for no reason🤷🏾♀️ talk that shit out with God & get tf out my life. A bitter mf always got some to be bitter about ✌🏽 tf on
@PhilipShawn 19 күн бұрын
If available
@a-parentlycoffee3868 5 ай бұрын
Long story short, I'm a mom of 3 of his 6 kids. I was the only one working for 5yr. He watched our kids but never did anything to help me. I was still the one to cook and clean and do it all. Now the roles have reversed but I cook and clean. He acts like it is a chore to get diapers because he still doesn't want to be responsible. He said i was acting ungrateful when I told him that I don't need him to buy me anything but take of the kids needs first. I feel broken and angry. I also feel like the only reason he wants to patch things up now is because of an upcoming court date for child support of his other kids.
@vodkavuitton Күн бұрын
Hahahaha
@mrspeace2u907 Жыл бұрын
JP is the man !
@leonabarkell1809 Ай бұрын
Exactly
@oliverjamito9902 7 күн бұрын
Peterson wake up! Time will say
@THENEONARCADE21 29 күн бұрын
I was being taken advantage of !!!!
@PhilipShawn 19 күн бұрын
"IF"
@dnk4559 Ай бұрын
Sadly in therapy I’ve had to come to terms that I am the scapegoat of my siblings. As I work through trying to stand up for myself in a healthy way I’ve had to see how abusive my siblings are and grieve their loss. It’s just not possible to have a relationship with people who are committed to misunderstanding you.
@vodkavuitton Күн бұрын
Ain't got no damn business trying to understand you no way. They are committed to seeking attention their bitter ass won't get. Don't know how many ways you can tell someone to get a life & stay tf out of yours for them to understand how irrelevant they are 🤷🏾♀️ sounds too much like relationship problems to me with people I'm not in any type of relationship with. Their mental illness & obsession is not my burden
@Vane-wk9eq Жыл бұрын
Where is the full video to this?
@firstlastname84 14 күн бұрын
If you're not allowed to talk about the specific things that you feel will create resentment, it's the latter
@ilovechucky7150 Ай бұрын
I am just angry my needs aren't met even though I've talked about this many times. Nothing changes. Maybe that's immature. That's okay. I'm tired of it of hanging on
@UserName-dd8pn 11 ай бұрын
Full video?
@BlackPearlMona369 2 жыл бұрын
He was feeling resentment because he was immature and extremely bad in expressing himself, his way was through through cursing, bad mouthing, physical, emotional and mental abuse...i was feeling resentment because I felt like I was taken advantage of and not being heard or appreciated... Divorce was the only way when such situation lasts for years... You feel stuck and not getting anywhere.... In may case, he was just having resentment not only towards but towards life in general...
@BlackPearlMona369 Жыл бұрын
@E. MacCarthymany thanks appreciated your interaction... absolutely i feel so free...you have a happy new year 💖
@BlackPearlMona369 Жыл бұрын
@E. MacCarthy dear, believe me. This was exactly my intention when i wrote this comment...i hope that women avoid falling in the same old holes... in my case, te KZfaq as a whole wasn't existed when i got married 10 years ago. This Level of awareness was not yet available... again thanks for dropping meaningful comments, appreciated 👍
@michaelcarter266 Ай бұрын
What if it is resentment in a family relationship and I believe the source is me not wanting to cause drama.
@Lady.Luck. 18 күн бұрын
I'm willing to bring it up. But they're not willing to do their share or they drop the ball
@lucindanonhebel5329 Жыл бұрын
Spot on as per usual! 👍
@debbiewilder4738 Жыл бұрын
How do you know if you're being in mature or it's worth fighting for?
@BottleofDreamswastaken Жыл бұрын
If after the argument or fight you can list way more things you appreciate about them than what you resent. And if the resentment comes from you not opening up, then at least try to make yourself known. Any previous codependents or victims of narcissistic abuse have a difficult time telling how they feel, even for safe people.
@chanmonymiller1698 3 ай бұрын
I have found it helps to have a mentor couple, a trustworthy older couple you both can go to when you're trying to figure things out or feel stuck. For us, it's our Pastor and his wife. But I think that's why a lot of people go to marriage therapy.
@tamkeensakeena7643 2 ай бұрын
How do you get over the immaturity? How do you know if it’s because of immaturity?
@oliverjamito9902 7 күн бұрын
Time....till can come as "i" AM PETERSON. Then WILL RECOGNIZED!
@kerryfat1697 2 ай бұрын
🤔just fine ur tru love.
@schak6946 6 ай бұрын
Good
@adamahmadhawwari8612 Жыл бұрын
Their are limits of everything . When your partner abduct your kids and steel your money and on top say the most intimate things to others or also say accuasatiins put in trouble with the law Thats not negotiable my dear doc
@oliverjamito9902 7 күн бұрын
Angels will say,
@oliverjamito9902 7 күн бұрын
Students why I shall not want? For all exalted and above in front of all thy ANGELS WHO PERSEVERE AND HEARD THE WORD AND ALL THY SHARED "i" AM HOSTS!
@AshleyHalls41 Жыл бұрын
❤Him
@jewel643 3 ай бұрын
From my experience the immature person would immediately choose #2 and consider their resentment justified, even if they truthfully are option #1.
@decipher8057 2 ай бұрын
I felt oppressed. I was definitely immature. So we had both those things off right off the bat. But that was a long time ago.
@nilsalmgren4492 3 ай бұрын
No need to be resentful, just go on with life and accept the person you married is what you married.
@marlenelindsey7638 29 күн бұрын
No negotiations with a man who became a literal “pimp”, unbeknownst to me. It’s ok to walk away or sometimes, run!
@carlaricks9143 3 ай бұрын
😘😘💋💋
@mariebarrett7177 Ай бұрын
They don't want to negotiate compromises, so then what..
@Faustinembeh_backup Жыл бұрын
👌😘💯
@ARolls-dd2zd Жыл бұрын
Where was I supposed to have learned negotiation skills when I had totalitarian parents? It certainly wasn't taught at university. All the communication skills in the world don't prevent male dominance and abuse, the church doesn't help. Damage is done now, on top of damage, done, finished.
@sexygabby30 Жыл бұрын
This ☝🏽
@Callummullans 2 ай бұрын
If someone tries to always be on your mind then it’s unhealthy. We’re part of a culture where this toxic expectation is normalised because people don’t fully understand what commitment is. It can be hard to pinpoint oppression because it’s not always obvious or intentional
@vodkavuitton Күн бұрын
When you keep doing the same shit that you know is wrong & the other person has asked you to stop but you're too far obsessed & rather make every excuse in the book to keep violating that person like you have the right knowing damn well the bottom line is you're a jealous coward who don't love yourself & live to taunt someone else's happiness that you can't find then it is very much so INTENTIONAL. Time to move on & idgaf WHY you don't like me but somehow can't seem to leave me tf alone
@aziaa.8663 6 ай бұрын
what if my boyfriend and i fought a lot but everytime he shouts at me and call me these hurtful words i dont do that im just careful with my words not to hurt his feelings but the resentment is creeping up on me i dont know what do anymore i tried talking to him in a discreet way but he doesnt listen and yells at me...and after yelling he turns up like nothing hanppened saying i love yous etc. but i felt so unheared, misunderstood and cant have my voice heared without him being angry and yelling at me the issue was he doeant like me reapeatedly asking him aboyt this girl he is so close with (to the point where he would tell her ou private stuff) and i got jealous to that girl and wanted reassurance from him i kept on asking if he like her or does he have intentions to date her if shes single those kinds of questions he answered me before that he doesnt but there were situations where i he went there to share his problems and theyre talking about inviting him to drinks which i caught so he didnt attend and i got suspicious and jealous. everytime i open up with him he yells me and call me bad names and hangs up the phone and curses accusing me of i was delusional or making him mad over this and now...i dont know what to do its hard to tapk to him i have rwsented him and could not contain my emotions i feel like bursting if ever well talk again coz i was so hurt with the past conversation we had
@user-nt9yv4lj9f 4 ай бұрын
Well she doesn't hang out with guy friends much, but she likes the idea of doing it. Now I'm really trying to have a good relationship with this girl but she has slight autism which could be the indication of her hiding some feelings and not communicating enough. I'm usually the one who wants to communicate and she doesn't. Instead she resorts to anger and walking away to think about what I'm saying, which I understandable to a degree but the anger and frustration has to be left at the door especially for communication I feel. Thoughts?
@thomasgrabowski2202 Жыл бұрын
Telling**
@oliverjamito9902 7 күн бұрын
ANGELS WHO PERSEVERE AND HEARD THE WORD WILL SAY, HOW'S HIS BOOK?
@jamesdelcol3701 7 ай бұрын
The stepson was master of my home for a little while. I was studying for my Industrial Hygiene exams and he forced his videogame into the home. It sounded like a stadium in my home. My ex supported him over me. I left. I'm not supporting a 24 year old man who is throwing jobs in the garbage left and right. Delinquent. I guess I could have negotiated with my ex a little more. She was ignoring me. I didn't want her son to come to our home I didn't trust it enough so I made him sign the new lease. He had nowhere to go. He got thrown out of his father's home for being rude to his wife. I tried so hard with this kid. He got me fired from two jobs. I was driving him to work every morning for 6 months to be the first man on the job every day. He didn't want to be labor, but there was an expert carpenter that was gearing up to teach him carpentry. I was setting him up to succeed so he could get his own place. My motive was I wanted to be alone with my girlfriend. We were really in love. Head over heels at first. She wasn't willing to abandon her alcoholic father and messed up family. She kept that toxic nonsense through the whole relationship.
@oliverjamito9902 7 күн бұрын
Students what is I SHALL NOT WANT? FROM WHOM?
@robertmadison1205 3 ай бұрын
Easy to make this statement; hard act on it.
@violentnewworld 4 ай бұрын
And what if it's both? And what if when attempting to talk, the other person shuts down and refuses to talk.
@TheSorcerer1 3 ай бұрын
There is no relationship without communication. That's what I think, anyway. You're better off without them, than living with them and regretting it. Just don't cheat on them, regardless of what the situation is.
@solobavarianswiss 9 ай бұрын
I love being a mature immature man it’s like your 21 forever
@GhostMonkey772 Жыл бұрын
Theres no negotiation with being oppressed you leave a toxic relationship that's what happens.
@TheSorcerer1 3 ай бұрын
It's always worth trying to talk about it. They might not be aware of how toxic they are. If they don't want to talk about it or gaslight you, then that's that. Just leave.
@GhostMonkey772 3 ай бұрын
@@TheSorcerer1 which happens 90 percent of the time.
@TheSorcerer1 3 ай бұрын
@@GhostMonkey772 True enough, sadly.
@oliverjamito9902 7 күн бұрын
Students will say, Peterson do ye need to be reminded! Remember Mouths boasting is from riches nor wealth as many faces exalted as above! Peterson who ye will say, How can a NAME EXIST?
@oliverjamito9902 7 күн бұрын
I shall not want will say, what is resentment? Students shared "i" AM will say come all old minds. Why ye all needed to be reminded? Bring all have written a books in front!
@micheleele7299 Жыл бұрын
Friendship that feels like I’m the student being controlled….subtle hints that I need to follow the guidelines of their strong practices or I’m no good & something bad will happen
@TheSorcerer1 3 ай бұрын
That's not friendship. I'm no expert, so take my advice with a grain of salt, but you have to talk to them about it. If they disregard your feelings and try to gaslight you, you ought to just leave. Again, this is just my opinion. Don't make your choice based on the opinion of some rando on the Internet.
@micheleele7299 3 ай бұрын
I’m relatively certain this person is now aware of my lack of true understanding of the situation. So I believe prompting a conversation with them about it more than likely wouldn’t bring me results. If they wanted to give me real clarity they could but choose not to so I don’t have any options at this point….
@TheSorcerer1 3 ай бұрын
@@micheleele7299 Friendships come and go. It's never a good feeling to break one off, but at least you'll have some peace of mind, right? I hope you will, at least.
@micheleele7299 3 ай бұрын
Thanks for your Advice…..It’s not about losing friendship so much as the fact that I’m pretty sure this person who is also a supervisor at my office seems to be trying to sabotage my position covertly…feels like I’m always under a microscope….
@TheSorcerer1 3 ай бұрын
@@micheleele7299 I cannot stress this enough, but as I said before, please do take anything and everything I say with a grain of salt, as I am wholly unaware of the exact dynamics of your workplace, and woefully under-qualified to speak on the matter of how best to approach your situation. You're better off seeking advice with people who've been in similar situations. All I can say is that you shouldn't let it get to you on a personal level. I find it healthy to separate the professional me from the private me. Of course, it can still get stressful, but it gets easier to deal with it when you know you didn't let work issues into your private life, or your private issues into your work life. Take a breather, look at the situation rationally. They're not doing it without a reason, and if you can't find the reason, they're doing it for some vain sense of superiority and dominance. Again, massive grain of salt to be taken with that advice there. Not even a grain of salt, more like a whole salt mine.
@oliverjamito9902 7 күн бұрын
Money come here in front remind unto Peterson! Money come here! How much is all these shared Feet to write a books? Time GATHER ALL THE BOOKS of this world. Bring all books upon the NEW Table made.
@Batwing2465 Ай бұрын
What do you do when the resentment continues to develop after doing exactly as you suggested, but your partner still doesn’t respond and nothing changes?
@nzingahoney Ай бұрын
Leave
@Batwing2465 Ай бұрын
@@nzingahoney wasn’t asking you
@nzingahoney Ай бұрын
@Batwing2465 🙏 wasn't expecting the Doc to answer
@iricellyperez2677 8 ай бұрын
Mine is opresión but they wont listen, dnt care too because its not their problem so what then?
@oliverjamito9902 7 күн бұрын
Time come here in front! Thy messenger have put all books upon thy New Table made from thy Hands. Without blood stains upon thy Hands. When the little TRUMPET WILL BLOW!
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