Is it necessary to marry in life? What's the physical relationship between man & woman? Krishnamurti
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Bombay (Mumbai) 1984 - Question #4 from Question and Answer Meeting #1
'Is it necessary to marry in life? What is the physical relationship between man and woman?'
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@kawasakiwhiptwo5821 4 жыл бұрын
I'm 53,never married,no kids. I feel fortunate that I recognize that I am a genuinely happy person, despite that fact. A person may be able to make you happy existentially. But in your heart,you are either happy by nature,or you are not. If you are not a happy person by nature, the person you marry will not be able to make you happy.
@jimbrown234 4 жыл бұрын
But but to have children which look like you and bring them up is a blessing. The thing is you still have to carry out your spiritual work.
@sureshjhnanveen6959 4 жыл бұрын
kawasaki whip two wow awesome
@nithim4531 4 жыл бұрын
Well said..true.. somepeople can't understand this..
@ravikantyadav7708 4 жыл бұрын
Superb brother.. ..
@jaiso434 4 жыл бұрын
@@jimbrown234 if you cannot see children as children then there is "hope"
@avneetmanchanda9059 6 жыл бұрын
So true.. "If thr is no love.. You use her and she uses you, you exploit her and she exploits you" totally agree
@raj-khotmarathawarriorclan 4 жыл бұрын
Very true
@karimajjinaresh8095 4 жыл бұрын
If there is love then still the same situation will carry out... Love is a very selfish emotion Always we use others for our happiness but in love while we using other person for the sake of our happiness they will also get benefited and also get happiness.
@bhupendrarajput6824 4 жыл бұрын
Please avneet how with examples
@sureshjhnanveen6959 4 жыл бұрын
Avneet Manchanda yes it's absolutely true...
@priyankthakur1445 4 жыл бұрын
@@karimajjinaresh8095 your definition for that what you call love is wrong then.
@BRR949 3 жыл бұрын
"If your looking for that special somebody to change your whole life, then look no further than the mirror."
@arunodaya55515 2 жыл бұрын
Deep
@salishamohammed9818 2 жыл бұрын
So true
@rukku1961 2 жыл бұрын
👌
@amansworld________8775 2 жыл бұрын
But mirror will just reflect your physicality, if you really want to see the "you" you've to close your eyes I suppose..
@albertchavez2693 Жыл бұрын
BINGO Namaste
@Jb_Insight101 4 жыл бұрын
I feel complete and happy and in peace by myself. I don't believe in another person making you happy. It is an illusion. You are all you need
@20vivekpandey 4 жыл бұрын
I agree with u...but we need companionship to share things.... sometimes we feel alone...isn't it??
@Capricorn0084 4 жыл бұрын
Yes indeed!
@20vivekpandey 4 жыл бұрын
@timothy wait agree with u....i know i need to grow up more...
@Sindi63084 4 жыл бұрын
There are needs a woman has that only a man can meet them fir her and vice versa. Let's be real now. But the opposite sex does not come to make you whole but so you both can meet each others needs
@chandershekhar3447 4 жыл бұрын
U are going towards nirvana😝
@satnamo 4 жыл бұрын
He who does not enjoy solitude does not appreciate freedom; Health, youth and freedom are the greatest blessings of life.
@cirukarago7251 4 жыл бұрын
💯💯💯
@PriceCodm 4 жыл бұрын
I disagree and yet I am 18 ~ Enlightenment no matter the age is the greatest blessing.
@devendersehrawat2947 4 жыл бұрын
@@PriceCodm I wonder how you would feel after 20 years
@ashwinidombale7158 3 жыл бұрын
Please don't say youth...It looks scary for a 25yr old😂😂😂
@kimmiasnss 3 жыл бұрын
Health I do agree. But youth? I mean if you are healthy ( physically and mentally ) at any age than you are blessed. I am 26, in my country I am still part of the youth. But I don't see any blessings. My parents who are in their 60s are in a far better place than me. Happy and fulfilled. Anyway this is just a personal opinion.
@karmaload9154 4 жыл бұрын
"We are never at home with anybody because we are living in our own thoughts in our own problems and our own ambitions." POWERFUL
@vershasharma4366 2 жыл бұрын
I am Asha. I'm a lawyer. And at a very early stage of my life I decided that i'll never get married and live peacefully. It has been 48 years of me on this planet and i never felt like missing out on anything. There has been struggle and hardships but i was always there with myself. I hope young generation would also learn to have good relationships with themselves and treat themselves in a better way so that they can also treat others better. I believe it is completely upto the choice of an individual and nobody should be accountable for this decision, except for the individuals themselves.
@srvplwl 2 жыл бұрын
Well said.
@clarapearl1 2 жыл бұрын
Absolutely true . God bless
@harshaharry2985 2 жыл бұрын
How to convince my parents
@praveen4440 2 жыл бұрын
Don't think me wrong by asking this. How did u fulfilled ur biological urges?
@rahulpandey6746 Жыл бұрын
I'm 26 and doing PhD from JNU. When I was in school I decided not to marry anybody. I so much happy with my life. We are always alone but filled with love and support from the nature.
@Babak699 4 жыл бұрын
Life is too short to get attached or get too serious about people or things , just observe and enjoy and love unconditionally without expectations ❤️
@saraabbas9778 4 жыл бұрын
PersianBoy Easier said than done. :)
@onlyhuman5669 4 жыл бұрын
This.
@minodoraburlacu5869 3 жыл бұрын
True😍
@lalam2890 3 жыл бұрын
Observe and enjoy....so beautifully said.
@Jay-el9iz 3 жыл бұрын
I fully disagree. Life is short enough to get serious about people and things if you wanna do so. Also, how can you care & love without being somewhat attached?
@alirjeff3096 3 жыл бұрын
“My wife and I were happy for 30 years. Then we met.”
@sanjeevkushwaha4043 3 жыл бұрын
This quote was said by some comedian 🤔🤔🤔🤔
@alirjeff3096 3 жыл бұрын
@@sanjeevkushwaha4043 That’s why I put it in quotation marks.
@oshins4524 2 жыл бұрын
🤣🤣
@annabrendabusquit9039 2 жыл бұрын
😂
@yashasvinerali 2 жыл бұрын
🤣🤣
@AwakenedSouls 4 жыл бұрын
You can be happy in a marriage only when you don't use your partner as the source of your feeling good. Being happy alone you can be happy married too.
@sakhi1960 3 жыл бұрын
👌🏼
@Hufflepuff248 3 жыл бұрын
THIS 👏👏👏 Absolutely Agree
@satyendrsingh6071 2 жыл бұрын
@Mystic Editor no, but having sexual intercourse without love, means exploiting eachother. God has given these things to reproduce it's human who use them for pleasure, But I know one thing that, "INSTANT PLEASURE CAN'T GIVE YOU LIFE LONG SATISFACTION" because, "NO PAIN NO GAIN"
@yashasvinerali 2 жыл бұрын
Well said 👌👌
@catherineshaw1122 Жыл бұрын
I tell younger people all the time to stop pining for a partner and spend years living alone first. No roommates either. True independence and solitude. Once you're genuinely very happy that way, then a partner to share in the journey is a positive thing. When you don't need it but it comes along, it's a gift.
@destroyerofstupid7073 8 жыл бұрын
I will never get bored of listening to this man speak, like bruce lee he is helping me find my own way by asking myself the right questions. you are the teacher you are the student you are the everything.
@hardmelodicbassfuckerz1210 8 жыл бұрын
Same R.I.P.
@Niablackfeather13 6 жыл бұрын
How's the journey? Decided to start on mine. Any advice ?
@yagneshraviteja 6 жыл бұрын
Fun fact : Even Bruce Lee used K's books in building his mental strength n awareness during his time!! :)
@yagneshraviteja 6 жыл бұрын
Na twosaintz take a book like 'freedom from the known' or 'think on these things' .. read them, understand them n try getting the actual grasp of how your thoughts n thought process start to travel by reading each sentence that u read from the book .. be aware of your own thought n perception :)
@Niablackfeather13 6 жыл бұрын
yagnesh ravi teja yrt Thank you so much for the response. Im here now, observing :)
@pentangle78 8 жыл бұрын
"exploiting". WOW, K. was bluntly wise and honest. and he was right.
@enigma3909 4 жыл бұрын
I have never felt the need to marry someone to feel complete. I am happily single and not in any relationship whatsoever.
@VitaminM1 3 жыл бұрын
Don't fear to take responsibility make your life better so you can make someone's life better..
@voidmain9519 3 жыл бұрын
@@VitaminM1 What if someone is not meant to be in such responsibility??? I mean if someone like that were to be in a relationship then it makes other's life difficult, it'll be like playing with their emotions and spoiling their inner peace!!! It makes both their lives worse not even better.... Then what is it's purpose here in such cases??? I'm asking you in a respected manner as it is boggling my mind since forever
@archanakommala8736 3 жыл бұрын
That's a good choice.
@lazygirlvee 3 жыл бұрын
@@VitaminM1 we don't need a companionship to feel complete!
@aashimaarya5496 3 жыл бұрын
@@VitaminM1 why?
@PankajKumar-zr3tv 8 жыл бұрын
Wow!! I have read his book "Freedom from the known". I have never seen such an intelligent man. It struck a chord with me when he said "You exploit her, she exploits you". Though subtle, this is true indeed. Why people marry? They want something from each other. Men primarily want sex and women want financial security(In most cases). There is this another need of psychological security as well. Fundamentally, all this is hollow. Because there is no security. Thank you for this video.
@mohitverma1853 8 жыл бұрын
+Pankaj Kumar i want book can u give me....original price is very high
@PankajKumar-zr3tv 8 жыл бұрын
+mohit verma Hi Mohit. Actually even I looked for the free pdf copy of this book. I could not find this book online. So I had to buy Kindle digital copy of it. Kindle books can only be read in kindle software. It is not possible to mail kindle books. Sorry :(
@mohitverma1853 8 жыл бұрын
ok..... i m big fan of krishnamurti.......How much u paid for digital copy??
@PankajKumar-zr3tv 8 жыл бұрын
+mohit verma tinyurl.com/pucwjg3 Use this link to buy.
@mohitverma1853 8 жыл бұрын
hmmm.... but i cant afford...thnx fr feed back...
@kenbehzadi1185 6 жыл бұрын
JK was an enlightened person and master. his style a bit dry and serious. His answer simply states marriage is using each other which is true. One never conquers loneliness with marriage.
@alphacentauri2134 5 жыл бұрын
If you're married, you're lonelier than ever before!
@sudhanshudixit3344 5 жыл бұрын
Gnan yoga is believed to be drier than other yogic branches
@rajnigandha21 5 жыл бұрын
He says 'if there is no love, you use her, she uses you.'
@nirvritanandapuri5343 4 жыл бұрын
@@sudhanshudixit3344 If jnana yoga is understood merely as intellectual assent or dissent, then it is certainly very very dry!!! But then, it is not Jnana Yoga at all. Jnana Yoga is of the heart...head only helps in correct understanding...which is essential...but practice is of tge heart!!!
@vking4535 4 жыл бұрын
He didn't say that, or mean that, you've half heard him to suit your own assumptions. What he said was if there is no love then marriage is you use her, she uses you. And it should not be that way.
@asmitaapardesi405 4 жыл бұрын
It's good to get married! But, it's great to remain unmarried.
@p.praneethpedada2325 3 жыл бұрын
Well said
@SagarKumar-zo9yg 3 жыл бұрын
In this corrupt society, If one wants to walk incorruptible, he must be alone.
@prashant4435 3 жыл бұрын
What I liked about this man is this that he never answer any question, he always gives the clue and say to you 'Find it by yourself'. 😇
@ultimatetruth1051 3 жыл бұрын
Yes if he gave the answer it will become belief for most of people's...again your ability to find it out gets lost...because u will consider his statement right for your self which is wrong..
@tien7742 Жыл бұрын
When you actually "find it by yourself", it is YOURS; however, if you receive from Others, they aren't yours but rather something you borrowed..Period..
@kartikg.kartikg 3 жыл бұрын
The reason to REMAIN SINGLE is not because we are unable to handle our partner and related problems. But, we don't want to spend our precious time of life in handling such problems. Rather, we wish to invest time in making a positive change in ourselves and thereby in the society for peace, for humanity and joy. 🙏 So, it's your choice to be single or not. But if you are not able to find solutions for existing problems, don't create more complexities in life..😄 Let it be simple. 👍
@rohitisalwayspositiv 2 жыл бұрын
Yes, I agree But what about the sexual desires Suppose a person does not have them and lives like a monk then that is fine But if someone has them and wants to enjoy, then?
@kartikg.kartikg 2 жыл бұрын
Then you should get married to the correct person. The person, whom you know well & will help you in solving your difficulties and vice versa. Just remember that keep life as simple as possible.
@PawanKumar-xz2dk 7 жыл бұрын
Wow, it gives me strength every time I listen to this man. Going through breakup and this gives me some relief.
@sriramgautamkodukula3398 5 жыл бұрын
Pawan Kuma...I did the same bro..but I’m married now..haha
@yomaddy 4 жыл бұрын
@@SuperTekton sicko spotted
@bullseye6969 4 жыл бұрын
@@SuperTekton Yeah man everyone is corrupt but you, and yes Only if you can get your Winnie up and running, else she will call someone else in your absence. XD
@mohammadsaneie2085 3 жыл бұрын
This is a man ?!!!!
@shradhaawgp1498 3 жыл бұрын
So you get engaged with this particular speech just to seek comfort n sense of security n comfort. Reducing your cognitive dissonance. 😄 how complex is human mind. It can seek anyway what it what's.
@gautamd.9790 5 жыл бұрын
We all are frightened and don't want to be alone. We seek Companionship, sexual needs, safety and security. We got what we wanted, mostly, but lost our Peace of Mind.
@phanikumar2995 3 жыл бұрын
Marrying is upbringing of children upto 25 years.......After that match a relationship..... Marriage is not easy..... Marriage will not be Suitable for All.....Some shine .....Some Dark
@katashley1031 Жыл бұрын
It's pretty simple. Be happy enough on your own that a partner is a best friend with whom you enjoying sharing things. Met my husband at 39, when I was quite content on my own and never felt anything was missing. Because of that, we never feel needy or clingy towards each other. We get to be ourselves and share the journey with someone we genuinely like as well as love, lol. I honestly think that's the secret. Be so fulfilled and happy on your own you don't even need or want marriage. That seems to be precisely when a great spirit feels your vibe and comes right at ya to be with a kindred soul. We are still as happy together today as we were 13 years ago. And I never, ever thought I'd be the marriage type. ;)
@iaf4454 Жыл бұрын
Wow beautiful story...💛💚💚
@imnotaknower Жыл бұрын
❤❤❤ need more stories like this
@katashley1031 Жыл бұрын
@@imnotaknower I've actually seen quite a few. But I agree, if more people found their own happiness first, and married a best friend, how much better would the world be for everyone?
@katashley1031 Жыл бұрын
@@iaf4454 thank you! Best surprise of my life, my marriage.
@djulietaoleandra7023 Жыл бұрын
Do you have children?☺️
@LOD50 4 жыл бұрын
I am 46 now never married or had children am perfectly happy, however I do sense an expectation from other people sometimes that I should be unhappy about being single. It's a fallacy. Am naturally an optimistic person always have been. Am a realist though and have suffered my fair share of life's challenges. I know life can be difficult at times but you just get back up and brush yourself off and be grateful for this life. The worst that can happen is dying and none of us escape that eventuality.
@karthikshetty4946 4 жыл бұрын
I am 30 and I have decided to remain single all my life. As I believe in solitude I know I will enjoy my life. But if I come across a woman and if my intuition feels if she is perfect then I could marry. I can remain single and happy but the only thing which I may face is the societal and family impression on me. They may nag me for remaining single but I know I can leave with it and nobody can stop me in experience the good part of this world and lead a peaceful and Serene life
@VitaminM1 3 жыл бұрын
Don't fear to take responsibility make your life better so you can make someone's life better
@Abhishekramanuja 3 жыл бұрын
Hinduism tells us not to fear death as you said, its an eventuality. In the years alive, try to make it meaningful for society and yourself. you summed it up perfectly.
@ava-if8xc 3 жыл бұрын
@@karthikshetty4946 i want to get married but only if i find someone like...honestly, indian marriage system failed in this new generation. My parents also pressuring me to get married and i said only thing to them 'will you take responsiblity if my marriage failed??' .......i dont want my rest of life just to suffer.
@phanikumar2995 3 жыл бұрын
@@ava-if8xc inspite of Glory & wealth....Stars like Leonardo DiCaprio @ 46 are not marrying
@ekaiordan 5 жыл бұрын
The most intelligent, smart and integrated person I've ever seen in my life. The deepest respect to him 🙏
@saikrishnamanubolu573 4 жыл бұрын
When you have seen in madanapalle
@sumitSharma-fl3ls 4 жыл бұрын
Look in the mirror ("Heart ) you will find one more.
@yasmine2579 3 жыл бұрын
It’s a woman no ?
@mehdifazeli7123 3 жыл бұрын
Wow
@mehdifazeli7123 3 жыл бұрын
@@yasmine2579 no
@Billybreaks 10 жыл бұрын
This man is incredible
@rolandocaabaysr.5844 2 жыл бұрын
i dont know why tears are streaming all over my face the moment he spoke. i felt every single word he said. he was truly an amazing speaker
@TheUntypicalGerman 2 жыл бұрын
I asked my wife what she wanted for Christmas. She told me nothing would make her happier than a diamond necklace. so I bought her nothing.
@e.k8506 2 жыл бұрын
🤣🤣🤣
@adamabdullah7343 2 жыл бұрын
Good one sir..took me a while to understand
@prasadms87 2 жыл бұрын
😂😂😂😂
@benarthurhuzz4664 2 жыл бұрын
@@e.k8506 I didn't get it.... What he trynna say?
@VivekMishra-um7hl Жыл бұрын
😄😄😄
@andreyvaleroso 4 жыл бұрын
This "part of life" really bothers me for a long time. I dont know. I am not just into romantic love. It's too small. The world there is too small. It's like you are limiting yourself to universal love. And by involving yourself to a romantic relationship, you don't get to discover your highest potential as a human being.
@hardikparmar7666 4 жыл бұрын
andré valeroso well said ✌🏼
@ManPursueExcellence 4 жыл бұрын
andré valeroso You have to put so much focus on one person. I don’t like romantic love. It’s too binding.
@andreyvaleroso 4 жыл бұрын
@@ManPursueExcellence true. there is a deeper type of love everyone should pursue.
@fskshj 4 жыл бұрын
True but there are married people who continued their spiritual life even after marriage but it’s tough I think.
@shwetabajaj2444 4 жыл бұрын
andré valeroso Exactly my thoughts atm
@jirasutasakulkittithumrong4103 4 жыл бұрын
The speaker knows deep into the nature of human beings.
@happysoul8281 Жыл бұрын
Single and never had sex. I’m 35, happier, and excited to live life! I don’t understand the need to have someone’s love for one to have some good time on earth. Ofcourse I adore happy relationships, but I’m here to say: “you are more than enough!”
@bharathreddy1134 6 ай бұрын
36 here hahhaha
@Newmoon19 2 ай бұрын
I wish your parents never had sex 😂
@Newmoon19 2 ай бұрын
If everyone think like you, no human will be left on earth after 150 years So just imagine how wrong you are
@sciathain 2 ай бұрын
@Newmoon19 And what exactly about it would be wrong ? Do you just listen to people or do you also think
@ginopietermaai2764 Ай бұрын
@@Newmoon19 All spirits would be free from their bodily imprisonment.
@julierobinson8173 4 жыл бұрын
I thought this was a woman! 😊 we should be free to choose whether to marry or not with no criticism from friends, family, or society 🙏🏽
@ogagaokagbare4496 2 жыл бұрын
Me too
@100azda 2 жыл бұрын
🙋♀️
@laddakang5264 6 жыл бұрын
Wow,what a profound understanding he had,jiddu Krishnamurti always introduces us with unprecedented approaches.
@truenews4901 3 жыл бұрын
If you understand that you are whole and complete then you won't depend on anyone for your happiness and joy. Relationships with unconditional love and respect and without any dependencies are true relationships.
@yogeshasrao8159 3 жыл бұрын
He is a man who spoke only about facts of life. To understand his words we need a free mind. Thanks for him and all who made his words available
@2007Club 3 жыл бұрын
I am so glad he speaks all his wisdom in english. I love this guy and brings peace to my heart
@justindesilva5878 Жыл бұрын
The idea of marriage in the world long ago was to share responsiblities in life. The women looked after the home and children while the husband earned. There was an understanding. With industrialization the meaning of marriage has changed.
@piyushmisra7660 5 жыл бұрын
True conjugal relationship is rare, final home is seen in someone by another one when both of them have not dwelled in other temporary things and therefore have developed infinite affinity for each other. Lover is someone who is to stay with beloved forever, transcending the limits of time and place.
@bhaskarjoshi17 3 жыл бұрын
i don't feel that i cant stand alone. best days are when you are happy with yourself. Usually most people make other miserable, glad i did not fall into the societal trap yet. I feel safe & secure with myself.
@ishaanbhoj 3 жыл бұрын
God's grace bro.
@starboi1017 3 жыл бұрын
We just gotta flow with life, if u meet someone you think is good ya it's ok to have a marriage, if it goes south later on you just deal with it and let go, every relationship in life is a struggle to a certain degree, all we can do is enjoy whats present for us and if adversity hits heal from it and let go.
@deepakchandravanshi6274 5 жыл бұрын
In all your lectures,i always be waiting for your one smile...because the way you smile that can heals anyone's heart...respect 💝
@ravijangra60 4 жыл бұрын
♥️😍
@suryaprakashvedurumudi357 4 жыл бұрын
Great, True.
@bennymanfrost 3 жыл бұрын
I read a quote years ago from His Holiness The 14th Dalai Lama that was simple and profound- "Love all people more than you need them."
@riccardoc1711 Жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing this. And thank you for Jiddu’s parents to have been an instrument of Grace in manifesting such a beautiful Soul into earthly existence.
@rahulthukral9333 6 жыл бұрын
He is giving shock for every asleep man or woman without any expectation he was really a blessed one or enlightened one.
@Peace4All09 3 жыл бұрын
Firstly, i am glad i live in a country where i can decide what i want to do, others are not so blessed. Not married, never married, have one grown Daughter & two Grand Daughters, feeling contented.
@joydevghosh8017 3 жыл бұрын
Nothing is absolutely necessary for a simple life other than the things needed for maintaining one's physical existence with ease.
@ladeeeedah Жыл бұрын
I have come to love my solitude. I am not chasing anything but I do practice gratitude for even existing, for this very life. I firmly believe everything in life is temporary and it has indeed relieved me of all the negativity that consumes us mortal beings.
@katashley1031 Жыл бұрын
That's how I was, for many years. I wanted nothing, was totally content on my own. I believe that time and coming to that state was what drew my husband right to me. He's also very independent. We have very different paths but sharing one has been a blast. I'm so grateful for all of it.
@abhinkrishna5091 Жыл бұрын
Will take that deep into my soul
@shrutiprakashbanerjee790 Жыл бұрын
The comment section is a real tresure house 💞
@IKilledMufasa5 9 жыл бұрын
Master Oogway? You're alive?
@sedditguy1836 8 жыл бұрын
+IKilledMufasa5 OOOooh yes Kind Sir ! :)
@dkdc2402 5 жыл бұрын
Lol
@Aven-Sharma1991 4 жыл бұрын
He’s the original Master Oogway.
@aaronstone_9965 3 жыл бұрын
I know right?!😂😂..especially the I don't know at 0:34
@sureshshenoy6393 2 жыл бұрын
Love the way JK s answered to the question. True one getting married is not an issue, but JKs concept is how to live in harmony and with total love. Once u become totally attentive, then the relationship towards ur family and others will be in different level altogether and that state is JK talking about.
@malayangrago5628 2 жыл бұрын
Very simple: if you marry, you know where to sleep but you can't sleep; if you are not married, you don't know where you'll sleep but you will sleep well. So choose wisely an option that suits you best and don't be regretful for the decision. God bless you, my child.
@catherineshaw1122 Жыл бұрын
That doesn't really make sense, lol. Why would you not sleep when married, or not have a place to sleep single?
@grdhr4258 Жыл бұрын
DAMNNN son❗
@katashley1031 Жыл бұрын
@@catherineshaw1122 agreed. A pretty bizarre comment.
@vj12343 Жыл бұрын
Marriage or not. It’s important to realize the most important thing is to be true to yourself as it is with ourselves we have the most important relationship. So, don’t be shocked when the marriage doesn’t work. Be brave enough to choose yourself if you’re not happy. Nothing is permanent.
@dabreu Жыл бұрын
This man was just too amazing! What a fantastic answer to a silly question. I love when he simply answers at first...I don't know! And smiles. Wonderful.
@waedjradi 4 жыл бұрын
No other in this Universe completes you. That is because you complete yourself.
@findelka1810 3 жыл бұрын
you can live in a way, that every human being is your friend. Then, when you can talk to just about anyone and connect with them on the basis of being human, you’re never alone. It just requires a leap of faith.
@kennth6594 Жыл бұрын
Won't be leaping to faith here
@catherineshaw1122 Жыл бұрын
You can pretend that every human being is your friend, but they're not. How do you react when that's not true, over and over and over again, lol?
@vj12343 Жыл бұрын
This is a naive way to live life. Not everybody is your friend. Some people will harm you with the information you share to be benefitted
@Sunshine-zi7oy 3 жыл бұрын
marriage can be considered a shortcut for spiritual maturation... it depends on who really are and how you consider marriage.. your whole story evolves around you and your choices.. marriage is good for those who are ready to (give)
@82weeks94 3 жыл бұрын
It take INTELLIGENCE AND INTEGRITY..... most people missed that!
@kishormore9716 4 жыл бұрын
You know what i feel about him? Just to hug him with affection. Even i am man i feel such affection for him.
@kooroshrostami27 2 жыл бұрын
Marriage is an outdated concept in the West, it goes back to a time when a woman wasn't able to fend for herself. It made sense back then. Today it is merely tradition or some fantastic idea, trying to fixate something (erotic love) which by nature is elusive and impermanent.
@katashley1031 Жыл бұрын
Marriage isn't about sex or anything erotic, lol. I know a lot of long happily married couples, none of them cite sex as the best part or secret to the longevity. Marriage is about 2 people who are best friends, sharing their lives. Sex is fleeting. Genuine connection and having someone there to laugh with you and support you, while you support them, is what marriage is about. And it's glorious.
@AllctrlA 2 жыл бұрын
As I saw the title, I didn't expect this answer. It provided me a powerful base for marriage: learn with someone how to live without conflict, without sense of struggle, adaption, adjustment. And nevertheless do what u want, why bother the other with this question
@taz-on-the-looseyusef5526 4 жыл бұрын
as a christian from Botswana, i like reading and listening to words of wisdom and so far, Krishnamurti is the wiseman, the way he answers and teaches proves hes a great soul, and the bible talks about three wisemen from the east, eastern philosophy is often rich of wisdom
@sabatamoabi4051 2 жыл бұрын
and *you* are still a *christian*.
@suneeshnt1090 3 жыл бұрын
Marriage is to enjoy meterial pleasures......if one can find out the source of Bliss in inside.. no need for a partner....He can share his owerfloying love to anyone....then marriage is not a must.❤️❤️J.K.
@gentlemanlows2928 4 жыл бұрын
Crazy how you can be married and still feel like you dont have enough.
@narayanaraoks4090 Жыл бұрын
Fantastic talk. Great answers to a question which needs to answer in a general compromise.
@cledwynstafford4819 3 жыл бұрын
..i have married, i have had male lovers, female lovers, i am now perfectly living with myself. I am never alone, there is me, and I existing together in perfect harmony.
@ravishingtwinkle3811 3 жыл бұрын
I like his sense of humour. It's subtle and wise
@gkk2215 3 жыл бұрын
If you don't want to marry, you have to get enrolled in a religious community which is the only way by which you will get socialized and social companionship !! Otherwise society will eat you up unless you are some great contributor in some field.... Especially in India...
@richricogranada9647 2 жыл бұрын
It is not easy to keep the sexual appeal forever in a marriage and many marriages end because of that. I would stay in it even without sex if the spouse were kind, respectful, and there was sense of commitment on both sides.
@katashley1031 Жыл бұрын
Very true. Marriage should not be based on sex or sexual attraction. That naturally wanes over time. A genuine connection and deep love and respect will only deepen.
@GM-yb5yg 3 жыл бұрын
To summarize: do what you want and stop bothering me with such questions. Totally agreed with him. Basically if you a relationship then do it because you want to, not because you need to. In other words, don't be codependant, be interdependant.
@LuanaKoch 7 жыл бұрын
29 dislike....married couple... :D joke
@Number-op1by 6 жыл бұрын
manni singh 68 lol
@illusionbreaker7789 5 жыл бұрын
@@Number-op1by whats the with lol dumbo
@shreepradh 5 жыл бұрын
😂 😂 😂 😂
@preetidas9511 5 жыл бұрын
Now 107 :(
@smalivecom 5 жыл бұрын
😁
@manojshrestha2740 4 жыл бұрын
It is not necessary to marry in life....I am 41years old unmarried man n very happy....
@devoshrimukharjee748 3 жыл бұрын
Then why do you have a woman's picture as your dp? You clearly appreciate the opposite sex.
@Someone-je3if 3 жыл бұрын
@@devoshrimukharjee748 How is appreciating other gender wrong, for an unmarried person? Your questions makes no sense. Unmarried doesn't necessarily equate to misogyny.
@fretlesssmilemore8905 3 жыл бұрын
'...because most of us cannot stand alone on our own feet... lovely answer!😊
@mquillan 5 жыл бұрын
:) R.I.P And big respect to J.Krishnamurti.Peace:)))))))) "love is what you need" :)
@lifeengagement8050 3 жыл бұрын
Marrying feels very limiting to me, just like living in one place forever.
@varunsahk1123 3 жыл бұрын
Hmmmm well said girl
@suneeshnt1090 3 жыл бұрын
Yes... freedom is our first choice in life...
@amitchothani9832 3 жыл бұрын
a bird belongs to the sky...
@jaggisarma9513 3 жыл бұрын
This constant demand and talk about freedom and independance can be irritating.What exactly do you want freedom from, people related and unrelated to you or everything around you?freedom should come from within . The most unacceptable part is that we all know that death and only death is the only one that can liberate , free you.Can you be more independant or free like plants and animals?
@ritshpatidar 2 жыл бұрын
It depends on your idea of relationship. If you go after freedom, that "going after" itself limits your freedom.
@othomile 5 жыл бұрын
marriage is one of those institutions of human life meant to unite, build and create stable societies rooting from a marriage unit set up as part of those binding forces of a progressive society, marriage in the traditional sense of the word is more good than bad, it is good but not the best, has room for development, that is why we see marriage laws changing and so on and so forth because it involves a lot, involves children and families and money and norms etc Sometimes these changing laws stengthen but sometimes they weaken this institution... But overall, the intentions are usually good
@11SHRADDHA11 3 жыл бұрын
Sociology
@doyoubelieveinmagic4244 3 жыл бұрын
I am so happy that i found a person a speaker who speak openly about life and why we do that as human beings. I already made up my mind a long time ago to be single forever with my pets and just go hang out with u know friends or relatives.
@jnananinja7436 4 жыл бұрын
A true Master. Should we marry?.. Do what you want! But go into it with full consciousness. And, without love, you will just use each other. Krishnamurti always hits the nail on the head, even when he laughs at the question. I personally believe he was a fully Realized being, but others may not see this and what do I really know anyway :)
@akhil1753 3 жыл бұрын
If you want a relationship of any nature then Accept don't Adapt. But if not, embrace Solitude and differentiate it from Loneliness.
@AtulKumar-hp1ip 3 жыл бұрын
Peop just live together because of fear of living alone.
@Melly16yr10 3 жыл бұрын
Unfortunately true
@ishanisarkar86 4 жыл бұрын
I am into my solitude.. I love it.. It's a bliss for me🙏🙏
@vennmathshub 2 жыл бұрын
How old are you?
@fatimazohrabenaicha9320 3 жыл бұрын
Sadly marriage can be a very lonely place
@TheUntypicalGerman 2 жыл бұрын
Wife: "I look fat. Can you give me a compliment?" Husband: "You have perfect eyesight."
@butterfly390 2 жыл бұрын
Haha
@Jacparas 3 жыл бұрын
I'm 36 not married and no kids (of course) 😅 now I just let the time to decide. Im enjoying gardening for now.
@sadafmaqsood2817 3 жыл бұрын
M , 37. But unhappy becoz single
@rushiraul4084 3 жыл бұрын
@@sadafmaqsood2817 Me too
@udennyn 3 жыл бұрын
I wish , we all had that liberty in India.
@kishorevonguru5700 2 жыл бұрын
@@sadafmaqsood2817 if u marry u will be even more sad hahaha 🤣
@Face1543 3 ай бұрын
@@sadafmaqsood2817you are very beautiful reason is celibacy are you interested in marry
@MegaRay68 8 жыл бұрын
JKs method to get across the truth is exemplary. He draws into the presence by repeating the question, then what comes out from him is out of the box. Yes, marriage is the microcosm of society, and it is like a season in existence. His word "complexity" serves in different ways. physical relationship in the youth and companionship in the later stages. "Love" is an important factor which everyone agrees, it's how you treat your partner as an extension of yourself rather than the other. The needs then get dissolved into one. So , its a matter of choice to get into the system that facilitates social construct or stay away. No story is the same for everyone, depends on the divine providence, and the urge that responds to it.
@venutti 8 жыл бұрын
"marriage is the microcosm of society", very well said.
@MrRange12345 7 жыл бұрын
I don't understand this guy. Feels like am stupid.
@josephogola4713 2 жыл бұрын
The answer is all opinions expressed are perfectly correct...There is no one answer to such a question
@mohanmansi 3 жыл бұрын
So true life is lonely and complex
@ishaanbhoj 3 жыл бұрын
Albert Camus - 'The only way to deal with an unfree world is to become so absolutely free that your very existence is an act of rebellion.'
@iaf4454 Жыл бұрын
💚💜💜
@lakshmis9179 4 жыл бұрын
We are comfortable only with ourself...we should learn to live alone...soul is alone...in all relationships there are expectations...when there are expectations in relationship ,it's not pure..
@shailajas2572 2 жыл бұрын
Super
@sireeshasai3894 3 жыл бұрын
I wish I heard this 6years ago!! Thank you anyways! 🙏🏻
@aryanvadher4376 2 жыл бұрын
😂
@ruchikumari6628 3 жыл бұрын
For men companionship and emotional support For women security But these days we don't get it from marriage
@sanjeevkushwaha4043 3 жыл бұрын
Marriage has lost its utility value
@thegreatest1176 4 жыл бұрын
Love that his answer doesn't really satisfy both of the argument for and against marriage. But i must say loneliness has taken many lives in where i reside, it should be carefully addressed.
@pisceanrat 4 жыл бұрын
Yes there was no simple yes or no... may i ask tho where you live... many suicides going on in here lately too due to depression
@jaisaxplyr4263 3 жыл бұрын
Being alone for 20days first time after 14years of marriage gave me much insight and pleasure. I developed a much deeper self love, exercised more ,lost 3kilos but ate my food exactly how my wife had taught me. The same diet I had learned in marriage helped to provide me with the same feeling of having my wife with me. Man is truly a strange animal.
@ThePukarDhital 7 жыл бұрын
Well having read few comments and of those who questions his teaching! To those I say you still are entangeled in wordly doctrines. All you want is exact Yes or No answer and all the while his very fundamental teaching is experience yourself, know thyself, liberate yourself. Well I can best tell you is by example of teachers. You are seeking for Pre-school teacher who can answer your childish question and whatever be the answer right or wrong you accept it happily because you get what you have asked for and to you your teacher is a hero but Krishnamurti is a Professor and if you are to get his concept you have to be Phd. student. He gives and shows directions and research is your own. So find it out. Alan Watts, Bruce Lee to name few admires him caz they know the depth of his teachings.
@thenowchurch6419 7 жыл бұрын
ThePukarDhital. This Rastaman also knows the depth of K's teachings.
@AndreiGonzalesIturri 6 жыл бұрын
ThePukarDhital PhD? You just need to pay attention to the world and then you will not still seeking for knowledge, another kind of being materialistic...
@tien7742 Жыл бұрын
Couldn't agree more with Mr. Krisnamurti..👍❤️👏
@user-xh9rw3wh3m 10 жыл бұрын
Why is the sound from the Official videos so bad, when those posted by others is fine??
@shivampathak3004 3 жыл бұрын
Everybody fear to live alone that's y they need someone to be their... Being alone is best thing u can do ever .
@induprabha1990 Жыл бұрын
I m feeling so relaxed after reading the comments here
@harinik.n.7342 Жыл бұрын
Excellent answer first of all... Then very nice words "we should know to live with each other without any conflict. It requires lot of intelligence".. loved these words.. very important to sustain in marriage life coz after few years no matter wat your companion does to you or vice versa there will not be full satisfaction.
@WiseYogi7 8 жыл бұрын
the problem is people always want an answer when there isn't one needed nor can there be only 1 answer look up the venus project and learn as well from jacque fresco on many things we consider human nature but are simply human behaviour
@tomandersson810 10 жыл бұрын
I really recommend to everyone who likes Krishnamurti's work to read a book called The Present at Truth Contest. It changed my life and can change yours.
@akhil1753 3 жыл бұрын
People are afraid of the internal exploring and journey. Because it's hard, painful and shatters the comfortable settings provided by the outward journey. People forgot that inwards is the real journey and outwards is just a scenery for pleasure. Dig deep. Be yourself. Be original.
@Sunshine-zi7oy 3 жыл бұрын
i think marriage by its own, involves a high level of karma blending, in addition to the long list of likes and dislikes.. if one gets married to someone and together they keep evolving and continue the journey of life on this planet, that would be awesome, keeping in mind that they are both free of insecurities - which virtually means they have worked so far well on their inner worlds and penchants the whole issue by itself is individualistic
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