i was so disappointed when i saw that this was played by an actor :( but then i remembered that a person with social anxiety would never agree to be filmed during such a vulnerable moment.

I hate to have social anxiety. I lose opportunities because I’m too scared to take risks. I’m scare ALL the time if there’s people watching, because I feel like they are judging me. I can’t walk normal in public, I feel that I need to walk some type of way, that all the eyes are on me, and not in a cocky way. I only have three closest friends, and I don’t like to spend a lot of time with other people. I don’t like big groups of people, I don’t feel comfortable. I get nervous when I have to talk in public, my heartbeat raises, my palms get sweaty, I feel like I’m gonna pass out. When I was getting into an online class the teacher asked me something and I knew the answer, but I was too scared to say it and for it to turn out wrong so what I did was to disconnected from the meeting, and later I gave the excuse that my internet failed. I’m not shy, I don’t consider myself shy, but I’m a nervous girl. I don’t want to talk about it with other people because, again, I would feel judge. Because I think they are going to say something like :” it’s okay, don’t be dramatic.” Or “this is normal” but I know me, and this is not “normal” because I feel this way always, I live with fear and I always try not to show it. Hope someone else can relate.

I literally felt like no one understood me for years until I realized what I was living with and dealing with everyday, was a real thing. I felt judged for years sometimes it was so hard I wouldn’t leave my house for weeks. I’ll never forget all the times I would sit in the Walmart parking lot trying to summon the courage to go in and get something I need.. only to sit anxiously in my car for 30 mins and then drive back home. Social anxiety isn’t just being nervous before public events. It’s overthinking every little thing you do in every social interacting Every little conversation you had and what you said and how you said. It’s a battle within your mind every single day that leave you feeling mentally drained

My biggest problem is my mind going blank due to being overwhelmed. Every 1 second pause is like 10 seconds in my head

After watching this video, I realized that people don't notice my anxiety that much. Today was my presentation. I was afraid. My heart was racing, but then, I told myself that people can't see the red face and the nervousness when I speak. To confirm this, I recorded my voice 4-5 times to see how my voice sound like when I am anxious. I did so good. Thank you so much!

I've had this my whole life it's depressing.

One thing I've realised is that people with social anxiety are very nice, caring, good hearted people and I'd rather know them then some other big headed, loud mouthed people.

I've been considering CBT therapy for social anxiety. Let me preface this by saying that I think social anxiety can totally be improved and worked on and you can really turn things around if you put the work in. It can get better. I think a major trap a lot of people with social anxiety fall into is that they settle for less. They spend all of their time and energy on just getting by. They force themselves to do just enough to survive and for their loved ones to think they're doing okay or at least okay enough (they force themselves to do just enough to be able to pay the bills, do the shopping, and make necessary calls, but there's no energy left for things like meeting new people with similar hobbies, or dating, or going for that job interview). Just doing what you have to do to survive is so EXHAUSTING. It really blows my mind to think about the idea that most people don't think twice about these things. And they aren't miserable the whole time they're doing them. Getting through the day can feel like you're going to battle and possibly to your death. Every day. Sometimes I think, 'Is it supposed to be this HARD?' It really wears you down, but you're so focused on just getting through the moment that you don't realize how tired you are. And then one day ten years has passed and you realize you've spent a decade putting all of your energy into just getting by. Energy that could have gone toward bigger dreams and more fun and feelings that actually feel good. That's really sad and I guess not how life is supposed to be. I guess my point is that I think therapy would probably help a lot, but a lot of people with social anxiety may not consider it because they've been getting by. But life isn't supposed to be miserable the whole time.

Maybe the problem is, everyone is so fake and it feels so forced trying to have conversations with random people that it does make you feel uncomfortable because it’s just not how you role. Some people are born into this world as fake ass MF, others are just real to the core, hard for other to be fake when a real person enters the room, maybe that’s the reason you feel awkward because people have to take their masks off. Keep being you, surround yourself with understanding people and be proud of who you are. So long as you are trying to be the best you can be each day, that’s all you can do. Don’t beat yourself up about your past, live in the moment, learn to die while you are still alive so you can truly live without the fear of death, then you can start to become fearless. Stay strong

I have social anxiety disorder, and I hate it! I got promoted in my job and in my new position I have to speak in public and give meetings and the thought of it freaks me out, with my new schedule I have the opportunity to go to college and I had the option of doing it online and I decided to go on campus, now I’ve never been to college so I’m terrified, but I have to fight this ! I’m gonna beat it and it will not control my life anymore!

It's funny how the psychologist was suggesting that the girl's anxious bodily sensations weren't as obvious to others as she thought and that's its all just in her head, but for me mine is obvious because when you hear people say to you "Hey, are you okay?" after you turned really red, or "are you nervous?" after you try to make conversation, then you resort to just keeping to yourself so you don't have to feel like you're fuckin weird in every social situation, and even with that you can't win because they say to you "you're too quiet".... Then you just get tired of even trying anymore...

Good actor. I felt vicarious anxiety for her before I know she was an actor.

I'm tired of it..

I've had social anxiety for years, now I'm 25 and still in the same situation, I feel useless and stuck in my thoughts all the time, don't have any friends and family doesn't really understand social anxiety and says I will get over it if I just try. My life is just going in circles and the years are going by and I'm just stuck in the same place. Feeling like this just sucks and I don't know what to do.

I've had social anxiety my whole life, it's gotten to the point where I can't go to school and talk in front of my classmates, my parents have no idea what's going on, I try my best to hide it, but when it happens I get extremely red, I shake like crazy, I start crying and I can't stop myself. It's really embarrassing and I'd give anything to make it stop. However, in this video it's different when she talks with one person and it's rehearsed, she tried to control herself and they had been talking for a while before so she probably started feeling safe talking with her at least a little. If she was in a group of people or one person, it doesn't matter, I think she would have really had those symptoms, but only if it was more natural so the mind could really think it's in danger (fff response as you all probably know happens).

To those suffering right now, I shake in sweaty solidarity. It's horrific and unhinging to experience. We are in this together.

Shouldn't this be made with a real victim of social anxiety. It just feels more relatable and soothing to see a real person in the same situation, rather than an actor. I just related to her for a minute, and then realizing she is an actor from reading the comments, felt kinda lonely again..

When being asked a question by a teacher, my mind sometimes go blank (even being asked about my own name and basic knowledge). So I seem like I don’t know the answer to it or I’m just dumb. But no. It’s because of this :(

Too many people have laughed at me when I shake. It is impossible for them to understand when such a simple situation can make me shake. I have developed so many strategies to hide my disorder.

This was really good. I have SAD & could relate to the patient especially her memories of school. I would freak out when the teacher would tell us to get into groups & I had no one to join. You have the most soothing voice!

I've been suffering from social phobia for so long that I eventually developed eye phobia! It's just got worse for me! I'm so tired!

I'm 58 now and only found out I suffered from this about 10 years ago so I have been suffering all my life just thinking I was shy. It wasn't until I got a job and had to use the phone occasionally that I decided to do some research online about that particular issue. Whilst researching I came across Social Anxiety issues and a list to see if you suffered from any of the symptoms and I ticked most of the boxes. I could have cried when I realised thst I had this condition and that there was a name for it and there were thousands just like me.

I don't like opening up it's even hard on the internet when i watch a video i'm too scared to comment because I feel like I'm being judged. At school I try to be as quiet as possible when the popular girls wave at me I'm very quiet and while I'm saying hi my voice comes out shaky. I feel uncomfortable around people I can't be myself I feel alone all the time and I've had this my whole life I know the teachers are getting concerened but I can't tell them and I'm too scared to tell my mom because I don't know how she will react I feel like everyone hates me all the time

I’m honestly not sure if I have social anxiety disorder. I love to socialize with friends and family but whenever I’m alone I start looking back on the conversations I’ve had with others no matter whoever they may be, and I start overthinking about the smallest things I do or say in the conversations and I get overwhelmingly anxious. Anxious about if I made someone not like me as much or how do they really feel about me. That anxiousness causes a shit ton of self esteem issues and I start to hate myself for not doing as good. After that although I don’t get anxious or shy really to socialize with other people, my conscious tells me “Yo, you need to do really good or they’ll hate you. If you fuck up they won’t like you anymore. They’ll want to stop hanging around with you.” And it gives me a ton of pressure so then whenever I inevitably make a mistake no matter how small, I start to panic in the back of my mind and it takes everything in me to hold myself back from flat out crying sometimes after making even the smallest mistake in a conversation. I’ve turned to porn, youtube, video games, anime, manga, etc and although they’ve helped me a lot it’s really not enough to keep me from hating myself and worrying an absurd amount about my relationships with friends and family. I’m thinking about seeing a physiatrist but I’m really nervous about the idea of getting my parents and other family involved in my own problems and I don’t wanna worry them any. Wasn’t really expecting to make such a long comment, just wanted to get this off my chest lol.

Shaking and unable to say what I want properly happens to me when it's over a person I like.

I absolutely hate my social anxiety. It gives me such a weak filter, which makes my dad look down on me because he doesn't understand what it's like to have a disorder like this. Having Social anxiety prevents me from doing things that I really wanna do. This is the reaosn I hate going to stores by myself. I couldn't speak up even if my life depended on it, and I hate it.. I'm always seen looking down When ever waking anywhere within a huge crowd. Because of this. I was never able to ask my teachers any important questions because I was afraid of looking dumb. Whenever this happens I sweat like crazy and mumble to myself. Even when I just tell someone not to worry about it, that even triggers my nerves even more. I can't help it, it really makes me uncomfortable.

I think one of main reasons of social anxiety is that constant fear that people might judge you or find your insecurities. But let me tell you that ignore those fears and don’t worry about that what if they judge or find your insecurities. You truly know yourself, you know your abilities. You have to believe in yourself.

I suffer from social anxiety since i was a child; no friendship, no love, it's not funny. I have many interests, and this makes loneliness more bearable, but I'm sad for all the opportunities I loose, and all the love and good things I could give to others but i don't find the right way. I'm my own prison; i hope i'll find a way to run away someday and start enjoying life.

Hi judith, i think it is incredible what you are doing with these videos! Keep up the good work

Wow!!! I really liked this. The way I’d put it is that you used the “scientific method” to determine whether your clients notions of her behavior and her impact on others was accurate. Overall, I consider this intervention to be SUPET-effective. You moved right into the heart of your clients world-view and challenged her without provoking her defensiveness. Really, really good stuff. I’ll be thinking of this video the next time I’m working with a client who’s got an unrealistically negative view.

These are amazing, perhaps I can learn to be a better listener and less judgemental. The therapist in these videos is sooooo lovely.

My god, now i can see how people might be seing me, and why they instantly get uncomfortable, and how i must change my body language. thank you so much

I want to hug her and make her feel comfortable and to let her know she is loved and accepted

So brave for letting us watch! 🤍

I leant a lot from watching this on a condition that I know lots of people suffer from. Thanks for sharing 👍

I'm just about to finish my fda in counselling and was looking for an experiment for my cbt assignment. fantastic video has helped me lots.

Wow the actress is doing a really good job, especially when you see her behave very differently in other videos

I'm anxious that people would see me as stupid that's why I tend to be quiet. Everytime I go out I need to have a script incase I need to talk to someone. If something unexpected happens, my mind goes blank and I don't have anything to say. My mind is slow, it really needs time to process every information.

aw I feel like giving these people a huge hug

My defense mechanisms in the moment are similar to hers. But when I get home from work, is where the real defense comes in and where the real destruction is. I use porn, masturbation, tv/KZfaq, isolation as methods to escape the world and get as far away from the awkward, insecure, social anxiety memories from the week of work. And I spend the weekend running and hiding, dreading Monday. Any suggestions?

I purchased a hidden camera to keep an eye on my children while I’m at work. I’m selling baby birds and forgot the camera was there so when I watched it to check on the kids, I seen how I acted . I cried! I’m here because I’m searching ways to control my anxiety and this was not at all how I acted. I was sweating so bad it was running down my face. Then... I made up stupid excuses as to why I started sweating profusely. The looks on their faces said it all when I left the room to get something. I swear people think I’m on drugs. It looks like I’m on drugs. I can’t control it no matter how hard I try.

Watching this in a bar carpark on my own at 9pm on a cold winters night as I desperately struggle to even move myself knowing how many people are in there

For any body suffering with this problem. I have a few tips that might help VITAMINS: b6, b12, are d3 and magnesium are know to reduce sweating and increase mood in the brain and reduce anxiety and fish oil. SEROTONIN: consider taking htp 5 as it's a precursor to Serotonin ( a feel good supplement) that reduces anxiety. TEA: sage ,Chamomile, green tea (decafe), and valerian root are know as natural antiperspirants and calms anxiety EXERCISING: when you exercises it releases natural Serotonin levels as well as an endomorphin chemicals to the brain that creates physical relaxation as well as taking out stress (weight lifting, jogging) you name it. AVOID: sugars, spicy food, definitely caffeine as it's responsible for anxiety sweating. EAT: greens like spinach, or kale. Anything that's green, they are Rich in magnesium Or eat healthy in general. Also eat probiotics, anxiety can be caused by a bloated stomach, so considering adding probiotics to your diet. ANTIPERSPIRANTS: consider buying antiperspirants for the face or other parts that are of concern. Carpe is a really good product that I like to use. Here's the link mycarpe.com/ also no sweat scalp antiperspirant is a good product for those who want results fast hairtape.com/ Difference between both? Carpe reduces pores up to 70% after 4 weeks of consecutive use. as opposed to the other product, it will clogge your pores for 24hrs Both should be applied at night after a shower before bed. I really hope you find these tips useful, and don't give up i wish the very best to all of you people who suffer from the dreaded feeling🙏

I have social anxiety and I learned not to care what other people think even when I come off as weird or nervous but I have too much pride to accept that I'm not comfortable around another human being who is just like me. Eventhough I learned not to care I still get angry when someone sympathizes with me or even worse look down on me. What a shit disorder

I often used to be known as the super quiet and shy kid in class, couldn’t speak to anyone I didn’t know, can hardly socialise, when I got put in group work I hated it and my heart would always race and I’d feel this overwhelming feeling of nervousness, honestly it was more than just shy. I’ve grown up with people telling me you just need to be more confident, you need to speak up more, you’re just shy don’t worry etc. My anxiety isn’t as bad as when I was a kid/teen, but I will definitely not be 100%

I appreciate all the comments here it’s all very supportive. Mine has been triggered by traumatic life events and all these years has improved gradually but I still suffered from it. I turned to alcohol and that has come to a pint where I’m hitting a bottom while at the same time having a rebirth. I have many alcoholic traits that have brought me to realize that the drinking is itself and addiction now but it has also come from unresolved childhood and youthful wounds. I know that the more I’m zooming in on my healing and the deeper I can look and heal the greater I can be my authentic self. Being comfortable in my own skin is all I’ve ever wanted my whole life. I’ve never had that. I asked God to give me this and lead me to it and I will let go of the alcohol. I can see that he is working this miracle in my life. We can all find healing and a path out of the darkness of anxiety disorders. When I was a teen there was nothing out there to help. Now the internet is full of help and there are so many people talking about it. I prayed for a day when this would happen and I’m grateful to be alive to see it

I m really glad i watched your videos and i like it very much. Your methods are incredible and i feel relieved even after watching this video. It's like i m looking in the mirror. the patient talks about everything that is happening to me. You are an excellent doctor. Please do a lot more videos.

I feel like they should have had someone else act that out with her she had never met and hadn’t been comfortable with her doctor , she was obviously comfortable talking with her , and it’s almost like an act . My anxiety happens everyday but In the most random of places and even at home while I’m alone I may get a bad panic attack

i want to become a clinical psychologist

You are an excellent therapist! I wish you were mine!!

I had to read an essay in front of the class. When I first started reading it, my voice was shaky and I was sweating and dizzy, and by the end, I was crying. :)

You can really notice she's so nervous I can feel her

Yesterday was an extremely embarrassing moment for me, I tried going to a Halloween party and I only knew one person there and 10 minutes in I was freaking out I went outside a couple of times so I can relax away from everyone. When I went back in I was glued to my phone and I wouldn’t make eye contact with anyone, when more people showed up I told my friend that I think I forgot to lock my car door when I know I didn’t and as soon as I got in the car I started busted out crying. Which ruined my Halloween make up meaning I couldn’t go back in even if I wanted to because it looked like I was crying. I was trying to think of an excuse to just leave but I ended up texting her the truth and I haven’t heard from her since I was too embarrassed to tell her in person.

I relate so much to this girl. I've suffered pretty severe social anxiety since adolescence. my name is also Hannah lol

For anime lovers : Komi can’t communicate is an excellent anime who’s show a young girl named Komi whos also have a problem to communicate due to social anxiety. I highly suggest this show to understand this type of anxiety.

I figured she was an actors based on how well her social skills are and how much eye contact she was giving. I figured she was either really comfortable with the other lady or that she was an actor

After years of avoiding people I would like to make the suggestion that you gave it the best you can. I got to the point I was peeing around corners to make sure no one was around and ducking and dodging people. I am now no longer young and wished I dealt with it in my teens.

I think I have social anxiety (and maybe depression)? Ok so I wrote a whole lot before, but it got deleted which is annoying but: I’ve tried to tell my mum about this once, whilst nearly tearing up (it took me a lot of courage to say that), but she literally told me that I’d get over it and I can’t be like that. Like wtf?? And thing is, I’ve been like this since the start of high school (11), so it’s been around 5 years now. So no, I still haven’t gotten over it. I often get nauseous, my heart would thump really fast or experience heart palpitations(?) like really bad. Even the thought of having to talk to someone, gives me the feeling of my heart dropping to my stomach. And it doesn’t even matter if it’s in 4 hours or 2+ days. I’d also often avoid eye contact and use any excuse to look at something else (for example if something dropped), to get my eyes on that instead. When I would be told by the teacher, to talk in front of the class, I sometimes hear sniggering. That just lowered my self esteem a lot. Especially one time, when I heard a teacher telling them off for doing so, I know they mean good, but it made it a lot worse for it just proves how clear the sniggering was. Another time, a teacher told me off really loud because I had another subject’s work on my table (I wasn’t even looking at it, I was looking at the screen) and was shouted at, to put my work on her desk. As I did, people were LITERALLY SNIGGERING SO LOUD and it was the worse day for me. I silently cried during the rest of the lesson, but put effort to not show the tears, as I didn’t want to attract attention or seem selfish. The teacher had anxiety herself, so it was just awful how she did not imagine if she were me in that position, and how anxious I was when walking to her desk and back. (P.S she was also very bad at teaching imo.) All of these type of negative situations literally made my self esteem worse over the years, therefore making me extremely lazy/not being bothered with anything (maybe why I would have symptoms of depression too?) and constantly paranoid about my looks (thinking that people are always looking at me and judging me for my appearance even when they’re probably not), despite not taking care of myself and dressing nicely. There are so many other things I could talk about, but this is just a few things that have bothered me… And btw, I’m able to say this out here because nobody knows my real identity, otherwise I don’t think I would be able to openly say this with anyone. I want to get diagnosed, but I don’t have the courage to tell my parents about SAD and if they were to book an appointment, I don’t know if I could handle talking to a complete stranger about my personal issues, due to obviously, my suspecting Social anxiety. I’d also probably cry which is also embarrassing. 🙁 Can anyone give me advise on how to get this diagnosed of someone please?? I don’t want to keep assuming. I want to get it diagnosed and get the closure I need, also being able to have medical proof to excuse me in certain situations. I apologise for this annoying long comment, but I’ve been bothered about this years. Thank you for reading…

Good on you hannah , you seem really great talking and not shaking or sweating etc , I suffer with social anxiety also.

I can feel your pain, because I also suffer from it. It’s very painful

1:30 What exactly does it mean "to communicate properly with the people"? I feel there is a key piece of information in the answer.

I have social anxiety and I’ve gathered worksheets for doing CBT before and after exposure, I wonder if I do this enough I would be able to get rid of it, wish there were a path I could see if I’m heading right

I dont know if what i am suffering from is shyness or social anxiety .i do look normal and confident when i talk with ppl that i don know and knew i am not gonna meet them after that..i start shaking and looking down in several times :1)at the begging when i meet sb i knew and it has been long time since we last met especially if i do care about hem but i after a while(it depends on the person if he start chatting) i return to act normal 2)when i talk in front of many ppl or if i joined a big talk and it comes my turn to start talking (even if they are my best friends) 3)in the online classes when the teacher ask me to read some thing(although i am a bookworm and ppl do like my reading voice and i shut down the camera so no one is looking at me ) i start shaking all over my body and read very very fast then my voice start fading till i couldn't talk at all

I have been dealing with social anxiety since i was small, i think my kinder or first grade. Growing up a mommas boy and always wanting to be with her, getting her approval’ really messed me up. I always had friends, but the more i grew up i became an outkast.. high school was horrible and adulthood even worse. The same exact panic attacks she described is what i get occasionally, if its bad’ i will get red hot, sweat and not be able to breathe. I never been confident and always worried about what people think of me. so im sure that is my biggest issue..i dont plan on getting help with meds, i know my day will come where I beat this anxiety

I suffer from an anxiety disorder.I never realized that I had terrible social anxiety, it totally makes sense.

That's why people tend to isolated themselves. Let's be kind to people

When you're sitting with the therapist u feel less weird less anxious cuz they know u have them. You'll feel comfortable around them. But it's way much worse when you are surrounded by people

Thank you for your great videos. However, I'm not sure how realistic it is the recording and interaction with you with a camera in your office, since she's not really in her job setting. So, is this really a good sample to disproof some of her false beliefs? What I mean: She will probably act different in your office than she would in her work setting, since she already feels comfortable with you etc. Thanks for the reply in advance, and keep up with the great work.

i have the same problem 😭😭 it is NOT fun to live with for sure. but the most bothering thing to me is the turning red thing. cause that way it's soo obvious that i feel uncomfortable and people seeing that makes me even more anxious:( pleaseeee if someone knows how to get rid of the redness, i am down for an operation or something like that, anything to heal from this:'( cause i hate it soooo much. makes me cut a conversation at a random point and it's weird:(

Thanks,doc.I'll try this in reality,hope it works.

I'm truly enjoying watching this series of videos. Good job. Very helpful.

i realized just now that i have social anxiety/anxiety since i was 6 Years Old, i remember i need to pee but i can't Stand up because i feel like people will care or scold me so i stayed and peed there💀 it's worse now

I hate living with social anxiety and just anxiety overall. I hate feeling so nervous and fucking up my speech when i present infront of people. I wasn’t always like this before. I suffered trauma in elementary school because my teachers would pick on me or make me look stupid infront of my classmates and from there i just felt anxious about everything. Seeking help is expensive and not everyone can afford therapy. I dont wanna take medication, i tried cbd oil yet i still feel anxious when i present. Tbh idk what to do anymore. I feel like i can’t seek a career without feeling anxious

😆😭 I don't know what wrong with me, last night I tried joining a Discord group voice call for the first time, i dunno, everytime I tried to turn on my mic to speak I loose my voice, I ended up turning my mic on/off couple of times. Sheez I really Don't have the Courage, even though it's only 6 of us in the VC, but I still end up speaking after a very long time, cuz they're all forcing me, my voice keep on stumbling, after saying some words, I can't even join the conversation, I can't even say some words properly, I'm so nervous, feel like am having panic attacks so just turned off my mic and leave, I Feel really bad, my very first voice call, didn't end up well. I keep on crying, I can't be like this, I don't wanna be like this 😓😢😭

CBT helped me so much in overcoming my social anxiety., espescially exposure therapy. Great video, thank you.

i’m okay when i feel uncomfortable or nervous around other people (bcs im not used to be around them) but when it comes to my own family members and my friends, i just felt like something is wrong with me. Like i’m supposed to not feel nervous when i’m around my own family but i just felt like it. Even the way express myself towards them i just felt uncomfortable 😞

People dont realize that people with social anxiety start to gain self-hatred through time. Im speaking from experience

I don't know if I have this but alot of the symptoms I very much relate to. My hands go red and sweaty in social times idk why. if i am very nervous they will turn purple with orange dots. It's so bad. I try to avoid shaking someones hand or out of all costs or any sitaution that will make my hand closer to another persons hand. I don't know what this is called. If you can relate to this please let me know what it is.

Omg... She can't be an actor. I can't believe my eyes. Everything relates my situation.

If this is something you go through Nicotine Dolls just released a visual EP "Sex, Addiction, & Everyone Else" that talks about it.

That's not how a social anxious person acts!!! I have social anxiety and socialphobia and i can't make direct contact with people at all. It hurts to even look alittle. I can't control myself, my body around others. I start acting awkwardly and it gets worse the more they stare I feel like i want to die and I feel this choking sensation and your heart starts to beat faster. Like I went to talk to a therapist once and I did not like it she asked me questions and I couldn't even look at her for that long and couldn't find the right words to say.

I hope everyone who had anxiety can manage it.

I have also anxiety issues. Like before going out I have severe nausea and constipation. I spent half an hour in the washroom before going out. I feel sort of gases in my stomach. And once I am in public I am all well. I am a good speaker, a good presenter and I know all these things but still I have severe anxiety issues.

Now I know, why I don't have a job up until now, Even though I practice what I would say in an interview. But when I'm actually there and the interviewer is looking at me, I get very nervous that my mind get blank and I can even say properly what I practice.

My problems occur once my relationships fail, I over analysis the whole relationship and question myself what I could have done differently in the relationship then I cannot focus on other things as my mind just constantly runs why me what have I done wrong to not have this relationship not work, My relationship lasted 7 months, it came to an end 3 weeks ago and I’m still going over it all in my mind, I’ve spoken to a few friends and they have said it’s not you it’s them but that doesn’t change my mind set

This is so strange so when I was going through a rough patch About two years ago I though fuck it I’ll have to try CBT, in one of my early appointments the therapist literally copied this exercise word for word, it’s almost given me flashbacks. I kinda feel like I’ve been played or something, like she must have watched this video an just recycled it? I mean I suppose it’s an exercise they are trained to do but thinking back it feels a bit disingenuous. I ended up stopping after about 4-5 sessions, ironically I was to anxious to carry on and tbh the role playing an the “exposure therapy” was a bit degrading. Still suffer to this day but I don’t think I could do it again.

This problem made my life so bad. Feeling I'm not fit for this society

I do felt all from childhood...But now at 43 i found it's social anxiety disorder which is still killing me...

Hannah is a great actress.

I never graduated because of my social anxiety. I went to university, having new classmates, it was very uncomfortable around them. I just stop attending class and stop learning. Bought PS2 and go to my uncle house. He was unmarried and loved me so much. I could do everything in his house. My mom just thought I was going to the university regularly. I failed 2nd year. Next year, I repeated doing the same things as last year. Failed again. If I failed for the third time, the university would expel me. I thought I would be going to the class regularly in next year. But I repeated doing same things again for 3 years. When the final exam comes I know nothing what to answer. Coincidentally I got fever and diagnosed with TB in the second day of exam. I have my own excuse to tell other people that I got TB and didnt graduate. But I only know the true reason why I fail not only graduation but also the opportunities of my life.

After seeing this... now I am fully convinced that I don't have social anxiety disorder thanks god. In no way I'd behave like this in public. I wish her the best! Instead being an extroverted introvert....well.. your expectations/imaginations are responsible why things don't go your way.

I'm going through the same thing and I don't even know where to begin explaining how my life is right now, please if there is anyone out there who can help me please I will do anything to make this go away

Hey everyone, I’m currently trying to find out how one could make the lives of socially anxious men a lot easier ;) Which is why I have two very simple questions: 1. As someone struggling with social anxiety, what are the 2 biggest issues you’re dealing with? 2. Regarding your social anxiety, what would you wish for more than anything else? Thanks so much in advance - looking forward to reading your answers!

awww bless, she's so pretty and seems like such a nice person

I worry about that in social situations. Mainly when I am filling out paperwork in front of people whil applying for a job. I get neck and head tremors. It's awful. I can't afford therapy but I need it. I didn't used to be like this. It happened to me I think after I had been through a ton of abuse and bullying.

Am 29 and this is still happening to me

its good to know im not alone. i never leave my house and i know i miss so much opportunities .

Nice one

I have social anxiety for 4 years and I don't know how to deal with it,it's pretty difficult to address this type of mental illness,it's just getting excruciating every single day if you didn't address it quickly.I suffered every single day and couldn't go out with friends and families,because I'm always having a hunch that maybe they don't like me.I feel like this will be interminable until my last breath,I hope someone would say to me"Come on let's fight these together"but how,I'm afraid to have a social interaction with other people i don't even have one friend to talk with,I'm just having an intrapersonal communication,and it's weird on the perspective of others,ahhhhh it's just so severe.....

i have severe social anxiety..i have to think deep and come up with good point to participate in conversation...n if i stutter..ohh man its like all focus is on me. I avoid walking to direction where there are known faces.