Better yet, join the LoveWho discord server which may or may not be a dating server… ~ Nathan

yep, its a pretty good manifesto!

@@lovewho stahhp 😂 it's an everything server 😎

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And how is dating going for you? Lmao

INFJs nutritional facts (mine)

Within a week of reporting to a new place of work, my boss announced to my coworkers that I was an alien! Mind you, I had not even heard of MBTI then!

You forgot "100% reason to remember the name"

Looks like a Trinity if you divide the total of 300% into 3 parts with

I laughed and scared my cat.

I don't even listen to music - only very rarely, when I feel like listening to a specific song I remember

@@teodora7219 @Teodora It's the opposite for me 🙃. I love listening to music in general, heck even when I'm doing exams or work I have a song in my head like 80% of the time 😂 (it is also more pronounced when the task is kind of easy). It brought so much feelings to me, mostly good ones but there are songs that nearly can brought me tears (Fix You by Coldplay is one of them), because I feel like they are somewhat relatable. I however don't listen to many genres of music (only Rock, Progressive Rock, a bit of Hard Rock, a bit of Pop and various songs from movies or games). And I agree with you that there are periods of time when I want to listen to a specific song or to a specific artist. However it's so true that hearing loud noises can be extremely unpleasant, like being exposed to powerful and/or flashing lights.

Really? I don’t really mind that if I’m by myself. Since I don’t know anybody doesn’t really matter what I do. Admittedly I can only do a few hours. I get more overstimulated when there are a lot of people I know and I have to hang out with. I do better with 2 - 4 groups, 6 and more it’s starts to be too much. Cause I change my persona to them

Same here. I never turn the lights on in my office at work and get comments about it all the time. Sometimes they turn it on for me and I turn it off. Don't light sunlight shining in the window either. Sun is beautiful but it's way too harsh and bright.

True

Me too!! This too relatable lol

Yep, me too

spot on! :)

🤣 Why? Cuz they thick?

@@infernal.. INFJs are thick? 😂

They constantly contradict themselves and are attracted to his brain ? Checks out!!

I knew there had to be that one person in the comment section 🤣

Never! ~ Nathan

@@lovewho Lighten up Nathan she was joking😏😂😂🙄

@jasmin ... Nathan is cold ... outside ... fi under stress... A true INTJ... 😅

@Hannah No... he is a Droid 🤣😂

Is this why I seem to fluctuate so endlessly between INFJ and INTP?

Yea pretty much

That's a great description!!

Haha

I dont think that, but yes who knows I am who I am thats all I have to know xD

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I hear ya.

Yes! It's so damn hard.

You’re the first INFJ I’ve came across that actually admits this aspect of us. I thought I was the only one.

Yep...that's it.

YESSS. I wish I could just throw that sponge away..

@@ZNIR777 IKR. I wish I don't have Fe. Absorbing other people's emotions is the most tiring thing

YES, that part really helped me type my husband! INTJ just didn’t fit right.

FACTS! that hidden superpower feeling is so true! Not only can It be exhausting but I feel ppl wouldnt want the extra help so I try to hide it

Hahaha I know what you mean I'm also an INFJ

We really have to reserve our energy for those who are closest, and we can get to a point that we're VERY choosy about who we keep close. Pro tip: create a self care routine. Keeping our basic needs met definitely helps with the energy crisis! Might even find a little more leftover for friendly interactions ;) or a walk in the woods

Bruh...how can you described me so well

INFJ is exhausting sometimes. Sadboy forever.

For sure! They want you to feel truly happy

Damn! I was literally thinking about using it this way! I have this unfinished bunch of fictions that I need to continue and hope this will really help) I'm glad I'm not the only one who does it😂

@@_whoknowswho_3705 HECK YES friend! I've gone down the rabbit hole hard with a few similar channels too and now it's formed the rock-solid basis of how I write character interactions, progression and motivation. Feels like discovering the cheat code! If you really wanna knock it out of the park with your writing, I also highly recommend Hello Future Me's channel for how to pull it all together. Between his amazing analysis and incredible resources like Love Who here, it's so much easier to plot stories to the end and actually write it.

@@ShaleNinja wow thank you for recommendations!💫

I'm very shy too! You aren't alone. My shyness is overwhelming in a group of people I don't know at all. In groups where I know one or more people, even if I don't know them well, I do the social chameleon thing. If a person is known enough by me to have at least one trait or behavior be predictable or reliable, my behavior will blend with theirs and I'll feel more comfortable and less shy. For example, if the only thing I know about about a person is that they like to talk, I'll be the one to listen so that they can have the spotlight. If I know they don't talk, I'll actually be the one to talk, at least until an extrovert shows up (lol!)

I’m shy, but I learned how to be shy on the inside, because my job requires meeting new, exciting people regularly. Key is learning how to maintain eye contact without showing any sign of fear.

Nah you are not the only one

I relate to a couple less than that, but otherwise, same.

I'm 49. Not sure if this is typical or just random, but I def developed my ability to adapt to the room and social environment, but it came as I got older. Much as my not caring or being tuned into what other people thought about it as much. Also, we need to remember... WE are the ones over thinking, other people are tuned into a completely different channel. They're focused on completely different things than us. That helped me a lot recently. It kinda lets us off the hook a bit.

It really is amazing. I love this part of it. Sometimes when I'm alone...I smoke and just let it fly. It's cathartic for me. Helps keep it in check some when I'm with regular ppl.

I wish I had known INFJ was a neurological thing and not a 'personality' thing way back when. It makes it much easier to accept when you know it's inborn and there's absolutely nothing you can do about being so sensitive. I heard one INFJ KZfaqr describe a 'normal' person as having an energy field that extends about 12" in all directions, while an INFJ has an energy field that extends 12 feet. Or in other words anyone within a 12 foot radius has the power to disrupt our vibes. Sucks to be us, unless of course everyone's having a good time, then it's fantastic being us.

Exactly. I don’t understand how kids work in class/school… I literally can’t get ANYTHING done in class at all because of the stimulation…

Well, thank you for contributing your own deep, intelligent and insightful comment too. Hope you enjoyed the video! ~ Nathan

don't be :( life is hard as an INFJ

@@ZNIR777 yeah, but please let's be proud of our type. I know I am. It comes gradually but we can all arrive there.

​@@ZNIR777 Yes it can be hard. But in all my years of being an infj myself, if there is anything I did figure out it is that while yes the journey is a difficult one, a butterfly does not grow it's wings without having to endure the journey, or the darkness of a cacoon. However, once the butterfly undergoes its transformation, it then begins to understand that it is no longer a caterpillar, but it has the ability to fly, and soar to new heights never once seen before. It is well worth it I promise.

@@michellekingsbury9347 ​ @Pristine Healing Love thank you :) I hope I'll get there some day

@@ZNIR777 I'm sure you will just take it day by day at a time😊

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Our job as INFJs is to ever so gently steer people, not solve them. Using a light touch with a lot of people can have a big effect - better than big influence on a few.

@@cynthiajohnson9412 I think it's the other way round. Often it's better to change things on a small scale, people go with it into the world and it spreads. And what realistic possibility does a single person have to have influence on a lot of people (unless you're already famous and privileged - and even then?)? Not much. Make a change where you can to make your immediate environment better. If everyone does it this way, things will change for the positive. Gentle influence does not exclude big influence.

@@PriHL I think INFJs intuitively understand persuasion. Changing someone's mind is a gradual thing. You're right, it works in drip and drabs. If at all. But people are starving for truth tellers who aren't pushing or selling anything but the truth. INFJs aren't ego driven so we don't expect people to suddenly do a 180 and then thank us for 'enlightening' them. Lol. We work though the ideas, and people can take them or leave them but we know how to make a good case and highlight the common sense and the benefit of wisdom, and since we aren't attached to ego we can let that go where it will. And being INFJs we know anything done quickly can be undone just as quickly (to paraphrase the I Ching) We're not trying to tell people what to do, we're not trying to 'educate' people, we're just offering good guidance. Just putting the truth out there without any particular aim at a outcome or a person or group can be very powerful. Most of what we are tapping into is floating around in the cosmic collective anyway, we just receive and translate. It's already out there, we're just the oracles. If you need an example, this is it. I'm not telling INFJs what to do or what to say - they already know. I'm just encouraging them to speak-out. The chips are gonna fall where they may, but that's not our problem, or even concern. Our job is to just call them as we see them.

Hi, I can see that you’re making content around personality types (very cool videos by the way). I’d recommend checking out the LoveWho discord server. There’s lots of content creators on there and there’s a channel where we promote the various content creators on the server. Feel free to check it out. If you have any difficulties navigating it on there drop me a DM and I can assist ~ Nathan

@@lovewho hiya Nathan, that sounds ace! thank you for watching, flattered!! :) do you have a link for the discord server?

It’s just being empathetic. We all experience that same thing over and over again. Makes it so hard to ever be mad or angry at someone. We see all sides all the time because we use both sides of the brain. We therefore weigh everything considering every side first. We never jump to conclusions.

I say this a lot 😅 i work at HR and I never failed at detecting people at interviews who are obedient from those who are rebels 😅🤣 if i say i don't like this "one"(specific applicant) but my coworkers would always say I'm judgmental. Then comes a time when that applicant is already an employee, days/wks after, that employee violated a major policy 😅🤣 and that would send them to termination. I would then say to my coworkers. See i told ya 🤣

Why thank you… ~ Nathan

I agree with what you said about “feeling someone’s energy through a screen.” However, how do you feel if someone else tells you you’re probably just making assumptions to other people’s feelings/energy through a screen? :(

@@azyleefistory I don't tell them. And in my case, it is still based on the way they write/respond. It is more reading between the lines than guessing. Kinda like: I can put things into context even if someone tries to provide as little information as possible.

I am the exact same way ! Its exciting to finally learn that there are others out there who are similar to me lol

That's great to know! 😀 Mine is other way around. It was a blessing for me as a child since I observed people and loved analysing them and their viewpoints. Now it's like curse, since I know who's interested to know me, talk to me or whether they know or like the things I do or not... It's also bad that I am aware of the emotional state of people and the surrounding I'm in, it often drains my energy very quickly if it's too overwhelming which is usually the case. 🥲

Yes. And then they’re blown away!

Sitcom, maybe? "LOST IN SPACE"? Will Robinson? This is what I remember from the about a family and a short robot. 😊

@@sakinahabdulbari6884 It was a cute movie called "Short Circuit."

Why thank you… ~Nathan

@@lovewho Are u an observer?

@@JyothirSoorya-UEL-LOL

I'm an INFJ and my brother is an INTP, we do communicate well with each other, but I think we still have clear differences. Also our other brother seems to be an INFP and we definitely clash with him the most.

Our Te is over-emphasised and overestimated by other types. Our third slot function, Fi, is actually very strong (like your third slot Ti), and can even take over as a primary source of motivation. We don't take pleasure in being blunt, we just often haven't been able to see a way around it, or how to do otherwise. We're constantly stuck in "simulation mode", thinking several moves ahead, and other than our Fe being a blind spot, we may not see leaving someone in a state of ignorance as a long term benefit. But we are keenly aware that our awkward social skills alienate us, and I think most of us feel lonely, isolated, and misunderstood... to varying degrees depending on whether or not we're sociopathic villains! ;-)