"Assume that the person you're listening to knows something you don't." Perfect.

"If your life isn't exactly how you want it to be, you have something to learn."

"A Wise man will always learn more from a fool, than a fool can ever learn from a wiseman"

I've been Uber driving for about six weeks. I've found that it is a beautiful opportunity to engage in valuable conversations with complete strangers. The key is to be interested in what a man or woman has to say, and to let that man or woman know you are interested. Picking up crumbs of knowledge and dispensing those crumbs is hugely satisfying. Many riders leave my car happier and more satisfied than they were when they climbed in.

This all comes down to a simple line from Desiderata, "Listen to others, even the dull and the ignorant, they too have their story.."

5:43 talking about the audience being engaged in the conversation, girl sleeping front and center (yellow bracelet) lol

"You can't force someone to be better." There are modern social groups who have yet to embrace this understanding.

Dope sound quality.

"...we're trying to pay attention, enough to see if everyone is engaged in the conversation..." 05:44 - There's a shot of the audience. And I had to laugh because there was a girl in a silver jacket with a fluorescent wristband fast asleep. Love it =)

Just finished listening to his book, amazing man

And what about "How to better record a conversation"? 😳

The girl sleeping killed me🤣🤣🤣

sound guy: "How loud do you want your microphones?" spokespeople: "yes"

Working with a financial expert could truly set you up for life. I'm delighted I was able to contact my coach Karim .E. Karim earlier this year because while others were busy whining about the downturn I was busy cashing out finally making over 370k only for the first quarter of the year.

I have slept too in many lectures but if Jordan peterson was talking in front of me I can stay awake for whole day. 5:43

The fact his talks are free to watch are mind blowing. This man is saving younger men more than he understands. Me included. Thank you so much

this sounds like my conversations back in mw2

It is always efficient to avoid unnecessary conversations. Avoid excessive words, questions & exaggerations.

We are so lucky to have Jordan Peterson and grateful that his family shares him with us

"if your suffering more than you think is necessary, that means that you are more ignorant than you need to be" holy shit that was on the nose.

Unbelievable, a Jordan Peterson video without an unrelated clickbait title. Every time I keep thinking he will tell me the meaning of life and I end up learning something else entirely lol

The topic is almost as amazing as how they change seat positions twice in just 6 minutes without ever getting up.

Every video is about being a better listener and I don't struggle with that. I just don't have anything of value to say. I struggle with starting conversations. I can't just keep starting conversations by asking questions.

The equalizing of the audio is phenomenal: all of the earrape frequencies have been blasted up, and the vocal frequencies have been kicked down it seems. TEACH ME THIS

Bless all of u , because even if you are broken , Stoped , or lost you are here giving your first steps like me , we are toghether in this

A person speaking his mind. A miracle, unbelievable stuff!

5:45 is priceless. JP taking about how if the crowd isn’t engaged then the conversation is pointless....pan to girl in crowd completely unconscious.

When there is demand for knowledge. Even the most valuble knowledge can be supplied in the most casual conversations.

Really like how he talks and thinks I can't stop watching clips like this and others.

I love how he talks about paying the audience attention to see if they’re engaged in the conversation, and the camera cuts to a girl sleeping in the audience at 05:44 XD

The other day i had a great conversation with a guy at a tire shop. About hiswelding carrier. I love it when a guycan just feel comfortable talking about something simple.

A good conversation is one in which both parties realize their innate uniqueness and equal value.

Brilliant insight!! Very thoughtful n dedicated of him to analyse people!

Spent too many years with someone who wouldn't hear me, and would commonly respond with emotionally abusive tactics. Now trying to relearn how to allow others in and have a collaboration and conversation rather than hiding behind the fear and nervously talking about myself. To trust allowing someone to be heard and listened to and take interest in them well, and chance being shut out by another human and made to feel invisible is so hard.

The model outlier ... authentic and oozing the truth about so many aspects of this existence

Prof P. Jordan, Thank You for being the person you are & taking a firm stand on what you believe, think & feel. You talk straight to the souls of us young man. Thank you 🙏🏾. If you were an army general/commander i'ld join the army straight right away & would die in honour under Ur unshaken command.

Jordan: "There seems to be a massive and relatively untapped market for actual conversation." Clubhouse: Oh hi there

What a great conversation

I love how 5:43 was so engaged that she passed out.

the last phrase he says was most profound and significant to me

"You're not listening" by Kate Murphy. Great book that talks about having better conversations. This video reminded me of it :)

Love how Peterson says "Okay.?" when he doesn't agree. He doesn't outright disagree with you but you know he's not on the same page.

The sound quality truly amplified those awesome socks... Guess the original sound guy moved up the dominance hierarchy.

I've been thinking that for longer than I remember.

Also we learn just how much we have in common

2019, the year when someone can be inspiring by knowing how to hold a decent conversation...

Thank you for the information. This improves my communication.

Thanks for sharing this incredible information ❤

Another interesting video - thanks for posting.

I was court mandated drink therapy, i did not take it serious just say what you need to tick the boxes was easy. After years of making an absolutely catastrophe of my life it was finding Jordan Peterson’s ideas and philosophy of life has had a huge impact of my life i believe I’m the best I’ve ever been but getting better every day, even though tough times I strive to make whatever the bad evil situation maybe I make it the best it can be

Man oh man how good this is

For so many years I had this idea of “I know exactly what the other person would say in a particular conversation” so I don’t have to pay any attention to what they want to say, I think that would work if you know that person for so long that you’ll know what they will say about something. But after this video I started to realize that was totally different and that person likely would say something entirely useful and you could learn from it

Listening to everyone, really listening and hoping to join them in their perspective regardless of how you feel about them is quite possibly the most difficult, yet admirable traits to earn. I've known a few people that can do this and it really is earned. Its something you work for with years of practice. It requires patience, compassion, understanding, and a deep innate calm. I personally fucking hate people and don't see myself getting there anytime soon, but one can hope!

These are very good plan points to a conversation. How many of us actually have these types of chats. I see, after reflection, it's very rare in my life. I'm to busy trying to walk my path, to stop and smell the flowers.🤔

Thanks

look how he stares off onto the ground when listening. I’ve seen this before in other people . Gives I’m holier than thou vibes

I can’t wait till I can afford to have him as my therapist 😂

Very enlightening. I needed to hear this

Amazing lessons!

Great video hope it would be all available.

Meaningful conversation and seeking wisdom, a fair assumption that its what we want, it seems that a lot of people my self included were just a pile of mouthbreathers bringing our answers and opinions to the table. Now I dont feel so weird about listening with intent to seek someone elses knowledge and seeing how I can use it was what I loved to do. Finding people to have that conversation with is tough most of the time. Life feels like a Zoo of loose animals,( I'm a bird) so I just like listening to your p.o.v. Sometimes I just cant understand your point, but when I do, oh boy, I see the puzzle differently, like my meditations and where they begin in my mind, is so beyond tv or imagination wow, I knew I was connected with God but you helped me confirm that, I live so far north in Ontario that going to another city to see you speak is a serious goal...hoping for Winnipeg on July 9, or was it 29th...hmmm

Jordan Peterson: “If everyone is engaged in the conversation” Girl with green bracelet (5:45) :

just try to be benevolent at every word. Easy!

Thank you

The girl at 5:44 at bottom of screen looks engaged in the convo

His insight into the Human Condition is amazing

Talking about engagement at the end and there is someone asleep in their chair. Every time I listen to this guy my perception about something is completely flipped. Every time I have some tiny revelation about something that I've never concisely acknowledged

The girl at the bottom on 5:43 is timed perfectly with what peterson is saying right there

Did anyone else notice the girl asleep at 5:40 hahahahaha just when Jordan was talking about engaging with the audience

People are more concerned with the audio quality rather than the message... smh did u receive the message? I certainly gained insight from the clip.

Sound quality heat bro🔥🔥🔥

Living genius & legend

So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand. Isaiah 41:10

5:44 - Does anybody else see the girl sleeping when Jordan talks about people being engaged? I mean, his point is still valid but that is hilarious

So good!

Enjoying conversation is the cheapest luxury ever ,I so enjoy it

Dude. You are one of my heros. Your up there with Elon Musk and Joe Rogan. I love listening to yalls points of views. I learn so much from your videos.

@5:43 that girl looked pretty engaged in her dreams !!

I'm trying reintegrate back into my own family, social structures, etc... I was having an issue with funding a purpose in speaking with people because of the thinking "who really cares, this prob doesn't matter to you so why share it?" in legitimately every conversation I waa having to the pojnt where I just started being short with everyone. No substance just enough to answer what was asked to avoid judgement or confusion. That's life though, finding the answers, finding the purpose. It just gets weird sometimes, I try not to be stoic as a result of the unanswered and assumed and just be glad I'm curious at all. I'd like to shape my curiousity into a more positive tool, just not sure how yet. But I'm learning.

Interesting how the interviewer seems to have acknowledged that engaging with the audience may be an asset given his field of work. He actually shifted his position towards the audience, also, when JP pointed out the reasoning of engaging with them. While JP was talking, he looked something like " You serious? Alright I`ll give it a try, ok, sure, no problem O.o " :))

I like the color of the couches

5:44 "we're paying enough attention to see if you're engaged in the conversation" immediately pans to a girl asleep in her chair

Hello Professor Thank you so much for your help job,i do appreciate your job.I wish you peace and happness under the sky of prosperity. All the best. Take care and have a good time. Your Student from Algeria.

There are so many gurus out there who promise to turn you into the chief ministers of charisma with psychological tricks and techniques, when, in reality, humility and natural intrigue is the key to any conversation.

Peterson is right. The person has to want to be helped and be willing. I've learned that the hard way on more then one occasion that you cannot force it which is difficult if you want to help them badly enough and they are being difficult or even impossible. You care about there well being enough to be a bit aggressive when they forsake themselves and everything that matters and you get less forceful every new person yet when it gets frustrating enough to the point that it feels futile you can get quite amgry about their behavior and its hard to let it go and leave them to their bad choices even if you know that's the only choice they've given you because it feels like your giving up on them but in reality its them who are giving up and you just don't want to sit there and destroy yourself watching them destroy themselves and you.. Which walking away can so very difficult.. Its like the 100 there's a scene where Monty is trying his absolute hardest to change his friend jaspers mind but he is unable to and stays on that track to the bitter end. to be there when jasper drinks a drug that kills himself.. Its a very powerful scene and shows you how bad this situation can get.

Which side is the speaker on, I'm confused

Making assumptions about people is a great starting point

Mics getting so better these days !

5:33 That one lady is sleeping 🤣

How come they switch places in the middle of a sentence?

5:38 "We're trying to pay attention to you at least enough to see if everyone is engaged in the conversation" - Camera pans to audience with girl fast asleep 😂😂

Every person is a whole universe. So why don't get interested about them?❤😊

"We're paying attention to you to see if everyone is engaged" *Cameraman points the camera towards a girl who's sleeping*

Just found this clip and listened and watched and was delighted, as usual, with Prof. Peterson. Then I read the comments. I would say that 90% of them are by people who were so distracted by non-essentials that they completely missed the lessons talked about. So many said the sound was bad, but so what. The voices were still intelligible. If the clip sound quality annoys you to the point of insanity, stop watching! Some saw their counterparts in the audience sleeping, or not engaging, e.g., oh look - Squirrel!!! Didn't like the socks? Who cares what you don't like. Some people enjoy discussions like this and are serious about "learning from conversations." Others, like some of the commenters merely want a free showcase for their disruptive, mean-spirited "jokes" which, unfortunately, are not funny. Peterson, when in his clinical mode, is at his most fascinating and down to earth, and human. Then I have hope for the future.

3:03 - 3:16 ..I have to agree to that.....some people looks like idiots, but sometimes they know something you dont and it is pretty surprising and great

Listen more ... Thank you.

Comments: %90 about the sound %9 about the girl in front %1 quotes from him about the sound 1 comment about the actual interview

Bloody hell thats weird. Why did they flip it

In simple words, one should be meek and teachable.

5:44 - talking about engagement