Why I'm Not Shutting Up About Chaim Walder

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2 жыл бұрын

I hate controversy, and some very upset people are demanding I take down my Chaim Walder posts. But I WILL NOT because of something I experienced Purim a decade ago.

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@jamesault7832 2 жыл бұрын

Shalom, Shalom, Shalom. Thank you for your pouring out your heart and soul!

@TheNechamak 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you! I really can't take the people who are sympathetic to him. We should not be silent

@shoshanalevy7561 2 жыл бұрын

Continue to speak your truth , dear holy sister, may Hashem send nechama and refuah to all...

@chanarosenbloom9072 2 жыл бұрын

אמן!

@ruchiecohen9037 2 жыл бұрын

you are so honest and inspiring. thank your for sharing of yourself!!

@kng3785 2 жыл бұрын

Bless you sister! We need more mothers and sisters crying out NOOO! from the bottom of our souls. You are doing G-ds good work🙏🏼💖 May you and your family be protected for generations to come

@avivasaltman9816 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you so MUCH for voicing your thoughts and feelings. Let the voices of the victims be heard also. Great mushel with Megillah reading and stamping out Haman, molesters, Chaim Walder let’s make difference and stop this from happening!

@mordybarnett5043 2 жыл бұрын

Wow thank you for this. It’s nice to know that we’re all in this together.

@Raminakai 2 жыл бұрын

No! We will not be silent in the face of evil. This is called courage!!!! Thank- you! 🙏🙌

@BlessedFloridaMom 2 жыл бұрын

Noooooo!!!! We are NOT going to let the disease fester and grow! Totally agree! The Lord Bless You and Keep You!

@salmahmohamed6048 2 жыл бұрын

Evil such as this has no place in the way of life God wants for us. It doesn't matter if the perpetrator is a Rabbi, a Sheikh, a Priest or Politician - they all must be brought to account for their evil. I do not have children but I can only imagine the grief those families must have gone through when they found out what has been happening to their children. May God Bless the children and their families with Grace, Consolation and Strength. Aminnn..

@sonofblessed 2 жыл бұрын

This is a very astute observation.

@semistox 2 жыл бұрын

Chana - you are amazing!

@yaffajm 2 жыл бұрын

GOD BLESS YOU

@chanadavid7692 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you Chana!!!

@tehilarosenbaum2299 2 жыл бұрын

צדיקה אמיתית! השם ישמור עליך ויחזק את ידייך בכל דבר ועניין, אמן.

@fabules100 2 жыл бұрын

מדהימה. כל כך חשוב.. תודה על זה!

@tiredjew1348 2 жыл бұрын

Spot on with your Purim analogy! I was just arguing this point with my colleagues that when we hear incidents such as these, there should be no intellectual weighing of guilt or innocence. Our psyche should be so abhorred by these things that our gut reaction should only be one thing: BLOOD! Anything less than that is a sign that it doesn't disgust you enough and that your gut reaction is not to just want to take such animals and punish them.

@gilahevers 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you Channa, you Noooo is clear and poweful! Thank you for speaking up. Gilah (now VS) usualy Netherlands

@ion_iot 2 жыл бұрын

Your Lesson from the first Megilla reading is very perceptive Apathy in the face of evil is itself evil

@mariajaena2010 2 жыл бұрын

the most painful to the victims are those parents, and "so-called" friends, even incompetent undiscerning rabbis, priests and so-called spiritual religious leaders not to believe them... it shows they are not known to these significant others.... victims not seen or valued by them.... if they were..... they would have been known when they were lying and when they were not........nevertheless, lying or not, the first rule of thumb always is SAFETY & PROTECTION of the young and the weak..... most often than not, these victims were never known in their own families and, expectedly, the same pattern choosing the wrong friends and spiritual guides.... it always takes HaSheM to raise the red flag and expose first of all their negligence, devaluation, full of personal issues and FAKENESS.... and unfortunately, suffering in the hands of the molesters.... please... STOP NEGLECTING CHILDREN....

@nolickspittle4753 2 жыл бұрын

Everyone hates controversy - just putting that out there. I am not a "people pleaser" but still hate controversy. Please don't attribute not liking controversy to a particular natured person. Some people have achieved a lot by doing things, which have been considered "controversial" when their intention was simply to do the right thing. Many stand idly by the blood of their fellow because they claim they "don't want to be controversial" when really they are lazy and assume no responsibility.

@Gucci61348 2 жыл бұрын

You are so right 👍😍

@nilirabin3142 2 жыл бұрын

What is your take on his books? Should people continue to read them, or not? If you own some - would you throw them out? Would you purchase new ones? Curious....

@weeklydaily4775 2 жыл бұрын

Personally I'm not throwing out the books. My heart is full of compassion for all the victims, and for walders family, and I even feel compassion for walder himself - I'm assuming he didn't do it out of maliciousness. Probably he had a mental addiction or something

@brachagoetz9140 2 жыл бұрын

@@weeklydaily4775 Keeping the books breeds confusion.

@weeklydaily4775 2 жыл бұрын

@@brachagoetz9140 life is confusing, every person has in them some good and some bad. There's also all kinds of mental conditions and addictions.

@brachagoetz9140 2 жыл бұрын

@@weeklydaily4775 Yes, and we are striving for clarity in our lives. These books now breed confusion for children instead of clarity.

@weeklydaily4775 2 жыл бұрын

@@brachagoetz9140 every abuser was once an innocent child. Somewhere along the way they developed dangerous impulses. When that happens those formerly innocent children have no option but to keep their developing problems a secret - less they be utterly destroyed. This creates a vicious cycle.. Kids need to know that it's only actions that are bad - the person himself is never condemned. Certainly the person's good will not be destroyed too.

@astzfat3319 2 жыл бұрын

BS"D BH, this video showed up on my youtube tonight. Hearing all of your "uhms," I felt the difficulty with which you shared this topic. I hear how genuine & sincere your motivation is. When you completed what you had to share publicly, my entire being, my lungs and chest, heaved in deep relief. Here in Tzfat, nothing of significance has been done to stop benzion eliyahu lehrer, who also has horrific history in his years in Nachlaot, of conning and molesting his "clients." Worse yet, not only has he been supported by non-action, but one of his many many ex-wives must be suffering from stockholm syndrome, since she made a total about face from protecting others from him - to sending him clients. One local rabbi supported him to the point of welcoming lehrer into his shul AND providing him with yet another wife. I'm told recently that lehrer moved to another city in Israel. How many more innocents will he traumatize and harm?

@paulwebhandlemcgranite698 2 жыл бұрын

Moshiach will end the pain

@brachagoetz9140 2 жыл бұрын

THANK YOU!!!!

@leahblau3333 2 жыл бұрын

Sorry but Shifra Horowitz is just as bad as 'the next person for commiting suicide or not. If she was really a victim,why did she wait till her alleged abuser was finally gone?! Bad timing,I would think.G-d help you if by any tiny bit of bad luck you are wrong about cw! It will come back to bite you,as has been seen over and over-only time will tell .But there is no place for your hate filled message.Not something expected from someone who writes and has influence in many Jewish publications,not a good look.A bit of self respect wouldn't hurt,even under circs as these.

@jimwerther 2 жыл бұрын

@@leahblau3333 Seek help

@leahblau3333 2 жыл бұрын

Jim Werther. 😛

@nolickspittle4753 2 жыл бұрын

Lashon hara is true motzi shem ra isn't. Both forbidden to say. The former however must be said in certain circumstances and with certain conditions.

@vsebudethorosho647 5 ай бұрын

What if it was a mistake? With all due respect, was Chaim Walder among those who molested kids in Nachlaot? As all people should not molest anyone, just as much people should not project their experiences and past emotions on anyone who is publicly blamed without chalachic proof. It’s also a very severe action that can push someone to death, like it did with this particular case. Hashem showed us what we do to each other with our tongues

@rpalomo2011 Жыл бұрын

No! Is a powerful word. Glad to see the Jewish community is finally saying NO

@gregmalletvalentine8631 2 жыл бұрын

Sad , to me the female body is a beautiful work of art endowed by the infinite one. Why can’t we just acknowledge and be humane and visually just appreciate the beauty of the female body “my god she is gorgeous “, “she looks like an angel” without any malicious intent. How do we go back to the innocence. I’m a bit immature and I like that so to me sex will always be lighthearted and funny, how can I go back to that,

@rachelweis9201 Жыл бұрын

Why r u smiling.

@danceillusions13 2 жыл бұрын

Please don't mix apples and oranges. Many righteous Jews don't have the controversial minhag of making noise during the mention of Haman's name. For example in Yekkish kehilos this was traditionally unthinkable, and many others. It's possibly halachically problematic because it violates proper shul decorum, and often prevents people from hearing every single word in the megilla, which they should be doing lechatchila. This has nothing to do with protecting abusers. Actually it's quite offensive that you're linking the two. You may wish to look up mekoros when it comes to this minhag before criticising other yidden who are actually following their family customs and poskim

@TheNechamak 2 жыл бұрын

She didn't criticize but to her and what she was going through at the time it was a symbol of everyone who was trying to keep things quiet

@user-fb7bb5eh3k 2 жыл бұрын

No one cares what the yekkis do

@EynOdMilevado 2 жыл бұрын

@@user-fb7bb5eh3k it’s not only yekkis. The point was that so as not to miss a word from the megila, many shuls don’t allow noise when hearing haman

@ion_iot 2 жыл бұрын

@@EynOdMilevado maybe 2% of shuls in the world 98-99% have the minhag to mkae noise

@leahblau3333 2 жыл бұрын

Elliot B.I've seen some of your posts.Your world appears to be very small.Travel a bit.

@MIRI-ng7zm 2 жыл бұрын

@0099matt 2 жыл бұрын

Why are you smiling as your saying this?

@gina2930 2 жыл бұрын

So creapy!

@sonofblessed 2 жыл бұрын

Maybe because it was hard for her to express her experience. Smiling and laughing are also associated with nervousness.

@samuelc1817 2 жыл бұрын

It’s probably a nervous smile .. because it’s a hard topic. Trust me it’s not what it looks like

@user-ei5pr6xc6q 2 жыл бұрын

Any Jew who is summoned to court and refuses to come to say what he needs to say in order to defend himself against the serious accusations of 22 women, is enough to understand that he is evil. But on the other hand we need to understand that we are in a difficult generation of screens that take man out of sanity. And we need to think about how we can get the state to make laws that will filter out content that is problematic, such as violence and pornography.

@benhurn8277 2 жыл бұрын

Difficult times or not is no excuse for abusing vulnerable people. One is not "taken out of sanity" when they plan, manipulate, even build a profession to attract and abuse victims. If there was even a sacrifice for sins one committed but were not aware of, how much more when someone knew what they were doing to the extent that they took all kinds of steps to keep their crimes hidden? These criminals thrive on all the pity and reluctance to face the truth, they count on the excuses people make for them so that they can ignore the responsibility of dealing with ugly realities in life. We're not living in Gan Eden, this is the broken world where it is our job to support good and fight against evil. We've been taught to feel guilty for "hating" when its time to call out and stop criminals. Its not hate to face the truth, to take steps to protect victims and potential victims. We'll be held liable for ignoring victims and not stopping criminals-that itself is a crime.

@benhurn8277 2 жыл бұрын

@@AA-kk1kg You're reply makes no sense. Are you a child predator by any chance? Just wondering why you'd say something so catty to my support of the victims of pedophiles...

@strnglhld 2 жыл бұрын

@@AA-kk1kg By not violating 22 women? I’d say yeah

@Justagirlsays 2 жыл бұрын

sorry but this whole story stinks. Something doesn't add up and even more so because everyone is actually displaying an energy of hate in the name of love. It's good that people are talking about issues in the community. I hope systems and actions are put into place to make sure every child, woman, and soul is safe from predators. That being said, the Zohar calls this world alma deshikra the world of lies, which means ALMOST nothing is what it seems. ESPECIALLY because as someone with a background in psychology and who works in marketing, this smacks of a coordinated media campaign rather than an organic unification with a common goal. Pointing this out isn't discounting victims, it's trying to make sense of the truth. Make a birur at a time where everything is murky, especially what we see in the media. Food for thought.

@SatansBirdLawExpert 2 жыл бұрын

Then why did he kill himself? Instead of simply analyzing the available information, you are choosing to ignore it. Do you really think it’s more likely that the truth is a conspiracy theory that you made up and have provided no evidence to support? Also, When you choose to ignore the victims testimony in favor of a version you just made up, you are 100% discounting the victims.

@jimwerther 2 жыл бұрын

@Justagirlsays How much evidence do you need?

@kristine6996 2 жыл бұрын

Why are you smiling dear lady?

@gina2930 2 жыл бұрын

So creapy!

@carlagavzey7347 2 жыл бұрын

@@gina2930 probably to stop tears

@michellelansky4490 2 жыл бұрын

Its like an uncomfortable nervous thing.......she doesnt know where to put herself.

@leahblau3333 2 жыл бұрын

Michelle Lansky. Maybe bc she's talking some made up nonsense .

@jimwerther 2 жыл бұрын

Nerves, obviously.

@kingscounty2974 2 жыл бұрын

So why you keep smiling when you are talking . Chaim walder is rasha

@jimwerther 2 жыл бұрын

Nerves

@benhurn8277 2 жыл бұрын

People who are shy or have difficulty with strong emotions will involuntarily smile when dealing with these situations, especially if they are in a public setting and are trying not to cry or show too much grief.

@benjaminissacharoff191 2 жыл бұрын

I just don't understand why it's only ladies who are pushing themselves to talk I can't see men I never see videos about men speaking up and the answer is it's easy for you ladies speak about it because you don't understand why it happens you don't understand what brings a person to do it but you're alone are saying the answer you're saying the 10-15 years ago you know about it so it might be the time valder is it is abused child so why are you speaking against him it might be he's one of the abused children who needs help like all the children need help

@strnglhld 2 жыл бұрын

He became the abuser

@user-uh4ub4ke3t Жыл бұрын

Because if males are abused - it's embarrassing for them to speak up as they believe it makes them look pathetic or wimpy-or more likely that people will ignore them and say they are lieing. Especially if women abuse their husbands - people especially other women will say the man is a liar

@kingscounty2974 2 жыл бұрын

Lot and am um am and um Hard to follow what your saying

@user-uh4ub4ke3t Жыл бұрын

You need to learn English. It's what you're saying not what your saying