What i hate the most about being with other people is that it makes me feel fake. Only when i am alone can i be my true self.

Solitude is addictive. Once you learn to enjoy your own company, there is no better thing to achieve peace.

"Better alone rather than badly accompanied."

"I used to think that the worst thing in life was to end up alone. It's not. The worst thing in life is to end up with people who make you feel alone". Quote from Robin Williams.

"Being Alone Is Better than being Ignored"

As someone who enjoys solitude and has tried to be more social, I can say that as soon as you reach a certain level of solitude and peace of mind, you don't want to go back.

I am 60 and finally divorced,kids all gone and totally life by myself. Just love it , I basically spend about 10 hours a week socializing with family and friends over a few beers on the weekends and look forward to going home and being alone with my dog, property and enjoying quiet with a few beers and whatever I want to do or eat !!!

I find people are a perpetual source of pain for me. Solitude is my freedom.

“ Loneliness is the pain of being alone. Solitude is the glory of being alone.” - Paul Tillich

Being alone is not the same thing as being lonely. I have experienced enough drama due to others. I now chose to 'only' associate with others during shared interests

“Social interaction has a price” great talk my friend

I retired and had to pull away from people. Working with them for 45 years was stressful and depressing. When I retired people kept asking me "are you going to volunteer?" "are you going to travel?" I just want to be away from people. That's all. I don't want to be in crowds of tourists and volunteering just means more people without being paid for it.

I love being alone and not having friends. It is just simple, way less BS.

Powerful: "In solitude, we find the strength we thought we needed from others." 🙌🏼

I've been married, divorced, and in multiple long and short-term relationships. Even in the "good" reltionships, there's *ALWAYS* a point where I wish I was alone again. A couple of years ago when I reached 40, I realized solitude is just healthier for me. Being raised an only child kind of set me up for it. When I look at all the drama other people deal with when it comes to relationships, family, and friends, it just reinforces my decision.

currently alone, no gf, no kids, living in a studio, my career is good. Discovered someone I saw as a friend gossips and is critical of me behind my back, I have stopped association. Left a nagging, ungrateful, ill tempered, ill attitude gf. "Better to live on a corner of the roof than share a house with a quarrelsome partner". Working on my spirituality, have become more grateful, simplistic, in touch with nature, exercise daily and have better sleep.

Been a hermit for the last year. I only interact with people every 6-8 weeks, when I go into town for supplies. It’s been a great time.

If you've never been in a relationship you may fall into the trap of romanticing and idealizing it too much. You may even start to fell disgust for your state of single man or woman. Instead, the moment you start to experience what is a relationship "in reality", you discover that there are pros and cons, like almost everything. Expecially if you have suffered because of a toxic partner, you start considering solitude as a peaceful state, rather than lonely situation.

I'm happier when I'm alone. I love solitude. I value inner peace, inner joy, self-reflection, healing, self-love, self-development, self-mastery, self transcendence, freedom. I feel that I don't belong to this world. I'm allergic to humans. And I think most humans don't like me too. But it's ok, I've learned to love and accept myself. This is my last incarnation on Earth. 🙏🧚‍♀💖🍀🌹

I've dealt with people in a business capacity for 25 years now and I can see how shallow, petty, selfish, userous, mean spirited, gossiping, and ungrateful they really are. No good deed goes unpunished in this life. I learned this early on. The only people that are not so horrible are friends I've known for all long time. All I want is to retire and be away from this human garbage that I have to endure to make a living.

honestly; I have come to really enjoy my own company more than the company of others these days

I feel like I have been a loner since birth - it's the place I feel most content, most myself. I think it's an incredible blessing to be comfortable with one's solitude - it frees you from dull obligations and because you don't fear loneliness, you don't get involved in relationships simply for the sake of 'having' someone. Solitude is the ultimate liberation. I can truly say I am never more happy than when I am alone in pure quiet, reading, writing or just thinking. It's bliss.

My social life was rife with betrayal, backstabbing, gossip, lies, cheating, hearsay, arguments, he said she said, fights, users, opportunists, liars and the demoralization of my spirit and mental state.

When we learn to be alone artfully, we no longer use other people as an escape.

You are never completely alone for long. One goes to the grocery store, the gas station, work, gym, etc. I am single and live alone and I love it. I was married before for a little over nine years with no children. That fulfilled any wish I had to want the experience of being married. Now, I enjoy the peaceful life of being single. I play tennis and basketball, so I socialize while playing sports. Life is good; I am happy and at peace.

What a lovely surprise to discover how unlonely being alone can be.

The worst loneliness is being surrounded by people or being with someone you're unable to communicate with. "The best company is that of our own." [OSCAR WILDE] Never felt more lonely than when in the company of others.

There was a time, when I tried so hard to socialise and fit in. But then I realized I have all the treasure within myself. I don't need anybody else to make me complete. I finally was able to find happiness.

If you're a loner, you also have to become self-sufficient and transform from a complainer to somebody that finds solutions. For me, the worst people to be around are the people that constantly complain about the same thing and have no interest in finding a solution, so they constantly turn around in the same circle. The second worst are the people that can't listen and always want to talk about themself.

When I'm alone, I have an honest and loving companion, namely myself. There is no room for arguments, dominance and aggression. Anyone who has experienced this and understood it deeply will find every day a miracle for them.❤

The worst loneliness is when you are surrounded by people.

I love being on my own. No rules.

Being alone is a power that only a few master. I'm not lonely, I find being alone to be enriching. I've been alone 99% of the time for decades and love it. The fact that people need social contacts does not apply, at least in my case.

I find that most people love inviting chaos into their lives that will obviously cause them problems. As I got older, I kept thinking about why I would want to have friends that constantly make dumb decisions and then depend on me to help them out of it while I'm also dealing with my own life. No thanks. I've been "alone" for like 7 years now, and I am afraid to actually make any friends at all because of the multiple times I've had to deal with other people's problems.

My happiest time in my life was during the lockdown of 2020. Peace was awesome.

In many cases people don't want to be alone, they just don't want to be around the people available to them.

For In solitude, we find the strength we thought we needed from others. -my new life motto

One time, I finished my college lectures early, so I decided to spend some time alone. I put my phone on do not disturb and airplane mode, then I went to the bookstore. I did not find the books I wanted, but as usual, I could not leave without buying books. I bought some books, then I went to buy some clothes alone. I felt hungry so I decided to go to the restaurant. I sat in a corner and ate alone. People were staring at me, but I didn't care. After that, I went for a little walk in the public park. I saw a young boy selling chocolate bars. I bought 10 from him, then gave him one of them. Then I watched the sunset while wearing headphones while listening to my favorite songs. Then I went back to the student housing. When I came back, my roommates scolded me and told me where I had been all day. They called me a lot, but I didn't answer their calls. They said they were very worried because I wasn't used to being late for this long. I knew they were lying. They were just curious about me, so I told them that I I didn't have to tell them where I was or what I did, but I just spent some time alone and then I gave them chocolate bars because I'm allergic to chocolate. It was a really wonderful day.

Being alone helps you find a deeper meaning of self. After that, other people's company, and the traditions and trappings accompanying it are extremely shallow. I actually enjoyed my own company while very young. Being around other people always made me tired and constantly finding compromises meant I was never my true self.

Travelling solo and especially to natural parks makes you the rhinoceros in peaceful solitude.

Alone but never lonely. Solitude = stress free living.

It’s just a fact of life that most people aren’t worth knowing or interacting with. People spend most of their lives trying to convince themselves that this is not the case, with varying degrees of success.

I feel more loneliness when I'm socializing with others too long. A short appearance, then back to my peaceful and happy solitary life

The emptiest souls seek to be filled by others.

"When you're alone, do you call it loneliness? Or do you call it freedom?"

This is a really good take on it. I’ve been alone for most of my adult life and mostly by choice. I’m almost 39 and have no kids and have never been married because I never wanted to do that. Being able to do what I want to do my own way is priceless. I love the peace and quiet and living at my own pace.

After a 30-year career, 2 marriages, 4 kids and a lot of travelling around the world, I just love living and being alone, and adore the solitude, in my older age. I just pray my health holds up.

I love being a Lone 🐺 ❤

I'm schizoid and I can't stand being around people. It doesn't give me any pleasure or satisfaction, it's draining, tiring, burdensome. Most of them are loud, needy, insecure, fake, judgemental. I prefer other animals like cats - much more civilized, calm, quiet, self sufficient. There's authenticity and joy in animals, no theatrics, no egos.

"When I'm alone there's never a problem. When I'm with people there's always a problem" Very true comment I read somewhere on KZfaq

I`ve lived most of my life alone. I don`t feel lonely. Solitude is sweet.

Sit in nature and observe it: you will never feel alone

I know this channel serves its purpose and it used to bring me such comfort. But the truth is after 14 years of spending most of my time alone I've come realise the harm it's done to me. People always let you down, but I expect that and still find I have more fun doing pretty much nothing with somebody I like than doing anything at all on my own. A conversation is more fun to me than reading is nowadays. I'd rather talk about music than actually listen to it. Everything from deep conservations to mindless chatter, as long as it flows and there is rhythm, it's just intoixacting to me now.

I thoroughly enjoy being single and don't ever plan on being in a relationship again. I can flirt with whoever I want, meet up with whoever I want, desire whatever & whoever I want, watch as much TV as I want. Do whatever I want all the time. Sleep as I want, wake as I want, eat what I want. Think for myself and have agency over my own life and decisions while planning my future. Looking forward to my future and all the good things to come based around- you guessed it Me! 😂

I enjoy living by myself and with my animals. And at times, I also enjoy connecting with people... what this gives me is the choice to interact when I want to. It's the best of both worlds ❤

I dislike how people frame those who want to be alone, e.g. in relationships, as being selfish or immature. Maybe not total and permanent isolation, but everyone needs some space and alone time for a healthy balance

"When nobody wakes you up in the morning, and when nobody waits for you at night, and when you can do whatever you want. What do you call it, freedom or loneliness?" - Charles Bukowski

If Im around the right people and can fully be myself, I really enjoy my socializing. Ive come to realize being alone is the only thing I can do to fully recharge from socializing and be able to clearly think. Im a singer-songwriter. So having as much alone time as possible is very important to me to focus on my writing, recording, and live performances. Remember people. Being alone doesnt mean you're lonely. I can feel lonely in a crowd of people especially when everyone is on their dumb-phones. Being a musician is the perfect lifestyle for me bc I can be alone in the middle of nowhere working on my music, then when Im performing, I get tons of socializing in whether its through playing in front of people or schmoozing after the performance.

I have realized one thing. It is better to be alone than with bad company. I only have very minute friends and they are scattered around...but we built a strong sense of respect. That is true value in my opinion. Society is just out of control.

The book he's talking about Jean-Jacques Rousseau is "Reveries of the Solitary Walker" (Les Rêveries du promeneur solitaire). It's been published short after he died and it's wonderful. Very short, very easy to read. Rousseau never expected it to be read by someone else so it's very personal. He's talking about his last years, being alone, appreciating the nature and his walks. He said he was hated by all the people of Paris he gave so much love to and he was sad about it. The first page is very powerful and overall, it is very touching. I recommend, 100%. :)

I just don't do drama so being alone makes for a much happier and more peaceful existance 😅

If you want a great relationship with someone else, you have to first have one with yourself. Be happy when you're alone, then find someone who makes your life even better in as many ways as possible.

Never by myself, always with myself.

Having superficial conversations about their own lives over expensive meals was getting old.

I thoroughly enjoy being with people, in a limited capacity. When I attend a social event or gathering, I immerse myself in the experience. I seek out not only those people I know well, but also those I may have only met once before, and I enjoy meeting new people. But if I had to guess the ratio of time with people versus time spent alone where I am most comfortable, I would place it somewhere at 90/10 or 95/5 with the larger number representing time alone. I don't find being with people draining, as I actually feel invigorated to some degree being with other people. What I experience is that I am quickly satiated being with people, and once I leave a social event, I have no desire to socialize again for quite some time. Sort of, "Ok, that was fun! I'm good now."

I live in a 19’ travel trailer and maintain a private primitive campground surrounded by mountains, lakes and bike trails. No one comes here. I spend 4-5 hours walking, running, weeding, and cutting grass every morning; the afternoon running errands; and the evening reading, writing, and listening to violin. There is never a moment where I feel like there’s something else I should be doing, because if it thought I should be doing something I WOULD be doing it. I’ve learned that a thing you enjoy is only stupid or pointless or a waste of time in someone else’s view - not your own. So cut them out of your life and don’t worry about it… 🤘😤🤘

I spent nearly 3 months alone for the most part. My wife was working and in school and I was at home with a broken leg. After watching all of the Netflix and KZfaq videos I could manage, I was more or less left with my own thoughts. It changed me greatly and is actually when I found this channel as well as quite a bit of philosophy in general

I have been following your channel for a while. Your content speak so much to me and to where I am in life and it is unique in how it doesn't try to sell me any idealistic philosophies but rather just share genuine thoughts. From my heart, a deep thank you 🙏

OMG I have been looking for channels like this one for soooo long. I thought I was crazy and weird but now I know I am not alone.

Since I got older I chose to spend my time alone in my spare time and I love it. No fake people, no drama, no backstabbing (only now at work, which is unfortunately unavoidable, as mentioned in the video, it's not the work, it's the co-workers). In my spare time I ONLY meet the ones I care for/or vice versa. I'm so grateful for those few people and my parents 🙏 Time is a valuable curreny. And in my honest opinion we should all try to be alone once in a while, it makes one independent and strenghten us. Thank you dear Einzelgänger 🙏

For me, solitude is a place of harmony that gives me strength to achieve my goals. I work and study and have to deal with various type of people but in the end of the day i can always return to my fortress of solitude. I do socialize with people but on my own terms because my inner thoughts and private life in general belongs only to me and it's my choice whether I deicide to share it or not.

Good morning Handsome Dutchman Your videos are always refreshing and validate my aloneness. After a daily diet of so called Spiritual Awareness teachers here in KZfaqLand who stress LOVING EVERY other Human Being at all times, I come to your videos and get to breath deeply once again. After so much pain at the hands of other ppl it actually goes against my solitary nature to only love and forgive all the time. You help me feel ok again after so many others tend to make me feel guilty for not being a 'People Person'. Thank you for sharing your kind thoughts. ❤ & Peace

I was raised Catholic but lean more towards Buddhism now. I find that being around others always brings out the ego. It's ok because it creates the challenge and opportunity to try to overcome ego. A big part of the challenge is engaging with others without coming across as aloof or cold to those who are still very much engaged in materialism and ego. Also, trying to not get pulled back into that way of thinking. I accept everyone's journeys and paths. It's just easier to explore and find positivity on my own but the challenge of being around others is still necessary.

It's nice to have the independence and freedom of not needing other people to make me happy. Me + Nature in combination is more than enough to be able to do that. Give me a beautiful landscape/sunset over a beautiful person any day of the week. The former doesn't go about judging & controlling you, whereas the latter more often than not does...if not initially, eventually...

The more you're able to be alone, the more at Peace you are with yourself. If you're alone, without distractions, you have to face yourself head-on, no escape, no rescue. Kinda learned that the hard way. Even though, after being better now, a very well-learned treat.

The weird thing is walking in a bustling city with millions of other people almost gives me the same inner peace as walking alone in the woods. However, small towns and villages where everyone knows each other, that's hell for me :D

You describe being alone perfectly, thank you! Peace

Solitude is beautiful, being able to be locked in a room 24/7 with someone who you’ve come to love, is just as beautiful. Friends are rare and sometimes seeking them out only leads to time that could have been better spent elsewhere.

I love being alone and spending my alone-time sufficiently like how it helps me to generally be more positively selective about my companionships.

I've been on both sides: alone and among people yet in loneliness. Both are harsh. The balance you were talking about is exactly what I'm striving for now but it's a tightrope-walking-exercise. Loved your video, it came at exactly the right time.

Too much social interaction with regular people makes me a little stupid too :'(

Much needed video😢

A subscriber of mine recommended me this channel, am currently struggling with 3+ days of my female friend of 12 years showing no activity or online movement, am praying she is just taking a break or something similar. 12 years of talking nearly every single day, gone in an instant, feeling like my world is ending.

I feel this video so strongly! Thank you for making it! A lot of my friends recently think I'm a little crazy because I'm doing a 3 1/2 week journey through Germany in September all by myself. They seem to think I'm depressed or what not but I just really love the idea of being able to go somewhere that I've never been before and do whatever I want whenever I want. Also not to be cliche about it but I find that the more comfortable I am in my own skin, the more comfortable I am around others.

Guys just remember: Whenever you feel lonely, just put your own life into perspective/comparison. I mean you could be blind your whole life so you wish to be able to see. You could be starving somewhere on this planet so you wish to have something to eat. As long as your own fate is better than others, there is no reason to complain. -> Are you more or less healthy? If yes, there you go. That alone is a reason to be perfectly happy, since not everyone is healthy. We can't have everything and a perfect life only exists in fairytales so just focus on the things YOU do have compared to others and value them accordingly.

When I had friends I always seemed to always disappoint them. No matter what I did to be good for them. I always end up disappointing them. I give up. Can't disappoint anyone if I'm alone.

I took this option several years ago and would never go back. My leisure time is all mine and I don’t need to discuss anything. Pure bliss!

Oftentimes, I find myself responsible for other peoples happiness and satisfaction, often leaving my own values behind. This is a sacrifice that everyone who belongs to a group must face. So called loneliness is kinda a blessing.

"For in solitude, we find the strength we thought we needed from others" 12:37 Beautiful and True

You are the few Enzelganger who keeps telling us , we should be satisfied in our alone state. I take inspiration from you as I journey along singly. Please bring out more content on how not to be afraid of taking this path alone.Thanks.

"In solitude we find the strength we thought we needed from others" The entire video was good but that final line was particularly valuable, and precisely the sort of maxim that one of the ancient stoics might have produced. Thank you, Einzelganger.

Waching Einzelgänger videos is the only "social interaction" I truly need.

I'm truly grateful for the timing of this video and the knowledge obtained by just simply listening. Thank you. 🙏❤

It's a mixed bag for me. I've been hurt time & time again by society, so i feel bitter & I've retreated from it. At the same time, I could socialize & take part again but I just don't want to.

Do the best you can. This will ease the time you need to be alone and ease the time you need to be around others.

I went travelling around Australia for several weeks in 2019 completely alone going from place to place, speaking to people here and there wherever I went. LEARN to become your own best friend, and look after yourself as if you were your best friend, and you will learn that you only really need you. Listening to good music on your headphones is nice too :)

Einzelganger's best video. It is wonderful.

I'm a 1 man team. I trust myself.

Extremely true. I’m going through the transfer right now. I just sold my restaurant do to health issues with myself and my brother. Less people. Less problems. Thank you for making this video. I needed to hear this. 🙏

"I find it wholesome to be alone the greater part of the time. To be in company, even with the best, is soon wearisome and dissipating. I love to be alone. I never found the companion that was so companionable as solitude" - HDT