Very true the overwhelming majority of our suffering only happens in our minds where it can last year's, even a lifetime. The physical effect of the Bee sting is a fleeting experience while the memory and emotional effect of the Bee sting can be a life sentence, if decide to bear a grudge against the Bee. It's the story our minds create about the event that so often does far more damage than the actual event itself could ever do. 🙏🙏🙏🙏

HE'S NOT THE FIRST PERSON TO EXPRESS IMPORTANCE OF (** SELF -TALK*)❤❤❤

Pradox is that you want to remember it, its not about remembering, look dirrectly on it, there never happend transformation by remembering something…

Who is Sam Harris?

So it's like being kidnapped by Sam Harris?

grateful to Tolle & so many others for spotlighting this affliction of "the voice(s) in my head". i don't know how many drunk tanks, 5150s, or hospitalizations occur becuz of it, but never once did a doctor, psychiatrist or psychologist suggest that i look in this direction. Edit: addiction to drink & or whatever, when i quit the addiction, the voice in my head if i listened to it would try to steer the conversation in the direction of a drink, the narrative is causing unnecessary burden, if i notice the self talk in the head, something is noticing, anyways, this lesson is a help to me now

I have no idea who Sam Harris is either but the being consumed by our minds self talk in our heads is like having our attention kidnapped or taken over by our minds self talk i guess,, I've heard worse analogies. 🙏🙏🙏🙏

​@@kristapittam7741....there is only replying. If there is such a thing as unconscious and conscious replies....that implies duality and separation which isn't the case.

Right ha ? For me too, he is not so serious because he knows all of these substitutions and self talkings just a huge game , useless game . He knows that and he laughed so much

Yes wise ,who ,said them,

I like this.

What is wrong and what is right?

@@vandadluholucka6427 You have to ask that question to yourself, as each person has a different perception.

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​@@vandadluholucka6427veeery personal..Sad society has assumed it's same...

One could even say that the humor has a certain silent presence to it

It does ! He is the best. ❤

He's a real comedian.

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@@robincrowflies 💜

Do you know the sources of these quotes? Asking bcs some quotes are attributed to some famous thinker but sometimes it's not a true quote.

@@dnhg9730 Hi, they seem to be correct, as far as I know. You can search online for who said these quotes. I wish you the best!

O yes,I think I can , , that's 💝

I believe this is going to be very difficult for the younger generation that has grown in an environment of constant stimulation from social media

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Ive read so many comments and ways of coping but this really sticks out, thank you. Subconsciously i think it’s how i’ve dealt with it in the past. But it’s good to have this as a staple reminder, it’s all just unwarranted noise like when your neighbor plays music.

@@simonsarmiento96 Hi Simon I'm really pleased you found the comment and method helpful mate. We are all stronger together and when we share with each other what has helped us personally 🙏🙏🙏🙏

Beautiful

But how I try to but I have disgust for myself

@@erreur-sk5zx well I see the real you under those thoughts and you are beautiful

@@petra3049 id love to see myself from that pov...

@@erreur-sk5zx The trees will tell you, there can be no green canopy without the deep darkness where the roots dwell. Accept yourself, everything, and know there is no one alive who doesn't also have their dark roots. Let go of shame, and love yourself and this beautiful world. We need your light.

Oh?

True 😊

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Thats good im so affraid of the future because of my mistakes, i ruined my live and lost the love of my life

IME, it's helpful to realize that your conscious state is just 5% of your brain, and _emerges_ from the other 95% unconscious brain. Consider how dreams are (bizarre, irrational, symbolic). Your conscious experience emerges from that murky realm. It also emerges about 1/2-second after the fact. We are in a continuous state of "selfing" (one moment to the next). Those experiences of the moment occur about 1/2-second late. My point being that your conscious mind inflates itself into being the source of all this, making sense of it, rationalizing emergent feelings into the now as if it's due to the now. Often it's not. It's repressed, dis-integrated trauma, anger, shame that "leaks" into our relatively "produced" conscious state. We (as 5% of all this) exist on the other side of that, receiving it, and trying to make it "real." A lot of it isn't real. We should be commended for the effort. It's good natured. But, it's misplaced effort. It takes no effort to recognize "this isn't happening now... I don't need to give space to it within myself. it's just an echo from the past, adding noise to my emerged sense of conscious existence. I can be aware of what is or isn't happening now, and let the noise pass through me. Just because it emerges as real doesn't mean it is." The only thing that's real is this present moment. Everything else is a story we tell ourselves. You're not _consciously_ telling it to yourself. You're just consciously believing it for no reason other than it's emerging along with your conscious experience.

You are making good steps. And that is the most important thing! You are doing great❤

@@markfuller I had a narcissist monster trying to interfere with my family and even though we're out of the situation... the residual anger of "How dare they?" just won't shift. I try to stay present by giving my attention to the task in hand, but the intrusive thoughts always sneak in. Must keeep telling myself it's just ghosts from the past - and that Karma will visit them i.e leave room for God's wrath.

Keep going my friend!

@@andrereloaded1425 _"keep telling myself...that Karma will visit them."_ I don't think that's a good thing to do. It's a passive way of identifying with your anger. They could just as realistically have an awakening and reverse the karma they've incurred. Would you want that for them? Maybe deferring to that thought would be better (more charitable and well-wishing than what sounds like hoping for their suffering). What I'm about to say isn't very popular with people who've had your experience. Often, people who have suffered the most from a narcissist were often attracted to that person in a way others aren't. There was enmeshment, engulfment that they often describe as being "magical" or more than normal. Both parties pushed each other's buttons in a way others don't? Then, it becomes more abusive, more pathologically stuck in the head as a defining experience (again, magic rather than just bad luck). Consuming. Those people often play into that with realization of how bad that other person was, imbuing them with near-supernatural power, evil, etc. The experience justifies it. But, in so doing, they miss a bigger opportunity to assess "how did I get into this? unlike so many others? How did I ignore all the warning signs that would have sent others fleeing?" That's where the real gold is (for moving on, "live & learn"). It's the only thing you have control over: you were part of it to some degree. Anger at the other person could be projection of what you can't see in yourself. That leads nowhere. Nothing I said above may apply. I don't know enough about what happened, the relationship you had. But, I do know that what I said often does apply, and it can be very triggering to consider. It can be met with reflexive defensiveness, more hostility expressed toward the abuser (which is justified, but may lead nowhere). It's worth considering. If there's no "there" there, it doesn't hurt to consider it.

I hope you are writing it all down!

Do it!❤

@@dmcintyre4804 your such good people to respond with kindness and truth

@@robincrowflies your such good people to respond with kindness and truth

@@annstar4306 Thank you. Your kind words brightened my day. 🙏

& we all have this awareness of being within us. my sense is that the difference between a conflicted mind & minds like Tolle (& some others) is that he has learned (thru many lifetimes of suffering?) the vital need to let go of the non-essential mental noise/dross/pollution. once the false has been let go of & not renewed by mental effort, what is left to experience? a freedom that is not only not at war with truth but inseparable from truth and therein lies that peace that passes all understanding. ...but this comment is just another arrangement & reconfiguration of the 26 letters of the english alphabet (plus punctuation). 🙏💜🕯️🌱🐾👣🌿🌎🕊️

Your doing fine, that's exactly the process Eckhart is talking about. We are blessed having such an enlightened person to guide us. 🙏

It's my Mother's voice in my head that I've identified as damaging. Keeps popping up.😂

I feel exactly the same.

if you are using KNOWING, as mental awareness, as the basis for TRUTH, it could be said, "the cart is in front of the horse". if you have known your parents love, or any ones willingness to be compassionate and understanding, you have witnessed a most fundamental experience of stabilizing your sense of self. in being SELF AWARE, to experience from this (compassionate/caring/loving "view" or position, is most fundamental in "knowing who you are". to keep this view unencumbered from pretensive preferences of others or society, is to maintain this experience without bias or prejudice. here, the HEART RULES THE HEAD. from this fundamental understanding or what serves your sense of stability/equilibrium, to do so with another human being is to know friendship, compassion, kindness, love. ( to view nature from this same vantage point is know "the primal vision" or to be in direct relations with, to experience the reality of it, not what you want it to be) . the YIN/YANG notion then, is the experience of dynamic equilibrium as it symbolizes an equilibrium of the forces stabilizing the human experience (which equates to compassion/love in the human experience) you should be able to trust the genuine nature of your own experience, seeing its place ( as compassion ) as part of the stability/equilibrium witnessed in the terrestrial world. ( to "know the words without knowing the music" doesn't make for a good song). to mentally know is fine, to EXPERIENTIALLY KNOW, as to be consistent with what allows you to be genuine/whole, the root of your reality being the root running through all of nature, is to allow for the development of BEING, is to know the creative force of life, to see the place of faith in the human experience, to "KNOW THY SELF". hope this perspective coherently communicated in a way that aids in your understanding of how you are swayed, or entertain self conversations that get in your way, in spite of your interest or sincerity to go beyond your societal context and experiences.

he's so cool, not just adding more information to chew on for the sake of having something to chew, he points out things that we can look to in our own minds & verify for ourselves whether what he's saying is true or not.

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Believe that, but very difficult to do.

@@doryannedemille3961 love and light to you 🦋💜

@@dmcintyre4804 💜🦋

@@ButterflyAwakening Thank you. And back to you. 🙏

yes, i should be taken to the vet on a regular basis.

Yup i laughed as well it caught me off gaurd not gonna lie 😂

Interesting. I have this foot shaking habit when I lay on the couch. I have been wondering if there is any meaning to this, but concluded it was nothing important. Just movement of energy.

You can’t think your way out with another thought, Regards

​@@barryoneill-ec9zzyes you can

I've heard a couple ways of considering this. Apparently, most people when asked "are you the same person you were when 12yo" will say yes. They recognize a part of them that is the same even though they were thinking about other things at 12, hadn't been conditioned and identify with thoughts the way they have over the intervening years. Their story is vastly different now than it was then. Yet, beyond all that, there is some essense of who they are that they recognize as the same person. That would be what to identify with as not being disappeared? Your presence? Another example I heard was to imagine you're zippered into a bag, can't see anything. You would have a very present experience of yourself, without distraction. Then someone pieces a pin hole in that bag, and you can see light. Now you're focused on this light, making sense of it, how it changes, the others who appear to be outside your bag, being more like some of them (less like others), blaming yourself for their reactions (or getting a thrill out of causing reactions). You'd be completely engaged with this miniscule light, and completely lose perception of the rest of yourself in the bag -- the real you. You'd be completely story-driven about that tiny bit of light that makes the bag experience more engaging(?). But, all you would have to do is look away, and suddenly you'd recognize who you are in the bag, the rest of you, the real you without all that "context" with the light. To me, that's similar to the "are you the same person you were when you were 12?" It's a similar experience you can have. You don't disappear when looking away from that source of confabulation. You recognize the you who was always there?

@@markfuller This is great. Thank you for taking the time to share. I will play with this :).

Thank you for watching.

Don't resist, let it come and go

Great commentary..I hope the channel's moderator(s) have some input to address your comments.

Well, you can never get a person that doesn't have at least some glimpse of awareness into any kind of meditation. It simply doesn't work, there has to be some basic level of awareness awakening. Or to be more precise, they can do meditation, but they'll get nothing out of it, they'll only interpret it as some kind of philosophy at best. Awareness can't be forced onto someone, but once it starts developing, the development process can be deepened.

@@fortissimoX I agree with you. I awakened through that guided meditation, but I was deeply searching at the time. I'd already recognized something was wrong, I seemed lose my way, recognized I was getting lost in thought, something was taking over and I was gone without knowing it. I spent a year or more snapping my wrist with a rubberband whenever I noticed it happened. (That doesn't work. But, it kept the point alive long enough for me to find the video, and observe myself more that way.). After some time, I was stunned that I never understood meditation. I always thought of it as some passive, "open yourself to something beyond." Whenever I tried meditation in the past, I would spend all that time thinking about what I'd do when the meditation was over. Or, I'd fall asleep. This one that worked for me is more active, participatory. It was strange how I realized "transcendence" meant transcending *my self,* not some esoteric other-worldly experience (even though that is what it feels like). I think that meditation may have worked for me in the past, before recognizing I had a problem. But, I don't know. Its emphasis on observing the mind might have gotten through to me. But, I know how powerful the mind is when it doesn't want to be observed. It will find endless reasons not to be. There takes some kind of crack, along the lines of "I can't keep telling myself this is ok. It may really be nothing like think it is." Some kind of insight like that. The meditation that worked for me had me looking for it. But, I had to see a need to look first.

For us all 🙏🙏🙏🙏