Piers is a weird mix of likeable and reasonable and agreeable but also very disagreeable at the same time. A fairly tough cookie to speak to, not necessarily an easy conversation. Because in a way he always wants to 'get' the interviewee. So, well done man, you handled this sublimely. @chrisWillx

"Savage" "Queen" "King" Words like these used to have a different meaning.

@@DennisWerthMusic I like what Stephen Fry said about him `The definition of countryside was the murder of Piers Morgan`.

...so is medicine. And it gets abused more on the hidden side. Alcohol is great in numbing body pains...but who overdoes it will get cranky because this person got her body used to a certain intake.

My Father is an alcoholic too and it has a pretty firm grip on him at this point. He was abusive in my youth but has mellowed out somewhat as he's gotten older, but our relationship is pretty stunted considering i'm 35 and he's 70. He's had a difficult life and he uses alcohol as means to cope with that; if trauma is a person being frozen in a place psychologically then alcohol is definitely part of the glue that keeps you stuck there. I can tell he doesn't really want to drink like he does (and he even went off it for a while, replacing the habit with 0% wine) but he never actually challenged the behaviour or any of his demons so he slipped right back into it eventually. He drinks now out of decades of habit as it's the only way he knows how to live and to deal with my Mother who is a toxic, anxious/depressive narcissist. I keep trying to inform him of how fit he could be if he exercised (he turns 70 this year and has superb mesomorphic genes for bodybuilding) and he seems interested but never does anything with it. Never will do anything with it. With alcoholism, it's just like that... They're called spirits and that's exactly what they take from you. As you said, alcohol is a dangerous drug, in far more ways than one...

@andreantares70 I like your analogy on alcohol being a glue that keeps you stuck. And accepting your parent as they are and understanding their demons are their own is powerful. I never did gain the ability to have an open and honest conversation with my dad before he passed away in 2000.... my brain has always seen a bigger picture and his brain didn't appreciate my far seeing vision so I learned at an early age to just listen and not talk much lol. He died when he was 72 but was incapable of getting around for years and was a miserable soul 🫤 He was so angry when he was dying from cancer that one day he even wished me and my older brother got it so that we would know what he was going through.... it was sad. At another point, just a few hours before he died when my 5 siblings and I were gathered around his bed, he said that if he could do it all over again that he wouldn't have had any of us... that it would have just been him and my mom. It was like light went off and everything made sense and I just thought 'you silly old man, you got it all wrong' and I vowed then and there that I would deal with my demons to save my children any harsh truths that I may dare to utter at them on my death bed in such a narcissistic woe is me manner. I loved my father regardless and wanted to remember him in a kindly way .. he did his best but was a product of his upbringing and nothing I could have ever said or done would have changed the path he was the most comfortable to travel on. We pick our parents to learn the lessons we need to learn and it is not our fault if they choose to not see and deny the gift/lesson that we bring to them 🥰 We're all just humans trying to find our humanity, some folks just try harder than others me thinks.

It's low grade poison. Been a part of society for so long that people don't understand how bad it is for you.

I don't know him but having gone through the experience it might be that it wasn't alcohol that made him that way but his circumstances that led to his over alcohol usage that made him that way. On top of that, alcohol lowers your inhibitions so you show more of what you are going through than normal. I've done that. That's why it makes me wonder. Since you say he started drinking later and it doesn't sound like he became an asshole again.

For 99% of drinkers this is true, but what about people like Ernest Hemmingway, FItzgerald, Jack Nicholson, any of your favorite musicians, Beethoven? I would think Beethoven is bloody interesting and he drank daily.

Most people aren't interesting sober what's your point.

@@jr5993 What is YOUR point? what does this have to do with anything I said?

@@andresizurieta7391 learn how replies work, wasn't addressing you bro

​@@jr5993 why are drinkers perceived as interesting.

What caused you to quit?

I quit 4 months ago and I just turned 38. I’m a better dad and husband sober, I hope to stay sober like you

That's awesome. Good on ya.

​@@nickreiffer2575Keep it up. I'm 3 months in and I can say without hesitation that I'll NEVER put alcohol in my body ever again because the benefits of not drinking mentally, emotionally and physically far out weigh a temporary high if you will. I'm 41 drank casually / socially since I was 16. No damaged caused but I got lucky.

Same

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What about video games?

​@stefanangelovski4037 what makes you ask that?

@@stefanangelovski4037 what a lunatic 😂😂

@@stefanangelovski4037 video isn't a drug tho,it's just like tv or browsing the web,or reading a story book,it's a hobby and should be a reward after you finish your task,that also would depends if you actually like video game or use them as an escape when i was younger i liked video game,but then that's all i did to escape my shit childhood/parent/situation now i only ever play if i have everything in my life straight,i need to have peace of mind and physic to be able to enjoy video game,because i actually do like video game and unless all my task are done i cannot focus while playing

What about junk food ?

Similar boat here friend, good effort!

Sept 2022 over here. Same lost my mom in 2021.

Wow, big respect. Your discipline is admirable

Good for you Shane!

Well done mate

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good job

Congrats! I'm 6 months sober. Keep up the good fight!

1 month feel fantastic no depression from hangovers 😊😊

I have 7 years, the big thing is life isn’t about fun. It’s about finding yourself and loving who you really are, cheers celebrate living in truth. Just toast with water 😂 fancy cup

Said very well

Well said mate!

Get professional help now, and be prepared to leave the house if you need to. She will die if this continues. I am in a position to know. AA can also be very helpful.

Unfortunately, you can't really make the decision for someone else to cut down or quit. That's a door that people have to walk through for themselves. I wish you the best of luck with your current situation.

I go to a AA meeting everyday and let me tell you my life has changed for the better take your wife to meetings 3-4 times a week, she will start seeing the futility in drinking

She'll end up on a drip

I’m in a very similar boat. It can be pretty depressing watch someone you love refuse to accept the truth. I was amazed when she managed to stop the drink for January, even if she was on a bottle of alcohol free wine a night in the last week. She was right back on it in feb and is back to 5/7 again. Mid January she was the happiest she had been in ages and said so, antidepressants finally allowed to work and all was good. And she went straight back the self destructive behaviour. I hope you have more luck and you both make it through to somewhere better

you and me both man, I'm three oreo's away from being a landwhale.

If you cut out processed sugar for 3 to 4 days and cut carbs a little while still eating a good amount of calories you can start to hop off the blood sugar rollercoaster of craving. For me I find it hard, but it literally changes what I want to eat within a week and makes me less moody and impulsive when eating

I know the feeling. I can’t seem to give up sugar. I’ve managed to completely cut out some things that are bad for me, such as video gaming. But I just cannot find the willpower to give up sugar

​@@Anonuk94how is video gaming bad for you?

Meat only one meal a day carnivore diet. Two fatty steaks I guarantee you wont feel hungry for 24 hours.

Yep. That was a bit me in my teens.. when my mates were drunk my guard was up cause they would go through emotions that weren't genuine and could wind up sad or angry but when sober I was more inclined to be outgoing, have a laugh, play a prank etc

i love this point. most of these events need alcohol because theyre boring and non stimulating, most of the people too.

Yeah exactly, spot on. You wouldn’t sit at a bar in a pub for 6hrs if there was no alcohol involved. I used to drink alone in my shed a lot but now that I’m sober I don’t just go and sit out there for hours lol.

@@w1ldthin9 preach man! Very true

@@w1ldthin9 And those are the events where you drink in excess because they usually consist of just placing a bunch of people and alcohol together for 6+ hours.

Your comment feels life changing to me. You mentioned "Don’t count the days, weeks or months'..I've quit for months, then days, counted the days/weeks. Got excited to be a month sober, then drank, then was depressed at only 3 days sober, because i have this sober counter app on my phone that tracks my days. Perhaps I should delete the app, and enjoy my sobriety. I am 3 days sober today.

It can be done. I just realized that it’s been 26 years for me, instead of 25, as I wrote in my comment. Today I celebrated my 54th birthday, which means it’s now 27 years for me. I’ve endured a lot of heartbreak in the past 27 years. I’m glad I never amplified my sadness by adding alcohol to the mix. I ended the cycle, and I pray you do as well. I wish you the best, Matt. You got this.

Ok you are actually boring , make some stories in your early 20s dude

LEGEND.

@@user-dm6eo3yh2i - you can have stories without consumption. go buy a beat up camper and go venturing across the country. hit the backcountry for a few days. go hang out with a local family in vietnam or something. theres so much life to be had beyond the walls of a pub.

Keep up the good work my man. Better to realise this now than later in life. I had a similar experience however went back and forward with those type of “friends”. They are in general just drinking, smoking, whatever acquaintances. There is a couple I shared similar interests with and hook up to go hiking etc. However ninety five percent of people met in those circles I have nothing in common with. The only thing that tied us together like you say is rampant consumption, addiction or friending over substances or alcohol. Go have a meal for your birthday spend it with loved ones or close friends who don’t need you to be consuming what they are to establish or maintain a connection. You can tell when you meet someone and you tell them you are clean. If they are happy for you and suggest hooking up to do another activity fair play. However the majority will look at you like you have lost the plot.

@@user-dm6eo3yh2i I made my stories in my late teens. Festivals, breaking into buildings, psychedelics, the whole shabang. It would be hard for me to count all of the stupid stuff that I’ve done over the past few years that could very well have ended up with me arrested or worse. I was reliant on drugs to have a good time and “make memories”, and in my opinion if a drug’s needed to make something memorable, odds are it really wasn’t that special. Not to say I don’t have some fond memories of my past, they’re just few and far between relative to all of the stupid shit I’ve managed to do over past 3-4 years.

Full agree. Good to see someone mention authenticity here. Drinking friendships are an illusion. Getting sober was the best thing I ever done. Stopped existing and started living.

feel bad for you

I don't hardly drink at all anymore, though only out of habit, and I never _especially_ enjoyed drinking, but I can say without doubt that when I was younger, in college and so on, I had so many good times with good friends that were absolutely enhanced by alcohol. I'm sorry your experience with drinking tended to limit your enjoyment of life, even to the point of calling it a "stupid waste of time." In that sense I suppose you were unlucky that you weren't able to understand a different side of alcohol use. But you're certainly fortunate now to be able to look back on a big part of your life with a sense of fondness.

@@hughmac13 When you are sober you are able to connect and embrace life on a much deeper and more real level. Add spending time with other people like that i.e. friends and you can't compare the two experiences. The fun I have had...the true laughter...memories...imagination...connection and growth...I only wish I had learned to live this way sooner:+) Booze only shut off my brain and made me "feel" good on a base level...let alone the toxicity of alcohol and damage it did to my body. God bless~

Many of my best memories from my twenties had alcohol involved.... Many of my worst did as well.

Spiritus Contraspiritum

Don't blame alcohol for you being friendless lol.

@@yonchrrok D . OOO ch BAG

@@yonchrr Actually it makes sense to do it. Did you not understand the first 4 sentences?

This sounds more like an advertisement for drinking than a con.

I, myself, couldn't detect the "clash."

Piers was almost neighborly to Chris in this interview. I think his style has aged well with time.

​@@squibbelsmcjohnsonThe title says "debate" which they did. You're probably so seduced by drama these days that a civilized conversation doesn't seem like a debate anymore.

he tends to only interupt a lot when he disagrees with the guest. If they are in agreement nothing happens haha which defeats the purpose of a debate

Who looked unhealthy way before his terminal illness. How much sunshine did he feel upon waking up in the morning after a bottle or two

Perfectly said.

So?

@@GorgeouslyStupidThing L reply. W OP

Keep it going Amelia. That’s great news!

I used to love pain meds.

Well done stay strong, I went to my first dry rave last year, I don't have a problem with alcohol, I can take or leave it but being part of a recovery community and seeing how big it was really opened my eyes and everyone had a blast without a drop of alcohol in sight. I was the same as you started on pain meds but soon moved to stronger opiates, I've been in recovery going on five years and abstinent for a year now.

blud why tf were you underrage drinking in the first place

@@CSorginipretty much everyone in Europe starts drinking in their mid teens lol

And people needn't go to the Amazon, just find some mushrooms and they can have the same experience. But good on you

yawn

Thanks! So true.

What makes someone boring?

@@ZenMeah exactly, it's all subjective & a way of putting people down for their choices.

@@mrbritisher9748 I’ve been called boring for being an introvert and not drinking alcohol. The people that called me boring don’t really know me or try to get to know me but I’m boring for not behaving in the same way that they do. I think going to the same pubs drinking every weekend is boring so yeah it’s definitely all subjective

Alcohol sucks without cocaine though, being super drunk is not fun

Been going since last May and probably won’t have another drink until my kids are old enough for their first beer in 18 years. Even then, I’m sure weed will be legal and a lot more acceptable so I probably won’t drink again.

Snap. I haven’t drunk since the 7th of Jan. The clarity I have is different level. I’ve had 2 social situations so far. Both were relatively easy. What I did notice was the people drinking thought I was doing something crazy. I also got the impression that they felt like I was judging them and a few of them felt the need to justify why they drink. I just told them I’m doing it to see how long I can last. My aim is a year and to see how I feel after achieving my goal.

@@BillyHayes79Music yea the hardest part though are the really nice days where you’re hanging out grilling or you have family over. It’s pretty easy to refrain from drinking at bars and shit because people are wild haha.

It blows my mind how people will say how great being sober is and then put such a short time limit on it. If you feel so great, stay away from alcohol you goof

@@Jay-og4yb very difficult with a wedding, Stag Weekend and the Euros in Germany coming up. Definitely reducing the intake over the next 12 months from the previous 12 months though.

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Very true

I feel lucky to have never had that relationship with alcohol. I'm done drinking when my beer is empty because I basically never have more than one. If I'm out all evening maybe I'll have 3 over a 6 hour period.

Is that sarcasm? So you need alcohol to be excited? That’s what I call boring

​​@@Jn.curry10I'm pretty sure he's saying the exact opposite but yes, with sarcasm.

I joke to my doctor that I am the most boring male in the United States. She often replies, “boring is good!” 😊

so sad, I love excitement.

People confuse peace and consistency with boredom and chaos with excitement.

I agree. 12 steps black/white approach is for more serious career drinkers. I started drinking 15 years ago aged 40. Last 10 years it’s been every day. Not loads just regular. Stopped 3 weeks ago and intend to keep it that way. Maybe in a year or so I’ll be able to have the occasional drink but I’m not going back to routine 3/4 glasses of wine a night.

whatever you need to tell yourself to cope

@OmarBC420 Oh shhh calm down just cuz u can’t handle your booze doesn’t mean the rest of us can’t

This is the truth. The vast majority of people have no trouble having a great night out with friends or loved ones and then not getting together again for a week, a month or the next holiday. The alcoholics project the effect of alcohol on them to everyone else. I have gone up to a year without a drink because I just wasn't invited to something or was busy but I can still have a great time once in a while. I also have a an ounce of bourbon a couple times a month and get great enjoyment from that also. Being afraid to have an experience is not an admirable character trait imo. Also drinking doesn't mean pounding a dozen beers; if you can't moderate yourself then yes, you should not drink.

There are zero upsides to alcohol

@@Jay-og4yb Absolutes are only for people without understanding.

Good on you

Protect this man at all costs lol, people forget about balance !

@@ConfusedCatto thanks dude. We're living in a time where people are too scared or stupid (or both) to be able to comprehend meeting somewhere in the middle. People are scared of everything now. It's actually funny.

@@jaserogers997 It is crazy how fearful people have gotten

@@PeteQuad I know mate. Especially the younger generation, it seems. I love getting off my face - once in a while. I work hard, I exercise hard, I love my food and when I (very) occasionally party, I do that hard too. Why wouldn't I?

Is it causing her pain or does it just bother you for some reason? I have seen it both ways and sometimes one can be mistaken for the other.

@@PeteQuad for some reason? She’s quite literally poisoning herself. She’s relying on something that is not good for her

I clocked that. Piers is incapable of discussing a topic without taking it personally.

You didn't have to bro😂

Agree, and the comment section of any of these videos are just filled with people talking about their sobriety rather than commenting on the actual videos.

@@PGHEngineervery, it’s mind boggling, they sound like left wing purists

Thats not what its saying though. Its not chastising you personally. Its people sharing their stories about how an unhealthy substance was holding them back and how dropping it made a positive impact in their lives. Nobody is telling you that you cant drink, but to deny the negative impact it CAN (keyword there) have on your life is pure ignorance.

Piers Morgan has been around for ages

Im sure nobody starts out thinking "boy i cant wait to be completely dependant on this substance to live my life", but thats the way it goes with every addiction. People think they have the self control to moderate their usage but that actually takes an incredible amount of discipline