Is Cheating Always Wrong? | Middle Ground
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0:00 intro
0:53 I would forgive my partner if they cheated on me
9:57 Emotional cheating is worse than physical cheating
16:34 I would date someone eho cheated on others in the past
25:30 There are much worse things that can break a relationship than cheating
25:41 it's okay to express attention to others while in a relationship
34:48 If you cheat on someone you are not in love with them
44:47 I would rather not know that I was cheated on
57:16 It's not always the cheater's fault when they cheat
1:04:02 final thoughts
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@macymiller4704 2 ай бұрын
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@LennyTheHopeless 2 ай бұрын
I really wish you guys would skip the hugging thing at the end. All I can imagine everytime is me in that situation feeling the pressure that I need to hug someone at the end but not wanting to inside, yet feeling like if I say no its gonna create this awkward atmosphere for everyone.
@Vivian-bn7yh 2 ай бұрын
@@LennyTheHopelessno seriously I’d be genuinely uncomfortable , esp if I had to hug that chelsea woman 😭💀
@leen34568 2 ай бұрын
you know what’s worse than a cheater? a cheater who thinks they did nothing wrong.
@argent5196 2 ай бұрын
Nobody in the video did that tho
@anonymousbo0318 2 ай бұрын
@@argent5196 Delusional child
@biscutvein 2 ай бұрын
@@argent5196Damn bro you got to comment on everyone’s comment? you’re hella defensive lol
@argent5196 2 ай бұрын
@@biscutvein uh what I replied to like two comments 💀 and that’s how a comment section works
@argent5196 2 ай бұрын
@@biscutvein but.. nobody in the video did that tho, still
@shhd2105 2 ай бұрын
Imagine you start dating someone and see them in a video defending cheating💀
@spacebuddy5339 2 ай бұрын
😂😅
@XO42X 2 ай бұрын
😂😂
@rattus7881 2 ай бұрын
...thats why I will never go to California 😂 everyone is crazy
@argent5196 2 ай бұрын
No one really defended cheating
@cuddlebaby5787 2 ай бұрын
😂😂😂
@_GodIsDivine Ай бұрын
“I’m a Christian I dont believe in having attraction outside of your marriage… I dont see other men” Literally cheated on your husband… 🙂 ok
@williammeads2686 18 күн бұрын
she did say she changed so maybe she had a conversion after cheating...
@chloebeall4011 16 күн бұрын
You can think something is wrong and still do it lol. I think her point is she would be wrong to do that
@brandon-toddhutchinson3798 16 күн бұрын
Terrifying stuff... smh
@inesnathaliengoua 15 күн бұрын
she made no real argument. she just said im a christian the bible says and she still cheated.
@alexthievery7834 15 күн бұрын
Crazy
@victoriagrubbs1720 2 ай бұрын
Chelsea is the type of woman that just got back from a gentrified yoga retreat in a foreign country and thinks she’s better than everyone else now.
@rnbear Ай бұрын
Eat pray love-esk
@majapuseljic8015 Ай бұрын
HAHA
@annasiddall6133 23 күн бұрын
EXACTLY.
@nehsangbong7259 16 күн бұрын
Superiority complex at its best. I can't stand it when people act like that. 🙄
@alexthievery7834 15 күн бұрын
😭😭😭
2 ай бұрын
Cheating is always wrong. Period.
@jackthomas6952 2 ай бұрын
It’s not always so black and white.
@raimeyewens7518 2 ай бұрын
Not for Chelsea 🙄
@kazeGMD 2 ай бұрын
@@jackthomas6952yes it is
@kazeGMD 2 ай бұрын
@@jackthomas6952for this it is
@kazeGMD 2 ай бұрын
@@jackthomas6952because you can always break up
@SwiftieHQ 2 ай бұрын
Ain’t no way people are defending cheaters 😭
@Taylorswiftarmpitsweat 2 ай бұрын
Idc cheating on men is based
@yahia9481 2 ай бұрын
@@Taylorswiftarmpitsweat 🤢
@thainac1732 2 ай бұрын
@@Taylorswiftarmpitsweat How? You’d be ruining a relationship.
@Sol4rOnYt 2 ай бұрын
fr
@Efflugant 2 ай бұрын
@@Taylorswiftarmpitsweatwhat...
@reecegg Ай бұрын
Raven is some top tier gaslighter 😭 how she managed to convince the guy it was his fault he was cheated on
@Orius25 26 күн бұрын
She was the least integrated person on the panel. She just dove into Christianity and convinced herself of the straight-and-narrow path without actually deeply interrogating her motives.
@ludakkris 10 күн бұрын
She was annoying because she has such strong beliefs when it comes to cheating but she’s a cheater
@TheRider6199 10 күн бұрын
Raven is just that type of person who doesn't take responsibility for her actions, so she takes them out on others
@NOSTahlgia 5 күн бұрын
Oh, you mean the woman who in the first sentence managed to say (paraphrasing): "As a cheater I can forgive cheaters, oh yea and as a Christian. Uh... err.. uh"
@megana.3979 2 ай бұрын
I think Sophie was the only Cheater that has come to terms with the fact that what she did was awful. The others did some mental gymnastics to be like, "but I'm better now" whereas she was like "i promised myself and my partner that if I started feeling that way again and wanted to cheat, I would tell him." I think that she was more honest than the others because she also was cheated on
@sophiemilkes Ай бұрын
Thank you for your kind words. I did a lot of work both in and out of therapy to find the root causes of my repeated cheating and to become a better version of myself. I haven't cheated on anyone in over 5 years. I can't take back the hurtful things I've done or said, but I can work every day to be a better person.
@edenoliver2005 Ай бұрын
agreed all the others seemed like they were trying way too hard to defend themselves while she admitted fault and changed
@jamesmcdonnell2455 7 күн бұрын
@@edenoliver2005if she changed, she wouldn't need her partner to prevent her from cheating again.
@nosnah227 6 күн бұрын
@@sophiemilkes I also really appreciated that you talked about how learning you didn't have to forgive was a way of healing and that it eventually becomes indifference. My recovery from things in life has generally been atypical, and it took me a long time to find because I didn't know there were ways. I couldn't forgive my mom, so I felt like I could never get better because the narrative is you have to forgive for yourself. When I learned it doesn't have to be that way, I was free. I don't forgive my mom, but I also don't have any pent up negative energy towards her either. Sometimes when I talk about this, people who did do the "typical" route for recovery get defensive and push back that I must be holding onto anger and things. I don't know, it's just frustrating when I just want to share with people that recovery isn't one specific path, so thanks for vocalizing it too.
@briathomas5310 5 күн бұрын
@@jamesmcdonnell2455change isn't black and white. And happens in steps. And she's taken BIG steps to hold herself accountable.
@makaylaa3614 2 ай бұрын
its funny how cheaters are trying so hard to convince themselves that cheating is okay
@maya_m.152 2 ай бұрын
Fr, I laughed whenever one of them opened their mouth. It's ridiculous.
@Taylorswiftarmpitsweat 2 ай бұрын
Cheating on men should be normalized i dgaf
@nehsangbong7259 2 ай бұрын
Seriously LMFAOOOOOOO
@lulyaemun7382 2 ай бұрын
@@Taylorswiftarmpitsweat ofc it's a swifty talking
@KingDayDayDay00 2 ай бұрын
Gross how it seems like it's becoming normalizing
@pepito2847 2 ай бұрын
It’s refreshing to see Middle Ground tackle a topic that has nothing to do with politics
@len-1768 2 ай бұрын
Same, though a few apolitical Middle Ground videos are on absurd topics, such as flat earth, aliens, and astrology.
@LolaKlein 2 ай бұрын
What do you mean? Politics and cheating are pretty much combined nowadays 😂
@snowypineapples 2 ай бұрын
Could i ask how? @@LolaKlein
@bakondude2233 2 ай бұрын
@@len-1768 flat earthers v. scientists is one of the best episodes, purely for the insanity of it
@Random-sk6hm 2 ай бұрын
True. Although that one annoying girl Raven was being self-righteous and trying to impose her Christian superiority on Chelsea who's also a Christian 💀 I wanna see more videos on non-political topics like the flat Earth one.
@elijahfrost6258 2 ай бұрын
Blonde lady on the cheating side was so obnoxious. The pseudointellectualism was unreal
@Orius25 26 күн бұрын
I didn't find her pseudo, she seemed to be the real deal who understood a lot of this on a very deep level, with a lot of integrity. Maybe she was a bit arrogant, but I found her POV way above entry level. Like... she has lived the reality of therapy and counselling others for a long time. As a therapist myself, it's very obvious. No, I didn't agree with everything she said, but I didn't find her to be a pseuointellectual.
@nosnah227 6 күн бұрын
@@Orius25 That's how I felt too. Visceral emotions are a big part of how most people react, and it takes intent and work to get beyond that, and she had some important things to say because she looks beyond that. Yes, being honest to partners is important, but telling your partner you cheated *can* also be selfish and cruel. Yes, catching feelings or feeling a spark happens without our choice, but it's a choice whether you cut it short there or you foster it in ways that grow into love.
@AnimatorBlake Күн бұрын
@@Orius25The overconfidence and the inflexibility of her ideas which don't fit reality like she claims are what add the pseudo to her intellectualism. She is frequently wrong and yet arbitrates what reality is for those in the conversation.
@Orius25 Күн бұрын
@@AnimatorBlake I have no problem if people disagree with her take or think she's wrong/arrogant or whatever... but nothing you've described necessarily makes her a narcissist. People should not be pathologizing others they disagree with or simply don't like. If you don't have clinical training then you have no business saying such things. Just because you think she's wrong, arrogant, or pushy, doesn't mean she has a mental disorder. The current social media generation uses pop psychology to criticize people and it's wrong. It was a huge mistake to teach your generation psychology terms.
@haleycarson4129 Күн бұрын
She’s a class A certified narcissistic. She should self-diagnose.
@coopersheridan73 Ай бұрын
Raven is acting like she didn’t cheat, and that she could never, and it’s just heartbreaking
@Orius25 26 күн бұрын
Everyone in this thread is attacking Chelsea but it was really Raven who was the manipulative one. She dove head-long into Christianity, called herself "saved," and didn't integrate any of her shadow side. The red flags are never ending.
@patrickcazer 11 күн бұрын
@@Orius25 i think the people there noticed did you see at the end how everyone were talking and hugging and no one talked to or gave her a hug lol she's kinda just standing there.
@Spijen 6 күн бұрын
@@patrickcazer she walked off as soon as everyone started hugging
@patrickcazer 5 күн бұрын
@@Spijen she didn't, if you go to 1:06:10 you can see her standing in the middle while everyone is hugging. that was someone else who walked off
@laizerwoolf 2 ай бұрын
Those who rationalize cheating probably have the talent to become a politician.
@lavonnealexander6936 2 ай бұрын
😂😂😂
@THEMADHATTRESS 2 ай бұрын
Yes their key talent being a lack of morals and empathy. Agreed.
@MsDiana-fl7be 2 ай бұрын
🤣
@austinflores8552 2 ай бұрын
Yyyyaaaaassssssssssss!!!!!!!!!
@inyeneate9972 2 ай бұрын
Real😂
@orix6050 2 ай бұрын
Chelsea is literally a narcissist. The way she tries to dance around questions and validate her terrible behavior was insane.
@raimeyewens7518 2 ай бұрын
This!! Total gaslighting narcissist! Doesn’t like being blamed. Typical.
@anne-beritgunhildson598 2 ай бұрын
I was thinking this too, she sees everything from the perspective of whats best for her and what benifits her. Theres no room in her head for thinking about someone elses feelings
@telayajackson2.023 2 ай бұрын
I agree. She was scaring me. She seems emotionless.
@yunthug 2 ай бұрын
@@anne-beritgunhildson598 Agreed, a relationship is about US not about YOU as an individual anymore. Marriage is supposed to be a union of two people. If someone can't think as a team and compromise for the sake of the relationship, then they shouldn't even be in one.
@GigiMurakami 2 ай бұрын
Glad I’m not the only one who peeped that
@soundless1509 2 ай бұрын
If your so worried about not telling someone that you cheated cuz of their mental health or the way it’ll effect them…. THEN WHY DID YOU CHEAT IN THE FIRST PLACE💀 what a self centered narcissist
@TheRider6199 10 күн бұрын
Cheaters really don't be making any sense
@AnimatorBlake Күн бұрын
It's just trying to virtue signal while being an awful person.
@Snowyblitz555 Ай бұрын
I would rather listen to those who have been cheated on, than those who have cheated while defending themselves
@Orius25 26 күн бұрын
I appreciated both sides a lot. Mainstream narratives often focus on the victim. We seldom get a nuanced conversation from the cheaters, and especially not between the cheaters and cheatees in one setting. It was a rare opportunity.
@Snowyblitz555 26 күн бұрын
@@Orius25 I see your point but in this case, it’s the cheaters who are trying to justify their actions and tell you otherwise
@TheRider6199 10 күн бұрын
Me too
@sumaiya-ey5zc 2 ай бұрын
I feel completely sorry for the guy in that couple he’s being lowkey gaslit into believing he deserved to be cheated on
@jenniferAgbebiyi 2 ай бұрын
Agreed.
@Fnanaanf 2 ай бұрын
Raven seems insufferable
@sumaiya-ey5zc 2 ай бұрын
@@Fnanaanf for real 🤦🏻♀️ she uses the bible to justify everything and follows “every part of it” but where was that resolve when you cheated 😒
@user-gl5cj6tg5i 2 ай бұрын
well..thats because society says its always the mans fault
@Random-sk6hm 2 ай бұрын
That Raven girl was so annoying and her Christian superiority over everyone is mind-numbing. Apparently she cares about the bible until she gets to the 'thou shall not lie' or 'thou shall not commit adultery' parts when she cheats.
@wavey_BB 2 ай бұрын
This blond woman seems like someone who would go to therapy and then tell the therapist “well actually you should be telling me this”
@HiLaToya 2 ай бұрын
Can't remember rolling my eyes so much in one episode.
@amandamorgan8047 2 ай бұрын
Lmaoooo when she said telling your partner that you cheated isnt accountability I screamed 😂😂😂😂😂
@chiefnama790 Ай бұрын
@@amandamorgan8047🙄 she's a different kind of special.
@byoutifulmusic Ай бұрын
@@chiefnama790 nope...just your typical k
@Orius25 26 күн бұрын
She strikes me as someone who has done therapy and has integrated her experiences. I valued her viewpoints.
@whileimonmars 2 ай бұрын
I felt like the cheaters spoke the most and drove the conversation, especially Chelsea. I wish this was moderated better.
@juiceycru 2 ай бұрын
Agreed! Why did he keep giving Chelsea the floor?? She was clearly manipulating the conversation and overriding other people an problematic ways. I would have loved to hear more from the less talkative folks in the room
@carlosperalta1714 2 ай бұрын
@@juiceycrutrue. Wanted to hear more from Leon and the others
@missondo4887 Ай бұрын
Same 100% agree
@shadowdragon1248 Ай бұрын
Well everybody sort of already knows the generalized opinion of those that were cheated on. But no one really knows much behind the thoughts of those that were cheaters. So I feel like it was nice to hear more of their viewpoint... 🤷♂️
@osmanyousif7849 Ай бұрын
Yeah, they really are trying to justify their behavior. It’s even worse when you consider that some of their spouses have allowed it to happen, meaning that they’re enabling them.
@mxrgaretb1641 Ай бұрын
55:16 “if you have a suicidal partner…” you shouldn’t cheat on them in the first place . ESPECIALLY if they are suicidal.
@Re69. 16 күн бұрын
While I agree. I have heard from friends that they can't bring up "breaking up" because then they will "off themselves" So they cheat
@mxrgaretb1641 16 күн бұрын
@@Re69. that’s horrible
@HeyCosby 2 ай бұрын
The smugness of the woman in the blazer is absolutely wild-to say you don’t owe you *husband* the decency of telling him the truth, after you’ve made a vow to love him through sickness and in health, to then go on and *cheat* on him and *betray* his trust because you are selfish is just absolutely crazy to me.
@fiftyzanes 2 ай бұрын
yes omg i’m so glad someone is talking about this !! i literally couldn’t believe what i was hearing
@camim7359 2 ай бұрын
she made my blood BOIL
@ameliafarted 2 ай бұрын
and she’s still with the person she cheated with
@Ghost-pb4ts 2 ай бұрын
A flawless relationship can be shattered by a fleeting moment-a kiss, a fling-that may have occurred many years prior. You might not even recall the face of the person involved in that momentary lapse. Yet, for your partner, it can spell the definitive end. In numerous instances, one partner discovers betrayal, a grave error committed in a moment of recklessness. By the time the truth surfaces, the partner once cherished has moved on, leaving the betrayed to embark on the arduous journey of healing anew. This scenario isn't confined to the past. A couple in their 70s found that other cheated them in their 30s they divorced Therefore, after solemnly vowing to stand by your partner in sickness and in health, to then betray that trust out of sheer selfishness is utterly incomprehensible to me. Simply because you possess the capability to do something doesn't mean you should. Theology should remain a thousand feet away from practical, real-world decision-making.
@nicholesidla6233 2 ай бұрын
Sad thing is I'm almost positive she has a tic tok page called "The other woman and the wife" where she pushes this narrative constantly and is really dismissive of the betrayed and makes it seem like cheating is okay. She's messed up and still doing whatever she can to make what she's done okay
@alex_trem0 2 ай бұрын
Cheating is always wrong. Taking responsibility for getting cheated on is crazy. If you’re not happy in a relationship then JUST LEAVE. Simple as that
@Taylorswiftarmpitsweat 2 ай бұрын
Nope, women who are trapped in relationships can cheat on their abusive partners.
@alex_trem0 2 ай бұрын
@@Taylorswiftarmpitsweathmm I can see why that is okay, but I feel like this could just make the woman get more abused and put her in a worse situation if the abuser were to find out
@bobthestinky7369 2 ай бұрын
@@TaylorswiftarmpitsweatI feel like if you are in an abusive relationship, you cheating and getting caught will 100% make things a lot worse for your safety. I think your safety should be no.1 priority rather than cheating on your abuser, not because it isn't moral but because you are literally just putting yourself in danger.
@nochso6835 2 ай бұрын
@@Taylorswiftarmpitsweat How can a woman be trapped in a relationship? Are you talking about a kidnapped hostage?
@DallinHipps 2 ай бұрын
@@Taylorswiftarmpitsweat If all you’re gonna do is post rage bait bullcrap then please stop posting. You’re adding nothing to this conversation.
@dawndiscusses5685 2 ай бұрын
Loved Leon, genuinely engaged with the prompts and seemed open to learn over just parroting his beliefs. He asked great questions and showed respect to everyone.
@haleycarson4129 Күн бұрын
He was the best casting
@sincerelyaninsomniac...4314 2 ай бұрын
The highest form of love is consideration. Once you no longer consider your partners feelings, or how your actions will affect them, you are not in love with that person. Continuing to work on your love is an action, yes, but that action requires you to consider your partner and your self… if you cheat, once you cheat you are only considering yourself. You are ruining the opportunity to continue to cultivate love and maintain being in love. If you cheat, you are not in love with them… it really is that simple. Stand on it, like you stood on the act of cheating. That’s accountability too.
@itsmj3103 2 ай бұрын
damn, very well said
@MimiMoments Ай бұрын
WOW THIS IS IT
@muhammadlee- 12 күн бұрын
Nah, you can definitely love someone and cheat on them. What you’re suggesting is that people never hurt people they love. If you said they don’t respect people they cheat on I might be inclined to agree, disagree with love though.
@TheRider6199 10 күн бұрын
True
@rayshafi2855 5 күн бұрын
this is so true
@isabelstott9437 2 ай бұрын
Why is Chelsea talking to everyone like she's a therapist or life coach. It's awkward.
@Stellalovely1 2 ай бұрын
She is actually now a relationships therapist on KZfaq and Instagram. Lol.
@Ceerads 2 ай бұрын
Life coaches without any educational credentials are just con artists.
@rioclemmons4094 2 ай бұрын
@@Stellalovely1😮 deadass?
@user-et3qm8cl1w Ай бұрын
it’s still so weird because she isn’t THEIR life coaches she just is one
@definitelynotclaire8827 Ай бұрын
She is one. But she shouldn’t be 💀
@Tangiora_Maney 2 ай бұрын
It’s Chelsea saying that she’d never forgive a cheater, then going on to say that she’s cheated multiple times💀
@jazzycola 2 ай бұрын
She also claims everything she did with the guy she cheated with was in the best interest for both of them. Delusional!!! She never states remorse or regret for hurting her partner at the time that she cheated on.
@Tangiora_Maney 2 ай бұрын
@@jazzycola narcissist behaviour
@jessicai7096 2 ай бұрын
I'm convinced she just wanted to talk for every single prompt
@nene9063 2 ай бұрын
She also said she would date a cheater so 😭😭
@CharBar07 2 ай бұрын
I just blank her out when she talks.
@whatlauraread 2 ай бұрын
hot take: if your partner is abusive and you are unsafe to leave the relationship, it is no longer a relationship it's a hostage situation. your partner broke the relationship contract when they became violent and there is no such thing as "cheating" when you're being held against your will.
@nosnah227 6 күн бұрын
While in theory I think this is true, I find it hard to imagine a situation where someone is unsafe to leave but also has the freedom and autonomy to even have the opportunity to cheat.
@Spijen 6 күн бұрын
my hot take is that you shouldnt be worried about being in love with other people while youre in a relationship with someone abusive.that must feel so shitty to fall in love with someone just to find out they were using you to get out of their own relationship. put your focus and efforts into getting out of your relationship... if you need support, it doesnt have to be romantic. how about leaning on family or friends, not creating a romantic relationship?
@wtzara 2 сағат бұрын
@@SpijenYou’re assuming that someone who’s ended up in such a relationship even has friends or family. They’re most likely isolated from everyone other than their partner, and if they’re lucky enough to have the opportunity to meet another person, it’d be very likely that they have a strong desire for a caring romantic partner. Therefore almost anyone who’s willing to help them will be considered a love interest.
@Shasha77910 2 ай бұрын
The point of telling a partner about cheating is not to make yourself feel better but to finally be real with your partner. That’s the least that they deserve. How are they missing that fact??
@Orius25 26 күн бұрын
People like Chelsea didn't say you shouldn't tell your partner. They said that telling your partner, in of itself, is not accountability. Accountability is when you take self-inventory and understand your own motivations, feelings, needs, and desires. That's why Chelsea recommended maybe telling a therapist first. Keep in mind that she is coming from the perspective of counselling women in domestic violence situations. In that case, telling your partner could be dangerous, so maybe telling another third party is better. People in this thread are vilifying Chelsea like crazy but I think it's because she talks about a truthful reality that people don't want to hear.
@elisestevenson9120 2 ай бұрын
Chris saying he cheated because he didn't have a father figure... Bruh that makes no sense 💀 i know plenty people without father figures who don't cheat, just making up excuses
@chrissirois 2 ай бұрын
It's only one piece of the puzzle that I'm trying to figure out. I don't blame my actions on any one part of my past. I take full accountability for my actions. I'll always be a work in progress. ✌🏻
@sj0223 2 ай бұрын
It reminds of that meme where guys say "I cheated because my grandma died two years ago and I didn't have a dad and one time my mom put me on restriction and I had a dog that was hit by car" or something lol Like what bro?!
@thelemurofmadagascar9183 2 ай бұрын
People who come from single parent households are statistically much more likely to cheat. It's not an excuse, but it does explain what makes some people more prone to cheating than others. Understanding human psychology and behaviour is not the same as justifying it.
@MrStevo411 2 ай бұрын
@@chrissiroisit’s almost like you didn’t delve deeper and give more clarification that made sense lol @elisestevenson9120 him saying that he didn’t have a father was not his excuse for why he cheated. It was a prefacing statement into the real reason that was he was raised by and primarily surrounded by women and learned to crave their attention and what not. THAT was the reason he was a cheater.
@chrissirois 2 ай бұрын
@@MrStevo411 well, it wasn't like this was going to answer all of the questions. It was a very limited discussion and there are so many pieces that go into our dysfunctions. I'm on a quest to just be a better person and being a part of this conversation was interesting to say the least. ✌🏻
@ester6209 2 ай бұрын
Chelsea seems like the type of person who thinks she has figured it all out and therefore knows better than everyone else. It was so irritating to watch her treat others in such a patronizing way.
@sky-dq2uc 2 ай бұрын
you can tell from the way both chelsea and raven were speaking and wording things that they view their subjective opinions on topic as fact and the superior way of thinking. 🙃
@shhhyourtooloud257 2 ай бұрын
i thought i was the only one who noticed this since no one really mentioned it. She was treating the others in such an odd way, smiling/clapping whenever she "proved" a point (even though this isn't a debate competition), yet to get there she had to contradict herself many times to get there, even being called out on her hypocrisy.
@Ceerads 2 ай бұрын
@@shhhyourtooloud257I couldn’t stand her.
@truself108 2 ай бұрын
I was gonna say I felt the same about raven “I believe in the cross, and the Bible, the whole Bible, not just one portion of the Bible” like girl get over yourself😂
@iamtianajames7868 2 ай бұрын
@@truself108she was doin that to be funny toward Chelsea haha.
@deliciousness74 Ай бұрын
I can’t understand not wanting to not know you were cheated on when we live in a world where STIs exist.
@torysings7468 2 күн бұрын
I think of the pain of a partner maybe my husband or wife one day cheating and nothing came of it (always protected, contraception, they already cut it off, has stopped and decided they are dedicated to me) while I had no idea thinking my marriage is going great, and because of their own feelings of guilt they tell me and decide that I have to be judge, jury, and executioner just so they feel "accountable" and "absolved" meanwhile I'm devastated, lost all self-worth, my whole life has fallen apart and I'm traumatized and devastated over something already done and managed. It's not my emotional burden to bare. I rather not know.
@HopeWren 2 ай бұрын
The cheaters are literally doing gymnastics to avoid taking responsibility! Like throwing out worse case scenarios like suicidal partners & abusing relationships. Those are not the majority of cheating case so don’t use them in this argument
@fuckthepolice71 Ай бұрын
What made me laugh is that they are abusers themselves and dont even realise it
@DrusMomma 2 ай бұрын
Chelsea is giving “yea i cheated and i’ll do it again.”
@HarmonyJt 2 ай бұрын
Ariana Grande vibes 😅
@osmanyousif7849 2 ай бұрын
She for the streets…
@keum8376 2 ай бұрын
LMAOOO😂@@osmanyousif7849
@whointhewhat 2 ай бұрын
She probably blamed the partner when he found out
@kroozctrl6284 2 ай бұрын
Buddy @20:50 she admits it. No conspiracy there. She has a side dude she is screwing even though she is married with 3 kids
@derpestarzt 2 ай бұрын
The fact that Chelsea is "counselling" women is worrying.
@jacobfschaffer 2 ай бұрын
she seems so proud... crazy
@helenparker487 2 ай бұрын
It looks like she is a life coach. That is an unregulated title in America and obtaining training to be a life coach is up to the individual. You can be a life coach without any training. To be a counselor in the US, someone has to have a master’s (or a bachelors in some states) and have a license to offer counseling. Edited for clarity.
@bubblebellaful 2 ай бұрын
VERY!
@argent5196 2 ай бұрын
No it’s not she made perfect sense
@anonymousbo0318 2 ай бұрын
@@argent5196You're pathetic and delusional
@sharonlee872 2 ай бұрын
chelsea made me roll my eyes throughout this whole episode
@JasmineRehl 2 ай бұрын
Chelsea seems like the type of person to talk nonstop about divine timing and the universe protecting your peace while literally being the spawn of satan. EMBARRASSING!!
@Orius25 26 күн бұрын
I didn't get those vibes from her whatsoever. She seemed wise.
@nadiasmith8752 2 ай бұрын
Middle Ground Idea: Parents whose child ended a relationship with them vs child who stopped having a relationship with their parent
@cattledogandstaffy 2 ай бұрын
Love this idea!
@noxemistirpze4843 2 ай бұрын
Incredible idea
@meowbruhhh4586 2 ай бұрын
yo me and my dad should be there, except he dont speak English, only Spanish
@user-sy5bj5nd6x 2 ай бұрын
You should’ve phrased this better…Unless you’re from Alabama🌚
@rebekahtapia8011 2 ай бұрын
This would be so interesting !!
@HH-mr3iq 2 ай бұрын
As a therapist myself, I would investigate narcissism with Chelsea.
@martingarno9815 2 ай бұрын
That's why they call the qualified one psychiatrist
@HH-mr3iq 2 ай бұрын
@@martingarno9815 Confused by what you mean. How would my being a therapist stop me from diagnosing her with a mental health disorder? What medications would you prescribe somebody with a narcissistic personality disorder? A psychiatrist would be unnecessary in this instance.
@2wickie686 2 ай бұрын
I clocked her as one before she even spoke. Autism rizz at work once again lol. No but for real, she's insane. Look in her eyes and look at her body language and how she tries to police everyone around her, and her subtle little passive aggressive jab at the guy who mistakenly walked forward for the final(?) question. I would not trust her in a room with ANYONE.
@DrArthurCGarp 2 ай бұрын
@@HH-mr3iq I think they meant there’s a reason Chelsea is a “life coach” instead of a qualified psychiatrist
@majapuseljic8015 Ай бұрын
hahahaha
@Amy_399 Ай бұрын
Raven saying that attraction to others is not acceptable in a relationship is peak hypocrisy Edit: and now she's calling chelsea a hypocrit LOL
@jessiecorn17 2 ай бұрын
Cheating is one of the worst forms of betrayal. There is no if or why. It’s like saying you hate that person and exposing them to health risks.
@lalittl 2 ай бұрын
Why isnt anyone talking about Chelsea. Her entire persona is mental gymnastics to validate selfishness
@madameee4274 2 ай бұрын
Literally. I don't see anyone talking about her
@Samantha__420 2 ай бұрын
I came to the comments fully expecting it to be a bunch of comments about Chelsea but this is the first I’ve seen
@Hollywould94 2 ай бұрын
I commented she was a huge gaslightler an hour ago lol but before mine? 0 comments lol
@raimeyewens7518 2 ай бұрын
I was expecting lots of comments about Chelsea too. She seems very narcissistic and trying to avoid any type of blame on herself. The gaslighting from this woman is astounding.
@bryanzoom97 2 ай бұрын
Yes I’m so puzzled by her one of her bad takes is saying confessing you cheated is NOT accountability 🤔🤔
2 ай бұрын
Blonde lady saying “we all play a part in cheating society included” euhm what do I have to do with you deciding to go mess with someone else ??? The cheaters were really trying to convince themselves that what they do/did is okay when it never is.
@fiftyzanes 2 ай бұрын
yup that was so random
@mahadewiiii 2 ай бұрын
Yes I couldn’t believe her saying that! How does society cause you to cheat?!! 😅 I couldn’t believe anyone was nodding along with anything that arrogant woman said!!!
@yahainHotPink 2 ай бұрын
Tell it!! 😭😭😭 Chelsea is ummm.....
@ness4575 2 ай бұрын
i think it has less to do with society, more childhood, the community you were brought into, and the values you were born into/raised around. hurt people hurt people and thats probably why people cheat in the first place. still unjustifiable though dont get me wrong!
2 ай бұрын
@@mahadewiiiiso arrogant! And completely delusional with half of the things she was saying
@ivanessaramos4698 2 ай бұрын
“If you’re in an abusive relationship then just leave” is s o o o o wildly ignorant. And she was so confident saying it helpp 😭
@madisonhawkins4504 2 ай бұрын
So ppl should stay in an abusive relationship? The only solution in an abusive relationship is to leave. Is it hard absolutely doesn’t change the fact that it needs to be done. And cheating on your already mentally unstable partner isn’t helping them leave
@madisonhawkins4504 2 ай бұрын
@@Jenny-vm3yu never said it was simple. I agree that it can be very very hard. But what you’re is that it’s better for women to stay in an abusive relationship than to get help and try to leave, which I’m sorry I just don’t agree with. It sucks that we live in a world where people think it’s better to stay in an abusive relationship, because what it’s hard?
@xqr.r Ай бұрын
@@madisonhawkins4504 it's quite hard to leave an abusive relationship
@madisonhawkins4504 Ай бұрын
@@xqr.r where did I say it was easy? Which comment? Just because something is hard doesn’t mean it shouldn’t be done. What’s the alternative, people should stay in abusive relationships because it’s hard to leave? No. People should leave. They should get help or at least try. So that they can live a happy life. And I’ll add that if others see someone in what seems like an abusive relationship they NEED to tell someone. Also if someone is in an abusive relationship and they’re close enough to a person to cheat on their partner with, that person is close enough to help them escape the abusive relationship.
@s_phamandla. 2 ай бұрын
That girl with a grey hoodie needs a hug i have been through that i can see how she is literally hurting🥺
@SamuelJ888 23 күн бұрын
which girl with grey hoodie?
@zxoox 14 күн бұрын
@@SamuelJ888raven, the one who cheated
@JoseAFV1907 2 ай бұрын
Chelsea seems very manipulative. I think she has brainwashed herself to live with what she did. The language twisting and the narratives pushed just didn’t seem genuine.
@raimeyewens7518 2 ай бұрын
Narcissistic gaslighting.
@raimeyewens7518 2 ай бұрын
58:06 she actually councils other women. I was thinking either her therapist filled her head with delusions or she is one herself. I can’t imagine how she’s twisted some people’s minds into thinking like she does. Why is it always the people who need the most therapy are actually the therapists?
@JoseAFV1907 2 ай бұрын
@@raimeyewens7518 definitively, I think she inadvertently said it herself. Yes, a relationship needs fulfilled individuals but to say she’s the only one that matters was just so showing. Scary that these are the loudest voices and counseling others to make decisions in life.
@jessthecreativeee 2 ай бұрын
@@JoseAFV1907she didn’t say she’s the only person that matters she says she has to be the most important person to herself. But I see why people would say that’s jarring because we are told that self sacrifice is the only way to make a relationship work.
@derpestarzt 2 ай бұрын
@@jessthecreativeee a degree of self sacrifice IS the only way a relationship can work, period.
@anthonytornabene8149 2 ай бұрын
Hearing Chelsea say “what if you have a partner that’s suicidal” trying to justify not disclosing cheating made me roll my eyes. Like quit coming up with hypotheticals and doing mental gymnastics and just be real with yourself. You did something bad to somebody and they deserve to know so that they can heal properly instead of looking for answers.
@kamuilasia5813 2 ай бұрын
If people were that truthful about things, they wouldn't have cheated in the first place. You see things as black and white but partners have to take accountability for their spouse's feelings at some point. If you've been with someone for x amount of time you could guess how they'll react to the truth.
@mangekyo1866 2 ай бұрын
@@kamuilasia5813How can someone be responsible for somebody else’s feelings?
@GenerationNextNextNext 2 ай бұрын
If a partner is suicidal, she should be feeling worse about actually doing the action in the first place. I have to wonder why she got married.
@San-lh8us 2 ай бұрын
if you don't know, it doesn't affect you, if you do know, that is only gonna cause you suffering for a while
@Brie-ug9ro 2 ай бұрын
besides, if they were worried about their partner being suicidal, they shouldn’t have cheated in the first place
@berenic90 2 ай бұрын
Nothing to discuss. Its immoral, disrespectful, careless of the person cheating. Its wrong, period.
@vervideosgiros1156 Ай бұрын
And it's desrespectful to ignore your partner and that's why sometimes the cheating occurs.
@Rararajd 2 ай бұрын
I noticed how Chelsea especially and most of the cheaters used selfish rhetoric and kept saying ME it’s all about ME!
@Orius25 26 күн бұрын
Everyone in the panel is talking about their personal experiences. What else should they be drawing upon if not "me"?
@RaneemEzzat29 2 ай бұрын
An hour long video? What are the cheaters even gonna say? this is gonna be humiliating😭😭😭😭
@Nintendoshi 2 ай бұрын
Maybe the whole point of the video is to give some perspective instead of immediately assuming ill intentions of people so quicky.
@a.k2354 2 ай бұрын
@Nintendoshi ur tripping 😭 intentions dont matter when your hurting someone the "intention" doesn't make hurting someone, the betrayal of trust etc etc any better. It's wrong on base level u the problem if u can't see that
@reneaiko 2 ай бұрын
@@a.k2354i agree and i think cheating in itself is VERY intentional.
@Sol4rOnYt 2 ай бұрын
exactly
@kiwidoh 2 ай бұрын
The title might be “Is it wrong” but they ask a lot of deeper questions around emotional cheating, love for a cheater, and forgiveness. It’s actually very humanizing to hear for those that have been cheated on. Maybe watch the video before leaving a comment
@Airdash5678 2 ай бұрын
Short answer is yes
@Taylorswiftarmpitsweat 2 ай бұрын
Nope, cheating is justified against men.
@jonnelacecodog3490 2 ай бұрын
Yep, cheating is wrong in any context of life
@zionhorne9807 2 ай бұрын
Exactly,short and simple 😅
@Beefy_McWhatnow 2 ай бұрын
Long answer is also yes
@Alien-ii2zh 2 ай бұрын
@@Taylorswiftarmpitsweat nice name😅.
@JabbaDaSlut 2 ай бұрын
Genuinely I’d never forgive a cheater, and I don’t expected to be forgiven if I cheated.
@q.t.gamingfamily 2 ай бұрын
I tend to get revenge then I leave but I leave 100%. I hate that ppl expect to be forgiven the first time like we owe them a forgiveness. No we don't either.
@isabellathomas1314 2 ай бұрын
Saying you’re Christian and believe in the entire bible, but missing the commandment to not commit adultery 🙃
@melialei108 2 ай бұрын
i loved that british dude, he asked hard questions and had pretty solid opinions
@niyajawn 2 ай бұрын
He’s South African
@stamzthehuman897 2 ай бұрын
@@niyajawn How do you know
@annetteoleary5691 2 ай бұрын
He was eating Chelsea up
@stamzthehuman897 2 ай бұрын
@@annetteoleary5691 I don't see the relation
@aprilsummers6447 2 ай бұрын
@@stamzthehuman897 because he can tell? Maybe the person is South African? I'm British and I get how people can get confused between British and South African accents but ultimately, he does not sound British.
@TheRealLTJRH512 2 ай бұрын
Chelsea has this arrogant, “enlightened” energy that makes it seem like she thinks her way of thinking is THE way of thinking
@Jessicad9304 2 ай бұрын
So does Raven, I think that’s why they butted heads 😂
@MarcoAce13 2 ай бұрын
I’d say that’s more Raven
@TheRealLTJRH512 2 ай бұрын
@@MarcoAce13 her too she’s that’s stereotypical holier than thou Christian
@ElectronicCalifornia 2 ай бұрын
A lot of people think their way of thinking is the only way, just look at the comments sections. Everyone who disagrees with Chelsea's perspective is insulting and ridiculing her rather than just agreeing to disagreeing.
@Jessicad9304 2 ай бұрын
@@ElectronicCalifornia when people have an arrogant or hypocritical attitude it’s naturally repulsive to others. That’s what people are reacting to, and there’s nothing wrong with that. It (should) serve as a social learning tool for the person to become more empathetic in the future.
@kimberlyfoster4599 2 ай бұрын
Chelsea is a complete narcissist… I feel bad for her clients if she really is a therapist
@mxxxxc2606 2 ай бұрын
Cheaters always refer to the ones they cheated on as someone they “loved”. You don’t know what love is bruh… fix yourself and your behavior
@lavinder11 2 ай бұрын
The cheaters said exactly what you think they'd say.
@pcprinciple3774 2 ай бұрын
None of them said the obvious
@lopae5295 2 ай бұрын
figured
@yesyesyes666 2 ай бұрын
thanks i didn't want to watch the full video but the title was interesting enough to click😭😭
@rosie2871 2 ай бұрын
yeah literally. i was hoping there would be cheaters that evolved into better people and take responsibility for what they did, etc but nope
@pcprinciple3774 2 ай бұрын
@@rosie2871 i was hoping some of the cheated on would take responsibility for the fact they didn't satisfy their partners and evolve to do better, but it never got bought up
@nathandouglas7977 2 ай бұрын
Chelsea is so incredibly smart. She has figured out how to convince herself that she's not a terrible person, was able to educate all the noncheaters about how wrong they are, AND has even made a living in counseling other people that are presumably going through similar situations. Absolutely brilliant.
@junojx 2 ай бұрын
textbook narcissist
@Akili369 2 ай бұрын
Yup! And tries to reason to others how they're wrong for nor being self centered like her! She admitted she puts herself first in all aspects, which is disgusting behavior.
@gorillagripcoochie631 2 ай бұрын
@@Akili369what’s wrong with putting yourself first?
@alliebrowning8875 2 ай бұрын
@@gorillagripcoochie631 It’s the way she said it. Of course we should take care of ourselves first, BUT we absolutely have a responsibility to consider the feelings of the people in our lives before we act. Her whole point was I will always put myself first and do what I want to do, regardless of how anyone around me feels.
@user-sy5bj5nd6x 2 ай бұрын
That’s because she loves the others 💀🤣🤣🤣
@souloutta9804 Ай бұрын
Chelsea is the type of person to hear she's the problem from everyone and thinks that everyone is the problem
@Mel-zv1gf Ай бұрын
Cheating is one of the worst things you can do to your partner. As someone who was cheated on, it has caused problems in my current relationship because I have severe trust issues. The biggest problem is I don’t even trust myself or my judgement because I was so oblivious. I know it’s my own issue to work through but cheating causes psychological damage to a person. It is a selfish thing to do and I’m glad Chelsea admitted she was a very selfish person. Most cheaters are.
@ChurritoFrio 2 ай бұрын
How is she not attracted to anyone, but she still cheated on her husband??? Make it make sense 😂😂
@MarcoAce13 2 ай бұрын
Because like most Christian’s she’s a self righteous liar.
@sintiayuliani9123 2 ай бұрын
and she tried to bring up religion.. like girl how u be so confident and so wrong at the same time
@Nymeria64 2 ай бұрын
She did a bad thing and it’s her way of trying to correct the behavior so she doesn’t do it again especially since she is still with the same partner. I doubt he wants to hear her say that she finds other men attractive
@betteryourlife865 2 ай бұрын
Yeah that didn’t make any sense…like girl you cheated so obviously you found someone attractive enough to get to that point. Then the husband was the one who had go re-examine himself. Like ooooh kay.
@Haru_Misu 2 ай бұрын
Yeah, and i feel like she was skirting around the question too… like the question was do you find other men attractive and her answer was “I can’t, im married and Christian” …ok. you “cant” according to your religion but DO you😂?? You cant cheat as a Christian either, but you did that, so???
@TheJ0k0r50 2 ай бұрын
A lot of people use the word “narcissist” too loosely. Chelsea is absolutely a textbook narcissist
@SJ-qf2tz 2 ай бұрын
100 percent. I mean even turning it around and blaming the other person for what she did.
@starsigngirl9789 2 ай бұрын
I like her 😂damn her narcissism is working
@ijiahpeavy2429 2 ай бұрын
@@starsigngirl9789you’d be manipulated very easily.
@ijiahpeavy2429 2 ай бұрын
@@starsigngirl9789Rule of thumb, if someone says they’re a cheater they’re typically a liar and deceitful which comes along with a cunning way of speaking and are often seemingly very honest (manipulative).
@alliebrowning8875 2 ай бұрын
And she totally has a savior complex with her counseling job
@opulence_prime 2 ай бұрын
I know I’m in an abusive relationship and its not safe for me to leave but while I’m away from my partner I’m going to cheat and include someone in the perceived danger. -Sophia, co-signed by deranged Chelsea
@allenevans622 2 ай бұрын
You scared to leave an abusive but not to cheat on the person abusing you 🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔
@lamiashahadath8484 2 ай бұрын
Not having a father at home is not an excuse for cheating.
@onyinyesarah1226 2 ай бұрын
Definitely not an excuse but can be a factor
@talkingtochapri 2 ай бұрын
@@onyinyesarah1226yup. Could be a factor. Even worse, if you have a present useless cheating father 💀
@mtyson3248 2 ай бұрын
not an excuse but definitely leads to being a cheater due to the lack of a positive example of monagomay in the home.
@lostharmony27breaker98 2 ай бұрын
true even though not having a healthy relationship to look up to can impact a child
@astaroth.ackerman 2 ай бұрын
@@onyinyesarah1226 “Hey, babe. My dad is a deadbeat so I decided to cheat on you. Whoopsies!”
@raimeyewens7518 2 ай бұрын
I feel bad for anyone in a relationship with Chelsea.
@pat4455 2 ай бұрын
You can bet money that there was a counceller (just like Chelsea) involved, when Keith figures it out he's gona be pissed. Been there done that, his partner Raven is a sociopath. Letting Chelsea participate tainted the discussion.
@Random-sk6hm 2 ай бұрын
Same with that Raven girl, she's insufferable with her Christian superiority and gaslighting Keith.
@jeanrewss 2 ай бұрын
Sameeee
@MarcoAce13 2 ай бұрын
Why? She seems pretty smart
@irvdoge7345 2 ай бұрын
@@MarcoAce13she contradicts herself a lot bro. She said she cares about herself more than anyone else but she wouldn’t tell her partner because it might hurt them even tho ACCORDING TO HER (she said this) confessing your cheating relieves your guilt and shame.
@DiaryofKrissy Ай бұрын
as soon as that girl raven said im a christian, I was like bye. you came out here publicly defending cheating
@anaunciabrazzeal4325 Ай бұрын
I’ve never been cheated on, but my brother dated a girl that cheated on him for the entire duration of their relationship (3 years). He was in tears every night and it was awful to witness.
@DonteWilsonChrisDorner 2 ай бұрын
I love how she identifies as a serial cheater like it's an illness she has that she can't stop.
@coquigirl0789 2 ай бұрын
I feel like she has a sex addiction.
@Random-sk6hm 2 ай бұрын
Tbf a lot of serial cheaters have underlying trauma that they're not fully dealing with. I think they should seek therapy so that they can find happiness in themselves.
@fiftyzanes 2 ай бұрын
LMAOO
@mst-pierrem5729 2 ай бұрын
The thing is some people cheat and yes it about something else than the cheating sadly I am with a husband who is on the spectrum and have a hard time understand his own feelings. Now, he ain't a cheater but I understand and saw a serial cheater does not understand why they did cheat because they don't understand their behaviors so naturally they repeat it. It goes hand and hand with many behaviors not only cheating.
@renflower1910 2 ай бұрын
Like she doesn’t have to be in a relationship. She can do her own thing.
@da_pohi 2 ай бұрын
the moderator is giving chelsea way too much airtime lmao
@babyb7001 2 ай бұрын
She probably slept with him 😂
@kamuilasia5813 2 ай бұрын
@babyb7001 you messy for that
@soe606 2 ай бұрын
@@babyb7001 My goodness. The door is open...GET OUT 😭
@aditi22012 2 ай бұрын
Because she made the most sense - correct or not.
@jennam8401 2 ай бұрын
@@aditi22012 hi Chelsea 👋
@danieltenebrion9413 2 ай бұрын
Oh the topic of "I would rather not know I was cheated on" and suicidal ideation. I was far more emotionally devestated and had more feelings of being suicidal by discovering that my partner was cheating on my own and from them hiding it from me. If they came to me and had been honest from the beginning, I'd atleast know that they were thinking of me and my feelings for them. Not confessing is selfish and avoiding not only your own feelings of shame, but your partner's feelings for you and the relationship they feel that they have with you. You are denying that they matter. To convince yourself that it's okay to lie and hide things from your partner just because they may not take it well is disgusting and appalling behavior. If another person's feelings matter so little to you, don't be in a relationship. A loving relationship needs both partners to care about eachother's feelings and to be able to comfort eachother.
@DRay4eveZ 2 ай бұрын
It’s so ironic that in the era of acknowledging as a society the importance of consent and transparency, that someone could feel like it’s okay to be dishonest and disrespectful to their partner and keep it to themselves. Regardless of how someone will take it, if you wronged someone, you have a responsibility to be honest, especially if they’re your partner. Cheating and not disclosing doing so is incredibly disrespectful. Especially if the cheating was physical because (assuming you are still in the relationship) you continue to be physical with your partner. That is violating consent in the sense that you’ve now exposed your partner to potential STDs/STIs without them being aware. That is not okay.
@Jujubabas 2 ай бұрын
Chelsea's answers scream that she doesn't think she really did anything wrong... she got a beautiful life out of cheating, basically. The thing is, she didn't have to cheat to get that life!! Just don't cheat. It's cowardly and low class. Own your ugliness (the kind on the inside) and teach others through acknowledging your mistakes.
@olena9274 2 ай бұрын
she acts as if there is NOTHING wrong with what she did. i’m not qualified to diagnose anyone by any means but her justifications seem very narcissistic to me. the mental gymnastics she does is on another level. it seems like she learned nothing from her actions and it’s insane to see someone who clearly made a mistake not see it that way…
@Kittycakes22 2 ай бұрын
A beautiful life, how?
@Glim246 2 ай бұрын
This is the thing...I understand falling out of love or falling in love with someone else but before you act on it...be a goddamn adult and go through the garbage and pain of a breakup. Who wouldn't rather be broken up with than cheated on? It's just chickensh*t to do that to someone you supposedly love.
@jaimemarrero3982 2 ай бұрын
Not only did she do mental gymnastics. I was under the impression she works as a therapist or life or coach or something based on her responses in this video, basically, she teaches these mental gymnastics to other people. Her interruptions were "this is wrongspeak, use language that makes what I did look less bad".
@notjanesmith3902 2 ай бұрын
@@jaimemarrero3982she has a podcast and runs social media pages called, The Other Woman & The Wife. She has no therapy background.
@Daniel-vu4qu 2 ай бұрын
The fact that Chelsea thinks cheating was necessary and couldn't have just ended the marriage respectfully blows my mind.
@toriqatullahsanni8607 2 ай бұрын
Exact,why can't you first end a relationship the moment you feel you fell in love with someone else rather than cheating is beyond me
@MrLuffyoo 2 ай бұрын
She s just a B
@1Skorpia Ай бұрын
Narcissist. Gaslighting.
@PregnantWAwkwardness Ай бұрын
That's not what she said. Also she did leave her husband after confessing to him? What?
@Orius25 26 күн бұрын
How is it mind-blowing? When she cheated, she came home and moved out, and then began the process of moving on.
@GenesisAwakes Ай бұрын
Love the discussion and respect to everyone who participated but one thing that I noticed is that most of the people who have cheated have replaced the definition of " love" with "infatuation"
@iamphayvoured 20 күн бұрын
Exactly. One of them even said she was in love with two people at once. By definition, that’s impossible lol
@mkelly4400 2 ай бұрын
I just absolutely love how open and respectful everyone was with each other speaking their truths. Thank you Jubilee for yet another thoughtful and interesting episode.
@InternetGirl1093 2 ай бұрын
Raven and Keith being a couple was a PLOT TWIST! She talking about “I’m a Christian” and cheated in a marriage?!
@bryanzoom97 2 ай бұрын
And they have children smh 😢😢😢
@InternetGirl1093 2 ай бұрын
I hate when ppl try to run to religion after doing something horrible. It’s so played.
@ravethomas16 2 ай бұрын
So Christians are perfect??? What??? Lol
@toviasjames7902 2 ай бұрын
That part!!
@Jessicad9304 2 ай бұрын
@@ravethomas16 girl no, but almost all of us know someone who has made a big mistake and then they try to quickly get forgiven and not face consequences by pushing the hurt party into Christian forgiveness. It’s toxic.
@LoFiLucyASMR 2 ай бұрын
“We all played a part” Hard disagree. You don’t get to hold someone accountable for the shitty decision you made. Not happy? Speak to your significant other. Issues still persist with no resolution or effective communication? Then end the relationship. Not hard.
@slypickle01 2 ай бұрын
no seriously when Chelsea said that I was floored
@LoFiLucyASMR 2 ай бұрын
@@slypickle01 this episode is making me so mad lol
@TheoCynical 2 ай бұрын
Apparently shame is too much that they’d rather rationalize their actions than actually communicate their unsatisfactory feelings. It’s pretty avoidant and pretty cowardly. She isn’t fooling anyone but herself with these pseudo-intellectualizations.
@VirtualVixen. 2 ай бұрын
"we all played a part" - honey, I was at home waiting for my husband to come home, what part are speaking about??
@DanielGupta-fx6bs 2 ай бұрын
exactly, its just theyre too scared to do so
@angelmoya3095 15 күн бұрын
I've been cheated on and in my opinion, if you don't see any way to fix whatever you feel is wrong you should just be straightforward with your partner and end it. There's no need to cheat, if you want to search what your missing with another person then don't be in a relationship. I know some will say "it's not that simple" and everything else, but at the end of the day cheating is a choice because if you truly want to be with someone else you can end your relationship way before you do anything physical with another person.
@wPOTH1 Ай бұрын
Raven is trying to either get back with her husband or keep him after cheating. DON'T DO IT BRO. ITS A TRAP... Unrepentance is real and dangerous. 💀 ☠
@lukeandrew3335 5 күн бұрын
I feel the same. Bro is great for 'growing' in awareness of how much more a husband needs to bring to a relationship then just money for sex but now he has grown, get a better woman i.e one that won't cheat (AGAIN) when something else is wrong.
@Quetzal00358 2 ай бұрын
Anyone who says cheating is not wrong is either: a) a moron b) a cheater who is defending themselves c) someone who was obsessed (in a romantic way) with a cheater d) all of the above
@amalthea1965 2 ай бұрын
pretty much
@montanahelton1272 2 ай бұрын
No one said it wasn’t wrong, but there are situations that are more nuanced than black and white.
@yamiletsoler3464 2 ай бұрын
What is a moron? I'm curious
@SqueakyMcGee 2 ай бұрын
Or, e) professional baseball players in the early 2000’s
@LadySilver-xs2eq 2 ай бұрын
@@SqueakyMcGee lol
@ambermeridy7550 2 ай бұрын
Let's not forget that cheaters can put your physical health at risk. You absolutely need to tell someone you've cheated especially if the original commitment was monogamous...surprised the topic of venereal diseases didn't come up.
@nesa549 2 ай бұрын
This! So many women contracted diseases from their cheating partners. I don't think they realize that they are putting their partners health at risk by not using protection.
@junojx 2 ай бұрын
Yes!!!!
@cookie_monster783 2 ай бұрын
This!!!!
@alitzzy 2 ай бұрын
Was waiting for the STI topic to be brought up the whole time... That's one of my main issues with cheating.
@ello_nelo 2 ай бұрын
YES!!!!
@helencala9522 Ай бұрын
When you cheat on someone, you need to tell the person you cheated on to give them the choice to leave or to say. Every day you don't tell them you're allowing them to continue to waste their time with a cheater and that might not that be their choice.
@jilaelennio6944 2 ай бұрын
How is that the 2 professed Christian women are the most grating, least Christian-acting people on the panel? Hat's off for Sophie and Leon being the glue that kept me from skipping this video.
@XO42X 2 ай бұрын
Cheating is always wrong. No discussion needed.
@amethystdream8251 2 ай бұрын
At first I was upset with all the unnecessary discourse around this, and the struggle so many seem to be having to understand this, and now I'm just fascinated! Lol
@12toro 2 ай бұрын
The only time I can kinda understand is if someone is in an abusive relationship and could be in danger if they broke up with there partner and find somebody to help them get out.
@intensevideogame 2 ай бұрын
@@12toro why would you need to cheat to do that? Its the only slightly understandable situation but you still don't need to cheat to do that.
@12toro 2 ай бұрын
@@intensevideogame If your partner is abusive and you need another relationship to get you out
@TheRealBoss1113 2 ай бұрын
@12toro imo, if you are in a relationship against your will. if you sleep with someone else, you arent cheating
@Ellie-nn5mp 2 ай бұрын
Chelsea is lowkey just yapping like bro asked her at 36:27 if it was love or lust and she literally didn't answer she's literally doing mental gymnastics
@mevrouwroos 2 ай бұрын
His question of: "when you cheated, did you meet the standard of what love means to you?" was so strong and she, once again, didn't answer it 😅
@declaracionespolemicas 2 ай бұрын
The whole time she gave me the vibes that she's using all these words and psychology speak to seem more intellectual and mature, but beyond the surface she wasn't really saying anything of substance. Just trying to make herself look better, yet never taking accountability for her actions. Correct me if I'm wrong, but her main takes were: she doesn't like playing the "blame game" when it comes to cheating (convenient when you're the one in the wrong), thinks it's wrong and selfish to come clean and tell someone you cheated on them (also convenient, as you get to get away thinking it's not as bad to have cheated because the other person can't be hurt if they don't find out), and thinks cheating isn't the cheater's fault on certain circunstances.
@SJ-qf2tz 2 ай бұрын
Listen itnwas crazy. I was like girl you said a lot to say nothing
@Jessicad9304 2 ай бұрын
@@declaracionespolemicas yep I thought her takes were completely wild and audacious, considering she was the cheater 😂
@DSS712 2 ай бұрын
No she's not doing "mental gymnastics," she's self reflecting on how to apply those two terms to her situation because she acknowledges that there is gray area.
@h2woah127 16 күн бұрын
If I get cheated on then thats an immediate deal breaker.
@theintrosproject8598 2 ай бұрын
Cheating, no matter how one defends it, is ABSOLUTELY WRONG!
@B4TEMAN 2 ай бұрын
I’ve been cheated on, it’s one of the worst feelings in the world. It is NEVER justified no matter what.
@ShaqBenji 2 ай бұрын
Especially when they blame you for it
@AsapChalan 2 ай бұрын
Not unless you are a dv victim
@ItsRaevie 2 ай бұрын
@@AsapChalanor a sa victim. I personally was manipulated whilst under the influence even though i had said no sober multiple times and no drunk- when i was alot more drunk than they were. They manipulated me by saying were just friends its not cheating when i said no im in a relationship (which i had just rambled on abt how great he was and showing pics of him). They said he doesn’t have to know if he thinks it is cheating. And kissing isnt cheating. And then reiterated were just friends its not cheating and got moody with me until i gave in. I live with that guilt of the two kisses we had every day but I learnt not to put myself in that situation again no matter how much I trust my “friend”.
@mattyy101 Ай бұрын
Most of us have lol
@mattyy101 Ай бұрын
@@AsapChalanjust leave omg cheating is still not ok.. no excuses
@1hmgirl 2 ай бұрын
You CANNOT be in love with someone you cheat on. You would never want to purposely hurt someone you love period.
@kathryncox7775 2 ай бұрын
This. I don't know why this wasn't said. You can't love someone and then make the decision to hurt them. "Well you can still love, it is a mistake" So you have no impulse control?
@N..P.. 2 ай бұрын
You can make a decision that hurts someone if you love them. There's a difference between just hurting someone and outright betraying them in one of the worst ways possible. A person who loves someone wouldn't betray them like that.
@AoifeOwonifari-pd5tm 2 ай бұрын
Yes you can stop spouting nonsense all it means is that you made a bad decision. If you love someone you love them but that doesn't mean it's impossible for you to cheat on them. This is reality
@user-pf9ji5vd8j 2 ай бұрын
@@AoifeOwonifari-pd5tm found the cheater!
@1hmgirl 2 ай бұрын
@@AoifeOwonifari-pd5tm I guess you're speaking for your own personal morals. And showing your capacity for love towards someone else. But there are lots of steps that someone would have to go through to get to cheating and if the feelings that you have for another person don't stop you in any of those steps... Then you Don't and cannot truly love them.
@thepandoricaoffandomsbacku7349 2 ай бұрын
I just love how calm and chill and educated Leon is
@kyrahfife1149 2 ай бұрын
I truly think you cannot love someone and cheat on them. But I think in the same way, you can’t intentionally cause harm to your partner and claim you love them, at least in that moment. When you love someone, you want to do you best by them. Consciously choosing to do something you KNOW will destroy them is not love. It’s selfishness and self-serving, which you should not be in a relationship with someone. Especially if you are claiming to love them. I’m surprised no one talked about this.
@BondofOblivion 2 ай бұрын
Leon was my favorite to listen to. He always had thoughtful and logical questions, comments and responses.
@inevitablesound7465 2 ай бұрын
His positions all seemed well thought out and reasonable
@txunamythang 28 күн бұрын
Underrated comment fr
@anniek3866 17 күн бұрын
Fr he's so real He isn't trying to justify anything Just being real
@haleycarson4129 Күн бұрын
He was the most balanced and came with the intention of asking the whys and how’s. He didn’t pass judgment at all.
@magicdragon9621 2 ай бұрын
If you don't tell your partner you cheated, then you are lying to them.
@fahrenheit2101 2 ай бұрын
No, not strictly. There's a certain lack of honesty, and you could say it's as bad as a lie, but you aren't lying to anybody. Yes, this is just pedantry.
@anne-beritgunhildson598 2 ай бұрын
@@fahrenheit2101Why are you sugar coating it, if youre not in an open relationship and your partner has the idea that theyre the only person on your mind. Not telling them you cheated is giving them a false reality and essentially lying to them. Its not that hard of a consept to understand, no need to twist and bend it to make it seem better
@fahrenheit2101 2 ай бұрын
@@anne-beritgunhildson598 i didnt do that, do you know what pedantry is?
@AJ-lm5dl 2 ай бұрын
@@fahrenheit2101 Lying by omission is still lying.
@fahrenheit2101 2 ай бұрын
@@AJ-lm5dl Yeah, hence pedantry. I personally don't think lying by omission is lying at all. It's dishonest omission. I'm not making a value judgement there of course. I mean omission is such a vague thing, because one is always doing it. You don't disclose everything to ANYONE, because "everything" is... a bit much. Lying is easy to categorise objectively, dishonest omission is oddly subjective.
@giantorres5457 10 күн бұрын
You don’t love someone if you cheat on them period. If you can go out and cheat knowing someone is at home waiting for you, then you do not love them.
@cameronkoblitz4248 9 күн бұрын
It's never the cheated on person's fault. Never let someone manipulate you into believing that.
@irvdoge7345 2 ай бұрын
Chelsea said “ I matter most over anybody else and I come first” then said “ telling your partner you cheated is wrong because you’re just relieving yourself of guilt and shame” BUT THEN SAID “ its wrong to tell your partner because you’re going to cause trauma” according to her, telling her partner would’ve been the best thing for her since she looks out for number 1 but she contradicts herself by saying she’s trying to spare the emotions of the other person. She’s literally contradicting herself just to justify her actions in every prompt 🤦♂️
@rais14 2 ай бұрын
nailed it.
@lenaburkett4444 2 ай бұрын
She sure did a lot of mental and word gymnastics to justify her narrative and bring everything back to her at literally every turn.
@SqueakyMcGee 2 ай бұрын
She’s a known sociopath.
@takemetomarz 2 ай бұрын
Exactly.
@user-sy5bj5nd6x 2 ай бұрын
If only she trained in actual gymnastics🌚 she would’ve dominated the Olympics 🤣
@Dabby724 2 ай бұрын
Can't believe this even needs an hour long discussion, it's always yes.
@DD-rh2sz 2 ай бұрын
The discussion was more than just the title of the video.
@_Cetarial 2 ай бұрын
I feel like there is one, single exception: Abusive relationships.
@xsenpai5179 2 ай бұрын
No
@renflower1910 2 ай бұрын
@@_CetarialThere isn’t any. If anything you’re putting yourself in a huge position of danger if the abuser finds out. If you’re in a abusive relationship, you’re mind should be on survival and trying to get out of that relationship.
@renflower1910 2 ай бұрын
@@xsenpai5179YES
@En4cer2K9 Ай бұрын
Yooo... If you believe its "too dangerous" to leave an abusive relationship, wtf makes you believe its SAFE to cheat on them? You still gotta go home to them, so what do you think they're gonna DO TO YOU once they find out you cheated on them?
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