Is my husband going to leave me? I GOT FAT! | Weight Loss Journey | Losing 200 lbs
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Күн бұрынIn " Is my husband going to leave me? I GOT FAT! | Weight Loss Journey | Losing 200 lbs" I answer one of the most common questions people ask me about... Will my husband leave me because I gained weight? Do I worry that my husband will leave me because I gained weight. This was a very hard question to tackle. I would be lying if I said that thought never ever ran through my mind, but I have never entertained it. Because it isn't true, in my case. However, so may people deal with this situation, especially women. And, it happens for all sorts of reasons. So, I felt it was worth talking a little about. I hope it helps.
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01:52 How do I feel about my weight?
04:00 How does my husband Feel?
06:40 Why hasn't he left?
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@kimmatchett3980 3 жыл бұрын
Thanks for covering a tough topic. It unfortunately is a very real topic that many men/women struggle with. Someone may have asked because they felt safe asking in this platform and someone may have asked to be a jerk. Either way, your message was real and needed.
@joyneville7246 3 жыл бұрын
So true. I just talked a out my experience with weightloss and our feelings about it too! I love that shes being honest! ❤☺we as women all. Go through these similar emotions!😘
@annyms5092 3 жыл бұрын
God bless, Jesus loves you and died for you
@joyneville7246 3 жыл бұрын
@@annyms5092 very True❤☝🙏God bless you too!
@annyms5092 3 жыл бұрын
Joy Neville amen, hope you and your family are safe
@joyneville7246 3 жыл бұрын
@@annyms5092 thank YOU!❤🙌and God bless you too be safe!
@KristaSophia333 3 жыл бұрын
April's Vulnerability alone deserves more thumbs up!
@joyneville7246 3 жыл бұрын
So true😘👏
@annyms5092 3 жыл бұрын
God bless, Jesus loves you and died for you
@christinafasts 3 жыл бұрын
Agreed! 💗
@cattailsforlunch 3 жыл бұрын
My husband abandoned me, claiming he didn’t love me anymore. I asked him if it was because I was overweight and he didn’t answer. I’ve always been active and fit but at that time was 40 lbs overweight. This is a real thing to be concerned about. It hurt for a long time to not feel worth love. He has since had a half dozen girlfriends, the latest being the same age as our oldest son, and I don’t think he’s found happiness yet. I’m currently the healthiest, fittest, and happiest I’ve ever been. We need to take care of ourselves, not because we need men to love us, but because we need to love ourselves.
@stza16 3 жыл бұрын
It's OK to need men.
@emills767 3 жыл бұрын
💯 agree! You do you and I'm glad you are thriving!
@ccgerrity 3 жыл бұрын
YES
@SG-we1qh 2 жыл бұрын
@@stza16 needing another person to find you attractive to be happy is bad news for both parties.
@stza16 2 жыл бұрын
@@SG-we1qh Staying single your whole life and not taking care of yourself is bad news for everyone.
@guardwinner 3 жыл бұрын
Asking someone if they think their husbands is going to leave them is EXTREMELY RUDE. I don’t think i would even ask someone I’m really close with. I love watching your videos but jeez people people get a grip think before you type
@harshitasingh0506 3 жыл бұрын
I agree! And it’s so sad that she had to make a video about it so that people stop asking this question 😓😓
@jennysmith9501 3 жыл бұрын
I agree
@caitlinthompson7540 3 жыл бұрын
Actually a lot of people asked because of their own battles. I personally asked because I have sabotaged past relationships because of not having the self-esteem and mental strength to get over my insecurities around weight. I wanted to know how a confident woman learns to ignore the inner saboteur and turn things positive. And yes, I'm in counseling. When you're looking for the tools to a better life it's worth asking the hard questions.
@blueberrymuffin85 3 жыл бұрын
I agree with you and I also think that because she is sharing her journey (in her case weigh loss) some people mistake that she is sharing her whole life. And that It's ok to poke their noses on other's lives and It's ok to ask this kind of question and expectat that person must be ok with it because they are sharing a small part of their lives with others. People get brave behind a screen. People get bold because they are not face to face. People get prepotent because they get to know a small part of one's life and think that they have the right to tell what is right or what's not (and only considering that they are right and who don't share the same point of view is wrong - by the way I believe that each person has the right to think different but we should respect each others beliefs). That doesn't mean that this person who is sharing part of their lives doesn't have feelings and/ or doesn't care that they would like to keep some aspects of their lives private. People should respect more and have more empathy. Because it's so easy to point finger and analyse other's lives but many don't want to look into their own.
@harshitasingh0506 3 жыл бұрын
Caitlin Thompson ohh! I get where you are coming from. In that case then her video might have been really helpful for you😊🥰. I really applaud April to make this video without any filters, being brutally honest, and most importantly, without belittling anyone 💜
@jasontiver3302 3 жыл бұрын
This is a topic I look back on and it causes me grief. My wife died after an operation and although weight was not listed as a cause it was listed on the death certificate as being morbidly obese. I loved my wife and the weight she gained during our marriage never affected our marriage. I wish I had made a bigger deal about it because I feel like if I had she would still be here.It could be that we wouldn't be together because she was very sensitive about that subject but at least she still might be here. That's my only issue with weight. It can wreak havoc on one's health. Keep up the good work. Whether you know it or not you are a positive role model.
@jasontiver3302 3 жыл бұрын
@@ampa4989 You over simplify something that is not that simple. You also assume a helluva lot?
@jasontiver3302 3 жыл бұрын
@@ampa4989 You have no way of knowing what a person feels or thinks. You also don't know the circumstance involved. I am replying to your comment you made about my post. So how in the world am I obfuscating? How about instead of making general statements you mind your own business. Because of your rudeness and insensitivity I will be blocking all further post from you.
@karaf5419 3 жыл бұрын
Jason Tiver Ignore the above idiot. Best wishes to you.
@deniellebyrne1926 3 жыл бұрын
I’m so sorry about your loss, grief is hard enough without you blaming yourself🥺
@jasontiver3302 3 жыл бұрын
@@karaf5419 Thank you! I blocked them. It's a damn shame that people can't express what their experience has been without someone idiot adding their negative 2 cents!
@phyllisbrake4026 3 жыл бұрын
I was very uncomfortable with this video. I felt like although you were facing the topic head on, I was intruding on your personal life, your marriage. I am so proud of you for going there fearlessly. You are amazing!
@redriddinhood7416 3 жыл бұрын
Agreed
@bluehalo8604 3 жыл бұрын
My exact sentiments. And, also, she's such a gem. She embodies so many sweet, classic qualities. Who in their right mind would ever?
@joyneville7246 3 жыл бұрын
Agree too!❤
@vikkileigh422 3 жыл бұрын
I agree. Her facial expression seemed so uneasy to me. It made it hard to watch.
@janice51g 3 жыл бұрын
Agree
@dcehills 3 жыл бұрын
People’s personal insecurities coming through! That’s a big personal question. You handled it with grace and dignity. Marriage is WORK! We are all changing physically, emotionally, and mentally. I hope I am not the same person my husband married 20 years ago!
@nancyklingler1335 3 жыл бұрын
I am not the same person my husband marred 30 years ago either, you go through many changes during those years and so do they. I have friends that are so afraid that they are going to be left for getting old and are doing some crazy things to retain youth. We all have insecurities, try not to live your life for them because new ones will pop up when you fix the old ones.
@PuffKitty 3 жыл бұрын
Same here, ladies! The person I was 20 yrs ago was so self-absorbed that I cringe when I think about it! 🤦
@shannonveras1816 3 жыл бұрын
This! Well said!!!!!!
@TheLauren1113 3 жыл бұрын
I agree with you in that we all change over 20 years. I am 42 and not the same person I was 20 years ago. That said a 200 lb weight gain is a big deal-especially when you are still young. I am very happy for April Lauren that her husband is a good guy. She has an amazing personality and is a really great person. But 200 lbs even for an amazing person is a very big deal and can impact physical attraction. I see it as a for sickness and health thing-you don’t want to go through illness with your partner, you don’t want them to gain 200 lbs either. But commitment means you do what you can to work though and with those issues.
@joyneville7246 3 жыл бұрын
Amen sista!👏☺😘I was 300 lbs almost my hubby loved me ive lost 138 lbs now and he still loves me. Thats love through Thick and Thin😘
@dustinpaulson1123 3 жыл бұрын
April, my wife had stayed with me, having married me at 195 and stayed with me when I went up to 287 as of June 1st. We both made our vows, and have stuck with them. We've been on a journey of healthy living since June 1st and as of my last weigh in, I'm down to 249. Long ways to go still, but she's been with me the whole way. My advice to anyone out there: 1. Be the kind of person you want to be married to. 2. Don't rush into marriage. Find the right person. Marriage is hard. That's why people make vows at the beginning of it. Be and find the kind of person that sticks to their vows.
@asavannah7439 3 жыл бұрын
Dustin Paulson Try a WFPB Whole food Plant Based lifestyle, it has changed many peoples life and is delicious. You can start by watching Forks over Knives and What the Health. Those two documentaries have changed how I view food forever
@dustinpaulson1123 3 жыл бұрын
@@asavannah7439 we have a trainer and she has tooled our diet to include the foods we normally eat but with the proper percentages and calories per day. We've been losing an average of 1-3 pounds per week and eat what we want.
@asavannah7439 3 жыл бұрын
@@dustinpaulson1123 Okay. But I would still recommend you to watch those documentaries, they are eye opening
@joyneville7246 3 жыл бұрын
So true! From thick to thin my hubby has stuck by me 17 years! I was almost 300 and now 138 lbs lighter on my health journey he still loves me infact ge sees His wife is 💪😊❤😘stay true to you and you will find the one on the way!❤😘
@rinanova1463 3 жыл бұрын
@@asavannah7439 not to be an asshole, but I think he just posted this to share his story/accomplishments and be relatable not to get recommendations from people. Otherwise he would’ve asked...
@van8369 3 жыл бұрын
I'm so hurt that people would ask you that. I'm married and had a huge weight gain...and loss. I never had those fears and my husband never made me feel less worthy. I've lost weight because of his support, not criticism. Your video is so so kind. Your response is beautiful and thoughtful. If a husband cheats because his spouse has gained, he would have cheated on her anyways....he would have found another reason. Men cheat on thin women everyday.
@maximilian9295 3 жыл бұрын
You're very lucky. Many men are awful. I know many who made a weight limit part of their marriage. Others force their wives to go to the gym. Its embarrassing for many men because their wife is compared to their friends wives. It sounds disgusting i know, but very true
@alicia2931 2 жыл бұрын
This 🙌🏽
@christyb7590 3 жыл бұрын
I had a heart attack . I gained 40 pounds, starting 6 months before my heart attack.... because apparently when your blood has no oxygen, nothing works well. My fiance stayed by my side, as he still does at this moment. He is my best friend, my best supporter, my love.
@summerm.a.9695 3 жыл бұрын
I hope you find better health soon, that sounds so scary, wishing you well
@christyb7590 3 жыл бұрын
@@summerm.a.9695 Thank you Summer! It was scary because the signs I had were nothing that I had ever heard of before. I am doing much better. All is good. I am only 49. I am working out 5 days a week and feel much better!
@st5362 3 жыл бұрын
What you mentioned about lack of oxygen and weight gain makes sense, I have heard that is how iron anemia contributes to weight gain as well especially for women!
@whiskeytangofoxtrot1986 3 жыл бұрын
I had a heart attack on jun 17, widow maker. 33 years old. I’m daily working on my body now.
@quadyboombody4828 3 жыл бұрын
Hubs put up with me asking that question for quite a while and tried to reassure me, reason with me, etc. Finally he got fed up and got real and told me how insulting it was to him that I thought he was so shallow 😖 my insecurity was badly hurting his feelings 😵 poor guy, that's not what I wanted at all. I snapped out of that rut and we found more constructive ways to talk about it together 💖
@andreafleenor8914 3 жыл бұрын
Sister, you’ve covered a topic that is absolutely no one else’s business. This is between you, your husband and the good Lord above. Sending love your way as always!!
@katiexcakes 3 жыл бұрын
I think it's crazy that people actually ask things like that.
@sal10851 3 жыл бұрын
Why? It's a very common insecurity for both men and women. With love and respect also comes honesty. If you really love and respect you're partner you will be honest enough to address a major change in their life. Usually that change will come with emotional baggage whether it's weight loss or weight gain.
@exit_strategy 3 жыл бұрын
As Kimmi Kim mentioned, it could be out of maliciousness or a genuine question someone felt they could safely ask here. Whatever the case, April Lauren handled this SO WELL! It is a common topic. It is good to know I am not alone, I have went through this situation as well!
@intrigue8664 3 жыл бұрын
It's an awkward question to ask. To ask someone to speak on behalf of their partner's decision why they haven't caused devastation in ending the marriage. It causes twisted thinking. At best- a personal conversation is had that's *not your business* It's blunt and tone deaf but could be answered.
@katiejon17 3 жыл бұрын
I think it’s a question many of us have asked and April is putting this journey out there... she is the best person to ask. I don’t think most people would ask if they didn’t trust her. Just my thoughts.
@elizabethd.7662 3 жыл бұрын
I’ve been married 27 years and have gained and lost 50-100 lbs several times . My husband has never been disrespectful or negative. He understands my struggle and was supportive. Your quote is correct about loving your choice. Good luck on your journey.
@KathyM1611 3 жыл бұрын
April, I was taken aback when you said I should ask my husband how he feels about my weight gain. The reason is because I don’t have the strength to hear the answer. I really respect your strength in having this conversation with your husband. God bless you!
@00Temporary00 3 жыл бұрын
“Smooth seas do not make for skillful sailors.” So true in every context. My husband and I have been through some shit together. I asked him recently how he felt about everything we’ve experienced and he told me that he feels closer to me, and even more attracted to me than before. I honestly feared that he held some kind of resentment, so I’m glad I finally just asked. You are absolutely right to say that you just need to have that conversation (regardless of the “issue”). Even if the answer isn’t totally positive, at least you know where you stand. It’s easier to improve something when you know what the issues are.
@reneeo 3 жыл бұрын
I love this - such a truthful comment - and reality of love is that yeah its not perfect and you need to go through tough shit'
@00Temporary00 3 жыл бұрын
meesa magill That’s what I meant by the answer not being positive but still a good thing to have the conversation. But yes, definitely be prepared for that outcome because responding with anger or hurt can slam that door shut and your partner won’t be willing to be truthful in the future. Speaking from experience, and it’s a long road to reopen those pathways.
@kimfike5194 3 жыл бұрын
Honestly, I think you are one of the kindest people I have ever watched. Your spirit is extremely caring and loving and I will continue to pray blessing over your journey. There is much wisdom behind your words and I appreciate your honesty. (I always giggle a bit when you talk about your rambling. Haha. ) I love the quote choose your love...and that marriage is a learned behavior. So. True. Thank you for sharing your journey, you are a blessing.
@joyneville7246 3 жыл бұрын
Exactly! Spoken so well😘 ive lost 138 lbs with my hubby by my side and she is amazingly honest and loving she will be A OK! I want her to FEEL what im starting to feel by heeling inside out!❤❤
@BrianaLynn7 3 жыл бұрын
She is so sweet and kind and it breaks my heart that she has to go through wondering if her husband will leave her bc of a shallow thing like looks. Shes a wonderful, fun, kind, happy person. Good to her dogs, and im sure a wonderful wife.
@sarahdoanpeace3623 3 жыл бұрын
Yes!
@christinebryant3566 3 жыл бұрын
Im so sorry people even dared to ask this...but maybe it”s their own fear. Your quotes are so wonderful and full of wisdom for marriage Thank you for sharing them.
@kelseykelley13 3 жыл бұрын
I'm not married or currently in a relationship and I still watched this whole video! You are so lovely! You would make a great marriage and family therapist btw!
@Aim4aCreativeLife 3 жыл бұрын
So glad you tackled this question because you're right; people do worry about abandonment or rejection if they don't feel assured of unconditional love. You are one of the most lovable personalities on KZfaq IMO, beautiful inside and out, and admirable as you make your way towards your health and family goals.
@RisaBeesa 3 жыл бұрын
I can relate to how uncomfortable this topic is. I have a lot of respect for you and the way you addressed this so boldly yet with grace. You’re such a beautiful person! 💚🐝
@joyneville7246 3 жыл бұрын
#so true😘
@10529Erin 3 жыл бұрын
Growing up my mom told me never to be seen without makeup.and that meant I was supposed to get up early and put on makeup before my husband got up. Then I met my husband and he didn't notice whether I wore makeup or not. He noticed if I got fixed up and would flirt snd put the moves on me but he did that when I wore sweats and one of his shirts, too. Fast forward 27 years and 5 kids later and he still is the same. My mother meant well. She wanted me to have a good marriage. She never had that. But it wasn't about makeup, it was about WHO I married. My husband is faithful and devoted because of his character. All the makeup and botox and starvation and whatever else that so many celebrities have used hasn't stopped their faithless spouses from cheating and leaving them. My husband has loved me through it all including weight going up and now 50 lbs down over the past year and a half. In fact. Our love has grown and gotten deeper.
@Swiss_Girl 3 жыл бұрын
wow😘 so happy for you. my mum always wears make up, as soon as she leaves the door. even if she just goes to the mailbox. that is what she told us (three sisters) too.. we are now 30, 28 and 26 years old and she still tells us, we look better with makeup on. I know, she wants the best for us, but we are all in a longterm relationsship, one even married, and we are happy. but it does bother me, she still tells us this.. just because she has low self-esteem i think.. oh well 🇨🇭
@10529Erin 3 жыл бұрын
@@Swiss_Girl Thank you. I hope your honey tells you the things you dont hear from your mom. ❤
@seanaepley3180 3 жыл бұрын
"You are more than your body".
@stza16 3 жыл бұрын
Nope, it is literally all you are.
@seanaepley3180 3 жыл бұрын
@@stza16 eh, fuck off. Your fingers didn't type that idiotic comment without your dumb-ass brain, we are absolutely more than the physical space we fill. Meet a person with dementia then try to make comments about how we are only a body.
@justsomedude9931 3 жыл бұрын
We must protect April at all costs. Her heart is so pure & she’s so willing to be vulnerable. Blessed be you beautiful soul, you’re absolutely gorgeous on the inside & out. Not everyone has the strength to be so transparent.
@sarahdoanpeace3623 3 жыл бұрын
YES!!!!!
@purplefull1 Жыл бұрын
Exactly!
@Sarah_Lin 3 жыл бұрын
I think this is your best video yet! More videos like this in the future, these are the real issues that people deal with and nobody talks about in an honest way. You are gorgeous inside and out, we all see that and I'm sure your husband knows this better than anybody else.
@joyneville7246 3 жыл бұрын
For sure! ❤
@Jennifer_Lewis_Beach_Living 3 жыл бұрын
This video needs to go viral. This is one of the most honest discussions I’ve seen in a long time, and I’m so glad that you are sharing your experience. These are real feelings that happen when one of the partner’s body shape changes, and you sharing your experience will help others who don’t know how to handle this. So glad I subscribed to you.
@sarahdoanpeace3623 3 жыл бұрын
YES!
@LilMissTravelPants 3 жыл бұрын
When I started dating my partner I was 11 lbs overweight- but when we'd first met before that, I was about 50 lbs overweight. I just thought he was way out of my league, cutest guy I'd ever met, he was a professional athlete previously. I got the courage to make a move after I'd lost the rough 40 lbs- but he told me that he always thought I was beautiful. Meanwhile, other guys kept me as a "friend" and then when I lost the weight, suddenly were upset that I was in a relationship with someone else. Like your partner is gonna love you and think you're beautiful no matter what. People who are after you for superficial value would never make it with you in the long run, because partnerships are picking each other up no matter what life throws at you. To them- he's a winner *now*. My baby is my baby because he felt like he was a winner always.
@sharonreinblatt9790 3 жыл бұрын
If someone leaves you because of your weight, it is just a symptom of other issues in the relationship. There are other, more important issues at work.
@sharonreinblatt9790 3 жыл бұрын
I don’t disagree. I’m saying that the other person has other issues with you which most definitely can be your mental health. It takes two to make a bad relationship outside of abusive or cheating behaviors.
@marliesvrakking2407 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you for your honesty.My first husband left me because I became fat and now 25 years later this makes my realise that I still have a wound to heal in that area .
@GallifreyanOrphan 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you for being so candid about this subject. Since I met my husband 17 years ago, I gained almost 80 lbs, lost 110 lbs, and gained 60 back. I'm working hard right now to overcome my food addictions, and he's been my greatest cheerleader throughout while still telling me every day that I'm beautiful and he loves me. I'm so freakin lucky to have this life partner who encourages me to make healthy decisions while reminding me that I am more than my body.
@josecotto7940 3 жыл бұрын
No jumping around on the video today. I was glued thru the whole vid
@lifeandstuffwendy8878 3 жыл бұрын
This video is so inspirational this happened to me. It destroyed me and and kids 7 years later we are still picking up the pieces. We are a throwaway society. Marriage is not taken seriously anymore. It is a promise you make to someone and your children. People are not furniture that you replace when they go out of style. It’s hard work and love and God will help you through the hard times.💕
@helenmears6178 3 жыл бұрын
My first husband cited my weight gain (28 lbs) in my divorce petition. I was pleased (eventually!!) that he left. I TRULY sympathise with anyone going thru this & I honestly think you're very very wise for one so young. No one is ever perfect but I think you're pretty close whatever your size. Just one step & one day at a time. (I remarried & my hubby loves me whatever)
@toni19292 3 жыл бұрын
You’re such a strong person for turning this into a video and actually answering it with a smile on your face. I plumped you at 216 on a 5’2” frame when I got pregnant with my youngest. My husband was deployed for four months of it and I ate my friggin feelings. I think when you marry the right person you don’t have these kinds of fears. He has always been and continues to be my biggest fan and supporter from my weight loss (I’m down to 158 and still going!) to my jump into nursing school.
@themaggattack 3 жыл бұрын
I just love you. The part about getting counseling and not projecting your own feelings of body shame onto your loved ones- that is SO, SO important. I've been guilty of that, and it's the last thing I want to do, especially to my daughter. Yes, getting into counseling does help us to stay mindful of things like these and deal with them in mentally healthier ways. You also addressed the difference between real love and emotional abuse very well. I also appreciate that you include people who don't share your religious beliefs. You're a real one. Thank you.
@lowrisklindsay 3 жыл бұрын
Your hair is so nice, I have no idea how you got it that long with like, zero split ends or frizz. I’d love to see a hair routine in an upcoming video. Obviously I need to be doing what you’re doing!
@sarahdoanpeace3623 3 жыл бұрын
Yes!
@blessingsoflove 3 жыл бұрын
It takes courage to speak your truth. April, I find you to be a very loving and intelligent person. Yes having God is having a strong foundation in any relationship.... love prevails everything❣ I am grateful for you ❣💞💗💓💕
@xrpdarling5367 3 жыл бұрын
I can't believe someone would ask such a personal question, however you answered very positive and classy. Love your channel!
@thayerwilliams905 3 жыл бұрын
I LOVED this video. Additionally, verything you said about if you are unhappy with your weight or your life and you project it on your spouse you will push them away, was absolutely congruent with my experience with a past relationship. These videos you're making matter so much because all of them are shining light on the dark, difficult pieces everyone goes through at least a few times. And when no one is willing to openly talk about them, we feel like we can't talk about them either, and things stay hidden and dark and damaging. Thank you for doing all these videos.
@josecotto7940 3 жыл бұрын
50k subscribers! Congrats!. I am ultra happy that your energy is spreading thru the world.
@alexuspeavy1440 3 жыл бұрын
Marriage is through the ups & downs. Sometimes that means weight gain or even weight loss. But when someone falls in love with YOU, the initial attraction isn’t the most beautiful thing about you anymore. I think a lot of women have the question “will my boyfriend/husband leave if...” and although I think it’s wrong that people asked you this, this video could help so many women 💕 I have so much respect for you April.
@joyneville7246 3 жыл бұрын
Agree with you 100%☺ my hubby has stuck by my side at almost 300 LBS and now ive lost 138 lbs on my journey he has supported me through it all. As women we deserve to be loved no matter what size we are! Love knows your worth!❤😘
@SF-op5ix 3 жыл бұрын
I loved how you saw past the initial questions to see people who are struggling rn makes me emotional. This video was so powerful. You are a strong and compassionate person 💜
@sallyhudson7196 3 жыл бұрын
I think you tackled this beautifully. With that being said, let’s not gloss over the fact that men do in fact leave their wives due to weight gain. I was very thin when I got married at age 22. I am 56 and definitely not tiny anymore. I know my husband is not happy about it, but it is what it is. I love your positive attitude.
@EFantasic 3 жыл бұрын
April, you are very inspirational and I'm really glad I found your channel. Your relationship with your husband sounds really beautiful.
@angiecolvin3439 3 жыл бұрын
I just love you! I need to lose about 150 to get to my goal, and am 25 down from where I started. You are so inspiring and such an amazing person!
@evilmonkei86 3 жыл бұрын
My husband has seen me within a 100lb spread from my lowest to my heaviest, and all the points in between. He has never commented on my size, and the scale was never a determining factor in his love for me or if was going to stay with me. Your value as a person and what makes you you goes far beyond the number on the scale. If someone leaves you because you gained weight, it is a reflection of them and not you. Beautiful video, April! You handle difficult conversations with such grace and your perspectives on life are so grounded, real, and rational.
@amberandratschke8858 3 жыл бұрын
THIS is why I love your content, you're such a genuinely kind compassionate person. I especially appreciate how respectful you are to us non-religious folk when discussing your belief/faith, just so thoughtful and understanding! Thank you for opening up to us on this topic April :)
@attitudecounts6484 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you for being so vulnerable, real, authentic and loving. You are a good friend to yourself, others, and I consider you a friend because you have enriched my life too. The love you have in your heart speaks loud and clear. To say that you have a heart of gold would be an understatement. Keep up the good work!
@akeena4109 3 жыл бұрын
You did a wonderful job making this video and saying things that needed to be said . You are a inspiration to all of us that watch your videos . Also a side note if the person truly loves someone they will not care the size shape or whatever of the person they will still love them and encourage them to be healthy!!!
@athenatatnell1333 3 жыл бұрын
I feel you so much. I gained a significant amount of weight due to medical issues and my husband loved me regardless, he wasn't attracted the way he used to but he did love me. We went to counselling and things have never been stronger. I've since lost the weight and I can tell now that he has never loved me differently. From thin to fat to thin again. He loves me totally because I was his choice and he is mine.
@AprilLauren 3 жыл бұрын
I love this. Thank you for sharing your experience with me! I am grateful for your comment. ❤️
@maggiem.7262 3 жыл бұрын
I love your message and how you approach the subject, letting us know your reasoning but also that you understand that not everyone watching has the same situation as you. I really appreciate you for being so candid and open and knowing that you're rooting for me just as I am for you. 💜
@bryanna32 3 жыл бұрын
I love that you leave time stamps for us to jump around!
@aimeec5154 3 жыл бұрын
I just wanna thank you for you're positivity you're such and inspiration, love you God bless!
@mireille916 3 жыл бұрын
11:28 NO. it doesn’t need a counselling. If someone is abusing you or treating you badly - LEAVE SIS 👏 immediately. No counselling. Leave.
@denisselopez266 3 жыл бұрын
You should definitely leave, but I think it's important to figure out why you ended up with that person to begin with. We attract the energy we put out, so if you are attracting these type of people maybe counseling isn't a bad idea. 🤷♀️
@caitlinthompson7540 3 жыл бұрын
Divorce is a last, LAST resort for mormons. They fight for their marriages.
@javadivawithdog 3 жыл бұрын
You have such compassion and genuine advice for others in a similar situation. Weight gain is so emotionally complex. Thank you ❤️❤️❤️
@shantas6328 3 жыл бұрын
This is why I LOVE your channel and think you are so awesome. You are honest and real and very insightful. The fact that you even took the time to answer this extremely sensitive and difficult (to me) question with so much grace and humility and honesty speaks VOLUMES about who you are. I agree 100% with EVERYTHING you said and want to say thank you for being so incredibly vulnerable. I commend you and I applaud you. I want to encourage you and tell you I think (not that it matters what I think) you are doing a WONDERFUL job and you are an inspiration and great example in so many ways to many of us. Keep shining beautiful 😊
@NextLevelOnlineCoaching 3 жыл бұрын
This is a real topic. A tough one. Very vulnerable in this one. Much love too you! You spoke some wise words hear. Counseling, loving oneself and choosing the right partner. 🙏🏾
@genie3852 3 жыл бұрын
"Choose your love, love your choice." I sure do miss President Monson and all of his wisdom! 💖 You are such a light to so many of us! Thank you for YOUR wisdom!
@Saviz123 3 жыл бұрын
You’ve been honest and vulnerable on this journey, but this video truly shows your character. It takes an amazing person to even make a video like this. You are so so strong. I hope this gives people inspiration to be open and talk to their spouse about whatever is going on. Most people would want to hide in shame or stay away from social media, including me. It is amazing to me that you’re facing your problems head on with openness and honesty (although I don’t mean to imply your body is a problem) He is very lucky to have you!
@siobhan8977 3 жыл бұрын
I think this is my favorite video of yours so far because you’re speaking so honestly. Not that you haven’t come off that way in earlier videos, but I love your personality so much when you’re just sitting and talking to the camera like we’re your friends. It’s a really nice side of you to see and I respect it so much.
@nikiiijello1217 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you for filming this. It’s such a hard topic because there are so many emotions involved. I would say this is a huge fear for MANY people. I understand what you are saying and appreciate you for saying it the best you can. I hope people listen to this and realize that their worth and value has nothing to do with their weight.
@suzybell 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you for your honesty! This was a really difficult topic but you did it super gracefully.
@michaelrauch8629 3 жыл бұрын
Your positivity and kindness makes me love your channel and you even through this sadder topic...you’ve got a subscriber for life
@sheshelala7754 3 жыл бұрын
I gained 120 pounds after suffering a fall while running. Not only did my husband leave me, but he left me after 23 years because of it and moved in with a woman that is 20 years older than I am. I am focused on my health and you have been a huge inspiration to me. I am down 60 pounds and feel better than I have in a long time. I appreciate your upbeat and encouraging spirit and can’t thank you enough for the motivation you have provided me.
@elijahwallace4649 3 жыл бұрын
I hope one day you look back at your videos and really take them in. A different video you brought up a friend telling you that you don’t see yourself the way others do. I hope on day you see yourself how many of us do- strong, beautiful, kindhearted, determined, loving, humble, smart, creative and so very inspiring. I know your goal is to lose weight and let us follow along but never let people make you feel that weight is the only aspect of your life. You offer the world so much more. Thank you for another wonderful video.
@babyyodachelsea7034 3 жыл бұрын
You couldn’t have said it better!!!
@Mrsh3n1 3 жыл бұрын
April! You slayed this video! Much love! My heart breaks for people that experience any abuse towards them about their weight by their partner! You always have great insight and are inspirational! Im proud of you!
@taylorm8661 3 жыл бұрын
These are hard and emotional questions to answer. I love the quote “choose your love and love your choice.”
@Kelly-tg2lb 3 жыл бұрын
I struggle with this daily! You are so brave April Lauren! Thank you for sharing!
@courtneyd4794 3 жыл бұрын
You're so brave for facing this question head on even though it seems SO rude and intrusive...but I'm willing to bet you have many viewers who are in a similar situation and have this worry themselves. So much love to you, beautiful lady.
@LoseWeightSara 3 жыл бұрын
I appreciate you sharing this. A family member once messaged my husband and said "you need to tell her to push her plate away or you're going to leave her" when I was at my heaviest. I remember how bad it hurt me. My husband assures me (and continues to assure me) that he loves me for me. But it always stings in the back of my mind. I love your mindset, April. You have a great relationship and it's important that you have his support. 💜💜💜
@jenlauren8818 3 жыл бұрын
My husbands mother would say I served too big of portions and she wanted a Petite grand daughter unlike myself. Really use to hurt me deep down.
@LoseWeightSara 3 жыл бұрын
Jen Lauren it's really sad that family can be so hurtful sometimes. I'm sorry that happened to you. 💜
@shelbyzuraitis9924 3 жыл бұрын
I love you so much!! I’ve lost 120lbs in the last year and a half and even though I’m not planning to lose anymore weight you are the brightest part of my day!! I watch you while I work out in the mornings❤️❤️ You’re amazing
@julimcal1 3 жыл бұрын
Your marriage is beautiful and your confidence about it and love for your husband shines through. I admire you two and your openness in discussing this! Xoxo
@SF-op5ix 3 жыл бұрын
April I love hearing you talk about marriage. Commitment to each other and a commitment to God. This video made me feel very hopeful
@brooklynooklyn 3 жыл бұрын
You are always so careful about the way you word things. I can see the wheels turning in your head all the time on how to word things in the most productive way. I appreciate that so much and you’re such an example to me that you can talk about hard topics without offending anyone. If your spouse truly loves you, weight gain alone shouldn’t cause them to leave you. It might be “inconvenient” and they might not be as physically attracted to you, but that’s not necessarily their fault or yours! I think it’s what comes with weight gain that could become a problem. Like depression, or self hatred, or projecting your unhappiness on to them, etc. That’s when you become a different person on the inside than what they married. Anyway, April this was a great video filled with many great incites about marriage even for people who aren’t struggling with weight gain specifically. Thank you so much.
@burnyhigurashi 3 жыл бұрын
"Ask with honesty, not in a needy way". That's so important, and to get that feedback with care and with a place is love (if it's a good, caring, kind feedback)
@rainastor4789 3 жыл бұрын
Omgosh, this was deep, beautiful, strong. Best video of the year. Seriously.
@RandtMurf 3 жыл бұрын
Husbands aren’t always the best “talkers” or communicators. Sounds like yours is. Good for you. :)
@RuledByVenus 3 жыл бұрын
April is very blessed in her relationship for sure.
@jo-annebotha9609 3 жыл бұрын
I was just thinking the same thing. Yiu know this when you feel the discomfort vibes just radiating from your husband when you want to talk to him about difficult subjects. Just remember, as April said, none of us is perfect. You chose him for a reason. Remember that reason. Let him be himself and you be yourself.
@daniakeady2104 3 жыл бұрын
Wow! The fact that you chose to answer this question and spoke about it so gracefully and thoughtfully. There are many people who will benefit from seeing this and hopefully people will stop intruding. I’m so glad you and your husband are so strong together.
@bigchicken5243 3 жыл бұрын
it's great that you answered this question!! cause it's a very common insecurity or thought in the back of the mind ❤️❤️ love your energy
@cynthiaperry9756 2 жыл бұрын
Wow. You are lovely and raw and vulnerable. I connected with you the very first video I saw because your light shines!
@ajjustice699 3 жыл бұрын
Your words touched me even though I am not in this situation. Thank you so much for sharing.
@danaslay6482 3 жыл бұрын
I love your perspective and appreciate you sharing it. I agree that if someone leaves their partner Bec. Their appearance changes that it says more about the person leaving than the person being left.
@foreveryoungerthanu 3 жыл бұрын
You are supported, April! Thank you for your bravery to talk about these hard topics. I am proud of you and your journey.
@Alexra-sd9vv 3 жыл бұрын
Just wanted to thank you for making these videos. You are making a difference in people’s lives.
@amygreen9662 3 жыл бұрын
Yes! Love your perspective. How rude that people would ask about your husband leaving. Like, what? You marry a person, not a body anyway.
@amygreen9662 3 жыл бұрын
@@siemniak These people suck!
@amygreen9662 3 жыл бұрын
@@siemniak Sad. Encourage one another and be there for each other is what's needed. Not leaving because a partner is fat.
@carolw4506 3 жыл бұрын
We all have different levels of fears about all parts of our lives and how relationships might go. Your opening quote is perfect to address this. We all know that there are people who are superficial and cannot stray from their perfect vision of their life or partner or family. We are all imperfect and I personally take heart in that. You are truly wise beyond your years and while you may have struggles, you are in tune girl. You work to be self-aware and that is the beginning of everything. Much love to you ❤️💗💓💞💟
@sarahmahony697 3 жыл бұрын
Bless you, you are such a lovely person, I don’t understand why people have to ask such horrible questions, but you handled yourself so elegantly.
@katiebellejohnson2688 3 жыл бұрын
Beautifully said! My grandmother was a large lady, and I always noticed the way my grandfather looked at her-even as older folks, they were obviously best friends and in love with each other.❤️😘 You earned a ⭐️ today! 🥰
@Lindsay_Lexus 3 жыл бұрын
I love this video, the message is so beautiful. “Love is not lust, lust and love can grow together, but lust without love is nothing worth searching for.” Find that unconditional love in a spouse that will help you gain confidence when you’re at your lowest instead of knocking you down more.
@bemeeklezvelveeta6719 3 жыл бұрын
I have gained 8-9 pant sizes since we got together. I had anorexia and once I recovered, I got a loooot bigger. I thought he would leave me for someone larger when I was skinny, and skinnier when I got larger. But he feels that as long as I'm trying to be healthy, he won't ever be bothered by it and it's beautiful. Love is awesome
@miskay5526 3 жыл бұрын
ur very lucky
@sarahdoanpeace3623 3 жыл бұрын
This is an inexplicably precious video with incredible wisdom. This is for anyone married or in a committed relationship. Vulnerable and graceful, you are gorgeous and amazing! I’m so happy you have your husband and he’s blessed you’re his wife. Yay for counseling, yes!
@Jasmine-ju2yf 2 жыл бұрын
I’m down 80 pounds I used to be 274! You can do it girl we all are here watching you ! You have a whole support group here don’t stop!
@MissMadisonRuby 3 жыл бұрын
That Thomas S Monson quote outted you 😉 I found you a couple days ago and thought I saw the SLC temple 😂😂 🥰 much love from fellow saints in NZ 🇳🇿 Keep going girl! You’re doing so good! It’s a journey with ups and downs for everyone when it comes to health!!! ♥️♥️♥️♥️ You’re so inspirational!
@barbsvangilder8141 3 жыл бұрын
I really admire you, every time I see you working to lose weight, I think "if she can do it, I can do it!" Thanks for being honest and real. I can see your weight loss in your face so much in this video. You can really see more of your beautiful eyes! What a hard topic to cover, but I think you handled it so well. The part about projecting your insecurities really resonated with me, I definitely struggle with that. I also love the people you got all your quotes from ;)
@tomesandtequila 3 жыл бұрын
I can not imagine people asking you this, but you handled it with grace.
@maddiepinkgirl 3 жыл бұрын
I can't tell you how helpful your videos have been, thank you for being so amazing and putting your light out into the world!
@amandapicazo666 3 жыл бұрын
Why would anyone even ask this question?! Even still April you are so positive.
@giinnnaaaak 3 жыл бұрын
Trolls who are not happy with themselves need someone to step on.
@seanaepley3180 3 жыл бұрын
People think that because it's the internet, and she's sharing her journey, that they can say or ask whatever they want. Being anonymous makes people "brave". (Or really cowardly to hide behind a screen and be cruel).
@DarthCaffeinious 3 жыл бұрын
I don't think people were being malicious or cowardly by asking this question. Some relationships have deteriorated over health issues, whether physical or mental, and April did a great job explaining their experience in the matter.
@amandapicazo666 3 жыл бұрын
Whether malicious or not, you don't know her in real life. And really her marriage or her stability in it are none of our business.
@DarthCaffeinious 3 жыл бұрын
@@amandapicazo666 Very true. I'm thankful that she shared though. I hope she didn't feel obligated.
@ukasznowak6381 3 жыл бұрын
First for the first time :) I'm so happy I got this notification, even If I'm relatively fit I'm still trying to regain my old fitness lvl, and you're such an inspiration :) Keep going girl.
@kyocat714 3 жыл бұрын
Communication and honesty is so important. I’ve been with my husband for almost four years, and that has always helped us so much. I grew up with parents who let secrets and doubts burn inside of them forever, ruining their relationship, and I swore I would never do that. Any insecurity I am feeling goes straight into a conversation with him. If I’m unintentionally mean, I look inside myself to find out why, and then go to him to apologize and tell him why. The honesty in this video is beautiful, and you’re beautiful. I appreciate you so much on this platform. 🙂
@ellegeffee9651 3 жыл бұрын
You are an AMAZING human being! Your words are eloquent and spoken directly from your heart! I will close with one more word...WOW!
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