Me too

Something that helped me was going by elimination until I arrived to my most likely combo of Classic with a smaller amount of Romantic. And if I may, by your profile photo I think you could have a good amount of Classic essence, and maybe some Ethereal essence as well!

@@shironerisilk Oh yeah, you may, you're more than welcome. Thank you for taking the time to take a look at my face lol ❤ And thank you for saying that you see those beautiful essences in it

I agree

Tbh i cant think about any other one that suits me besides romantic

Exactly I have the same problem! It's so difficult to find clothes that flatter the romantic type while being modest. I also have ethereal/angelic essence so I'm finding vintage looking styles help achieve the flowy, romantic, modest look for me. Good luck!

It might be worth it getting inspo from soft gamine clothes but making them super-soft super-flowy textured, like the outfits where sg would have paper-y/stiffer/more shapely fabrics you could swap it for a silky or softer knit fabric + follow kibbe's suggestions for watercolor prints For tops I think you could try fitted high necks and/or sleeves with silky fabrics! it will keep the romantic draping on the arms but stay not revealing. for bottoms I would use the same idea with fitting at the ankles if that's okay w you If opting for a skirt it could be, again, something draping but long, and of heavy fabrics like jersey, maybe wool + really small pleats or gatheres (to keep the flow) Probably multi-layered items would work too (jersey bottom layer + chiffon, thin wool or any airy, kind of see through, fog-like texture top layer). I see this idea is mostly represented in skirts, but you probably can find this soft cloudy texture in tops! also it might work the other way around with wearing a big soft draping sweater and skinny/straight/narrower jeans while tucking in the sweater if it's soft enough or just tucking it on one side if you don't want to show the waist (won't make you loose the shape, but won't show too much) Also you could add bigger frills on the edges of the pieces, to give it all even more flow. the idea is like clothes would have a like a waterfall-y statue-like gravity-in-clothes draping vibe and they reveal only the body shape (no skin) and only in movement and top sides of the body (shoulders for exp) I'm no professional but just a kibbe enthusiast, but I hope this can help!♡

In my experience it’s impossible. The more I cover up the more ‘sexual’ I look because it makes my boobs look even bigger. If I wear something loose/sack-ish? My boobs and butt still stick out enough to show shape. The best medium was finding a balance between a bit of revealing clothing (balances out my body shape by opening it up and drawing the eye away from my chest) and not letting it be revealing at the same time. Lol it sounds annoying and difficult because it is 🙃 to a degree I just dress how I want and pretend no one can see me or sexualize me

Layers, girl, layers. 😂 I grew up in the church and went through puberty young (I was a 36C at 13 🙈), so I was getting the modesty talks early on. For church, my go to generally was A-line dresses or skirts, because it’s easy to find longer ones (I liked a smidge over my knees or tea length if I was going to wear a low heel) paired with a soft cardigan or sweater. I could tuck the sweater in a little (not snug) to the top of my skirts for a little waist definition, belt a cardigan over a dress, or I’ve always loved those wrap sweaters because they made me think of ballerinas and what’s more romantic than that? Of course a lace tank under anything a little too low cut, or given I have longer hair I’ve intentionally styled my hair to provide a little extra coverage too. I find texture and color really helps give off the romantic essence as well- buffalo plaid layered over a turtleneck might be modest and keep everything covered but it’s hardly romantic, whereas a pastel colored sweater in a soft fabric with a boatneck neckline exudes cozy romantic vibes while keeping things modest.

Yes! I commented about this on one of her other posts! I don't mind dressing sensual and have always enjoyed it but there's a time and a place. I graduate this semester and am going to start working with k-12 so I need ideas for how to change up my style in a modest and professional way. I want to look decent and not frumpy but I don't want to wear anything to "show off curves" while I'm working with children.

I also look so bad in classic clothes and natural flows isn’t for me. Ingenue could work (I don’t have many of those clothes anymore, but I would look like a 12 year old lol 😂). I am not sure if I am romantic. But I just feel at home when watching KZfaq videos about romantic essence or reading articles about it or even seeing the clothes, colors and aesthetic of it. It’s also my favorite essence to dress myself into before knowing these essences. ❤️🔥

Feeling like Arwen is always a positive vibe ✨️ 😌

I've seen people type her essence as a Gamine like Audrey Hepburn. I think she's probably a Classic Gamine. She might be a Flamboyant Natural but I haven't paid that much attention to her or seen typing videos on her. She looks tall but not too sharp like a dramatic.

This is so great to hear, I think really hard about the brands I work with so I’m really glad that came across ☺️☺️☺️

I'm the same, Romantic body type with a Romantic-Ingenue face. I'm often told I'm much younger looking than I am and always have done. I think the thing that throws me off with the Romantic body type/essence is the idea of womanly sensuality. I don't *feel* like I exude anything remotely close to that, so every time it's mentioned I get a feeling of dissociation. It's probably (most definitely) a confidence thing.

@@peachesandcream8753 omg same! i definitely don't feel like I exude sensuality either- but i think you're very right that it's a lack of confidence thing- and the fact that being mistaken for younger than I am just makes me feel more ingenue than romantic. Even if I very much identify as a romantic from the neck down.. lol and i've had multiple items of clothing over the years w/ ruffles (usually a recommendation for romantics) that always seem to become a favorite.

@@revaconescu6120 Ruffles for me too! I also really like lacey, or ruffled, high-collared blouses but they're so hard to find. I also love blouses that have a bow around the neck that you can tie around. Yes to the feeling of being more ingenue than romantic. I definitely feel like this and it makes me feel like I'm not adult enough to be sensual looking, if that makes any sense?

@@peachesandcream8753 LOL yes! Im not adult enough for that either- but also i'm 31 and often feel like a grouchy old lady so technically i AM adult enough for looking sensual but still.. it just seems off. between a lack of confidence, feeling more ingenue, and basically only wearing leggings for the last 2.5 years, dressing sensual seems pretty foreign right now.

I have this as well but was told as a teen that I have sex appeal despite never wearing revealing clothing. I think mannerisms and confidence play a role with this that isn’t spoken about when it comes to clothes. People assume clothes will do all the confidence for someone when that’s not always true. I never liked the attention is brought me because of actual incidents that resulted in my safety as a female feeling not safe.

That's an interesting take on essence! I like this idea.

I think boiling it down to shapes would help! For example, dramatic is a bold, angular kind of intense. I view it as very sharp lines. So if you look good in more stiff fabrics with structural details, you've likely got a dramatic essences. If you're romantic however, you'd want the clothes to be soft and drapey - making more rounded silhouettes. The same logic carries through when looking for prints. Overall it's more nuanced than that for sure (before anyone comes for me), BUT I do find looking at the shapes makes a huge difference

I used to have a similar trouble. What helped was remembering that Dramatic is lean, sharp, and angular in direct contrast to Romantic softness and rounded shapes. (Joke's on me, the gal who was afraid of being labeled Romantic: 30% of my essence is just that.)

@@AngryTheatreMaker I think my difficulty comes from being steeped in Kibbe for so long. I’m a romantic in kibbe so even if I had majority dramatic essence from my face I would never be able to wear sharp silhouettes with heavy fabrics because it wouldn’t accommodate the curves in my body. Since so many of us have mismatched essence to body type it’s kind of hard and have essence blends it seems hard (at least to me) to distinguish the differences even between extremes. I have an easier time looking at kitchener’s examples of women he calls highly romantic like Sophia Loren and Liz Taylor, but again both those women look really intense to me, though I suppose in a different way from dramatics-I can’t tell though lol, I literally can only pick up on intensity it seems.

@@amandamacabre ^

@@aoifecalderon383 Ah! I get you. For a long time I thought I was a Flamboyant Gamine; in all probability I was confusing the playful Gamine yang with the more intense Dramatic yang. While it is true that I have shoelace levels of gamine essence, my own blend is majority dramatic-romantic-ethereal. Small wonder I was confused. Add in a deep reluctance to embrace my romantic essence, and you get some idea of the hang-ups I had.

That’s so great to hear, I’m glad you found it helpful ☺️☺️☺️

I am 5’4 super skinny, tiny hands and feet, but long arms and legs.. I wonder if I’m a gamine? I look long and lean but people are usually suprised I’m shorter than them. 😅😂

@@dirtroaddestiny nah i think thats prolly dramatic...i mean ur type might be dramatic type. gamines have short hands and legs but broad or large feet/palms. They also look smaller than they are supposed to. Yours is opposite. Also idk why i said 'essence' here. Essence is ur face. I'm talking about my body type(and you too). Your body type is likely to be dramatic and mine, gamine but you should look deeper. My essence (face) is actually either natural or ingenue.

@@aladdout9454 your right i think I may be more dramatic body type instead of gamine I’m just a little short hehe 🙂

Btw u look a lot like the French singer Julia (huge compliment)

Same. I'm 5'3, 37-29-43. So I can look cutesy because of my height, but also "sexy" because of my body. 🤷🏾‍♀️

That’s so lovely to hear, it’s great to know what works in my videos!! ♥️

Hi😊

I believe it's the dramatic, angelic/ethereal essences.

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