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@nickp39494 жыл бұрын
“You’re damn right I’m hostile towards people that aren’t squared away” I died
@karamlevi4 жыл бұрын
😂
@harryv67522 жыл бұрын
😄😄😄
@theownersmanual80784 жыл бұрын
I've learned from listening to Jocko and applying his wisdom that the phrase "how can I help?" solves almost any conflict. Nothing disarms an adversary and puts my own ego in check like sincerely, humbly trying to help the person my ego views as a threat. If I can hold back my emotions and reactions (unattaching) long enough to think rationally, I can turn almost any situation into a positive learning experience (for all involved parties). In religion, politics, business, and interpersonal relationships, the ability to distinguish between literal threats and "non-factors" are the key to the success of your agenda. Thanks for the awesome info as always!!
@calebmartinez80734 жыл бұрын
Accomplish the mission at all costs!
@Yetipfote4 жыл бұрын
This is so helpful!! Thank you man! 🙏🏼
@HectorRodriguez-qr4dm4 жыл бұрын
I totally agree
@ilovebutterstuff4 жыл бұрын
The Owner's Manual--- that's a great policy; one you should never disavow. Changing my policies has always lead to a pitfall, and I wish I hadn't been so quick to compromise, looking back.
@Maelstr0m4 жыл бұрын
thats actually really useful info. Thanks for sharing this as it will help almost anyone who reads this!
@MrPickle211002 жыл бұрын
"If I'm so smart, why am I losing?" Amazing way to check your own ego and get the hell out of your own way.
@akrafty14 жыл бұрын
Building a relationship and working with someone you don’t like to achieve a mission. That’s professionalism. That’s how you win.
@Spartan-Of-Truth2 жыл бұрын
It’s also how people become narcissistic.
@paulkirjonen12262 жыл бұрын
@@Spartan-Of-Truth Moving to a move senior position in my workplace, I have discovered that it becomes almost mandatory to become like that a little bit. This is similiar to when you first learn the social cues, there is a pressure to know how to be social, how to hang out and interact with people normally. Simliarily, later in life there is a higher-tier pressure not only to 'be normal', but also to be able to get along and find common ground even with people who's very being is insulting to you. And don't get me wrong, the narcissistic types are the worst kind of people for me in particular, so it's not that I like it.
@evanpoole67514 жыл бұрын
I have a boss I am forced to see first thing in morning and one thing ive realized is if you just treat them with kindness and don’t expect anything back from them.... you will win every single time because even when you just say good morning and they don’t respond... they think they are insulting you with not responding but if you know better and understand that them not responding is due to their own unhappiness then them not responding is you WINNING lol
@ryanc98884 жыл бұрын
Kill them with kindness
@nighthawkdutchchameleon98154 жыл бұрын
Take a piece of crap to work with you in a plastic bag and put it on his desk
@lukeseanpicco57874 жыл бұрын
@@nighthawkdutchchameleon9815 “If it’s true that thoughts, words and ideas locked-together create language patterns… and those language patterns carry a voice, a power and a vibrational frequency of intelligent energy? Then words can light fires in the minds of those who become enlightened of the internal reality that they are creating from day to day.” - Luke Picco www.IRONCLADCONFIDENCE.com
@lukeseanpicco57874 жыл бұрын
“If it’s true that thoughts, words and ideas locked-together create language patterns… and those language patterns carry a voice, a power and a vibrational frequency of intelligent energy? Then words can light fires in the minds of those who become enlightened of the internal reality that they are creating from day to day.” - Luke Picco www.IRONCLADCONFIDENCE.com
@BazIrvine4 жыл бұрын
Ironclad Confidence Turn that thing off that makes you post twice other than that well said.
@sililly13794 жыл бұрын
P/S, I was pleasantly surprised last week to find out that my teenage daughter listens to your podcasts. This is how I found out: I started playing one of your clips and she was in the room. She said, "Hey mom - is that the Navy Seal guy's podcast? You know him too 😲?" So you guys should know your reaching out to multiple generations and effectively changing lives for better!!!! Thank you for all you do.
@originaudio69913 жыл бұрын
@Great Cornholio 🤣
@lukasg90313 жыл бұрын
God bless her... there aren’t many kids in this generation that listen to these type of topics 💪🏼
@ashleytaylor9943 жыл бұрын
So cool
@julesclarke6140 Жыл бұрын
Adding to your commentary : I'm myself a young woman and I think I started listening to Jocko when I was 19. Since then, I'm day after day building my life and myself the way I want, owning up to some of my mistakes (sure I have plenty more to own up to haha). What I like about him is that I don't feel like I'm listening to a guru of a cult who has a huge ego and tries to mould you into what he wants. Nah, Jocko can accept that someone will think different than him, he can also accept that he's a human, he makes mistakes. He's confident but down to earth unlike some of the "mentors" we can find of KZfaq who creep me out.
@Anykindahandle4 жыл бұрын
I love how jocko admits his mistakes as a young man. Trying to be tough... I’m 31 realizing how stupid I’ve been but, I learn from my mistakes and trying to be a better man everyday.
@jamese5444 жыл бұрын
When I turned 30, I looked myself in the mirror and realized I never met any goal set for myself in my 20's.. I felt like a loser, I told myself I was a loser, but being able to accept that for myself, my 30's became the best years to grow and learn and really become a man. Sometimes we just have to admit to ourselves the truth in order to become better
@jumpstart55million3 жыл бұрын
Agreed 100%.
@kuiperbeltdropout87913 жыл бұрын
"All these people out here who talk about how great they are, and I see it all the time, it makes me sick man. Get real with yourself, people cannot relate to you man, you are un-f*cking relatable. When you come out here and say hey man, I'm the baddest motherf*cker to ever live. Okay great, well what am I gonna learn from you? You learn from people who are willing to tell you, this is where I started from, this is how much I fell on my f*cking ass, this is how bad I used to be." - David Goggins
@drakoinx3 жыл бұрын
I feel it. 25 and didn't have any male role models in my life. So luckily I grt to choose them now.
@unkownoflife59593 жыл бұрын
The Lord Jesus Christ helped me see my sins and flaws.
@jasongravely72174 жыл бұрын
“If I’m so smart, why can’t I influence this person.” Simple yet true. I’m in sales and that’s been a hang up of mine recently. It’s my fault.
@signaturerush2 жыл бұрын
You should read how to win friends and influence people by dale Carnegie. One of the things he talks about is how sales people often fail because they focus on what they want instead of what the customer wants.
@nimmha67082 жыл бұрын
@@signaturerush true.. "focus on what they want instead of what the customer wants" is exactly what makes sales people fail.
@JonathanVachon777 Жыл бұрын
@@signaturerush i have read that book. Its not working with everyone for many reasons. It works with people that are ready to learn
@chancekottme19643 ай бұрын
Is it the price or value? Then drop a lil bit 😉
@willliv79904 жыл бұрын
This really hit home...I've always thought I was humble but deep down I'm too conceited...I'm gonna work on it from here on out
@ammedia98702 жыл бұрын
Don’t forget , inferiority complex is a form of superiority complex
@Spartan-Of-Truth2 жыл бұрын
We can tell from your profile picture. Hi, let’s be friends?
@jaxsonreimer47672 жыл бұрын
Same bro same!
@muttenmong55094 жыл бұрын
One of my instructors when I was in class to become a towercrane driver told me " you can be the best operator in the crane but if you do not know how to handle your ground crew or the people you serve, you will suck and not have a long career up there ". or you can mess up many times but if your crew loves you, you will be a legend " I have never forgotten those words because that was a golden. To this day I still hear him yelling through my radio " NO MERCY FOR YOU DANNY BOY " My first try in a new company and 5 days later I had the job and best crew ever. Know how to handle your people.
@chiefslief18863 жыл бұрын
👍🏻❤️
@PedroApp4 жыл бұрын
This is work 101, there is always someone you like less. After a while you just manage to ignore that fact, you are at work to get it done, friends are a bonus.
@shawnbrodrick86734 жыл бұрын
It's called showbiz not show friends...I use this reminder to myself many times a week
@midnightmorada26784 жыл бұрын
I tell myself this every day I go to work
@jDot24142 жыл бұрын
Ehhh life’s to short to be around people who don’t blend well with your energy
@j2times20064 ай бұрын
@@jDot2414that is true. Having to put up with that BS everyday just drains the life outta you.
@andreeadobre31904 жыл бұрын
"That sounds manipulative, conniving, not keeping it real" - Being autistic, to me even keeping it real is a sort of act that I learned to perform, so in a way I learned to view all behaviour as manipulative or somewhat acted. What matters is the intention, and when the intention is to get shit done, being cooperative and respectful to someone you despise is 100% true to the intention to get shit done. Maybe not true to your feelings but the point was to get shit done not to express your feelings.
@pinkharmonica13124 жыл бұрын
I felt the exact same way thinking about this. I have a friend who has a lot of social influence and when I observe his interactions with people especially people he doesn't like, I noticed a lot of times he says things that I would consider technically lies, but I started to realise that it's really just the little social things people do so everything remains cordial. A lot of times I see it as manipulation, but like you said, most social interactions feel like manipulation beyond just matter of factly stating what you want, how you feel, or what you're thinking.
@pinkharmonica13124 жыл бұрын
This comment very concisely summarized my thoughts in a way that seems like it will be very easy to remember and therefore apply. Thank you.
@andreeadobre31904 жыл бұрын
Pink Harmonica Glad my comment helped! Also, at least for me, being nice, pleasant, courteous etc to people makes life nicer!
@StargazerYo Жыл бұрын
This was really well stated, and an eye-opener. Hopefully this doesn't come off as insensitive, but sometimes I think autism serves more as a superpower than a disability, at least with experiences I've seen. My strongest relationships have often been with people I found out yeeears later are autistic, but the bonds feel stronger because there's more authenticity in it over adjusting to established "social cues"
@douchebag47433 жыл бұрын
I watch this everyday before work. I’ve been promoted twice since I started. The one I didn’t like now works underneath me. I am still not finished. Still have a mission that needs to be completed. Thanks for your inspiration.
@wholeass834 жыл бұрын
I love how you guys can be humble and tough at the same time. Too many tough guys out there need to humble themselves
@kashlorwebb2 жыл бұрын
That’s what combat sports does to a man😌 “A lion does not have to prove he’s tough, everyone knows he’s the King”
@wholeass832 жыл бұрын
@@kashlorwebb that funny I always say I know some tough MFers but none of them ever talked about how tough they were.
@tia80074 жыл бұрын
Jocko often looks like a little boy with a big secret he can't wait to tell his best friend :)
@thedoubtfuls4 жыл бұрын
Cept his biceps would crush our nuts on a hiccup
@mitraskolander90854 жыл бұрын
Ha ha
@Adventure_fuel4 жыл бұрын
Except he knows how to murder people and has murdered people.
@spacecowboy14384 жыл бұрын
It feels like he has the same pure soul and wisdom as a child.
@brysonjones14914 жыл бұрын
Yosef Chaim he killed terrorist, don’t consider terrorist actually human beings
@Juznik13894 жыл бұрын
"Being humble goes a loooong way" - Only being 30 years old and I've realized this. Being honest about your mistakes and showing how you can improve them combined with being humble about your skills and limitations will ease most tensions. I've been to meetings where the room was electrified coming in. But being just 1 person in there to stay the course of the objective helped so much in rebuilding a bit of trust and removing tensions for further development
@PracticalInspiration4 жыл бұрын
Love the humility that Jocko shows in his response here. Really says a lot about the character of a man to acknowledge his weaknesses.
@HEOEvgeny4 жыл бұрын
"wisdom based on humility leads to progress. wisdom based on hostility leads to regress" Eugene Logan
@Larry-qz3es4 жыл бұрын
Our own EGO can be the worst enemy. A good book to read is "Ego is the Enemy" by Ryan Holiday
@Sasketchejuana_man3 жыл бұрын
@@generalripper7528 you’re right. There’s a fine balance. Like with anything in life. Gotta have a nice balance.
@arisa3733 жыл бұрын
pride goeth before destruction
@robertphillips934 жыл бұрын
Wonderful stuff, Jocko. This can often work in both directions, too -- depending on the situation. You notice another is being disrespectful or even hostile all the time, so you say to him: "I know you have very little respect for me at present, and that might or might not change later on -- I can live with it either way. But for now, I think you'll agree that, as your supervisor/boss/brother, I am entitled to your co-operation. Without it, the unit/company/family is damaged -- and neither one of us wants that. Do you want to try and go forward on that basis?" (Everybody learns that it isn't what others think of me that really matters -- it's what I think of me. And bad behavior, no matter how justified, will sooner or later always make me think less of myself.)
@hanschecker14 жыл бұрын
'' If I am so smart, why am I not winning? '' That kinda got through me because I sabotage myself pretty often just out of pride and stubbornness, although I know Im consciously deciding to lose as long as I feel I am right. So my principles are more important for me than to succed in certain situations, which leads to a lot of unhappiness obviously and I feel like I should change that behavior. Well thanks for the great content!
@secretagentkay56702 жыл бұрын
“Be friendly, but not friends”
@mathieuveillette48064 жыл бұрын
So many people get in their own way at work by thinking that reacting emotionally and bitching at everyone and everything means that they are genuine and have integrity. This should be mandatory viewing. At work, integrity means working together and I don’t care who you like or don’t like.
@irrelevantideology96404 жыл бұрын
I drove a cab for a couple of years and one thing that learned is that if you don't respond to difficult people in a way that escalates the situation and you keep a consistent level head and do not let them influence the way that you handle the situation, 9 times out of ten they settle down rather quickly and end up with a much more productive situation.
@sterlthepearl10002 жыл бұрын
Be kind to people, but don't let them take advantage of you. And trust people, but don't let them deceive you.
@KerryFairbanks10 ай бұрын
My last job i got fired after telling a coworker off who I felt the victim of bullying/gossip etc... Even though I was right, I could tell I really lost in that situation. I couldn't just let it go and i lost sight of my bigger mission. It was a very toxic work place but I could've left with more grace. But I'm grateful it happened and is in the past because I know not to let it happen again
@davidschwab75564 жыл бұрын
"I got dinged on my evaluation, it was for lack of communication or something, I dunno I wasn't really listening" (paraphrased). lul.
@squakrock4 жыл бұрын
David Schwab love this dude lol
@llamallama96374 жыл бұрын
Lol, nice Dumb and Dumber reference.
@tipshikes36822 жыл бұрын
We get taught we screw up then have to relearn,I’m blown away at 45 and sober I’m putting myself through this self mentoring by watching Jocko and have been for the last yr,there’s no amount of thanks I can give I wake to the man I lift to him I run to him he’s literally the dad I I never had and I wish I had.
@PatheticMillennial4 жыл бұрын
Rule number 1, never outshine the master
@justintime77394 жыл бұрын
Pathetic Millennial 48 laws of power
@tomroberts87353 жыл бұрын
My Rule #1 : Never let your boss get blindsided.
@Southernsoul4153 жыл бұрын
So I glad I found you cause I’m at the end of my rope with my boss and job . 🙏🏻
@djtanikgotbeatz3 жыл бұрын
Fuck that there’s always a end
@louvoodoo3 жыл бұрын
@@justintime7739 I love Robert Greene. I can't wait to read his other books.
@kglistless4 жыл бұрын
As much as I love the theory of this, there are people who will abuse your willingness to let your guard down. If they are in your family, they are inescapable unless you can manage to cut all contact or keep them at a distance. There is a point where this will become inviting abuse, at least in a certain context. If you're dealing with a normal person, yeah, this advice works. It's a pretty good method to filter out people who you can develop respect for, and people who aren't willing to respect others.
@thatgui88 Жыл бұрын
Yeah im kind of sad he didn't mention narcissism in the work place.
@run2walk2989 ай бұрын
Keep them at a distance as much as you know how. Stay focused and stay positive; for you.
@anthonyle18385 ай бұрын
@@thatgui88most of the time they're not actual narcissists they don't actually have narcissistic personality disorder they are just people who are very arrogant but on the point that they are still reasonable unless well they actually have a personality disorder people are well inherently working off their own logic trying to fulfill what they think is their own need
@thatgui885 ай бұрын
@@anthonyle1838 Nah I've met some people who legit fit every description of what a narcissist acts/does. So far I have met 2 so far. One man and one women. Competitive, difficult to work with,huge ego,lack of boundaries, and rude.
@anthonyle18385 ай бұрын
@@thatgui88 self-interested and competitive those are some traits and narcissist definitely can have but they're more defined by how much they want admiration and validation
@davidyoung30 Жыл бұрын
I haven’t listened yet but I’m surprised to here Jocko speak of winning with people that you don’t like. Maybe I’m stubborn or something but I don’t even want to be around people I do not like and I won’t try to do anything with them.
@briancasteel12223 жыл бұрын
I like being the team member who does everything above and beyond what is expected me without expectations from anyone. It's a good way too measure the quality of people we work with. When asked for volunteers always be first. Do your duty without being asked to do it. Don't complain or whine about anything. Don't talk about people if they are not their to defend themselves. The less we speak the more we listen and the more we listen the more we understand and the more we understand the more we can accomplish.
@briancasteel12223 жыл бұрын
Small minded people talk about other people. Average minds talk about events and great minds talk about ideas.
@honeybadgerftw23834 жыл бұрын
I would just like to thank you for the assistance you offered me as a young man. I've got myself together. Ill be the general manager of the restaurant I've been working at since highschool. I WILL be an owner and franchisee before I'm 21. So thanks for the help in realizing what im capable of.
@drakoinx3 жыл бұрын
Agreed
@tamstams38152 жыл бұрын
You’re the man! Rooting for you!!!
@katiecute492 жыл бұрын
Checking in @honeybadgerftw have you been able to be the owner or be closer to the goal?
@shouryarathore7434 Жыл бұрын
How you doing right now?
@DPham14 жыл бұрын
Jocko, this came at the right time. You gotta know how I play the game to get ahead and care for those who you do actually like. Love you podcast, full of wisdom and insights.
@Djexoticdancing692 жыл бұрын
This the mentality of a true team leader & team worrier u go Jocko💪🙏👍
@beautifulrandythecheesebur7901 Жыл бұрын
The point is you are not trying to win "for" people you don't like. You just have to win with them. So being polite to them and not expecting nice response and dedicated work from them are included as your job to win something. Stay in the course to win something and complete your mission. That's all about professionalism. Thanks Jocko
@sterlthepearl10002 жыл бұрын
"Keep your friends close, and your enemies closer." (The Godfather Rule)
@Smith-re6jq4 жыл бұрын
This subject resonates with me and I imagine most people. Ego and pride can be major stumbling blocks for all people.
@ramonvillaster6094 жыл бұрын
IN MY OPINION, winning people that you don't like is similar to letting an enemy inside your house. There's no shortage of good people out there. If you need to win over somebody, chances are they probably shouldn't be in your life.
@lukeakerboom62984 жыл бұрын
I learned this Jocko and I hope you read this. I'm 22 and learned if they're smart, be tough. If they are tough be smart. If they are foolish, be righteous. If they are righteous, be a bit foolish.
@sakshamchhatkuli271 Жыл бұрын
"If I am that smart, why can't I win?". Such a lovely way to put it.
@willek13353 жыл бұрын
I totally agree as a starting point. Spot on, I agree with every thing. The thing I don't think you take into account is how moderate to high level narcissists treat weak individuals who show humility. It's a terrible cycle. It damages individuals long term. It's fair that you didn't bring it up, because it's relatively uncommon.
@icemanhank4 жыл бұрын
'Being humble goes a loooong way'.
@jamierogers50164 жыл бұрын
True story... when you don’t like someone & you’re honest with yourself about the answer, it will often be your own ego that’s in the way! It’s often something you don’t like about yourself that you see in the other person!
@tyventress124611 ай бұрын
Hey guys, I needed this one! I’m in barber school and I really had to put my ego in check yesterday. I just feel like I’m not getting anything out of my education at the school. The instructor and his wife are crooks. They don’t even teach anything and it’s a blessing I know how to cut already and keep my business running. They profit off their students and students aren’t able to do much about which created a toxic environment or made me not want to go. They threaten to suspend me if I keep skipping school and they charge you money for missing attendance hours. I can’t afford miss anymore if I want my license honestly. I’m glad I saw this video bc I was going to drop out of something I love doing. I can’t let them get in the way man. Again, thank you.
@justinlong777810 ай бұрын
What’s the update!
@phillipadams46914 жыл бұрын
You know, this is the reassurance I needed to hear to motivate me to let go of my personal ambitions for the sake of my team.
@justinfreeman46144 жыл бұрын
Can confirm this mindset helps. I've only had one superior assigned to me it didn't work with because they would outright lie when they thought it would make them look better. I tried for months to assume that I misunderstood what was so - maybe they aren't lying and I just don't know any better. But it just kept happening. After a few months, I spent a little time quietly double checking when I thought there was dishonesty. It turned out that an overwhelming preponderance of the time they were, in fact, lying. So, I started to push back harder or discreetly guide our choices elsewhere when I knew they were lying. They would never give if the truth made them look less awesome to higher leadership. Finally, the next guy up above this dishonest superior asked me for feedback for how my part of his team was doing.... And I just... Told him the truth. He asked for verification for a few of these example lies. I showed him the evidence that made me reach my conclusion. And then nothing happened. This person continued to be dishonest when it suited them. If I sound angry about it, it's because I'm still angry that we even have people like this being given authority and that I never figured out a way to improve the situation.
@harryv67522 жыл бұрын
Sitting here eating my post workout meal and getting life lessons from Jocko... Life is good. Much love n respect! 🤙🤙🤙
@sililly13794 жыл бұрын
So true. It's the ego that makes us dislike other people. A good soul search has helped me many a times. From observing people who really have a name in society, but "carry out the trash out" voluntarily, that to me is a lasting lesson than the man-made "Thou shalt not!!!" Thank you for these podcasts.
@LalitKumar-cu5iu4 жыл бұрын
6:15 you're understanding your own limitations and his limitations and taking charge of getting him to comply because he wants to, not against his ego. you're being the man.
@Yetipfote4 жыл бұрын
That was one of the best podcasts of Jocko I ever heard. And Echo has much more intense energy in this one.
@jamesjones4063 ай бұрын
Jocko's message and method is worthy to be saluted every time we listen. His sidekick cheer leader needs to grow up.
@jodo19714 жыл бұрын
Having hostility towards those that are not squared away. I can totally relate. I try to focus on people's positive qualities rather than the negative. Usually when we don't like someone, it's because we subconsciously see our own bad behavior in others. Next time you get angry with someone, just say to yourself, thats me on a bad day, and you'll see how your perspective changes.
@nightfighter74523 жыл бұрын
What if that's not you on a bad day and its just genuinely a bad coworker?
@alexberezovsky51224 жыл бұрын
These videos are great! I really appreciate your advice!
@DrogoBaggins9873 жыл бұрын
Once a relationship turns sour I have never been able to improve the situation. Everything I have ever tried has just made things worse. All I know to do is go grey rock and slow down the decline.
@karitakon4 жыл бұрын
100% agree. I would also add to build the relationship by asking opposition sincere honest questions on their way of thinking, listen, don't interrupt, let them encourage them elaborate more. You can still hold your ground and respectfully challenge, do but with calm self control.
@ChadKirk4 жыл бұрын
This is the most helpful Jocko video I've ever watched. I have a problem where I think I'm smarter or better than a lot of my bosses and it always just stresses me out and messes things up. I'm going to try to put my ego aside and work WITH my boss to see if I can make things smoother. It's going to be hard but I think it might be worth it.
@joshualipovetsky27444 жыл бұрын
That sounds great, Santa!
@lukeseanpicco57874 жыл бұрын
“If it’s true that thoughts, words and ideas locked-together create language patterns… and those language patterns carry a voice, a power and a vibrational frequency of intelligent energy? Then words can light fires in the minds of those who become enlightened of the internal reality that they are creating from day to day.” - Luke Picco www.IRONCLADCONFIDENCE.com
@jays_jae4 жыл бұрын
I'm doing my best, and hearing this I noticed I have things I could do better or be better at. And I'm thankful for that.
@vanillaslice30164 жыл бұрын
I am in a challenging situation and this is so helpful. Thank you.
@duggerinc4 жыл бұрын
Once again you have shared the necessary tools for success. I dont have the right words to express how valuable the information you provide is to me, and everyone else looking for answers and solutions. Thank you.
@mwatkins553 жыл бұрын
Jocko & Echo, thank you for showcasing this story. These lessons will help to make strong people better team players. Your guys mindset is much appreciated.
@jessc.133 жыл бұрын
A lot of people did not like our commander in 2016, people said a million things about him but what I respected is that we were a work for 2 weeks straight during the holidays and himself, the 1sgt, and the CMSgt all visited us on Christmas day and stayed and talked w/ us for over 2 hours! It’s the small things 👍🏽
@michealpierson81252 жыл бұрын
When Jaco says your ego is what makes you not like somebody that's some true stuff right there and that's something that we should all look at and put our ego aside and figure them out even if there are enemy
@michealpierson81252 жыл бұрын
By the way my talk-to-text refuses to even spell my own daughter's name correctly LOL
@JohnDoe-sk6wy4 жыл бұрын
Jocko dropping gems all day, every day!
@mikefemenella96804 жыл бұрын
There was a time when I thought I was "all that" at work. Then one day at home I found myself scrubbing out the toilet in my kids bathroom and I thought, ok, whatever you do in life, changing a diaper or scrubbing out a toilet is a great reminder you're still nothing and to be humble. Nothing like those jobs to remind you to stay humble.
@mikefemenella96804 жыл бұрын
@@SODMGGOKUSo let's break your comment down. In Jockos story his new platoon leader takes out the trash even though he doesn't have to. That takes probably 2-5 minutes as well. Does the duration of the act increase or decrease it being an effective reminder to stay humble? No. So that statement is pointless. In Jockos story is the leader taking out the trash being humble an insult to people who take out the trash? Again, no. So now 2/3 of your post is useless. Being humble is not "being nothing". You clearly don't understand the word. You're so triggered by my comment to the point of calling me a piece of shit? If you look for insults in everything you don't agree with or understand, you're going to find them everywhere. Good luck to you.
@mississippimotorsports32864 жыл бұрын
I hear you out... I had the same situation in sports and I did put my ego aside and i still didn’t get anywhere... here my story if you care to listen... I’m in high school playing basketball.. played since 7th grade and from 7th to 10th grade my relationship with my coach was much like yours with your superior... I thought he was weak.. not a good leader or motivator.. and I felt that he was not putting his best effort towards our basketball team.. and his results reflect that.. we hardly ever had a winning season despite having above average talent on the team.. he still coaches at that school as we speak and he’s still a loser... he once told our team “I don’t care if you guys win or not I get paid on Friday”... so me being a passionate leader I always undermined him and we grew animosity between us... the breaking point was the start of my 11th grade year... we are losing by about 20 or more at half time and I can see his body language that he’s already giving up on us.. I broke the silence and said “coach why don’t we try a full court press when we go back out there it’s not over plus we have nothing to lose” if you don’t know.. a full court press is where you apply extreme pressure to try and force turnovers and prevent the other team from getting the ball past half court... it’s a tactic to change momentum and start a comeback.. well when I suggested that he belittled me in front of the whole team and pretty much told me I could never execute a full court press... a giant spit between my eyes is what it was... that night I turned in my uniform and promised myself no matter what I would never play for him again... my dad was LIVID when I told him I quit... he threaten to come to my moms and drag me outta the house and beat my ass... but I stuck to my decision and called his bluff... I had made up mind and no one could make me play for him... well i didn’t play for the rest of that Season... my senior year rolled around and my former teammates were begging me to come back and play... I told them many times I can’t play for him... the continued to express how bad they needed/wanted me to play... after all I was not the best player on the team but I was the glue the leader and the voice of our team... I told my teammates I will not ask him to come... y’all will have to ask him... (notice my ego was still in the way at that point) well my teammates everyday at practice would ask “coach are you gonna let bub come back and play his senior season?” He simply would not answer them... well now it has started to weigh on me.. I did love playing and I did love my teammates and I would love to play my senior year... so I put my ego aside and said you know what I’m gonna go talk to him and get back on the team... I went back in his office and laid my heart out on the table and told him I know I quit on you... I know you don’t owe me anything... all I’m asking is for a chance... I promise you I will give 110% percent for you and if you say jump I will leap!! If I don’t earn my spot back then that’s okay... I just want a chance... I was in tears when I was telling him this... I meant it... he straight up told me no I could not rejoin the team... well him and my dad graduated together and won a state championship in basketball at the very same school together... my brother graduated two years earlier and he was the best player on the team for 3 years averaging 28 and 12 boards a game... my first cousin had a lot of pull at the school also... so my basketball coach started receiving a lot of phone calls from a lot of people... even the head baseball coach, principal, and county supervisor requested that he allow me to play my senior year... so at last I got put back on the team... and as promised I played my ever living heart out every minute of every practice... no one on the team played with even half the effort that I did in practice and I was whipping butt in practice out doing everyone who had my position... well come time to announce the starting line up for the season... sure enough my name was on there... I got my spot back!!! I continued to play with same effort as the season started... and I didn’t ever talk back or undermine his plan... I was all support... I put ego aside and tried to make us better for the teams sake... we lost our first game of the season by 1... (to a team that full court pressed the whole game) but after that we rattled off 6 straight wins... won a county wide tournament! We were 6-1... and that’s when coach decided to relinquish my starting position and give to a under classman who was not as good as me by any measure... another spit in the face but I didn’t let it get me down and I didn’t let my ego show... I just played even harder with me minutes I was given and my minutes slowly kept going down... everytime I’d get on the court we would start playing better... again I was not the best scorer or player... but my presence out there made our star players play better... well by the end of my senior year I was never put in the game in the fourth quarter and I was only getting meaningless “breather” minutes... that’s giving starters a chance to catch their breath then coming right back out... my teammates were questioning him... fans were asking why he doesn’t play me more... but I still didn’t let my ego show.. I supported the team from bench and was the loudest cheerleader in the gym lol I even changed how my guys played from the bench.. even on senior night I didn’t start and I didn’t play much and I didn’t get put in the final minutes of my 6 year basketball career... what a thank you?! Lol I think that was his way of giving me pay back for pretty much being forced to let me play my senior year by his peers and superiors.. he only allowed me to play and start for 7 games just to get them off his back then he tortured me... we still went 19-13 that year... his only winning season and he’s been coaching there since 2006... I graduated in 2012... he’s still the coach... I still have nightmares where I’m trying to win my spot back and trying to please him... the point of me typing all this is to say.. sometimes the damage is already to severe in a relationship to reverse by changing your ego... some people are just toxic and still will not appreciate your selflessness after you’ve chosen to follow their command and work with them
@BuddhatheRockstar Жыл бұрын
It's nice to hear how much I was also like Jocko when I was young. I smiled ear to ear through this whole video.
@humility1st4 жыл бұрын
Agreed,we must start with Humility! Thank you! Very helpful!
@Salmon_Rush_Die4 жыл бұрын
Wow, this is probably the most important thing I have heard in a very long time. Everyone needs to hear this lesson every day. I need to hear this lesson everyday. If I had internalized this lesson years ago, life would have been so much different, so much better. I have antagonized every. single. stupid boss. I ever had. omg what an idiot I am. I should have known better.
@TXP94 жыл бұрын
I think Jocko’s advice works in many circumstances. However, he had the advantage of working with SEALS, which are hardly “regular” people in terms of physical, mental, and organizational abilities. It doesn’t usually take much to steer talented people on the right track. There are some workplaces where the culture and leadership are unbelievably toxic (e.g. lack of equal opportunity, embezzlement). In those cases, if you’re at the bottom of the ladder, you should leave. If you’re at the top of the ladder, you need a total overhaul of the organization, or let it die in its toxicity.
@godismy1fav6 ай бұрын
Believe me… all of that is 100% everywhere. Especially the military where it is arguably worse
@drewdalesandro6724 жыл бұрын
This just assisted me in my Flight Chief mission. I now have the wordage I have been trying to find to speak with my boss. I have the same goal of team win and this video just sparked my mind and we will see how tonight comes out. This is what I needed and couldn't find the way to explain it.
@ntb778192 жыл бұрын
5:30 The difference between truth and the subtitles are awesome. 💯
@spokoman234 жыл бұрын
This is great advice. One example that comes to mind that makes me disagree with this is supporting a family member that's in a toxic relationship (or has a bad addiction). Say you're supportive for years, you help when it's needed or when you were asked to. After every crisis your mom/sister/daughter goes back to the scum bag, because he said 'sorry' and got some flowers. Same thing for years. I think at this point you have to stop helping. So I said, 'hey, I love you, we're family. You can come to me with anything EXCEPT your relationship problems. 3rd time you failed for divorce and then you withdraw it. I was there every single time. Not anymore. It's a waste of my time, my money, my nerves. You made a choice. Live with it. If you want to change - change it.
@Maelstr0m4 жыл бұрын
I am a smart person and I've learned tk realise how intelligence is almost pointless in life. Whatd really important is appreciating who takes the tine to embark on the adventures you lead. Without a team you will be alone and have to do everything yourself. Understanding its a two way road goes a long way when you lead a team. The best way to motivate a team is to give them something in return and try as much as possible to give them the freedom they need to realise their full potential. Another good thing to do is to listen to their suggestions and apply them if they are more clever than your own solutions! I thought being smarter meant always coming up with the smartest solutions all the time but this can't be further from the truth. Sometimes willingly giving someone less experienced the spotlight even if they might fail will give them the experience needed to be even better later on. So wiser I got in my late 10's the more I realised being a good leader meant admitting your incompetance in some things and that finding people who complete you works amaxingly well. Two people wanting to lead don't go well if you try to control everything.
@Viroh4 жыл бұрын
Yeah that sentence "if I am so smart, why am I not winning" applies to me right now. Got too full of myself: I quit my steady bartending job (bartending is my dream career rn) for a better one, which wasn't so much better afterall. I quit that one too after one week, because it wasn't what I dreamed of, it wasn't perfect so it wasn't good enough for Me. And I was sure I can get a better one in a few weeks. That was 2 months ago. Now working a shit job that pays like shit, struggling to pay my rent and bills, a really humbling experience. I will now get my head out of my ass and continue life more humbly.
@je64032 жыл бұрын
hope you're doing better
@craigdaugherty16563 жыл бұрын
Years ago, I would run into people who I didn't like. Then, I began to realize the the reason I disliked them, was because I saw my my own ego reflected in them and didn't want to be like that anymore.
@sterlthepearl10002 жыл бұрын
"We all need each other, for each of us, needs all of us." Jim Rohn
@kipholder85774 жыл бұрын
Some people you cant reason or get along with. They are narcissistic.
@shawnbrodrick86734 жыл бұрын
You can get along with a narcissistic person...feed their ego
@gnarthdarkanen74644 жыл бұрын
Just remember the narcissist is literally dragged through all of life by his/her ego... They're not necessarily completely unjustified in some of their views... BUT largely, they're all ego and no substance. THAT makes them fairly predictable (with a little patience and observation)... AND clearly manipulable. Careful to avoid the socio-pathology... Getting "caught" in that part is dangerous at least, and downright self destructive if allowed too far. The plain and simple narcissist, however? Scarcely more than harmless and less than a joy to be around. ;o)
@irisgonzalez-caulder48174 жыл бұрын
@@gnarthdarkanen7464 tell me what are you hiding what is your reason you delete everything you wrote in this comment gnarth d'arkanen I could only trust God the Spirit there is an individual out there that read your comment prior you deleting it gnarth d'arkanen tell me what are you hiding that you delete your comment ? gnarth d'arkanen "Just Remember" far beneath the bitter snow lies the seed that with the Sons love in the spring becomes the rose. Just Remember is the lyrics from the song The Rose from artist and songwriter and singer Bette Midler. I think of the song when Christ begins a spiritual journey. I haven't heard the song in quite a while. I'm stronger now I don't feel pain and haven't for quite a while pain of mom and me trusting individuals and unknown to us from 2013 - 2020 the dark reason 6 yrs ago mom and me were dumped discarded leaving mom and me when we most needed Legal help now I gotta dig up the crap rumors and theories and conjures rumors a kind word the word shit is disrespectful. Rumors isn't precise word slander is the precise word not rumors.
@gnarthdarkanen74644 жыл бұрын
@@irisgonzalez-caulder4817 Let's start for absolute clarity. I have not, nor do I practice ANY form of editing on a post or reply I leave... as in EVER... full stop. If I screw up in a comment thread, I just own it. It's not the first time I've been askewed from intent to whatever someone else read into it. That said, there are occasions that apparently some mechanics in these threads just "covers up" portions of posts. I've noticed that myself... and from time to time, I notice other posts and replies dubiously missing... whether a quirk of the networking between gmail, twitter, and YT comments... I do not know. I do know, you can sign into all three simultaneously on a gmail, addy... profile, and all. SO there's likely some exasperating technical drek about it somewhere. I'm not hiding. There's no point. "Even a day that stings... ...two better days it brings. Nothing is as bad as it seems..." "Master of the Wind" Manowar ;o)
@irisgonzalez-caulder48174 жыл бұрын
@@gnarthdarkanen7464 There is nothing wrong with editing comments
@tomroberts87353 жыл бұрын
This video is spot on. Maybe Jocko's best podcast. Keeping the ego in check solves 80% of all relationship problems inside the team and outside the team.
@colbymcbride99414 жыл бұрын
"Never outshine the master."
@AgeofMachines4 жыл бұрын
Learning a lot of ways ego can manifest itself listening to Jocko. Tons of stuff for me to improve on. Bonus also is it enhances empathy and insight into others. Stripping away the things my ego could be competing for means I can focus my passions and energies on more meaningful endeavors with awareness that can benefit others and myself. Might be an age thing but I'm noticing that all the stuff ego could compete for or advertise has the additional liabilities of maintenance and deception. Maintenance in the form of you gotta keep whatever you think your ego is holding on to and deception if you try and convince others of something you don't have. If your worried about losing respect, jobs or relationships over losing that, what did you really have anyway? You were on borrowed time and son, the clock just ran out...😳
@DerbyMods4 жыл бұрын
I'm dealing with someone I don't believe deserves his position right now, but I believe this video opened me up, hopefully I'll be able to continue working with him by putting my ego in check and help get the common goal achieved.
@nohero1782 жыл бұрын
"Being humble goes a long way." Damn straight it does.
@celieboo4 жыл бұрын
I am 40 years old and I am just now learning this.
@gendoikari60624 жыл бұрын
Don't try to steal from that somebody.... Instead; learn from him (her) and be at their service, regardless. Learnt that at 26...worked marvels for me....!
@18ipmg3 жыл бұрын
It’s a good realization to have also knowing what winning and losing is to you personally is a good measured the understand it’s different for everybody.
@destro5311 Жыл бұрын
Damn G! Needed to hear this today! Shout out to jocko and echo for dropping some free game.
@lazenbytim4 жыл бұрын
Yup the last bit resonates with me. So many people get to a position of authority and things become 'beneath' them. I always take out the trash
@markdevlin60904 жыл бұрын
Happens in construction work all the time thanks for the knowledge
@verafides9 Жыл бұрын
Hope y'all are safe out there
@attentionlabel4 жыл бұрын
Being humble goes a looong way
@sterlthepearl10002 жыл бұрын
And don't let them mistake your kindness for weakness.
@authenticfaraz28704 жыл бұрын
1:22 Echo mumbles "bck iN tHe dEy"
@gligorboykov49874 жыл бұрын
amazing lesson about life and our relationships with other people....
@Chris-tg3qy4 жыл бұрын
I agree with this when your heart and head are in the right place. Jocko had a genuine interest in building a relationship with someone who also appears to want a good relationship. The issue is when one party has no desire to build a relationship with you. This does happen and the answer in those situations I think is to go play in another sandbox and build relationships with people who actually want to work with you and not against you.
@TheJewelryReviews Жыл бұрын
Right now I have two people in our lives that unfortunately I have to deal with them. One of them is not a bad person (maybe I’m wrong) and he’s “nice” and polite but I don’t like him and I have strong reasons why. The other one is someone who at first I thought she was a “good “ person but I also have reasons why she’s not, and even though she’s also polite and “nice” with us, I wish I don’t have to deal with them at all. I am genuinely a nice person but I can’t be hypocrite, so my only option is just be polite, courteous, kill them with kindness and just tolerate them, not because I want to but bc it’s the right thing to do as a Christian even if they don’t deserve it.
@mariavelazquez42713 жыл бұрын
Yes, is work for the group, and achieve the goal for the better of all.. ego is only a distraction for our future achievements.
@berkoyt63974 жыл бұрын
You are a powerful human, and a leader. We love you
@cursiv28184 жыл бұрын
Applying this lesson NOW.
@edrace18824 жыл бұрын
Jocko, I wish I had heard these words 6 months ago. This is pure wisdom.
@aussieoffroader19744 жыл бұрын
Day to day i put jocko’s advice into play through various scenarios i have in life. Never yet has the advise let me down. Every time i hear a piece here a piece there i think how can i relate this back in my world. And man oh man its got me promotions respect and above all MISSION ACCOMPLISHED. And thats what i am about getting the best out of myself and my team. Forget these motivational wanna be’s. JW spells it out in full colour for me. When i need some info i just turn into here and shut up and listen..