Stop Chasing Love And Relationships & Instead Do This!

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This is the #1 mistake people make when trying to find love and relationships... This video will show you how to fix it!
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Stop Chasing Love And Relationships & Instead Do This!
How to learn social skills and how to improve your social skills!
Stop chasing a specific person and instead do this! In this video, Julien Blanc (AKA Julien Himself) & Owen Cook (Owen Cook Free Tour & Owen Cook High Status Communication & Owen Cook Success & Owen Cook Motivation - Owen Cook Social Skills) reveal how to stop chasing people! Discover how to stop being needy and insecure... By doing so, you will instantly become more attractive by giving off an attractive vibe, and people will chase you!
Discover how to learn social skills and how to improve your social skills.
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@JulienHimself 2 жыл бұрын

Comment your top takeaway from this video here below! I personally read through EVERY SINGLE COMMENT!!! LAST CHANCE to get your copy of High Vibe Communication: www.highvibecommunication.com 👉 The doors close in 3 days!

@thegoldenlibrary 2 жыл бұрын

The grind. It feels like you show that more than anything else. Self love and the development of it.

@AxleBoost 2 жыл бұрын

Where was this and how do I go to one? In-person or virtual.

@ryandacosta2652 9 ай бұрын

“Accept yourself fully but still have the ambition to grow.” That hit me hard. I’m always trying to evolve but it’s turned into constant self criticism. Anxiety, low self esteem. I started to question why I even went down this road. That statement cut through everything.

@angeldip5797 8 ай бұрын

Perfect!

@patriciogonzalezguzman9506 2 жыл бұрын

"Don't pursue, attract" means you need to create value in yourself and exude value

@JulienHimself 2 жыл бұрын

YES! 🙌

@tylerscots1329 2 жыл бұрын

I've never pursued a girl in my life . All my ex gfs and I met in the most organic type of way .

@Nisowyd 2 жыл бұрын

You worded it perfectly.

@tylerscots1329 2 жыл бұрын

@@Nisowyd thanx. So there's a girl in the office I work at seems like she's getting impatient with me . Yesterday she's literally throwing her self at me without saying a word . Her gay friend even said a comment so I can hear " how can't he not know ur trying, he has to Kno " she literally sat next to me and did everything possible to grab my attention but I refuse to say hi or start a conversation. If she really wants to meet me it will happen naturally or she needs to start the conversation..

@skymonkey30 2 жыл бұрын

@@tylerscots1329 That’s great, just know that if you like her and want her, you will have to act sometime. Eventually, that will stop and someone else will have caught her attention. I know this because I actually made this mistake. Once she’s done trying. It’s over with.

@hermelahailu6921 8 ай бұрын

I think many people in these comments are missing the point. I believe what they are saying is to work on yourself first and be enough in your eyes. Then you still try to talk to someone but you are not coming from “the needy vibe” but from confidence. The main point is knowing you have value and are worthy to be wanted. And that's how you attract. They even explained it's not that you act like you don't want someone or ‘act cool’ it's about being okay with rejection too. I am a female but their advice can work for anyone. I find this to be much more valuable than other people's advice on how to be a certain way to attract someone. Because it focuses on the other person only but that's manipulative. And we can only better ourselves to become more authentic to who we are. Rather than shaping ourselves or molding ourselves to who others think we should be. Becoming fit, healthy, emotionally, and physically is accepted by everyone for being an attractive person. We are not only doing it for them though it's mainly for us. But at the end of the day not having confidence and not believing in yourself will still make you unattractive. And this is what I think they are saying here. It's about the vibe or energy you give out more than your physical attribute and this is for keeping a long-term relationship.

@benthompson7202 4 ай бұрын

Agreed. Something that’s helped me attract women is having a good vibe & humour. But yeas working on yourself & the being able to attract right person is the Goal 😁

@KalkiAvatarATWAR 2 жыл бұрын

Chasing only affirms to you, the other person and the Universe as a whole that you don't already have what you want. High Vibrational Communication is anything BUT woo-woo!

@JulienHimself 2 жыл бұрын

YES!! 🔥👊

@Rico401Prov 2 жыл бұрын

It’s okay to approach but it’s all in how you do it. You want to give off the impression that you are interested, but don’t need her and won’t care if you don’t get her

@NerdSnipingBatman 2 жыл бұрын

I understand what you mean but I hate it when someone says they don't "need" someone. What's more accurate is you're not so desperate to need just that specific person. But we do need relationships just as much as food water and shelter.

@skymonkey30 2 жыл бұрын

@@NerdSnipingBatman I “need” lots of poontang! I just want, everything else. 😎

@smokingcrab2290 6 ай бұрын

What if the person you want to attract is your own wife but she doesn't give a shit?

@davidsanegor4375 2 жыл бұрын

To everyone on here. This level of understanding of communication and social skills is the culmination of decades of experience and taking action as dating coaches. What these guys are providing now could never have got to this level without achieving mastery in the game. Life changers and life preservers, thank you Owen and Julien. You spawned an awakening to the stupidity of the digital age and social ineptitude

@JulienHimself 2 жыл бұрын

🙏🙏🙏

@jessebonanno1182 11 ай бұрын

Agreed

@Nisowyd 2 жыл бұрын

Just think about it, you can only “chase” something that’s running away. Two people can’t “chase” each other at the same time.

@JulienHimself 2 жыл бұрын

Exactly!

@smokingcrab2290 6 ай бұрын

Sure they can. In fact, that's how it should be. The best relationships are when two people prioritize each other the same.

@Dude-1689 2 жыл бұрын

"Become that person. It is possible" 👌👌👌

@Kezianobledatingexpert 2 жыл бұрын

One of the best videos I've seen on KZfaq.

@JulienHimself 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you! 🙏

@Johannesdidntwakeup 2 жыл бұрын

I’m a Italian P.U.A i what all courses of the Italy , read most manuals, guides but the chance my life not is Italian pua guru but the Americans and London’s pua. Is The best guru Americans pua and British , the Italian pua guru are nerds and scam...

@Johannesdidntwakeup 2 жыл бұрын

I love you , I love julien , Tyler , style , gambler , green c , greenway, crish sixty , David X , vin dicarlo , ecc..

@Johannesdidntwakeup 2 жыл бұрын

The Italians guru not like are cringe

@ConfidenceGold 2 жыл бұрын

for me prolly 50% of his videos is best

@dagyestudios4072 Жыл бұрын

I love how animate they both are, really drives the point home and makes you realise how silly we really are as humans, we focus on so much that does not matter. We will all get their one day ✨

@kazox770 Жыл бұрын

One of the takeaways for me from this video: Being and improving yourself is the real attraction. Attraction comes by (and grows with the value of) your inner-self and not by pursuing it. It is like a branch connected to a tree. The bigger the tree (=your inner self) the bigger the branch(es) are (=your attractions and connections that you make). Thank you!

@allegrapullen904 2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for contributing to the healing of the collective masculine, & for being real, raw, & direct!

@scumbagwoody1444 2 жыл бұрын

This is single-handedly the best YT vid I have ever seen it all makes sense now wow I'm speechless Thanks so much for everything you do to help us all Julien much love from New Zealand

@nmercenary 2 жыл бұрын

0:05 so true. Been doing this for years now. It’s incredible how many start chasing you. I just don’t have time for purposeless people.

@JulienHimself 2 жыл бұрын

Yep! 👌

@ibraheemelgallad9686 2 жыл бұрын

Your explanation of “Being” the person vs. “Having” or “Doing” was eye-opening! Key factors between becoming a Social Master vs a Social Scammer. So many amazing take-aways from this video!!! 💯

@JulienHimself 2 жыл бұрын

🔥🔥🔥

@xli6847 2 жыл бұрын

You know, it baffles me how much value you are putting out...It's incredible. There are more than 20, if not 30 gold nuggets in this that if you applied to your life, they would completely transform it. Just amazing. And it served as a mirror for me to see how far I have come in my own life, because I actually truly understood what you were talking about, even the little nuances. The way you presented it was top-notch as well, some hard to grasp concepts you have illustrated beautifully, to the point where I caught myself nodding all the time, it was just beautiful. Thank you for this, you don't know how much this impacted me just now. It basically reaffirmed my entire foundation and the fact that inner work is the kicker, always, in everything. Thank you!

@JulienHimself 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much! Glad this resonated! 🙏🙏

@xli6847 2 жыл бұрын

@@JulienHimself It certainly did! You're welcome! :D

@b.ready. Жыл бұрын

I watched one of your videos on toxic relatio ships last night l, realized I was staying and putting her needs above mine and I was so hurt and felt unloved but fear of loss and neediness kept me hanging on hoping she would get better and it just never did. I watched your video last night and left her today, on a mature level were I expressed I still love her but I'm starting to love myself and having expectations and respect in a relationship is something I won't settle for less then anymore thankyou!

@johndoe9881 8 ай бұрын

I'm so glad I've found this channel when I did. Been taking it all in and relearning bad habits that I've gotten into.

@wooof8575 2 жыл бұрын

I can definitely relate to a lot of things in there. I've been in a relationship where by all standards i had the most value (Better health, more money, more friends, she had some mental issue i don't..) but I was constantly searching for her validation, doing everything in my power to make her feel loved and cherished. Well turns out she got bored of me and decided to leave. In retrospective she lost a LOT MORE than me with this decision, but I was the one who got hurt. Turns out after dating some unemployed abusive pricks she regretted her decision and wanted me back (like 8-9 month after she had break up with me). Sadly for her I had moved on. And I'm truly sorry about how I acted because i deprived us both of something that could have been great. I'm glad i found this video, because now I see clearly what i did wrong so i can hopefully work on that and avoid a similar outcome in the futur.

@toshinronin 2 жыл бұрын

A lot of cap

@chugisan6847 2 жыл бұрын

@@toshinronin Are you his ex? 🤣

@thebird9766 Жыл бұрын

This just happened to me.

@thatdudewelove8498 7 ай бұрын

nice 👍

@jaredholland3563 2 жыл бұрын

O snap, the paradox of working towards a big goal and not being near reaching it yet does get in my head and affect my self esteem even though I am certain I will get there it messes with my head that I'm not where I want to be. thanks for the help 👌👍

@twoowoo534 11 ай бұрын

Tbh ive been in this state but falling from this just showed me hoew much ppl leach and suck from other ppls energy and thats just not a environment my higher self can or will accept. Just focus on whats inside of you. When you start to do things going against that force you lose it. Its that simple. Yall stay blessed folks

@danielabdelmalak3211 2 жыл бұрын

Ugh, so glad this came back on my feed. I never realized how many nuggets of wisdom were in these videos.

@JulienHimself 2 жыл бұрын

Welcome back to the channel! 🙏

@joshuastephenward5316 2 жыл бұрын

Maybe best social content I've ever seen in one video. Totally simplies everything I've found to be richly true in my own journey of self-discovery & social mastery. Your relationship to yourself is paramount to the "frame" of your life. But "frame" is a poor word. I prefer "window" because people can see into your life & heart in a way that is unique & intriguing. That is essentially attraction. It brings value by not lauding it over others but by understanding the necessity of embracing the depths of oneself to expressed itself in calibration to one's sincere appreciation for the miracle of one's life & the miracle of other's lives.

@JulienHimself 2 жыл бұрын

Glad this resonated with you so deeply! 🙏

@joshuastephenward5316 2 жыл бұрын

@@JulienHimself your content over the last few years has been truly remarkable & important. Was supposed to be w/ you guys in Miami but had to regrettably cancel my trip. Hope to see you guys soon!💪💪💪💪💪

@JulienHimself 2 жыл бұрын

@@joshuastephenward5316 🔥👊

@danielfleckenstein7107 Жыл бұрын

Owen and Julien, This stuff makes more and more sense and I feel less try hard as time goes on. Its great.

@littlewillowlinda 9 ай бұрын

Smothering with validation. I don’t think I’ve ever thought of it that way but I think I might have this problem in all relationship areas. Thanks for an eye opener

@nobreveren5264 2 жыл бұрын

You Changed My Life Jules, I'm Forever Grateful To You ❤️ I've Been Having So Much Fun With My Life And I'm More Passionate Than Ever.

@JulienHimself 2 жыл бұрын

AMAZING to hear!!! What was your favorite part of this video btw?

@nobreveren5264 2 жыл бұрын

@@JulienHimself 21:37 The Part About Collapsing My Criteria For Happiness And Simultaneously Working On My Goals And Passions, It's A Paradox That I've Wrestled With More Times Than I Can Count And I Still Wrestle With It To This Day. Meditation, Letting Go, Feeling Into My Body Has Been Helping Me A Lot Lately, So Just Being Aware Of That Part Within My Psyche Opened Up New Doorways Of Self-Acceptance And Emotional Expression.

@JulienHimself 2 жыл бұрын

@@nobreveren5264 Nice! Let me know if you'd like help with this: application.julienhimself.com/

@Jay-ef2ii Жыл бұрын

Beautiful message about one chasing his or her own excellence then the rest will come naturally. USA. 2022.

@SonictheNinja Жыл бұрын

I hate that I agree with everything here..Human interaction just takes sooooo many little microtransactions and so much mindgame psychological work that I just don't care. I want more friends but I don't want to have to be a celebrity or life of the party to draw them in. What does it take to just BE. To have people in life that mutually help and care for each other and just leave it at that.

@gretchenparker9719 Жыл бұрын

Agreed!!!

@smokingcrab2290 6 ай бұрын

I think you have to just think about your ultimate WHY. Your deepest purpose. If your intentions are good, just act on it. And whatever anyone else decides to respond with, don't get attached to it.

@nachoaramburu9465 2 жыл бұрын

Such a great video! Last minute was so powerful, thanks Julien 🙏

@lightenine3797 2 жыл бұрын

I am literally watching this video million times to take different angle perspective and knowledge of it into my life!!!!

@JulienHimself 2 жыл бұрын

Amazing! Glad to hear it's so helpful! 🙏

@OwenCookSelfHelp 2 жыл бұрын

Most important foundations -Owen

@JulienHimself 2 жыл бұрын

100%! Instead of chasing people, become the kind of person that people chase!

@extreme-cm8hb Жыл бұрын

This was exactly the slap across the head I needed! Stop chasing!!!!

@Chilln12 2 жыл бұрын

Work up the courage to fullfill your own needs. If you fullfill them, you will stop outsource responsibility for your own happiness. The "reach blackhole energy" inside your chest will shrink and so will your desperation for the need of a positive outcome. It unburdens the people around you. They can feel free around you which is attractive.

@smokingcrab2290 6 ай бұрын

You can't fulfill the need for sex, companionship, or emotional connection all by yourself. You need other people for that.

@pearlestrada7453 11 ай бұрын

Knowing that many people, despite appearances, are going through the same level playing field, not knowing how to put themselves out there is oddly comforting.

@rhys_warren 2 жыл бұрын

Wow this is powerful, I love the Buyer/Seller dynamic. Just having that in the back of your head when engaging with someone (making them the seller) could change the dynamic in new relationships. Thanks heaps for sharing!

@MigueTran 2 жыл бұрын

The energy you put out is what you get back. If you put out needy energy, you'll get that back. This does not mean you should not take action to improve yourself.

@JulienHimself 2 жыл бұрын

Action is definitely still needed... However it's about taking NON-NEEDY action! 👊

@saminuddin6853 2 жыл бұрын

not really. if you put out needy energy, you'd only be getting repelled further from the person you are wanting to connect

@nezkeys79 2 жыл бұрын

Not really. People being needy don't get neediness (probably not a word) back. Usually its a block on social media or being ignored. Both are the opposite of being needy

@MigueTran 2 жыл бұрын

@@nezkeys79 If you put out needy energy, you will definitely attract needy people in your life. The non-needy people wont stick around.

@nezkeys79 2 жыл бұрын

@@MigueTran nah. Everytime I've been "needy" with an Instagram model they didn't give me neediness back. They just blocked me lol

@renecruz2217 Жыл бұрын

I love it! Thank you sirs! 🙏🏻

@sniparag 9 ай бұрын

With all the education, we need this types of education too with teachers like them.. best ❤

@nachoaramburu9465 2 жыл бұрын

Such a great video! Last minute was so powerful, really appreciate it 🙏

@JulienHimself 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you! Glad you enjoyed it!

@watchvidz7162 2 жыл бұрын

I chase nothing, everything chases me

@clearance4274 Жыл бұрын

Love the examples combined with explanation 😍👍🏻

@brichardson1080 3 ай бұрын

from my own experience, i first had to remove all those negative thoughts i've always had about myself. once i did that, i forgave myself and started to love myself. my dependence on being with someone else quickly vanished and realized i was the only person i needed. i'm now on my journey to becoming who i should have been several 30 years ago.

@theinfinitevic9017 2 жыл бұрын

Excellent as usual, brothers. YEAH!

@JulienHimself 2 жыл бұрын

Thanks! What was your favorite part of the video?

@dopelaw5843 2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for the reupload Julien! It is always needed and will help a few in the world. -Law

@JulienHimself 2 жыл бұрын

First time upload on this channel! 😉

@mobinzomwenge8234 2 жыл бұрын

Be able to be a unit on your own

@thomas232 9 ай бұрын

The number one thing that was in my way was severe generalized anxiety that was not allowing me to be my full, genuine self around others. I took many months focusing on it, meditating, exercising, and really asking high level questions and between all that have lowered my anxiety probably by half i'd say. I can be genuine with strangers and feel confident to approach others and be me! Feels amazing, and the results have been overwhelmingly positive. Find what specifically is holding you back and attack it on many fronts. You'll become so polarizing people will be obsessed with your energy.

@bKontious_blackhoney 2 жыл бұрын

I am literally watching this for the about the 4th time. I don't know why I can't hone this in the moment. This never happens to me & it finally did this year. I cared soooooo much that I let go of my personality because I viewed this person as the only one who matters. But I am remembering that I matter. The clock is still ticking & I can't circle the drain & go with the spilled milk. I GOTTA stay above the BS where I can Breathe. Getting back to ME 😎

@wutsit2yuhhuh246 9 ай бұрын

Hope you're doing better

@1ColdFuture 2 жыл бұрын

------------0:30----4:31Make self laugh do for self. 7:46 20:17Have Options!!! 20:40What SUCCESS means to me??!!!!! 23:38

@MrFmramos 2 жыл бұрын

Love this Content 🔝🙌👏👏 Please explore more and explain more! Thank you very much. 🙏👍👌

@JulienHimself 2 жыл бұрын

Glad this resonates! We go WAY deeper on this in High Vibe Communication: www.highvibecommunication.com

@mandysnotsosmalltalk3623 9 ай бұрын

I really enjoyed listening to this. Thank you.

@Frusco1324 7 ай бұрын

This is Gold

@nektariosts1 2 жыл бұрын

Τhis has to be by far your best video ever. Half an hour of gems non stop. I'm downloading this for sure

@JulienHimself 2 жыл бұрын

Glad this resonated! What part spoke to you the most btw?

@nektariosts1 2 жыл бұрын

The point of 'don't pursuit, attract' being a frame rather than an excuse to stay in apathy really resonated. I can't even comprehend the power that comes from taking all the action in the world, creating opportunities but not needing any result to make you feel better at the first place, cause result dependence is something that I recognize has hurt and continuous to hurt a lot of my interactions. The TV example is a great totem-like reminder of the right state to be in while approaching ! And Owen jumped in perfectly there, you can tell RAS is probably one of his favorite words :D And then from the 20 minute mark onwards, man this was so relatable !! I have the awareness ability to recognize that my high ambitions and goals make me feel smaller and smaller the more I work for them, the more I think of them, the more I remind myself of my ideal self... and in a weird way my goals hurt my self esteem... - to the point of driving me to paralysis mode sometimes - while people I know who might be in a derp kinda state but are really in alignment with that, they don't care for their mind, their body, their career, their legacy that much... they have far greater results. And I do get the occasional satori moments where I can see that I operate in the wrong paradigm, that this is a never ending circle of attaching your value to the results of your work ( the having or doing paradigm as you beautifully explain ), but I do confess I still struggle to maintain a constant awareness of this concept. Thank you Julien, my life has really changed since I discovered you and Owen !

@nektariosts1 2 жыл бұрын

Oh, and a concept that I really resonate with and I think is implied here, is the 'borrow some abundance from your future" one... in the sense of if you actually have big goals and a legacy or purpose you care for, if you are doing your absolute best, if you are actually operating from the point of view of your ideal self, then you are "allowed" to bridge that gap of 'self esteem', because essentially there is no gap. If you are approaching life from the lense of your ideal self, then essentially you have become your ideal self in this moment, its just the physical manifestations ( money, possessions, perhaps fame and relationships etc that take time to manifest ) that's missing... So if you're doing all you can, you are already there from a 'being'' perspective, you just cannot see the having and doing in the now and you get caught up in that...

@michaeljuma007 Жыл бұрын

Cultivate avenues within you that turns your presence to an aura similar to what is there inthe ingredients of a type of cologne that immediately has everyone wanting to smell the scent even more

@lebleulebleu1274 2 жыл бұрын

Damn that's so good. I've been that guy all my life. Being the one with value, yet the vibe was of my buying. Never could figure it out why ??? Also the button pushing guy for reaction, with people in general and for generating attraction woth girls.

@Ms_3sam3 Жыл бұрын

Such a valuable video 🙏

@Maxmarts 10 ай бұрын

Great video!

@lejune5083 Жыл бұрын

Needed this one today thank you guys

@JulienHimself Жыл бұрын

You're welcome!

@QuantumMind88 2 жыл бұрын

Possibly. Although it is possible to be too attractive or too intimidating to other people and never have anyone come up to you because of this.

@stuvlog 2 жыл бұрын

Fucking epic video, chasing someone makes them run away, being on your purpose attracts people towards you. You guys are absolute diamonds

@JulienHimself 2 жыл бұрын

Glad this resonates! 🙏

@judokarl2757 2 жыл бұрын

Just had a similar exp. This vid came just in time!

@JulienHimself 2 жыл бұрын

Glad this resonated with you!

@devinsarro6879 2 жыл бұрын

I like this frame. Much better than being a needy weirdo. But an even better frame than being chill and just sitting back and attracting is assuming that you have higher value than the person you are meeting and acting with a level of entitlement that you would have as the higher value person. Just being chill and attracting will only get you so far with women and in life and general. You have to take the lead, dominate, and close. That goes for sales too. You can't overcome objectives by just "attracting". You have to have a dominant frame.

@JulienHimself 2 жыл бұрын

Agreed! Be sure to watch the video before commenting... Nowhere do we say to just be "chill and sit back" 😉

@smokingcrab2290 6 ай бұрын

Dominance only works with people who believe you have some form of leverage on them. They have to GIVE you control in order to be dominant. Which means you gotta give off the vibe you're trustworthy.

@Antrax909Chino 2 жыл бұрын

Love it. Pure gold. At least where I am in life

@JulienHimself 2 жыл бұрын

Great! 🙏

@Antrax909Chino 2 жыл бұрын

@@JulienHimself I’d love to meet you I know I could bring you son value

@Carl-io1ov 7 ай бұрын

Crackin content!

@dannymuzzi3906 2 жыл бұрын

In the area I’m from in the same county as Silicon Valley I would go into where billionaire types would hangout . A local venue and I’m a simple country boy who was real and brought fun, carefree, and passion and people were inviting me to their tables and buying me drink. I wore my boots and jeans. People would wear tuxedos to impress. Just On yourself. Let your realness shine.

@JulienHimself 2 жыл бұрын

Yes! 🙌

@dannymuzzi3906 2 жыл бұрын

@@JulienHimself it’s like julien can wear pajamas and own it. I’m a farmer so I’m like here’s me. Take it or leave it. I like the idea of just owning you. You don’t need the clothes to vibrate good energy. Just authenticity and fun, carefree and passion.

@surge8467 2 жыл бұрын

Thanks really needed this today

@JulienHimself 2 жыл бұрын

Glad this helped! What was your top takeaway from the video?

@surge8467 2 жыл бұрын

@@JulienHimself Don't pursue attract. Be the good vibe instead of looking for it in other people.

@JulienHimself 2 жыл бұрын

@@surge8467 Nice!

@marwanmohamed2500 Жыл бұрын

You are geniuses! God bless you!

@JulienHimself Жыл бұрын

Thank you! 🙏

@kat9nm 2 жыл бұрын

This is awesome ⚡️

@JulienHimself 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you!

@CharismaMastery 2 жыл бұрын

This is a very misunderstood concept, thanks for clarifying this one

@JulienHimself 2 жыл бұрын

🔥🔥🔥

@Babsmeme 2 жыл бұрын

Yeah I can't lie this was perfect I was chatting to my friend about this and I thought avoiding woman completely just didn't make sense

@koscarlynn 2 жыл бұрын

A memorable moment and VERY helpful tip from here was to BE the person who is in a state of BEING as opposed to DOING With that said I feel my life long journey has been trying to figure out what that flow of BEING feels like. It can be a bit confusing and discouraging because somedays I am VERY energetic and vibeeeyyy and pure happiness and then other days I’m not so much and am just leveled. I am having a tough time knowing who’s the true me or is it okay to wax and wain? It can be confusing for me esp when presenting myself in social situations like the ones you guys spoke of in the video🙃

@Qstyles18 2 жыл бұрын

Very good introspection. I sometimes feel the same

@MrRhinoBeatle 2 жыл бұрын

Forcing yourself to have the energy is not "being" its doing.

@katiejones1702 2 жыл бұрын

Yes same!! And the happy and vibey thing other people like more so I try to be that and it feels so inconsistent

@koscarlynn 2 жыл бұрын

@@katiejones1702 😭😭😭😭 I so relateeeee what has been working for you so far or makes you at eassssse???

@Versole 2 жыл бұрын

this is increadible content that goes way beyond what the title of the video is.

@JulienHimself 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you! Glad this resonates!! 🙏

@OGbornsinnerz 2 жыл бұрын

luv these speeches and juliens drip

@JulienHimself 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you!! 🙏

@SBecktacular Жыл бұрын

I think I use the tactics you teach people not to use to keep people at arms length. When they loose interest in me, it’s like “whew!- ok I’m off their radar” I’m really not attracted to anyone, And I wouldn’t necessarily be willing to do this much work or mental gymnastics if I was. 🥴 I have ample confidence and am a clean, level-headed, peace-loving person.. but I find interacting with people very draining. Bringing them into my world?- that is a very big thing and has to be decided wisely.

@user-pd4yp4iv7w 2 жыл бұрын

What a team, Yin and Yang perfect

@JulienHimself 2 жыл бұрын

🙏🙏🙏

@Kana-vv6iv 2 жыл бұрын

For me, texting people privately is a trap. I let them come to me through voice chat for a stream

@Lean_Us 2 жыл бұрын

Hey, you guys are good. My problem is that I need to invest in other people to feel good as the person who Iam, they leave me bc they think I have no value anymore. I fucked up many good friendships that way. Anyway those people improved in being there selves. I thought this through a couple of times and can not find a way keeping the friendship alive without "being the buyer" I don't like being the buyer. Most friendships die bc of me cutting the connection bc of me hating the development. I wish they would invest in me the same I do invest in them. Maybe you have a tip for me.

@ShoaibKhan-bz5qm 2 жыл бұрын

18:10 lmao Tyler with the buyer-seller dynamic

@tashinganyandoro6924 2 жыл бұрын

Chasing shows desperation

@Ephesianss429 2 жыл бұрын

What's the proper way in a conversation to respond when someone tells you a story? I will listen intently and then respond with questions and then tell a story that is similar or based on the same topic. But one person gives me the vibe that I'm into myself, when I tell them a similar story, it's not one upping at all. So I'm confused. I get the feeling I'm just not allowed to participate in the conversation and should just always be listening. They also seem almost disgusted if I feel comfortable in my own skin or confident. It's something I've struggled with for a long time I was quiet and timid. But I've grown a lot and they don't seem happy about it.

@MarvelousProductions 2 жыл бұрын

Pursue, don’t chase.

@MrResale 8 ай бұрын

brooo julian on MARS with the fit

@Justfun-xx6xe 11 ай бұрын

What I do is show some interes then walk away . If she comes back with a positive response ( by the way she is talking or acting ) I give another dose of attention to her .

@2morals 2 жыл бұрын

This is dope, i hope to meet you one day Julien

@JulienHimself 2 жыл бұрын

Glad this was helpful!! 🙏

@MidKing-HoK 2 жыл бұрын

LMFAO I love you Julien and I JUST found your channel last night. This man is in dark colored pajamas, orange socks, edit:not Jesus Sandles,but still slides, and a bright blue button up pajama looking shirt. The EPITOME of giving ZERO FUCKS 😂😂🤣 MUCH LOVE TO YOU AND WHAT YOU ARE DOING MAN!

@JulienHimself 2 жыл бұрын

Lol, welcome to the channel! 🙏

@Fverheijden Жыл бұрын

Brilliant thank you

@JulienHimself Жыл бұрын

You're very welcome!

@christinehallfeldt4280 2 ай бұрын

The first valuable relationship is with yourself 😊

@debbiesianturi2505 Жыл бұрын

Build a healthy relationship from begin. Not build capital in relationship. So many obsess women build capital in the first place because they dont care with relationship actually, but many men attracted with obsess women. Love yourself first before you love others.

@Cikirazbijac 2 жыл бұрын

The best right social skills 👏 bravo

@JulienHimself 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you!

@mithulbinny9551 2 жыл бұрын

Yesterday for the first time in my life I made out with a girl and it was not some thing which I tried to do it just happened and I have high wife communication I believe that affected the result of what happened yesterday thank you JulianEdit: I have a dream of having the relationship they have like in movies and I believe the high vibe communication will help me to that dream!Thx julienn!

@oliverhaar2168 10 ай бұрын

YESS ! That's it ! 💪

@Alberts_Stuff 2 жыл бұрын

Story checks out, cos now I fancy beardy guy 😍

@JulienHimself 2 жыл бұрын

Lol, glad this resonated!

@2legit178 2 жыл бұрын

@6:50 “Take it, eat it, you said it’s your favorite food. And am being myself! “ 😂😂😂

@JulienHimself 2 жыл бұрын

😂

@JoshHitti 2 жыл бұрын

Paralysis by analysis. Y’all need to simply talk to women like they’re humans instead of figuring out the best game scenario. This isn’t akin to a sales transaction, trying to draw parallels between the two is silly in my opinion. “Over-investing” and opportunity costs only matter if you’re clearly being friend zoned. Lasting relationships require a bit of faith. Be transparent about how you feel, it’s so much easier than y’all are making it.

@lightenine3797 2 жыл бұрын

Can i just click a button here which makes this video go to me freakin heart and mind forever, like man! Such a legit video 🌝🥺🌚

@JulienHimself 2 жыл бұрын

🙏🙏🙏