How to Deal With Narcissism in a Relationship - Jeff Pincus & Rachel Cahn

How to Deal With Narcissism in a Relationship - Jeff Pincus & Rachel Cahn - Smart Couple 112

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How to Deal With Narcissism in a Relationship - Jeff Pincus & Rachel Cahn - Smart Couple 112
Are you dealing with narcissism in your relationship? How do you really know? What are the signs and more importantly, what's going on with you that has you with someone you are labeling as "narcissistic?" In this episode I dive into these questions and more with my friends Jeff and Rachel, both very skilled psychotherapists who understand narcissism and how it can impact your relationship.
SHOWNOTES
How narcissists relate to their sense of ‘self’ differently [13:00] Understanding how people get their narcissistic supply [17:00] The need for an idealized self-image [20:00] How narcissists counter-intuitively depend on everyone else [23:00] Getting their world [29:00] How to get through to a narcissist [32:00] What happens when partners complain from a place of helplessness [41:00] Being willing to lose a bad relationship [43:00]

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@l.d.a.2987 5 жыл бұрын

Thank you for giving me the courage to refrain from giving up on having a growth centered marriage. I was about to give up on men in general, but I love my husband and three sons. I feel inspired from watching your channel! Again, THANK YOU! YOU ROCK!!!!

@katrinaedwards9843 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you! Very helpful. Learning so much.

@dianeclayton4936 4 жыл бұрын

How do you know when to quit? Long before you end up completely insane and with no sense of myself. During my 8 year relationship I lost a sister, my dad, best friend, favorite uncle. I had moved (the narcs insistance) 500 miles from family, divorced from a 27 year marriage just before the relationship so my sense of self was already being challenged...he knew I was going to default to his wants and needs. So damn glad I'm out of it...3 years to get same again, properly grieve my losses (narcs dont want you to be sad ...devalue) get past self medicating, financial ruin. Wow I was so nieve and had no knowledge of dating, psych issues etc. These days I have grown leaps and bounds and fallen in love with myself. 💕

@JaysonGaddis 3 жыл бұрын

Thanks for commenting!

@deeluri29 6 жыл бұрын

I just found your channel. I found this really helpful. I would be really interested in hearing about love addiction and love avoidance. I have read a few books on this topic but there is not a lot out there about this relationship dynamic (more on narcissism). The avoidant person seems to have more narcissistic traits but is not a narcissist and the love addict, codependent. Unfortunately in my situation the marriage is ending. I have been on a self discovery journey since last year but I think it was too late and too much happened. Anyway I have learned to look within and address my issues and trauma but I still want to understand this dynamic.

@95turbogirl1980 Жыл бұрын

I need the podcast on Amazon music or audible I don't use iTunes lol

@JaysonGaddis Жыл бұрын

Do you have spotify? You can find the podcast on spotify. The Relationship School Podcast

@Gwen13061 7 жыл бұрын

Rachel says the spouse of a narcissistic partner needs to find something empowering like a hobby. That is not an answer. That's like a therapist telling a couple to have a date night. It doesn't address the problem

@JaysonGaddis 7 жыл бұрын

it's a start tho

@JoshPennCPTSD 6 жыл бұрын

Gwen13061 the need to find a new partner