Are your parents’ opinions a deal-breaker in relationships?

Adrienne nailed it. It doesn't matter what the parents say, if the daughter is of age, it's not their life, it's the daughter's.

Parents can be wrong too. You can take what they say into consideration but they're not fortune tellers. Ultimately it's your decision and you take a risk either way.

Cheers to the adults who don't let their parents still make their choices.

Sometimes your family can see something isn’t going to work out and warn you, but an adult should make their own decision and whether they want to take the parents advice or not is up to them and I feel the parents should respect that at the end of the day.

Ryan has so many excellent qualities: she's intelligent, funny, down to earth, and such a great fit in this group. I'd love to see her back as a guest co host ANY DAY! Great convo ladies!

Ryan is actually a perfect addition. I hope they bring her back again. She was hilarious and entertaining to listen to. P.s. I love the little ornaments on her wall I've been meaning to do the same to mine

ok love Ryan on this show, first guest Ive felt fit in so well. I usually dont like guests lol

Naaaah, that’s my decision to make. I would like my boyfriend to talk to my mom just to let her know but It’s my decision and nobody can get in the way of that.

This is the first guest that I actually think fits perfectly. She was great. They should invite her more often. Or add her to the panel

Love Ryan and her self confidence/ honesty when speaking

I think you can listen to their opinions, but at the end of the day, they can't stop you from being with that person if you are an adult. I also think there are certain personalities that clash. It doesn't mean they don't like your partner. There is a difference between them being wrong like abuse and your parents just having slight annoyances with them. I think there are certain parts of everyone's personalities that you don't necessarily like.

When Adrienne cut off Ryan @5:34 I thought she was adding to Ryan's story but she was talking about her own mom. Thankfully Loni noticed @5:53 and directed it back to Ryan lol.

Ryan's mother needs to get over it. my god. 15 years !!!!

My parents have been right about every guy they didn't approve of. At 26, I will now always listen to them on that topic especially. My parents are old enough and smart enough with enough life experience to see through anyone and I'm so grateful for that bc now I'm learning too. 💖

This girl should come around more often, she's great! Does she have her own show? 😂

Ryan Sterling is such a beauty and a great conversationalist. 🥰

My father doesn’t deserve an opinion. I will make that very clear to anyone I date.

“Well idk why you couldn’t have the big tiara...why did you have to have the little one”🤣🤣

I love Ryan and Sterling's story

I wish Ryan was a permanent host on this show. I love her perspective on things.

Once again this is one of those topics where you damned if you do , you damned if you don’t... my life decisions should not be up to my parents if I’m here to love on you and only you your parents should respect... like the old school mentality is cool and all but there are some parents that intentionally push their child’s partner away and that person ends up heartbroken if the child of said parent says no and then if you cut off your parents for doing you then you’re in the wrong... it’s so crazy to me

Adrienne was so on point this episode. Ever segment. She was hitting it on the head. The she was hilarious

Yo I just looove these women so much🥺❤

I’m w/ Adrienne, I’m one of those ppl it wouldn’t matter what my dad say cause I know our views on relationships are completely different. And this was actually a homework assignment for me years ago and it Prove my point 😭😂😂

Great co-host love Ryan’s energy 🥳🥳🥳

the end!! LOL "wheres my tea"???

Love Ryan with all the ladies

I think they should add Ryan to the group permanently. I'm loving her vibe.

In my culture they say what an elderly can see sitting down, children cannot see it even if they are on top of a tree.

How could you not love STERLING K BROWN?!

Let me tell yall something. My dad has the best discernment I've ever met in anybody, and he's fair. He doesn't just outright not like somebody to not like them. Ever. There's always something off about them if he has a feeling about it. If he tells my future fiance "no" that tells me everything I need to know about it.

I had this problem with my mom and i stopped listening to her when was about my relationship because i realised that no matter who i bring home she might never like that person because my values , likes and dislikes are really different than hers. So i told her that, i stopped confesing my problems with her in regards with my relationship and she had nothing else to do than to accept it. But i have a friend who's mother can't stay out of her relationships , always making a fuss out of nothing , always complaining about her boyfriend's apearance (because her bf doesn't look the way her mom wants) and all of this weights a lot on her relationships even to the point that she breaks up with them because she can't take any more bs from her mom... (Mind that she still lives with her mom because she is a student and not financially independent)...

Ryan is an amazing addition, I was laughing the whole time and she brought interesting discussion

Love Ryan's hair 🖤

When it comes to asking for your hand in marriage, if your parents have Real concerns, REAL being the operative word, I believe that at least should result in a conversation so your parents know that you will be alright.

I agree with what Adrienne said. It's your life you're the one sleeping with the person not your parents. BUT I cannot be in a relationship with a man if his family doesn't like me. Maybe because I've never had that problem before, thankfully my in laws are like family to me and every guy I've dated his family loved me, but that's just it if I don't have that kind of relationship with the man's family then I don't want a relationship with him! I'm saying do you want to go to his family house, and they all give you the cold shoulder or the stank eye or worse, not even be invited at all Cuz I sure as hell don't! yeah, it's easy to say idgaf what they say I'm not dating them I'm dating him that's my man this that and a third, but it's going to get to you eventually and there goes your relationship. So, in a way I would have to say, yes if the parents don't approve relationship is over. Unless you have a mom like Ryan who always had high standards then you can ignore lol.

When Ryan said where is my tea and started singing. 😂 I absolutely cannot 😂

You can say no but I'll still do what I feel! I need to learn my lessons on my own and if it works out then I can say I told you so I know my man was right for me 🤣🤣🤣

Omg, I love this group together; Ryan is excellent on this show

This new chick yo! Her shading her parents oh my... totally me to a “t”. I’m giggling over here! Please have her back. Her energy is so refreshing.

I recently asked my dad if he is expecting my future boyfriend to ask for my dad's permission to marry me. My dad said: hell no, that is your life and your decision. I'm not apart of that relationship. I would hope I instilled some wisdom into you of how you can make your own decisions about your life and taught you that you deserve the best. Ideally, he would hope to like the guy im with but its my choice to say yes or no. I LOVE my dad! ❤❤❤

Ryan is so perfect for the real! Loved her!

I did not know she's married to Sterling. He is an amazing actor! I rarely feel that way about an actor or actress but he really can act. He impressed me in This is Us.

My husband asked because it was the right thing to do. My mom would’ve never said no to anyone she knew I loved and was happy with unless she had seen him being abusive or something. Parents need to let their offspring live their own lives

Who would have known Sterling Brown didn't grow up with his father! He is so manly. Ryan's mother never really liked Sterling from the beginning seeing their interview on Black Love.

It's definitely over parents see through people

I agree with A and Ryan!!

Pleaseeeeee addd Ryan to the showwwwww, shes such a great addition loveeee herrr

Ryan is so entertaining.

It is not just about who you should love. It is who you will raise a family with.

It’s a nice gesture but ultimately I’m going to marry the man whether he’s a good guy or not. I might be right about him or might be blind and not see things they see. We just gotta be adults at the end of the day and own up to our decisions ✌🏽.

I LOVE Ryan!

Adrienne is right, if you’re an adult, it’s not their discussion it’s yours

I hope Ryan reads these comments 🥰🥰

Love Ryan! 🥰

Quick story.. I knew this person who did the whole 9. Asked the parents.. Picked a great spot to propose.. And she said NO! All that work down the drain 😐

People keep saying it’s your decision at the end of the day so It doesn’t matter what your parents say. Yes. well obviously....I think it’s more of a old school respect thing like ‘hey I would like your blessing, I would like to marry your daughter... ‘ Like: as in it’s not a necessity. I think it definitely shows that someone took a little more initiative, and tried to do the right traditional thing, esp if the parents are alive, and well. There’s alot of situations where it varies.

Ryan is great

Please add Ryan to the show.

I agree with Adrienne. However, let’s be real. When you bring home a partner or go to their house, you want their family to like you. Even though a lot of people say they don’t care about what other people think of them, in reality, every human cares in a way. I don’t think it should be up to your parents to decide who you should love. But you should definitely listen to their opinion. Sometimes they can end up being right. Personally me, if I go to a guy’s house and their parents don’t like me, I wouldn’t really feel comfortable being around and vice versa. This topic is complicated, but at the end, we all care in a way to be liked and want our partner to be liked as well.

Before my mom died I would have said yes her opinion matters because I would need her and my girl to get along. But now that she is gone and my dad is 71 which makes him old school I actually don't have to worry about that problem worrying about the opinion of parents regarding any future relationship I decide to participate in

I think it depends if your parents have your best interest at heart( because not every parent wants their kids best interest)

It depends on what the parents see that could be a problem, as to why they do not approve. Sterling not asking Ryan's mother for her hand being the reason she is still salty, is just silly. Ryan knows why it did not occur to him to ask, and that is all that matters. But if your parent knows what you want and need in a partner, and sees that that person is lacking and sees that her son/daughter does not look really happy, that is something more serious.

When I was teenage and early 20s I never take my mom words seriously I thought she was being mom and overreacting but actually I was wrong and she was right I never said that to her but I will reconsider my decision.

Currently going through this situation with my girlfriend's parents.We briefly broke up and reconciled come to find out that after a year of dating her they don't "approve of me" 😞 my GF is extremely upset and stressed about it.Feeling torn between the man you love and your parents is not easy for anyone.I don't plan to give up anytime soon ❤ when you know its meant to be there will be people and things trying to keep you apart.God's got us 🙏🏾

Can we keep Ryan please......

Can we keep Ryan???

Adrienne is looking gorgeous***

Adrienne said it all honey

I think that you can listen to there opinion but ultimately it should be your choice of who you date !!!!

I love my family and my mom, but NOPE. Nobody is gonna tell me who to love and what to do with my life except for ME.

I like Ryan 😂😂

Ultimately it is the person’s decision on whether they want to marry the person or not and like Adrienne you’ll be the one in the marriage, not the family. Ideally you want your family to like your SO at the of the day but it doesn’t always work out that way. I just wonder how do you tell an adult that they can’t marry their adult daughter 🤔? Like how does that work fr?

Well, ultimately it's my decision yes. But I will say that when your parents dont aprrove of your relationship it will create friction and uncomfortableness when the family get together.

Hello ladies y’all always looking beautiful ❤️

I’m with Adrienne here.

Hey ladies ❤️❤️❤️

Ade really be preaching

No, some families will always find an issue & are never happy

A lot of parents don't approve of someone's partner, especially in the South-Asian and Asian community, and when there is someone from another ethnicity involved, the matter gets more complicated. @therealdaytime you should invite people from the instagram account 'blindian' they are all about fostering black-asian relationships

If a guy asks his girlfriend's dad for her hand in marriage and her dad says no he should end the relationship and just stay single.

Hm, I feel like this is always going to be a controversial topic no matter what. As parents, they have the right to input their opinion and even go as far as to say that they don't want you dating them. That's their opinion. However, at the end of the day, it's your life & they can't dictate everything that you do or don't do when it comes to who you date. I will never understand arranged marriges or forced marriages because, how is someone (parent or not), going to tell who I'm going to spend the rest of my life with, have kids & tolerate!

how do I have a conversation with my mom about a boy I want to date but that she doesn't approve of

It shouldn’t be.

Yeah if you're grown their opinion shouldn't matter but if they see abuse then that's different

I got a question how do you get comfortable telling your parents personal thing s

I'm not American, I'm South African so yes if my parents don't agree to me marrying this man then I cannot marry him. This is because in my culture it doesn't just stop at asking for my hand in marriage. His parents will ask for my hand on his behalf and once my parents agree then a date is set where my aunts and uncles will negotiate magadi(a bride price, bride wealth or dowry) with his aunts and uncles, our parents will always be present throughout. Once an agreement is reached which can be a mix of live cows and a monetary equivalent to cows e.g 1 cow= $100/ R10000 meaning if 6 cows is the agreed upon amount then $600/ R60000 is the amount of money my family must receive as well as gifts for the whole family, a list is written. A date is the set when he and his family will bring all this to my family. Once that is done then I will be presented to my husband and in-laws. A cow will be slaughtered and the meat cooked. Then it's a celebration, all this happens at my home. This is the day my parents officially release me to my husband and in-laws. We can then proceed to plan and have a what we in South Africa call a white wedding where I will wear a white bridal gown, have bridesmaids and the whole nine yards. Then we sign the marriage papers. Then have another cultural celebration at my husband's home where I will be welcomed into my new family. In my culture as well as many others in South Africa marriage isn't just a joining of 2 people it's a joining of 2 families as well.

If my parents or brothers say no, it is an absolute no for me. Nope!

Adrian makes sense for once

Thank youuuu Ryan. Can we talk about parents like mine who want me to marry within my own race? That ain't my dating history tho....lol. 😒 sterling is rich and famous - her mom can eat dust hahaha. She right some parents have ridiculous expectations. That man paid for himself through Stanford. Tf Matt Damon for lol??

Facts or undeniable facts?...if you're an adult no it's not over. As you make decisions of your own. Parents who want to disapprove of relationships for their children might as well do arrange marriage for their children.

Exact reason my ex and I broke up

Wow that’s nuts …. Sterling is nice

Sorry Garcelle…totally disagree with you. She’s not marrying her father.

In my culture, yes. 😣🇲🇽

nobody knows what best for u its your life you may have a better marriage then them they may want the best for u but they dont know what best for u marry someone for u not anybody else . You're the onw whose going to b in the marriage not them and who knows urs may turn out way better cause broke cycles of peoeple pleasing

What?! Who doesnt like Sterling lol. Im surprised her parents didn't approve of him.

Yes I am post he and Brother s goin service made it difficult for me fronting ones need ok😡😷😱👈🤕🙏

My mums a narcissist so she would never accept anyone i wanted either.