Stay strong ladies!!! Us christian men are finding it very challenging to find Godly women too! Especially in secular areas like New York. But I think it’s better to be single then to be in the wrong relationship
@InTheRiver22 жыл бұрын
That's very true however, I've been single for 10 years and I'm getting tired of being alone. Heck, I am exhausted if being alone. All I do is work and go home to my 3 cats. My family is all in Europe, my son lives in VA and I'm in KY and I hate this place. I'm normally a very upbeat person but gosh, I'm just tired of not having a companion, a husband!!!!
@shellbellplayz17112 жыл бұрын
Men my age don’t pursue. They sit there and wait for the lady to pursue them. If it’s Gods’s Will it will all work out with the person He has for you
@db28882 жыл бұрын
@ Don, it’s kinda nice to know it’s not just us women who are the minority. lol. I never realized it’s hard for the men, too. It always seems there are more single women than men in the Church. I agree with you that it’s better to be single than with the wrong person. I have been waiting/praying for twenty years and will continue to do so before I would ever settle for the wrong person. I’ll die single if need be.
@alekhorsman69722 жыл бұрын
@@db2888 it is quite hard for everyone honestly lol 😂 coming from a Christian man, but we keep on keeping on, we just have to put our faith in god that he will open the door when he feels like it is the right time I guess
@CH3353N1NJ452 жыл бұрын
Finally some people who are Bold in Jesus and naming where there from. Personally I'm from the Northside of Brisbane Queensland Australia.
@Classycaramel42 жыл бұрын
Dating in 2022 is extremely difficult especially as a believer. I always meet men who say they believe in God, but they don't live their life like it, at all. They still go out to clubs, get drunk and expect sex 🤦🏾♀️ so I've learned to stop trying to control my dating life and just give it to God 🙌🏾
@princesswithinnerbeauty44072 жыл бұрын
For Real! 😅I’ve met men who meet my List, EXCEPT FAITH 🤦🏻♀️ That’s the only thing 😒🤷🏻♀️
@joshyazel12002 жыл бұрын
Same for women... belive me
@ladennayoung29392 жыл бұрын
Don't even focus on that. This is probably your season for being delivered from childhood trauma, and trauma that you have encountered in life as a whole. In the mighty name of Jesus Christ of Nazareth. Getting to really know who and what God is to and for you for yourself, and in turn getting to really know yourself, for the very first time. In the mighty name of Jesus Christ of Nazareth. You don't know WHAT God is really trying to call you to. We are to make God our everything, and focus on doing HIS will above ALL things. And anything that He have for us. HE WILL bring to pass in HIS time, and in HIS way. IN THE MIGHTY NAME OF JESUS CHRIST OF NAZARETH. AMEN.
@ladennayoung29392 жыл бұрын
@@princesswithinnerbeauty4407 LET GO OF THE LIST. Unless the Holy, Spirit have led you to go that route. If God have marriage in mind for you, and for you. Your GOD ordained spouse may look NOTHING like that list. God knows what you need, and have preordained EVERYTHING for your life. A man and woman is supposed to come together to do God's will and God's will ALONE. Yes. You may get to be intimate with them, have children (if that's what you want), have a home, or whatever the case maybe. But marriage is WAY bigger, deeper, and more then that. God bring a husband and wife together to do the will of their Father. Make sure that you are NOT idolizing a man, wedding, or marriage. Ask the Lord to search your heart, and take ANYTHING that's not like HIM out of it. In the mighty name of Jesus Christ of Nazareth. I pray your strength in the LORD, and that YOU choose to grow in GOD'S love, knowledge, strength, mercy, grace, compassion, faith, forgiveness, and passion. IN THE MIGHTY NAME OF JESUS CHRIST OF NAZARETH. AMEN.
@moniquelampkin72122 жыл бұрын
Bianca I feel your sentiments as a 53 year old single woman. These men want sex in the body of Christ. Most are not sanctified men, the church and homes (families) failed to develop boys/men due to sin. Mark we have faith otherwise many of us would have disobeyed God years ago and compromised. Caveat: I do not comment to be disrespectful. Scripture does not tell us to date; if applying a biblical (spiritual approach) Men's Support Recovery Groups are needed in the body of Christ in order that they can be healed in their souls (abuse, illicit activity, etc) and be mentored to cultivate a Godly lineage. Applies to females too.
@JvSaiyan2 жыл бұрын
As a man I recognize my need for the Lord, without Him I am no one, working on my areas and dying to myself and fleshy desires everyday. Renewing my mind, focused on growing both spiritually and in my career to be able to provide, protect and lead my future spouse and children. Don’t give up virtuous women, we are out here, fighting the good fight. Trust the Lord, His perfect timing and pray for your future husband. My prayer for my future wife is that she loves the Lord above all things and that when the time comes the Holy Spirit will confirm it to both of us, so that we may glorify Him and fulfill the purpose we were sent to this earth.
@alekhorsman69722 жыл бұрын
Same here
@kilodeltawhisky15042 жыл бұрын
Nicely stated!
@messengersoflight71312 жыл бұрын
Amen
@maggieateka2 жыл бұрын
May God answer our prayers
@god5636162 жыл бұрын
Thank you man of God.
@misslinda7722 жыл бұрын
All of my single friends have married Christian men. All of them! God provided.
@Steve_the_Lion Жыл бұрын
Then they're not single are they. Duh!
@misslinda772 Жыл бұрын
@@Steve_the_Lion Past dense, yes. Current tense, no.
@MelissaSusan199711 ай бұрын
Thank you for letting others know and for being positive!! It’s very encouraging to hear.
@jasminealexia5 ай бұрын
Love it! Thank you for this 🙌🏽❤
@Rachel-tt7qe2 жыл бұрын
Men are absolutely under attack! I started watching AGW as a single and I am now in a Christ centered marriage. Thank you for all the wisdom over the years. Your videos guided me through dating and helped guide me to a very godly man! Stay strong ladies! They’re out there! 😅
@KevvoLightswift2 жыл бұрын
Thanks for the encouragement, sister. Us men are truly under attack. I’m glad you found a man after God’s own heart.
@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger2 жыл бұрын
Thanks for sharing this!
@SheepofTheShepherd-nu3lz2 жыл бұрын
I can say as 49/50 year old guy, it's true And for us Christian men, the struggle is real
@loeweal56412 жыл бұрын
What´s AGW?
@maeganjames24902 жыл бұрын
lol are they really?!
@sunshinesunflowerz16472 жыл бұрын
1: Submit to God and put more faith into his sovereignty. 2: Focus more on the solutions than the problem. 3: Don’t use a lack of godly men; for as an excuse to date godless men. 4: Make sure your view of biblical masculinity is accurate. 5: Be visible; and don’t use the truth, that “men should pursue,” as an excuse to hide away at home. 6: Focus on becoming the type of woman that a godly man wants to pursue. Question: Where do Godly men hang out, other than church?
@irenicrose2 жыл бұрын
Answering your question, they are everywhere else in the world. We know Christians by their fruit, so if a guy seems to be showing signs of being a Christian it might be worth asking. Sometimes you also can just tell. I’ve personally noticed when I come across Christian guys in the wild, they genuinely seem to care about people and put in an effort to be like Christ to everyone. Quick to listen, slow to speak, slow to anger is how they usually are.
@CH3353N1NJ452 жыл бұрын
To answer your question. Usually online in a lobby for Destiny 2 or on a Trail somewhere in Southeast Queensland.
@MediaHappeningNow2 жыл бұрын
Try parks. Nature parks. They could be going for a walk, perhaps walking their dog... Riding their bike... Fishing etc. Look for those than shine with God's light in this fallen world.
@winniecash16542 жыл бұрын
@@irenicrose "Christian men in the wild." 🤣 that's funny.
@tristanmaxwell84032 жыл бұрын
The bar?
@scotopicvision2 жыл бұрын
As a single Christian man, we get frustrated too. Many women on Christian dating sites are not Christian and basically tell me they are looking for a “good guy” because they got burnt on other sites. In addition many other women practice “spiritualism” thinking it’s the same thing. So it gets frustrating weeding through these people. Then you finally meet a Christian woman but she bought into feminism and blames men masculinity for the patriarchy. Or they claim to be “strong and independent” but that is really code for having a bad attitude with lack of self control of their emotions. Which is not strong at all….then when you try to exercise chivalry by opening the door for them and get mocked for it…us men get just as frustrated with the dating process….I didn’t even get started on how they ask for your financial status on the first date!
@donh15722 жыл бұрын
This is so spot on!!! When I hear “I don’t need a man” or “I’m strong and independent” …I usually pay for the meal and leave. Life is to short to deal with bitter women
@andreeaburian14082 жыл бұрын
I agree w what you said and as a woman of God, what you mentioned there isn't ok for a woman of God to b like.
@christinelawrence43152 жыл бұрын
I was previously married to a worldly narcissist who nearly destroyed my life. As a Christian woman GOD took me out of that marriage 11 years ago for which I am grateful .. I still believe in genuine, loyal, mature love not the stuff made of fairytales. Deep down in our hearts women truly would love to have a man .. not to be used for financial gain, money etc.. to complete us and for us to complete him ... yes a gentleman longing to be chivalrous, a man to be a protector and a woman to be vulnerable (not weak) but to allow that "right of passage". The world is corrupted by Satan and "his" rules and unfortunately women have got it wrong completely when they say "I don't need a man".. whilst the world may have gained a lot for women's freedoms we are truly poorer for having lost so much in not allowing men to be real men!! God bless you x. #RealWomanHere
@joshyazel12002 жыл бұрын
Another great point, yes!
@garlicgirl31492 жыл бұрын
As a woman, 😲 I had heard my brother complain but you know... that's my brother 😅. So it is true. Ugh!
@BW_Reformation2 жыл бұрын
It’s so hard to find a man willing to wait until marriage. Every “Christian” guy has disagreed and disappeared when I didn’t want to compromise.
@JAKEBrakeModel942 жыл бұрын
Us guys are having the same issue. I think so many self identifying Christians are so used to men/women being so open to sex that it’s hard to “put the genie back in the bottle” so to speak
@oaklandsoldier8520 Жыл бұрын
It's the guys who you are attracted to that are that way. What about those guys that you put in the friend zone? Those guys are willing to wait. Give those guys a chance too.
@parler8698 Жыл бұрын
There are many counterfeits.
@cjg1832 Жыл бұрын
Men should wait for marriage, but unfortunately women have already slept with several dudes. A man is more willing to wait for women who have been waiting their whole life, but when women sleep around, men will no longer value them enough to commit to them or wait. That is just the consequences of sin. You can't have several sexual encounters, or a promiscuous past and then later wake up and feel entitled to a Man who values u enough to wait. Natural consequences will still exist.
@neff02 Жыл бұрын
It's good the left showing their true colors and intent which wasn't for your good but their personal gratification as if you were a tool to try out. Thank God for the no's and closed doors. Are the guys letting you know off the bat where they stand or are you telling your boundries 1st and they pretend to be on board till they see you're committed to your boundaries and standards according to God's way?
@bluebirdie_2 жыл бұрын
Porn has really taken a toll on men and caused a lot of apathy and/or disrespect towards women. From personal experience, it breaks down relationships fast. I want to marry, but so many Christian men have this problem and I’m not going to go through that abuse again. So I wait.
@DetailEnthusiast2 жыл бұрын
Wait on the Lord and make sure he/she is healed from previous relationships. I believe I lost the Woman I prayed for because I wasn't completely healed. I also didn't know what to expect going from a non-believer to a believer. I miss her and repent daily for the way I treated her. 😞😞😞
@josephinemutuwa32492 жыл бұрын
I don't think you should beat yourself up like that. Forgive yourself and let it go 🥺
@samp6192 жыл бұрын
There comes a time where you should move on. Pray and see of God will open the door again. If not, either way, forgive yourself and move on. You don't know what you don't know, and you didn't know what you didn't know. See now that God has done a new thing in your life! Pray and seek Him daily and see how He can enrich your life now! We are to be a people of peace.
@god5636162 жыл бұрын
God is near to the brokenhearted but I believe it is the devil that is keeping you bound. Thinking of her obsessively, feeling her presence when she's not there, many dreams of her this is the devil that does this to keep you sad and chained to what was than moving forward. The bible says in Romans 8:1 : Therefore, there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus, meaning you shouldn't feel condemned after already asking for forgiveness. God doesn't operate like this where your begging for forgiveness. YOU ARE HIS SON THAT HE LOVES. You have no idea who God is going to bless you with once you give this pain and person over to him and for real let it go. Its not a magic trick but its constantly asking God to help you move forward and thanking God for a new beginning and you will eventually wake up and not think of them anymore. There is no one that has left your life that God wouldn't replace that is 10x better TRUST ME! You are in a place now where you need to #1: Break the soul tie bond created for her as an idol in place of God #2: Get into Godly self loving yourself. Get into your Word so that your identity can be rooted in Christ. #3 Speak Scriptures over yourself because God says he has called you fearfully and wonderfully made. With this you are on the step to be the best you that You can be. EVERYONE MAKES MISYAKES, but we gotta get back up again! Prayer to break soul tie: kzfaq.info/get/bejne/och2p6-T3KvLgYE.html / spirit spouses: kzfaq.info/get/bejne/bJp5layZrM6cZqc.html
@me-hi9dp2 жыл бұрын
I understand exactly how you are feeling. I broke up with my boyfriend for over six years, last summer, and although I was very sure of my decision then, I have been questioning if it was right, and feeling guilty for hurting him. I also really need to let him go, and look forward instead of behind. I love the verse in Jeremiah 29,11 which says: "For I know the plans that I have for you, declares the Lord. Plans to prosper you and not to harm you. I will give you a future and hope." We need to let him heal our hearts. ♥️♥️ I love the other comments here, they gave me new strengt and will to move forward. Thank you 🙏
@shellbellplayz17112 жыл бұрын
Keep looking to the Lord and keep praying. Sometimes He is still growing and preparing you for the one He has for you even if the hard times you encounter are with that person 💜🙏 I
@MediaHappeningNow2 жыл бұрын
Every time I meet a Christian woman... Or one that claims to be Christian...she wants to have sex outside of marriage. Far too many people want to Cherry pick which things of the bible they want to follow. You must be 100% for God... And love Him with all your heart.
@Zayithyah2 жыл бұрын
Amein. I think they call it tota scriptura, or something.
@maggiesalle22562 жыл бұрын
I am so sorry to hear that. You are right to avoid them. Christians are better off single than compromising. Not all of us are that way. Please know that.
@MediaHappeningNow2 жыл бұрын
@@maggiesalle2256 I know you're not all like that 👍👍 But unfortunately, those that are like you are one in a million today... quite literally 🙂🙏🏻
@MediaHappeningNow2 жыл бұрын
@@Zayithyah Yes, that is correct. Also known as sola scriptura 👍👍
@Zayithyah2 жыл бұрын
@@MediaHappeningNow Yes, Iagree with Sister Maggie, not all of us are like that. There are some of us who believes that virginity shiould be a gift to our future husband.
@kate_fairchild_2372 жыл бұрын
Wow, a message from God. And honestly we are never truly single, we are with God, when we are not dating. Just remember that. Not having someone is a time to do things you want with God, including hobby, career, and anything within God's will.
@Steve_the_Lion Жыл бұрын
But what about Christian women that want marriage and children?
@godzfamileeful2 жыл бұрын
I recently had a man repeatedly ask me if he could pray for me! I was shocked and so pleased. God gave me hope that there are good Single men still out there
@vanilla1353 Жыл бұрын
Wow, that’s amazing!! Praise God!! Just be careful who you let pray for you some are from/of the enemy 🙏❤️🔥🙏
@dididisunАй бұрын
If someone INSIST to so something for you, even praying.. be cautious. There are many religious narcissistic men going to church to trap Godly women too
@amyhenningsgard861816 күн бұрын
Be cautious, some people use religion to manipulate others.
@JAKEBrakeModel942 жыл бұрын
I’ll add some personal practical advice as a Christian man: - Refrain from being overly picky in trivial areas with men - Try to stop rejecting good suitors so frequently.. beware of holding out for a “better deal” - Beware of heavily pursuing a career in replacement of looking for a spouse… it gets harder for women to find good quality partners as they get older - Reject cultural doctrines that conflict with biblical teaching (feminism etc) This repels Christian men instantly. - Develop feminine attributes if needed. Our cultural pushes women to be masculine & men to be feminine. Reject this wholeheartedly - Beware of who you draw influence from. Do you have more cultural voices influencing you than biblical voices? Who are your friends? Are they a good influence? - Of course, follow everything Mark said in this video😎
@god5636162 жыл бұрын
Great Advice, but "Beware of heavily pursuing a career in replacement of looking for a spouse": Doesn't it say he who finds a good wife finds favor with the Lord in Proverbs? Men have to step that up first. Its not for women to be chasing.
@JAKEBrakeModel942 жыл бұрын
@@god563616 sorry, could you clarify what you’re saying? I didn’t understand how that verse related to that point. All I saw saying, is I see a lot of women burying themselves in things that men don’t look for in wives (careers / degrees). Essentially wasting away years pursuing careers and degrees when those years are best used for looking for a spouse.
@misslee37002 жыл бұрын
@@JAKEBrakeModel94 Amen!!!
@andreeaburian14082 жыл бұрын
hi, it would b cool if you were from the Uk. I like hoe you think. :)
@amandaspaintinglessons99082 жыл бұрын
@@JAKEBrakeModel94 We have to get careers so we can pay our bills.. and buy food.. and so we can support ourselves if a man becomes abusive and we have to leave.
@samanthabeaty45782 жыл бұрын
I think it's important for us (meaning women) to pray for men and the attack on masculinity.
@SheepofTheShepherd-nu3lz2 жыл бұрын
Thanks for your honesty Not many women will say this And as a 49/50 year old Christian male, I have had my share of Ladies that I believe have the Jezebel Spirit
@joshyazel12002 жыл бұрын
Thank you
@horschiday94492 жыл бұрын
There is truly an attack on masculinity... and femininity as well. We live in an era where both genders are being attacked and confusion reigns.
@vanilla1353 Жыл бұрын
@@SheepofTheShepherd-nu3lz Yep the Jezebel spirit is seriously going around. We need to pray.
@lunewyorker4 ай бұрын
Feminism is the big problem! 😢
@dirtcop112 жыл бұрын
The one thing that stood out to me was that the godly women and godly men are not recognizing each other. The Bible says "By their works you will know them..." We need to pay attention to what people do and not as much to what people say. I can say "I am a godly man," but if I act like an ungodly man, I am an ungodly man. The same is true of women, how we behave says more than what we profess.
@katejohnson5083 Жыл бұрын
Amen
@amyhenningsgard861816 күн бұрын
Definitely true!
@Joy_M507 Жыл бұрын
This was very helpful. So discouraging meeting men who say they are physically, emotionally and spiritually attracted to me but yet still don’t find me romantically attractive to pursue. I refuse to compromise my standards, so I will remain faithful in God’s timing. If it be His will, I will be found by the right man He has purposed for me. Thank you for sharing!
@bradandrews777 Жыл бұрын
That would be an odd response MG. I would certainly pursue someone I found attractive who was also attracted to me (quite unlikely now). I can't understand. They could just be a player who just knows enough Christianese to fit in. I might not pursue the way you wanted me to, but that would be another issue, especially since I still am a strong loner and quite the introvert and geek/nerd, even at my age.
@susandumbill880511 ай бұрын
I heard that there are christian single men who want a girlfriend, but are afraid to commit to marriage. Result: they string you along, for years, if you're not careful. They're not being honest, & they're time wasters. Having a girlfriend gives them greater status, & that may be their motive to have you around. So selfish. I don't know what else is wrong with them, I mean why would you date someone you don't find attractive? Or do they have LGBTQ issues they may be trying to hide? Maybe, with some. In my '60's now, I'd advise any woman to just stop such a relationship. You're wasting your time, your life, when you could be dating someone who is genuinely attracted to you and interested in you as a potential mate. Far better off single than with the wrong person.
@winnumber1016 ай бұрын
There could have been someone else who they wanted to pursue at the same time, not that you're in the wrong at all, but as a guy, that's what that could mean
@bongiweqilishane43792 жыл бұрын
Many Christian men don't even want to wait until marriage anymore
@danielapazvillalobos44462 жыл бұрын
That is so true. I remember being frustrated for years and also for the fact that I'm on the autism spectrum which makes the thing MORE difficult in terms of finding someone. But in this singleness I've learned to trust in God, and he is so good, I still have faith in his power and sovereignty.
@garlicgirl31492 жыл бұрын
I have noticed over the past ten years the assault on the family in the USA ( I can't speak for other countries). Specifically, the assault on men in the family. I am concerned about the young men...of all cultures. I have noticed the young men have gone delinquent. No vision, guidance, structure, goals, ties to family or appreciation for God. I could go on but I ask we pray for the family and parents.
@willcoleman20142 жыл бұрын
Totally on point regarding the feminisation of many churches. Good comment.
@ladennayoung29392 жыл бұрын
Sometimes we are honestly not as ready to receive a husband/marriage ourselves. Not like we think we are. Trust me. Just because you desire it and crave it. Don't mean you are ready to receive it, and don't mean it's your season for it. In the mighty name of Jesus Christ of Nazareth. And don't always mean that it's GOD'S will for your life, in Jesus name. It is what it is. Some things we don't want to hear or accept. But we must choose to learn to receive and digest the things. That we are NOT ready to hear or receive. In the mighty name of Jesus Christ of Nazareth. Amen.
@hopeannauhupafagma9462 Жыл бұрын
Amen
@bradandrews777 Жыл бұрын
True, but waiting a long time is rarely a good thing in this area. God laid out the plan of marrying young for a reason. Can't rejoice in the "wife of your youth" if you both were quite old when you married! It can still work, but those cases are rarer than I would certainly like.
@rumjar19862 жыл бұрын
I'm not a woman, obviously lol, but I'm having trouble finding the Christian women, but I hold onto the promise that he has a great woman out there for me. Just so hard when to be patient but also proactive in the search.
@sarahkoestler50722 жыл бұрын
Just like anything in life...good comes to those who faithfully wait. . .
@kealepennington23762 жыл бұрын
Pursue God first and everything will be added unto you. Not the things of which you want personally, but the things of which are God's desire for you which becomes the desire of your heart when you pursue him.
@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger2 жыл бұрын
Amen, put God first, and pursue the good he wants for you.
@KevvoLightswift2 жыл бұрын
Well said.
@lifeofCierra2 жыл бұрын
Amen !
@PreciousdaughterofChrist4 ай бұрын
Amen💖💖💕
@angelicvisions94942 жыл бұрын
All of your videos are great, but honestly I feel this is one of the BEST videos I’ve seen regarding relationships for women and how to date with everything going on right now. It’s extremely relatable and I love how you did not sugarcoat anything. Nothing but truth and sound advice in this video! 😄👍
@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger2 жыл бұрын
So glad yo found this helpful!
@ruemm2 жыл бұрын
I will wait for God's timing. Each time I hear that single women, why stay at home and expect your husband to find you. As if we need to put ourselves "out there" to actually meet your spouse from God. You see some women overdoing their visits to places unnecessarily but I may be wrong. I realise that nomatter what we do or don't do, no matter where we are or are not, I believe we will meet when God says it is the right time. Afterall, singlehood is too a gift from God to focus on Him. I see a lot of people do otherwise and it can be misleading. I pray for a good man from God. That's all. Thank you AGW for this video. Feeling blessed😇
@ashleyrobertson3413 Жыл бұрын
I am a follower of Christ. I am 32 years old and single. I am praying for God to put the right man in my life who is also a follower of Christ. Struggling with being a single follower of Christ. Thank you for a great message.
@monkaZETTA Жыл бұрын
I think you should make yourself visible and vulnerable. Let people know that you're single, and you're ready to mingle.
@harpersnyder22978 ай бұрын
Cool bro
@cindeed44222 жыл бұрын
It’s so hard to date today as a Christian woman. I just schooled myself and leaned how to date again. I learned to pray to God for what I need and want. God spoke to me and told me: “Don’t chase. Let them chase you. Just serve me in the meantime”. That’s what I am doing. If it’s God’s will for my life, a husband will find me. In the interim I will remain single. Singleness is not a curse. Paul said so. Thank you for this video. I’ve been watching for the past few years. I love your content.
@neff022 жыл бұрын
Yes God's Holy Word states "... a man that finds a wife finds a good thing..." Not a woman who finds a husband. If the man doesn't pursue, he's definitely not the one for you and it's not in a position to be The Godly spiritual leader and head that a husband is called to be in Jesus, at that time. Sounds like you are wise and going about it the right way. May the Lord bless and keep you and reveal your Boaz(maybe not so much older than you lol) at the most appropriate time. God's timing is never early and never late. #TobyMac 😄
@joshyazel12002 жыл бұрын
Try being a single Christian man and looking for a single Christian woman yet all they want is a man who has money or this job or that job...
@dianalang38442 жыл бұрын
@@joshyazel1200 All Christians should want Jesus and His Will first and foremost….everything else comes from purring Him first
@SheepofTheShepherd-nu3lz2 жыл бұрын
@@dianalang3844 Amen to that
@joshyazel12002 жыл бұрын
@@dianalang3844 it's what I have been doing but here's single me still because of the aforementioned reason...
@god5636162 жыл бұрын
When God told me that marriage was in his perfect will for my life when I didn't want to get married at the time I prayed " Lord you knew what generation I would be born into and when the assault on men and marriage would take place. Help me to keep my trust and faith in you no matter what I hear and see. Let your will be done and promises be fulfilled in my life". And though I've been more than disappointed I trust in due season it will work out for his good in Jesus name Amen. Advice to Men: Not all but some: Stop beating women down wanting us to be and look like everything a woman of God. We both are imperfect. Love from the inside out.
@drewd44912 жыл бұрын
I love you bothers and sisters. Stay strong and trust in God's plan.
@missdfm.2 жыл бұрын
Amen thank you very much for this great godly wisdom for us single sisters it can be difficult to stay hope filled in these trying times but our God is awesome and HE can do anything Amen!! Thanks for the encouragement brother Mark God bless you, your ministry and family 🙏🏾😇❤️
@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger2 жыл бұрын
So glad you found this useful!
@rachaelnuchols7642 жыл бұрын
I refuse to join a dating site, I don't want to pay! They all look like America's most wanted! Great video! Thank you for sharing ❤
@Strive1324L2 жыл бұрын
Dating sites are.....you see a pic and a profile, then you go on the date and say....who is THIS?!
@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger2 жыл бұрын
Don't use the free ones . . . way less likely to work. Easy come easy go :)
@Dj.D252 жыл бұрын
There's Christian Dating For Free, though like Mark says there are some scammers. Unfortunately in my experience, it's mainly foreigners who notice my profile. Some are real, some are scammers and I don't think I can do a long distance relationship. The women who live near me almost never notice my profile. Sometimes I even try messaging first and I'll be lucky to get a response.
@db28882 жыл бұрын
I paid for a dating site years ago. Meet a good man. Don’t discount it! Sometimes it’s the very things we say we won’t do that God brings the greatest blessings. Experienced it many times over! Don’t box God in.
@insaneoflex012 жыл бұрын
It’s not the case at my church. Since i was 18 I’ve witnessed many women leave and stop attending when they’ve reached 18 years old. I’m 30 now and there’s a lot of older single moms and kids. It’s extremely frustrating. I’ve also thought about dating a single mom and I don’t believe that i can do that. It’s definitely tough for everybody right now.
@insaneoflex012 жыл бұрын
@CuedoAdoñoscence17 bro, they COME from different countries vato. not even mexico and latin america are safe from this mental degradation. Tbh i think social media is a poison for relationships and marriages. oh well, i guess i'll join the military.
@Hllee64283 ай бұрын
You re kidding. I find that the single moms snag men way more easily than other never married women. for some reason dudes (including even those from church) find them more attractive🙄
@goldenstone70942 жыл бұрын
Great video. You express some intensity that bordered on frustration. I like it. Isn't there a shortage of Christians, period? That makes it tough for us all. Great advice to get out in the Kingdom to serve.
@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger2 жыл бұрын
Yup, hard all the way around . . . just tried to focus on this specific issue for this video. So glad you found it useful :)
@Brian65872 жыл бұрын
Great video Mark the same things could be said of Christian men as well. I unfortunately struggle socially but know ultimately if you make no effort nothing will change. I've grown a good bit over the years but can't say I have fully arrived yet. I have autism spectrum disorder so social Interactions have been a struggle since childhood. I have began to finally love and accept myself after many years with who I am and who God made me to be. I still have growing to do spiritually and socially. I am a work in progress as we all are. God will be with us through the journey. Either in singleness or marriage. May God grant each of us His peace as we go where the Lord leads.
@yvonnematereke3581 Жыл бұрын
Amen . May the Almighty God be with you too and help you in everything you do
@Brian6587 Жыл бұрын
@@yvonnematereke3581 Thank you so very much Yvonne! May God bless you mightily as well!!
@photographyenthusiast9941Ай бұрын
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@DavidRodriguez-cm2qg2 жыл бұрын
I'm praying for the future spouses of everyone who reads this comment. For now, let's love Jesus and neighbor with all we got! Long live Christ the King. Viva Cristo Rey. JMJ
@christianshivers37132 жыл бұрын
Wow! Thank you for this video Mark! I am a fairly new widow, & was married once for 32 yrs & miss him very much. I don't get out, at all, not even church, only online & you don't meet anyone that way, but I haven't really been interested either. 🤷♀️ I believe that when I do get where I feel He wants me to go, nearer to my sisters in another state, maybe "the one" will be there somewhere!? But masculinity has been under attack for decades now & most marriages don't last either so most young ppl don't have good role model & have very little idea what putting another's needs before your own even looks like! Anyway.. I know that was very flawed comment, but anyway I do enjoy & thank you for your work & faithfulness! Grace & Peace ✌️ 💜
@st.patricklovessynth14632 жыл бұрын
Here is one Godly single man waiting to meet my Rachel for her Jacob. I have a strong calling of translating and teaching the whole counsel of God to as many kids and adults as will listen and benefit for it. I have been sent and stationed as a spiritual leader and soldier/warrior in northern Ohio to take it over this territory and defeat all of our enemies here so that we can all live fully free and prosper and succeed. Come visit the small but growing community in Akron here and be edified!
@sulusu4812 Жыл бұрын
How are you going about this?
@joshuacorbin2214 ай бұрын
...working. These guys are at work. They have that old puritan work ethic, for the Glory of God.
@MrMister441 Жыл бұрын
I also feel the same as a man. In my context I feel like there are few christian women to date. I even compromised and dated a "nominal christian" lady for almost 4 months. Had to call it off since my conscience condemned me and she also hurt me badly. Please pray for me guys to find a godly woman
@Soothe2SleepStoriesStewardess Жыл бұрын
Thank You, God, for doing the impossible for Your Daughters. ❤🙏
@Lukandon2 жыл бұрын
A single Christian man here still looking for a single Christian woman.
@red_phoenix057021 күн бұрын
same brother
@rruuiiiii2 жыл бұрын
Watching it from Europe.. and if you say it's difficult in US, then you don't know what's difficult. I'm a Christian guy in Portugal.
@TesterBoy2 жыл бұрын
I have a Christian friend from portugal who says the very same thing.
@dimakatso052 жыл бұрын
It's difficult everywhere Rui. I'm an African lady. Recently I decided to forget about relationships and buried myself Into reading the Bible Recap by Tara-Leigh Cobble. Am on day five of studying the recap. God's timing is best as regards relationships. Stay blessed.
@garlicgirl31492 жыл бұрын
Oh no...not in Europe too.
@violetgypsie Жыл бұрын
I’m a single Christian lady and I have been planing to move to Portugal. Good to know there are some Christian single men there.
@rruuiiiii Жыл бұрын
@@violetgypsie Ok. Good to know.
@amina_prosper2 жыл бұрын
I met my fiance on a Christian dating app called Upward after my best friend didn’t want to sign up for one by herself. I made the profile and didn’t use it. My now fiance saw it and found me on IG because he didn’t know if I would see his swipe lol. Never thought I’d go on a dating app in my life.
@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger2 жыл бұрын
Thanks for sharing!
@mariamukirae68972 жыл бұрын
Thank you for such a profound message. I love this because I’m in a season of healing past hurt and a season where God is calling me to live a holy godly standard as I trust him to bless me in his timing because I cannot desire a godly man and I’m not living the same lifestyle it’s hypocritical. But I love God because he knows our hearts very well and he knows the right appointed hour to bless his children. No matter the logistics and the lack of godly men & vice versa. With God all things are possible.
@jc55842 жыл бұрын
i have faith in the Lord that there are still many Godly men around...my prayer is that the Lord would also make me a Godly wife to my future husband...i know i am not a perfect wife...but i will try my best to be because i love the Lord and want to honor and glorify God in my relationship one day.
@MediaHappeningNow2 жыл бұрын
You never have to be perfect. Jesus loves you because you genuinely try. God sees that your heart is for Him. Always put God first, no matter what... And you will be a great wife. You just may even surprise yourself. Focus on Him. God bless you. 🙂👍🙏🏻
@Champ19882 жыл бұрын
*EDIT* Men can benefit from this video as well. I'm going to tailor it to my situation and improve in any areas I may be lacking in. However, I do still want to share this from the perspective of a Godly man who is looking to find a Christian woman. God bless! PLEASE make one of these for men! I think there is a misconception that because men have been increasingly leaving the church, they are not of the faith. Most professing Christians erroneously believe that religious practices are their salvation and equate church-going with Christianity. However, my issue is finding women that are Christian. I mean women that believe that Jesus Christ died for our sins. And when I do, they severely lack the fruit-bearing that needs to follow. For example, I have met Christian professing, church-going women that RUN whenever I mention celibacy or anything that signifies a God-led relationship. They applaud my faith yet ghost me once they realize how serious I am about it. The women that SAY they want a Godly man don't even give me the chance to show them what a Godly relationship should look like with a Godly man. I praise God for revealing the true intentions of said women. But this is something that I think a lot of Christian men are going through. And the only people addressing men's issues in dating are secular dating gurus that make these men worse off. I thank God for your platform in this regard, and I hope more Christian men find you as I did. There are plenty of Christian, devoted single men such as myself. And we feel the same way as the women do because the women who say they want Godly men often prove otherwise by the fruit they bear. They seem to want the "bad boy" that they can turn into a "churchman," not the Christian man who is ready to lead through God. It's baffling, and I think we need to address it. Because it makes no logical sense to complain, get what you say you want, and then dismiss it because you're "not ready." Again, I praise God for revealing the true intentions of the women I've dealt with in this regard. But men are going through this as well. And I hope you make a video for men because I desire to be married, and it's hard to find a fruit-bearing Christian woman.
@db28882 жыл бұрын
I hardly believe there are any single men who truly love the Lord, His Word, and want to live a life led by God. A small number of men (very small!) present that but when it comes to obeying God’s Word (like abstinence before marriage) they really don’t follow God. If true Godly men are out there, it’s a needle in a haystack! lol. It’s nice to hear just one man who is looking for what I am looking for. Gives me hope that a single TRUE man of God exists. God bless
@tinaschroeder30992 жыл бұрын
As a woman here, I’d rather run from the ungodly. Godly men are very rare in my area, but you made a point to think about. Godly men are a gift from the Lord.
@alekhorsman69722 жыл бұрын
I too am looking for what you are looking for in a spouse but most woman are not ok with waiting till marriage or at least the ones I’ve dealt with in the past haven’t it’s usually a deal breaker for them that I want to wait
@Champ19882 жыл бұрын
@@alekhorsman6972 Same here bro.
@Champ19882 жыл бұрын
@@tinaschroeder3099 Amen. As are Godly women.
@jonasmuller57752 жыл бұрын
Just to add my two cents - as a Christian man trying to live a godly life and also looking for a partner, just remember that the fact that you waited for the right man is going to make you attractive to the right man. For example, I can hardly imagine marrying someone who didn't wait until marriage and decided to date godless men, etc. Of course with God there is forgiveness and he can make me see past it, but I think the devil just wants us to lose our purity. Staying pure and strong with your convictions, without compromise, is going to make you more attractive to the right person. Also, it gives godless men less options. It frustrates me that so many women seem to compromise and just put up with men that treat them bad, bad boys, etc. Men will rise to a higher standard if they are held to it.
@andreeaburian14082 жыл бұрын
100%. I believe and hope I will meet this sort of man soon.
@joshyazel12002 жыл бұрын
Women look over these men if they don't have x y or z. Trust me.
@jonasmuller57752 жыл бұрын
@@joshyazel1200 what do you mean by that?
@horschiday94492 жыл бұрын
Your last sentence stood out the most to me. I've been told several times by men that my standards are too high and that I should marry a pastor just because I want to live a pure life. I don't need a pastor, I just need a godly man coz there are pastors out there who are not even godly 😅. So thank you for sharing this. With the help of the HOLY SPIRIT, I won't compromise.
@jonasmuller57752 жыл бұрын
@@horschiday9449 It makes me really sad that guys try to get you to lower your standards instead of being willing to work on themselves. It's also far from the what the Bible teaches, we are called to sanctification through the transforming process of the Holy Spirit. I was recently in a relationship (my first at 26) and one thing that attracted me to this person was the fact that she wasn't even looking. She told me later she had had some interest in me for a while, but she never pursued me in that way. She was so grateful for just our friendship at the time. We did decide not to go further in the end because for us both the ultimate goal of a relationship is marriage and we didn't see a fit, but I can't stress how attractive it was to see someone who is not desperate, trusting God fully and also innocent when it comes to love. I decided now that instead of being in a state of "looking", I just want to embrace my singleness fully until God shows me a person that he wants me to pursue, even if it's never. My standards are also really high I would say, and I've kind of come to terms with the fact that I might just end up alone as a result, although of course I continue to ask God to bring the right person into my life. It's really encouring to see others in this position who choose to stay true to their convictions, so thank you. And I will pray for you 🙏
@latondralynnwhitley68472 жыл бұрын
AMEN ‼️ Thank you so much for sharing. This topic isn't discussed in the church. Singleness isn't a highly talked about topic in the church. Marriage is a blessing and a ministry but singleness is as well. Once a woman/man makes the choice to follow Jesus there's a new way. Learning to date, seek a husband/wife. The process of learning what waiting on the Lord while praying needs to be taught about in a depth way. The biblical word about not being unequally yoked should has been said and is true but teaching on the topic helps the full body function in the order the Lord wants us to. This was so good . I'm so grateful for you videos. May God continue to bless you and all that you do.
@gustavsorensen93012 жыл бұрын
11:22 Be a Ruth and sleep at Boaz’s feet. Don’t lay on your couch and Pray for a miracle
@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger2 жыл бұрын
God bless!
@justinsandolph48612 жыл бұрын
Even though this video is just for the woman as a man I believe this video is still helping me too it's very insightful
@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger2 жыл бұрын
So glad it was helpful!
@andreeaburian14082 жыл бұрын
you need to bring those godly women and men together
@johnz4328 Жыл бұрын
It just doesn’t seem possible to keep hoping for marriage after reaching your fifties and never married. It’s such a disappointment I can’t even explain it. Prolonged hoping and unfulfilled expectations are very damaging somehow.
@Mindsetolympics Жыл бұрын
praying for you.
@johnz4328 Жыл бұрын
@@Mindsetolympics Thank you
@bradandrews777 Жыл бұрын
That is why promising "God will provide someone" is ultimately really bad. We have no specific promise for that, so we cannot put our faith in that. We can only give our lives to Him to use as He wishes. I sometimes wonder why He used me in some quite painful ways, but I still made that commitment as a teen and I will keep living for it.
@johnz4328 Жыл бұрын
@Tblazer Thank you
@SaintCloud5553 ай бұрын
Yes...hope deferred makes the heart grow sick. Have you considered looking for a wife in the Philippines or other areas of Southeast Asia?
@revivaltime3373 Жыл бұрын
I have so much appreciation for this message. Im a single woman trusting God to unite me with my Godly husband. The Lord told me a few years ago. "Im giving you a brand new fresh start". Ive been through so much drama starting my life the wrong way. I had to go through some serious refining fire. God showed me who i am, and the kind of woman He desires me to be, and what my husband needs. Ive been pure 5years and have no desire to belittle myself for wordly living ever again. I praise God for showing me the truth and delivering me from the worlds lies and ways. I have no time to search, none. Im completely trusting God for this connection. Im from Wisconsin, I love doing things outside.
@ceesevenhundred2 жыл бұрын
Thank you very much. I am a MAN, not emotional and do not wear dresses or need tampons. I work, I lift heavy at the gym, I read my King James Bible, I serve on the security team while packing my .45 at my church, and play my part, and will never apologise for it.
@Zayithyah2 жыл бұрын
Yes, not falling into the elites’ agenda. 👊🏼
@missadug2 жыл бұрын
Love it!
@holyishe79032 жыл бұрын
Your comment is lulz idk why but stay based
@Dodderyfeline3111 ай бұрын
But do you love others well? This other stuff don’t matter if you have no love for God and man.
@leaellas840018 күн бұрын
😬😮💨
@BIGMEME_Retro.trance2 жыл бұрын
I have the opposite problem in my situation. Single christian man that can't find anyone single and Christian. All My life, I have never had a genuine date. No matter what I do, they always turn me down and I suspect is a character flaw that is thought of as low value despite everything I do would be considered high value. I'm confident, humble, wierd funny and can take care of kids. I have refused that flaw to be the sole reason why I get turned down and have tried my best to fix it.
@CircleWedge2 жыл бұрын
Demon operating with a curse. Get deliverance. My firm belief as well as my two cents.
@Jade.Mcdowell2 жыл бұрын
My friend wait in the lord she will come along. Cherish the beautiful character that GOD has given you. Thankyou for sharing
@christinelawrence43152 жыл бұрын
bibMeme... God has something better in store for you .. and it will happen in His timing brother x
@dahliaherrod43012 жыл бұрын
Have you ever asked any of the women you like or family and friends to tell you what you need to work on to be husband material? I have. Painful but necessary to grow
@BC-gd8ij2 жыл бұрын
Thank you for mentioning the elephant in the room (more Christian women than men). it really feels heartbreaking and hopeless. lots of suffering these days for christian women.
@artemmjoukov Жыл бұрын
There aren't more Christian women than men: only more Christian women in church.
@WorshiptheHolySpirit94210 ай бұрын
It is a challenge to find Godly Christian women that are not narcissistic, solipsistic, combative, selfish, etc. That does not make you strong, it makes you insufferable.
@tanakamlambo12962 жыл бұрын
I wish I could like 100 times. Thank you so much!
@chiyohanson46222 жыл бұрын
I've been a Christian most of my life. The Christian men I dated didn't want to get married. Some were closeted gay,some not. Im talking about christian men. They have always been in short supply. My men friends are great guys as friends. I would not want them as a husband. I haven't had a date in 10 yrs., not bc I wasn't asked,but bc they weren't Christians. Christian men haven't been very godly in attitudes towards Christian women in my dating experience. I was going to a singles bible study where there were only a few women. One week ,I was the only woman there. The things they said about women was so bad, I never returned. So men, have to teach other men to respect woman,the way woman are told to respect men. It goes both ways.
@holyishe79032 жыл бұрын
Wow that sucks. Sounds like a negative culture
@mariewonkoye88792 жыл бұрын
This video has encouraged me today! There is a time for everything, and I know this season of singleness is a time God is using to teach, refine and use me for his glory. I know He provides to All our needs according to his riches and glory( a husband included) ! I pray for wisdom and strength to navigate this season the right way, with him, as I prepare myself to be the right and godly person I would like my future husband to be. I don't understand His way But I trust the Lord with my dream and desire. He is right on time in everything He does. I know for a fact that my view on relationships has changed a lot in the past 2years. The Lord has been helping me review "my list" of things I look for in a Godly man. I can't wait to see the woman I become at the end of this season!
@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger2 жыл бұрын
So glad this was encouraging!
@maggiesalle22562 жыл бұрын
Thank you for being tactful. Many men have been more than rude concerning this topic.
@love4christ5052 жыл бұрын
I am 46, and I feel like for my age group it's extremely hard.
@joshyazel12002 жыл бұрын
42 now, I'm in the same boat.
@jesuswilljudge72962 жыл бұрын
For me finding a 47 year old never married, very rare.
@love4christ5052 жыл бұрын
@@jesuswilljudge7296 I have never married, and have been single for about 12 years. I made some bad choices in relationship, and decided to stay single until God bless me with my God ordained man.
@jesuswilljudge72962 жыл бұрын
@@love4christ505 good for you, I will probably do 12 years, your time is coming
@alisoncanty56602 жыл бұрын
I agree. I'm 47 and have never married and want the same.
@caliwlove2 жыл бұрын
This was so good. I will stay firm and wait for a Godly man. Thank you!
@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger2 жыл бұрын
Glad you enjoyed it!
@horschiday94492 жыл бұрын
WE WILL all stay firm and WAIT for the godly men👏👏
@amandakate12472 жыл бұрын
It only takes the right 1 to be happily married!💍
@tuhairweronnie7385 Жыл бұрын
true
@sarahkoestler50722 жыл бұрын
Yes, so true, the "wait on God" is real! However, after witnessing so many failed relationships AND marriages it is worth the wait forthe right person God has for me (you).
@faithoverfear80952 жыл бұрын
Great advice! Faith is the victory! 💯
@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger2 жыл бұрын
God bless!
@samp6192 жыл бұрын
This video was so good, spot on, and timely. Thank you, Mark! I find in my singleness that my faithfulness to the Word of God makes a difference. If I can't be faithful now, how can I be faithful in a marriage? I have given up a selfish act that has given me instant pleasure that many young men struggle with, and I decided that instead of filling God's ears with endless requests for a spouse, I am going to be faithful now and trust in Him. Right now, it is very hard to find Godly young women. So many seem full of themselves, and focused on being comfortable in life rather than fully taking the narrow road which is life under Him. I might also be seeing mainly this because of my circles - people of the Mennonite faith. Anyhow, I would encourage everyone to wait upon God and allow Him to give you direction as far as how your life should go, and who you should marry one day. Be loving no matter what. There is peace in being obedient and being where God wants you to be. Stripping ourselves of our selfish desires is worth it! Again, great video!
@jillneverumind72292 жыл бұрын
Great video! I like how you addressed Proverbs 18:22. A Godly man should be active in seeking a Godly wife, but a Godly woman should also be active in seeking a Godly husband. I think the book of Ruth, especially toward the end of the book, demonstrates a Godly woman (Godly women) taking action.
@the_corinthians_twelve_teacher2 жыл бұрын
Seek God first. You were born of His word, so what would He do for His daughter? Start there, and now look up from your screen and actually talk to Him. ❤
@treyichabod58402 жыл бұрын
It's kind of hard to find a Godly man who is a drop-dead gorgeous 6'1 stud with a successful career, home owner, fancy degree, brand new car and all of his life sorted out. Am I right?
@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger2 жыл бұрын
Lol, I’m 5’9” so I’m glad my wife accepted me!
@holyishe79032 жыл бұрын
Superficial
@bradwhitt6768 Жыл бұрын
@@holyishe7903 That's the point he's making. Women aren't looking for Godly men. They are looking for worldly men and complaining they aren't Godly.
@greatgod4564 ай бұрын
Are you a man or a woman?
@angeliquebacker852229 күн бұрын
@@bradwhitt6768A lot of women aren’t only looking for godly men, but a man with class as well. You don’t need to be 6’1, have a degree, or own a home, but you should at least be cultured and craving intellectual stimulation…
@brittanyb28752 жыл бұрын
Sharing my perspective, I added this in a comment, but I'll share some other notes: 1. Some of us need to move with God's confirmation. Literally. If you live in a super secular city, you need to expand. Not saying the world isn't, but there's a difference between certain cities (in the U.S. at least--we all can pick out a few that are super secular--I live in one of them). 2. I think those of us in ministry (any involvement with church, not just pastoring) have it harder because many people get intimidated about our title, and not see us as a person. 3. As a woman, I find two extremes: Men who don't attend church, refuse to, come up with a million of excuses on why they don't go, (usually they don't tithe either), but genuinely love God in other areas, and those who attend church, but are worldly. Both of these men kind of cling onto me to guide them. 4. Singleness is a GIFT. It was hard for me to understand this. Take this time to develop with God, discover who you are with Christ, travel, make friends, get hobbies, etc. 5. Some of us don't want to date single parents (who are active, good parents) and we make sweeping statements about them, instead of showing grace, and understanding their full situation (sometimes the man/woman had a spouse or SO that passed, for example). Sometimes, that person may be your spouse. I hear many women and men flat out talk badly about the kids "being a red flag". 6. What Mark said, remove people who do the nonstop complaining--find solutions. I'm still figuring out mine in my life. 😆 7. This is a BIG one--Your "list" of preferences hinder you from finding your spouse. Standards are NOT preferences. Learn the difference between the two. It's okay to want a healthy partner. It's not okay to reduce your dating pool because someone gained 5 pounds. Let's not be ridiculous, now. lol.
@bluebirdie_2 жыл бұрын
Whoo #3 indeed 👏
@MCharlerySmith2 жыл бұрын
Many great points here, Mark. Thanks for a longer video. I think it would be good to see you on a panel with some other ministers at some point like what Isaiah Saldivar, Vlad Savchuk and even Matt Walsh do at times, to share your experience on the Word, life and ministry. I feel there's an absence voices and experience like yours and for those that are already there they often seem to come from similar expressions of the faith which becomes limiting. Your time on missions in Liberia would be interesting to hear more about. Unless people were surfing the web looking for advice on relationships I think it would be difficult to come across your ministry, and the wealth of knowledge you have about the Bible and living for Christ in this modern, secular society. This is a shame because there's so much more than just Godly relationship guidance here but, I understand, it's a big corner to paint...what about the other parts of the "room" though? I believe you do sincerely consider your impact and visibility, Mark, but I hope you will, at some point, diversify your mediums and platforms. I really believe in and have really received from your God-given gift, but perhaps the laser focus needs to be more of a torch? Sincere regards and may God keep blessing the work of your heart, soul and strength.
@Skarletjonancy2 жыл бұрын
Brother Mark understands
@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger2 жыл бұрын
I try! All glory to God!
@tiffanylittle82252 жыл бұрын
It is crazy to hear men say they can't find Godly women. How do Godly women and Godly men miss each other. I know I have been living for God for years, abstinent and it seems like the men in the church want secular women imstead.
@bradwhitt6768 Жыл бұрын
Because women who go to church has laundry lists of material things that don't show up in the bible. I can give you countless examples of "christian" women turn me down because of height or the money I make.
@kristymartell162 жыл бұрын
I appreciate this message a lot! I am currently struggling right now with knowing how to be inviting & with what I should do because it’s always been emphasized in church that the man was made to pursue the woman… in the past, I played too much of the initiator in the relationship. I don’t want to overdo it but I also don’t want to come across as not interested. I imagine it takes some practice.
@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger2 жыл бұрын
Amen Kristy! It's not an exact science, so practice is key. You want to be true of your personality while also respecting the roles/future roles. My advice for women who like a guy is to invite obviously when needed but then let the guy initiate next time, otherwise it's like you are leading him. This video may help: kzfaq.info/get/bejne/kLVna6mXppywe40.html
@tomspriggs9478 Жыл бұрын
Instead of trying to BE inviting, try to be the kind of woman who IS inviting. You are whatever you practice BEING.
@heidirose464 Жыл бұрын
Thank you for giving deeper insight on the view of the characteristics of a Godly man, outside of church view. I’ve been in prayer and obedience to the refinement and clarity as a Kingdom woman. Living in the world, not of the world. I pray that God continues to build us up to glorify Him 🙏🏼🙌🏼❤️✨ Live with God’s light, daily!!
@Strive1324L2 жыл бұрын
It's tough especially nowadays to meet that right person, as a bachelor i know that too well. This was a great video, i didn't know i was outnumbered! 🤪
@Penelope4162 жыл бұрын
Why are you a bachelor?
@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger2 жыл бұрын
So glad this was helpful!
@Strive1324L2 жыл бұрын
@@Penelope416 Well, i suppose because i didn't find the right lady. Tried for a while though. Might happen one day, but now i leave that in God's hands. I don't depend on dating sites anymore, just God's provision.
@KashayMone2 жыл бұрын
It's tough out here... Go where the most high tells you too. Whether he is on your level of faith or not. 🤷🏾♀️ As long as you have an agreement with the God you serve and he doesn't dispute your faith, if God tells you to be with him, then roll w/ it. The more you fast, pray, and stay faithful to God, the more his( your husband) faith will also grow.
@Newgrist2 жыл бұрын
Maybe it's just as hard to find a godly woman. At least that has been my experience as a Christian man.
@Chrisadermann5464 Жыл бұрын
Stay strong ladies! You are all special and there are some of us who will love you biblically ❤️ we are having a difficult time finding a Godly woman as well? Seems like they are all taken.
@susandumbill880511 ай бұрын
Hi Chris, thank you. Years ago, living elsewhere in the UK I had 5 christian male friends. We were all in the same church. I was a bit closer to one, & told him from the outset it was just friends. We had a v healthy friendship. In the same bible study group, he used to walk me home afterwards when it was dark earlier. I visited him occasionally. He'd make a coffee, & we'd watch his Star Trek videos! Once I sat patiently, while he cleaned out the fish tank! The others - we mainly mixed with in a large walking group once a month or so. It was a v refreshing situation, & they treated me & other single women with respect, & vice versa. I'm so glad this is possible. I really value men who show us kindness, and I enjoy encouraging those who do, such as if a man opens a door for me. Lesson learned: enjoy the friendships you've got while you're waiting for someone suitable. Thank you again, and God bless.
@pinkroses1352 жыл бұрын
If you're headed in the right direction you will link up
@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger2 жыл бұрын
God bless!
@JelinaHavanaSergioLopez2 жыл бұрын
For me put God first in your life and He will take care of everything for you. And I agree with you Bro. Mark when you said that women should know how to respond to men. When a man likes you and you like him too, you should send him a message that you like him. There's many ways on how to respond to a man that like you. My favorite part is be a woman of God that a Godly man desires to be his wife.
@TULIP.16892 жыл бұрын
Just talk to him. You can even initiate friendly brief conversation when you see him. If he is interested he will pursue. If not don’t despair, there may be someone else or he may even recommend you to another fellow who is. Serve the Lord, present yourself well (keep up your appearance) and be involved in social activities.
@ayomidebalogun25002 жыл бұрын
I would never forget God's sovereignty in our (my) life when I ( u) believe. After 2 years of insomnia and depression caused by sleep paralysis, I came along a book by Myles Munroe. I wouldn't say I was atheist but I didn't really believe in God. I didn't read the book for almost a year until COVID stroke. And when I did, with tears and prayer on my bed that night I asked God to heal me , that I believe in Him and His son and I've never had to deal with sleep paralysis again 😭 He just wanted me to believe in Him. I can't believe how much God loves me ( us ) ❤️
@ledawn2010Ай бұрын
I know I am not as Godly as I would like because I didn't have examples of people who walked in faith and obedience around me growing up. Now that I have expelled all the toxicity that was implanted in me at birth, I have every faith that God will continue to shift me. I am not anxious because I only want what God wants for me ❤
@69Applekrate Жыл бұрын
Ladies- here is some honest advice from a healthy Christian man, You may or may not like it but, it is the truth. Guys want a gal who takes care of herself. That doesn't mean expensive clothes, fancy fingernails, etc. It simply means- keep a proper weight. Guys do not like heavy women. It looks bad and is unhealthy. simply. You do not have to be a stick but, eat right, watch your weight and get some exercise. You will look better, feel better, have more energy and guys will be more aware of you. It is not so much clothes, it is appearance, just take care of yourselves and do not get fat. There are too many nice gals out there that are overweight. a major turn out. The other thing? You will have to compromise. Guys, the same way. No one is perfect but, be the best you can be, take care of yourself afterall, the Bible does call our bodies a temple. Blessings
@floydadams70692 жыл бұрын
As a Christian man I very rarely see a Christian woman in my age group I met one yesterday for the first time! I’m not hung up on that experience. my first love is the Lord. But when I asked him where are all the Christian woman I never see them. Start the thing that there are left he showed me that there are still some. 🤯
@rogerbrady2003rab2 жыл бұрын
The problem is not the lack of Godly men. But the problem in this era is the unrealistic expectations that the social media has created around how men should look like, how much money they should make and how many times they can they get on their knees to propose. This has created certain unrealistic pedestal expectations in women. Sad but true.
@rosafootman56662 жыл бұрын
Thank you for the clarity.
@jeremycarpenter5550 Жыл бұрын
It's not fair to me because i am a strong Christian man but i am disabled i have cerebral palsy and i guess Christian women are not attracted to me because of my disability life for me is hard enough for me i am not complaining i am comfortable in my own skin . I find it sad the state the church is in sometimes i find you can't see the difference between the world and the church. God bless you mark .
@Gunslinger_Disciple3 ай бұрын
Eeven Paul says though, sometimes its better to remain single anf devout your Life ti serving God
@JimG77552 жыл бұрын
Was it not the Apostle Paul that indicated that it was better to be single than married. Only those that could not control themselves should be married to avoid sinful relations. Any one single should focus your attention upon the Lord! He is the ONLY one we all truly need! People will end up failing one another, the Lord never will! Our focus should be upon Him, not another human being. Worry not, the Lord will provide for you, offer true love to you, and never leave you! Give your attention to Him, and you won't be lonely any longer! God bless!!
@angelasmithgiardina91212 жыл бұрын
Jim G God made Adam God made Eve to complete him
@angelasmithgiardina91212 жыл бұрын
JIM G ADAM DIDN'T HAVE LUST OF THE FLESH ,THE PRIDE OF LIFE OR LUST OF THE EYE.
@angelasmithgiardina91212 жыл бұрын
ThaTs not what Jesus SAID
@amina_prosper2 жыл бұрын
@@angelasmithgiardina9121 I’m with you on that. However, another one of his comments explains that he lost trust in all women because of one person he dated in the past. It is okay that he is alone it could be his purpose to serve the Lord in life as a single man
@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger2 жыл бұрын
I unpack your question here: kzfaq.info/get/bejne/j8tld6-QsLTRYac.html
@carlavanaardt Жыл бұрын
The problem for me is that there are literally no single men suitable for my age to date in my church. I don't get out much, cause I'm a student so I'm really not meeting any new people. I have tried online dating, but that didn't work out. I don't want to move churches, I'm very happy where I am.
@PrettyIntelligent10 ай бұрын
Brother Mark: Have you considered hosting an event for those of us who are sincere to meet? I feel like I've done all of the things required of a woman for YEARS and I'm sure many of us feel like "what else can I do?" 😂 I know there would be no guarantee but your channel appears to be one of the VERY few where folks (claim they) are trying to live in order.
@user-lz1wz2ir8c2 жыл бұрын
Thank you ! Wow this was for me !!
@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger2 жыл бұрын
You are so welcome!
@dver897 күн бұрын
Ladies, if you desire a husband, that means you desire to be a wife. Start living your life as if you were a wife, as if there were a household to manage, a budget to maintain, a certain time to get up, meals to prep, dinners to host etc. I recently made this switch in my own mind as well (living in a much more disciplined way as if I already am a husband), and it is amazing.
@camilorubiano71652 жыл бұрын
I didn’t know there’s a lack of “godly men”. I hope we can show “ourselves” (I do consider myself as a man growing closer to GOD) much better that we have so far.
@CH3353N1NJ452 жыл бұрын
Keep on fighting brother
@gersonemmanuelsantosfernan92372 жыл бұрын
Hey! I am single godly man ladies, I'm from Perú. Hahaha well, jokes apart surrender your will to our God, He's good.
@amina_prosper2 жыл бұрын
Omg my fiance is from Peru 🇵🇪🙌🏽 but we live in the US. Him and his family are very Godly
@gersonemmanuelsantosfernan92372 жыл бұрын
@@amina_prosper good to know that!
@Jade.Mcdowell2 жыл бұрын
Amen
@holyishe79032 жыл бұрын
Lulz u got some jokes
@ashleessingingsensations72942 жыл бұрын
I now have more faith in god for my love life. All of the men that I've been with, some are supposedly Christian, and some are Christian. So, I'm letting god take the reigns and letting him find me a man who loves him as much as this future man will love me.
@markymarknj Жыл бұрын
As a former Bible college student, churchgoer, and present Christian, I have some thoughts about this. I left the church not because there was sin in my church and Bible college, though there was; sin will be everywhere, even in the church, as the church is comprised of sinners. No, what bothered me was the lack of response in handling the sin that happened there. Hence, I left. Also, before COVID happened, I was going to return to the church; I really was! Unfortunately, no church in my area resisted the governor's and mayors' orders to close; that is to say that there are no good, strong Godly churches in my area that followed God's Word that admonishes us to not forsake the assembling of ourselves. Hence, I never returned, nor do I plan to do so. Anyway, here are my thoughts about the question of dating, relationships, and marriage among Christians. One, the church is feminine, and it bashes men. Two, Christian women aren't that different from their worldly counterparts. Three, the divorce rate among Christians is higher than it is among secular people. The church is feminine, and it caters to women. Churches and pastors know that, if they don't please the wives, they don't have butts in the seats; because those butts aren't in the seats, the collection plate is lighter too. How does the church cater to women? Here's one example: on Father's Day, men are chastised and admonished to be the men, husbands, and fathers they should be; they're upbraided from the pulpit. Does anything similar happen on Mother's Day? NO WAY, JOSE! Again, pastors know where their bread is buttered, so they govern themselves accordingly. You know, I, as a Christian man don't need to attend any church to hear that I'm scum of the Earth; I don't need to attend church to be bashed and trashed. I can find that everywhere else in society, TYVM! All one has to do is tune in TV or radio for a few minutes to see this constant man bashing 24/7/365. You think I want to hear the same in church? GTFOOH! You want Godly, Christian men back in church? Then make it a place that's not only hospitable to them; make it a place they want to be! Ah, but that won't happen, as the majority of pastors, deacons, and elders want to please the women. Again, they know where their bread is buttered. We see this attitude all through Christianity. For example, there was a Christian film some years ago, called "Fireproof". It was about a Christian couple having marital problems. Do you know what? The husband was portrayed as the bad guy-what a surprise! The couple's problems were all Hubby's fault. This completely glossed over the reality that, when a relationship has problems, that both parties are at fault; it may not be an exact, 50/50 split, but it's a split nonetheless. When there are relationship problems, both the man and woman are culpable. That's just the way it is. Point #2 is that Christian women aren't that different from their worldly counterparts. They've adopted the same, feminist values. They pursue degrees and careers just as secular women do. They have the same attitudes, dress, and demeanor. Oh, and if you, as a Christian man, even HINT at submission (the role of a Godly wife), LOOK OUT! They'll bristle at the notion just like any secular, feminist woman would. Christian women do precious little to differentiate themselves from their secular counterparts. Well, if it looks like a duck, walks like a duck, and talks like a duck, any thinking man will assume that he's dealing with a duck-DUH! Finally, the divorce rate among Christians is HIGHER than it is among secular people; that's a SHAMEFUL TRAVESTY! Even so, that was Barna's findings when studying the question of divorce in the church. A more recent study by a university confirmed Barna's findings; I believe it was Baylor that did the study, but I can't recall for sure. In any case, divorce among Christians occurs more often than it does for non-Christians. That's just the way it is. Furthermore, even if someone wants to dispute those findings, one cannot dispute this: divorce happens all too often in the church, when it ought to be a rarity. After all, aren't Christians called to be the light of the world? Aren't we called to be better than the world? How can we do either of the above when we don't LIVE any better than the world? Now, as a man, divorce concerns me. Why? One, because my life will be WRECKED by it, for one! I'll lose the house, the kids, everything. Wifey will keep the house, while I keep the mortgage payment for the house I'm no longer allowed to live in. I'll be saddled with child support and possibly alimony too. After all that, I might end up HOMELESS! Two, women file for divorce 80% the time; if they're college educated, then they file for divorce 90% of the time. The family courts, where divorces are adjudicated, are overwhelmingly biased against men. Anyway, as the old country song goes, Mama got the gold mine, while Daddy got the shaft. Sorry, but marriage offers few, if any, benefits for a man. Before I continue, there's a Christian man who's MGTOW; that's men going their own way for the uninitiated. He's a KZfaqr who talks about Christianity, marriage, MGTOW, and how they relate to the Bible. His channel is is called "Whirlwind MGTOW", and I'd encourage you to watch some of his videos. BTW, Whirlwind MGTOW married a Christian woman from his church, and she divorced him after 10 years of marriage. Though he doesn't make videos very often anymore, he has a lot of older ones that are still up; for those pondering where the good, Christian men are, I'd admonish you all to watch his videos, and for you to listen to what he says. Those are the elephants in the room that NO ONE in the church wants to talk about! However, if you want Christian men back in the church, let alone willing to marry, you'd better listen to him; many of us have the same concerns, concerns that are all too often ignored. Now, that leads me to ask some questions. WHY would I, as a man, want to marry? What does it offer me? Oh, I have a righteous outlet for my sexual desire? Oh, please! All too often, wives deny their husbands intimacy, especially after the kids come. Why on Earth would I, as a man, want to be celibate within marriage? Why would I want to have all the responsibilities and obligations of a husbands, while enjoying none of the benefits? Why would I want to risk being homeless, because my now ex wife eviscerated me in the divorce? I could go on, but you get my point. In closing, many Christian men have concerns, concerns that the church has ignored. One, there are no good, solid, Godly churches in my area; all of them obsequiously followed gov't mandates to close during COVID. How do I know? Because none made the news, that's why! Two, the church is feminine, and it bashes men. When I get that in the world, WHY would I want to get more of it in church too? Three, most Christian women are little different than their secular counterparts; whether it's in terms of dress, demeanor, conduct, lifestyle, or conversation, it's almost impossible for a Christian man to discern which women are Christians vs. those who are not. Finally, divorce occurs more often in the church than it does the world. That being the case, WHY would I want to have an even greater chance of having my life destroyed by divorce? Why would I marry someone from within the church? If the risk were negligible, that would be one thing; unfortunately, according to Barna, divorce happens more often within the church than without. Hence, I'm single, and I plan on remaining that way. Those are my thoughts.
@clara494211 ай бұрын
The most wonderful dating advice video on the internet. Such great wisdom. I am finding what's working for me is trusting in God with all my heart and soul -- God always provides. I've also asked our Lord Father to please give me the extra energy and pep to get out into the world more. Now I'm doing more sports and hobbies, reading the Bible daily, praying and being very intentional and specific with that, as well as increasing my service in the community, serving my family, and unabashedly basking in my wholesome feminine energy. I'm also surrounding myself with women who love their spouse and kids, love God, and have good, decent, wise things to say. I guess I'm trying to do all this so God actually has something to work with. Haha! I really don't deserve God's ministrations if I'm at home in my pjs watching Netflix all weekend pouring emotion into a character that doesn't exist! Now I pray for the gift of discernment so I may chose wisely for it's raining Godly men. Thank you God for this season of abundance. Glory to you always.