If you could find out how others see you, would you want to know?

I feel uncomfortable with how the ladies dismiss Jennie’ frustrations with her mother. Mama Mai has proven time and time again over the years toxic behaviour that can come from having a daughter. The mother daughter dynamic is one of the most suppressed relationships in society. As someone currently studying phycology and have had a ruff relationship with my own mother, I relate to Jennie’s struggle to get her mother to respect boundaries and understand that YOU ARE AN ADULT. Normalising these traumatic dynamics is the problem. It should not be acceptable to tear down you daughter “to protect them”.

My grandma always tells my cousins and I “Don’t rely on people to help accomplish your dreams because you’ll find yourself waiting on them”

Ladies please Jeannie needs you okay!!!. STOP dismissing her feelings we all saw how mama mia's behavior is on (hello hunny). This lady is 40+ for F**k sake, she definitely knows what she's talking about.

Jeannie’s mother is a toxic and abusive narcissist and what she said in this clip is definitely in line with what she has shared about her mother on her own KZfaq channel. Honestly, nothing makes my blood boil more than people, who have a good and healthy relationship with non-abusive parents, trying to gaslight someone else who is sharing something that bothers them about their toxic relationship with their own respective parent - like Garcelle and Loni did to Jeannie. People really need to learn the art of simply listening without giving their two gaslighting cents and downplaying whatever someone expresses because they themselves have never experienced what is being shared. That’s why it’s so important and crucial to share your vulnerability with people who have the ability for perspective taking, otherwise you will just feel worse and gaslighted - and opening up won’t really have helped you. Why is it so hard for some to understand that there are people in this world that have extremely toxic parents, and instead of minimizing that very fact with phrases like ”well, all mothers do that” and ”but your mother loves you” or ”she just misses you”, ”her girl is spreading her wings”, just accept that reality at face value, and validate people’s expression of their truth. This clip contained too much gaslighting for my taste in the part where Jeannie talked about not wanting to be seen through her mother's eyes. And it also underscores the fact that so many people give advice which is filtered through their own perception and personal life experience, which is very problematic in conversations like the one Jeannie had. I'm sure Loni and Garcelle meant nothing bad, but that doesn't mean that Jeannie might not have felt minimized about what she said.

I understand Jeannie... I think we always hear about “ honor thy mother and thy father “ but I feel like love and respect is something that is earned... a child should respect you not be scared of you... Like I feel like looking at Jeannie’s issues with her mom this is something where she is now becoming her mom and she’s trying to unlearn toxic traits handed down to her to break the generational curse of trauma and hurt within the family so despite her being somewhat mentally done with the bs she’s trying to sow into a relationship she deeply cares about... and she loves her mom and her mom loves her but they just need to work on communication and set boundaries

Choose the energies that surround you wisely...because it will surround you- Jeannie 💘

Someone told me, “slow down.” Then years later, I realized how I was caught up doing so many hours at work and not spending time with the people that matter.

Jeannie, I feel for you. I know what’s like to come from an Asian American household when female are treated differently among male siblings.

I feel you Jeanie it isn’t your fault. Stick to what you know is right for you❤️

I love when Jeanie speaks Vietnamese 💜

Jennie and Garcell suppressing laughter is the funniest thing😁

Oh I can relate to Jeannie’s comment about falling into the trap of unfairly being labeled as a bad daughter

Don't belittle what Jeannie goes through and make excuses for her mom's behavior (if you follow Jeannie you know what I'm a talking about). Listen to her and you are her friend and what she goes through with her mom is not easy and I just looked at her at the end of the clip and could see how she felt dismissed and misunderstood as if she was doing something wrong and Loni excusing her mom's toxic behavior and saying that she is the girl and that's why her mom acts like that omg nooo! So wrong! Just bc she is her mom doesn't mean that she's always right and can't do no wrong, parents make mistakes too, so we shouldn't always excuse their actions towards us and I understand they are humans too but don't desmiss her experience. Love you Jeannie ❤️

My grandma told me two months before she passed away don’t let the world steal your sweetness always be kind

My mom always told me "be financially independent "and it is such great advice!! That sense and feeling of ownership and freedom over that money you worked for is amazing!!

Y’all ladies need to stop gaslighting Jeanie. She knows her relationship with her mother and she knows that her mother doesn’t respect her. Telling her “that’s what parents do” and “ she just misses you”. No. Stop with the BS. No one should take abuse from anybody just because they’re your parent doesn’t make it OK. Take it from someone who has a narcissistic mother.

Choose the energy that surrounds you! I wish someone had told me this when I was younger. I could have made better decisions with ‘friends’

Jeannie, I feel you. I grew up with two older brothers, and the sexism in my house was unbearable.

The song Adrienne was talking about is Jessica Andrew's "who I am"

I would tell my younger self to keep God at the center of my life.

Okay are y'all's Jeannie's friend or mama mai's??? 👀 I'm confused? I'm with you Jeannie 😘 her face at the end said it all!

My grandad’s advice: If you look down and you can’t see your toes (because your belly’s in the way), it’s time to lose weight.

Same advice when I told 21 older women in my family would tell me be careful where you sit your drink and don't pick it back up. Also be careful accepting a drink.

My grandma told me not to sweat the small stuff when it comes to marriage and to pick your battles. Don’t constantly nag. To set your boundaries early on and let them know when they are disrespecting you, but not to nit pick. Oh I be dropping comments and shade when I need to, but if it’s not hurting me, our kids, or our finances, I’m not going to fight over it! If it does anything to impact my life or my kids, oh I’m saying something!! My husband is very respectful so I rarely have anything negative to say

That's Caribbean advice right there Garcelle. My parents say the same thing.

Ooh words from the wise... I think one thing is to take advantage of the years you have while young because you’re an adult longer than you are a child... and to now be 19 and starting to get into the world and deal with the stresses of all the different curveballs life throws at you... it just lets u realize how good u had it at young and appreciate and truly just live in the moment! Life is short enjoy it

Jeannie and Garcelle are giving me New Age Clueless.. i love it.

😅🤣LONIIIIIII!!! (in Tamera's cute voice)

When Adrienne said because u gotta go to the hospital I felt that in my mom’s voice 🤣🤣 so many lectures growing up about always wearing clean underwear and socks with no holes in them Just In Case u end up having to go to the hospital 😄

Adrienne and Jeannie out here speaking a word.

pretty sweet how loni and garcell were trying to get jeannie to see mama mai's perspective. They just want the best for jeannie even if jeannie is correct in the situation

They gave Jeannie the most generic advice. Like do they watch Hello Hunnay???

I can relate to Jeannie’s situation. Yes moms do that but it doesn’t mean they can get away with anything they want .

I'm the only girl with 3 brothers and it's the same! My mom is forever asking me to do things and expects thing of me that she wouldnt ask of my brothers. It gets really frustrating and feels guilty when u have to say no!

*Best advice* That's simple, the advice I was given is the same advice I now give to young people now tha I am older..."Life is shorter than you think it is" Don't assume you can wait until tomorrow to start something. You aren't promised tomorrow. If you don't do it now, 30 years from now you'll be full of regrets. *How people see me?* I'm very self aware, I know how others see me, and both good and bad are accurate.

“That ain’t it !” 😂😂😂 I love Adrienne 😂😂😂😂

ooh I've been keeping up with Jeannie and her mom and I think they had some great points at the end! Hope she gets some clarity on it. MOST and I know not all unfortunately, but I think most moms simply want the best for their kids. Especially the ones they feel closest to, or compare themselves with more, AKA their daughters! Jeannie I think Mamma Mia just sees all the growth and change in your life and although she's happy for you, she simply cares A LOT and wants what is best for you and is probably imposing more than usual amounts of her opinion onto you. Hang in there, she only wants whats best for you! Even if it feels critical, you're allowed to not follow her requests, but try and see the love and not just the fear in her actions. Give her some grace and see her love for you. ❤️❤️❤️ sorry for the novel love U Jeannie!

My sis in law once told me when you get pregnant no matter how itchy your belly is don’t scratch it , And when your babies are done eating don’t eat their leftovers. I’m a Mom of two now with my old shape .

Jeannie was with Mama Mai all the time in her last marriage because her ex was gone alot..now it has changed and Mama Mai doesn't know how to accept that..so she is being mean to get some type of attention

I understand Jeannie but I do agree with Loni and Garcelle. Mom's will be moms and sometimes they do make unrealistic requests.

Am I tripping or does Genie look exactly like Mulan, am I the only one that sees it

Pills Cosby 😂😂😂

My mom said always have clean underwear, when I ask why she'd say what if you faint and strangers need to attend to you and you're dirty 😂😂. I don't know how I developed this but I know nobody told me. I always look for the emergency exit and the building floor plan, I have to see at least 1 fire extinguisher and weirdly enough I always find the cameras

I’m exactly how people see me cause I’m very very intentional about what image or message I send around people. It helps me set boundaries from the get go & then they get pleasantly surprise when they get to know me more & I like that !

ima continue to say this again and again, Mama Mai is toxic and ima need Garcelle & Loni to stop tryna validate or justify her toxicity because shes an older woman and we gotta “respect” our elders. Jeanie has spoke out so many times abt Mama Mai’s behavior n swept it under the rug, that lady is toxic

Adrienne and her tight smiles like 😊🙃🙂

“Why is shy our friend “😂😂😽

Self-awareness or surviving potentially deadly situations are the common advices these ladies received. I like the advice Mama Nilda gave Adrienne regarding Exits. That is pivotal to encountering mass shootings. Jeannie discussed this once about learning wherever her exits were for a quick escape. This is important, especially after we memorialize the deaths of those in the recent mass shooting in Boulder Co. And it is sad to even say "recent" as it is becoming more and more frequent. We recently came from 2 of these in 2019 and a series in 2017. Had Covid not happened, would there have been another in 2020? It is morbid and insensitive to think this. But it is sad to see that our safety is threatened daily. Going back to the topic, great afvice Mama Nilda. Hopefully would save a lot more people to know that.

I know the song Adrienne is talking about. Its a lovely song with a beautiful meaning.

I love that song!

A, I love that song!!🥺❤😭🥰

I'm with u jeannie

My mom told me the same as garcelle. Never pick a drink back up. And I was also told always look for the exit when you first go in

My mom has 3 sons but no daughters and i am going through the same thing right now lol.

I remember this topic with Tisha Campbell and Loni said the same exact thing. Been noticing The Real just been recycle topics weneva they have a new co host.

God bless you all

Yes Garcelle, my mom said the same

I would want to see what my grandma taught of me know and how i am raising her great granddaughter

Loni never fails to make me laugh

Maybe Loni should go along with Jeannie & help them patch things up between them since she claims to be tight with Jeannie's mother.

20 years later, Loni? LOL

Jeannie, Some day you will miss that about your mom remember that. She feels close to you than your brothers, she says what she doesn’t mean and she just don’t want to lose you but she could care less about your brothers if they are not close to her. Someday you WILL Miss that about your mom. Trust me and no matter what you do you can’t dig her up to Boss you around anymore!! That’s how Asian moms are.

Loni 😂😂😂

I do not have anyone specific in mind, but I would love to know how I come across to others in general.

People should treat each other with respect wether you’re the parents or the children, respect go both ways, well if you’re older you should know better, age just a number for me, old and young people can be immature, i only see characters, if you’re related by blood, you just have the upper hand to create bond with family, but if you treat your children or parents like Sh*t, human have a right to cut ties especially the victims in those dynamic, how do you expect someone to respect you when you have been toxic to them their whole life, Parents should not be excused by their toxic behavior to their children, same goes to Older people to young ones, Vice versa

Adrienne bringing back memories of Sue Thomas FBI. I forgot about it.

I would like to see what my daughter sees and I’m a manager so it would be interesting to see how my employees see me !!!!!!

Nice No ita up set? Please ?

i definitely would want to know how others see me

Remember that a Mother only sees her child as her BABY no matter what. When you are a mother yourself, maybe you’ll understand that phrase. Most moms learn to let their kids go as the kids get older but others tend to hold on tighter and that’s Jeannie’s mom. Mostly Asian moms. But the moms that holds You tight are the ones you will miss more than you lose them!!

Wow they were completely dismissive of Jeannie

Wow, they all dropped GEMS.

Lani & Garcelle, stop brushing off Jennie's mom problems, y'all don't know the weight and the impact of those problems. You guys don't know what's it like to have the one person who's supposed to love you the most and be your #1 supporter, be you're harshest critic and feel like disliked by them all the time. its like u have to raise yourself. that's why us girls with mommy issues are the best lol

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Well hope No one at all if theres trouble I midus well egnore. Ones hoopsie Doodle ones so and thats my epsodes with leads on😊😳😝

That is my #1 favorite song. Jessica Andrews Who I am

4:41 MA’AM

Jeannie I agree with Lonnie & the other ladies, that she feel she's losing you. She ur live for Jay

Think of your self Lady Baggs ok old deed to deal with in mid. Sorry Ms!😰😞

I love you girls 💋💋💋

Loni I love you Loni Loni Loni Loni

Power Equal, Allah sees everything. Understanding. Who else? But Now Why? Other than that????

Im not a Drinker just a. Noshon of ones need so drank up No tricken I say its trusting one ok😃😊😄😜

Do you? Can you? Your Dan 5. 49:16-17

Ik this is an old episode but Jeanie Mai is right it’s weird that momma Mai is soo controlling I love both Mais buy Jeanie is is her 40s she’s GROWN her mother shouldn’t be micromanaging her n vice versa it definitely could be a cultural thing but you can tell how bad it effects Jeanie to be grown but still have her mom try to tell her what to do n the for the others ladies not understanding that it’s sad I get they are older than Jeanie but not by far she’s not some kid that needs to suck up to her lol n make her happy mama Mai is responsible for her own family

Why are the ladies so dismissive of Jeannie's feelings?! Mamma Mai wasn't right.

Ok mamie you please quit play n gamie ok can see right throe ok Ms?😊😃😭

I see Loni as a sneaky, non-trustworthy woman. Jeanni materialistic, sneaky. Adrienne very naive. Garcelle simple in her thinking. I think the show could do without Loni she's the worse of the all, Jeanni next.

Idk if it’s just me but it seems that Jeannie has had more BAD THINGS to say about momma Mai than good things 😬. I’ve only been a real fan since 2013 lol and all the real fans know I’m not lying. It’s just weird to do it on National television 🥴

Mama Mai is toxic AF

Why Jeannie talking about her mom like that

Who's the ugliest of them all!