Him: how old are you Her: I’m 22 Him: why?

This was helpful, I forgot how to socialize after 2020

The more confident you are the less you worry about awkward moments. If theres a pause in a conversation, just let it ride out and chill in the silence. You don’t have to feel awkward about it, its not your job to defend all awkward moments from happening, instead just refuse to acknowledge that its “awkward “

A huge part of small talk is being genuinely interested in the conversation, with whomever it may be.

Me re-learning social skills after spending a year inside

“Talk to someone about themselves and they'll listen for hours.” ― Dale Carnegie

"Joe asks questions which are fun to answer, for example-" *Ad starts* "Wanna watch meerkats without interruptions?" This is single handedly the most useful episode I've watched, thanks guys

'What does this remind me of?' is an excellent authentic approach to continuing a conversation with others you may not have much in common with. That being said, it is also important to drop the conversation when it gets stale or if you hit awkward or unwelcome territory.

We all want to feel funny, valued, and loved.

Joe: How old are you? Guest: 35 Joe: I first did DMT when I was 35

The power of language and expression is incredible. I wish I'd have realized when I was younger how much I absolutely love the dynamic of communication, both verbal and non-verbal and all of the various nuance related to each. It's one of the first things people noticed as we shifted towards more written communication (Email, Text, Comments) that there's no real, for example, sarcasm font. Compared to verbal communication, with tone, inflection, and accompanying mannerisms like a smirk or tilt of the head, written communication is just flat.

Such a good instructional vid. Im a big fan of listening too. So many people start a subject then interject because they're really more desperate to tell you about their experience not actually hear yours . Nobody listens anymore. Joe nails both aspects of conversing and listening. Love the guy.

I used to be awkward around strangers. 10 years as a butcher made me the KING of small talk though. I could entertain everyone and their grandmother. They call me the BUTCHER CLOWN now.

In the middle of a conversation *Pulls out note cards*

Things I learned from this video: 1.) Asking why might be annoying, but is the best way to get the root of the subject and have an interesting conversation. 2.) Laughing is the best way to lighten the mood and take the awkwardness out of the picture. 3.) Compliments are the best way to start a conversation.

Something I've found as well is if I'm talking to someone and feel awkward it's often them not being good with small talk and you end up feeling like you did something wrong.

Her: Hi Him: Hi, nice hair. Her Thanks Him: My back hair reminds me of Khabib Nurmagomedov. Her: Anyway, have a nice day.

1. Grease the wheel early with a compliment. 2. Transition between topics using "reminds me of" thinking. 3. Ping for topics of mutual interest. 4. Get other people excited about the conversation. 5. Create a connection with people while listening.

I honestly think one of there most underrated parts of this channel is there use of caveats and not laying the situations for when you should use each of these. Really loving their stuff rn

This is literally all what I do during my part time as an english speaking teacher in korea. "Why" can be powerful, but don't abuse it. It can become a bit interrogative. Creating a scenario is a good one. Ask "what if" questions. It gives a framework for both parties to create something together.

I used to feel uncomfortable and insecure when I had to small talk. But one day I realized it’s not completely my job to keep the conversation going. It’s just 50/50, cause the other person has to make small talk to. Since then, I don’t feel uncomfortable when there’s is a silence in the conversation. It helped me to relax more and when you’re relaxed, small talk becomes way easier.

1. Grease the wheels early with a compliment. Good energy or a platonic physical compliment. Don't dwell on the compliment or it will seem fake. Make it a genuine one, something you actually think. 2. Reminds me of thinking. Use lateral thinking to transition to something else you both can talk about. Don't know anything about baseball - talk about the atmosphere of a stadium. 3. Pings for topics of mutual interest. 4. Get other people excited about the conversation. Peel the onion. Absorb what is important to them from the innocuous questions. Ask questions that are fun to answer: "What do you?", followed by "Do you like it? 5. Create a connection. Laugh easily. Don't fake it but don't restrict it. Watch something funny before you meet people. 6. Mirroring. Makes them feel heard. Builds rapport. Stay true to yourself ultimately but repeating someone's final words at the end tells them you are listening initially.

I now watch your channel to relearn social skills after years of bipolar depression and isolation. Thank you for making these.

The best think I found is that everyone is interesting in their own way. You can literally talk to just about anyone. All you have to do is listen. That’s it. If you can learn to listen and comprehend which IS a skill. You’re golden

I just realized my social anxiety is so bad that I willfully watched a video on how to talk to other people.

Tell people you can't do small talk. They often agree that they can't either and dive right into interesting stuff.

Thank you for providing me the tools on how to make a conversation awkward for others and keep it that way.

This video is a masterful presentation on charisma and conversations. It does a great job of showing which aspects make Joe so successful as a host. Great video!

me at the bar after watchin this video: "so, where are you from?" "Melbourne." "Why?"

Watching this realizing I do all of this while I’m drunk but am a step away from a brick wall when I’m sober

I watched the bunch of these conversation videos tonight, and this one is by far the best of the bunch. He gives good clear examples to make his point.

My wife is a master at small talk and I just never understood how she did it. She can keep a conversation going for hours with people. Maybe that’s just most women 🤔 . This is helpful for me because I’m an introvert, I avoid parties or places where I’d have to small talk with strangers because it’s so exhausting to me.

This channel should be called "How to be More Like Joe Rogan."

One of the most fulfilling things in life is a solid conversation. You feel like you accomplished something. And you have.

After watching hours and hours and hours of podcast I could tell my conversational skills are better. People have said I am fun and not boring to talk to. I like having super long conversations now.

I disagree with asking people "why" questions. It's subtly confrontational. People tend to have a visceral reaction to "why" as if they're being accused of something--it's very deep and goes back to childhood when parents would ask things like "why did you do that?!" This is not to say you can't ask that kind of question, just avoid the word "why." So change it up by asking "what made you decide to ..." or "what led you to ..."

This video just explained why people on weed r so nice to talk to, they laugh all the time, make crazy question and make a lot of conections between subjects.

me on a date at a restaurant: so, you like food? her: um yeah lol me: are you a foodie? her: not really? me: a fancy word for "foodie" is "epicure" which comes from the ancient Greek philosopher Epicurus...*proceeds to ramble about ancient Greek philosophy and literature for an hour* *notices she's gone; keeps going*

This is a great video. Real valuable points, awesome editing in of the examples and an awesome and relevant suggestion at the end

I watched many of your videos, but I'm a new subscriber. I'm nearly 57 years old, and have always been/ felt a pariah. I have to admit, your observations and advice are eye-opening, even for someone my age. If only I'd had a resource like this when I was younger...

There is a reason why the JRE podcast is the number 1.

I've been mirroring people all wrong. I've been waiting for people to come into bathrooms, and when they do, I smile, make eye contact through the mirror, and say "WHAT BRINGS YOU HERE?!"

Great summary of Joe's technique and strategies. Thanks for putting this all together and sharing.

This video might be the most helpful and practical advice I have ever received on KZfaq EVER. Thank you ❤

There is one BIG note - he knows everything about his guest and he has studied everything about them.He simply knows that he likes cars or wrestling.

You make a lot of good points and Joe is excellent at keeping a conversation going. The biggest advantage Joe has is that all of his guests have agreed ahead of time to spend hours of a day and likely travelled to be there just to talk with him. This changes the whole dynamic in that they are already invested heavily prior to the conversation starting.

I work as a valet in a casino. And small talk is a big part of it. As someone who’s always been an introvert this has been a huge challenge for me

I'm so glad this popped up in my feed. I have been making an effort to be more social, but i don't have great social skills. Obviously, it's not something you're born with; it's something you learn. Joe seems to have a genuine interest in others. That's the first thing i have to grind into my brain. People like it when you seem to genuinely care about them.

“How to appear human” would also be an appropriate role.

Me: Dude I hate Mondays. Stranger: What's the most you ever lost on a coin toss?

As a ND person that doesn't have any usual interest in small talk while putting people into awkwardness, this is groundbreaking for me. Thank you!

Running a podcast like his that's built this massive reputation ain't easy. It's great to take this deep dive. Joe isn't winging all this

asking "Why?" questions gets everyone to open up

"Where do you live?" "Bla bla-" "Why do you live?"

This channel is very helpful! I have created a binge watch on the channel. The contents are top notch !

I was an already very outgoing , talkative and charismatic person. I was still a little awkward sometimes when meeting someone new. I recently have gotten my first job as a waiter. I have been doing this for about 6 months and I undoubtedly feel more confident (then I already was) talking to new people and being able to communicate in a nice polite way that makes people have an enjoyable energy when I am speaking with them. PARENTS 1000% recommend pushing something in service industry as a first job for kids like me to grow and become independent when communicating with people. I find myself when with my parents introduce me to new people I instantly make a good impression and leave a good thought of myself to them. Great for networking and building VALUABLE communication skills with people

How socially anxious people make small talk: “How are you?” “I’m good.” “...Nice talking to you(man, I’m such a legend!)”

Social and financial skills are such important skills to have and will be helpful to get you the most out of life!

Its crazy how I've been doing some of these things subconsciously, interesting to see how people analyze these things

I really appreciate your videos. As someone with mild Asperger's its frustrating recognizing how awkward a conversation is and not having the means to fix it. I'm really, really thankful for this.

As "the quiet guy" that speaks when spoken to, this helps alot, thanks

"Hi how are you?" "High, how are you?"

A head injury solved all my previous social weirdness, literally felt like a new man. Interesting videos bud. 👍👍

I cant afford the program but I love your videos, they've helped me identify what kind of person i am at a basic level and how to capitalize off that type. Im not the most energetic out there person so I always felt like I'd always fade into the background no matter what. Thanks a lot guys!

I was just googling how to not be awkward in a coversation and then I get the notification for this video right after, amazing thank you!

Joe is highly underrated as a communicator. He comes off as crude to some, but he is highly intelligent and will methodically work you into a corner if you’re spitting B.S. and then masterly backs off and redirects once he tore you down, but before you get too combative. It’s a roller coaster to watch him play with some people!

Amazing knowledge. Thank you so much. I will be applying this next time I go on a date.

We all know why we are here - we all hate small talks but feel the compelling need to learn them anyways in the most direct and step by step manner

Solid points, especially the mirroring. Making the person feel heard and generally continuing the conversation.

small talks actually really easy if you don't care what other people think about you and just have enough confidence in yourself

This is possibly my favorite KZfaq channel. Your teaching skills are 🔥🔥🔥🔥🏆🏆🏆🏆🥇!

I feel really lucky a lot of these things came naturally to me but for some people like selectively mute people it's so difficult

I'll have to gain social skills through watching videos instead of interacting with people

I grew up super extroverted but realized as i became an adult that i have horrible conversational skills. You are a life saver

I think this video will definitely help my social skills and my ability to converse with others, after being homeschooled for a few years it's hard to make friends.

1. when you first meet, compliment them. examples are thank you so much for being here; I love being around people like you, you are going for sht all the time and it’s amazing because you give out so much energy; nice to meet you; congrats on the engagement. Compliments to avoid: sexual, making a compliment we don’t mean, Don't dwell on compliments; it means when conversation focuses more on the compliment than the actual topic. Especially with high-status people who oftem receive compliments, they might not value them much. It's better to swiftly shift from the compliment to the main conversation topic. 2. Smoothly transition to new topics: employ the "reminds me of" technique. When asked a question, use your answer as a way to steer the conversation to a new topic in relation to the previous topic. This is done by mentally asking yourself, "What does this remind me of?" Dont just answer the question, elaborate. if you were asked a question about a topic that you’re not interested in, use lateral thinking to transition to something else. an example of this would be: Interviewer: “are you a fan of baseball crowd noise?” Interviewee: “No I’m not a fan of the noise. I hated when cars do that. They…” 3. mentioned topics that you think you both have interest: Talk about topics that you like and if the other looks excited, then keep it going. don’t talk about stuff if you don’t think the other is going to like. 4. getting other people excited about the conversation: don’t ask yes-no questions. instead, ask “why” question to get someone talking about what they value. Ex: where do you live? Why do you live there? Ex: what do you do for work? Why did you decide to do that? This way, you can hear what’s important to them and you can center the topic around that. 5. Ask questions that are fun to answer like what-ifs, if you, hypothetical, favorite, would you rather, personal stories, 6. create a connection with people while talking: allow yourself to laugh, but don’t think laugh. Laugh when you find something funny. 7. make the other feel heard by mirroring. it’s when you repeat the last few words that the other person said. Its a way to interrupt it without ignoring the other person.

Joe is making "small talk" with people that can be searched up online and see what talking points can be good so the conversations dont just halt. When you meet someone for the first time you just have to figure it out.

I forgot how to act with people when my dad started putting me down treating me like s*** and having no sense of worth so forth so thank you for this

Thats funny this video resonates with me because I’ve been using these practices in introspection. And now I realize I can use them in social situations too.

Love the use of examples, very cool and makes sense immediately 👍

Waitress: Enjoy your food! Me: You too! 🤦🏻‍♂️

"How old are you?" "I'm 25" "Why are you 25" "uhm..." *fecc mission failed, we'll get 'em next time*

1. Compliment more 2. To transition between topics use "reminds me of [something else]" 3. Dig deeper with "why" questions 4. Ask interesting/funny questions 5. Mirror last three word someone said to interrupt without being rude or to make them feel heard

I really like advice about laughing. I were pretty serious all the time with strangers and it was pretty hard to open to the others. But I see now that you should take it easy and laughing if you like something and just be chill

In the beginning of the conversation, 1. Grease the wheels by giving them a compliment of either their Work, Energy, Or Physical Appearance. Do not make it too sexual, and think of a genuine compliment to those who may be complimented a lot. 2. Use reminds me of thinking. When you are in a conversation think to yourself what does this most remind me of, could be an object, a movie, an actor, or a funny appearance, and use lateral transition to something the both of you could enjoy talking about. 3. Ping things to other topics of interest, create a web of ideas and thinking that stems from whatever was mentioned. until you find mutual common interests. 4. get people to become excited about the conversation once they are speaking. Peel back the onion and ask deeper why questions. For them to tell you why and what is important to them. 5. Create a connection/ let them make you laugh. Allow yourself to laugh when they talk, don't fake laughter let it be genuine. 6. Mirroring, repeating the last 1 - 3 words to make them feel heard. Do not do it too often stay true to yourself and don't copy every sentence. It is a way to interrupt while allowing them to feel heard and to build rapport.

There was a time in 2020 that for around 8 months I only socialized with the food delivery guy and I once forgot how to talk to them

I love finally learning what I missed in my younger years..this is great ..esp Joe's chat style...Sean Evans of "Hot Ones" is a great interviewer to follow as well💥

It’s kind of crazy how when I was a kid I use to be so terrible at talking in general, especially to women I was interested in. But as I grew older it just sort of came naturally and what I see in this video is exactly with a few more things I never new about. So I’m interested to see how much of an improvement my conversations are with this current girl I’ve just started talking to

All I think is. This silence hurts you more than it does me. Therefore I thrive in the awkward silence

As a barber who small talks for a living, this was cool to see someone else described those little things i see in small talk. Great video!

The reason why a study like this is good but then it won't help as much is because people would want to try this out but forget one thing: Joe means what he says when he says it. If your goal is to woo someone just to woo them and have them make small talk with you, compliment all you want, they'll sense something being off. Joe pulls it off because he's genuine. So I'd say be a fan of someone, learn about them and only approach or expect this to work if it's coming from you heart.

Best video on this topic yet. Keep up the good work

Not to mention Joe does something I absolutely love and wish every person did which is they act like they've known you forever and are super warm, friendly, joyful toward you right when they meet you, and it doesn't feel like there's an invisible awkward wall between the two of you. I try and do that but man social anxiety doesn't make it easy.

Watching this as a social person, I literally learned about things I do naturally but never knew why I was doing them.

This has been a great vid thanks. Really usefull.

It's good to know a little bit about a lot of topics. It makes finding that common subject.

I DON'T KNOW WHY THIS WAS IN MY RECOMMENDED BUT THIS ADVICE IS EXACTLY WHAT I NEED AFTER BEING ANTI-SOCIAL FOR A YEAR NOW. THANK YOU!!!

Thank you so much for making this channel! I have honestly seen a HUGE improvement in my social life, confidence, and even self image! I finally feel like I can talk to anyone I want. I used to feel like I was socially awkward, but not anymore!!!

Step 1: talk about grizzly bears

TAKE IT SLOWWWW. Don't talk and act out of pressure and anxiety, try to stay collected and on top of things. Best thing you can do for small talk.