Dave Ramsey explains why he has zero tolerance for gossip-and why you should too! Subscribe today to stay up to date with the latest videos! kzfaq.info...
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@ilovemybeard33943 жыл бұрын
Gossip is so destructive that an innocent person gets involved and their reputation is ruined and it could be in the workplace, family, College, School, etc
@Kate-Does2 жыл бұрын
I despise gossip too. However, if multiple people are having issues with the same manager, you should listen to them not dismiss them.
@doletawood50615 жыл бұрын
Gossip killed my church. The doors closed permanently. It started with one woman. It's a cancer.
@james644685 жыл бұрын
Just like this one church I went to. The pastor is the one that wonders why his church is getting smaller. It him not the people that left. Yeah he kicked me out of his church building but I already stopped going to it. It his gossiping that killing it. More I think about it church is waste of time. I hate to say that but I find that there more to life than a church building.
@Anthrax575 жыл бұрын
Every workplace has gossip. It's up to the individuals if they're going to give in and join the weak or be the better person.
@james644685 жыл бұрын
@@Anthrax57 Does that make it right? If everybody jumps off a bridge should we follow them?
@arleneaugustahair83935 жыл бұрын
Doleta Wood unfortunately we had the same issue. I left before it got disbanded. I like my peace.
@Shay4YourMind815 жыл бұрын
Doleta Wood This is the reason why there is so much turnover at my current workplace. Our company is currently going through an exodus, and the office looks so barebones now. So much gossip, so much backbiting, and overall nastiness, that many of the honest, hard working people are either leaving (like myself), or have already left, leaving behind the dregs of the company. There is no communication, and a ton of secrecy! Morale is at an all time low. The managers also engage in this behavior, and promote it. You’re right, gossip is a cancer. All it takes is one person to get it going before it spreads and entirely wipes out an organization.
@TJSchongar5 жыл бұрын
Hand your negatives up and your positives down! Works both ways, too. I had a boss who would gossip about her employees with her favorite manager, including me. And it was about the dumbest stuff, like the fact that I don’t eat the way she thought I should! I worked as an order processor at a grass seed company - my lunches are irrelevant! And her manager would root out crap to bring to the boss to talk about, like it’s a game. Yet she was shocked when I put in my notice. I couldn’t work somewhere with a manager that smiled to my face and laughed at my back with my boss.
@CeliaCavalli4 жыл бұрын
Smack the world with the truth!! Gossip kills businesses, churches, relationships and it’s completely unbiblical. It is such a destroyer. Thanks for being so bold Dave! I love how you just tell it how it is.
@jessicalillianweinberg44013 жыл бұрын
I admit I didn't quite get what he was saying about the "prayer list." A list of people you're praying for? And Dave thinks that's just an excuse to talk about other people's business?
@CeliaCavalli3 жыл бұрын
@@jessicalillianweinberg4401 gossiping is talking about other people in a potentially negative light when they aren’t there. If you told your best friend about something you were struggling with that you told her in confidence she wouldn’t tell anyone else then she went to your other friend and said “we should pray for Jessica she’s struggling with _____.” And tells all your business how would you feel?
@jimmydarkz18324 жыл бұрын
Quit a job on the 2nd week over gossip. It wasn't serious but no way in hell I want to be in that environment.
@BL-rb7jm2 жыл бұрын
Many many years ago when I first started a job there was a bunch of women sitting at the lunchroom gossiping about their husbands and I sat at the other end of the table way far away there was two tables and I said that the one alone and they asked me to come over and I said no and they asked me why and I says I don't want to hear but you talking about your sex life and behind your husband's back and they didn't like me but I didn't care I was a young girl just starting into the world of employment. When you snip it in the bud right it's under no circumstances that you want to listen to crap the lady alone and even if they criticize you so what stand your grounds be brave and even if you have to keep to yourself and be cordial don't ever give them anything to talk about and sometimes you'll get the narcissist that will try to let you get your guard down so that they can weaken you and what they do they put trust in you so that they do not look like they're a threat and so they'll start asking personal questions and it's up to anybody to say look it it's none of your business or I don't feel comfortable with that I'm not going to answer that because if you let your guard down with some of these people you can be sure that the use that and then go back to their original gossipee ways
@Anonymous_Anon882 Жыл бұрын
@@BL-rb7jm The gossip I despise is when it involves spilling rumours/personal details about people who are either minding their own business or not known particularly-well to the gossipers. Depending on the interpersonal proximity and degree of confirmation that this-or-that thing actually happened it may or may not be fair enough but workplace-gossip (especially when it only serves to fuel a narcissist/notorious gossip who’s obviously completely-incapable of keeping their mouth shut) is poison. I don’t think awareness of it is as desperately-needed quintessentially (wilfully or otherwise) lacking as it was in the first half of this year (I think people have learnt) but it still exists. Fuelling a notorious gossip with (confidential) information that’s beyond what they would ever need to know can ruin someone’s life, it contributes to gaslighting and it’s generally very poisonous. I find that managers and assistant managers generally move with reasonable discretion but the lower-down employees who have some sort of authority over other people in their jurisdiction (and sometimes it’s just-plain newbies) can be a nightmare. People like that (sometimes it doesn’t even matter if they’ve worked for the N.H.S. or-not) don’t realise the damage they do and the seriousness of breaking the code of professional confidentiality just to have a good gossip. I don’t mind overworked wives henpecking their husbands. It’s healthy within-reason to complain about people in your environment who annoy you, whether they’re flatmates, spouses or cousins.
@brettdavidson38662 жыл бұрын
I agree with Dave here this a huge problem in company’s and needs to be dealt with people need to work collect a paycheck and go home happy
@Atlanta7185 жыл бұрын
Gossip - Talking about problem with a person who can't fix it. Talk to people who can fix it Send negative up and positive down If you're unhappy then leave. Don't complain, become aware and fix it. Don't allow gossipers.
@Ruth-vy1qj3 жыл бұрын
dtsu dad ddtśs
@williamstanton22105 жыл бұрын
Thank you Dave!!! you just made a friend.
@acfollowjcor318 Жыл бұрын
I respect a zero gossip policy specially at work because gossip is UGLY.
@AndyHoltOutdoorUniversity5 жыл бұрын
Good word, Dave Ramsey!
@checkerzzzgaminghi65234 жыл бұрын
How can anyone Gossip about a person and you don't even talk to them
@arleneaugustahair83935 жыл бұрын
Yes but I ignore it. I’m on a financial mission. I don’t have time for other people’s issues. “You’re going to fire me!” “Oh definitely yeah, yeah!” 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
@IamtheGL5 жыл бұрын
Great video, truths galore
@jenh94265 жыл бұрын
Theres a difference between gossip and sharing information.... and it can be interpreted differently by people.... so make sure that you aren't squashing sharing of information....
@brandywalkenten90854 жыл бұрын
maillaarni what? We couldn’t function without communication daily at my job.
@georgemichaels95112 жыл бұрын
Exactly. This can easily become a tyrannical boss’s way of silencing real grievances by the staff.
@WeKnowTheTruth20125 жыл бұрын
Gossip all day! Just fire em bubba I hate people who gossip
@patricasmyth43593 жыл бұрын
Gossip is not he right approach. However, if that many people in your organization have a problem with that middle manager, then, believe me, he IS a problem. People don't consistently complain about good managers.
@cdavidlake25 жыл бұрын
Preach it, Dave.
@chantecarstens77008 ай бұрын
What do you do when it's the boss, or leader that gossips about employees to other employees or brings down one employee in front of another, behind their back. What happens when you work under a leader/manager or boss that's exposes everyone and hurts people all in the process of building a business, how could you trust that manager/boss that you are suppose to take instruction from and trust in a working environment. Many employees have been hurt like this. Good employees.
@ICoulntThinkofAUserNam547 Жыл бұрын
I agree, but I'm not sure how to incorporate it with the idea that sometimes folks need to let off steam and it be harmless in a lot of cases
@adahabib1832 Жыл бұрын
I like you, you are so straightforward
@josueresto27934 жыл бұрын
I wish Dave Ramsey spoke Spanish, Loteria Tradicional of Puerto Rico need this speech
@emmabell15872 жыл бұрын
😂
@legendarycreatormindset5 жыл бұрын
Interesting topic! FOCUS is key to everything! What do you guys think?
@arleneaugustahair83935 жыл бұрын
Millionaire Mindset - How To Make Money Online I agree! I’m so focused on my financial goals.
@andybrodski11 ай бұрын
"NEH, NEH, NEH, NEH, NEH." Good argument...
@luminous69695 жыл бұрын
"Dude, you wrote a PHONEBOOK about me." XDDDDDD
@jessicalillianweinberg44013 жыл бұрын
Of the three stories, that's the one where it made the most sense to fire the offenders...but I hope he wasn't saying he fired the leader they were talking about, too.
@mariahconklin93453 жыл бұрын
I do not think I'll be going back to my job. The management will not fire a lady who gossips. Just like this lady. She has little minions to that gossip with her. Sad and pathetic. I do not understand gossip
@anniesshenanigans38154 жыл бұрын
So what do you do about incompetent management?? Going over their head is even worse than ignoring it.
@floydthephilosopher5 ай бұрын
Go directly to them
@anncarper81633 ай бұрын
If only all management leaders had the backbone to enforce this policy. The American workplace would be 💯 percent better. Unfortunately, too many in management are weasels who tiptoe around the gossip/troublemaker and let them create chaos.
@checkerzzzgaminghi65234 жыл бұрын
No matter how bad you want someone to talk with you they won't deal with gossipers who kill business lower level people with no brains and no goals except to harass and bully people because all they know is to gossip and stay poor and lose everything
@theCorporateDiaries4 жыл бұрын
See how office gossips and friendship can land you into trouble kzfaq.info/get/bejne/ZrGfftd6t9KopoU.html
@deem55212 жыл бұрын
Wow. Dave is tough. Bad managers are why people leave.. firing them is not generally part of that equation
@rudeboyses3 жыл бұрын
i agree. Gossip is negative, destructive, and one of the worst human behavior. although, reporting it to a boss would be considered "snitching". so i don't know what the answer is.
@shentino3 жыл бұрын
If your boss can't handle you reporting something without stabbing you in the back, chances are you're already screwed. Sometimes you're in a no win situation and there's nothing you can do about it.
@emmabell15872 жыл бұрын
@@shentino that's when you need to find another job.
@shentino2 жыл бұрын
@@emmabell1587 That was kinda my point.
@christopherruppel3612 Жыл бұрын
Call the national nonviolence hotline
@jessicamartinez41935 жыл бұрын
My husband is bad at it.omg and his"friends"
@dominicabollig19185 жыл бұрын
How about finding out your coworker is talking about your personal life when she is home chatting on the phone. I only have to engage 30 minutes with this person most days- and it is the worst part of my day!
@janethockey90705 жыл бұрын
They make shit up. That is why I fuck with them. Exaggerate stories just have another worker tell them back to me. Just to show how stupid they are.
@BL-rb7jm2 жыл бұрын
When you got people yucky when they're supposed to be working they're actually stealing time from the boss and when people steal time from the boss you should fire them
@mgd9151Ай бұрын
Better pay stops a bunch😂😂😂
@BL-rb7jm2 жыл бұрын
I give people three chances and I think that's generous and then if they screw up and talk behind my back on the third time they're out of my books permanently I mean I forgive people but I'm not going to have people step all over my pearls because I don't throw my pearls onto swine people who are backstabbers who could care less about me or value me as a human being I value people I treat people kindly and I have patience for them but as soon as they start talking behind my back watch out that's it I've been around this world long enough to know what I want in life and how I want to be treated when I was younger growing up I put up with a lot I was hurt I was a victim and I was a victim because of my own stupidity and lack of knowledge and ignorance will know that I'm older I can't use anything as an excuse to put up with garbage anymore my boundaries are a lot different and I don't allow people to step over my boundaries I set them at a certain distance and then that's where they stay and there's nothing wrong with protecting yourself there's that little boy or little girl inside of you and maybe people didn't respect you when you were younger maybe people walked over you maybe people were mean to you and that's that little girl that's saying please protect me or that's that little boy that's saying please protect me don't allow anybody abuse me and gossip is a form of severe abuse. So what's the difference between physical and emotional abuse it's all the same in different degrees and it affects everybody differently sure but it's still abuse you think of for instance Amber Heard and Johnny Depp she abused him by nagging him to death and not allowing him to walk away and go into his man cave and think for a while every man needs to have a space to think it rejuvenates him and he becomes a smarter man he can think clear but if you're hounding a man and you're nagging nagging nagging at him all the time you're going to ruin your marriage you're going to ruin your friendship whether it's your husband your boyfriend your brother whatever and so it's called and psychology reactive abuse. Even Jesus left to a place to be alone to pray. He didn't ignore the people he just needed to talk to his heavenly father and rejuvenate and get the strength that he needed. He was a man a perfect man but he still needed that time. So just be careful what comes out of your mouth because you can't bring it back and when you swear and you gossip it's like rotten fish that comes out of your mouth and who wants to see decayed rotten fish and I think there's a reason why God gave us two years in one mouth
@BL-rb7jm2 жыл бұрын
You know what the Bible says about gossip. For we hear that some of you are walking disorderly among you, not working at all, but meddling with what does not concern you. And it continues paragraph 12 to basically eat quietly. Second Thessalonians chapter 3 verse 11, 12. Yeah it's in the Bible can you believe it it's very destructive and it's likened to murder because if you tell stories about somebody and they're not true and it goes back to the person it could cause some severe anxiety and it could cause them depression to the point of suicide it's like somebody that goes on the internet and Bully said 13 or 14-year-old kid with their gossip and and threats it's not good I keep away from trashy people like that
@j.m.51995 жыл бұрын
You need to discern between non productive gossip and getting advice from a friend.
@theCorporateDiaries4 жыл бұрын
See how office gossips and friendship can land you into trouble kzfaq.info/get/bejne/ZrGfftd6t9KopoU.html
@passiveaggressivenegotiato8087 Жыл бұрын
Can the friend fix the problem? They might be able to be the perfect peacemaker, but they might secretly take an opposing position to yours, then you're gossiping. Loose-lip people get double-crossed like that.
@philturless5 жыл бұрын
All it takes is one woman with too much time on her hands/insecurity, and gossip can bring down a church, workplace, marriage, family, etc.
@thelegendkillersshittyduff13355 жыл бұрын
Fuck marriage and a family the dumbest thing a guy can do in this dried up dog shit generation
@anniesshenanigans38154 жыл бұрын
sorry but its not just women.
@happygolucky90043 жыл бұрын
The biggest gossip at my current job is a 6'10" man.
@caterinadelgalles87832 жыл бұрын
Ramsey RULES!
@michaelodonnell4869Ай бұрын
100%
@aerotus8882 жыл бұрын
You must be a real piece of work if a guy could write a phone book of negative things about you and plenty of employees can't help speaking negatively about you. This a lecture about firing people who complain about their idiot dictatorial manager. It's not gossip that kills the company, it's toxic owners and managers who can't motivate their employees.
@passiveaggressivenegotiato8087 Жыл бұрын
Salesmen personalities are harder to manage, because they're often extroverts.
@IAmHere..2 ай бұрын
My boss just showed us this 🗑️
@Wipper864 жыл бұрын
And be sure your sin will find you out
@mgd9151Ай бұрын
Bs. Bosses are always gossiping and playing bs games with ppls time. This is why businesses are doing bad five yrs after this video.😂
@GracieAckerman3 жыл бұрын
Honey you do work for me - wow 😳 I would quit that disrespectful attitude
@emmabell15872 жыл бұрын
You can always quit, if you can't follow the rules.
@scottgordon6002 жыл бұрын
Would have been nice to see the reaction from the room. Wide-eyed adults looking scared to death....
@janinearvayo9094 жыл бұрын
Hi I J Ramsey so tired of Copy and Past people such small minds
@kbkb83015 жыл бұрын
what if it's your boss who gossips?! everyone talks about the employees but there bosses who do this fuckery its sad
@janethockey90705 жыл бұрын
kb kb Just ignore it. Just as long as you don't fuck up. It is harmless
@jimmydarkz18324 жыл бұрын
@maillaarni you are correct.
@cynthiafeagin51853 жыл бұрын
I have a co-worker who was trying to make me uncomfortable while I was taking my break by talking about her sex life. She has done it several times. She talks to her boyfriend during work time on her cellphone.she is married.
@emmabell15872 жыл бұрын
🙄😯
@williamstanton22105 жыл бұрын
a Dave Ramsey divided against himself cannot stand. I recommend tequila.
@TR-vh1fi2 жыл бұрын
Lol Dave.... but you are gossiping about your employees
@adams8066 Жыл бұрын
Former employees.
@kaohsiung99 Жыл бұрын
Do you know their names? Did he say any names? Then, it's not gossip.
@debbie65334 жыл бұрын
Very tacky behavior. Be humble and be discrete
@theCorporateDiaries4 жыл бұрын
See how office gossips and friendship can land you into trouble kzfaq.info/get/bejne/ZrGfftd6t9KopoU.html
@anitam93285 жыл бұрын
Does speech on hating gossip Proceeds to gossip about a person he fired 😂 Ok sir
@jessicamartinez41935 жыл бұрын
Lol
@YawMoney4 жыл бұрын
Lol.
@michaelbaggett55423 жыл бұрын
Didn’t say his name. We have no idea who the person is, so it didn’t damage our view of that person.
@jessicalillianweinberg44013 жыл бұрын
I did have to wonder if he really forgot his keys, in the first story where he caught that woman in the act of gossiping. The way he paused for so long before he said that makes me wonder if he was coming up with an explanation for why he came back in.
@emmabell15872 жыл бұрын
He is using her as an example to tell a story that back's up his reasoning. You must be a gossiper yourself, since you have such a problem with it.
@georgemichaels95112 жыл бұрын
Notice how he said “your work is not a place for dissension.” Spoken like a true egomaniacal tyrant.
@Xinder720 Жыл бұрын
Hardly. You can disagree with your boss but PRIVATELY let him know to his face and be upfront but civil and respectful about it. If he maintains his position, then take it up with the boss over his head and bring the issue to his attention. If that doesn't work, then you may have no other recourse than to resign gracefully and professionally. In other words, don't make your personal issue with a boss EVERYBODY ELSE'S issue in an unprofessional manner.
@MichaeleJayeJackson3 ай бұрын
Still the best lecture I have ever seen!
@georgemichaels95112 жыл бұрын
No, Dave, you buy people’s time and labour. You don’t get to buy their loyalty. You have to WORK to deserve that. You have to merit loyalty. No human with dignity would have their loyalty for sale. You’re just a little bully.
@juliehauser23733 жыл бұрын
Your definition of gossip is, well, wrong. I've read enough of the gossip you have spread. So you're a hypocrite as well as a gossip.
@GracieAckerman3 жыл бұрын
Honestly this guy shows very bad leadership if he keeps firing people who can help him grow in business
@emmabell15872 жыл бұрын
It's his business and it's no difference than no shirt, no shoes, no service.
@brettdavidson38662 жыл бұрын
Gracie if you love gossip you a part of the problem
@Anthrax575 жыл бұрын
Glad he's not president
@beautifulmess20234 жыл бұрын
Roger P. That’s probably why you don’t like trump lol truth hurts so bad sometimes
@wslandry5 жыл бұрын
One of these days this guy is going to crash and burn Mr perfect Mr I know how to run my company Mr fair Mr religious the Almighty for and it will come a time where this guy is going to fall hard! It’s my company I can do what I want and I can see where I want and I can fire who I want and I can make you believe in God or my religious beliefs or I want to hire you. Bring it bring it bring it on just wait it’s just a matter of time that this so-called hillbilly which he is so far from being a hillbilly it’s not even funny but he’s going to crash and burn! His big ass mouth is going to get him in trouble!
@kevinloy21345 жыл бұрын
You could run his business so much better than him, go fill out an application and tell him about it
@arleneaugustahair83935 жыл бұрын
Wayne Landry apparently he’s on the right path! I may not do his program exactly the way he prefers but I definitely understand why his program is setup the way it is. I may not agree on certain things but I definitely respect him. His program is setup for certain people.
@toneal305 жыл бұрын
Someone's been fired from Ramsey Solutions...
@andrealuneau20505 жыл бұрын
@@kevinloy2134 He wouldn't say that to his face...he's only brave behind his computer screen
@ddss62274 жыл бұрын
So what you really mean is youre pissed cause you like to gossip, and noone dare say that's wrong?