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Do not let your past ruin your life🙏

“In the process of letting go, you will lose many things from the past, but you will find yourself”

I'm 23 and I feel like I'm in one of my lowest points. I have a lot to learn. Thank you for sharing this

Key point of the video from Cole: "IN ORDER TO LET GO AND MOVE ON FROM PAST EXPERIENCES AND PEOPLE, YOU MUST OUTGROW THE VERSION OF YOURSELF THAT WAS PRESENT WHEN THESE PAST EXPERIENCES OR PEOPLE WERE PRESENT IN YOUR LIFE!" much love Cole!💜 Keep walking the path of God :)

“Attachment is the root of all evil & unnecessary suffering.”

Letting go of the grudges are easier than.. letting go of a guilt.. forgiving yourself and letting go of the mistakes you have made. regrets..

Lost a friend who stopped caring about me that I truly cared about and it's been hard but I'm accepting it and moving on with my life.

This man is growing like crazy and deserves every single bit of it.

"It's pretty black & white, you either let go or don't, let go and you will grow internally, don't and you will fall into the distractions of lower vibrations"

“Don’t allow your past or present condition to control you. It’s just a process that you’re going through to get you to the next level.”

You’ve become a pillar of the male empowerment and improvement community. You’re serving a lot of needed information to boys looking for direction. Thanks Cole.

I’m only 25 and I never felt this much pain from a girl literally we planned a future together we did a lot and when it ended badly I was deeply hurt and depressed this video helped a lot I’m still on this journey but this helped thank you man

I love that society is starting to focus more on mental health and it's not coming from the top-down but rather the bottom-up.

There is a lot of "old soul" wisdom to be gained from your videos. I really struggle with letting go of negative experiences or something a toxic person did or said to me, even if it was years ago. Watching several of your videos has been as helpful as a few sessions of good therapy- and for free too. Holding a grudge is like drinking poison and expecting the the person you're holding a grudge against to die.

My man. I have so much trouble letting go of a relationship right now. I have to heal from a shit ton of baggage but don’t have it in me to let go of a relationship. I’m too afraid to lose something precious.

I literally started crying. Thank you for this. The other day, I went for a hike and I started crying uncontrollably. felt utterly and completely worthless. As if I was sinking. It was the most I've ever felt. It stood out a lot. This video gave me that extra push to heal. Also more solutions. Thank you so much.

Great video again Cole!

Pray for me i'm trying to move on from a breakup guys and it has caused me immense suffering i have gone thru alot in the past year or so.

You just helped me more in 11 minutes, than my therapists has in 3.5 years of frequently discussing this topic.

Every single video of this guy is a blessing wtf

I’m still learning to do this. A lot of my anxiety and insecurities come from holding on to my past failures and grudges. The hardest part is realizing that no matter how mad you may be at someone else, they’re not the ones responsible for you staying bitter afterward. Getting over yourself is hard. Great video!

Said it once, I’ll say it again. This man is gonna be great and widely recognized one day.

you're a good man Cole, everyone can learn from this!! much love x

Noting is at a constant, there are things that change, and things that prosper

You're officially my favorite KZfaqr. I find your videos so relatable and I love that you don't try to be or act like someone you aren't. Your editing gets better every single time. Thanks for all your hard work and stay humble!

I had a bad day waking up but I’m watching you’re videos to get a better mindset and move on and be more positive and so far it’s working thanks so much

Needed this today cole. the last 6 months has been a roller coaster but i’m finally shaping my life how i want it to be!

the pain i'm carrying is too much, i'm so desperate to let it go

It’s easier, in my opinion, to move on when other people do you wrong, but what about when you’ve done someone else or yourself wrong and not being able to fully forgive or move on with the emotional damage and the result of the damage..?

I had a bad experience getting bullied at the workplace. Even though it's been a few years, I feel my hair raising every time I recall it. It definitely takes a lot of work and self acceptance to overcome those "samskaras" but it is a challenge worth overcoming.

no one will be with you longer than yourself, everyone and thing will come and go, accept that. Do get to know yourself. Do get to love yourself. Do take care of yourself. Do learn to love yourself. No one will be with you longer than yourself, others may let you down, lie to you, cheat you, use you, disrespect you, attack you. Don't do that to yourself. l love me and want the best for everyone and that starts with yourself loving yourself, best of luck!

I called up my ex today, it went really well. We both don’t want a relationship atm (I need to find myself for a bit) but I told her that I want to start building a connection with her again & she agreed. I also told her that at the end of all of this I want to begin to build back up to a new relationship and she again agreed, she said we gotta take slow steps but she does want to end up with me down the line🤙🏼 no matter what hardships happen during your life time just know that you can learn from those experiences and grow into a newer & better person. Stay active and stay motivated, I love you all. Have a great day and Thankyou for reading this far

Always a great message

The other day I messaged the person who had hurt me and told them that I’m burying the hatchet and that I forgive them and I’ve felt better ever since

It’s so cool how poetry can have multiple meanings. A year ago, this poem referred to my girlfriend breaking up with me, I interpreted it more literally. Now, when I hear every line, all I think about is my opioid addiction and the things that come with it, the line that really got me was “Temptations masquerade themselves as feelings”, felt my heart ache for a second or two. Please never stop uploading

Been in a series of unfortunate events from a big breakup to life problems and yes thank you so much for such a helpful video. It means a lot..

Wow, very well said! Yes, learn to forgive, move on, and let go all the negative energy in life. Learn to love yourself first. Life is so beautiful, so live happily and in a positive way.

Ooops, pierced my soul with this video. It’s exactly what I needed to hear , thank you! 🙏🏾

Sometimes i wonder is cole hasting reading my mind🤔

I love the journaling suggestion. I started getting back into it, but I’ve never thought to throw the negative entries away. I think I keep them to reflect on later when I’m further down along my own personal growth and see how far I’ve come. I’ve mostly been venting about work 😂

The best way to truly forgive someone, in my opinion, is to focus your energy on improving yourself! In that way, you would have no energy to hold grudges!

You telling me shit I don't want to hear, it's what I need though. Appreciate it bro...

I'm 15 and was looking for girlfriend last year. I got rejected blocked and neglected by all if them. I wasn't a simp but I've not that let that stop me from moving onto creating a better me for the future. I sure learned some lessons and have acknowledged it to make sure that I I do not repeat it again.

One of the best skills you can ever learn is forgiveness and letting go of what happens to you in life. Suffering is inevitable, how you react to this suffering makes all the difference. Let it go, today’s a new day. Great video dude, I can see you’ve learned lots. Take care. 👍

Cole, thank you so much for the content. I'm 24 also and I can relate to all your videos. I'm not going to lie it's like we live a similar life with similar problems at the same ages. Thank you for helping me through tough times. You've answered a lot of questions I've had for awhile. Keep it up. You're truly inspiring!

I know this is an older video of yours but I just wanted to comment because this is the first video I’ve seen that doesn’t say you need to get over or release all your pain but it acknowledges that some kinds of pain do in fact stay with you for a long time and that it’s ok if it does. And just accepting that it will can give you the peace you need to move on really struck a cord with me and has helped me see things in a different perspective so thank you so much!

It took me years just to get over my initial friends in college betrayal. Whenever I see them happy on social media, I still feel a slight pain. Also I got an Ad from my college when I watched your video ahahaha.

This dropped at a time when I really needed it

A lot of these 'self-help' videos can come across to me as conceited in delivery, or just not hit home for me effectively. You seem very wise for your age, thank you for sharing your knowledge of the world friend .

Thanks man, been holding that brown stuff for a while, feel much more relieved now 🙏

I hold grudges for everything. From elementary school to now. In late 20s. Against peers, teachers anyone. I thought i will get my revenge somehow. That karma will strike them and i will be able to watch. Only recently i figured it is not how people should act. That i should let go. Maybe not forgive. Definitely not forget. But let go. I dont need it anymore.

Staying off social media helps with this too

Man this was a relief. Thank you so much man. God bless you brother!

Thanks Cole for making this video My dog just died 3 ago and I got the yesterday. I told all the positive thoughts and tried to be happy but I knew I internally I was suffering from so much pain. I couldn't sleep at night, constant thoughts coming to my mind so much pressure it's unbelievable. It was legit like fighting a battle inside me with myself for no reason. If only it wasn't you I wouldn't have learned to let go.

I feel like Cole is helping people who do not want to talk about this with anyone. This is really good. Keep up the videos. He helps people who are young and have these types of problems. Or of any age as well. These videos are gold.

Some of this stuff is so damn hard to let go. I don't know why I get so freakin obsessive about it.

*The most important two days of your life is first when you were born and second when you find out why.* Have an amazing day ladies and gentlemen.

Like you said, people are constantly changing their mind. So even though he doesnt love me any more, it doesnt mean that the fact will last forever. He might change his mind and come back to me some day in the future. I have been thinking in this way all the time, that's why I always be not able to let him go. But instead i always keep the hope that he will come back some day. I know this kind of thought helps nothing for me but put me into more unhealthy life to wait for him. But the uncertain hope is technically true :(

What a beautiful video.

I’m trying to learn to be a better person. I needed to hear this. Thank you. 🙏🏽

Thanks for content. It was calming to listen to this while constantly on the move.

Bro!. You Just Described the Last 5 to 10 Years!!.. Glad to Say I'm in the Moving On Stage!!.. From the Bottom of my Heart, Thank You!!.. Angry Drunk because of All the Grudges I've Held over the Years!!.. Forgiveness is a Must to Move on & Be at Peace Within Yourself!!.. Love Your Videos. ✌️

Weird how this popped up in my feed while I am still struggling to move past my divorce. It's not anger but regret (though we both made mistakes) and sadness over the good times. I'm doing my best and I know Ill be fine, but it is still a struggle. I dont hold a grudge but it is tough to let go and be back on my own.

Been going thru this since start of this year. Friends, family, love, etc. Ok I’m gonna start letting go

Cole Hastings back at it w another vid. 🙏🙏

Powerful stuff Cole. Thank you so much for this. It's made a real impact on me. Keep helping the world because you're making a difference.

Thank you collie , my girlfriend cheated on me and by far I was so much disturbed, I was trying to get over from it getting advises from my friends etc but finally after 2 month , watching this video again ,& I just wanna thank you, forgiving her , letting her go and accepting that every ting in our lifee is gonna change , everything is temporary, and we need to gout grow ourself from our past helped me a lot, thank you Cole, I hope for a better future ,love from India

Needed to hear this. Thank you.

Perfect timing

Your videos make me feel great in this world

I’ve been recently checking out your videos, and I have to say that you’ve got a good, real perspective on self-worth. You’ve been through it, and rather than becoming jaded and bitter, you’ve turned it into a positive and consistently share your journey with the world. Thank you.

My mom committed suicide 2 years ago and unless you went through it, you don't just let it go but just cope.

your editing is so good bro :)

Dam this really hit home for me today. Needed to hear this. Thanks dude!!!

You make such great deep and meaningful videos man! You have gotten a loyal subscriber! Keep making videos true to yourself as well those that will help others in this journey of life.

Because of this video, I am going to finally finish my apology letter to my best friend even though she hates me

Attachment is the root of all suffering

i have watched this video along with other similar to this of yours , it helped to not feel alone , i started going to poetry nights once a month and this video was part om my inspiration for this poem, Thx Cole The Chains of Memory I clung to the memories we shared, As though they were a lifeboat in a storm, I tried to keep them from slipping away, Forgetting that love must be reborn. But the more I held onto the past, The more I lost myself in its chains, My heart grew heavy with the weight of memory, And my soul felt trapped in its refrains. I longed for the person I used to be, The one who saw the world with hope, But the memories of you held me down, And made it hard to find the strength to cope. I loved you once, with all my heart, And perhaps a part of me always will, But I can't hold onto a love that's gone, And I can't pretend that time stood still. It's time to let go of the chains of memory, And to find the courage to move on, To embrace the present with open arms, And to greet each new day with a fresh dawn. I'll always cherish the moments we shared, And the love that once bloomed between us, But I won't let it hold me back any longer, For my heart deserves to be free and joyous. So I'll bid farewell to what once was, And turn my eyes to the horizon, For there are new memories waiting to be made, And a life to be lived with passion.

I heard that maturity is letting things go; the ability to make sacrifices. Do I believe it? Yes, I do.

I'm still hurting while it seems she moved on so fast.

forgiving yourself for things youve done? doable. forgiving yourself for things you haven’t done? impossible

Easier said than done but communicating with the universe makes it a lot easier to heal through time.

@3:36 I realized this truth. Coupled with people being inconsistent constantly, the person/people that betrayed you were not that person at some point. That does not mean you need to 'save them' and find that person that fits your imagine. It means that you accept reality and you use the pain as the reason why you wont inflict that pain on yourself.

"i want them to see it ruin me, the grudge they unknowingly instilled raising me" is a thought i've had before and quite often. quite destructive ik and i have grown since. atm the moment im just improving what i need to improve but this is more than just something i let go. it is a barbed wire interwoven with my cardic muscles. At least that's what i feels like, because at times i'm okay, and at others i could strangle a puppy. Whoever is responsible will not be around me at a time to come. That is what will keep me growing. wonderful video

How can I like this 1,000,000,000,000 times!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!???????????? Everyone suffering over a broken or lost relationship of ANY type needs this video PERIOD! Thanks Cole! You’re a real one! 💯

Thank you man for this I gotta get to work on myself all this anger inside me is holding me back need to outgrow this and move on

*Be Strong For You* 😁i love u man life is good keep smiling ✌ best love and regards love from Kingdom of saudi arabia😍😎 💖💛💚🇸🇦

I can’t. I love this person.

How can you forgive what you cannot forget. And why is it I who has to forgive them when it is them who wronged me. The more I analyze why they did what they did the more it pisses me off. The more you understand the less you forgive. I'm just living life as best as I could using that anger and hatred to propel me forward in life. Success is the best revenge. I just can't let go.

9:30 this is what bothers me the most about traumatic events and people doing you dirty. You will ALWAYS remember it, it sucks when this person has any power over your emotions even years and years later. It’s something you’ll always have buried at the back of your mind and will come up time to time. Thats why im so much more careful now who i let into my life.

It is only now that I have experienced a proper break up that I realise how complex our emotions are and how people can change suddenly. The hardest part is outgrowing that person and leaving behind things you held so dearly. Thanks for helping me with that.

Powerful vid, I'm only halfway through the vid lol. I'm gonna take notes, thanks Cole!

i immediately knew the names and journaled it all and threw it away and trust me that breath of relief feels peaceful thank you Cole i started journaling and it's been my biggest change in a very positive way

Treu Story... After I watched this video, I messaged the girl after 4 Years and we met. I deleted all negativ thoughts and I felt really powerfull! There is no hate anymore in me... Time to grow up! Thank you so much

Narcissists in particular can be very hard to forgive, because it's basically impossible for you as a person to make them understand how they have disrespected/manipulated or treated you poorly. But I still think that what you're saying is right, if you can forgive them in your mind (not by accepting and giving in to the idea of what they did to you was right of course), but to just treat them as any other person. And moving on. Then you will be happier in life, knowing that whatever they have done or will do to you, they don't have the right to take away your positivity or self-confidence. Just kill 'em with kindness and never let them hurt you again. If they're just there to hurt you, then don't let them, instead learn from them and become a better person than they'll ever be. The reason why I bring narcissists into this, is because my dad (to this day) is still a narcissist. And this video made me think about how many times, (the fact that my dad is how he is) is something that has made me think very negatively and I've found it very hard to forgive him. But at a certain point, if you have narcissistic parent/friend, you will learn that they don't got shit on you. If you can just learn to be yourself, and have a positive mindset, it can do so much for you, and when you also learn to not take more shit from them, they will eventually give up. And they will most likely go into a big tantrum, when they know they can't control you. But know that, that's both good for you and for them. You will feel much better, and they will eventually understand (maybe just a tiny bit better) that they can't keep living the way they do, which eventually will lead to them finding better ways to achieve happiness, by no longer thriving in doing evil deeds to other people.

Great video. Just got betrayed by a friend I thought was like a brother. Knew him 20 years. Did everything, went everywhere and spent so much time together. I will never trust a person again. Lesson well-learned. I would say not to ever trust anyone 100%. People will do what you least expect. Don't give them the chance to fvk you over!!

Your channel is the best. Ive been learning to let go of alot for the past 2 years

Wow! And I mean really wow. Your statement that you need to change the type of person you were when you were hurt by them, that is truly important and I think it will make it so that I can forgive the person who hurt me. Also, your statement that they may have changed their attitude about me, that makes wonderful sense and it makes it very easy for me to let go of this problem for now. I think that it will make it so I can let go for good. I’ve tried the journaling lesson on the two biggest problems I have, and I really feel good; I’ll see if it stays that way. Cole, all of your videos so far have been wonderful! I am really impressed.

Thank you Cole, I really needed to hear this ❤