What if the person is TOO emotionally available? How do you get them to dial it back?

No, this is a Normal relationship. NORMAL. using mutual phones is important in a family for so many reasons

Oh my goodness I’m dealing with this issue the supervisor I’m trying to get the union on always does intimidation tactics and retaliation because I wrote her up already and she refuses to leave me alone

i was so secure before i entered a relationship with this type of person. they were the one who pursued me, and now i have self-doubt and feel myself chasing them for any sign of affection. it makes me feel crazy, as if i had only imagined them wanting me and now i’m actually the one feeling like i’m intruding upon their life with my emotional needs 😅

I'm baffled that your content doesn't already have millions of followers. It's so clean, insightful, and executable, that it really shouldn't even be free. Thx so much!

I definitely feel the pain How do I let it go ????

Thanks Jason. Sounds like pure gold!!

Agreed. Absolutely. Good reminder.

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Thank you 🙏

This guy's 150lbs and calling other men a man-child

GREAT POST & TOPIC !!😮😲 I EXPERIENced both unhealthy & healthy Safe from partners !!!

Maybe for " commited types too !!

BOTH SHOULD / COULD be mashed into one !! 🤔 ❤😊

"The bubble boy!" 😅😂 EPic!! 🎉🎉

My ex broke up with me and just after 1month he was sleeping with someone else is it infatuation. He said things like she take care of me alot and now I love her She understands me and we think in a same way

Sorry but definitely disagree these two have ‘nothing wrong with them’. False. Both are a trauma response and both are highly toxic if left unchecked. Secondly ‘nothing can be done about it’?!? Ah, no. Trauma can be healed. And therefore it’s possible to become secure. Thirdly, ‘it’s a really dumb idea to break up with someone based on attachment wounds’?!?! Um, there are plenty of good reasons to leave a relationship dynamic like this, especially if extremely polarised toxic and abusive. Just wow.

Thank you jason, i recently was playing to not lose and when i did i lost everything. Never again.

Play to win of course. Don't wait until you need to be strident about asserting yourself. Confidence.

Man this was such a, validating video! Seriously. I was starting to feel crazy for getting upset my husband kept telling how to fix myself. And he never just listened to me.but i was starting to feel like ur was me, and just stopped talking to him because he mostly tells me it my fault, and i need to fix myself. It really hurts when he says that to me. I've tried to explain to him a few different times and a few different ways, how that hurts me and he just doesn't get it

Mine is incredibly passive and has no desire to be masculine or assertive. He brags to everyone that he is a lesbian trapped in a man's body. He wants me to plan everything, and then tell him what we're doing.

Talked about apologizing but what if my wife demands apology for everything. Meaning if I don't approve what she is doing that's way out of line she wants a apology. She will only give me a apology if she talks nasty to me/ screams at me. She expects a apology if I express an opinion that she disagrees with.

In marriage, 2 become 1. There is no such thing as “privacy” when you’re married. Couples should definitely be able to look through each other’s phones, computers, whatever.

Thank you

Recently went through a breakup where snooping was sort of what led to it. We had an open phone policy so long as we asked each other. It wasnt a common thing by any means, happened twice total from both of our ends throughout a 2 year relationship. Anyway, i went through her phone without asking her, didnt really find anything. I took accountability and apologized, gave her the option to change her password whatever was needed and it seemed fine. Thought i went about it well. Would you consider doing it without your partners knowledge a breach in trust? I know everyones imperfect, makes mistakes, shes looked through mine without my knowledge before as well and i more so came about it in an empathetic way. Asking why she felt she couldnt ask me etc. Whereas she was much more hurt and defensive. I personally wouldnt end a long term relationship over something like snooping, especially if they were anxious. Just was curious of your thoughts on it

Did this, he changed subject. No emo talk for him. I just should be ok with him conviding in other woman, taking them to diner, letting them into his home , where i'm not welcome or just ignored . I ask too much :Respect, consideration, communication , involvement and transparency.. every moment we get a chance to talk( on his time) it has to be shallow and i'll get vague mysterious answers about a simple question: ' how was your day?'... I get he feels overwelmed sometimes but how can you stay sane when deep conversations don't happen or you get stonewalled everytime you try?( but you see him having these conversations with other woman) How?

I am at 52:00 into the video and I rarely feel understood by anyone, as a schizoid, but this woman is amazing.

47:43 I learned something.

40:47 ❤❤❤❤

I just got beaten up by my husband because I caught him with 8 different fake accounts. I’m leaving him for sure but something doesn’t feel right as we have a baby. Its hard

Mr Gaddis how would a man feel if his wife watched porn Than he would know how his wife feels

probably just me but when i get into a relationship i dont want to get married theres nothign wrong with that and idk why yall frown upon it

Wow, im just speechless 😮 I'm experiencing that with my husband. Only, that's been really tough. I hope my husband and I will get to the point, where we can appreciate each other more and enjoy being together. I'm very happy about the learning process though. I guess for some things to change, it involves time and also pain...

Great video as usual. I'm on my third listen and reading of your audiobook getting to zero, which I suggested to my wife and she loved it as well. Magical ✨️, if both are willing to put the work . Thank you for the great work you do

It seems to be that there is at times an expectations mismatch, wherein one person wants literally to voice complaint, and expects another to serve as a note or less passive sounding board. Tbe expectation sometimes includes an expectation on the complainers part that they have the *right " of expectation of a particular listener to provide this more or less passive service. There can be hidden disagreement in expectations of what is required of the listener. What's more, there can be hidd n disagreement on what the complainer *ought properly" to expect from the listener. The expectation that one's spouse (as opposed to ones friends) ought to play the role of such a listener is widely held, but of questionable warrant.

I understand the verb 'to validate" to mean either (i) to make something that was not valid to become valid, or (ii) to declare something of uncertain validity to be valid. Are you using the verb 'to validate" in this sense or another? I ask because it seems that this meaning of the verb does not quite fit how it is often used in councilling, and that perhaps it is used as a term of art that I do t understand. In particular, I find it used to refer to feelings *as if* it makes sense at all to common nquirw you into whether a feeling is valid or not -- for I don't know in what meaningful sense we can correctly speak of a feeling :lacking validity'. I am slow man. Please help.

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My mother was suffering from bipolar disorder. She was never emotionally available. I could see her misery, but I always feared her running away. Dad was an arrogant wimpy bas tard. When I got ghosted a month back by my lady crush. All my pain came out. I was emotionally overwhelmed. I just couldn't control myself from being miserable. But, thank God the past wound helped me realise this. Your video was an eye opener

One thing a lot of men these days don't realise, women are naturally emotional beings. They need that big, strong, leader of a man who will sit there with open arms and listen, giving her his full attention with no judgements or solutions (unless she asks for it), this is a woman's way of letting it out. It's nature.

It is difficult I am a woman sorry for men

Damn, another great short Jayson! I can’t agree enough. This spiritual journey doesn’t always show me how wonderful of a guy I am…But it does show me how wonderful of a guy I can become 🙏🏻

Curious how many men agree with these items and how many woman agree!! Lol cause what I heard is every person in this world is fully whole when we meet each other, no need for growth or change, because realistically we are all completely mature, mentally developed, and no one has to work on themselves once they reach their 30’s, 40’s and older. Have friends that you can “vent” to so your person does not have to hear it. If you have some issues with your person, don’t go to them, tell someone else who can help you, side with you or tell you you’re wrong. Because what benefit would it have to talk to the person you are venting about? Another reason you must have approx 5 close friends , be proactive, don’t invest all your attention, energy or time only with your person. Protect yourself, don’t give too much, keep your distance emotionally, invest that emotion in your friends, so if your person is killed, it won’t hurt that much and you will be able to brush it off and get on with what’s important YOUR LIFE on Unless your person is lazy and seems depressed or unmotivated, do not discuss massive changes in their appearance, just love them, and know they are happy. It’s just human nature if a couple is attracted to another person. Attraction is unavoidable and all about looks, so don’t be upset if your person can’t help but notice an attractive person, it’s not disrespectful and you are attractive too but I see you everyday, they only have a moment to appreciate this persons attractiveness. Create an agreement that neither person will continue to reach out to exes, flirt with other people, because how else will they only desire their person naturally. Love yourself so the other person can go out without you, talk to other woman because my 5 guy friend I vent to is not enough for anyone. Plus, women always want to be buddies and hang out with men they are not attractive to. How’d I do? Did I comprehend everything accurately? Did I miss anything?!

I’ve seen marriages were couples are always together. They go out together. They play golf together. They go to the lake together. They have a good time together and genuinely enjoy each other‘s company and I’ve seen marriages where the couple is always for the most part doing their own thing, living their own life, and there’s a huge difference in the connection between those two different relationship styles. In my experience and observation almost all the couples in the first relationship style stay together. The second example 98% of the time split for whatever reason. it is impossible for a Connection to thrive or deepen when each persons energy is going out in a million directions and you can actually know which couple is example one and which is example two just by looking at their interactions with each other. One is more affectionate, caring and the other does less touching, eye gazing…more of a friendship relationship, sitting apart from each other interacting more with others than they do with each other, etc. curious if my observations are accurate.

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Better the second time. You might time your acknowledgments to her pauses because you were still talking over her some.

Understand: these emotionally unavailable men are so-so FUCKING ORDINARY and boring and exhausting and poisonous and really-truly-honestly completely and totally UNDERWHELMING! Take a step back and realize it’s YOU who makes them so special, (in your own delusional mind!) Giving the same energy that you're getting is key and if you don't like that energy then move on. It can be hard but that's when you need to choose yourself (over the damn illusion/fantasy.) A man who loves a woman will not ignore her, ever, period. So... If he ignores me I will step back and he will lose me. Simple. Simple. Non-dramatic and completely uncomplicated. I don’t, under any circumstance: play these childish-abusive-controlling mind games. I will only be with a man who values and appreciates me, and treats me as the Queen, I AM. (Daughter of the Most Hight; King of kings!) Because I am a beautiful and kind and divine and sexy and wise and intelligent and magical woman: who knows my worth. Period.

Gaslighting also can be more subtle; for instance, contradictory statements at different tmes and contexts as the gaslighter covers all bases to avoid the discomfort of responsibility for their part in potential or anticipated conflict

Yes, but look how compatible these two people are. Their energy is resonant, they are natural with each other. This is a prerequisite. The relationship goals are the next step, but you cannot base a future only on how willing you are to be committed. It’s not about interests, it’s about energy, conversation style, attraction, and even sexual chemistry. Am I wrong?

That's extremely reassuring for me. I'm getting through a lot right now, so I'll keep going and I hope I'll get stronger at the end. No matter what❤